Hello and welcome to another episode of Upfront and Undivided with Luke and Dean'na.
Hi.
Hey babe.
How's it going?
It's good.
How are you?
It's good.
Good.
It's so funny.
I always have like conversations in my head while I'm talking.
It's like, oh, I should do this.
Oh, I should, what about that?
It's amazing how my brain works.
What conversation are you having?
Well, cause I know we've had the conversation of like pre-recording our little intro stuff.
And so it's like, I should pre-record.
What would I say?
Should I start saying it now?
What would I say?
It's a fun little conversation while I'm trying to remember what I'm saying.
And where you are.
And having a conversation while having other conversations in my head.
I would have to say that's a lot of people.
It's kind of scary.
You know?
Yeah.
It's impressive that you can multitask the way that you do.
Thanks.
I mean, I'm just saying.
But I just, I like my little head just bobs while you do your little intro.
See if you canned it, I would miss the bobbing.
It's true.
I mean, we'd still, we'd still, you know, we could still imagine the music going on.
Yeah.
Hello.
Yeah.
Welcome to our podcast.
Welcome to the podcast.
It's good.
So how was the weekend, babe?
How was your week?
It was good.
How was the weekend, babe, how was your week?
How you doing?
I mean, it's been good.
I've been healing.
Yeah.
You know, for those of you that didn't listen to the last episode, yes, I'm recovering from
appendicitis, appendectomy.
Yeah.
So that was fun.
And this past weekend, we went out of town for our anniversary weekend, like we like
to do.
Yes.
And that was fun because we got to do some things that we have done.
Some things we haven't done and got to see some new things and got to learn what it means
to trust God in all things and in all situations.
It didn't go as smoothly as some of our trips have gone in the past.
Correct.
Yes.
Correct.
Yes.
And that's kind of why I gave the title today of why, of, of, yes.
What if things don't go as planned?
What if they don't go as planned?
Yes.
What are you going to do?
Yes.
What is, what are you going to do?
Yes.
Yeah.
And that goes with, you know, that can, that can be applied in so many different ways and
so many different situations.
You know, I mean, especially since, you know, we do focus a lot on marriages and relationships
and communication and, you know, all of a sudden it popped in my head.
I heard a, you know, heard a pastor say once, you know, how do you make God laugh?
You tell them your plans.
I feel like that's what this weekend was.
Yeah.
A little bit.
Like, so we celebrated 11 years.
Yes.
Happy anniversary.
And we, we joked just right before you hit record and you're like, we can completely
be lazy and be like, cause last year we did 10 years or 10 things that I've learned in
the 10 years.
Okay, 11.
Things we've learned in the 10 years.
Yeah.
So we're like, we're going to learn more.
Be fine.
You know, but I was like, no, um, because it, it was funny when not funny, ha ha, but
a little funny.
So sweet friend of ours, um, he's, he actually said he knows that we do our podcast and he's
like, Oh, you're a appendix bursting.
That'll be fun for the podcast.
You know, you guys can talk about that, but, um, the thing is, is like, we've had this
trip planned for months.
Yeah.
And, um, I almost canceled.
You almost did.
And I, because we drove four hours and you're in a, like, you know, you are insisting three
hours was about my limit.
I'm yeah.
So the last hour you're in, you're hurting.
I was uncomfortable.
Um, but we're grateful for the trees and for the pretty and the scenery that we got to
see because that is part of why I like that area for you because you love mountains.
You love scenery.
You love windy roads.
Yes.
You have this image in your brain that we're on a motorcycle instead of in a car.
Exactly.
Yeah.
Shoo, shoom, shoom doing your thing.
But, um, when we showed up, we found out that our lock on the place where we were didn't
lock.
And, um, so we ended up needing to, um, change spaces because they, the maintenance person
came out, they're trying to get us, you know, settled and figured out and, uh, it never,
it never got fixed.
It was broken, broken.
