1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:13,280 Hello and welcome back to another episode of Upfront and Undivided with Luke and Dean'na. 2 00:00:13,280 --> 00:00:14,280 Hi. 3 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:15,280 Hi babe. 4 00:00:15,280 --> 00:00:16,280 How's it going? 5 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:17,280 It's good. 6 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:18,280 How are you? 7 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:19,280 I'm good. 8 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:20,280 I think we're cute. 9 00:00:20,280 --> 00:00:22,560 Again, these are times where we need videos. 10 00:00:22,560 --> 00:00:26,680 We need the things, but it's like you're looking, double checking, are you in the right 11 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:28,680 space, all of the things. 12 00:00:28,680 --> 00:00:33,960 And then we hear scratching at the door because your dog wants in and all this stuff. 13 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:39,480 And it's like, but we make eye contact of, we've got to stay silent until you start talking 14 00:00:39,480 --> 00:00:44,640 and do the eyebrows and the things and the stuff that, you know, a lot of times married 15 00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:46,640 people do. 16 00:00:46,640 --> 00:00:51,360 It's the nonverbal communication of, do you hear that? 17 00:00:51,360 --> 00:00:53,280 I do hear that, but we're going to keep moving. 18 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:54,280 That's right. 19 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:56,880 Because when we came down here, she was eating and drinking. 20 00:00:56,880 --> 00:00:57,880 She was. 21 00:00:57,880 --> 00:00:59,800 And we didn't even know that we left the room. 22 00:00:59,800 --> 00:01:00,800 Nope. 23 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:01,800 Nope. 24 00:01:01,800 --> 00:01:04,760 Like, yeah, and then it's all of a sudden it's like, where's dad? 25 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:12,480 Which I got to admit, it's like, I wish she would realize that her food exists outside 26 00:01:12,480 --> 00:01:17,000 of when she's standing right in front of it. 27 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:18,080 Okay. 28 00:01:18,080 --> 00:01:22,120 Because it's like, especially days I'm working, she'll like hang out down here in the office 29 00:01:22,120 --> 00:01:25,520 with me all day and not eat or drink. 30 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:26,520 Yes. 31 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:29,200 And she'll be like, oh no, and it's like, I could see this look of panic. 32 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:31,360 Like I want to eat, then go eat. 33 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:32,360 Go eat. 34 00:01:32,360 --> 00:01:33,360 Yeah. 35 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:34,360 You don't have to stay here. 36 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:35,360 Go eat. 37 00:01:35,360 --> 00:01:42,640 But she's being trained to eventually just be with you and not leave your side per se. 38 00:01:42,640 --> 00:01:43,640 Yes. 39 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:45,360 But yeah, but she's doing really good. 40 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:51,320 Because today, so first of all, the time that we're recording this is Veterans Day. 41 00:01:51,320 --> 00:01:52,320 Yes. 42 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:53,920 And when we release it, it'll be the day after. 43 00:01:53,920 --> 00:01:55,840 It'll be the day after Veterans Day. 44 00:01:55,840 --> 00:01:57,600 So happy Veterans Day. 45 00:01:57,600 --> 00:01:58,640 Yes. 46 00:01:58,640 --> 00:01:59,640 Thank you for your service. 47 00:01:59,640 --> 00:02:00,640 You're welcome. 48 00:02:00,640 --> 00:02:05,760 And all of our friends that are veterans, just everybody just cringed all at the same 49 00:02:05,760 --> 00:02:06,760 time. 50 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:07,760 Yeah. 51 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:14,680 But we had the most beautiful morning into the afternoon spending time at the World War 52 00:02:14,680 --> 00:02:15,680 I museum. 53 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:16,680 Yep. 54 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:22,320 And with all of your friends, your veteran friends and their doggies. 55 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:23,320 Yes. 56 00:02:23,320 --> 00:02:31,440 And I was so incredibly impressed with our fearless leader's husband's dog. 57 00:02:31,440 --> 00:02:32,440 Oh yeah. 58 00:02:32,440 --> 00:02:33,440 Yeah. 59 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:34,440 Maxine is amazing. 60 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:35,440 Yeah. 61 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:36,440 I'm going, what? 62 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:37,440 Yeah. 63 00:02:37,440 --> 00:02:38,440 Like he had to correct her once. 64 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:39,440 Yeah. 65 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:40,440 And that was because of sparks. 66 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:41,440 Yeah. 67 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:42,440 But we're not going to talk about that. 68 00:02:42,440 --> 00:02:43,440 No. 69 00:02:43,440 --> 00:02:46,040 But it was one of those things like all of a sudden she's like, oh, we're dogs. 70 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:47,040 And oh, nope. 71 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:48,040 Sorry. 72 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:49,040 Sorry. 73 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:50,040 Sorry. 74 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:51,040 I thought we were taking a break. 75 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:52,040 We're actually working. 76 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:53,040 Here we go. 77 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:54,040 And he's like, oh, I'm going to use a leash. 78 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:56,200 But he wasn't holding it. 79 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:57,200 No. 80 00:02:57,200 --> 00:02:58,200 No. 81 00:02:58,200 --> 00:03:01,160 It was just, she's following right there all the way. 82 00:03:01,160 --> 00:03:02,160 Yeah. 83 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:03,560 So incredibly impressive. 84 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:07,040 I think I've seen him use a leash once or twice. 85 00:03:07,040 --> 00:03:08,040 Yeah. 86 00:03:08,040 --> 00:03:09,040 Mad skills. 87 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:10,040 Yeah. 88 00:03:10,040 --> 00:03:13,240 But I mean, and again, he's had her for years. 89 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:14,240 Yes. 90 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:20,120 But the, just the dedication, the commitment, just all of what you see, I'm just going like 91 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:21,400 she's right with him. 92 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:22,400 Yeah. 93 00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:24,480 And then she's like, do, do, do, do, do, here we go. 94 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:28,720 And everybody was so respectful and kind to you guys, to the dogs. 95 00:03:28,720 --> 00:03:35,360 We are in a, probably a building full of what? 96 00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:40,200 75% at least of veterans, if not more. 97 00:03:40,200 --> 00:03:41,200 Yeah. 98 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:45,800 And I was telling our daughter today, like when we got home and just chatting about the 99 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:49,200 day and just, you know, she's about to leave and I was like, Hey, let me, you know, well, 100 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:50,200 what happened? 101 00:03:50,200 --> 00:03:52,080 What, you know, how'd your day go? 102 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:59,400 And I was like, I think my favorite part of hearing of today was just the honor, the respect 103 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:06,240 you have people from different walks of life, backgrounds, genders, ethnic groups, all of 104 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:07,240 it. 105 00:04:07,240 --> 00:04:12,200 And it's just in different and even different branches of the military. 106 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:18,640 But you had this common feel of honor of thank you for your service. 107 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:19,640 Hey, good morning. 108 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:20,640 Hey, good morning. 109 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:21,640 Good morning. 110 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:22,640 How are you? 111 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:23,640 How are you? 112 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:29,400 And I was like, it was, it just felt really good around everybody today. 113 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:32,120 I was like, this is nice. 114 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:35,040 This is, this is literally how the world should be. 115 00:04:35,040 --> 00:04:36,040 Yeah. 116 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:43,600 And it's so funny because it's, it's like, it's something about veterans. 