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Welcome to a brand new podcast.

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Hi, I'm Bob Kevoian and you may notice

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I have a new partner.

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I've had a lot of great partners in my life.

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One, my wife Becky.

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Two, of course, Tom, Tom Griswold.

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And now I've taken on a new partner who I did not choose.

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This partner snuck up on me.

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It's shocking is what it is.

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And I have to get rid of the guy.

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I don't care for him as my partner.

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I don't want him as my partner.

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So we'll do everything I can to eradicate my partner.

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My partner, his name is cancer.

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Boo.

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Boo.

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Boo.

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Boo.

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Boo cancer.

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Boo.

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Yes, I've been in a shock to me, my wife,

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and our family members.

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I was diagnosed with a stomach cancer just a few weeks ago.

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We're already getting things underway

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and I just figured it might be a wise idea

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to share the journey with you

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because I have no idea what's gonna happen.

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And it'd be interesting for those

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who possibly are diagnosed with cancer,

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who are afraid and don't know what to expect,

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this is what we're gonna try to share.

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Yeah.

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So joining me on the podcast, my lovely wife.

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Hi.

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Becky.

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And my best buddy, Whit Grayson.

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Hey, Bob.

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And Whit is a, he's somewhat of a cancer aficionado, sadly.

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Sadly.

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Because you had to go through a lot with your late wife.

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My wife Deb, right after we got together,

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she was diagnosed with breast cancer

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and was early, treated with radiation, chemo,

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and a lumpectomy.

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Which I didn't even know what that was.

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Right.

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And she did very well and lived for 10 years cancer-free.

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Very nice.

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And she was the three out of 100, sadly, that it recurred.

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That's too bad.

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When it recurs, it's not good.

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No.

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And, but we had almost seven more years after that.

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After that.

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Great doctors, some of the doctors you and I share.

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Right.

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Who helped diagnose early and give us a long run.

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Well, I hope I have the same thing, a good long run.

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I'll take 17 years.

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Oh my gosh.

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Well, if I can live 17 more years, you're not gonna like me.

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But anyway, so I, yeah, I'm familiar with some

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of what you're going through.

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Deb passed away in, or in 17.

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And, you know, we saw all the hospital rooms,

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all the treatment rooms, good and bad.

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Because they're great people that help you.

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Yes, we have found that out.

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We've had a number of wonderful and smiley people

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helping us through this crazy journey.

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We discovered this on my annual physical.

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My doctor sent me to have a chest x-ray,

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which I do every year.

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And this year, something popped up

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that we hadn't seen before.

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So, the doctor suggested I go get a PET scan

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to find out what it was.

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And once we went through the PET scan,

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it appeared bigger and larger in life than what they could see.

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They said it lit up.

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It didn't light up like a Christmas tree.

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And it could possibly be an ulcer,

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some kind of rupture in your stomach.

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And we're like, okay, that's probably what it is.

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So then a few days later,

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I had to go get an endoscopic ultrasound.

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And that's when they stuck a camera down my throat

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to take a look around, and they found the unwanted cancer.

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This was on Good Friday.

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It wasn't that good.

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No, surely was not.

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No, but we did find out on Good Friday.

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And by one o'clock on Good Friday,

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they had us into a cancer treatment center,

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meeting a team of physicians.

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They were incredible, fast.

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And how it was gonna work?

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Responsive.

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So you met that same day?

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I don't remember that.

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No, same day.

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He had the scope early in the morning.

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And of course, we're in complete shock.

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Oh, you can't hear.

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It's actually cancer?

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This is impossible.

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I thought it would be an ulcer or something.

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So now we are just devastated,

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just staring at each other, just with dropped jaws,

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wondering what the heck is gonna happen.

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And they called us about a half an hour

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after we got home from the devastating news,

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and we went to the cancer treatment center.

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Well, we were home with that shocking news.

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Bob's first response, which I will never forget.

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He wasn't angry.

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He wasn't afraid.

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He just said, I'm so disappointed.

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Well, it is disappointing.

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It was so disappointing.

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It's gonna ruin my summer.

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Well, we quit smoking so many years ago.

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And it's not a smoking related cancer.

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No, it's not.

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But you kind of think, well, you quit smoking,

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which you loved.

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Oh, it's the greatest thing ever.

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You honored the tradition of smoking.

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I did, oh yeah.

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You were a poster child for a while.

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I only watch movies and TV shows that feature smoking.

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But we just thought because we quit,

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we're immune now.

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That won't get us.

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Yeah, and it's something else.

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It is completely unrelated.

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When you receive that news, it's surreal.

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Yeah, it's real.

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Everything just seems not real.

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We were numb.

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You're numb.

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Yeah, completely numb.

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It's like, now what do we do?

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Now what do we do?

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And we had no idea what the process is.

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And we thought, okay, well,

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we've got to get our affairs in order,

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or we've got to tell everyone this is the grim news.

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And it turns out it wasn't that way.

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But at first, those first few minutes.

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Yeah, I mean, geez.

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That's what goes through your head.

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There's something inside me eating away.

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So we made all the arrangements,

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and they put us into a, I guess a learning program

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as to what we're gonna actually go through.

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We had a couple of very nice nurses

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explain each of the things we're gonna do.

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I have to do chemotherapy once a week for five weeks.

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And radiation every day, Monday through Friday,

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for five weeks.

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Well, and talk.

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And I had no idea what any of this stuff is.

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Nor did I.

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When I hear chemo, I picture laser beams and burning hair.

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I picture the guys in the hazmat suits.

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And you know, goggles and.

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It's science fiction.

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We think 50 sci-fi, don't we?

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And of course, I have no idea what it is.

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And they explained it to me.

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And it's like, oh, well, this is a lot different.

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And then I went into the radiation room.

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I was like, wow, this is kind of cool.

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And it's not, they're not shooting a laser beam

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and burning my skin.

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Well, you're getting ahead now.

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Because before you went in,

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you went in and got whatever you.

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Marked. Tattooed.

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You know, there's all kinds of stuff.

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He's getting way ahead here.

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You know, there's a lot of stuff

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going on in my head right now.

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I wanted to talk about our actual meeting

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at the MD Anderson Cancer Center, which is amazing.

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But our lead physician, can we say his name?

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Let's not use any names.

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So he used an illustration of going after terrorists.

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And as he described what the treatment would be for us

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as we went in, for Bob.

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And he likened it to fighting terrorists.

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And then when it's all said and done,

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we're gonna go after the sleeper cells.

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Which I thought was a really empowering way

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to talk about it.

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He was so encouraging that this is curable

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and this is just a rough road that Bob's gonna go down.

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But it's curable.

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Well now you're getting ahead.

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You ruined our cliffhanger.

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Next week podcast, with and Becky.

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Well we are wooty.

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And I also wanted to mention the radiologist

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and the words that he said that you won't ever forget.

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He said, this is a five week treatment.

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He said, before I even began the treatment,

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by three, a week three, you're gonna hate me.

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Yep.

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And I don't know, I don't know.

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I don't know what to expect.

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We'll find out.

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I hope I don't hate him that much

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because he needs to fix me.

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Well there's a good cliffhanger for the sponsors

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because you're going into week three.

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That's right.

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But this is not sponsored.

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No, we're kidding.

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No.

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So that weekend, I wanted to just talk about that weekend.

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The weekend after we found out.

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It was Easter weekend.

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So, and luckily the Masters was on.

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So I got to, I guess, pay attention to golf.

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Occupy our minds.

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And think about other things than.

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And it was actually fun.

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And Whit came over for a while and there were some laughs.

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Well and Becky called me Friday, good Friday night.

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And it was the end of the world.

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Well it sure seemed like it to us.

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I mean because she cried, I cried, I cried for you,

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I cried for her having to be the support system.

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And then I.

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I cried for Argentina.

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I always do.

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You used to smoke, while you were smoking

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I was crying for Argentina.

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Nobody out there's gonna even get that.

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That song is so old.

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Well it's gotta be a one, a beat up.

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Don't cry for me.

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But you know it brought my past back full force.

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And I think it was later that night that you called back.

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Is that right?

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And I talked to Bob.

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Maybe the next day.

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I think it was the next day.

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And you were fairly resolute, upbeat,

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we're gonna tackle this.

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Come over and watch the end of the Masters Sunday.

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We did with.

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We immediately, well one of the things our doctor said was,

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the lead doctor said, don't cancel your plans.

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Don't cancel your life.

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Live your life throughout this treatment period.

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He also said, do not look this up online.

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Oh yeah, he was clear.

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Do not go into these medical MD things and.

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Web MD.

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Try to figure out what's going on with you

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because it's not what you.

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Will not help.

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No, it's not gonna help at all.

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So I haven't looked at a thing.

279
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Nope, neither of us have.

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We've been great.

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I just trust my doctor.

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And if and when anyone's listening to this, down the road,

283
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the one thing I would say is if it happens to you

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or in your family, keep it private.

285
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Yeah.

286
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Yeah.

287
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Because you don't know answers yet.

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No, we don't.

289
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You're learning it as you go.

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That's the reason we're doing this podcast

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is to explain what happens to us every week.

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As you go along.

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As we go along.

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We have kept this very private until now.

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And we're gonna hopefully walk you through

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what actually happens in case something like this

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happens to you or a loved one.

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I think this is the antithesis of going online.

299
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This is something that you're actually going through it.

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It's not all bad.

301
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Right.

302
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You have great, the treatments anymore are incredible.

303
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Yes, they are.

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But the reason I mentioned keep it private is

305
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it makes people awkward.

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They don't know what to say to you.

307
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True.

308
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They want it.

309
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When people bring up cancer,

310
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a lot of people just shut their lips

311
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and don't wanna talk about it.

312
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Well, they're afraid to say the wrong thing.

313
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True.

314
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They wanna hover over you.

315
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They want to, in their minds, be a caregiver.

316
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You don't need a caregiver.

317
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No.

318
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You need to get through this.

319
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Right.

320
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And that's what we're gonna do.

321
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We kept it completely private from our,

322
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even, well, we told our very immediate family

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the next day, I think.

324
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Yeah.

325
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But we needed to kinda get our own heads around it first

326
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before we started talking about it.

327
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Plus, we really didn't know.

328
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We didn't even have the pathology back.

329
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I held out this tiny glimmer of hope.

330
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It's possible that it's not cancerous at all.

