Welcome, this is the Men Church Stuff Podcast.
This is the show where brothers -in -law DJ Culp
and Brad Coleman talk about stuff from our perspective
as men. It's a show for anyone who wants to hear
how Christians interact with the world. And don't
worry, we're real. We've grown up in church,
and we want to share our experiences with you.
We'll talk life stuff, church stuff, man stuff,
and stuff stuff. Here we go. Greetings, listeners
here and there and everywhere all across the
land. This is episode 100 of the Men Church Stuff
podcast. As always, here with my beloved brother
-in -law, Brad Coleman. Dude, Brad, episode 100.
Crazy. It seems like yesterday we were just talking
about doing a podcast and now we're hitting episode
100. No, man. 100 conversations between me and
you. DJ did not like my idea of dressing up as
if we were 100. No, I didn't. We had to do a
kindergarten. So we didn't. Yep. Now, people
can do that in kindergarten. I will let them.
I don't want to do it. I could have put some
baby powder in my beard. It would have been.
You don't need baby powder in your beard, dude.
I see enough gray. It's there. All right. So
let's do a little quick update here, Brad. And
rather than tagging out the end of the show,
listeners, we have an important update for you.
we now have an official website. It is, ready?
www .menchurchstuff .com How original, Brad.
I hope that you can remember it, guys. I know
it's tough. I know it's tough. You made it simple
so I could find it. That's exactly right. Yeah,
and I thought about adding a bunch of periods
like men .church .stuff. Nah. Nope, just mentoredstuff
.com. It's active. It's a live website. Obviously,
it is still under construction because there
are going to be things that Brad and I both will
add in the coming days. I mean, we got a homepage.
We have an About Us page with some photos of
Brad, Tabitha, and the kids and me and Sharon,
the kids, some bios. We've got pictures that
have absolutely nothing to do with either one
of us because I haven't gone through and updated
those yet. If you want to look at some random
pictures. Yeah, there's a very attractive yellow
background. Like, I appreciated the saturation
of the photo. There's a there's a contact us
page if you want to be on the show you can fill
out a short little form That will send that will
be sent to our email account There are yeah,
just just go navigate the page there's some there's
some cool stuff to look at but we are we are
official now we've got a website and I have never
designed a website in my life. So if you are
web designer and you would like some um very
free work then you can contact us if you would
like to get paid in nothing yeah right i mean
we'll give you shout outs in the show i'll be
happy to do that um how awesome this website
was made by this person over here right but as
it stands right now i am the web i am the web
designer no i am not looking for paid work i
have enough on my plate But if you are impressed
by it, I mean, feel free to let me know. I'm
always willing to accept praise for things that
I do. And if you're not, just let me know. Yeah,
right. Yeah, let Brad know. I'll break it to
DJ softly. Very softly. People think the website
is horrible. I mean, horrible. Sorry. I mean,
I don't think it's bad, you know? I think it's
good. I think it's good. I think it's good and
it's going to get better. Especially for a first
go. Yeah. You know? Hey, it would have been bad
if you had tried to make it www .men .church
.stuff. Because no one would have ever, I wouldn't
even be able to find us. I was like, are you
sure we got a website? Google has buried us so
far. The only way to find our website through
Google is if you just type in four question marks.
Then it would have pulled it up. So, listeners,
I mentioned to you guys a couple weeks ago that
Show 100 is going to be a special show. And it
is a special show. But I need to say this. I
asked my wife multiple times over to be on the
show. And what you need to know as a husband,
guys, if you're out there listening and you're
married, you do need to know when you need to
stop asking your wife things. And that was one
of the things. Your wife says, I would rather
go get root canals on all of my teeth than be
on your show. See, Brad, I appreciate that, you
know, the comedy in that. But it got to the point
where Shara actually said, you're just not going
to let this go, are you? That's when I was, okay,
I need to be done. So here's what we did. Rather
than having our wives on the show, this show
in commemorating our 100th episode. Brad and
I typed up a 10 -question questionnaire. I don't
know how to word that. Question sheet. Question
sheet. Brad and I typed up 10 questions for our
wives to answer. This is actually an episode
of Brad and I revealing to each other what our
wives said about our questions. So listeners,
sit back and enjoy. Brad and I are going to dive
into 10 questions about our show. This marks
two years and a month since our podcast has started.
Do what? It's our two -year -and -a -month -versary.
Two -year -and -a -month -versary. Yes. There's
a bunch of hyphens in that one. Must be a fancy
thing. I don't get it. Okay, so question number
one. How have you seen DJ and Brad grow together
since the beginning of the show? Brad, this is
what Cher says. Well, Tabitha said, And, like,
um... Shara and I were with the kids, and we
had just left watching a movie here in Milan.
And something came up, and I told Shara about
it, something that you and I had talked about.