117 00:04:43,600 --> 00:04:50,420 You know, again, it's, I, I joke there so often where it's, it's like, there's so many 118 00:04:50,420 --> 00:04:56,160 times where veterans don't have to admit or announce or, or, you know, say, Hey, I'm a 119 00:04:56,160 --> 00:04:59,560 veteran or wear a shirt that says, Hey, I'm a veteran. 120 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:00,560 Yeah. 121 00:05:00,560 --> 00:05:03,120 I know I'm being super obvious and weird. 122 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:05,120 But it's like, there's something about vets. 123 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:06,640 We recognize each other. 124 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:07,640 Yeah. 125 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:09,640 It's, there's a common, it's familiar. 126 00:05:09,640 --> 00:05:11,840 There's a familiar something. 127 00:05:11,840 --> 00:05:12,840 Yeah. 128 00:05:12,840 --> 00:05:16,440 And it is, it's, it's not like, you know, some people are like, Oh, it's cause you all, 129 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:17,600 you know, have that military barrier. 130 00:05:17,600 --> 00:05:19,520 And it's like, not even, it's not even that. 131 00:05:19,520 --> 00:05:23,440 It's, you know, it's because it's not like you walk around standing at attention and 132 00:05:23,440 --> 00:05:27,800 marching everywhere, you know, but there is, there's something about veterans. 133 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:29,360 We can smell our own. 134 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:32,880 It's like, I hate to say it like that, but we can smell our own. 135 00:05:32,880 --> 00:05:36,640 But it's like, even when we go to the VA, right? 136 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:41,760 The hospital and you're, you're getting blood done or you're doing something and all this 137 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:46,800 stuff and it is, it's just that, and you've got spouses, you have family members that 138 00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:49,440 go, hi, I am your, we joke. 139 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:53,000 I'm your support human or your service human, whatever. 140 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:59,580 But it's like, um, you know, who is who, you know, the players. 141 00:05:59,580 --> 00:06:06,920 And it's funny because I would say even being a supporting spouse, being a supporting person, 142 00:06:06,920 --> 00:06:13,020 veteran person, I don't know, I'm a supporting player. 143 00:06:13,020 --> 00:06:15,480 We can see each other. 144 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:22,760 The supporting cast can see who's taking care of who in the equation, right? 145 00:06:22,760 --> 00:06:26,360 So it just, I just, it's beautiful. 146 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:27,440 I mean, it's just beautiful. 147 00:06:27,440 --> 00:06:29,560 I, I, I love it. 148 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:37,240 I love your little motley crew of people that you get to go and you get to learn this new 149 00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:39,000 space of life with. 150 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:44,760 And um, and it's just, yeah, it's just good. 151 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:48,160 And today just felt really good too, cause you know me, I'm the talker. 152 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:51,400 I'm the one that wants to know all the things about the people. 153 00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:58,560 And I, I'm really grateful for, um, the people that God has placed us in the middle of because 154 00:06:58,560 --> 00:07:07,520 it, it, it feels like a very mixed matched family, but it's, everybody's looking out 155 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:09,040 for everybody else. 156 00:07:09,040 --> 00:07:12,160 Nobody, nobody like we were kind of spread out. 157 00:07:12,160 --> 00:07:13,960 We're walking through this museum. 158 00:07:13,960 --> 00:07:16,880 Everybody's at their own pace, but nobody left anybody. 159 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:21,960 Like you would see everybody casually circle back just to make sure that everybody was 160 00:07:21,960 --> 00:07:23,880 still with the group. 161 00:07:23,880 --> 00:07:27,280 I loved that. 162 00:07:27,280 --> 00:07:32,320 It was, it was just, and I don't mean to go on and on about it, but it just, it was really, 163 00:07:32,320 --> 00:07:33,440 it was really neat. 164 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:41,120 And so today as the civilian of the group, I do, we, we honor, we honor our veterans. 165 00:07:41,120 --> 00:07:46,680 We honor those that have chosen to give a portion of your lives, literally a portion 166 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:52,720 of your lives, um, to keeping our, our nation free. 167 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:53,720 So thank you. 168 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:54,720 Thank you, babe. 169 00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:58,000 Thank you for being one of those people. 170 00:07:58,000 --> 00:08:01,320 And I was thinking about that because thank you. 171 00:08:01,320 --> 00:08:02,920 Thank you for saying that. 172 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:05,720 Um, I appreciate it. 173 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:11,120 I was also thinking earlier because I know we have friends and there have been talks 174 00:08:11,120 --> 00:08:17,280 of, you know, there are some veterans that don't always appreciate being thanked for 175 00:08:17,280 --> 00:08:18,280 their service. 176 00:08:18,280 --> 00:08:21,760 And there are, you know, a lot of veterans that, you know, oh, thank you for your service. 177 00:08:21,760 --> 00:08:22,760 And it's like so awkward. 178 00:08:22,760 --> 00:08:24,280 It's like, do I say thank you? 179 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:25,520 Do I say you're welcome? 180 00:08:25,520 --> 00:08:30,400 Do I say have a nice day, enjoy the next 24 hours? 181 00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:32,440 You know, it's, what do you say? 182 00:08:32,440 --> 00:08:34,560 You nod your head and yeah. 183 00:08:34,560 --> 00:08:35,560 Cool. 184 00:08:35,560 --> 00:08:38,080 Um, but I was, I was thinking about that. 185 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:42,120 It's like, you know, because there are, there are a lot of veterans that are like, well, 186 00:08:42,120 --> 00:08:47,280 that was my job or, you know, I did something really horrible. 187 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:50,920 So you wouldn't have to, and I don't really want to be appreciated for that. 188 00:08:50,920 --> 00:08:54,680 Or I don't want to be thanked for that because then that really brings up everything that, 189 00:08:54,680 --> 00:09:00,760 you know, so it's like, you know, it is, it's like, but it is, you, you want to say thank 190 00:09:00,760 --> 00:09:04,680 you, but it's like, thanks for putting your life on hold. 191 00:09:04,680 --> 00:09:05,680 That's it. 192 00:09:05,680 --> 00:09:10,280 Thanks for willing to sacrifice yourself and your mind. 193 00:09:10,280 --> 00:09:14,360 You know, even parts of your body, potentially, right? 194 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:18,760 Just like you, you, you did something so I didn't have to. 195 00:09:18,760 --> 00:09:19,760 Yeah. 196 00:09:19,760 --> 00:09:22,880 And what did you say when we were leaving the property? 197 00:09:22,880 --> 00:09:28,120 Oh, I mean, I, it's, I would love to take it, take credit for it, for, for mine, but 198 00:09:28,120 --> 00:09:31,960 it's, it's not, I've seen it so many places. 199 00:09:31,960 --> 00:09:38,880 But it's, uh, veterans and soldiers and warriors and all that they don't fight because they 200 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:40,700 hate what's in front of them. 201 00:09:40,700 --> 00:09:43,560 They fight because they love what's behind them. 202 00:09:43,560 --> 00:09:44,560 Yeah. 203 00:09:44,560 --> 00:09:45,560 Yeah. 204 00:09:45,560 --> 00:09:51,220 Like, I know you said you didn't, like you didn't coin that, but that was literally the 205 00:09:51,220 --> 00:09:52,400 first time I'd ever heard it. 206 00:09:52,400 --> 00:09:56,240 And I said, in my mind, I'm thinking, even said it out loud to you. 207 00:09:56,240 --> 00:10:01,000 I was like, I think that is genuinely the absolute best way I think anybody has ever 208 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:03,880 said something of that nature to have a greater understanding. 209 00:10:03,880 --> 00:10:08,400 Cause one of the understandings that we even talked about was watching history. 210 00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:11,440 Like we're watching these videos and we're watching the things. 211 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:15,020 And then someone leaning over and saying, like, we're literally repeating history or 212 00:10:15,020 --> 00:10:20,560 we're seeing different things of history that are just constantly on a repeat. 213 00:10:20,560 --> 00:10:25,480 And uh, and then speaking to another one of your vet friends and just looking at them 214 00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:29,960 and saying, I think us as a nation, and I'm going to say nations. 