1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:13,200 Hello and welcome back to another episode of Upfront and Undivided with Luke and Dean'na. 2 00:00:13,200 --> 00:00:14,200 Hi. 3 00:00:14,200 --> 00:00:15,200 Hi babe. 4 00:00:15,200 --> 00:00:16,200 How's it going? 5 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:17,200 It's good. 6 00:00:17,200 --> 00:00:18,200 How are you? 7 00:00:18,200 --> 00:00:19,200 That's good. 8 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:20,200 It's been a good day. 9 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:21,200 It has. 10 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:22,200 It's been a full, it feels like it's been a full day, but it hasn't been a full day, 11 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:23,200 but it's- 12 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:24,200 Yes. 13 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:26,800 I think it's because it's been a full weekend. 14 00:00:26,800 --> 00:00:27,800 Yes. 15 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:29,800 It felt like a full weekend. 16 00:00:29,800 --> 00:00:30,800 Yes. 17 00:00:30,800 --> 00:00:33,800 All of a sudden I was like, what did we do? 18 00:00:33,800 --> 00:00:34,800 Yeah. 19 00:00:34,800 --> 00:00:35,800 Yeah. 20 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:36,800 Yeah. 21 00:00:36,800 --> 00:00:39,800 It has, it, hi guys. 22 00:00:39,800 --> 00:00:45,400 First of all, thank you to all of our listeners that are still listening to us. 23 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:46,400 We appreciate you guys. 24 00:00:46,400 --> 00:00:47,400 Very much so. 25 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:54,960 We have taken a quick siesta, not a siesta, not even a siesta, just a quick, a little 26 00:00:54,960 --> 00:00:55,960 bit of a break. 27 00:00:55,960 --> 00:00:56,960 Yeah. 28 00:00:56,960 --> 00:01:01,960 And if anybody follows any of our other podcasts, they know that life has been lifing. 29 00:01:01,960 --> 00:01:02,960 Yeah. 30 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:11,560 And on our last podcast, did we talk about where we took off to or what we did that we 31 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:14,760 took off to go bury a family member? 32 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:17,040 Oh, I got to be honest. 33 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:18,040 I don't remember. 34 00:01:18,040 --> 00:01:19,040 I don't either. 35 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:21,240 We should probably have checked on that. 36 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:22,240 Probably. 37 00:01:22,240 --> 00:01:23,240 Yeah. 38 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:24,240 It's okay. 39 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:29,600 I'll just recap, recap, because it's been a couple of weeks since we've been on here. 40 00:01:29,600 --> 00:01:37,880 And in those couple of weeks, we have buried a family member. 41 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:38,880 Yeah. 42 00:01:38,880 --> 00:01:39,880 Your sister. 43 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:41,720 My sister, my stepsister, but my sister. 44 00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:51,320 And then we, let's see, we have our rough draft of our first book. 45 00:01:51,320 --> 00:01:52,320 Yep. 46 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:58,040 So we're, we're in the process of getting that tightened up and finished. 47 00:01:58,040 --> 00:01:59,040 Yep. 48 00:01:59,040 --> 00:02:00,800 Let's see. 49 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:10,040 We finished up baseball season, celebrated a friend's wedding. 50 00:02:10,040 --> 00:02:11,920 And then a friend's anniversary. 51 00:02:11,920 --> 00:02:15,960 And then some friends and a 25th wedding anniversary. 52 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:25,160 And then we got to spend our day off taking care of family members and then watching Gabri 53 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:29,600 buy her own car, watch our daughter buy her very own first car. 54 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:30,600 Yep. 55 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:31,600 We're so proud of her. 56 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:32,600 Very much so. 57 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:33,600 So proud of her. 58 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:40,440 Like, like, listen, you guys, because we had to do some finagling around and she, I don't 59 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:41,440 know. 60 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:49,320 Let me, let me take just a second and let's brag on our girl because it's like, today 61 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:59,360 has been full of a lot of emotions and we had our Traverse, our Chevy Traverse for almost 62 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:01,080 like seven years. 63 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:02,080 Yeah. 64 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:04,200 Six years, seven years, seven years. 65 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:06,600 Seven because we bought it right before we got the house. 66 00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:08,040 So that's kind of our timetable. 67 00:03:08,040 --> 00:03:10,560 So we've had that for seven years. 68 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:13,280 We drove that thing like everywhere. 69 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:14,280 Yeah. 70 00:03:14,280 --> 00:03:17,760 It has been literally to Colorado. 71 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:19,560 It's been over the East Coast. 72 00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:24,920 It's been all, I see all now I'm going to get all emotional again because I'm like, 73 00:03:24,920 --> 00:03:28,760 man, that is such, it's such a good car. 74 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:32,160 And 235 plus miles later. 75 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:35,480 235, not 235 plus. 76 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:41,040 Yeah, 235,000 plus miles later. 77 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:44,880 We are rolling up. 78 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:50,000 We, we, we got it appraised 800 bucks. 79 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:51,520 I'll just be very transparent with everybody. 80 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:53,600 It was like for $800. 81 00:03:53,600 --> 00:03:57,440 We honestly, we're not quite sure how much we were going to get, not get whatever. 82 00:03:57,440 --> 00:04:03,840 But the thing was, is I was telling you and then Gabriel and I said, did you guys even 83 00:04:03,840 --> 00:04:08,960 look at like the list of things that they found, like the things that were wrong? 84 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:14,480 And whenever I had, no, I was going to say, don't, it's not the things they found wrong. 85 00:04:14,480 --> 00:04:15,480 Oh yeah. 86 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:20,200 If you say that, it's like, Oh, look how much, but the things they, the checklist that they 87 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:23,000 look at when, cause we take it to CarMax. 88 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:25,280 We have had good luck with them. 89 00:04:25,280 --> 00:04:26,280 Yeah. 90 00:04:26,280 --> 00:04:27,280 This is not shameless plugs. 91 00:04:27,280 --> 00:04:29,240 Like we're genuinely, we've been blessed. 