And I looked at Shara, and I said, with a smile
on my face, one of the things I didn't realize
that was going to happen with the podcast is
that I was going to get another best friend out
of it. Yeah. I wasn't expecting that. And I don't
know why, but like, what's cool is, you know,
on my end, at least Brad, when you and Tabitha
got married, I was, and you and I have mentioned
this on the show before, but I was very excited
that you were entering our family because our
family. It was so cool. I mean, duh. Yeah. So
cool. But our family like welcomes with open
arms. Yeah. And I was super, super excited to
welcome you in as a brother. And over the years,
that brother relationship has certainly deepened.
But dude, I just wasn't expecting me and you
to grow so close doing the show. Yeah. Well,
and again, we're an odd couple, but I think it
works. Yeah, we are. Absolutely an odd couple.
yeah it's a counterbalance i think that's what
makes again and like i told you just a few minutes
ago i because we haven't uh done this in over
a week but like i've missed this and we've been
in contact it's not like we were just like not
talking at all or not having any communication
but we weren't here talking uh you know kind
of face to face over the zoom and yeah I've missed
that. Yeah, I have too. And I've missed, again,
just even having the outlet of why the show even
began of just knowing that I've got a thought
or I've got a question or I've got something
that I want to mull over and I want to talk to
Brad about it. And I know for the next 45 to
50, 55 minutes, whatever, about an hour, I'm
going to have an opportunity to spend some time.
with my brother and dig into whatever the thought
is. And I love that you are so open to diving
into that stuff too. You know, like it means
a ton that you're not one that, you know, either
is just a yes man or is out to... answer every
every single question right and one of the things
that that i really appreciate is is there's been
i think at least once for each of us where we've
come together to get ready and record the show
and we've something's been on our mind or heart
something bugging us and and we've just spent
that time and just just kind of talked it through
and hey we'll record the show later And we just
spent that time. And I appreciate that we have
that. And I think there's a lot of guys out there
that probably don't have that. They don't have
someone. I feel blessed to have you. I feel blessed
that I have at least a handful of guys that I
know I could call and just say, hey, I just need
to get this off my chest. I just need to do that.
And I think it's important. to have that too.
So, and, and to be that. And to be that. Yeah.
Yeah. Do you want to take a question too? Yeah.
So question two was, have you seen a change in
your husband since the beginning of the show?
And if so, how? So Tabby said, I think Brad has
become more confident and comfortable sharing
his opinions. Sometimes he holds back due to
his conscientiousness. But DJ balances that.
Yes, I do. I'd have to 100 % agree with that
entire statement. Yeah, absolutely. You have
got me to talk about topics on a podcast that
I would have. Not in one -to -one conversation,
but on a podcast being sent out in the airwaves
would have avoided like the plague had it not
been for you. Right. But also, she's right. I
think in doing that and not dying, I realized,
you know, okay, we can do this sometimes. Yeah.
Yes. Speech is safe. I mean, it can be it can
be hurtful. But but to me, dude, that's that's
always been that's always been a part of my persona
ever since I can remember. Like, I need to talk
things out. And I had to learn, obviously, but
I had to learn how to talk things out without
insulting people or giving without I had to talk
things out and give them opportunity to participate.
I remember in middle school and high school,
I was really bad about that, that I would just
I would just talk and talk. And here's my opinion
and here's your opinion. That's right. Yeah.
I am my mother's son. Right. Here we go. My share
is share is answer to that. Have you seen a change
in your husband? And if so, how DJ has enjoyed
spending more time with Brad, having their in
-depth conversations and ridiculous conversations.
So... So... I am probably more subtle than that.
Like if I'm meeting with some guy and like a
ministry kind of thing for coffee, at some point,
it's probably going to work into the conversation.
Probably more often than not, I'll carry one
of our mugs, you know, that has my face on it.
This one's not as like, you know, sometimes people
will be like, is that your face? But the yellow
one that I have that has like, you know, basically
our logo, like full color, you and my face, people
will still be like, do you have a mug with your
picture on it? That's awesome. And it really
opens the conversation. Well, yeah, let me. And,
you know, we have the homeschool network that
meets at the church. And so, you know, again,
I'm not as like. comfortable as maybe you are
in some of those things. So again, I get the
job done just differently. I was like, I will
usually use one of those cups, you know? And
so, Oh yeah, I do a podcast. And a couple of
people have been like, Oh, let me look it up.
Oh, I'm going to share this with my husband or
whether they ever did. And whether their husband
is if, Hey, if you're in the homeschool network
and your wife shared this podcast with you and
you're still around, Hey, we're glad to have
you. Yeah, absolutely. Um, yeah, I'm, I don't
do it all the time. Um, but I'll, I'll say it's
almost like I kind of, I kind of, I, I, uh, I
test the spirit. Like, like I really want to,
I really want to mention this to this person.
And I won't say verbatim in my heart, God, should
I? But I'll just be like, is this one of these
moments where I probably need to say something?
And if that's the case, then I'll say, so just
out of curiosity, do you listen to podcasts?
And if they say no, I'll be like, okay, cool,
never mind. Well, and so I had coffee with John
Reeder, who obviously listens to the podcast.