215 00:10:29,960 --> 00:10:30,960 Okay. 216 00:10:30,960 --> 00:10:35,920 So cause again, other people from other countries do listen to us, but it's like, it is okay 217 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:43,960 to say, I love my country and still hate some of the stuff that happens with it or in it. 218 00:10:43,960 --> 00:10:51,360 It is, it is absolutely possible to have two different mixed emotions there and still be 219 00:10:51,360 --> 00:10:59,720 very stable and steady in the fact that I love this even though I don't like this. 220 00:10:59,720 --> 00:11:02,720 And so, um, yeah, I love that. 221 00:11:02,720 --> 00:11:03,720 I loved that. 222 00:11:03,720 --> 00:11:04,720 Yeah. 223 00:11:04,720 --> 00:11:06,440 It's like, I've heard people say, it's like, I love my country. 224 00:11:06,440 --> 00:11:07,960 I don't like my government. 225 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:08,960 That's it. 226 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:09,960 That part. 227 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:12,200 Like, I mean, we do, we say it, our house says that a lot. 228 00:11:12,200 --> 00:11:14,320 Like it's just like, we love our country. 229 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:15,600 We just, we don't like the government. 230 00:11:15,600 --> 00:11:17,560 We don't like our government. 231 00:11:17,560 --> 00:11:22,560 And it's not even as the whole, like I'm sure there's good things that are there too, but 232 00:11:22,560 --> 00:11:28,440 just under recognizing, understanding that there are flaws and that things need to get 233 00:11:28,440 --> 00:11:29,440 better. 234 00:11:29,440 --> 00:11:32,760 And it is okay for you to still stay in that space. 235 00:11:32,760 --> 00:11:37,080 So anyway, that has absolutely nothing to do with anything that we're going to be talking 236 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:42,040 about, but for the most part, for the most part, for the most part. 237 00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:43,800 So what are we going to talk about, babe? 238 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:50,120 Well, I know we are going to talk about a couple of things, um, that, uh, we did. 239 00:11:50,120 --> 00:11:54,640 I, it's like, I want to say publish, but it's, it's not like published. 240 00:11:54,640 --> 00:11:59,040 Like you can go to Amazon and get it, but we have, we have completed our booklet. 241 00:11:59,040 --> 00:12:00,040 Yes. 242 00:12:00,040 --> 00:12:03,440 Um, based on our episode one, 109. 243 00:12:03,440 --> 00:12:06,600 Good job with your, take your vitamins. 244 00:12:06,600 --> 00:12:08,800 Come on baby with your research over there. 245 00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:13,160 Well it's, it's open to the page and I have, I have a, I have a, I have a notebook full 246 00:12:13,160 --> 00:12:15,400 of all of our episode numbers and titles. 247 00:12:15,400 --> 00:12:17,800 Um, because I'm weird that way. 248 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:19,840 Um, I'm glad you do. 249 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:20,840 Thank you. 250 00:12:20,840 --> 00:12:24,880 It's one of us has got to keep us on track and you're really good at it, but it is, it's 251 00:12:24,880 --> 00:12:31,120 a, it's a booklet that you and I created and, um, like you said, based off of taking your 252 00:12:31,120 --> 00:12:36,640 vitamins, we've already had a good handful plus of people that have bought it. 253 00:12:36,640 --> 00:12:42,400 We are going to be, um, doing a couple of little tiny revisions and then we're going 254 00:12:42,400 --> 00:12:44,520 to reorder it again. 255 00:12:44,520 --> 00:12:50,120 And so it is available if you guys want to order it by all means, please contact one 256 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:52,720 of us, DM us, whatever you got to do. 257 00:12:52,720 --> 00:12:58,200 Um, if you live in the area and you know who we are, come find us or you probably have 258 00:12:58,200 --> 00:12:59,200 a phone number. 259 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:05,080 So text us, but it's one of those where, um, whether you are married, I believe that I 260 00:13:05,080 --> 00:13:10,660 put this in our, um, in, in the very front of the book, but it's whether you, whether 261 00:13:10,660 --> 00:13:17,200 you have been married for five minutes or 50 years, this is absolutely something that 262 00:13:17,200 --> 00:13:23,680 could help tweak the foundation of your marriage and just help continue. 263 00:13:23,680 --> 00:13:26,600 And if it's a good marriage, it's going to just make it better. 264 00:13:26,600 --> 00:13:31,560 If it's, if you're, you're struggling, then this is going to help make it better. 265 00:13:31,560 --> 00:13:34,600 And it's called taking your vitamins. 266 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:40,280 And um, basically we broke, broke down the acronym of vitamins and what that looks like, 267 00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:46,600 what we believe that looks like as far as in a, um, as far as a marriage is concerned. 268 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:52,760 So, um, we are also going to be starting, um, we've already started working on our devotional. 269 00:13:52,760 --> 00:13:55,360 We're going to continue moving on that. 270 00:13:55,360 --> 00:14:01,960 Um, we have, uh, named our, we're not, we're going to be very quiet about it, but we've 271 00:14:01,960 --> 00:14:08,360 named our working title, our working title as far as, um, oh, as far as the book, one 272 00:14:08,360 --> 00:14:09,360 of the books. 273 00:14:09,360 --> 00:14:10,360 Yes. 274 00:14:10,360 --> 00:14:13,840 But I was just thinking, um, we're in the process of doing the relationship coaching. 275 00:14:13,840 --> 00:14:14,840 Yes. 276 00:14:14,840 --> 00:14:15,840 We're getting that. 277 00:14:15,840 --> 00:14:16,840 I'm certified. 278 00:14:16,840 --> 00:14:17,840 Yes. 279 00:14:17,840 --> 00:14:18,840 I'm working on my certification. 280 00:14:18,840 --> 00:14:19,840 Yeah. 281 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:22,200 Um, so we're working on a website for that. 282 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:23,200 Yeah. 283 00:14:23,200 --> 00:14:28,640 Um, just getting all that lined up and, and then start figuring out how we can best help 284 00:14:28,640 --> 00:14:29,640 everybody. 285 00:14:29,640 --> 00:14:30,640 Yeah. 286 00:14:30,640 --> 00:14:34,160 Um, because you know, it's, there's days where I want to stand back and I want to look at 287 00:14:34,160 --> 00:14:37,440 people and say, would it be nice for us to make money off of this? 288 00:14:37,440 --> 00:14:38,440 It would. 289 00:14:38,440 --> 00:14:43,400 I mean, ultimately, um, in my mind, I think a workman is worthy of his hire. 290 00:14:43,400 --> 00:14:47,200 So if, if this is something that you see, oh, wow, okay. 291 00:14:47,200 --> 00:14:49,600 They, they're really trying to pour into us. 292 00:14:49,600 --> 00:14:50,600 Yeah. 293 00:14:50,600 --> 00:14:55,480 Um, and you want to either bless us or if you need help, if you, if you need a little 294 00:14:55,480 --> 00:15:02,600 bit of just, um, guidance in some stuff, you know, we would absolutely love to be available 295 00:15:02,600 --> 00:15:03,600 to people. 296 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:06,760 Um, that's not our, our end game though. 297 00:15:06,760 --> 00:15:10,160 I mean, ultimately the end game is just, you get healthy. 298 00:15:10,160 --> 00:15:14,240 If we get money off of it, that'd be fantastic if we get paid for our services. 299 00:15:14,240 --> 00:15:17,920 That would, that is, that, that is something we would like to do. 300 00:15:17,920 --> 00:15:18,920 Yeah. 301 00:15:18,920 --> 00:15:19,920 But it's, we're not trying to get rich off of it. 302 00:15:19,920 --> 00:15:20,920 We're not trying to. 303 00:15:20,920 --> 00:15:26,160 No, we want, we want, um, we want relationships to thrive and to be healthy. 304 00:15:26,160 --> 00:15:27,160 Yeah. 305 00:15:27,160 --> 00:15:32,040 I mean, if, if this could, you know, I mean, between my woodworking and relationship coaching, 306 00:15:32,040 --> 00:15:36,800 if that could be our primary full-time jobs, I wouldn't be upset. 307 00:15:36,800 --> 00:15:37,800 That would be beautiful. 308 00:15:37,800 --> 00:15:38,800 Yeah. 309 00:15:38,800 --> 00:15:41,200 Um, we just got real transparent with you guys. 310 00:15:41,200 --> 00:15:42,960 There's our hearts, you know? 311 00:15:42,960 --> 00:15:46,360 Um, but we know that God's ultimately got the last say. 312 00:15:46,360 --> 00:15:48,640 He's going to do whatever he wants to do. 313 00:15:48,640 --> 00:15:53,960 We're just doing our best to be obedient to every step that he tells us to do. 314 00:15:53,960 --> 00:16:01,240 And so where this gets to land, um, we have ideas, but ultimately, you know what? 315 00:16:01,240 --> 00:16:05,160 We can make plans all day long, but God, you're the one that makes them happen. 316 00:16:05,160 --> 00:16:07,560 So we are going to be obedient. 317 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:13,640 We're going to continue to move forward and, um, and just know that God's got, uh, good 318 00:16:13,640 --> 00:16:15,320 for us and good for y'all. 319 00:16:15,320 --> 00:16:17,320 Yeah, that's right. 320 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:18,480 Okay. 321 00:16:18,480 --> 00:16:19,480 What else? 322 00:16:19,480 --> 00:16:20,840 I think that's it. 323 00:16:20,840 --> 00:16:27,000 I mean, as far as our like projects, in addition to the other projects that we've been planning 324 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:32,320 and teasing and it's like, I do, I feel bad because I know there are some people out there 325 00:16:32,320 --> 00:16:40,400 that like they have a never ending timeline on their projects and they don't have a really 326 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:44,200 an end date and they'll like announce, you know, Hey, we we're working on this. 327 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:46,160 And five years later, we're still working on this. 328 00:16:46,160 --> 00:16:48,480 And it's like, can you make the progress? 