92 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:34,960 Yeah, like cause I've, I've looked at it for stuff, but it's like, you know, what's leaking, 93 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:40,320 what's damaged, what's broken, what's inoperable, you know, what's falling apart, what's on its 94 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:41,320 last leg. 95 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:42,320 Yeah. 96 00:04:42,320 --> 00:04:47,640 And it's like, we knew that, that she was going, she's, she's getting old. 97 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:49,360 I mean, it's a 13 year old car. 98 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:50,720 It is a 13 year old car. 99 00:04:50,720 --> 00:04:52,480 And we've had it for seven years. 100 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:53,480 Yes. 101 00:04:53,480 --> 00:04:54,480 Yeah. 102 00:04:54,480 --> 00:04:59,840 And it's like, I'm looking at the different things and I'm like, Whoa, there's fluid. 103 00:04:59,840 --> 00:05:00,840 Whoa. 104 00:05:00,840 --> 00:05:01,840 The transmission. 105 00:05:01,840 --> 00:05:02,840 Yeah. 106 00:05:02,840 --> 00:05:03,840 Yeah. 107 00:05:03,840 --> 00:05:06,960 But there's like, but like the transmission, all the different things. 108 00:05:06,960 --> 00:05:13,680 But what, what I'm getting at is like, I, I, I pull it up into the service space so that 109 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:18,160 way they can go ahead and, you know, we can do the trade and we can do all the things 110 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:22,960 and I tap the steering wheel. 111 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:25,920 How do we get emotional about things sometimes? 112 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:27,560 You know what I mean? 113 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:30,040 But I think it's just that gratitude. 114 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:31,040 Yeah. 115 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:36,120 I was going to say it's, it's, it's not emotional about the thing. 116 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:40,800 It's emotional about the memories that have been created while we've had that. 117 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:41,800 Yeah. 118 00:05:41,800 --> 00:05:47,000 You know, because again, we, we went to, you know, all the trips we took to, all the trips 119 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:52,640 we took to Texas, you know, our trip to Colorado, our trip to the East coast. 120 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:53,640 Yeah. 121 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:59,360 You know, all the times that we've laughed, we've cried, we've visited family, you know, 122 00:05:59,360 --> 00:06:01,320 all of that. 123 00:06:01,320 --> 00:06:05,880 And that, that traverse was our vehicle for doing all of those things. 124 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:08,880 She's a ride or die. 125 00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:09,880 Right. 126 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:10,880 Literally. 127 00:06:10,880 --> 00:06:18,200 You know, because again, and it's, it's those memories and it's the gratitude towards, 128 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:25,840 towards God that, you know, a he, you know, we're in a bind when we got it, you know, 129 00:06:25,840 --> 00:06:27,400 as far as meeting a vehicle. 130 00:06:27,400 --> 00:06:28,400 Yeah. 131 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:33,440 You know, so he, you know, made our family was outgrowing and our, the one car that we 132 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:34,920 had was, was falling apart. 133 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:35,920 Was falling apart. 134 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:36,920 Yeah. 135 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:42,160 You know, so it's, it's in my mind, it's like, it's that it's, it's the memories, it's the 136 00:06:42,160 --> 00:06:43,760 gratitude towards God. 137 00:06:43,760 --> 00:06:50,720 It's the, you know, the, the fact that, you know, Gabri's in a place where she's able 138 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:52,920 to buy her own first car. 139 00:06:52,920 --> 00:06:53,920 Man. 140 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:54,920 You know? 141 00:06:54,920 --> 00:06:55,920 Yeah. 142 00:06:55,920 --> 00:07:01,800 It's like she, she, this is now, she now has her second vehicle in her vehicle history. 143 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:03,120 Yeah. 144 00:07:03,120 --> 00:07:07,320 You know, the first one was, you know, yes, we kind of made her make some payments on 145 00:07:07,320 --> 00:07:09,520 it, but it was basically gifted to her. 146 00:07:09,520 --> 00:07:10,680 Correct. 147 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:13,680 And then now it's, she's buying her own car. 148 00:07:13,680 --> 00:07:14,680 Yeah. 149 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:15,680 Yeah. 150 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:17,160 And she's on her own merit. 151 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:19,480 We didn't have to sign for it. 152 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:22,920 We did a matching match because we promised that that was something that we were going 153 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:23,960 to do. 154 00:07:23,960 --> 00:07:30,280 We use the money for the traverses for that, the down and then like, man, there it is. 155 00:07:30,280 --> 00:07:36,200 But it was, it was just, I tapped the steering wheel and I just said, you know, thanks for 156 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:38,520 taking such good care of us. 157 00:07:38,520 --> 00:07:39,520 You know? 158 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:43,400 And it was, you know, not just, you know, again, not the car. 159 00:07:43,400 --> 00:07:44,400 Yeah. 160 00:07:44,400 --> 00:07:48,200 It is a car, but it's man, father, thank you for taking such good care of us. 161 00:07:48,200 --> 00:07:49,360 Thank you. 162 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:52,240 Thank you for making a way where there didn't seem to be a way. 163 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:54,880 Thank you for providing constantly. 164 00:07:54,880 --> 00:07:59,800 And thank you for showing yourself faithful to our beautiful girl because this is a space 165 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:08,640 where she gets to now grow in a place where, you know, like she gets to experience God 166 00:08:08,640 --> 00:08:10,000 in a new space. 167 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:11,000 Yeah. 168 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:18,360 And her and him and it's, it's just, it's been a really good, it's just a good day. 169 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:19,360 Yeah. 170 00:08:19,360 --> 00:08:20,360 It was really good. 171 00:08:20,360 --> 00:08:22,800 And so, so that's where we've been guys. 172 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:30,640 That's where we've been just life in it and in figuring out the new rhythm of our season 173 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:34,640 because there's a new season that our family's in right now and you guys kind of can, I can 174 00:08:34,640 --> 00:08:40,560 hear it a little bit, but it is just understand that right now. 175 00:08:40,560 --> 00:08:48,240 We are in a space of even more intentionality because I believe that we've always been intentional, 176 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:55,840 but it feels like this season even more so standing back and saying, okay, father, you 177 00:08:55,840 --> 00:08:58,140 know, this is what we're doing and this is what we're doing. 