331
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And this was Easter weekend, so I'm like,

332
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ooh, maybe this'll be a Christmas,

333
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or an Easter miracle.

334
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And it won't be cancer.

335
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So we kinda held all that news back

336
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because we, Bob didn't.

337
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Bob was very realistic.

338
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No, you have to be.

339
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Yeah, I wasn't as realistic.

340
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I was kind of still hoping that that would not be the case,

341
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but it was the case.

342
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So we canceled our big Easter dinner.

343
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We were having the whole family over,

344
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just because the making of the lamb kebabs

345
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and all the stuff that Bob does.

346
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There's a lot of effort in it.

347
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And I was just kinda mentally drained

348
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after finding out the news on Friday.

349
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I just wanted to kick back and watch the Masters.

350
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And that's what we did.

351
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And that is what we did.

352
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And it was probably the best thing that I could've done.

353
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Well, and people assume you now have no sense of humor.

354
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Exactly, oh yeah.

355
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Which is just the opposite.

356
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Oh, I know.

357
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Right, you gotta laugh.

358
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We've had a few things that we'll share with you.

359
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As time goes on.

360
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As time goes on.

361
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Yeah.

362
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But the main purpose is to, I think,

363
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to educate myself, because I'm learning,

364
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and might as well pass it on to others

365
00:13:57,640 --> 00:13:59,520
who this could possibly happen to.

366
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Yeah, and not just that.

367
00:14:01,280 --> 00:14:03,720
You gotta remember, Bob forgets.

368
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There are millions of people who love Bob

369
00:14:07,240 --> 00:14:09,800
that would just want to know.

370
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They may not have any cancer in their family

371
00:14:11,880 --> 00:14:15,520
or their own life, but they still care so much for you,

372
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even though you're retired from the show.

373
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There are people who would just want to know what you've,

374
00:14:21,320 --> 00:14:22,960
well, by the time they hear this,

375
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what you have been through.

376
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And I think that's important.

377
00:14:28,120 --> 00:14:30,080
Because if you just hide it away,

378
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someday somebody's gonna go,

379
00:14:31,760 --> 00:14:33,680
did you know Bob Kvoian had cancer?

380
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And people will be like, I never heard that.

381
00:14:35,880 --> 00:14:36,720
Right.

382
00:14:36,720 --> 00:14:38,720
And that is actually one of the worries of telling.

383
00:14:38,720 --> 00:14:40,400
That was actually one of the things

384
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that people thought had happened to me when I retired.

385
00:14:43,920 --> 00:14:45,120
I remember that, I forgot.

386
00:14:45,120 --> 00:14:46,120
I didn't, I didn't.

387
00:14:46,120 --> 00:14:47,920
So a lot of people go, oh, did Bob retire

388
00:14:47,920 --> 00:14:49,120
because he has cancer?

389
00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:52,720
It was all over like Facebook, Bob and Tom pages.

390
00:14:52,720 --> 00:14:55,280
It was the massive continual fines.

391
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All the curse words.

392
00:15:00,800 --> 00:15:02,120
Yeah, that's true, they did.

393
00:15:02,120 --> 00:15:03,960
I forgot all about that.

394
00:15:03,960 --> 00:15:04,800
I guess I didn't remember that.

395
00:15:04,800 --> 00:15:05,880
People like to speculate.

396
00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:06,880
Yeah, everyone does.

397
00:15:06,880 --> 00:15:08,280
Well, there's no speculation here.

398
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This is what is happening.

399
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And we want to share it with you and hopefully educate you.

400
00:15:14,120 --> 00:15:14,960
Yeah.

401
00:15:15,880 --> 00:15:18,680
And make you laugh a little bit along the way.

402
00:15:18,680 --> 00:15:23,640
When you talked about radiation, that's quick, right?

403
00:15:23,640 --> 00:15:24,760
That's just, those treatments.

404
00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:27,800
Radiation, they said, from the moment you walk in

405
00:15:27,800 --> 00:15:29,840
to the moment you walk out, it's 15 minutes.

406
00:15:29,840 --> 00:15:32,600
Yeah, which is, I wouldn't have guessed.

407
00:15:32,600 --> 00:15:33,760
But when Deb. But it's every day.

408
00:15:33,760 --> 00:15:35,840
So you have to go to the hospital every day.

409
00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:37,680
Chemo's a different animal.

410
00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:38,840
Yes, that's once a week,

411
00:15:38,840 --> 00:15:41,840
but that is a three and a half to four hour decision.

412
00:15:43,320 --> 00:15:44,880
You sit there and, yeah.

413
00:15:44,880 --> 00:15:47,960
And I remember trying to make Deb laugh,

414
00:15:47,960 --> 00:15:49,320
making the nurses laugh.

415
00:15:49,320 --> 00:15:50,240
Right.

416
00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:51,240
Trying to be cheerful.

417
00:15:51,240 --> 00:15:52,080
Right.

418
00:15:52,080 --> 00:15:54,120
Because it's three hours, it's boring.

419
00:15:54,120 --> 00:15:55,800
Well, unless you're hanging out with me.

420
00:15:55,800 --> 00:15:56,800
But you know what I'm saying.

421
00:15:56,800 --> 00:15:57,760
I mean, there's nothing to do.

422
00:15:57,760 --> 00:15:59,000
You can't get up and walk around.

423
00:15:59,000 --> 00:15:59,840
No.

424
00:15:59,840 --> 00:16:00,680
Well, you can.

425
00:16:00,680 --> 00:16:02,200
I can walk around if I want.

426
00:16:02,200 --> 00:16:03,320
You can be one of those guys?

427
00:16:03,320 --> 00:16:04,160
Yeah, yeah.

428
00:16:04,160 --> 00:16:06,880
You know, that guy, he's got his own plumbing.

429
00:16:06,880 --> 00:16:11,040
Yeah, yeah.

430
00:16:11,040 --> 00:16:13,320
Well, I think what we'll do is,

431
00:16:13,320 --> 00:16:16,560
I guess, begin at week one.

432
00:16:16,560 --> 00:16:17,400
Yep.

433
00:16:17,400 --> 00:16:21,880
And share what happened to us on our very first week.

434
00:16:21,880 --> 00:16:26,040
And we will continue to do this each and every week

435
00:16:26,040 --> 00:16:27,560
as it happens.

436
00:16:27,560 --> 00:16:29,040
I hope people will tune in.

437
00:16:29,040 --> 00:16:29,960
I really do. They might.

438
00:16:29,960 --> 00:16:32,640
So this week, we're doing week one.

439
00:16:32,640 --> 00:16:36,280
And it's been an interesting week.

440
00:16:36,280 --> 00:16:40,000
It started on Monday with chemotherapy

441
00:16:40,000 --> 00:16:41,560
and my first radiation.

442
00:16:42,800 --> 00:16:45,440
Radiation is first, because it's so quick.

443
00:16:45,440 --> 00:16:48,920
Oh, you didn't tell about how you got mapped out.

444
00:16:48,920 --> 00:16:50,880
Which we were, this was new to me too.

445
00:16:50,880 --> 00:16:51,880
I didn't know.

446
00:16:51,880 --> 00:16:54,600
Yeah, I signed a waiver when they took me in

447
00:16:54,600 --> 00:16:58,120
to get the spot where they have to do the radiation.

448
00:16:58,120 --> 00:17:01,200
They take you through, do like a little scan,

449
00:17:01,200 --> 00:17:04,200
look at your body, then they mark it.

450
00:17:04,200 --> 00:17:07,040
In the old days, I don't know how old,

451
00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:09,440
but they used to tattoo a mark.

452
00:17:09,440 --> 00:17:10,600
Deb had a tattoo.

453
00:17:10,600 --> 00:17:11,600
Oh, did she, really?

454
00:17:11,600 --> 00:17:12,440
Yes.

455
00:17:12,440 --> 00:17:13,280
They do a tattoo on the mark.

456
00:17:13,280 --> 00:17:14,120
Yep.

457
00:17:14,120 --> 00:17:17,920
And now they have a, I guess, a permanent marker

458
00:17:17,920 --> 00:17:21,480
that they use and they have a little plastic cap

459
00:17:21,480 --> 00:17:23,680
that goes over it so it won't wash away.

460
00:17:23,680 --> 00:17:24,520
Oh, okay.

461
00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:27,960
And then once they get you dialed up,

462
00:17:27,960 --> 00:17:30,400
they take those things off and you lay on a table.

463
00:17:30,400 --> 00:17:32,120
You're on some kind of a thing,

464
00:17:32,120 --> 00:17:33,960
like where you lay your head, right?

465
00:17:33,960 --> 00:17:36,760
Yeah, they did a mold for my head and my arms,

466
00:17:36,760 --> 00:17:38,320
so I'm in the same position.

467
00:17:38,320 --> 00:17:39,160
Every time.

468
00:17:39,160 --> 00:17:41,200
Each and every time I go into radiation.

469
00:17:41,200 --> 00:17:42,480
Yeah, I just think that's interesting.

470
00:17:42,480 --> 00:17:45,200
We didn't know what this was gonna be.

471
00:17:45,200 --> 00:17:48,200
Nor did I, and I thought radiation, I stand up

472
00:17:48,200 --> 00:17:50,480
and I get hit from all sides with all kinds of

473
00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:55,240
weird waves and laser beams.

474
00:17:55,240 --> 00:17:57,840
Before treatment started, it was actually the,

475
00:17:57,840 --> 00:18:01,440
we had a week to deal with the knowledge

476
00:18:01,440 --> 00:18:04,720
and the fact that he was gonna start treatment

477
00:18:04,720 --> 00:18:06,960
on that following Monday, and we had a whole week

478
00:18:06,960 --> 00:18:09,520
to get ready, mentally prepared and stuff,

479
00:18:09,520 --> 00:18:12,160
and I had said early on, one evening,

480
00:18:12,160 --> 00:18:13,240
do you wanna get in the hot tub?

481
00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:15,800
It'd be very relaxing, it might take your mind off

482
00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:19,440
of things, and Bob's like, I do not want these marks

483
00:18:19,440 --> 00:18:20,600
to wash off.

484
00:18:20,600 --> 00:18:21,440
That's a good point.

485
00:18:21,440 --> 00:18:22,920
I wasn't sure. I didn't even think of it,

486
00:18:22,920 --> 00:18:24,800
and then it made me a little bit paranoid

487
00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:27,400
to touch those areas that he has a little spot,

488
00:18:27,400 --> 00:18:29,320
little X marks the spot, you know?