329 00:16:48,480 --> 00:16:53,600 I think like, I know, like, I know one of the things is like one day we're going to 330 00:16:53,600 --> 00:16:55,560 get cameras in the studio. 331 00:16:55,560 --> 00:16:56,560 Yes. 332 00:16:56,560 --> 00:16:57,560 Yes. 333 00:16:57,560 --> 00:17:01,320 It's like, I almost want to sit here and say January 1st. 334 00:17:01,320 --> 00:17:02,320 Let's do it. 335 00:17:02,320 --> 00:17:03,320 Let's just say it. 336 00:17:03,320 --> 00:17:06,600 January of 2025, we will have cameras in the studio. 337 00:17:06,600 --> 00:17:08,040 Let's, let's just say that. 338 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:09,040 Yeah. 339 00:17:09,040 --> 00:17:10,040 Let's just say that. 340 00:17:10,040 --> 00:17:12,760 It's like, part of me gets nervous that I'm going to have to figure out like really cool 341 00:17:12,760 --> 00:17:13,760 backdrops. 342 00:17:13,760 --> 00:17:20,800 So it's not like, look at all the Luke Star Wars collectibles. 343 00:17:20,800 --> 00:17:22,720 But trust us when we talk about relationships. 344 00:17:22,720 --> 00:17:24,560 I think it'd be fine though. 345 00:17:24,560 --> 00:17:26,720 No, I think it's fine because it is. 346 00:17:26,720 --> 00:17:27,720 It's nice in here. 347 00:17:27,720 --> 00:17:28,960 It feels good in here. 348 00:17:28,960 --> 00:17:32,120 Every time we have it, a guest or even my friends, right? 349 00:17:32,120 --> 00:17:36,800 My, my girlies with our podcast, everybody is incredibly comfortable. 350 00:17:36,800 --> 00:17:37,880 It's a good space to be in. 351 00:17:37,880 --> 00:17:38,880 Yeah. 352 00:17:38,880 --> 00:17:43,280 No, it's a good space to be in, but I think January is a good, that's solid. 353 00:17:43,280 --> 00:17:44,440 That's absolutely solid. 354 00:17:44,440 --> 00:17:46,840 We could, we could absolutely do that. 355 00:17:46,840 --> 00:17:52,920 Our goal is also to kick out another book before the, before the end of December. 356 00:17:52,920 --> 00:18:00,680 I would love to try to shoot 25 of like, of like in a month. 357 00:18:00,680 --> 00:18:03,200 Oh, that's my goal. 358 00:18:03,200 --> 00:18:04,200 Okay. 359 00:18:04,200 --> 00:18:07,040 I've, I've already, I mean, that's my goal. 360 00:18:07,040 --> 00:18:08,040 Yeah. 361 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:09,040 Yeah. 362 00:18:09,040 --> 00:18:10,640 I mean, that's my goal. 363 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:11,640 Okay. 364 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:14,200 That's that, that's literally what I heard in my head and that's what I'm going to go 365 00:18:14,200 --> 00:18:15,200 with. 366 00:18:15,200 --> 00:18:16,200 All right. 367 00:18:16,200 --> 00:18:17,200 Cool. 368 00:18:17,200 --> 00:18:18,200 You already know is what we're going to do. 369 00:18:18,200 --> 00:18:22,920 It is, it's, it's, it's knowing that things are moving in the right direction that we're 370 00:18:22,920 --> 00:18:28,840 going to, I think, I think another book and whether it's a booklet or a book, but it's 371 00:18:28,840 --> 00:18:30,760 going to be something. 372 00:18:30,760 --> 00:18:34,200 And then, and then the video cameras come January. 373 00:18:34,200 --> 00:18:35,200 Yes. 374 00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:36,600 I think that all sounds good to me. 375 00:18:36,600 --> 00:18:37,600 Yeah. 376 00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:38,600 That sounds really good. 377 00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:39,600 Yes. 378 00:18:39,600 --> 00:18:40,600 Okay. 379 00:18:40,600 --> 00:18:42,400 I know I kind of came to you with a quick idea. 380 00:18:42,400 --> 00:18:43,400 Yes. 381 00:18:43,400 --> 00:18:44,400 How long have we been talking? 382 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:45,400 Almost 20 minutes. 383 00:18:45,400 --> 00:18:46,400 Okay. 384 00:18:46,400 --> 00:18:49,360 I think that's going to be very, very long, I don't think. 385 00:18:49,360 --> 00:18:53,600 So we had some amazing friends that we had lunch with the other day. 386 00:18:53,600 --> 00:18:54,600 Yes. 387 00:18:54,600 --> 00:19:01,720 And she and her husband are newlyweds, like very fresh. 388 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:07,320 And when she's been talking to us, like he is a lifelong, well, I say lifelong friend. 389 00:19:07,320 --> 00:19:09,140 He's a really good friend. 390 00:19:09,140 --> 00:19:13,560 He's a good friend of yours that's been there for quite some time. 391 00:19:13,560 --> 00:19:21,440 And then, and then it's like, she's, we don't know much about her at all, but she's incredibly 392 00:19:21,440 --> 00:19:22,440 precious. 393 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:25,360 So we're sitting here having a conversation. 394 00:19:25,360 --> 00:19:30,320 She says, there's something different about you guys. 395 00:19:30,320 --> 00:19:31,480 Yes. 396 00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:33,840 And I was like, okay, like, what do you mean? 397 00:19:33,840 --> 00:19:39,840 And she says, now I've been around a lot of married couples, but something about you guys, 398 00:19:39,840 --> 00:19:43,340 like, and she goes, and I think what it is, is this. 399 00:19:43,340 --> 00:19:47,800 She goes, when I'm around married couples, and even if they seem very happy or seem fairly 400 00:19:47,800 --> 00:19:56,640 happy, there always seems to be this underlying feeling of resentment. 401 00:19:56,640 --> 00:20:01,880 Something is seated inside of them that there's like this, this thing of resentment that's 402 00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:03,480 on them. 403 00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:06,080 I don't feel that with you guys. 404 00:20:06,080 --> 00:20:12,620 And so when she had said that to me, I immediately like almost went through a Rolodex in my head 405 00:20:12,620 --> 00:20:17,280 of all the different couples that we know and the people that we've encountered. 406 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:24,440 And I remember distinctly a friend of ours from church talking to me. 407 00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:29,120 And I said, can you tell me kind of like, what is, what is one of the number one things 408 00:20:29,120 --> 00:20:33,840 that you see people whenever they come to talk to you women, the wives, what is the 409 00:20:33,840 --> 00:20:36,120 number one thing that you see? 410 00:20:36,120 --> 00:20:43,840 And she says, they come to me angry at their husbands because they did not keep them safe 411 00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:46,200 before they got married. 412 00:20:46,200 --> 00:20:54,760 And I was thinking, we were intentional. 413 00:20:54,760 --> 00:20:56,600 Like a lot of people know our story. 414 00:20:56,600 --> 00:20:58,520 They know how we were very intentional. 415 00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:02,120 And I told her, I said, that's one of the number one reasons why we did the things that 416 00:21:02,120 --> 00:21:03,800 we did the way we did it. 417 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:05,840 Why we didn't sleep together. 418 00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:07,160 We didn't do the things we did. 419 00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:12,560 We kept ourselves very upright and all of this stuff. 420 00:21:12,560 --> 00:21:18,880 And it was because we needed to know that the other one was safe with not just our hearts, 421 00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:22,240 but with our bodies, with our minds, with our thoughts. 422 00:21:22,240 --> 00:21:32,440 And so in my mind, I'm thinking there's going to be some listeners that are going to be, 423 00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:34,560 I know that you and I talked about the ripple effects. 424 00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:37,920 We talked about the ripples and the things like that. 425 00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:43,920 And in my mind, I'm thinking, my prayer is this, and like I said, this might be very, 426 00:21:43,920 --> 00:21:51,640 very quick, but my prayer is this, that if you guys see that there might be something 427 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:57,760 that you keep hitting, or if you are teasing with each other and you tease in a way to 428 00:21:57,760 --> 00:22:04,120 where it kind of like, almost like you're gut shooting each other, like gut punches 429 00:22:04,120 --> 00:22:12,840 or you're just kind of poking at each other and not really like backhanded compliments 430 00:22:12,840 --> 00:22:15,440 almost, too. 431 00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:20,200 If you find that you're doing this with your spouse, if you find that you're doing this, 432 00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:22,080 even maybe with some family members, right? 433 00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:25,560 Just like, again, we're rolling into the holidays, the things are happening. 434 00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:27,440 We're about to encounter people. 