178 00:08:58,140 --> 00:09:03,720 And it's like every time we do something, I literally am watching him do something else. 179 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:08,760 And then it's, it's like, okay, just work with me and we get to walk with this, walk 180 00:09:08,760 --> 00:09:09,760 this journey together. 181 00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:11,720 So it's just good. 182 00:09:11,720 --> 00:09:12,720 Yeah. 183 00:09:12,720 --> 00:09:13,720 Yeah. 184 00:09:13,720 --> 00:09:15,040 So what are we talking about today? 185 00:09:15,040 --> 00:09:17,200 So today we're not talking about that. 186 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:19,200 I'm trying not to leak everywhere. 187 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:21,360 I'm like, we don't have any tissue down here. 188 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:22,360 No, we don't. 189 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:23,360 Yeah. 190 00:09:23,360 --> 00:09:24,360 It's fine. 191 00:09:24,360 --> 00:09:29,000 So we were kind of inspired by again, something that happened over the weekend. 192 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:30,000 Yes. 193 00:09:30,000 --> 00:09:34,360 But I wanted to, it's kind of a long title and I'm going to kind of shorten it a bit 194 00:09:34,360 --> 00:09:38,200 on when I type it out. 195 00:09:38,200 --> 00:09:44,040 But it's basically just because you know each other doesn't mean you know everything about 196 00:09:44,040 --> 00:09:45,040 each other. 197 00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:46,040 It's true. 198 00:09:46,040 --> 00:09:47,040 It's true. 199 00:09:47,040 --> 00:09:48,840 So quick backstory. 200 00:09:48,840 --> 00:09:54,560 We at our, at our friend's anniversary party, we played a version of the new Lubeb game. 201 00:09:54,560 --> 00:09:55,560 Yes. 202 00:09:55,560 --> 00:09:56,880 Basically, how well do you know your spouse? 203 00:09:56,880 --> 00:09:57,880 Yes. 204 00:09:57,880 --> 00:10:00,880 And between the six questions, we basically got one right. 205 00:10:00,880 --> 00:10:01,880 One. 206 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:04,920 I'd say one and a half maybe. 207 00:10:04,920 --> 00:10:09,200 But, you know, but again, it's like, you know, people were laughing. 208 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:11,360 I mean, we were laughing. 209 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:12,360 We were having a blast. 210 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:14,400 We had so much fun. 211 00:10:14,400 --> 00:10:16,320 But people were like, wow, you guys don't know each other. 212 00:10:16,320 --> 00:10:17,720 And it's like, we do. 213 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:22,120 And when somebody even said, you guys are supposed to be the marriage gurus. 214 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:26,400 And then we were told to go to a marriage retreat. 215 00:10:26,400 --> 00:10:28,520 Yeah, they're like, do you guys need to go to a marriage retreat? 216 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:29,520 It's like, yes, please. 217 00:10:29,520 --> 00:10:30,520 That sounds really nice. 218 00:10:30,520 --> 00:10:32,640 Yeah, you literally were like, oh my gosh. 219 00:10:32,640 --> 00:10:33,640 Can we do that? 220 00:10:33,640 --> 00:10:35,640 Can we do that for like a weekend? 221 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:36,640 A week maybe? 222 00:10:36,640 --> 00:10:37,640 I'll go. 223 00:10:37,640 --> 00:10:39,480 I'll volunteer for a week. 224 00:10:39,480 --> 00:10:41,440 We'll go work on our marriage for a week. 225 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:42,440 Yeah. 226 00:10:42,440 --> 00:10:43,440 Let's go. 227 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:44,440 Yeah. 228 00:10:44,440 --> 00:10:48,480 Because again, in a way, it's, you know, we've we've talked about it before many times, you 229 00:10:48,480 --> 00:10:50,880 know, and, you know, it's just like going to the gym. 230 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:53,440 It's just like focusing on your health, on your nutrition. 231 00:10:53,440 --> 00:10:56,400 It's it's it's a journey. 232 00:10:56,400 --> 00:10:57,880 It's not a destination. 233 00:10:57,880 --> 00:10:58,880 Right. 234 00:10:58,880 --> 00:11:04,640 And this you when you get married, you should want to always improve your marriage. 235 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:05,640 Yes. 236 00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:10,280 You know, again, even if it's just one little step a day, it's it's that step, you know, 237 00:11:10,280 --> 00:11:14,200 one step a week, one step a month, you know, it's that it's that trying to change that 238 00:11:14,200 --> 00:11:19,440 one percent, you know, it's you know, what was it? 239 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:23,400 Somebody was like, you know, even if you, you know, even if you get to the point where 240 00:11:23,400 --> 00:11:31,920 your your goal is to improve 50 percent, you'll never get all the way there. 241 00:11:31,920 --> 00:11:36,720 Because, you know, when you hit that 50 percent, you're like, OK, half 50 percent of that and 242 00:11:36,720 --> 00:11:37,720 then 50 percent of that. 243 00:11:37,720 --> 00:11:41,480 And it's like you always have you'll never actually get there. 244 00:11:41,480 --> 00:11:44,600 You know, it's kind of like when they talk about like radioactive materials, you know, 245 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:49,520 with the half life, you know, it's like when you split it in half, you can infinitely go 246 00:11:49,520 --> 00:11:55,520 by half and you never actually get as little as it gets, it's never actually zero because 247 00:11:55,520 --> 00:11:56,520 you're only going half. 248 00:11:56,520 --> 00:11:58,600 You're only getting rid of half. 249 00:11:58,600 --> 00:12:02,440 So it's like even if you strive to improve by 50 percent. 250 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:04,480 And then it's like, OK, that's how much we got left. 251 00:12:04,480 --> 00:12:05,800 OK, 50 percent of that. 252 00:12:05,800 --> 00:12:06,800 Yeah. 253 00:12:06,800 --> 00:12:07,800 Then 50 percent of that. 254 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:11,520 And it's like because it's never you know, it's never like 50 percent of the what you 255 00:12:11,520 --> 00:12:12,520 start with. 256 00:12:12,520 --> 00:12:14,920 It's 50 percent of what's left and then 50 percent of what's left. 257 00:12:14,920 --> 00:12:16,480 And then I got you. 258 00:12:16,480 --> 00:12:17,480 Yeah. 259 00:12:17,480 --> 00:12:18,480 Got you. 260 00:12:18,480 --> 00:12:19,480 OK. 261 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:22,200 So again, we're always striving. 262 00:12:22,200 --> 00:12:27,320 We're always, you know, we're always taking those steps, you know, because it's. 263 00:12:27,320 --> 00:12:31,720 And you know, I'll say, you know, sometimes sometimes with those questions, it's like, 264 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:33,080 how well do you know your spouse? 265 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:38,680 It's like sometimes it's it's something as simple as. 266 00:12:38,680 --> 00:12:43,520 You know, yes, this yes, our marriage is important to us. 267 00:12:43,520 --> 00:12:44,520 Yeah. 268 00:12:44,520 --> 00:12:52,440 But this memory, this specific memory might not be as important to me as it is to you. 269 00:12:52,440 --> 00:12:53,440 Yeah. 270 00:12:53,440 --> 00:12:59,200 Or even if that day is very special and we both remember it. 271 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:00,200 Yeah. 272 00:13:00,200 --> 00:13:04,640 There are certain aspects that are going to get highlighted in my brain versus highlighted 273 00:13:04,640 --> 00:13:05,640 in your brain. 274 00:13:05,640 --> 00:13:06,640 That's good. 275 00:13:06,640 --> 00:13:10,760 You know, it's like, you know, let's say for our 20th wedding anniversary. 