489
00:18:29,320 --> 00:18:30,840
Like, it didn't occur to me.

490
00:18:30,840 --> 00:18:34,200
We could have easily, if he wasn't smart, got hurt.

491
00:18:34,200 --> 00:18:36,080
I actually took a marker and added a couple of areas.

492
00:18:36,080 --> 00:18:38,080
I was going to say, well, I thought you were gonna

493
00:18:38,080 --> 00:18:39,840
say the opposite, if you'll notice,

494
00:18:39,840 --> 00:18:41,640
this area has not been marked.

495
00:18:41,640 --> 00:18:43,480
Oh!

496
00:18:43,480 --> 00:18:44,560
But, no.

497
00:18:44,560 --> 00:18:45,400
You digress, I do.

498
00:18:45,400 --> 00:18:49,600
But we did enjoy that week, as much as you can enjoy it,

499
00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:52,480
that week leading up, because Bob said to me,

500
00:18:52,480 --> 00:18:55,720
this week, pre-treatment, I wanna be.

501
00:18:55,720 --> 00:18:57,840
I'm acting as if I'm cancer-free,

502
00:18:57,840 --> 00:18:59,320
and I'm gonna do whatever I want.

503
00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:00,640
That's great. And he did, man.

504
00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:02,840
And I played four rounds of golf,

505
00:19:02,840 --> 00:19:05,640
and just got out there and did stuff.

506
00:19:05,640 --> 00:19:07,440
Oh, the other point you haven't made either

507
00:19:07,440 --> 00:19:09,520
is that you had no symptoms, so you felt great.

508
00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:10,760
Yeah, that's the other wild thing,

509
00:19:10,760 --> 00:19:12,120
is I wasn't sick.

510
00:19:12,120 --> 00:19:12,960
You still aren't sick.

511
00:19:12,960 --> 00:19:15,400
No, I still haven't felt anything.

512
00:19:15,400 --> 00:19:16,240
Yup.

513
00:19:16,240 --> 00:19:19,600
And it's just, it's baffling when they say,

514
00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:23,040
well, we're gonna heal you, although I didn't feel

515
00:19:23,040 --> 00:19:24,600
like I needed to be healed. Like you needed to be.

516
00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:25,520
Right.

517
00:19:25,520 --> 00:19:26,360
So we just lived the whole.

518
00:19:26,360 --> 00:19:28,120
That's the biggest shock of the whole thing.

519
00:19:28,120 --> 00:19:30,120
So was it during that first week

520
00:19:30,120 --> 00:19:33,240
that you called me with some better news,

521
00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:35,000
or was it prior to?

522
00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:39,000
Just that they said it is treatable.

523
00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:39,840
Cureable and all that.

524
00:19:39,840 --> 00:19:40,680
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

525
00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:42,120
We got that after, say, Monday, maybe.

526
00:19:42,120 --> 00:19:44,040
Yeah, we got that after we went and had our.

527
00:19:44,040 --> 00:19:44,880
Got a pathology.

528
00:19:44,880 --> 00:19:46,920
So you had started treatment when they told you that.

529
00:19:46,920 --> 00:19:47,760
Yes.

530
00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:50,600
So I am curable.

531
00:19:50,600 --> 00:19:53,200
Which is just, boy, that was the best news I've heard.

532
00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:54,360
That was great news.

533
00:19:54,360 --> 00:19:58,280
And we begin the treatments and radiation,

534
00:19:58,280 --> 00:20:01,120
and a four-hour chemo session.

535
00:20:02,240 --> 00:20:05,640
And it was surprisingly easy.

536
00:20:05,640 --> 00:20:08,240
Well, I spent that week while Bob was off golfing

537
00:20:08,240 --> 00:20:11,520
and goofing around and having his normal life,

538
00:20:12,680 --> 00:20:16,720
overbuying every item I could find that had protein.

539
00:20:16,720 --> 00:20:18,400
This is what the doctor said.

540
00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:22,040
The chemo and the radiation will

541
00:20:22,040 --> 00:20:23,760
take some of your weight away.

542
00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:26,000
Well, actually, the radiologist said,

543
00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:28,560
by the end, you'll be donating weight.

544
00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:30,040
So that scared me enough to say,

545
00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:31,840
we're bulking you up, big boy.

546
00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:35,240
So they said protein and calories is what I need.

547
00:20:35,240 --> 00:20:36,120
And fluids.

548
00:20:36,120 --> 00:20:37,240
And tons of fluids.

549
00:20:37,240 --> 00:20:38,400
Keep hydrated, right?

550
00:20:38,400 --> 00:20:39,240
Absolutely.

551
00:20:39,240 --> 00:20:40,560
Every minute of the day.

552
00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:43,240
And not many people know this.

553
00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:47,480
Well, they told me that caffeine drinks don't count.

554
00:20:47,480 --> 00:20:48,320
No.

555
00:20:48,320 --> 00:20:50,000
They actually take hydration away.

556
00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:50,840
Well, I was gonna say, not many people know

557
00:20:50,840 --> 00:20:52,320
that Bob doesn't like water.

558
00:20:52,320 --> 00:20:53,160
Exactly.

559
00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:53,980
I don't care for water.

560
00:20:53,980 --> 00:20:55,000
I'd never heard that in my life.

561
00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:55,840
Nope.

562
00:20:55,840 --> 00:20:57,000
It's a boring liquid.

563
00:20:57,000 --> 00:20:58,240
That's what he's always said.

564
00:20:58,240 --> 00:20:59,120
I don't like water.

565
00:20:59,120 --> 00:21:00,000
I don't like water.

566
00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:01,800
So ever since I've known him.

567
00:21:01,800 --> 00:21:03,880
Give me something carbonated with color.

568
00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:04,720
Or a beer or whiskey.

569
00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:07,440
Give me a whiskey with a little ice.

570
00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:08,280
Sure.

571
00:21:08,280 --> 00:21:09,120
That's what I prefer.

572
00:21:09,120 --> 00:21:11,880
So on a day to day basis throughout,

573
00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:13,080
ever since I've known Bob,

574
00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:16,320
it's coffee in the morning, open a Diet Pepsi.

575
00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:17,160
Or a Gatorade.

576
00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:18,000
Gatorade.

577
00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:20,240
He did drink Gatorade regularly, so that's good.

578
00:21:20,240 --> 00:21:21,080
That helps.

579
00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:23,480
And then he'd have another Diet Pepsi, whatever.

580
00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:27,600
But he would never drink water.

581
00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:29,280
Well that week leading up,

582
00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:33,480
as I was trying my best to make this guy a heavy honey,

583
00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:35,560
and I succeeded, let me say.

584
00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:40,000
He drank every ridiculous drink I could find

585
00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:41,240
that had protein in it.

586
00:21:41,240 --> 00:21:43,320
And we narrowed him down to what were his

587
00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:45,440
kind of tolerable ones and favorite ones.

588
00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:48,040
And then he tried some water.

589
00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:48,880
And now.

590
00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:49,780
Surprisingly.

591
00:21:49,780 --> 00:21:52,200
He's drinking water like a champ.

592
00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:53,040
I'm stunned.

593
00:21:53,040 --> 00:21:55,640
It's the easiest liquid to continue drinking.

594
00:21:55,640 --> 00:21:56,560
It is.

595
00:21:56,560 --> 00:21:58,840
You guys don't even know how shocking it is.

596
00:21:58,840 --> 00:21:59,920
It's just so amazing.

597
00:21:59,920 --> 00:22:01,160
I'm going through more water.

598
00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:03,880
In fact I pee in every hour.

599
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:05,240
This is ridiculous.

600
00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:06,080
It's great.

601
00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:06,920
Now it isn't.

602
00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:11,280
But anyhow, so I spent that week buying every cheese,

603
00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:14,800
meat, eggs, milk, whole milk, heavy cream,

604
00:22:14,800 --> 00:22:15,640
everything I could think of.

605
00:22:15,640 --> 00:22:16,480
Heavy on desserts.

606
00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:17,680
Snack items.

607
00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:20,840
Oh, we have an enormous basket of snack items now

608
00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:22,480
because Bob has to eat.

609
00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:24,040
And they told us to start this

610
00:22:24,040 --> 00:22:25,680
before the treatment even began.

611
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:28,600
It's like going to a candy counter at a movie theater.

612
00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:29,440
This is fantastic.

613
00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:30,480
Except they all have protein.

614
00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:34,160
But they said to begin this process

615
00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:37,480
of eating small meals throughout the day.

616
00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:39,520
No more breakfast, lunch, and supper.

617
00:22:39,520 --> 00:22:40,600
That's just not gonna happen.

618
00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:43,840
So we started and it's really worked.

619
00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:45,400
It didn't really change our lifestyle

620
00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:49,560
because we were never a big go out to dinner people.

621
00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:50,960
We're big on lunch.

622
00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:52,100
We were big on lunch.

623
00:22:52,100 --> 00:22:54,360
But now we're little on lunch.

624
00:22:54,360 --> 00:22:56,120
It's like you're preparing to be cast

625
00:22:56,120 --> 00:22:58,200
in a role as Fatty Arbuckle.

626
00:22:58,200 --> 00:22:59,040
For the most part right now, yes.

627
00:22:59,040 --> 00:22:59,880
Take a look at me.

628
00:22:59,880 --> 00:23:00,720
I'm doing it that way.

629
00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:01,560
Look at him.

630
00:23:01,560 --> 00:23:03,680
He's doing so great.

631
00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:05,320
No, I'm just saying you read about those actors

632
00:23:05,320 --> 00:23:08,080
that have three months to gain 40 pounds

633
00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:09,320
and I always envied them.

634
00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:10,520
Well I bought protein powder.

635
00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:12,640
There's a few of them that went that way

636
00:23:12,640 --> 00:23:14,560
and forgot to take it off.

637
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:16,040
Right, right.

638
00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:17,880
Not saying any words.

639
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:18,720
No.

640
00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:21,080
Kathleen Turner.

641
00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:23,600
Oh, excuse me.

642
00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:26,000
I had something in my throat there.

643
00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:28,600
Well I went online and shopped for protein powder

644
00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:31,480
and when you buy online and you don't have it

645
00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:33,900
in front of you to touch and see,

646
00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:37,200
it was impossible to judge the size

647
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:41,520
and I bought protein powder in what I thought five pounds.