435 00:22:27,440 --> 00:22:32,840 If you see that these kinds of patterns are starting to happen with those that you are 436 00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:39,200 around, specifically your spouse, but like other people, then I would encourage you to 437 00:22:39,200 --> 00:22:44,800 maybe try to figure out maybe where the deep seated, and it can't, it doesn't always have 438 00:22:44,800 --> 00:22:53,400 to be resentment itself, but just the deep seated, there's something that's there that 439 00:22:53,400 --> 00:23:02,560 somebody, disappointments or anger or it is resentment, but it's just maybe start, 440 00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:08,520 maybe walk into the holidays, but then into the new year with a mindset that I'm going 441 00:23:08,520 --> 00:23:14,480 to be completely honest and transparent, because again, the people that listen to us, most 442 00:23:14,480 --> 00:23:21,800 of them are married and I want them to not go, well, you know, well, Dina, Luke, we didn't 443 00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:22,800 do it like that. 444 00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:25,400 We didn't like this and it's kind of too late for us. 445 00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:27,120 It's never too late. 446 00:23:27,120 --> 00:23:32,280 One thing we've always said is it's never too late, but my prayer is that your communication 447 00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:38,120 opens up and that you start getting really real in the conversations that, and the feelings 448 00:23:38,120 --> 00:23:39,120 that you're having. 449 00:23:39,120 --> 00:23:43,720 Well, why do you, why do I always feel like you're slamming me? 450 00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:47,920 Why do I always feel like you're whatever in this space? 451 00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:55,360 And then, and then ask God to really help you heal that space, bring it to light. 452 00:23:55,360 --> 00:23:59,240 Man, this was like, however long ago you still keep, no, no, no, no, no, no. 453 00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:05,760 Like you can still heal that so that way there isn't an undertone. 454 00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:10,520 That way you know for better or for worse through all of the things that you are absolutely 455 00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:16,240 on the same page and you're going to be making it all the way till death do you part. 456 00:24:16,240 --> 00:24:17,240 Yeah. 457 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:18,240 Yeah. 458 00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:21,920 Cause that, that is, that's the important part because it is, you know, I think it's 459 00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:27,880 especially I've, I've seen it especially where, you know, people maybe got married before 460 00:24:27,880 --> 00:24:34,080 they were Christians or before they got really a hundred percent committed in their faith. 461 00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:37,880 You know, it's like, you know, and they got married and they thought they were doing the 462 00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:38,880 right thing. 463 00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:39,920 They thought they were doing okay. 464 00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:45,320 And then it's like, as they dig deeper in their relationships, as they get further in 465 00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:50,640 their walk with God and it's like, well, this doesn't, this didn't line up or this doesn't, 466 00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:55,760 you know, it's, you know, a lot of questions, a lot of, you know, what's going on. 467 00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:58,880 And you know, in the past we've talked about, you know, the fingerprints and stuff like 468 00:24:58,880 --> 00:24:59,880 that. 469 00:24:59,880 --> 00:25:06,640 And I think it's, it is, it's one of those things that, you know, the, you know, especially 470 00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:12,640 if you weren't as committed to following Christ when you get married or when you were dating 471 00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:20,580 and it is, it's the whole, it is, it's, I don't want to say regret and I don't want 472 00:25:20,580 --> 00:25:25,720 to say those kinds of things, but it is, it's, it's, it's almost the, it's almost 473 00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:26,720 like the woulda, coulda, shoulda's. 474 00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:27,720 Yes. 475 00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:28,720 Yes. 476 00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:31,680 It's the man, we should have done it so much better, man, we could have done this a different 477 00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:36,320 way, you know, Oh, if we, if we had done it that way, would we be in a better spot today? 478 00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:39,160 You know, and it's, it's those kinds of questions. 479 00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:45,280 You know, it's, it's so like in my mind, a lot of it's not so much the questions of regret 480 00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:51,780 or doubt, you know, or, or the resentment, but it is, it's the, it's, it's, it's those 481 00:25:51,780 --> 00:25:55,700 questions of the woulda, coulda, shouldas, you know, but it's, but it's even sometimes 482 00:25:55,700 --> 00:26:03,000 with us, you know, well, if, if, if we had done, you know, if we had met each other and 483 00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:07,880 done it right before we met our exes, you know, would this have been, would this have 484 00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:11,000 been so much better, you know, would we be so much better people? 485 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:12,000 Yeah. 486 00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:17,360 You know, and it's, it's those kinds of questions that it's, it's, it's that thinking, it's 487 00:26:17,360 --> 00:26:19,040 that attitude. 488 00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:24,280 I think that we really want to talk against today, you know, and, and it's, because it 489 00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:25,280 can get you in a trap. 490 00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:26,280 It can get you in a trap. 491 00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:27,280 Yeah. 492 00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:33,160 And it's, it's not necessarily a bad thing to, to sit there and say, you know, oh, I 493 00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:38,000 wonder if it would have been different, but it's, it's when you, when you sit in that, 494 00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:44,720 you know, it's, it's when you dwell on that, it's when you, when, when that kind of thinking, 495 00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:49,500 when that kind of attitude, when those kinds of questions are all of a sudden consuming 496 00:26:49,500 --> 00:26:57,520 you or maybe not consuming you, but they're interfering enough where it's changing your 497 00:26:57,520 --> 00:26:59,960 heart or it's changing your mind. 498 00:26:59,960 --> 00:27:00,960 Yeah. 499 00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:03,680 You know, because again, I mean, we could sit there and say, oh man, you know, if I 500 00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:07,960 had, if I had taken this job instead of that job, you know, if I had been working over 501 00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:12,160 there now, instead of working here, you know, oh, our, our finances would be so much better. 502 00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:13,160 Right. 503 00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:14,160 And it's like, would they? 504 00:27:14,160 --> 00:27:15,160 Right. 505 00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:16,160 I mean, you don't know. 506 00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:20,400 I mean, would your finances be better, but would your mental health be trash? 507 00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:21,400 Come on, babe. 508 00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:25,680 You know, and so it's, you know, so it is, it's, it's those kinds of things. 509 00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:31,840 It's, it's, we can, we play the what if game, we play the what a shoulda, coulda game. 510 00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:39,520 And we always think of it would have turned out so much rosier, prettier, fancier, wealthier, 511 00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:40,520 more prosperous. 512 00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:45,040 You know, we don't, we don't think, you know, when we, when we do these daydreams or we 513 00:27:45,040 --> 00:27:49,640 get wrapped up into this spiral of thinking, we don't think of the, well, our lives could 514 00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:52,360 end up in trash, you know? 515 00:27:52,360 --> 00:28:00,760 And I think that is, that's, that's, that is, that's almost the trap of this, of think 516 00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:04,240 about it, but don't get wrapped up. 517 00:28:04,240 --> 00:28:05,240 Don't sit in it. 518 00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:06,240 Yeah. 519 00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:09,720 You can think about it and say, okay, well, what's the solution? 520 00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:10,720 That part. 521 00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:11,720 Yes. 522 00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:12,720 That part. 523 00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:13,720 That part. 524 00:28:13,720 --> 00:28:19,920 And I think that that's one of the number one things, the takeaway, the, because again, 525 00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:23,720 we have words and we have sayings all over our house, all over our house. 