Shout out to John. What's up, man? John was going
to preach, and he actually preached at church
on Father's Day. It came up in the conversation
that I've kind of been hesitant to even just
sharing it with the church because I don't want
it to be like self -promotion and all of that
stuff. So John worked with Tabby and Emily in
making the slides and had a slide put up at the
end. It took a couple minutes to be, hey, like,
I don't know if you guys know this, but our pastor
does a podcast. Dude, that's awesome. Here's
the information. So, yeah, so you can say your
shout out thanks to John. Yes. There for that.
Yeah, shout out to John again, man. Thanks. I
don't want to do the next question. Well, I'm
going to tell you, I just read it because Tabby
had gave me the answers to all the others that
she was doing them. But she had left this one
blank, and now I'm reading it for the first time.
Oh, man. So I just read it, and I'm like, oh,
yeah, this is fun. So listeners, we'll do this.
There is another question, and they have answers.
Moving on. Yeah. Okay, the question is, what
is something embarrassing about your husband
that you would like the listeners to know? And
my wife said nothing. My wife said DJ doesn't
have any embarrassing moments in his history.
I married the perfect man. We are men of action.
Lies do not become us. That's true. Okay. Dang
it. I'm just like, I don't know what yours is.
And I'm like, yours is going to be worse than
mine. And then mine's like, oh, yeah. It is.
No problem. DJ was a part. Of a group of guys
in college who performed lip sync Backstreet
Boys songs with choreographed moves, and we called
ourselves the Front Street Boys. I did not know
this. Are there videos? No, see, Brad, that's
not another question. It's only is there an embarrassing
moment. That's it, Brad. Don't worry. I am an
investigative journalist at heart. It's out there.
I will find it. Yes, there is. And Shara even...
Did you send the link? Wait, wait. Did she send
the link in the email? I didn't even look at
it because we weren't... Shara has a dedicated
DVD. Oh, yes. Which will be on sale later in
the... At the Venture Podcast Store. We're going
to sell out. We're going to sell out. We're going
to sell out. Hey, I think we've just funded the
podcast forever. That's right. Exclusive. Exclusive.
Okay, Brad. Enough about me. Yeah. Well, something
embarrassing about your husband that you would
like the listeners to know. Brad smells his hands
after he touches anything, all caps, like anything.
In everything. I'm not nervous about you, Brad.
Well, you know. It's like Robert from Ray doing
the Dutch's gin while he eats. I've learned to
be a lot more subtle about my nuances and will
resist in certain situations. But yes, when I'm
at home. I do know what a lot of things smell
like. Just like, you know, like transmission
fluid versus... You realize that now, like every
podcast, that's what I'm going to be looking
for. On your end, all I'm going to hear is...
Because I'm just waiting for Brad to smell his
hands. Well, most of the time, it's like if there
was something on it that I might have picked
up on my hands. and it really comes from like
when i was like a kid and then some of my sensory
stuff and then some of my like germophobia so
it was like i would smell okay did i get that
on my hand yeah but it would drive me nuts if
i have a bad smell on my hand even though like
it's down here it's down here like my brain is
like no i can't handle it i know and then i like
i gotta get coffee grounds Are good for getting
some smells off of your hands. So, yes, actually,
I did. I did. This was several years ago, but
I was I got I got to be curious about about getting
a new cologne. And so I think we were in like
we were in a Macy's, maybe upscale department
store if it wasn't Macy's. But they actually
had little jars of coffee beans. So that, like,
you know, you get the testers, you spray it,
you wave it, let the alcohol kind of go away.
And then once you smelled it, they've got this
coffee beans for you to smell the coffee beans,
kind of cleanse that palate so that the smells
don't kind of overlap and you don't really know
which smell is which. So coffee is awesome. Coffee
is amazing. It has so many different uses to
it. So, you know, later on on the website. We'll
have a nice list of things that Brad likes to
smell and things that Brad does not like to smell.
I'll just differentiate for you. These are good.
We can do a good smell, bad smell. And honestly,
I'm the kind of person that there's not a whole
lot in between. There's not a whole lot of like,
this is, there's a few, but most stuff it's.
Okay, so Brad, Brad, I'm going to put you on
the spot. Is there something that you love to
eat because it tastes great but smells terrible?
Shrimp. You don't like the smell of shrimp. Not
like the… I didn't know that. Fishy, oily, yeah.
Yeah. I mean, you probably haven't smelled your
fingers after you've ate shrimp. Oh, well, I
mean, I cook with shrimp often. So, yeah, I mean,
it's a super, super… It's a different fishy,
you know. And again, like, fish would probably
be in that, like, too. Like, I don't particularly
care for the fish scent. I like to catch fish.
Yeah. I like to eat fish. Right. But, yeah. The
in -between. That's probably the biggest one,
like, seafood or fish seafood kind of in general.