648
00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:44,640
It's probably the size of a five pound bag of flour, right?

649
00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:45,820
It's powder.

650
00:23:45,820 --> 00:23:47,140
It's so enormous.

651
00:23:47,140 --> 00:23:50,680
I got vanilla and chocolate and I have no place to put them.

652
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:53,120
There is, I don't know, it's as big as a snare drum.

653
00:23:53,120 --> 00:23:55,000
We could draw bingo balls out of it.

654
00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:56,400
See, I was just gonna say.

655
00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:57,480
I know.

656
00:23:57,480 --> 00:23:59,800
So I did overreact.

657
00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:01,400
Huge tumbler.

658
00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:06,280
But I just wanted to do my very best to get him fed

659
00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:09,160
every two or three hours to have something interesting

660
00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:10,000
and delicious.

661
00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:11,240
Is the protein powder tasty?

662
00:24:11,240 --> 00:24:12,080
I mean, is it?

663
00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:13,240
Yeah, there's a vanilla and a chocolate.

664
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:14,520
So it's like a shake?

665
00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:15,360
Yeah, you add it to ice cream.

666
00:24:15,360 --> 00:24:18,080
Okay, but you mask it with other stuff like ice cream.

667
00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:18,900
Okay, all right.

668
00:24:18,900 --> 00:24:20,280
We have a lot of ice cream in our fridge,

669
00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:22,440
or freezer, you can't believe how much ice cream.

670
00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:23,280
That's not bad.

671
00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:24,100
And that's good.

672
00:24:24,100 --> 00:24:26,080
And it's an unusual cancer in that regard

673
00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:31,080
because it's going to affect his esophagus and stomach.

674
00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:34,800
He isn't going to want to eat at some point down the road,

675
00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:36,640
which I'm assuming by the time we get to.

676
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:38,180
I said as the radiation goes on,

677
00:24:38,180 --> 00:24:42,720
I'm gonna start swelling at the esophagus stomach junction

678
00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:43,560
there.

679
00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:45,480
Where they're gonna burn it with, you know, it's raised.

680
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:47,040
You're getting way ahead of the game.

681
00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:47,880
Okay, yeah.

682
00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:48,720
With what you're doing.

683
00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:49,560
We're feeding him now.

684
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:50,380
No, no, no, no, no, I mean feeding him.

685
00:24:50,380 --> 00:24:53,440
We get bulked up and then if the radiation

686
00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:54,920
starts taking it from me.

687
00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:56,400
He's gonna have milkshakes and cheesecakes.

688
00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:57,400
There's extra to take.

689
00:24:57,400 --> 00:24:58,240
Okay.

690
00:24:58,240 --> 00:24:59,080
Yeah, yeah.

691
00:24:59,080 --> 00:24:59,920
So, well.

692
00:24:59,920 --> 00:25:00,760
That's our plan.

693
00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:03,880
So that was our lead up to week one.

694
00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:05,480
And yeah, the week one we had the.

695
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:07,320
Have some fun and fatten up.

696
00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:10,060
Yes, and we talked to a couple of nurses

697
00:25:10,060 --> 00:25:12,060
about what to expect.

698
00:25:12,060 --> 00:25:14,760
They said it's possible I could lose my hair.

699
00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:15,720
Okay.

700
00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:19,400
It's possible I will not want to eat.

701
00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:21,760
There's many of these things.

702
00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:24,020
One thing that was interesting I thought

703
00:25:24,020 --> 00:25:28,720
was that after chemo, they said every time I use

704
00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:29,880
the restroom.

705
00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:30,720
Yes.

706
00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:33,240
To close the lid and flush twice.

707
00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:37,160
You know?

708
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:38,000
There's so many jokes you could say.

709
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:38,820
I know.

710
00:25:38,820 --> 00:25:40,280
But didn't they say that to you during your

711
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:42,000
physical every year, Bob?

712
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:44,440
I think that was more of a personal hygiene suggestion.

713
00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:45,280
I don't know what it is.

714
00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:46,720
I'm a sprayer.

715
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:47,560
I thought it was.

716
00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:50,800
I just thought it was so weird.

717
00:25:50,800 --> 00:25:53,200
Plus we have a house full of urinals.

718
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:54,040
Yes, you do.

719
00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:54,880
Bob built this house.

720
00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:56,880
We built it for him to have these fun urinals.

721
00:25:56,880 --> 00:25:58,000
There's no lids on those as you know.

722
00:25:58,000 --> 00:25:59,520
So he can't be using them right now.

723
00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:00,880
He can't use the urinals right now.

724
00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:04,040
And evidently that's to protect me.

725
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:05,160
That's what I'm told.

726
00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:09,360
Apparently radiation and poisonous stuff in my spray.

727
00:26:09,360 --> 00:26:10,600
I guess, I don't know.

728
00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:11,440
Holy cow, Bob.

729
00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:12,280
I know.

730
00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:13,120
It's kind of weird.

731
00:26:13,120 --> 00:26:14,800
You're like a superhero now.

732
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:16,360
And what's the other thing you have to be?

733
00:26:16,360 --> 00:26:17,280
Oh boy, here we go.

734
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:18,760
I heard this.

735
00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:21,280
Well, we asked if it's possible.

736
00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:24,400
I actually asked, which was a little embarrassing.

737
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:28,180
During this process to actually have intimate relations

738
00:26:28,180 --> 00:26:29,520
with each other.

739
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:31,400
Oh, hell yes, you're supercharged now.

740
00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:32,220
Of course I am.

741
00:26:32,220 --> 00:26:33,340
I mean, you know, they're loading me up

742
00:26:33,340 --> 00:26:34,400
with all these fluids.

743
00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:35,240
Look out.

744
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:40,440
But they said that I have to wear protection.

745
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:41,800
Okay.

746
00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:44,600
I said, well, like, is it gonna glow in the dark if I.

747
00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:47,040
He did actually say that.

748
00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:47,880
It could.

749
00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:48,700
He said.

750
00:26:48,700 --> 00:26:49,540
I don't know.

751
00:26:49,540 --> 00:26:50,380
He actually used those words.

752
00:26:50,380 --> 00:26:51,920
Am I gonna glow in the dark?

753
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:54,760
Which is valid, because that would be so cool.

754
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:55,760
I know.

755
00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:56,600
Oh, I know.

756
00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:58,240
That would be the best side effect.

757
00:26:58,240 --> 00:26:59,080
Oh, yeah.

758
00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:00,440
I'd have to take a picture if he did.

759
00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:01,800
Right.

760
00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:03,820
I don't even need a blue light.

761
00:27:03,820 --> 00:27:04,960
Yeah, turn all the lights up.

762
00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:05,800
There he goes.

763
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:06,880
There he is.

764
00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:07,720
He's headed that.

765
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:09,120
He's headed your way.

766
00:27:09,120 --> 00:27:10,680
Oh my God.

767
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:11,520
Look out.

768
00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:16,280
So, I was somewhat surprised by that news.

769
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:17,600
There's other things that I.

770
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:19,860
So what did you do with that news?

771
00:27:19,860 --> 00:27:24,240
Well, I decided to go buy some condoms.

772
00:27:25,740 --> 00:27:28,600
And you know, the last time I bought condoms,

773
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:30,760
I had to buy like, I don't know, maybe.

774
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:31,600
A comb.

775
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:33,080
Three pounds of snacks.

776
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:33,920
A comb.

777
00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:34,740
A comb.

778
00:27:34,740 --> 00:27:35,580
Maybe a battery.

779
00:27:35,580 --> 00:27:36,420
Some batteries.

780
00:27:36,420 --> 00:27:37,260
Aspirin.

781
00:27:37,260 --> 00:27:38,100
Yeah.

782
00:27:38,100 --> 00:27:38,940
Is that really a boy thing?

783
00:27:38,940 --> 00:27:39,780
Oh, yes.

784
00:27:39,780 --> 00:27:41,200
You see that in movies.

785
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:44,300
You load this big pile of items on the counter

786
00:27:44,300 --> 00:27:46,560
and all around it.

787
00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:48,440
You tuck your rubbers in.

788
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:51,760
You slide the rubbers in the middle of the pile.

789
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:53,840
And as they're going through the checkout,

790
00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:55,220
you know, they go fast.

791
00:27:55,220 --> 00:27:56,120
They check, check, check,

792
00:27:56,120 --> 00:27:58,520
and there's always a price check on these Trojas.

793
00:27:58,520 --> 00:27:59,640
Oh, right up front.

794
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:03,100
So it's not just in the movies.

795
00:28:03,100 --> 00:28:04,200
Because I've heard that in the movies.

796
00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:05,280
Oh no, you always.

797
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:07,920
No, it's in fact, there's probably,

798
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:09,160
now you can buy them on the counter.

799
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:11,040
You had to ask the pharmacist way back.

800
00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:11,880
Back in the day.

801
00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:12,720
Oh, that's embarrassing.

802
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:13,560
Oh boy.

803
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:15,720
Well, plus Bob, you were probably 13.

804
00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:17,960
Well, but I looked 18.

805
00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:18,800
With the mustache.

806
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:19,640
Yeah, yeah.

807
00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:22,480
So I actually had to buy condoms.

808
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:24,240
And I said, you know what?

809
00:28:24,240 --> 00:28:25,600
Hell, I'm 72 years old.

810
00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:27,800
I don't need to pretend I.

811
00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:28,840
You should be proud.

812
00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:29,680
I'm saying, look at this.

813
00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:30,720
I'm gonna go buy some condoms

814
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:31,920
and throw them on the counter.

815
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:32,760
Hell, yes.

816
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:33,960
They probably think you're with a woman

817
00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:35,680
who's of childbearing years.

818
00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:37,580
That's what I said is that the gal said,

819
00:28:37,580 --> 00:28:41,480
oh, Mr. Kavoy, I'm 70 years old buying condoms.

820
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:44,320
Third wife, 25 years old, nope.

821
00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:45,680
All I said is can you hurry it up?

822
00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:46,520
Cancer.

823
00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:48,520
Yeah.

824
00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:49,400
I said, can you hurry it up?

825
00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:50,240
She's in the parking lot.

826
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:51,080
Yeah.

827
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:51,920
Oh, great.