276 00:13:10,760 --> 00:13:11,760 OK. 277 00:13:11,760 --> 00:13:15,120 We could make this really awesome trip somewhere destination. 278 00:13:15,120 --> 00:13:16,120 Let's go. 279 00:13:16,120 --> 00:13:17,120 We renew our vows. 280 00:13:17,120 --> 00:13:18,120 Come on. 281 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:23,880 Go to some really great restaurants and we do some really fun experiences for our 25th 282 00:13:23,880 --> 00:13:24,880 year anniversary. 283 00:13:24,880 --> 00:13:25,920 Yes. 284 00:13:25,920 --> 00:13:30,880 We could think back and say and I'll be like, man, look at this list of things that was 285 00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:31,880 really important. 286 00:13:31,880 --> 00:13:33,280 It was really great. 287 00:13:33,280 --> 00:13:34,840 And I really remember from this trip. 288 00:13:34,840 --> 00:13:36,960 And you're like, I don't remember half of that. 289 00:13:36,960 --> 00:13:37,960 Yeah. 290 00:13:37,960 --> 00:13:38,960 But here's what I remember. 291 00:13:38,960 --> 00:13:40,920 And I could be like, oh, I don't remember half of that. 292 00:13:40,920 --> 00:13:41,920 Yeah. 293 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:42,920 Yeah. 294 00:13:42,920 --> 00:13:43,920 Yeah. 295 00:13:43,920 --> 00:13:44,920 You know, and it was it was meaningful. 296 00:13:44,920 --> 00:13:45,920 Yes. 297 00:13:45,920 --> 00:13:46,920 It was important. 298 00:13:46,920 --> 00:13:47,920 We connected. 299 00:13:47,920 --> 00:13:48,920 Yes. 300 00:13:48,920 --> 00:13:49,920 You know, we made those new memories. 301 00:13:49,920 --> 00:13:51,280 We had those new experiences. 302 00:13:51,280 --> 00:13:52,920 We did the things. 303 00:13:52,920 --> 00:13:53,920 Right. 304 00:13:53,920 --> 00:13:59,320 But it's just again, not saying that that's not important in my brain. 305 00:13:59,320 --> 00:14:00,320 Yeah. 306 00:14:00,320 --> 00:14:06,200 But this other thing was more highlighted and more meaningful, more connecting. 307 00:14:06,200 --> 00:14:07,200 Yeah. 308 00:14:07,200 --> 00:14:08,200 For me. 309 00:14:08,200 --> 00:14:09,200 Yeah. 310 00:14:09,200 --> 00:14:10,720 For us. 311 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:11,720 Take your perspective. 312 00:14:11,720 --> 00:14:12,720 Yes. 313 00:14:12,720 --> 00:14:15,640 It's a different perspective because I remember. 314 00:14:15,640 --> 00:14:18,240 So the best thing I can think of. 315 00:14:18,240 --> 00:14:21,320 So listen, I like this whole 20 year situation. 316 00:14:21,320 --> 00:14:25,120 I just want to let you know if you want to start working on figuring that out, that'd 317 00:14:25,120 --> 00:14:26,520 be great. 318 00:14:26,520 --> 00:14:29,040 That would be great. 319 00:14:29,040 --> 00:14:35,160 It's I immediately think of when your dad and mom blessed us with that trip to Disney 320 00:14:35,160 --> 00:14:42,600 and you, who has already been a good amount of times at this point, enough times, let 321 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:43,600 me say it that way. 322 00:14:43,600 --> 00:14:47,160 The fact that you used to work for a season. 323 00:14:47,160 --> 00:14:48,160 Right. 324 00:14:48,160 --> 00:14:54,320 So you had seen a lot of the things that had been that that were to be seen. 325 00:14:54,320 --> 00:14:55,320 Yes. 326 00:14:55,320 --> 00:14:58,720 There were things that like you were excited about, but there was other things like you're 327 00:14:58,720 --> 00:15:03,800 like, it's not important to me, but it might have been important to the kids. 328 00:15:03,800 --> 00:15:07,760 Or maybe it was important to me who like the three of us had never been. 329 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:11,320 You had your five year old, the 15 year old, and then your wife. 330 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:12,320 Right. 331 00:15:12,320 --> 00:15:16,880 And so here you have three different personalities, three different perspectives. 332 00:15:16,880 --> 00:15:25,200 But I remember you saying your favorite part of the trip was watching us in the trip. 333 00:15:25,200 --> 00:15:31,840 Watching things from our perspective, being able to watch us and see things through our 334 00:15:31,840 --> 00:15:34,120 eyes for the first time. 335 00:15:34,120 --> 00:15:45,240 You know, and maybe part of what I think sometimes people miss when it comes to the marriage 336 00:15:45,240 --> 00:15:47,600 situations, right? 337 00:15:47,600 --> 00:15:55,240 When it comes to knowing somebody or not knowing somebody or getting to know somebody or I 338 00:15:55,240 --> 00:16:00,600 don't even know you, you know, those statements I say to you periodically when I'm joking. 339 00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:06,400 But like, whoa, babe, that's a whole other layer of your onion that I did not know even 340 00:16:06,400 --> 00:16:07,400 existed. 341 00:16:07,400 --> 00:16:08,400 Right. 342 00:16:08,400 --> 00:16:14,400 But I think too many times we want somebody to be feeling the same thing we're feeling 343 00:16:14,400 --> 00:16:19,280 in that moment or a shared experience, which is good. 344 00:16:19,280 --> 00:16:26,440 But how much sweeter sometimes or how much more are we missing if we're not taking the 345 00:16:26,440 --> 00:16:33,080 time maybe afterwards and saying, so what did you, what was your favorite part about 346 00:16:33,080 --> 00:16:34,080 this? 347 00:16:34,080 --> 00:16:37,720 You know, what did you see or what did you get out of this? 348 00:16:37,720 --> 00:16:44,880 You know, or just embracing the pure joy of being with that person, being in that moment 349 00:16:44,880 --> 00:16:46,520 together. 350 00:16:46,520 --> 00:16:50,840 We have saying on our wall by Walt Whitman, right? 351 00:16:50,840 --> 00:16:54,440 And you're going to say it better than I said. 352 00:16:54,440 --> 00:16:55,440 We were together. 353 00:16:55,440 --> 00:16:56,800 I forget the rest. 354 00:16:56,800 --> 00:16:57,800 I forget the rest. 355 00:16:57,800 --> 00:16:58,800 Yeah. 356 00:16:58,800 --> 00:17:00,040 And that's literally what it says. 357 00:17:00,040 --> 00:17:01,040 Yeah. 358 00:17:01,040 --> 00:17:02,040 We were together. 359 00:17:02,040 --> 00:17:03,040 I forget the rest. 360 00:17:03,040 --> 00:17:04,040 Yeah. 361 00:17:04,040 --> 00:17:05,280 That's all that matters. 362 00:17:05,280 --> 00:17:06,280 We were together. 363 00:17:06,280 --> 00:17:07,280 There's a lot of days. 364 00:17:07,280 --> 00:17:10,720 There's a lot of memories I have that you're there where you're not. 365 00:17:10,720 --> 00:17:12,880 Babe, that was before me. 366 00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:13,880 I was before me. 367 00:17:13,880 --> 00:17:17,560 And I'm like, but you've always been, but you've always been here. 368 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:19,320 And so you said, go ahead. 369 00:17:19,320 --> 00:17:21,440 Or even, Hey, remember when we did this? 370 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:24,040 Oh no, that was, I was in Puerto Rico when that happened. 371 00:17:24,040 --> 00:17:25,360 Oh, see, you know, snap. 372 00:17:25,360 --> 00:17:29,600 But, and then somebody would say, Oh, you know, well, that's horrible. 373 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:32,240 Or, you know, Oh, well, who were you with? 374 00:17:32,240 --> 00:17:36,000 And Dina, it's like, no, you don't understand. 375 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:37,000 Yeah. 376 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:43,080 Everything I do is attached to my husband. 377 00:17:43,080 --> 00:17:47,000 Everything that I do is attached to my children. 378 00:17:47,000 --> 00:17:52,240 It's somebody, somebody I loved was there with me. 379 00:17:52,240 --> 00:17:57,480 They had to be with me because I don't go very many places by myself. 380 00:17:57,480 --> 00:17:58,480 You can testify. 