Like, I'm not so fond of the, like, now the aroma
of them. Like if they're cooking, it's a little
different than like the oils, the fish oil. I
don't like fish oil on my fingers. I don't like
the way it smells. All right, Brad, number four,
go. What have your thoughts and feelings been
about the show? Were you on board with the idea
of the show? So I'm not going to do this justice
in any way. Former fashion, because I just I
don't have the emotional palette that my wife
does. So you guys will just have to imagine this
being said in a very excited manner. I freaking
love the show. It's legitimately as if I'm sitting
in the room with the two of you when I listen.
Yeah. Does Tabitha listen to the show? So she
is not the I'm going to catch every episode and
not miss it. yeah she does listen there's times
when we'll we'll listen together especially if
we're on like a a road trip or something and
she'll she'll just put on the podcast and she'll
sometimes she'll scroll through and look for
one that looks interesting to her that's fun
that's cool yeah so so you gotta keep up on those
titles dj that's right okay yeah shara shara
doesn't and it's not because she doesn't like
our podcast she she never got on the podcast
train like ever she hates her she hates our podcast
yeah actually her answer says this show's stupid
i hate both no like yeah anytime that she has
listened to the show she does like it but again
it's it's not it's not the way that she that
she learns um it's not the way that she that
she processes you know it's it's just podcasting
is not something that shara really connects with
so but here's what she here's what shara has
to say at first and this is true dude at first
i was not sure how long the show would last due
to dj's habit of going all in hard and fast on
a new idea because what like and i'll i'll finish
the idea uh that she's driving at Anytime that
there's something brand new in my life, what
I typically do is I go hard and fast. I'm all
in. And then I get tired of it. I get sick of
it. I run out of ideas or something like that.
And to be honest, dude, just kind of like thinking
off the top of my head right now, I think part
of the reason that the show has continued like
is because. I know that you're relying on me
to be on my end of the bargain. I'm glad to help.
I'm glad to be of assistance. I'm good with that
one. Yes, you are. I've been made for that role.
Well, here's what she continues. I could see
how much both DJ and Brad were enjoying the podcast
and the excitement and momentum just kept increasing.
I was supportive of his idea at first and still
am now. I don't think Shara freaking loves the
show, but she loves that it's a part of my life,
that it's another outlet for me. So I am going
to take the opportunity, Brad, and speak for
her on this part. Be careful. This is being recorded.
I know. I know. I know. And feel free to repeat
this. Right. And I am the one receiving it. Yeah,
right. Yeah. Hey, Sharon, just tune in. 12 .34
seconds. 12 minutes. So I think one of the reasons.
that shara does love that we're still doing the
podcast i think she loves seeing in a very bittersweet
way she loves seeing you and me interact even
though we're not siblings but but you and i interact
as brothers in a way that it was taken from her
right um um and and i think i think that And
I'm not going to go into detail, but when when
Adam first died, I didn't even want to call Tabitha.
Yeah, I needed to. I had to. I had to call my
sister, but I didn't want to because I didn't
want under any circumstance to to, you know,
to bring bring about envy, you know, on Cher's
part that I could call my sibling and she couldn't.
And so. Obviously, those those days have have
have gone. But but I do. I think that there's
an element of you and me doing this that brings
her peace and brings her, you know, a very certain
sense of joy through that. As long as we do it
and we don't have her on the show. That's right.
Yes. Yeah. Yeah. If seriously, it would be it
would be. the one of the worst experiences of
our lives if we had her on the show and i quote
no joke and i quote she finished this up last
night and i quote i couldn't i there's no way
i'd be i would have been able to do that in real
time just answering questions like this because
she she is like she's just so self -conscious
you know i mean and it's okay like Some people
have, have the fear of not being able to, not
being able to, to, to think on, think on their
feet. And again, she's a processor. She needs
to sit down. She's got to have time to really
mull things over. So, so I don't know about you,
but, but question number five, it's not a very,
not a very detailed answer here, but question
five listeners, we thought, I thought, you know
what? Let's ask this. I'm curious to know what
Cher has to say. Has the show or its influence
impacted our marriage in any way? And Cher says
this, opportunities have opened to talk about
various topics that DJ and Brad had discussed
on the show. And that's true. So Tabby said,
I think it's helped us in our journey to better
communicate, especially for insecurities. It's
a good starting point for a lot of good conversations.
Yeah. Yeah. There, there have been moments where
you and I will have had a topic that we've talked
about or shoot man, just something that you would
have just something you, you would have dropped
almost, almost like casually that I'll go back
and I'll be like, you know, Brad said this, I'm
curious. So like, what's, what has, have you
ever had that happen? What's been your experience?
That kind of thing. Yeah. So it has not been,
it has been at least positive and not detrimental.
So. Yeah. Yeah. That's good. I take that as a
win answer. Oh, absolutely. It's a win. All right,
Brad, you're up to bat. All right. The question
number six, what cartoon duo? Wait, did I skip
one? Nope. No. Okay. What cartoon duo would you
describe DJ and Brad as on the show? I'm interested
to see what Tabitha has to say. She took, she,
again, I was sitting there watching and she was
like. Thinking and typing like and looking and
doing all this kind of she took a lot of time
on on on this question. And then she smiles.