828
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:57,160
And by the way, I'm just gonna wear these home.

829
00:28:57,160 --> 00:29:02,160
Yeah, there you go.

830
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:05,000
So it was a couple of things I haven't done

831
00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:06,800
since I was a teenager.

832
00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:08,360
That's kind of crazy.

833
00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:09,400
It gave you some laughs.

834
00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:10,520
Yeah, it gave me a good laugh.

835
00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:12,680
Because now you can scan yourself.

836
00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:15,280
You wouldn't even have to scan yourself.

837
00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:17,760
You wouldn't even have to see the girl at the counter.

838
00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:18,600
Right, you could just.

839
00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:19,880
Well, he goes to the Walgreens.

840
00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:21,520
Where you go to the Walgreens,

841
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:23,040
there's no self-checkout.

842
00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:23,880
Plus, you know what?

843
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:27,120
At Walgreens and our CVS actually, they know us.

844
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:28,360
I mean, it's right around the corner.

845
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:31,360
And that's a little unnerving.

846
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:32,520
I just think they should,

847
00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:34,640
for the guy that's too chicken to buy them,

848
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:35,840
that's gonna scan them himself.

849
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:37,280
He'll go to Meyer or something.

850
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:40,080
Well, there should be a noise on the self-check thing.

851
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:41,480
Oh, if there's rubbers.

852
00:29:41,480 --> 00:29:42,800
Rubbers, rubbers, rubbers.

853
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:45,040
Kinda like when in a jackpot or something.

854
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:45,880
Little red light fence.

855
00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:46,920
I figured you would use that sound

856
00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:48,560
that you guys used to use on the show.

857
00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:49,400
Boop, boop.

858
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:52,440
Yeah, the old slide whistle.

859
00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:53,280
Yeah.

860
00:29:53,280 --> 00:29:54,120
Yeah.

861
00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:54,960
Well.

862
00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:58,680
And there's no sound effects with radiation or.

863
00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:01,360
No, it's a little disappointing, I betcha.

864
00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:03,360
You would think it would be the lab.

865
00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:04,200
There's nothing.

866
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:05,360
No, it's silence.

867
00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:06,200
Yes.

868
00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:08,120
There's a big machine that roves around me

869
00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:09,440
and I'll tell you about that.

870
00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:10,280
Okay.

871
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:11,640
In just a minute, we're gonna take a quick break

872
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:12,560
and get a drink.

873
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:13,400
Okay.

874
00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:14,480
He's gotta keep hydrated.

875
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:15,320
He's gotta be hydrated.

876
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:17,080
No, he's gotta go put the lid down.

877
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:20,040
We'll be right back.

878
00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:20,880
Okay.

879
00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:21,880
I'm sick of being sick.

880
00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:31,400
All right, this is the Bob and Cancer Show.

881
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:33,800
Hey, hey, hey, we hate my partner.

882
00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:36,840
We're gonna try to kill him.

883
00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:38,680
We're gonna talk about week one,

884
00:30:38,680 --> 00:30:42,480
our very, very first week at the Cancer Center.

885
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:44,400
Now, Bob just took a break

886
00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:46,360
and had a payday.

887
00:30:46,360 --> 00:30:49,480
Excellent source of protein for you that are wondering.

888
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:51,000
One of the top two candies of all time.

889
00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:53,760
You might wonder why our break was a little long.

890
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:56,120
It's hard to, you can't eat a payday quickly.

891
00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:56,960
No. Right.

892
00:30:56,960 --> 00:30:57,800
Nor would you want to.

893
00:30:57,800 --> 00:30:59,520
No, it gets stuck in your,

894
00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:02,600
but there's no better summer treat than a beer and a payday.

895
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:04,120
Oh, we learned that early on.

896
00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:06,280
Oh yeah, way back when.

897
00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:10,800
So we went to the Cancer Center on a Monday

898
00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:12,080
to get things started.

899
00:31:12,080 --> 00:31:15,400
First was radiation.

900
00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:19,920
15 minutes on a table when a machine moving around me.

901
00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:23,320
I don't know how it knows what it's supposed to be doing,

902
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:24,760
but it did it.

903
00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:25,880
Is it silent?

904
00:31:25,880 --> 00:31:27,200
It's, well it's a.

905
00:31:27,200 --> 00:31:28,160
Does it go.

906
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:30,000
You hear the machine moving around.

907
00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:31,400
But no, boop, boop, boop, boop.

908
00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:33,720
No, no, no.

909
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:34,560
Space aid.

910
00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:36,520
No, there's none of that.

911
00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:37,600
Darn it. No.

912
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:41,680
And it was 15 minutes as they promised.

913
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:46,680
And bam, we head upstairs to the treatment center

914
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:51,160
where I am to take my very first chemo treatment.

915
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:56,360
And pretty nervous, not knowing what to expect.

916
00:31:56,360 --> 00:32:01,360
They take us into a treatment room that has a recliner,

917
00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:06,280
a nice window with a view of a dumpster.

918
00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:07,120
Yep.

919
00:32:07,120 --> 00:32:08,960
It was hilarious.

920
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:09,800
Kind of weird.

921
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:12,840
And it was a freezing cold day with sideways wind.

922
00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:13,800
Oh yeah, it was very cold.

923
00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:16,120
It was nasty out, which so then you don't mind

924
00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:17,920
being inside at least.

925
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:20,120
But the dumpster view was questionable.

926
00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:20,960
Yep.

927
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:21,800
It is what it is.

928
00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:23,440
But as I recall, they have snacks.

929
00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:24,280
Oh yeah.

930
00:32:24,280 --> 00:32:25,560
Yeah, they encourage you to eat.

931
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:27,120
Well, you're there for three and a half hours.

932
00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:28,840
So they encourage you to bring food

933
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:30,280
or they'll get snacks for you.

934
00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:32,040
I brought a whole picnic basket.

935
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:32,880
We did have a picnic basket.

936
00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:35,280
I had all his fluids and I didn't realize

937
00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:37,840
they could get, you know, snacks there.

938
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:40,600
So I packed up everything possible to eat and drink.

939
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:42,600
Did you have a two wheeled truck for the powder?

940
00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:45,360
Yeah, for my protein powder.

941
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:46,200
Thanks.

942
00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:48,000
Had higher sherpas to bring it in.

943
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:53,000
And then when you get there, they make you very comfortable.

944
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:55,280
They draw my blood.

945
00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:57,200
Oh, can I say before you say that,

946
00:32:57,200 --> 00:32:59,880
that we got, we were in our own room

947
00:32:59,880 --> 00:33:02,400
and we kind of imagined, no.

948
00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:04,280
Yeah, you just can't hit the table.

949
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:05,120
Oh, sorry.

950
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:05,960
Yeah.

951
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:07,200
We're in our very own room.

952
00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:09,920
And I was imagining that it was more like this place

953
00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:12,480
I had gone once for an infusion.

954
00:33:12,480 --> 00:33:14,680
Like people are just lined up.

955
00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:17,880
Everybody's hooked up to tubes and IVs

956
00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:20,240
and you're looking at other people, but you're not.

957
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:21,480
No one's staring at us.

958
00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:23,480
We had our very own nice room.

959
00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:24,320
Yes.

960
00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:26,120
And that was part of the deal at the cancer center.

961
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:30,320
And they bring you in and they said, the routine is,

962
00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:33,160
they draw my blood and test it.

963
00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:37,680
So they send it to a lab, they read my blood,

964
00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:42,680
which determines the amount of chemo treatment

965
00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:44,080
I am to receive that day.

966
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:45,280
The lab is there.

967
00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:47,560
It's just across the hall, which is so nice.

968
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:48,680
Everything is right there.

969
00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:53,680
They take that and they mix my taxol or whatever it is.

970
00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:56,960
They mix it appropriate to my blood type.

971
00:33:56,960 --> 00:33:58,040
It'll be darn.

972
00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:01,160
And it's all done within an hour.

973
00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:06,160
Then they give me a pre-treatment infusion,

974
00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:12,400
which is Benadryl, steroids, and an anti-nausea.

975
00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:14,360
Anti-nausea, yes, I remember that.

976
00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:16,680
Because the chemo apparently does cause that.

977
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:18,200
And that takes about half an hour.

978
00:34:18,200 --> 00:34:19,760
It's about a half an hour infusion.

979
00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:24,760
And by the end of it, I'm kind of hyped up on steroids.

980
00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:28,880
After you get drowsy first from the Benadryl.

981
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:30,000
He took a little nap.

982
00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:31,400
Then you come right back up.

983
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:32,840
He laid back in that recliner

984
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:34,600
and I turned off the lights in the room.

985
00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:36,440
And it was nice.

986
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:38,920
It's like you lived Go Ask Alice in about 30 minutes.

987
00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:39,760
For the most, yes.

988
00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:40,760
Oh, that's funny.

989
00:34:42,280 --> 00:34:47,280
But after that, then about an hour later,

990
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:49,880
they bring in the first dose of chemo.

991
00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:51,160
The poison, yeah.

992
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:53,800
And I'm on that for an hour.

993
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:59,040
And then they check my vitals and stuff after that hour,

994
00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:01,080
make sure everything's okay.

995
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:05,000
And if I'm okay, then they bring in the next dose,

996
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:08,080
which is a, I forget the name of it.

997
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:08,920
I can look it up.

998
00:35:08,920 --> 00:35:10,640
I'm never very good with medical names.

999
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:11,560
No.

1000
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:13,120
I just, I can't remember them there.

1001
00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:14,280
Do you want me to pull the sheet out?

1002
00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:17,080
They should name medicines like Fred.

1003
00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:18,080
Yes.

1004
00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:19,200
You're getting the Fred drug.

1005
00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:21,040
I'm having Fred today.

1006
00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:23,120
It's just hard to remember the names.

1007
00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:29,120
So the second one is about a 45 minute dose.

1008
00:35:29,120 --> 00:35:30,160
He's eating the whole time.

1009
00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:31,000
Yeah. Good.

1010
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:32,000
And I can have snacks and stuff while this all going on.

1011
00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:33,880
He had a sandwich.

1012
00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:37,600
And once that's done, we've been there now three

1013
00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:41,920
and a half hours, and it's just pick up your stuff

1014
00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:42,760
and go home.

1015
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:43,600
That's cool.

1016
00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:45,080
Yeah, they just go, okay, we'll see you next week.