Broken, broken.
And so this is nine o'clock by the time nine o'clock at night, we've been driving all day.
Um, we just, we just want to stretch out and just relax and get you unfolded and get you
comfortable again.
And, um, they ended up getting us in a spot for the evening, but then we had to turn around.
Yes.
Turn right back around.
And it ended up taking us to a place that was 15 minutes outside of where we originally
had planned.
Yeah.
And it was, it was good.
I mean, again, it was, it was one of those things that, yes, we, we had those moments
where we were trying to figure out what we were doing, where we were going to go.
Um, because again, we're, we're in a, we're in a location that we weren't totally comfortable
with, familiar with.
And all of a sudden it's like, you know, you're, you're going to this place.
And one of the things they say is, yes, it'll be safe and secure.
And all of a sudden it's like, we don't feel safe and secure with a, a main door that A
doesn't have a deadbolt, B doesn't lock.
Yeah.
Um, so yeah, so that was, that was fun and, and, and it was all sorts of new experiences.
Um, you know, I, I say, I say it like it's a bad thing.
I mean, I, I didn't, I didn't feel like it was a bad, bad thing.
It was, yes, it was inconvenient.
Yes, it was not our ideal.
Um, yes, I didn't want to stand guard over our bed the entire night, um, just in case.
Um, but it was, I mean, and, and it's, it's one of those things that highlighted, you
know, some of our, some, you know, a lot of people's complaints about customer service
of if you're going to, you know, turf me to, to three or four different people, send my
original complaint with me, um, so I don't have to re-explain every, you know, every
time I have to talk to somebody.
Right.
Um, you know, yes, we were dealing with, uh, a, a national company.
Uh, we ended up, you know, really connecting with the local manager, which was absolutely
precious, super helpful.
Yeah.
Very, very precious.
We, we appreciated her very much.
Um, but yeah.
So in the span of, of two nights, we stayed at three different places.
So yeah.
Um, but it was, it sparked, it sparked all sorts of fun conversations of do we trust
God?
That's it.
And, and what do we do?
What do we do when things don't exactly go our way, the way that we have it planned out
in our brains?
That's it.
And, and once again, it's, you know, I know there have been other situations where you
and I have looked at each other and, and, you know, whether it be from a parental standpoint,
from a marriage relationship standpoint, or just a personal standpoint, you know, you're
always going to be looking at the things around you.
You're going to be looking at the people around you.
You're going to be looking at the situations around you and, um, you know, a lot of people
without judging will, I, maybe it's just me.
I don't know.
But, uh, a lot of times I'll internalize it of how would I act in that situation?
How would I react in that situation?
Would I, would I do differently?
You know, again, in my brain, classic example of you're at the grocery store and you see
a parent with a toddler and the toddler's throwing a fit.
You know, how would I respond in that?
You know, not looking at saying, man, that's, man, you know, you don't want to, you don't
want to all of a sudden creating in your mind a picture of what kind of parent that is or
what kind of kid that is.
Because again, you never know what somebody else is going through or what kind of day
they've had.
Right.
You know, what if they had just spent the past 12 hours in the hospital and finally
they're out and they're just trying to get groceries because they're hungry?
You know, and you don't know.
Yeah.
So it is.
And I think that's one of those things that I've tried to do.
You know, I just talk me off the ledge.
I did.
You did.
I mean, I will, I will call it out the way that it was.
I, it, it ruined my day.
It did.
Like I, I allowed it to run my day.
Yes.
You had to say to me several times, we are safe.
Yes.
We are okay and we're together.
And I think that that was one of the number one takeaways that I needed to constantly
because it even bled into the next day.
And I'm, I'm, I'm looking at you because I mean, ultimately I was the one that did the
trip because you know, here's the deal.
You know, for those that do not know, um, a lot of times when it comes to the trips,
it's not that Luke does not plan with me.
Um, I am the Airbnb connoisseur.