Her answer is pinky in the brain. I'll let you
dot dot dot dot. I'll let you decide who is who.
I mean, I think that we know who is who. I take
a little offense to it. I mean, one is a genius,
the other is insane. Although, DJ, you do need
to know that my theory on the show is that the
brain is actually the insane one and Pinky is
actually the genius. You think he's the genius?
Well, for one, he foils the brain's attempts
to take over the world. He does. Almost every
episode. And there's been a few episodes where
he's kind of let out these really intelligent,
genius side of him. So just to muddy the water
a little. Yeah, right. OK, so I'm going to say
that there's a that at least a portion of Cher's
answer has like is directly related to. The stage
of life that our children are in right now, because
out of nowhere, they started binge watching every
single day. This this series of movies. I am
Buzz Lightyear and you are Woody. Like like DJ
and Brad, they are best friends. Enjoy each other's
company, loyal and determined to make a difference.
And very, very different. Very different. In
every other aspect. Apparently, I live a life
of delusion. Right. That's right. I'm trying
to bring you down to earth. You're a toy, DJ.
You're a toy. You can't fly. That's not flying.
It's falling with style. That's right. You're
a sad, sad man. And you have my pity. Farewell.
Somebody poisoned the water hole. It was a good
question. Okay. Dude. Brad, I love Shara's answer
to this. Question number seven. This is Brad's
question, actually. If the show becomes famous
and DJ and Brad have lots of money. I love the
hypothetical here, the ridiculousness. What is
the stupidest thing that they would each spend
money on? Now, I need to say this. This is stupid
according to Cher's definition. Right, right.
I would agree. I would agree with that cinema
after looking at what my wife did. Her answer
is, this is not stupid. Are you serious? This
is the greatest answer she could have ever come
up with for me. DJ, coffee from every country
in the world. That's not stupid. I'm not drinking
it, DJ. I'm not drinking the coffee that comes
out. I am in. I am so in on this. That comes
through the digestive system of a little rodent.
I'm out on that one. Dude, if I've got that much.
All the rest, I will try it with you. At least
once. Yes, in my head. As long as you don't tell
me what it is. If I know that I'm actually eating.
That? Or I'm drinking that? Yeah, like, no. ABD
coffee? Yeah. Already been digested? Or ABP,
already been pooped. Exactly. Yeah. This will
clean you out. It works for the mongoose. That's
right. Yeah, or maybe there's something bad about
it. Like, dude, it didn't make it through that
thing's digestive tract. Why do you think it
didn't make it through yours? And you know what
I'm afraid of? I'm afraid it would be as good
as they claim it would be. I know, I know. And
then I would just want to drink it. All right,
so for me, coffee from every country in the world,
and for you, all the gear available to catch
monster catfish. That's right. And a trip. To
fish for the whales catfish in Europe. In Europe.
Yeah. I have seen pictures of those things and
it's, I mean, scary. It's like a flathead catfish
with a back of a tadpole. Yeah, it's exactly
right. And they get like nine feet long and like
hundreds of pounds. It's the one where I've said,
I want to catch one. And when it gets to the
surface, I want to look and be like. I don't
need to go like to Nineveh or somewhere, right?
That's right. Get yourself right with God before
you catch this thing. So my wife said, for me,
Star Wars Lego sets and fishing stuff. Which
is a little bit of a simplification. But I accuse
your sister a lot. of oversimplifying things
is it i know i over complicate things so when
she does oversimplify so when she does it you
still are critical of it like so when you say
star wars lego sets Right. I mean, like the,
you know, I've got the Millennium Falcon and
the AT -AT, the big like $800 job would look
really nice on that other shelf across the room.
That'd be a good start. But she's not, you know,
she's not wrong. And yeah, and fish and stuff.
I think Shara kind of just opened up what Tabby
was. was uh was trying to get their fishing stuff
yeah right like because i guess to that to that
point if you do say all the gear available to
catch monster catfish well what about all the
gear available to catch catfish, right? I mean,
because if we had lots and lots of money and
you wanted to spend it on what she claims is
stupid stuff, I don't see you limiting your fishing
to monsters. I mean... What is this in your...
What do you got here in the backyard, Brad? Oh,
I'm raising shad. I'm raising shad. I'm going
to make them super big. I found a way to... Dude,
wouldn't it be awesome... To have a coffee room.
Probably not in your Shad Shack. No. Shad Shack.
No, no, no. Shad Shack? Those two smells don't
go together. B -52 should have sang about that.
All right. Dude, I cannot wait to hear. Yeah,
you're up. Am I up? Am I up already? If DJ and
Brad both told you to sit down and shut up, how
would you respond? Now, I will say that I think
this answer that she gave is not true. It's watered
down. Because I think if we were to both say
that, that the podcast would be over. And you
guys would all be welcome to our joint funeral.