1017
00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:50,080
And then for the week, the medicine in my bloodstream

1018
00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:54,120
is fighting cancer all week long.

1019
00:35:54,120 --> 00:35:54,960
Yep.

1020
00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:55,800
So.

1021
00:35:55,800 --> 00:35:59,040
Oh, tell about when the nurse gave you the steroids.

1022
00:35:59,040 --> 00:35:59,880
What she said.

1023
00:35:59,880 --> 00:36:01,880
She said now that they inject the steroids

1024
00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:05,400
into the saline solution that's hooked up to my arm.

1025
00:36:05,400 --> 00:36:10,400
And the one that's a steroid has to be injected very slowly.

1026
00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:15,280
She said, if it's injected quickly,

1027
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:18,800
it can cause a burning sensation,

1028
00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:22,920
what they call ants in your pants in the crotch area.

1029
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:23,840
She wasn't kidding.

1030
00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:25,600
She wasn't kidding.

1031
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:30,600
And I said ants in your pants, like they're biting you?

1032
00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:36,120
And then she's like, she says, it's kind of like fire ants.

1033
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:36,960
Wow.

1034
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:39,680
And she said some nurses are not accustomed to this

1035
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:42,000
and they'll just put the injection in.

1036
00:36:42,000 --> 00:36:42,840
Push, done.

1037
00:36:42,840 --> 00:36:46,680
And when it goes in fast, it can burn your crotch area.

1038
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:47,520
Inside.

1039
00:36:47,520 --> 00:36:50,440
Ants to steroids when I was in Tijuana that one weekend.

1040
00:36:50,440 --> 00:36:55,440
So she did a very slowly, I never had that occur.

1041
00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:57,960
Okay, good, good.

1042
00:36:57,960 --> 00:36:59,960
And they also put a little fear in us

1043
00:36:59,960 --> 00:37:04,200
before he even started about an allergic reaction.

1044
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:05,040
Right.

1045
00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:08,840
That is like one in 10 people get an allergic reaction

1046
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:10,520
to the medicine that's gonna go into you.

1047
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:12,360
So they have to monitor him very closely

1048
00:37:12,360 --> 00:37:14,840
the first time and the second time.

1049
00:37:14,840 --> 00:37:16,760
After that, they know you're not allergic.

1050
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:20,400
But the first week, they come in every whatever,

1051
00:37:20,400 --> 00:37:23,440
15 minutes just to make sure he's not having a reaction.

1052
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:26,000
And they said when they told us about it,

1053
00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:30,120
that they keep, I guess it's like an EpiPen.

1054
00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:32,200
If they see that reaction, they're gonna poke it

1055
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:33,920
right into his thigh through his pants.

1056
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:34,920
Bring me back around.

1057
00:37:34,920 --> 00:37:37,280
And she said it's very scary if it happens.

1058
00:37:37,280 --> 00:37:38,360
But I did not have that reaction.

1059
00:37:38,360 --> 00:37:39,360
But he did not have it.

1060
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:40,800
But I just was gonna throw that out there

1061
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:43,840
for people who may not know that that is something.

1062
00:37:43,840 --> 00:37:45,000
I didn't know that was a possibility.

1063
00:37:45,000 --> 00:37:45,920
It's a possibility.

1064
00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:47,680
One in 10 seems kinda high.

1065
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:48,520
That is high.

1066
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:49,360
Yeah.

1067
00:37:49,360 --> 00:37:50,200
It is.

1068
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:52,760
But he got the meds and we left.

1069
00:37:52,760 --> 00:37:56,680
We left and then the week I had radiation,

1070
00:37:56,680 --> 00:37:59,920
Monday through Friday, every morning at the same time.

1071
00:37:59,920 --> 00:38:04,920
And by the end of the week on Friday, I had zero symptoms.

1072
00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:05,960
That's great.

1073
00:38:05,960 --> 00:38:08,640
Oh, but what did the steroids do to you that week?

1074
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:13,240
Well, the steroids, you know, I've had steroids before

1075
00:38:13,240 --> 00:38:16,320
when I've had like a pneumonia or something.

1076
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:19,320
And they'll give you that to help clear out

1077
00:38:19,320 --> 00:38:20,800
your airways and stuff.

1078
00:38:21,720 --> 00:38:24,840
And it makes me wanna paint the house.

1079
00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:26,200
You get hyper.

1080
00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:29,120
Yeah, it makes me wanna go out and build a barn.

1081
00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:29,960
Yes.

1082
00:38:29,960 --> 00:38:32,520
You're just hyped up and ready to go.

1083
00:38:32,520 --> 00:38:34,320
He was cleaning the putting green

1084
00:38:34,320 --> 00:38:36,440
and doing all kinds of stuff.

1085
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:39,280
I did the first week, I did all kinds of chores

1086
00:38:39,280 --> 00:38:40,120
around the house.

1087
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:41,280
He was cleaning gutters up on a ladder.

1088
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:42,120
I'm like, dude.

1089
00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:43,560
Hey, look at that guy.

1090
00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:44,880
He doesn't look like he has cancer.

1091
00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:45,720
No, no. Exactly.

1092
00:38:45,720 --> 00:38:46,560
Look at him going.

1093
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:47,560
You felt great.

1094
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:49,120
Yeah, and it was great.

1095
00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:52,760
And they said the steroids will last until about Thursday

1096
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:54,240
from Monday through Thursday,

1097
00:38:54,240 --> 00:38:56,320
and then they'll kind of disappear

1098
00:38:56,320 --> 00:38:59,000
and you'll probably feel a little less energetic.

1099
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:00,440
Just thinking. But he didn't.

1100
00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:02,960
You know, the wife of your next door neighbor is saying,

1101
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:05,840
look at Bob, why don't you get cancer, you lazy bastard?

1102
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:09,320
Look how busy he is around the place.

1103
00:39:09,320 --> 00:39:11,040
Look at him going, look at him going.

1104
00:39:11,040 --> 00:39:11,880
Go, go, go.

1105
00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:12,720
That's great.

1106
00:39:12,720 --> 00:39:13,560
You didn't feel bad at all.

1107
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:14,400
Not at all.

1108
00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:17,200
It was a very good feeling.

1109
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:20,680
I didn't feel as if I was sick or anything whatsoever.

1110
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:23,920
The first week was actually as smooth as could be

1111
00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:25,760
with no side effects whatsoever.

1112
00:39:25,760 --> 00:39:28,720
And you're sitting in the chemo chair.

1113
00:39:28,720 --> 00:39:29,920
I mean, it's a long time.

1114
00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:31,760
That's your first time.

1115
00:39:31,760 --> 00:39:32,960
Now this is real.

1116
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:34,560
Yes. It was real.

1117
00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:35,920
I took a picture of him.

1118
00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:38,480
That takes a, that's a big day.

1119
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:39,320
Yeah, it was big.

1120
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:40,720
It is, but. Because now you're confronting it.

1121
00:39:40,720 --> 00:39:45,720
But what we found is it, having a game plan made us resolute.

1122
00:39:46,040 --> 00:39:49,800
We are now doing what we need to do to get rid of this.

1123
00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:50,640
That's how it felt.

1124
00:39:50,640 --> 00:39:51,640
And that was comforting to us

1125
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:54,320
that we were being guided through this.

1126
00:39:54,320 --> 00:39:56,760
But after that first day,

1127
00:39:56,760 --> 00:40:00,960
I realized it was gonna be as horrific as I thought.

1128
00:40:00,960 --> 00:40:01,960
Right, yeah.

1129
00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:04,480
There are things that will happen down the road,

1130
00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:06,720
which we have yet to travel,

1131
00:40:06,720 --> 00:40:09,240
and we'll pass that along as it happens,

1132
00:40:09,240 --> 00:40:11,040
but I don't know what's gonna happen to me

1133
00:40:11,040 --> 00:40:12,480
in the next few weeks.

1134
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:13,440
Right.

1135
00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:14,960
That first week, we didn't know

1136
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:16,760
if it was gonna burn going in,

1137
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:18,320
if he was gonna feel that.

1138
00:40:18,320 --> 00:40:20,560
It's a pretty powerful drug,

1139
00:40:20,560 --> 00:40:22,880
both the combination going into him.

1140
00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:25,800
And he got out of it like a champ.

1141
00:40:27,360 --> 00:40:29,520
Again, it's a means to an end.

1142
00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:30,880
It is. And Becky, you and I

1143
00:40:30,880 --> 00:40:32,800
aren't the ones that have to go through it.

1144
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:33,640
I know.

1145
00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:34,800
But we're right there.

1146
00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:35,640
Yeah.

1147
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:37,320
And it's a team effort.

1148
00:40:37,320 --> 00:40:38,480
Yeah. It truly is.

1149
00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:43,200
But it really was a relief after that first treatment

1150
00:40:43,200 --> 00:40:45,800
that it wasn't gonna be horrific.

1151
00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:47,000
Mm-hmm. Right.

1152
00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:50,760
I just don't know what side effects will happen,

1153
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:52,400
and we'll share those as they happen.

1154
00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:54,640
The one thing I will share is

1155
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:59,200
when you announce to friends and family

1156
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,880
that you have cancer,

1157
00:41:02,880 --> 00:41:06,400
it's amazing how many of them know

1158
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:08,200
people who can get you pot.

1159
00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:09,040
Oh, oh.

1160
00:41:09,040 --> 00:41:11,000
Not what you thought.

1161
00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:12,640
You were gonna take me in the tear bucket.

1162
00:41:12,640 --> 00:41:14,440
Now we're high as a kite.

1163
00:41:14,440 --> 00:41:15,280
Now we're high as a kite.

1164
00:41:15,280 --> 00:41:16,120
Okay, wow.

1165
00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:16,960
It's incredible.

1166
00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:17,800
It's true.

1167
00:41:17,800 --> 00:41:19,840
How many people come out of the woodworks,

1168
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:24,840
you know, a lot of people do this to generate appetite.

1169
00:41:24,960 --> 00:41:27,480
A lot will do it to ease pain.

1170
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:28,440
Or help them sleep.

1171
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:29,760
Or help you sleep.

1172
00:41:29,760 --> 00:41:30,760
I was like, well.

1173
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:34,040
And you know, Bob's a little familiar from the 70s.

1174
00:41:34,040 --> 00:41:35,520
I used to dabble.

1175
00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:36,360
Did you dabble?