Okay.
Like I, I, babe, like you watch me.
I do.
It's it's I watch and I, and I, and I get all the texts and emails of what about this
place?
What about this place?
And I, I will, I will say on, on option number three, babe, that's awesome.
This is great.
I love it.
This is, this will be perfect for us.
And then I'll go.
And then 15 options later, what about this one?
I am right.
Because you will, you will even make the reservation.
You will pull the trigger, you will enter our credit card information.
We will make the reservation and the next day you'll still look at more options.
Yeah.
Because I want it to be perfect.
Because you do.
And I appreciate that.
I appreciate that very much.
Like even with our trip that we have coming up, our family reunion with my family, it's
like I had to book two different places and I'm like, Oh, because we're stopping in two
different locations.
Yeah.
We're not doing two.
No, no.
It's not like two spots in one place.
Yeah.
It's like several days, several days in one and then a couple of days in another.
And it's like, let me clarify that for people.
Yeah.
Thank you.
I appreciate that.
So, but it's one of those where it's like, um, so I say that I completely out myself and
say that because I know that there's other people out there.
And again, whether we're, we're, we're kind of making light of our vacation or our anniversary
trip and you know, well guys, it's great that you guys even got to go.
You know what?
Absolutely.
You are correct.
I was being a brat.
Um, that's what I'm wanting to call out in this, in this space because too many times,
like you said at the beginning, um, we tell God our plans.
Is it good to have a plan?
Absolutely.
And I know God even says, you know, um, that it's, it's good that you like, you, you write
things down, write things down, have a plan, make a, make, make things known.
Right.
But I've also learned, we've also learned over the 11 years that we've been together
that sometimes those plans just do not happen the way that we thought.
Right.
And so many instances that I'm like literally flipping through the Rolodex of all of the
moments in our lives.
And I'm standing back going every time though, God was faithful, every time God was faithful,
every time he, he never left us, not one time stranded in the midst of any of these, these
plan change, plan changes, because it's like, it's it for me.
So where we went, um, it, it has some major strongholds in that area.
It does.
Let's say it that way.
And, uh, we're not going to tell you guys where we went.
I mean, for the most part, people will know where we were, but.
And it's a, it's a place of creatives.
It's a place of artists.
Yeah.
And there, there are a lot of things in the creative and art world that comes with that,
the vein of creativity.
Very big spiritual stuff.
That isn't always Christian.
God's spiritual stuff.
Right.
And that is the world that you lived in for a season.
It is.
And I was thinking, cause a friend of ours was asking us yesterday at church, how'd it
go?
You guys got to take off.
Yeah.
And I said, this is kind of what happened.
And then it was like, and as I'm telling them this story, I stopped and I looked at them
and I said, God was so gracious to us.
And they just, yeah.
And I said, yeah, because here's the deal.
This is what God delivered Luke out of.
Why would we want to put him back smack in the middle of everything?
God literally picked us up because right across the street from the original space, we saw
all sorts of familiar stuff.
Again, you're okay, but why would we do that to you?
Right?
Yeah.
Kind of like what we would say to somebody, you've been delivered, God's delivered to
you from alcoholism or drugs, pornography thing.
Why would we put you in that space where even the appearance of something-
And I will say kind of to add to that, yes, there are those moments where as let's say
a drug addict or let's say a woman that used to actually be an adult actress in the porn
industry and God has completely delivered them of that.
Yes, it is 100% in the realm of possibility, especially with God, for you to be called
to help minister to the people that want to come out of that industry.
Absolutely.
Also, I will say though that just because you came out of that does not mean that you're
the one that needs to go and minister and bring them out of that.
That's actually a good one, baby.
I mean again, I know I came out of witchcraft.
I came out of the world of witchcraft.
I was neck deep in it.
I was 100% sold.
I can recognize it.
I can see it.
I know where we should and should not go.
I see the stuff and people are like, oh, that's kind of quaint.