No, Tabitha wouldn't kill me because it's nothing
for me to tell her to sit down and shut up. Okay,
well, you'd have a new guest host. Okay, that's
fair. She said you would both get the teacher
slash mom look, and I would most likely yell
at you both. Honestly, neither of you are. And
in all caps, that stupid. I love it. Well, I
want you to know that. I'm interested to see
what your wife is going to say. Because, like,
I do not know the answer to this. I would not.
And she's a Kentucky country girl. As we recently
learned, yes. So, like, I got a little more wisdom
in me than that. So, this is actually true. I
mean, top to bottom. I was like, I've never yelled
at your wife to shut up and sit down. Just for
the record, everyone. Or my wife. Well, it doesn't
say yelled sit down and shut up. Just if we told
them to sit down and shut up. Cher says, I would
be stunned at first and probably speechless.
Then I would shoot them a look that could kill
and say with attitude, excuse me, that would
be all. Because after that, they would be begging
for forgiveness. I would sit down and shut up.
Sheryl looked at me like that. I would sit down
and shut up and probably apologize like profusely
in the process. Like I'm going to shut up now,
but I just want you to know that I will never
do that again. And I'm sorry, man. My bad. My
bad. He made me do it. He made me do it. Yeah.
And I think, like, I love that question because
it really does put things in an odd perspective
because Tabitha and I being brother and sister,
I can tell that to her all day long and it not
faze me. But seeing, like, thinking about what
would Cher do if even Brad told her to sit down
and shut up? I don't, yeah, Brad, uh -uh. Don't
dude. No, I mean, just don't, just don't. Right.
Like, listen, the only way that that happens,
the only way that happens is if Jesus looks me
down the eye and says, you need to tell your
wife this. And then I'm like, are you sure? Are
you sure? Right. You're going to Gideon it. I
need you. I need you to put the dew on the grass,
leave the sponge dry. Okay, you know what? Let's
do this again. Let's do it one more time. You
know how I shut your sister up? By telling her
you love her and giving her a hug? Especially
early on. Even like kind of when we first started
dating. Or actually, in one way, this is how
we started dating. I kiss her. Like we were not
dating. She liked me. It was just... You know,
she kind of pursued me. Then she gave up on me.
Then I got jealous when she was dating another
guy. And then I locked my keys in my truck, which
was parked illegally on campus. And it was running.
Oh, dude. And it was, I had this big project
due the next day, which I was getting ready to
spend an all -nighter on. Every place that I
called was like, oh, your truck has this bar
that keeps you from being able to just easily
do that. There's only like a couple of guys that.
can actually do that. And it looks like they
were all on vacation that day. So finally, like,
I'm texting your sister, who was my best friend
at the time. And she was like, do you want me
to come out there? And I was like, yes. But then
she came out and then she just kept talking.
She kept talking. She kept talking. She kept
talking. And I was like, I knew better even then
to, hey, you need to shut up. And so I kissed
her. You kissed her. Dang, dude. And she was
silent. Which, I mean, this was, yeah. Anyway,
longer story for another day. But I love that
this is now on public record. Yeah, well, she
knows. That any time that Brad goes in for a
kiss, there are one of two reasons. Either A,
he just wants to show his love for her, or B,
he needs Tabitha to shut up. I would prefer to
think that Brad kisses my sister to make her
shut up all the time. And I'm fine with that.
I would disagree with that statement, but definitely
times I've done. I think as we, like if we're
in a conversation with other people and I feel
like she's going like either, like she's about
to give too much information or something. Like
if we're sitting, I will just tap her on the
leg, like with my hand, just gently. But if we're
standing, I'll do it behind her, just kind of
gently tap her on the side or whatever. And then
sometimes she gets mad, and she'll just out me
to the people we're talking to. She's like, my
husband just gave me the signal that I shouldn't
say what I'm about to say to you, so I'm going
to say it anyway. Okay. Blah, blah, blah. Like,
okay. Like, you didn't have to do that. That
right there. That right there is our segue. I
love that this is our segue. In my opinion. share
his answer to question nine is the best answer
i have ever heard her give pretty much in my
entire life outside outside of do you want to
marry me and are we gonna have kids right all
right so question nine listeners is if you had
to pick actors and actresses to portray both
couples who would you pick all right so for me
chandler from friends I'm sarcastic, funny, socially
awkward at times, caring and loving. For her,
Monica from Friends. She's an organizer. She's
a planner. She likes things done a certain way.
She's competitive and she's loving, which is
true. I love, more than anything else, her answers
for you and Tabitha. Do you want yours first?
Do you want Tabitha's first? I don't know. The
anticipation is killing me. Okay, then let's
do yours. Patrick Warburton. Oh, okay. Yeah.
If you don't know who this is, that's the voice
of Crunk. It's the high five guy from Seinfeld.
It's very stone. That's right. Low intensity,
doesn't talk much, funny and silly. But, dude,
the winner, Tabitha, Molly Shannon. I love this
answer. I don't know who that is. Oh, yes, you
will when you look her up. Funny, forward, bold,
and TMI gives too much information at times.