526 00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:29,440 And one that is right next to our bedroom is it's, it's not always necessarily what 527 00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:32,720 happened to you, but how you respond in the midst of it. 528 00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:33,720 Right. 529 00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:37,360 And it's like, okay, so this, this happened to you. 530 00:28:37,360 --> 00:28:38,360 Okay. 531 00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:41,440 So you, maybe you had sex before marriage. 532 00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:45,200 Maybe there was infidelity that came somewhere along the way. 533 00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:48,520 Maybe, maybe you were living together before you got engaged. 534 00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:50,320 Maybe you lived together before you got engaged. 535 00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:51,320 Right. 536 00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:52,320 All of, all of the things, right. 537 00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:53,320 All of the things. 538 00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:57,520 And it's one of those, you stand back and you go, but if, who could we have been or 539 00:28:57,520 --> 00:28:58,520 what could we have done? 540 00:28:58,520 --> 00:28:59,760 It doesn't matter. 541 00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:01,480 The fact is that it's done. 542 00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:05,880 And this is where you stand back and you say, okay, so what do we do now? 543 00:29:05,880 --> 00:29:07,600 What do we do now? 544 00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:08,600 Okay. 545 00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:12,040 So if we, if you have done something that you know is against the word of God, then 546 00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:14,680 okay, father, we repent. 547 00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:17,520 And I thank you that you're going to restore what the enemy has stolen from us. 548 00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:22,680 I thank you that you're going to bring back beauty from, from ashes. 549 00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:27,840 I thank you that we're going to learn from this, that we get to, we get to gravitate 550 00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:31,640 and go higher as opposed to saying, well, you know, we're never going to be able to 551 00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:34,160 be part of something because we've messed up. 552 00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:36,160 No, it says who says who? 553 00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:42,120 Because we have a redeeming grace, we have a good God that, that says, Hey, like just, 554 00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:44,920 like just cross, you know, what is it? 555 00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:46,400 The cross correct or whatever. 556 00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:47,400 Am I course correct? 557 00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:48,400 Thank you, babe. 558 00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:49,400 The course correct. 559 00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:50,400 Just, just course correct. 560 00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:53,400 You're, you're going to be okay because here's the deal. 561 00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:55,600 You're now, you now have a muscle. 562 00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:57,280 You now know better. 563 00:29:57,280 --> 00:30:02,640 You now have a situation and you, you can say, no, like you, no, like you don't want 564 00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:03,640 to do it like this. 565 00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:04,640 I promise. 566 00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:05,640 Tell me what, ask me how. 567 00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:06,640 Ask me how I know. 568 00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:07,640 Right. 569 00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:18,040 And it, it, what it does is it keeps the enemy from coming in and literally stealing any 570 00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:24,040 forward progress, any kind of joy that you might be trying to, you know, walk through 571 00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:28,240 any kind of, um, I'm not, I'm not this person anymore. 572 00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:29,960 I want to, I want to do better. 573 00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:31,240 I want to be better. 574 00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:32,840 I want to strive higher. 575 00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:41,320 I know I can because a lot of times you and I have said it over the years when, if it 576 00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:46,120 wasn't for the grace of God, and if it wasn't for us identifying and understanding that 577 00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:52,760 we are more of who God has created us to be as opposed to the past that we came out of, 578 00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:58,920 if, if we, if we did not have people supporting us and if we just didn't have God supporting 579 00:30:58,920 --> 00:31:03,200 us in the midst of it, then we would be throwing our hands up in the air going, what's the 580 00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:05,080 use and just continue. 581 00:31:05,080 --> 00:31:06,080 Yeah. 582 00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:07,240 And nothing's going to change. 583 00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:11,080 So I might as well just keep going down this path. 584 00:31:11,080 --> 00:31:16,440 And it's like, no, eventually you have to say, this isn't who we are. 585 00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:22,800 We, we, we, we get to, we, we get to forgive each other. 586 00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:25,040 We get to ask for forgiveness. 587 00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:29,240 We get to make right what's been wrong. 588 00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:36,200 And then, and then we get to pursue that path together so we can become stronger. 589 00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:37,200 Yeah. 590 00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:39,920 So, so, so we can become stronger. 591 00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:40,920 Yeah. 592 00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:41,920 Yeah. 593 00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:44,120 That's where it is. 594 00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:53,360 And so it's like, we're all going to hit stuff in the middle of our marriages. 595 00:31:53,360 --> 00:31:55,600 Like stuff's going to happen, right? 596 00:31:55,600 --> 00:32:00,480 Whether, okay, yes, you and I started this amazing story. 597 00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:07,760 Like our marriages is, we've got a very, very solid foundation, but we've been hit hard 598 00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:13,920 over the years, over almost 13 years, different things have tried to come alongside and, and 599 00:32:13,920 --> 00:32:16,680 chip away or hurt that foundation. 600 00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:17,680 What do you do? 601 00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:20,920 You go right back to, okay, I choose you. 602 00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:21,920 Yeah. 603 00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:24,880 I choose you and I'm going to continue to choose you and I'm not changing my mind in 604 00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:25,880 choosing you. 605 00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:26,880 Yeah. 606 00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:30,440 And we're going to get through this together and it's going to be okay. 607 00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:35,680 And we're going to have a greater understanding and we're going to love each other. 608 00:32:35,680 --> 00:32:39,480 And we're going to be honest and we're going to be raw and we're going to be real. 609 00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:40,480 Yeah. 610 00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:44,880 But ultimately, we're going to, at the end of the day, choose each other. 611 00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:45,880 Yeah. 612 00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:49,960 Because that's who we're supposed to be and that's what we get to do. 613 00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:56,600 Cause at the end of the day, it is, I joke about it. 614 00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,760 It's talk about it, pray about it, date about it. 615 00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:07,000 And if we embrace those three things, if we talk about, hey, I'm feeling this way. 616 00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:10,600 Hey, this question came up into my head. 617 00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:15,520 A, it brings it out into the light. 