381 00:17:58,480 --> 00:18:00,480 I don't. 382 00:18:00,480 --> 00:18:08,480 And it's like, I think, I think that that's one of the, probably one of the main takeaways 383 00:18:08,480 --> 00:18:16,960 that I would want to give somebody is just say, memorize the moments, but more so just 384 00:18:16,960 --> 00:18:21,840 embrace, embrace the experience of what's going on with that person. 385 00:18:21,840 --> 00:18:27,800 And if you guys see things kind of from different perspectives, like one of the things was, 386 00:18:27,800 --> 00:18:29,800 what was the first movie? 387 00:18:29,800 --> 00:18:34,360 And I was like, Oh, they said, what was the first, the question to me was, what was the 388 00:18:34,360 --> 00:18:35,880 first movie that you guys went to? 389 00:18:35,880 --> 00:18:38,080 And I was like, Oh, easy. 390 00:18:38,080 --> 00:18:39,520 Numeo and Juliet. 391 00:18:39,520 --> 00:18:46,080 That's when I heard Gabriel and Luke laugh at the same places at the same time. 392 00:18:46,080 --> 00:18:50,840 And I fell that much more in love with him and said, he's got to be a part of our lives 393 00:18:50,840 --> 00:18:56,760 where you're like, Oh, the way that it was asked in front of everybody was, was the first 394 00:18:56,760 --> 00:18:58,320 movie that you guys watched together. 395 00:18:58,320 --> 00:19:01,560 And I was like, wait, that wasn't the way that it was promised to me. 396 00:19:01,560 --> 00:19:04,280 Well, then that's a different answer. 397 00:19:04,280 --> 00:19:07,080 And you're like, Oh, I know this one. 398 00:19:07,080 --> 00:19:08,080 It was Despicable Me. 399 00:19:08,080 --> 00:19:12,360 I'm like, yep, it was. 400 00:19:12,360 --> 00:19:16,720 That's when you hit your head on the ceiling fan and was being silly because you're so 401 00:19:16,720 --> 00:19:17,720 freaking tall. 402 00:19:17,720 --> 00:19:23,760 And because your basement was freakishly short, freakishly short. 403 00:19:23,760 --> 00:19:24,760 Right. 404 00:19:24,760 --> 00:19:25,760 I mean, for me, it was freakishly. 405 00:19:25,760 --> 00:19:26,760 Truly. 406 00:19:26,760 --> 00:19:28,680 I mean, even for me, I mean, I was pretty, I could touch it. 407 00:19:28,680 --> 00:19:30,800 I could, I could touch the ceiling. 408 00:19:30,800 --> 00:19:38,880 So, but it's one of those where it's like, um, but I remember you, I remember you in 409 00:19:38,880 --> 00:19:39,880 that moment. 410 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:43,480 I remember you showing up with the little fun little hat and it had the little Bolly 411 00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:44,480 thing. 412 00:19:44,480 --> 00:19:45,640 It's still upstairs. 413 00:19:45,640 --> 00:19:46,640 I have kept it. 414 00:19:46,640 --> 00:19:47,640 I forgot about that. 415 00:19:47,640 --> 00:19:51,920 I have kept it because I want to wear it so desperately, but I can't. 416 00:19:51,920 --> 00:19:57,440 It does not look cute on me, but I love it because it's the first time we forgot about 417 00:19:57,440 --> 00:19:58,440 that. 418 00:19:58,440 --> 00:19:59,440 That's awesome. 419 00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:00,440 Just got to be, see what I'm saying? 420 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:04,840 So it's like little things like that, that you just go, Oh, and instead of me going, 421 00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:07,040 Oh, you don't, you, you didn't remember. 422 00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:09,600 You're like, Oh, I forgot about that. 423 00:20:09,600 --> 00:20:10,600 And yeah. 424 00:20:10,600 --> 00:20:12,120 Oh, babe, that's sweet that you kept that. 425 00:20:12,120 --> 00:20:13,120 Yep. 426 00:20:13,120 --> 00:20:14,120 Because that's important to me. 427 00:20:14,120 --> 00:20:18,880 It evokes an emotion and a memory. 428 00:20:18,880 --> 00:20:25,520 And I'll also add, you know, again, even if it's, you know, when, when you go through 429 00:20:25,520 --> 00:20:31,040 this life as a married couple, you know, you're going to do things that you enjoy that your 430 00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:32,040 spouse doesn't. 431 00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:33,040 Correct. 432 00:20:33,040 --> 00:20:35,160 You know, I'm pretty certain we've had a podcast or two on that one. 433 00:20:35,160 --> 00:20:36,160 I think so. 434 00:20:36,160 --> 00:20:37,160 Yeah. 435 00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:42,840 Um, you know, cause again, I, I, I have all the faith in the world and, and you know, 436 00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:45,760 and in heaven that, that it will happen. 437 00:20:45,760 --> 00:20:51,560 Um, for my 50th birthday, you talk about taking me to England to watch a Manchester United 438 00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:52,560 football match. 439 00:20:52,560 --> 00:20:54,640 We're going to need to rebuild that savings again. 440 00:20:54,640 --> 00:20:55,640 We do. 441 00:20:55,640 --> 00:20:56,640 Yeah. 442 00:20:56,640 --> 00:20:57,640 Yeah. 443 00:20:57,640 --> 00:20:58,640 That's okay. 444 00:20:58,640 --> 00:20:59,640 But yes, we have a little bit of time. 445 00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:00,640 Yes. 446 00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:05,920 You know, but it's, I know that you are not a football fan and you can, for the most part, 447 00:21:05,920 --> 00:21:07,120 you could take it or leave it. 448 00:21:07,120 --> 00:21:08,120 True. 449 00:21:08,120 --> 00:21:09,120 But you're going to have fun watching me. 450 00:21:09,120 --> 00:21:10,120 I am going to have so much fun. 451 00:21:10,120 --> 00:21:11,120 So much fun. 452 00:21:11,120 --> 00:21:21,000 It's going to, I will probably enjoy the game because of just the electricity and I, but 453 00:21:21,000 --> 00:21:26,240 not just you see everybody, everybody else that's going to be around us. 454 00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:35,720 Just again, just taking, when we take these moments with each other, just take a step 455 00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:40,360 back and just maybe try to see things from the perspective of your loved one. 456 00:21:40,360 --> 00:21:45,440 Try to take, you know, whether it's your spouse, whether it's your children, family member, 457 00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:49,240 friend, just, you know, just standing back and going, man, this is lame. 458 00:21:49,240 --> 00:21:50,800 Like, I don't want to do this. 459 00:21:50,800 --> 00:21:54,000 And then say, wait a minute, hold tight. 460 00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:55,000 Okay. 461 00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:57,600 Why are you so lit up about this? 462 00:21:57,600 --> 00:22:01,440 Maybe, maybe what am I missing right now? 463 00:22:01,440 --> 00:22:03,680 And I'm not saying that it will happen every time. 464 00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:09,920 Like, you know, there might be some days you're like, Nope, that's, that's, that's your thing. 465 00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:10,920 Okay. 466 00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:11,920 Good for you. 467 00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:17,680 And again, it's, you know, along those lines, we don't need to have shared likes. 468 00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:19,280 No, not at all. 469 00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:28,260 You know, and, you know, I remember, I remember years prior to you, you know, somebody was 470 00:22:28,260 --> 00:22:32,880 talking to me about, you know, it was, it was one of those conversations that you have 471 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:36,520 sometimes with friends of like, you know, what do you want in a woman? 472 00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:41,000 You know, what, what would, what would be some of the qualities of your ideal, you know, 473 00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:42,320 partner or spouse? 