Oh, yes. Yeah, I didn't know her name. That is
the winner. It's the greatest answer in the world.
Even I wouldn't have come up with this. When
I read this, I was like, that is absolutely my
sister. If there was a person that could easily
replace Tabitha's personality on camera, that
is who it is. No other actress that I could rack
my brain exists that has that. Everybody, if
you imagine those two actors being in a sitcom
together, raising children. I love it. It's so
good. It's so good. I'd watch it. I would watch
it. Yeah, right. All right, so Tabby's answers
for me, she said Billy Gibbons. Billy Gibbons?
Yeah, so he's one of the guys from ZZ Top. Okay.
Is it just the beard? No, she watched this show
called Bones, and he plays the dad in that role.
Bones, like the forensic drama. Yeah, I love
that show. I didn't know he was in that. Well,
so Monica, is it Monica? No, it's not Monica,
is it? Anyway, it doesn't matter. One of the
ladies on the show, her dad is actually him.
And so he plays himself. Billy Gibbons plays
Billy Gibbons. Billy Gibbons, yeah. That's awesome.
As her dad. And so he's country. I don't remember
that. When he talks, there's not a big fluctuation
of emotion. And he's got a big beard. And he
does have a big beard, dude. I approve. Very
cool guy. I'll take that. And she said for her,
Sandra Bullock. But apparently she had thought
that one out for a long time because she was
like, I've always thought if I got to pick somebody
to play me on screen, who would it be? Sandra
Bullock, obviously. I think Sandra Bullock is
too tame for Tabitha. She doesn't, I mean, I'm
sure that Sandra Bullock could like sort of channel
and like a boisterous, you know, crazy energetic.
So the question we need to ask, the question
that we need to ask is, Is that the way that
Tabitha sees herself? Does she see herself again?
Well, I mean, in that case, I'm Tom Cruise, baby.
No, I'm just saying like personality -wise, like
the way that she is on screen, where it's fun
but reserved. Reserved being the key word I'm
looking for. Is that the way that my wife sees
herself? Does Tabitha know what the word reserved
means? And this is why I asked, because again,
we've had this conversation for a long time.
I did not realize that I'm the way I am. I felt
like, because I feel strong emotions. Sure. I
felt like that those were. erupting out of every...
Christmas at the Culp's will open your eyes to
what your emotions are like. Especially if you
give me something that I really like and it's
like, this is awesome. Yeah, this is awesome.
And that's it. That's it. It's like, yeah. And
Tabby has started doing the thing where she's
like, now, if you want it, here, I'm going to
demonstrate how Brad really feels. That's right.
I love that. I love the demonstration. It erupts
with excitement. It's just right. I'm like, I
feel that. I got your name as a draw gift like
seven years ago. And, dude, I racked my brain.
And I told Shara, I think I want to get Brad
a. like a jacket, like a heavier kind of like
wintry coat. We were in JCPenney and I found
this one that was like Sherpa lined, you know,
it was denim. I was like, I really see, I can
see Brad enjoying that. She's like, oh yeah,
I think he would really like it. So you opened
it and you did your Brad, you did your Patrick
Warburton face. Let me tell you what, I loved
that coat. I actually, I lost that coat. Figured
out what happened. Well, and this is sometimes
the way God works, okay? I'll be honest. We're
pretty sure I left it at Donna Phelps, who helps
a lot of low -income people, helps a lot of people
in homeless -type situations. And so we're pretty
sure I left it at her house, and it got given
to somebody. But yeah, I wore that coat for years.
And I loved it. You're right. And you have that
ability. But yeah. But here's the thing. I remember
Tabitha calling and saying, so Brad wants you
to know. Oh, no, no, no. You sent a text. That's
what it was. You sent a text. Thank you for the
code or something like that. And then Tabitha
called as a way almost to confirm. Brad wanted
to know. He said, do you think DJ would appreciate
a text like this? letting him know that i really
love the coat and she was like well yeah so she
called and said brad just wanted brad wanted
you to know that he loves that coat and i'm like
okay that's great because i wasn't too sure but
but here's and here's the secret you have to
know about me again i am very like i'm an empath
and i i see people observe people right so i
like i see when your reaction to my reaction
right so i see and i feel like okay he was just
like i disappointed him in that you know he's
disappointed and he thinks that i don't like
it probably and that's not the case but i can't
be what he needs you to be in this situation
so how can i do that Yay. Without coming across
as crass and sarcastic. Yeah. Right. And I talked
to Tammy because I was so worried. I was like,
do you think that the kids think I hate everything?
She's like, your kids know you. So they know
your nuances. They can read that better than
anybody else. So they know what it looks like
when you're excited. And so they see that, even
though it's very low -key and may even look like
not excitement. Because I was like, I don't want
my kids to grow up thinking my dad hates everything.
You know, my dad hated everything I ever gave
him, everything I ever brought him. Because this
is how I am at Christmas. I'm like, thanks, this
is awesome. Yeah, this is great. It's how I express.