618 00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:22,200 And we admit this is how I'm feeling, this is what I'm thinking. 619 00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:24,760 Or when you said it, this is how I interpreted it. 620 00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:27,920 And it's like, oh no, it's not at all. 621 00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:33,440 But it's A, talk about it, you bring it out into the light and it takes away its power, 622 00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:34,640 so to speak. 623 00:33:34,640 --> 00:33:39,880 And B, pray about it because God can fix, God can rearrange. 624 00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:44,240 God can give us the wisdom of, oh, maybe I should be taking this step instead of that 625 00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:45,240 step. 626 00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:51,360 So, and then date about it, reconnect and remember why you are you. 627 00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:52,640 Remember why you're married. 628 00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:54,120 Remember why you're together. 629 00:33:54,120 --> 00:34:00,040 Remember why this person makes you smile that way that nobody else can get you to smile, 630 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:02,240 that special spark. 631 00:34:02,240 --> 00:34:04,600 And that's what it is. 632 00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:05,960 Embrace those three things. 633 00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:10,000 Embrace those concepts and it can. 634 00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:14,360 It can. 635 00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:16,120 At the end of the day, you want to be married. 636 00:34:16,120 --> 00:34:17,120 Yes. 637 00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:20,760 Hopefully, I pray. 638 00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:29,120 So again, taking those steps ensures and guarantees that you stay married in good terms. 639 00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:30,120 Yes. 640 00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:31,120 Yes. 641 00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:32,760 Or on good terms, not in good terms. 642 00:34:32,760 --> 00:34:36,160 But yeah, so that's what it is. 643 00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:42,640 And again, we're not saying that these kind of thoughts and these kind of questions don't 644 00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:45,040 pop up in marriages because they do. 645 00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:46,040 We're human. 646 00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:47,040 Yes. 647 00:34:47,040 --> 00:34:48,040 There's an enemy. 648 00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:49,040 It happens. 649 00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:50,040 Yes. 650 00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:55,080 But again, it's the, what do we do with it? 651 00:34:55,080 --> 00:35:01,400 You know, again, I know you're a lot of times with our children, you say, our feelings, 652 00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:04,240 our emotions, God gave us our feelings and emotions. 653 00:35:04,240 --> 00:35:05,400 It's what do we do with it? 654 00:35:05,400 --> 00:35:07,040 That's it. 655 00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:12,000 You can be really mad and angry about something, but what do you do with that anger? 656 00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:13,000 That's it. 657 00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:14,520 At the end of the day, that's what matters. 658 00:35:14,520 --> 00:35:15,520 Yes. 659 00:35:15,520 --> 00:35:19,400 You know, even joy, you know, joy. 660 00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:20,400 What do you do with that joy? 661 00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:21,400 Yeah. 662 00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:26,500 You know, I mean, we, I've, I've seen the joke, totally unrelated, but I've seen the 663 00:35:26,500 --> 00:35:32,160 joke of, you know, people that get so excited that their sports team wins a major championship 664 00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:34,560 that they riot and they destroy things in their own city. 665 00:35:34,560 --> 00:35:40,160 It's like, how does, how does, how does happiness turn into burning and flipping cars? 666 00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:42,160 It's so weird. 667 00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:43,160 It's so weird. 668 00:35:43,160 --> 00:35:45,160 It's like, uh, hold on. 669 00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:46,160 No, no. 670 00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:47,160 Yay. 671 00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:48,160 I'm so excited. 672 00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:49,160 I'm going to burn my house down. 673 00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:50,160 Woo. 674 00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:51,160 It's so dumb. 675 00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:52,160 I don't get it. 676 00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:53,160 What? 677 00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:54,160 Yeah, I don't understand. 678 00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:55,160 Okay. 679 00:35:55,160 --> 00:35:56,160 So weird. 680 00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:57,160 So weird. 681 00:35:57,160 --> 00:35:58,760 But it is, it's like, be productive with it. 682 00:35:58,760 --> 00:35:59,760 Yeah. 683 00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:02,040 Make it, make it something, make it work for you. 684 00:36:02,040 --> 00:36:03,040 Be productive. 685 00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:04,960 If you're going to be mad, okay. 686 00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:06,200 Like I'm pretty certain. 687 00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:09,960 Like I've looked at you at times and been like, if you're going to be mad, like, like 688 00:36:09,960 --> 00:36:11,520 be mad at the enemy. 689 00:36:11,520 --> 00:36:13,320 Let's be productive about this. 690 00:36:13,320 --> 00:36:16,360 If you're going to be mad, then fight for your marriage. 691 00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:18,280 Don't fight with your spouse. 692 00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:20,520 Fight for your marriage. 693 00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:21,520 Use the fuel. 694 00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:22,520 You're ticked. 695 00:36:22,520 --> 00:36:23,520 You're sad. 696 00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:24,520 Then y'all you're crying. 697 00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:25,520 You're crying. 698 00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:26,520 Okay. 699 00:36:26,520 --> 00:36:35,320 If you're going to cry and get upset, then cry out out of a desperate as out of a desperation 700 00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:42,080 out of a praying as opposed to, you know, crying and whining and God forbid, please 701 00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:45,120 do not go running to somebody else and all the things. 702 00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:46,120 Right. 703 00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:47,120 Like be- 704 00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:49,160 Unless you're going to run to a pastor for advice and counsel. 705 00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:50,160 Come on. 706 00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:51,720 But you hear it, like that part. 707 00:36:51,720 --> 00:36:56,120 But outside of somebody like, oh my gosh, he's just such a horrible human being, you 708 00:36:56,120 --> 00:37:00,740 know, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop. 709 00:37:00,740 --> 00:37:01,740 Take that time. 710 00:37:01,740 --> 00:37:02,740 Just breathe. 711 00:37:02,740 --> 00:37:03,740 Just take a deep breath. 712 00:37:03,740 --> 00:37:04,740 Breathe. 713 00:37:04,740 --> 00:37:08,280 You know, and then be like, man, like this isn't okay. 714 00:37:08,280 --> 00:37:09,280 Okay. 715 00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:10,280 But not, yeah, you're right. 716 00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:11,280 It's not okay. 717 00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:12,280 So what are you going to do with it? 718 00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:13,280 Yeah. 719 00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:14,960 What are you going to do with it? 720 00:37:14,960 --> 00:37:19,120 Did you, did you say for better or for worse or was it just for the better? 721 00:37:19,120 --> 00:37:20,120 Yeah. 722 00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:21,120 Richer or for poor? 723 00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:22,480 Oh, just when you have money. 724 00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:23,480 Right. 725 00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:24,800 Come on now. 726 00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:33,440 Like I, how suck of a marriage to be in if babe, if you only wanted to be married to 727 00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:37,280 me when things were good, that, how suck of that? 728 00:37:37,280 --> 00:37:38,960 Like that's not okay. 729 00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:42,480 So you don't want that done to you. 730 00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:44,480 Don't do that to your spouse. 