1176
00:41:36,360 --> 00:41:37,600
For 10 years.

1177
00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:38,440
Right.

1178
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:39,280
10?

1179
00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:40,880
Well, that was a good start.

1180
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:43,240
The 70s were kind of a blur,

1181
00:41:43,240 --> 00:41:45,600
and it was an enjoyable time of my life.

1182
00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:48,720
So he's familiar with how it would feel to use it,

1183
00:41:48,720 --> 00:41:53,440
you know, but not against this foe, you know.

1184
00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:58,440
And so I figured, well, I might as well dive in.

1185
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:01,480
Might as well.

1186
00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:03,840
Might as well see what happens.

1187
00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:04,880
So who knows?

1188
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:07,400
Has that taken the edge off a little?

1189
00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:08,640
We'll share.

1190
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:10,360
We'll share with you what happens.

1191
00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:11,200
Okay.

1192
00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:12,040
As it happens.

1193
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:13,300
As we progress to the other weeks.

1194
00:42:13,300 --> 00:42:15,560
But let me take you to the tear path.

1195
00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:16,400
The tear path?

1196
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:18,560
Is there a tear path in this week?

1197
00:42:18,560 --> 00:42:20,400
The reason I never got into pot.

1198
00:42:20,400 --> 00:42:21,240
Yeah.

1199
00:42:21,240 --> 00:42:24,000
I figured I would be the Sid Barrett of marijuana.

1200
00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:26,040
I would lose my mind.

1201
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:27,360
Never be the same again.

1202
00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:28,200
No, it's not.

1203
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:29,040
That won't happen.

1204
00:42:29,040 --> 00:42:29,880
Sorry.

1205
00:42:29,880 --> 00:42:32,080
It's a warm feeling.

1206
00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:36,160
It's like you're being hugged by a nun who really likes you.

1207
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:37,000
Wait.

1208
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:37,840
Wait, is this?

1209
00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:39,680
A Cinemax nun.

1210
00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:40,520
We're not a religious nun.

1211
00:42:40,520 --> 00:42:41,760
Hugged by a nun?

1212
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:42,600
A nun who likes you.

1213
00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:43,440
Yes, yes.

1214
00:42:43,440 --> 00:42:44,260
What?

1215
00:42:44,260 --> 00:42:45,100
Oh my God.

1216
00:42:45,100 --> 00:42:45,940
Sorry.

1217
00:42:45,940 --> 00:42:47,640
It's, I don't know.

1218
00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:49,560
It's fun.

1219
00:42:49,560 --> 00:42:51,280
It was fun when I was a young man.

1220
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:52,520
Well, we'll find out how it works.

1221
00:42:52,520 --> 00:42:53,720
I'll find out if it's fun again.

1222
00:42:53,720 --> 00:42:54,560
Okay.

1223
00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:55,380
Maybe.

1224
00:42:55,380 --> 00:42:57,240
Of course it's not legal in my area.

1225
00:42:57,240 --> 00:42:58,080
Correct.

1226
00:42:58,080 --> 00:43:00,120
But they don't know where we live.

1227
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:01,240
I made a mistake then.

1228
00:43:01,240 --> 00:43:03,960
I thought the gummies by the paydays were actual gummies.

1229
00:43:03,960 --> 00:43:04,800
No.

1230
00:43:04,800 --> 00:43:06,160
Careful.

1231
00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:08,040
Becky, you have three heads right now.

1232
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:08,880
Oh my God.

1233
00:43:08,880 --> 00:43:09,720
Oh gosh.

1234
00:43:09,720 --> 00:43:10,560
Okay, here we go.

1235
00:43:10,560 --> 00:43:14,240
Well, I just wanna say on the subject of the support

1236
00:43:14,240 --> 00:43:16,380
we have of our family and friends,

1237
00:43:16,380 --> 00:43:18,980
and that this is crucial when you,

1238
00:43:18,980 --> 00:43:21,360
if you're out there and you do receive a diagnosis

1239
00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:23,320
or someone in your family does,

1240
00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:27,400
but our family loves us and they're very nearby

1241
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:29,020
and we're all close.

1242
00:43:29,020 --> 00:43:31,360
This news came on the heels of losing

1243
00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:33,800
our beloved sister, Lynn, my sister,

1244
00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:35,320
Bob's sister-in-law.

1245
00:43:35,320 --> 00:43:36,280
And if you.

1246
00:43:36,280 --> 00:43:38,800
Just two weeks prior to our diagnosis.

1247
00:43:38,800 --> 00:43:40,840
Well, when we got the diagnosis,

1248
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:44,600
we were at Lynn's house having a memorial

1249
00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:47,280
and Bob was taking calls from the doctors.

1250
00:43:47,280 --> 00:43:49,720
So we're still getting, we were still at that time

1251
00:43:49,720 --> 00:43:52,640
getting cards, flowers, we got plants delivered.

1252
00:43:52,640 --> 00:43:56,940
After the diagnosis, I'm like, somebody sent us a plant?

1253
00:43:56,940 --> 00:43:59,160
Because, and they didn't know about Bob,

1254
00:43:59,160 --> 00:44:00,000
but I thought it was.

1255
00:44:00,000 --> 00:44:00,840
It was for Lynn.

1256
00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:01,660
Yep.

1257
00:44:01,660 --> 00:44:02,500
And the loss of Lynn.

1258
00:44:02,500 --> 00:44:04,520
And so it hit us in a time when we were already

1259
00:44:04,520 --> 00:44:08,800
so sorrowful, but in a strange way,

1260
00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:12,880
it helped me as the sister who lost a sister

1261
00:44:12,880 --> 00:44:16,120
to turn a corner and have a major focus

1262
00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:21,120
that I'll grieve Lynn down the road, most likely.

1263
00:44:21,120 --> 00:44:23,260
Because right now, I don't have time.

1264
00:44:23,260 --> 00:44:26,380
I had just made a joke to my brother Yale

1265
00:44:26,380 --> 00:44:31,120
and sister Susan that Becky is about to take to her bed

1266
00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:35,720
the old pioneer phrase for an old lady taking to her bed.

1267
00:44:35,720 --> 00:44:38,320
And this was after we lost Lynn,

1268
00:44:38,320 --> 00:44:40,680
before the diagnosis for Bob.

1269
00:44:40,680 --> 00:44:43,480
So we were already pretty crushed and it was like,

1270
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:45,280
boom, I'm not taking to my bed.

1271
00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:46,120
I got a job to do.

1272
00:44:46,120 --> 00:44:47,020
You're on point now.

1273
00:44:47,020 --> 00:44:48,720
Now we have a job.

1274
00:44:48,720 --> 00:44:49,560
Yeah, we do.

1275
00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:52,320
And I had told Bob my full-time job is feeding him

1276
00:44:52,320 --> 00:44:54,880
and keeping him hydrated and fat and happy.

1277
00:44:55,820 --> 00:45:00,280
But my other job is to try not to cry all the time.

1278
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:04,360
And I said to the nurses this week,

1279
00:45:04,360 --> 00:45:05,680
I haven't been crying.

1280
00:45:05,680 --> 00:45:06,520
I've been, and he's like.

1281
00:45:06,520 --> 00:45:08,920
Of course I said to the nurses, she's a liar.

1282
00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:09,760
She cried.

1283
00:45:09,760 --> 00:45:10,660
It is.

1284
00:45:10,660 --> 00:45:12,880
I'm a weepy person anyhow.

1285
00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:15,200
But your emotions are now just under the surface.

1286
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:16,040
Just right there.

1287
00:45:16,040 --> 00:45:17,960
And anything can trigger it.

1288
00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:22,960
So I wanted to share a few responses from our good friends

1289
00:45:23,120 --> 00:45:28,120
after we've only told a very few people right now.

1290
00:45:28,120 --> 00:45:31,480
Our family, of course, our siblings and our children,

1291
00:45:31,480 --> 00:45:33,760
but also a few close friends.

1292
00:45:33,760 --> 00:45:37,600
One of my friends who actually lost her husband to cancer

1293
00:45:37,600 --> 00:45:39,480
said when I told her, she said,

1294
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:42,560
when you want to hide, call me.

1295
00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:44,260
I'll sit in the closet with you.

1296
00:45:45,200 --> 00:45:46,640
Isn't that beautiful?

1297
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:48,160
And it's genuine.

1298
00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:51,160
And another friend when I told her,

1299
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:55,520
I said I don't want to add to your already full plate.

1300
00:45:55,520 --> 00:45:58,360
And she said, it's a big plate.

1301
00:45:59,240 --> 00:46:00,080
That's nice.

1302
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:00,900
I know.

1303
00:46:00,900 --> 00:46:02,200
People just love us, Bob.

1304
00:46:02,200 --> 00:46:04,160
Well, they love you.

1305
00:46:04,160 --> 00:46:08,480
My other friend said, the joy of your house

1306
00:46:08,480 --> 00:46:10,940
is gonna be one of the most potent medicines

1307
00:46:10,940 --> 00:46:13,440
to counter this moment of despair.

1308
00:46:13,440 --> 00:46:15,000
And we do have a joyful house.

1309
00:46:15,000 --> 00:46:15,840
Oh totally.

1310
00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:17,680
It's a house of laughter and fun and family.

1311
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:19,280
It is, and love and commitment.

1312
00:46:19,280 --> 00:46:22,920
And we are gonna make it because we have already

1313
00:46:22,920 --> 00:46:26,920
got this foundation of love and joy

1314
00:46:26,920 --> 00:46:28,680
and laughter and happiness too.

1315
00:46:28,680 --> 00:46:33,200
So, and then my friend Whit said,

1316
00:46:34,140 --> 00:46:39,140
I love you both more than my clumsy words can ever say.

1317
00:46:39,480 --> 00:46:42,320
He's a liar too.

1318
00:46:42,320 --> 00:46:45,480
But it's so true because clumsy words are.

1319
00:46:45,480 --> 00:46:46,320
You don't know what to say.

1320
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:47,160
You don't.

1321
00:46:47,160 --> 00:46:48,420
That is the one thing about cancer.

1322
00:46:48,420 --> 00:46:50,200
People do not know what to say.

1323
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:51,600
And there's no right answer.

1324
00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:52,420
No.

1325
00:46:52,420 --> 00:46:54,080
You don't wanna be too pat on the back,

1326
00:46:54,080 --> 00:46:55,960
oh my gosh, I'm so sorry for you.