474 00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:48,800 And one of the things that I used to always say, and yes, I did not tell you this when 475 00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:55,280 we got together, but I still believe strongly in it is, I didn't want, are we going to have 476 00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:56,280 a talk later? 477 00:22:56,280 --> 00:22:58,440 No, no, because we're having the talk now. 478 00:22:58,440 --> 00:22:59,440 Okay. 479 00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:00,440 Yeah. 480 00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:01,440 But it was one of those things. 481 00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:07,760 I always said, I didn't necessarily want a wife that was into the things that I was into, 482 00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:13,040 but I wanted somebody that was cool with the things that I was into. 483 00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:18,520 You know, because again, I, I, I was mature enough to realize that not everybody has the 484 00:23:18,520 --> 00:23:19,520 same likes. 485 00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:20,520 Yeah. 486 00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:25,960 And if you and your spouse have 100% all of the same likes, life gets boring. 487 00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:30,040 It's, I would have to say, yeah, I would have to say, yeah, yeah. 488 00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:33,960 You know, because to a degree, you're not going to, you know, unless one of your likes 489 00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:38,080 is thrill seeking and always finding that new thing, it's going to be hard to get new 490 00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:43,120 things if you're always doing the same thing and you always have the same things that you 491 00:23:43,120 --> 00:23:44,120 like. 492 00:23:44,120 --> 00:23:45,120 Yeah. 493 00:23:45,120 --> 00:23:49,080 You know, so, you know, there are things that I enjoy doing that again, you're like, I could 494 00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:50,080 take it or leave it. 495 00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:51,080 Right. 496 00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:52,080 Or you know what? 497 00:23:52,080 --> 00:23:53,360 You go off and do that for a while. 498 00:23:53,360 --> 00:23:54,360 Yeah. 499 00:23:54,360 --> 00:23:56,640 You know, me and Sebastian playing video games. 500 00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:57,640 Yes. 501 00:23:57,640 --> 00:23:59,000 You're not a huge fan. 502 00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:00,000 No. 503 00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:01,000 You're not going to stop us. 504 00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:02,640 You're not going to be like, I don't like that. 505 00:24:02,640 --> 00:24:04,000 So get it out of the house. 506 00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:05,000 Right. 507 00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:10,160 I mean, there might be some games that I'm like, yeah, but yeah, but yeah, nice. 508 00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:12,200 No, I like, I, I like that. 509 00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:13,200 No, I like that. 510 00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:15,640 I think you got your, what you asked for. 511 00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:16,640 Yeah, I did. 512 00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:17,640 Very much. 513 00:24:17,640 --> 00:24:18,640 I am. 514 00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:21,640 I think I'm pretty cool with. 515 00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:22,640 Yeah. 516 00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:23,640 I'm cool. 517 00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:26,640 I think I'd have to say everything. 518 00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:28,720 99, at least 99.9. 519 00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:30,720 I mean, I'm kind of looking around my office here. 520 00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:34,880 I mean, even the Highland games, it's like you enjoyed watching me and cheering me on 521 00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:39,320 and supporting me, but you're like, I was even asked to come. 522 00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:40,320 Oh, you were there. 523 00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:45,240 Like, but it was, I think that that was, that was a really sweet moment. 524 00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:49,920 I appreciate that moment because there were, there were times where it's like, I want to 525 00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:54,280 come and play because I'm strong and I like this and that would be fun. 526 00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:58,440 And I would actually, I think I'd be really good at this, you know, kind of thing. 527 00:24:58,440 --> 00:24:59,440 With you. 528 00:24:59,440 --> 00:25:00,440 Yeah. 529 00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:06,800 But then it was like, I remember one of the young ladies, do you remember kind of exactly 530 00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:07,800 what she said? 531 00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:08,800 Okay. 532 00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:09,800 I do. 533 00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:10,800 What'd she say? 534 00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:12,280 She basically, like she started talking to you. 535 00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:15,120 She's like, you know, you should come play with us. 536 00:25:15,120 --> 00:25:16,120 Yeah. 537 00:25:16,120 --> 00:25:18,160 You know, come, come join the party, come play with us. 538 00:25:18,160 --> 00:25:19,160 Yeah. 539 00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:23,480 And, and you're like, I don't know, you know, cause, cause some days you're cool with competing. 540 00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:26,240 Some days you're like, you know, I know I get really competitive. 541 00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:27,240 Maybe not. 542 00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:29,760 I'm really angry guys. 543 00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:36,040 But all of a sudden it was like, she stopped herself and she basically said, well, maybe 544 00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:40,440 you don't because sometimes we get pretty raunchy and dirty. 545 00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:41,440 Yeah. 546 00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:49,240 Like she, and I, and I know that we had been doing this for lack of a better term, this, 547 00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:53,520 the Highland circuit with you. 548 00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:56,400 Everybody, everybody knew who we were. 549 00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:59,920 Um, respectfully, just kind. 550 00:25:59,920 --> 00:26:04,360 Everybody was very gentle and good and kind with us. 551 00:26:04,360 --> 00:26:08,640 Did we constantly proclaim the name of Jesus above everything else? 552 00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:10,200 No, no. 553 00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:19,920 But did we engage with the other conversations and the things that might've been a little, 554 00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:24,920 and we didn't, and I think it, side note. 555 00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:27,920 So it's not always so much what you say. 556 00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:31,480 It's what some, a lot of times what you don't say. 557 00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:32,720 It's not what you do. 558 00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:36,280 It's a lot of times what you don't do. 559 00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:42,120 And in that it was, you could see almost like, like a aha or like a something. 