Yep. All right, so last question here, Brad.
Close the show. Show 100. This is, again, to
our wives. Do you think the show should continue
and why? And Shara says yes. No, you skipped
something. We did not talk about who she picked
for you. For me and Shara. Or me and Shara, that's
right. Okay, so you're Billy Gibbons and she's
Sandra Bullock. Me and Shara. Okay, Steve Carell
and Anne Hathaway. And who? Anne Hathaway. Dude,
I love that. I accept Steve Carell hardcore.
I'm there. I'm not a big Office fan. Actually,
I'm not an Office fan, but I love Steve Carell's
personality. Comedic timing. All of that's great.
And dude, Anne Hathaway, I bet Anne Hathaway
opposite Steve Carell would be a great duo. Cause
she's funny. She can be dry, but she's also like,
I definitely see, I definitely see kind of like
the reserved nature of Anne Hathaway coming out
in Shara. Yeah. That's awesome. All right, so
last question. Do you think the show should continue
and why? Shara says, yes, I think it should continue.
Both Brad and DJ are having a great time with
the show and are strengthening their relationship.
I have heard several of our friends and acquaintances
tell DJ that they are still really enjoying the
show. It always means a lot to me, a ton to me.
Very endearing when... you know someone says
i listened to the show i loved your show um and
i'm a person unfortunately to my detriment i'm
a person that like do people still love the show
you know what i mean i appreciate that you that
you said that you enjoyed that episode or that
you've enjoyed episodes up to this point um and
so it's always encouraging um, to know that,
you know, that, that our, our show is, is, is
impacting. And I want to, I want to take this
moment real quick, Brad, before, before you read
Tabitha's, um, it was about a month ago, maybe
even two months ago. And I responded back, but
I want to, I want to give him a shout out to,
uh, Steve Chappius, Chappie. Um, he, Chappie
Facebook messaged me once and said, um, and I
remember what the episode was, but he said that
he really appreciated the episode, um, that it
spoke to him. Um, And, like, it's just little
stuff like that. You know, Chappy, I really appreciated
that, man. I really did. So, all right. Go ahead,
Brad. Like I said, I absolutely do, exclamation
point. I think you guys are making a difference
in lots of men and young men's lives. One thing
this world needs more of is honest truth that
comes from love and that is what you all do.
That's what you all do. I appreciate that. Um,
I'll let your sister know. Yeah. Right. Like
she'll listen to this episode. Yes, she will.
There's no doubt. Like she will listen to this
episode. Don't tell her actually make her listen
to the episode to see, to see who, to see who,
uh, shared said Tabitha was. Um, but, uh, I don't
know about you. I, I love, Brad, just even having
another opportunity to get real about things.
You know what I mean? Yeah, yeah. I like meaningful
conversation. Yes. Yeah, meaningful conversation.
And I love being able to... you know, be the
one or bounce ideas off of you, but getting to
choose the topic of the real conversation. My
computer's about to die. Yeah, I was about to
say, Brad, you're lagging. I think it's going
in low power mode. Well, while Brad fixes that,
listeners, thank you. Brad and I thank you so
much for tuning in and being a part of our show.
We really hope that our show impacts you. That's
why we do it. It's not because we think that
we're wiser than anyone, actually quite the opposite.
But the topics that we talk about, we feel that
God has really brought us through different things
in our lives that has given us insight. on these
topics um and the show is absolutely going to
continue um i remember reading brad that uh in
listeners i'll let you know this too if you if
you guys don't know anything about podcast statistics
that generally speaking it takes a podcast two
years and or 100 episodes to really start gaining
traction in the podcast world and so the fact
that we have hit 100 episodes is a in the world
of podcasting is a huge mile marker. But that
said listeners, I really want to kind of get
authentic here. Not to say that I haven't been
up to this point, but like I've often, I've often
tossed around the idea, you know, what if, what
if we were to get big and I love not having.
any worry at all about about accountability from
places that it doesn't need to come from i wish
i could say that i yeah love feeling that way
too yeah right buddy but brad doesn't but it
doesn't matter if it is a real thing or not i'm
still going to worry about it yeah i'm i'm always
i'm always worried i say worried i'm I try to
be conscientious as to as to how things come
out. But I mean, how I think is how I think and
how other people think is how other people think.
Right. I mean, that's so I'm told. Yeah, right.
Go read Hosea. I've been told that I need to
stop trying to make myself responsible for regulating
other people's emotions. Good word. I'm guessing
that has come from your, from, from your wife.
In part. Yes. In part. Yes. But yeah, but backed
up by some other people. Yeah. Well, I'm working
on it. All that said listeners, we love you guys.
We, we really do this. It's not superficial.
I promise. And we would love for you to contact
us. So. This is the first time, Brad, that I
officially get to say this. Listeners, connect
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And this is not a men's exclusive, but a podcast,
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you, buddy. Love you too. Listeners, thank you
for tuning in to show 100 and we will see you
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you're 100 or more.