I'm like, yeah, there's a lot deeper than you think.
But that doesn't mean that I have never felt or heard a voice of God or heard anybody say,
you know, Luke, maybe you should go and minister to witches and try to bring them out.
I've never heard that.
I've never felt that.
That has never been a thing that I feel like I need to do or should do.
If the opportunity came, I mean, I would not, you know, if somebody was like, man, how do
I get out of this?
I have this background, but I'm really interested in chasing after God.
But I've got all this stuff.
What should I do?
I am not going to not help them.
I am not going to say, well, you should go talk to somebody else because that's not my
calling.
But as far as like going into that community and trying to help people come out, that's
not me.
That's not me at this point in my life.
So yeah.
So I'll say that.
No, I love that.
No, I'm glad.
I'm glad that you clarified and said that because I believe that somebody needed to hear that
too.
Yeah.
So it's but it's one of those where as I'm telling our friends about our trip and I was
like, God literally picked us up and put us 15 miles outside of town.
And we got to just be together and just granted.
We came we came into town.
We took we gave ourselves a time limit.
We said we're going to take two hours.
We're going to do a couple of laps.
We're going to pick up a couple of souvenirs for family and different ones.
And then we're going to go back and we're just going to be.
And I say all that to say a lot of times, whatever it is that you're going through,
whatever it is that God might be changing gears on you.
He might be changing locations.
I immediately thought of just some different friends that are going through some life things
right now.
He might be shutting down things forever for a season, for a moment.
He might just you know, the fact is that he he as long as you keep surrendering your life
and saying, Father, I trust you.
Yes, I trust you.
I'm going to be led by peace and not pushed by pressure.
I'm going to be led by your spirit and not pushed by the things of the world or what
I think is seems like a good idea.
All this is a great opportunity.
This blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
And the whole time it's like here's the Holy Spirit going.
Yeah, but that's not what I've called you to do.
I've called you to be somewhere else, to do something else, to, you know, to witness
in a different realm, kind of like what you were saying.
You know what?
God has called you into this moment.
It doesn't mean not that it may not happen one day, but not today.
You know, and it's like when he changes those years, when he's gracious enough to guide
us, when we've given him that permission, we're even walking through this with our daughter
right now with school and her her future career.
What do you want to do, baby?
You know, what is it your thoughts are?
You know, what do you want to do for the summer?
What do you want to do for the summer?
That was our conversation kind of a little just a little bit at dinner, just even just
the shifting of friends, the shifting of people, the shifting of family.
What what are your expectations?
But ultimately, even with your expectations, if they're if they're good, godly expectations,
you're still giving God the opportunity to come in and do whatever he wants to with them.
And when we get to a space again, father, forgive me genuinely that I was a brat the
first night in a half of the day.
But just to slow down, because ultimately, that's what happened to me.
I had to slow down.
You know, after talking to literally eight people, I think by the time we were done,
I had to slow down long enough to just say, OK, God, you know what?
I literally have all these voices talking right now.
What do you what do you want to do?
Yeah.
I mean, was this even a good idea?
Did you even want us to come?
Was was this out of just because this is what we wanted?
But we thank you that even if it is, even if it was, here's the beautiful thing about
our God, even if it is out of your own selfish intent, your own heart, if you midstream say,
wow, God, I blew that, I'm that wasn't even what you wanted.
He's so faithful to say it's OK.
That wasn't that wasn't the original attempt, but I can absolutely turn it for my good,
for my glory.
I can get you back on track.
This didn't take me by surprise.
This doesn't freak me out.
You haven't completely lost everything.
You haven't messed everything up.
You know, it was a speed bump.
It was it was a sidestep.
OK, you're still I'm still God.
And you're still very much in the midst of me.
And now we're just going to tweak it.
We're going to get back on track and we're going to make it good again.
Yeah.
And and that's right.
You know, I did.