560 00:26:42,120 --> 00:26:43,120 I don't know. 561 00:26:43,120 --> 00:26:48,800 I'm just going to assume Holy spirit just spoke directly to her and said, yeah, no, 562 00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:54,240 she's, she's, I, I would be over in a corner somewhere and just be like, 563 00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:58,920 respectfully, kindly, you know, honorably. 564 00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:02,120 Cause again, good people. 565 00:27:02,120 --> 00:27:08,080 I mean, they, they, we to this day say that like who, who these people are, some of the 566 00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:12,360 most honorably honorable people we have ever met. 567 00:27:12,360 --> 00:27:14,880 And so, uh, anyway, yeah. 568 00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:15,880 Highland games. 569 00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:18,480 I, it would be, it would have been a lot of fun. 570 00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:19,480 Yeah. 571 00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:23,200 But maybe, I don't know, maybe I might do something on my own. 572 00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:24,200 I don't know. 573 00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:25,200 I'll see. 574 00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:26,200 Not Highland games. 575 00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:32,040 We could start our own version of Highland games, call them kingdom games. 576 00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:33,040 There you go. 577 00:27:33,040 --> 00:27:38,760 See now you're wanting to, we're talking about creating our own little marriage retreat because 578 00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:43,440 that was one of the conversations we had after this when it was like, you guys need, y'all, 579 00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:44,640 maybe y'all need to go on a marriage retreat. 580 00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:47,640 And I was like, okay, this is a sad thing about marriage retreats. 581 00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:50,800 When people say this is like, Oh, you must be struggling. 582 00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:51,800 No, man. 583 00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:55,360 Like we want to do their marriage retreat where everybody's like bubbling over and just 584 00:27:55,360 --> 00:27:56,360 all the things. 585 00:27:56,360 --> 00:27:59,400 And you might be struggling a little bit, but not like you think so. 586 00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:03,360 Like you might be, I just need a little extra boost. 587 00:28:03,360 --> 00:28:07,240 Like we're going to be, we don't want people to think of marriage retreat the same way 588 00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:09,680 they think of fat camp. 589 00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:10,680 Come on. 590 00:28:10,680 --> 00:28:11,680 Come on. 591 00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:12,680 That part. 592 00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:15,800 Throw all the PC out the window. 593 00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:16,800 That's just all of it. 594 00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:17,800 Yeah. 595 00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:18,800 All of it. 596 00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:19,800 So yeah. 597 00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:22,200 And kingdom games. 598 00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:23,200 Yeah. 599 00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:24,200 I like this. 600 00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:25,200 Yes. 601 00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:30,720 Listen, y'all just saw y'all just heard our, our brains and our business ideas coming to 602 00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:31,720 life. 603 00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:32,720 Yeah. 604 00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:33,720 Jesus out. 605 00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:34,720 Then make it happen. 606 00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:35,720 Yeah. 607 00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:40,360 Seriously guys, we joke, but like there's actually things that happen in our minds right 608 00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:41,360 now. 609 00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:42,360 Yeah. 610 00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:48,040 If, if we, if we had video, which we will, but if we had video, you guys would literally 611 00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:54,960 be seeing our eyes and Luke is like literally leaned back in his chair and how could we 612 00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:56,280 make this work? 613 00:28:56,280 --> 00:29:02,200 Like we could totally make this work, babe, babe, why are you leaving me? 614 00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:03,200 You can't leave me like this. 615 00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:04,200 You got to come back. 616 00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:05,200 This is good stuff. 617 00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:11,080 I'm laughing at something else. 618 00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:13,840 My brain goes on such trap rabbit trail. 619 00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:14,840 That's where our son gets it. 620 00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:20,280 That's what happens because I think that I'm thinking all of a sudden, you know, we're, 621 00:29:20,280 --> 00:29:23,720 you know, the retreats and the kingdom games and the stuff and the stuff. 622 00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:28,680 And all of a sudden I think of that video that we saw last night of the CrossFit of 623 00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:34,360 the, you know, I'm JC and I started CrossFit, you know, pick up your cross, pick up your 624 00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:36,440 mahogany cross and just walk with it. 625 00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:37,440 Yes. 626 00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:42,000 And if you just walk for eight hours for six days a week, yes, after 23 months, I lost 627 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:46,680 23 pounds, I know it seems unbelievable. 628 00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:48,680 It's true. 629 00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:50,680 It's true. 630 00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:54,760 They kept like honing in on the biceps and the things. 631 00:29:54,760 --> 00:29:55,760 That was funny. 632 00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:56,760 Yes. 633 00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:57,760 Yes. 634 00:29:57,760 --> 00:29:58,760 Okay. 635 00:29:58,760 --> 00:29:59,760 Back to the thought, back to the thought. 636 00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:00,760 Back to the thought. 