1327
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:57,720
You don't wanna be a victim.

1328
00:46:57,720 --> 00:46:58,960
No, no.

1329
00:46:58,960 --> 00:47:01,300
Or a constant, be a patient to people.

1330
00:47:01,300 --> 00:47:04,800
You know, oh poor Bob, poor Becky.

1331
00:47:04,800 --> 00:47:06,360
And you don't want that.

1332
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:07,720
No, I really don't.

1333
00:47:07,720 --> 00:47:08,560
I don't care for that at all.

1334
00:47:08,560 --> 00:47:09,720
And we haven't had that.

1335
00:47:09,720 --> 00:47:10,560
We really haven't.

1336
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:12,840
And you also kinda don't want

1337
00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:15,360
the well-meaning cheerleader.

1338
00:47:16,240 --> 00:47:17,080
Yeah.

1339
00:47:17,080 --> 00:47:19,520
Unless of course she's topless.

1340
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:20,520
Well, yes.

1341
00:47:20,520 --> 00:47:21,360
Oh great.

1342
00:47:21,360 --> 00:47:25,360
Which has become my motivation for my treatments.

1343
00:47:28,880 --> 00:47:29,720
Really?

1344
00:47:29,720 --> 00:47:30,560
Yes.

1345
00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:31,400
Yes.

1346
00:47:31,400 --> 00:47:34,720
I've told my wife that I need motivation.

1347
00:47:34,720 --> 00:47:35,560
Yes.

1348
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:38,560
And she has volunteered to be the topless cheerleader

1349
00:47:38,560 --> 00:47:40,080
when I need it.

1350
00:47:40,080 --> 00:47:42,460
And then it's time to hide the glow stick.

1351
00:47:42,460 --> 00:47:44,120
Hide the glow stick.

1352
00:47:47,560 --> 00:47:48,400
That's pretty good.

1353
00:47:48,400 --> 00:47:50,720
Here it comes, you can see it.

1354
00:47:50,720 --> 00:47:51,560
Get back.

1355
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:54,400
Oh yeah.

1356
00:47:54,400 --> 00:47:55,600
Yeah, you're right.

1357
00:47:55,600 --> 00:47:56,840
It's awkward.

1358
00:47:56,840 --> 00:47:57,680
It is.

1359
00:47:57,680 --> 00:47:58,840
People do love you.

1360
00:47:58,840 --> 00:47:59,680
Yeah.

1361
00:47:59,680 --> 00:48:01,360
And because you have cancer,

1362
00:48:01,360 --> 00:48:03,200
you do not lose your sense of humor.

1363
00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:04,040
No, you don't at all.

1364
00:48:04,040 --> 00:48:04,880
You really don't.

1365
00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:05,720
No.

1366
00:48:05,720 --> 00:48:08,360
And you started to say you don't want the kind of platitudes

1367
00:48:08,360 --> 00:48:10,960
and we are not sloganeers.

1368
00:48:10,960 --> 00:48:13,720
Bob and I are not, you know,

1369
00:48:13,720 --> 00:48:16,200
I'm not gonna wear a big t-shirt that says

1370
00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:18,760
my husband has cancer, feel for me.

1371
00:48:18,760 --> 00:48:21,480
We're just not those people.

1372
00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:23,920
Beat my husband, he has cancer.

1373
00:48:23,920 --> 00:48:25,320
No, I mean beat cancer.

1374
00:48:25,320 --> 00:48:27,200
He's my husband.

1375
00:48:27,200 --> 00:48:28,040
You know what?

1376
00:48:28,040 --> 00:48:31,680
You need those shirts like they have out at the track.

1377
00:48:31,680 --> 00:48:33,080
Show us your tits.

1378
00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:35,720
Bob needs motivation.

1379
00:48:35,720 --> 00:48:37,360
Show him your.

1380
00:48:37,360 --> 00:48:38,180
Right.

1381
00:48:38,180 --> 00:48:39,880
Well, you said tits, why don't you say it again?

1382
00:48:39,880 --> 00:48:40,720
I shouldn't have.

1383
00:48:40,720 --> 00:48:41,540
I don't know why.

1384
00:48:41,540 --> 00:48:42,380
I'm sorry for the language.

1385
00:48:42,380 --> 00:48:43,840
I actually kind of turned on right now.

1386
00:48:43,840 --> 00:48:44,900
Stop it.

1387
00:48:44,900 --> 00:48:45,960
No, I shouldn't have said it.

1388
00:48:45,960 --> 00:48:46,800
Should we edit that out?

1389
00:48:46,800 --> 00:48:47,840
No, we're not gonna edit that.

1390
00:48:47,840 --> 00:48:50,080
I feel a severe cold coming on.

1391
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:51,800
I'm gonna put it on a reel

1392
00:48:51,800 --> 00:48:54,040
and turn it into my car horn.

1393
00:48:54,040 --> 00:48:55,440
I just think that would be.

1394
00:48:55,440 --> 00:49:00,440
But for a slogan, that's a good slogan.

1395
00:49:01,440 --> 00:49:02,280
That's the only one he would have.

1396
00:49:02,280 --> 00:49:03,760
That's a great slogan, right.

1397
00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:08,720
I even showed him my ta-tas or whatever

1398
00:49:08,720 --> 00:49:10,200
at chemotherapy in the chair.

1399
00:49:10,200 --> 00:49:11,200
Oh yeah, you can do that.

1400
00:49:11,200 --> 00:49:12,640
I just popped open the shirt.

1401
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:15,400
It's a private room and motivation.

1402
00:49:15,400 --> 00:49:16,240
That's what I need.

1403
00:49:16,240 --> 00:49:17,060
Right.

1404
00:49:17,060 --> 00:49:19,280
That's what the homeless guy at the dumpster got to show.

1405
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:20,120
He did.

1406
00:49:20,120 --> 00:49:22,440
He hung around for quite a while.

1407
00:49:22,440 --> 00:49:24,640
He really did.

1408
00:49:24,640 --> 00:49:25,480
That's an excellent one.

1409
00:49:25,480 --> 00:49:26,300
There you go.

1410
00:49:26,300 --> 00:49:27,280
That's a good callback.

1411
00:49:27,280 --> 00:49:31,000
Well, week one was surprisingly easy.

1412
00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:34,400
That's not what I expected at all.

1413
00:49:36,240 --> 00:49:41,240
Week two is as easy as this, hopefully, won't be so bad.

1414
00:49:43,480 --> 00:49:46,320
Well, I hope people will continue to tune in.

1415
00:49:46,320 --> 00:49:47,320
Well.

1416
00:49:47,320 --> 00:49:48,800
Because we don't know what's gonna happen.

1417
00:49:48,800 --> 00:49:49,640
We'll continue to share.

1418
00:49:49,640 --> 00:49:51,160
So every episode is a cliffhanger.

1419
00:49:51,160 --> 00:49:52,920
Do not know what will happen.

1420
00:49:52,920 --> 00:49:55,880
Will you be like, this is Bob.

1421
00:49:55,880 --> 00:50:00,200
Our plan is to do these at the end of each week

1422
00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:01,840
and let you know what happened.

1423
00:50:01,840 --> 00:50:04,960
Well, Bob said he wants to record them on Sunday

1424
00:50:04,960 --> 00:50:08,360
because if you do them on Friday or something,

1425
00:50:08,360 --> 00:50:10,840
something funny might happen over the weekend.

1426
00:50:10,840 --> 00:50:12,680
That's what he actually said.

1427
00:50:12,680 --> 00:50:14,000
Something funny might happen.

1428
00:50:14,000 --> 00:50:15,000
Well, you don't know.

1429
00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:15,840
Right.

1430
00:50:15,840 --> 00:50:17,800
Well, you just can't do it.

1431
00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:19,640
I mean, you have to go through the whole week in order to.

1432
00:50:19,640 --> 00:50:21,160
So tomorrow's a new week.

1433
00:50:21,160 --> 00:50:22,360
Tomorrow a new week begins.

1434
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:25,080
Obviously you have a lot on your mind now.

1435
00:50:25,080 --> 00:50:28,640
Do you think that had anything to do with what happened

1436
00:50:28,640 --> 00:50:31,720
when you had to jump in the shower for 20 minutes

1437
00:50:31,720 --> 00:50:32,560
the other day?

1438
00:50:32,560 --> 00:50:33,380
Oh, that's next week.

1439
00:50:33,380 --> 00:50:34,220
Next week, yeah.

1440
00:50:34,220 --> 00:50:35,840
Okay, there's our cliffhanger.

1441
00:50:35,840 --> 00:50:37,400
Oh, what happened to Bob?

1442
00:50:37,400 --> 00:50:38,280
Bum, bum, bum.

1443
00:50:38,280 --> 00:50:39,680
Bum, bum, bum, bum.

1444
00:50:39,680 --> 00:50:40,520
Yes, you do not lose.

1445
00:50:40,520 --> 00:50:41,880
Sorry, I thought that was week one.

1446
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:44,400
You do not lose your sense of humor

1447
00:50:44,400 --> 00:50:45,840
because you have cancer.

1448
00:50:45,840 --> 00:50:47,600
You'll find that out next week.

1449
00:50:47,600 --> 00:50:48,440
Okay.

1450
00:50:48,440 --> 00:50:51,320
All right, well I hope you enjoyed the Bob and Cancer Show.

1451
00:50:51,320 --> 00:50:52,640
I hate my partner.

1452
00:50:52,640 --> 00:50:53,480
Boo.

1453
00:50:53,480 --> 00:50:54,400
We're gonna kill him.

1454
00:50:54,400 --> 00:50:55,240
Yep.

1455
00:50:55,240 --> 00:50:56,060
Yes we are.

1456
00:50:56,060 --> 00:50:56,900
Stay tuned.

1457
00:50:56,900 --> 00:51:01,320
You've been listening to the Bob and Cancer Show.

1458
00:51:01,320 --> 00:51:02,720
Tune into our next episode

1459
00:51:02,720 --> 00:51:05,400
as we continue to follow Bob's journey.

1460
00:51:05,400 --> 00:51:07,960
Bob Gavoy appears courtesy of Trojan.

1461
00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:11,000
Trojan Rubbers, you're never too old.

1462
00:51:11,000 --> 00:51:16,000
This is Whit Grayson speaking.