I had to take a moment to write down what you said, because that was really that really
jumped out and hit me upside the head.
You know, be led by peace, not pushed by pressure.
That was really good.
But it was but I do I kind of funny because I you know, it's like as we as we talk about
it and we've revisited it over the past couple of days.
You know, it is it I do I find it funny that as much as as we had conversations on the
way down or on the way there.
Yeah.
Of you know, knowing in our lives and in our relationship how we've had the stance of
of just you got to trust God, you just got to trust God in the process.
You just got to trust God.
And knowing that, you know, some really good friends of ours, that that's that's their
stance of regardless of what happens, they trust God.
Yeah.
You know, with anything that happens in their family and in their home.
And it's it's just awesome.
And then it was it was it was funny to then it was it was almost like it put it on put
on a plate in front of us of.
Yeah.
Do you?
Yeah.
Like literally, like it tripped it literally tripped me up.
Yeah.
You know, and you know, to a degree, it's it's I'll sympathize and I'll say to a degree
it was understandable because again, you know, you are talking about you're you're in a strange
location.
You're not familiar.
You don't know anybody else that's around you.
Yeah.
And you are in a place that you cannot lock.
Yeah.
And you know, it's as much and you know, it's dark, it's storming and it it is it's, you
know, safety is safety is number one.
Yeah.
You know, I kind of a side note, I know that's one thing that.
You know, as far as, you know, traditionally and in the broad general sense, you know,
that is one of the big things on a woman's checklist to be a wife or what she looks for
in a husband is security.
Yeah.
You know, and as much as I can provide you security in that moment, the physical location
was not providing security.
Correct.
You know, and so it's it's one of those things that it is.
It's it's it's understandable that you had the reaction that you had.
Yeah.
Yes, we can now look back and say.
The reaction was understandable.
Maybe not the level.
It's called overreaction.
I know.
You're very sweet to me.
I know.
And but I think it's just I'm kind of, you know, not just you, but but also anybody that
might be listening.
But you know, it is, you know, because it is sometimes it's like all of a sudden I'm reminded
of, you know, how many times have we said to each other with all the stuff that went
through with what was going on, especially during your pregnancy with Sebastian?
Yeah.
How many times have we had the conversation with with both of our kids?
You can be angry.
You can be disappointed.
You can you can feel all of these emotions.
Absolutely.
But what are you going to do with it?
Right.
Because because again, God gave us all of these emotions.
Yeah.
You know, and it's just what do we do with it?
I had to I had to stop myself several times.
And you saw me on the phone.
Stopped myself several times and remind myself that I am going to leave this person better
than I found them.
Yeah.
I will not be so caught up in this that I am a jerk about this.
You know, kind of like what you're saying.
I can be I'm expressing to these people, it's our anniversary.
This is what we're trying to do.
Yeah.
This is this is where we're trying to be.
Just could you help us out?
That would be if that would be phenomenal.
You know, kind of thing.
And and not quite getting the results that that we were anticipating.
Yeah.
And and that's OK, because again, these are the things that I had to stand back like you
were saying, you know, like there's expectations, there's certain expectations of certain positions
of people's lives that you stand back and you say, I expect a little bit more from you.
Yeah.
But then you have to stand back to and say, you know what?
It's OK.
Yeah.
I'm really tired.
It's been a very long day.
I've really been driving in the rain.
You're not feeling good.
I'm kind of a little bit I'm overreacting.
Yeah.
And it's and it is it's a thing of Holy Spirit.
This is where I was wrong.
And this is why I wanted to share this with everybody, because I want you guys to learn
from where I messed up.
When something like this happens.
Yeah.
This is a minor thing.
OK, well, listen, guys, we've been through the major things.
We've been through a lot of major things.
Some not as extreme as some of you guys, some maybe more extreme in broad scheme of things.
But the fact is that if something is trying to take you off the mark, it's big in the
moment.
And what I want to kind of really.