731 00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:45,480 Right. 732 00:37:45,480 --> 00:37:47,240 Be somebody that's in the game that's in it. 733 00:37:47,240 --> 00:37:48,240 I'm in it to win it. 734 00:37:48,240 --> 00:37:49,240 We're going to do this. 735 00:37:49,240 --> 00:37:53,160 We're going to get to the other side and it's going to be even better than when it was before. 736 00:37:53,160 --> 00:37:57,520 But, but whatever it is, if there are some speed bumps, if there are things and it does 737 00:37:57,520 --> 00:38:03,200 every so often, I'm like, I feel like we repeat ourselves a lot, but it's okay because I, 738 00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:07,960 but these are the things that we genuinely, it seems like on a weekly basis seem to be 739 00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:08,960 hitting. 740 00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:13,320 It's like someone comes to us on the, like on a constant and it seems like it's the same 741 00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:14,320 four things. 742 00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:15,320 Yeah. 743 00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:18,040 And it's like, okay, okay, okay. 744 00:38:18,040 --> 00:38:21,720 If we can master this, okay, maybe let's try to go out at a different angle. 745 00:38:21,720 --> 00:38:22,720 Okay. 746 00:38:22,720 --> 00:38:27,000 If we could, it's, it's fight. 747 00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:32,320 Or again, you know, I mean, I, I joked that we're boring because we keep saying the same 748 00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:34,800 thing, but on the bright side, we're consistent. 749 00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:35,800 We are consistent. 750 00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:42,000 You know, it's, you know, it is, it's, it's that, you know, we are the same people that 751 00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:47,880 talk on this podcast versus go out to a meal and talk with friends or hang out around a 752 00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:54,640 fire pit and talk with friends or, you know, wherever, you know, at church, it's not like, 753 00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:58,160 well, you know, the person you portray on your podcast is not the person that I see 754 00:38:58,160 --> 00:38:59,160 at church. 755 00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:02,520 Well, yeah, that's cause I doctor myself up when I'm on my podcast. 756 00:39:02,520 --> 00:39:03,520 So I sound better. 757 00:39:03,520 --> 00:39:04,520 Yeah. 758 00:39:04,520 --> 00:39:06,680 And it's like, no, it's, this is, this is who I am. 759 00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:08,880 Is it, you know, this is it. 760 00:39:08,880 --> 00:39:12,880 What you see is one of those things that I'm going to have to work on it because sometimes 761 00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:18,040 I look grumpy. 762 00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:21,320 Mostly thinking for the pod, for, for video, for cameras. 763 00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:22,320 Oh dear. 764 00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:23,320 Yeah. 765 00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:25,440 Sometimes I look grumpy. 766 00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:26,440 That's okay. 767 00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:27,440 That's okay. 768 00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:29,640 It works when I'm at church and on security. 769 00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:31,160 Hey, you look grumpy. 770 00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:32,160 Yes. 771 00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:33,160 Cause I want to look scary. 772 00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:35,160 I want to look like security person. 773 00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:38,840 Hey Paul, I want to look unapproachable. 774 00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:40,840 Why do you keep coming up and saying hi to me? 775 00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:41,840 Oh, hey, how's it going? 776 00:39:41,840 --> 00:39:42,840 Oh, thanks. 777 00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:46,920 I want to look unapproachable and be on security so I can protect people. 778 00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:50,920 Here you are. 779 00:39:50,920 --> 00:39:51,920 Side note. 780 00:39:51,920 --> 00:40:00,240 So a coworker who loves to give me a hard time and wants me to look scary, he said kind 781 00:40:00,240 --> 00:40:01,760 of what you say to me. 782 00:40:01,760 --> 00:40:06,480 He's like, Luke, I want you to follow me around, but you're not allowed to talk. 783 00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:08,040 You just, you just, just stand there. 784 00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:10,280 Just stand there and look like you do. 785 00:40:10,280 --> 00:40:11,280 Don't talk. 786 00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:13,560 He's like, cause as soon as you talk, it's over. 787 00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:14,560 It's over. 788 00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:15,560 It's over. 789 00:40:15,560 --> 00:40:17,800 You smile and it's like, it's over. 790 00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:18,800 It is. 791 00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:21,840 You, you are so, you're, you are incredibly kind. 792 00:40:21,840 --> 00:40:24,600 You're a good human being, babe. 793 00:40:24,600 --> 00:40:25,600 Thank you. 794 00:40:25,600 --> 00:40:26,600 You really are. 795 00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:33,920 So this week, you know, let's see the elections are over this week. 796 00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:38,680 The all the stuff, the veteran's day is now over. 797 00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:41,080 Brain core celebrated their birthday. 798 00:40:41,080 --> 00:40:42,080 All of the things. 799 00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:43,080 Okay. 800 00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:47,920 All of the things like life can already be hard. 801 00:40:47,920 --> 00:40:49,000 Life is lifing. 802 00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:50,000 Things are happening. 803 00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:55,120 You know, be, just be a good person and start with your spouse. 804 00:40:55,120 --> 00:40:56,180 Start with your spouse. 805 00:40:56,180 --> 00:41:01,680 If, if things are rough at work, if things are heavy, like in our world, we already told 806 00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:05,680 you guys how in our world, just things were rough for a second. 807 00:41:05,680 --> 00:41:09,280 Just figure out what is causing the roughness. 808 00:41:09,280 --> 00:41:10,280 Okay. 809 00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:12,960 Oh, it's this, this job. 810 00:41:12,960 --> 00:41:15,760 It's this, you know, it's these people, it's this thing. 811 00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:17,200 It's that stuff. 812 00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:25,000 It's like, and just name it, find what the source is, get at it. 813 00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:30,880 And then remind yourself that you've got somebody that's on your side. 814 00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:36,320 Remind your spouse this week, today, tomorrow, next day, you're on their side. 815 00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:40,840 And even if things look a little hard, if finances are a little tight, if, if the kids 816 00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:46,920 are going a little cray cray, whatever it is, just remind your spouse, listen, I got 817 00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:47,920 you. 818 00:41:47,920 --> 00:41:48,920 We're here. 819 00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:49,920 We're doing this together. 820 00:41:49,920 --> 00:41:52,400 I don't know how it's going to go. 821 00:41:52,400 --> 00:41:53,400 It's like, what is it? 822 00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:54,400 We're going to hurt a lot of people. 823 00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:55,400 Whatever they say. 824 00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:56,400 You can't ask me any questions. 825 00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:57,400 I'm just kidding. 826 00:41:57,400 --> 00:42:02,000 But that's, it kind of feels that way. 827 00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:06,440 It's just like, just know that I have got your best interest at heart. 828 00:42:06,440 --> 00:42:10,960 Because the enemy in the world is doing its best to trip us up and distract us. 829 00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:14,360 So why should we help? 830 00:42:14,360 --> 00:42:19,040 So with that, we're going to end. 831 00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:20,040 Period. 832 00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:21,040 Yeah. 833 00:42:21,040 --> 00:42:22,040 All right, guys. 834 00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:23,240 Have the best week. 835 00:42:23,240 --> 00:42:46,240 Enjoy the journey.