Put into everybody today is before you react, before you respond, before you text, before
you make that phone call, before you maybe accept that position or quit the other position,
take it to the throne.
Take it to the father.
Take it to God.
Father, I'd ask that you help me.
Give me some words of wisdom here.
Show me what I need to do.
Because ultimately, what happened was even after I was done talking to all of the people
and they got us where we needed to be, the one young lady that was there, the property
manager, again, never saw her face to face.
But you saw where we had this conversation of flow and the Holy Spirit's just letting
me just speak to her and just appreciate her love on her.
She's a mom.
She's got tiny's.
We sent her a picture.
Thank you so much for keeping getting us in a place where we're safe.
Thank you for, you know, I know that this was out of everybody's control.
Nobody could have seen this coming, you know, regardless of how we felt it should have been
handled or how it should not have been handled.
Seeing the good in the situation, seeing the positives in those moments, expressing the
negative, but saying it in a space where it's still honorable.
It's still respectful.
You're still, you're trying to help build something.
You're just, I'm just going to bring this to your attention because I want, I'm trying
to help you.
I'm not trying to be a jerk, you know?
And it was, it's a learning these communication skills kind of back to what we always talk
about those communication skills of when I'm saying something and how am I delivering it?
Is it out of a heart that's soft?
Is it out of a heart that's being pliable?
Is it out of a heart that's being forgiving, being understanding, being gracious?
Or is it out of a, I'm going to be a real big brat and I want what I want when I want
it, how I want it.
And the whole time God's like, dork burger, what are we doing right now?
You're completely blowing, you know, this opportunity and to show my glory in the midst
of whatever is happening.
Yeah.
That's good.
I like that.
I lost what I was going to say.
I'm sorry.
No, it's okay.
It's like, I know I was like, I was like, Ooh, I had, they don't want to wait.
I'm sorry.
Yeah.
It's okay.
Yeah.
I, I, I, again, I think, I think we said for the most part, I think we said what we were,
what we were thinking of because again, it's, we do, we just, we got to trust God no matter
what happens.
And it's just, life is going to happen.
Yeah.
You know, again, no matter as well as we try to plan, as well as we try to be prepared
for what might be coming up, you know, a God might have a different plan for when you get
to your locate destination or for even how you get to your destination.
But also, you know, keeping in mind that, you know, the enemy is out there to try to
trip us up regardless.
And, and, you know, I, you know, people, I don't know, I, I'd like to sit here and think
the best of, of everyone, but I know that, you know, people don't always have the best
intentions.
And I know that, you know, people don't always, you know, as much as we want to sit there
and say, you know, we, that we don't want to put unrealized or, or uncommunicated expectations
on other people and, you know, we, we, we need to believe the best in people.
But you know, there, there are times where it's just, they are not wanting to be the
best.
Yeah.
You know, they are not wanting to even live up to their own expectations in their own
lives.
And, and we can't, we can't hold that against them, you know, because again, we can just,
you know, back to, back to the, you know, the conversation of, of, of emotions, you
know, have all the, you can have all the emotions you want and, and you can express the emotions
that you want.
But again, it's back to what are you going to do with them?
You know, how are, how are you going to wait when you are angry, when you are disappointed
in that situation, you know, how is it going to come out?
You know, is it going to come out in a productive manner?
Is it going to come out in a destructive manner?
Right.
And, you know, I know a lot of times we will look at each other or we'll look at our kids
and be like, okay, you can be upset and you can kind of break down for like five minutes
and then it's, then it's time to move on and, and let's, let's see what we can do to fix
this and move, move beyond it.
Right.
Because a lot of times it's, it's like a lot of times what we're going through in that
moment is not going to matter.
You know, a lot of times it's not even going to matter in five, 10 minutes.
Right.
You know, sometimes 24 hours.
You know, it's like rarely is it going to be like a long-term thing where it's like,
man, this, this, this, you know, I could have been angry about this for five years because
it messed up the next 10 years of my life.
Sincerely.
It's, it's possible.
Yeah.
But it's highly unlikely.
Right.
You know, it's, you're going to hold onto a grudge for longer than it actually affected
your life.
Correct.
And, you know, and I think, I think that's the biggest thing that, that people need to
keep in mind.
And it's just, it is, we need to just grab onto these things and remember that, I mean,
we've got a whole book, a whole book of people that have been chased and persecuted and blessed
and cursed and, you know, drowned and lifted up and killed and birthed and brought back
to life of all of these people that have just, regardless of what they said, this is going
to happen.
Yeah.
God still was like, you know, I got this.
Yeah.
You know, I got this.
Yeah.
You know, all of a sudden, like in my mind came, you know, when, when the spies were
sent out in the Canaan, you know, you had what Joshua and Caleb come back and say, dude,
it's awesome.
We got this.
Let's go.
Yeah.
God has empowered us.
We got this.
Yeah.
And the other time we're like, no, we got, we, they're giants.
Yeah.
They're giants.
You can't do this.
Yeah.
It's like, really?
But do you see the size of those grapes?
Man, that'd be awesome.
That'd be some really good wine.
Let me tell you.
Yes.
You know, and so it is.
But I think, I think ultimately what I'm, what I, it is, it's what I'm trying to get
at is seek God's face in everything.
Yeah.
And regardless of how other people act, regardless of how the situation turns out, he's got this.
Yeah.
And it's like, it's like, if we do, we get out of our own ways and we just let God be
God.
Yes.
And it'll sort itself out.
It's true.
You know?
And it's just, I think there's so many times we make it a bigger deal than it really is.
Because one of the big sayings in our household is in light of eternity.
Yeah.
Oh yeah.
What is this going to matter?
It's true.
If this is, you, if you walk in unforgiveness, that's going to affect your eternity.
You might want to fix that.
You want to fix that, not might.
You want to fix that.
You don't want to walk angry.
You don't want to walk bitter.
Is it okay to be angry?
Is it, like you said, is it okay to have disappointment?
Is it okay to have these things?
Yes.
But it's not okay when they have you.
Yeah.
It's not okay when they take you by the nose and they start dragging you wherever they
want to.
And you stop losing sight of what God can do.
Yeah.
Of who God is.
That when Joshua and Caleb are here and they're looking and they're not worried about how
big the giants were because they knew how big their God was.
And when we set, step into that place of, I'm not going to tell God how big my problem
is.
I'm going to tell my problem how big my God is.
Yeah.
Exactly.
And I'm going to trust him.
And I'm going to, I'm going to trust him.
Yeah.
That simple.
It is.
And that's, again, that's.
Says a girl who threw a fit.
Yes.
I will agree with you because you said it.
Yeah.
But it's true.
Yes.
So again, what if things don't go as planned?
You trust God.
You trust God in the process.
Yeah.
You talk it out.
Yeah.
Well, how does that work?
I mean, you're telling me I can't even, I can't be upset about, we didn't say that.
Nope.
But take it, take it to him.
Yeah.
Have him sorted out with you.
Yeah.
Ask the Holy Spirit to deal with you.
Father, am I wrong here?
Did I do something wrong?
Man, I didn't handle that right.
Yeah.
I'm asking that you tame my tongue.
I mean, I'll say, you know, I mean, again, for the people that are like, man, how does
that work?
How does that happen?
It's like, how would you talk to your spouse if, if let's say you're at work and your whole
work day just completely falls apart and it, you know, all of a sudden it looks like, you
know, you're not going to get that promotion or your coworker number A, you know, all of
a sudden you realize has been completely stabbing you in the back and has been undermining all
the work that you've been doing to make you look bad to your boss.
And it's like, you go home and you talk to your spouse.
Are you going to sit there and talk all calm?
Well, honey, so this is what happened today.
I found out that I've been betrayed.
I found out that I've been getting backstabbed and they're completely undermining.
And now my future prospects for promotion look like they might be in jeopardy.
So yeah, I might need to look for a new job.
You're not more than more.
I'm going to bet my next paycheck that you're not going to talk like that after that kind
of day.
Cause think about coming up to your spouse that you're upset.
But you're not going to take it out on your spouse.
You're not going to take it out on your kids.
You're not going to try to break things.
You're not going to try to destroy your home, your car, you know, you're, you're not going
to take it out on your friends when you see them, you know?
So, but you're going to, you're going to express it.
You're angry.
You're going to try to figure out a solution.
You're going try to figure out a way to fix that and make it right and seek justice.
If you can't seek justice with your boss,
then maybe seeking justice is you finding a new job
in a better environment.
Or trusting God.
Or trusting God that he's, again.
All of you above.
Yes.
So again, you can talk to God.
Absolutely.
God, I'm angry.
He's not scared of our emotions.
Listen, guys, he's not scared of our emotions.
He one time flooded the world.
Because he was so ticked off.
Because he was upset.
Yep.
He is okay with you being angry.
I promise you.
Yeah.
But again, it's.
Don't sin.
Yeah.
Don't blame him.
Yeah.
You know, but again.
I did, all of a sudden.
Kind of proud of myself for that one.
It's like, you're not gonna,
you don't have to talk to God all sweet and everything.
Oh, heck no.
Heck no.
But yeah.
So.
But be honorable.
Yeah, be honorable.
Be respectful.
Know that he's got it.
And he knows what's going on.
I mean, again, he knows all things.
He knows what's been going on at work.
He knew what was gonna happen on this trip
before we even got in the car to leave our house.
That's right.
He knew it was gonna happen.
Yeah.
So yeah.
Your famous line that you got on the way
that I was like, oh, I guess we needed a little bit of that.
Yes.
I had a great, it was a really good revelation slash theory
that I had as far as relationships go.
And for those with sensitive ears,
it is a little crass.
It is slightly irreverent and funny.
But we talked to one of our pastors
and he thought it was funny.
Yeah, he did.
He's fine.
But here it is.
The reason why so many couples
sometimes need to go through shit
is because they need help fertilizing their fields.
So sometimes, just to get a better harvest
in your marriage, in your relationship,
sometimes you need to go through some stuff
so you can have a better harvest.
It just helps you grow.
It really does.
If you see it from that standpoint,
genuinely, everybody just take a second.
Even those that aren't in a relationship,
there's gonna be some of you guys that you stand back
and you say, what does it seem like just the crap
is constantly just building up and building up?
What's going on?
Okay, number one, I would say, first ask God,
hey Father, is there something that I, am I out of step?
Am I out from underneath your covering?
Am I doing something that isn't in your will?
And then follow it up with, if all is well there,
then follow up with, okay Father, I thank you
that this doesn't surprise you,
that you can either help shield me
or you're gonna turn this for my good, for your good.
You're going to use this fertilizer to grow something,
whether it's growing a muscle inside of me,
whether it's growing something for your kingdom,
or even if it's maybe even burying something
that needs to die, whatever it is,
ask him, get real with him,
know that the plans he has for you,
this is the scripture, okay?
We always try to leave you guys with the scripture.
The scripture, Jeremiah says,
I know the plans I have for you, plans that prosper you,
plans that will give you a good future,
plans that are good, a good future.
It doesn't mean that roses and peaches
and everything rainbow and unicorns, guys,
we're not saying that, but what we're saying
is when you have God, it's good.
Even the hard becomes easy,
but he has nothing but a good hope in the future
and that you can hold onto.
So whatever plans seem to be changing,
whatever season might be coming,
know that God has got nothing but good for you.
That's right.
I like it, I dig it.
All right, guys, have the best week.
Enjoy the journey.
K makeup.