637 00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:01,760 Yeah. 638 00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:03,200 You're not, we're not going to know each other. 639 00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:04,720 We're not going to know each other. 640 00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:05,720 Yeah. 641 00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:06,720 100%. 642 00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:08,440 We're not going to know every detail about each other. 643 00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:10,480 We're not going to. 644 00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:14,600 Again, you know, even though we go through the same things, we're not going to have the 645 00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:15,600 same memories. 646 00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:16,600 No, no. 647 00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:24,560 And there are some things that it's like, I'm going to take a bit of a turn here. 648 00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:25,560 Okay. 649 00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:30,200 It's different people are going to impact our lives different ways. 650 00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:31,200 Agreed. 651 00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:34,240 Even if they come, you know, especially if they come into our lives in different, at 652 00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:35,240 different times. 653 00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:36,240 Yes. 654 00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:40,400 You know, cause, cause I am, I'm thinking about Papa, Papa Charlie. 655 00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:45,840 You and I are squishy today. 656 00:30:45,840 --> 00:30:49,240 Just all the, all the goodness, babe. 657 00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:53,400 You know, but it's like, you had known them for so long. 658 00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:54,400 Yeah. 659 00:30:54,400 --> 00:31:01,200 You know, and, and it's like, I came in and it's like, you know, so I got to know Charlie 660 00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:08,640 and Karen and like, I, it was like, I was cool by association. 661 00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:09,640 Yeah. 662 00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:11,520 You know, it's like you approved of me. 663 00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:14,320 So all of a sudden it's like, okay, we'll accept you. 664 00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:16,560 Oh no, no, no, no, no, no, no. 665 00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:17,920 That Bob Evans breakfast. 666 00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:18,920 Yeah, that's true. 667 00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:22,760 That was, that was, no, he was checking you out. 668 00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:23,760 Yeah, he was. 669 00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:27,160 And if he had said, mmm, dinner Marie. 670 00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:29,840 No, I know. 671 00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:30,840 Yeah. 672 00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:31,840 Yeah. 673 00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:37,920 You know, but it is, it's, you know, cause even things like that, you know, 674 00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:48,640 him as a, as a father figure is going to tell things to a son differently than he would 675 00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:50,640 say it to his daughter. 676 00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:51,640 Absolutely. 677 00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:56,960 You know, our kids, I'm going to, I'm going to say things and, and do things differently 678 00:31:56,960 --> 00:31:59,400 with Sebastian than I will with Gabri. 679 00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:00,400 Yeah. 680 00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:06,520 And, and it has nothing to do with anything other than the fact that they're two different 681 00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:07,520 people. 682 00:32:07,520 --> 00:32:08,520 They're two really different people. 683 00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:09,520 You know, A, they're two different people. 684 00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:12,200 B, one is a son, one is a daughter. 685 00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:13,200 Correct. 686 00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:14,200 Correct. 687 00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:20,000 You know, and it's just, you know, I will be softer with her. 688 00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:23,360 I will be rougher with him. 689 00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:31,120 You know, I mean, but again, I, I, I about teared up earlier when I looked at her and, 690 00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:36,600 you know, before the little fireworks went off on, on the 100% approval, you just bought 691 00:32:36,600 --> 00:32:37,600 yourself a new car. 692 00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:42,320 I just looked at her and I almost teared up just by saying, I'm so proud of you. 693 00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:43,320 Yeah. 694 00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:47,280 You know, and, and I, I just keep saying it to her. 695 00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:51,280 You caught her off guard when you did that. 696 00:32:51,280 --> 00:32:52,280 Like she caught her breath. 697 00:32:52,280 --> 00:32:53,280 I like when you're doing that. 698 00:32:53,280 --> 00:32:54,280 I do too. 699 00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:55,280 Yeah. 700 00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:58,880 So it is, it's, you know, and it is, it's these things. 701 00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:05,440 It's you're, you're gonna, you're gonna, I keep, I keep going back to it. 702 00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:10,920 You're just, you're gonna have, you're gonna have different memories, not because you have 703 00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:15,160 different experiences, but just because different things will hit you differently. 704 00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:16,160 And you're different people. 705 00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:17,160 Absolutely. 706 00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:18,160 Absolutely. 707 00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:20,720 And there's, there's nothing wrong with that. 708 00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:21,720 Yeah. 709 00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:24,280 Because I'll even go to the other extreme. 710 00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:30,920 And one of the things that we did talk about and what helped trigger and help with this 711 00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:36,560 thought was talking to a very, very precious friend. 712 00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:43,520 And she was kind of asking some, some marital advice, I suppose. 713 00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:50,000 And her just kind of looking at me and she's like, you know, but like, this is this, you 714 00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:55,400 know, this kind of like what we, what we're talking about now, like, well, we should know 715 00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:56,400 each other. 716 00:33:56,400 --> 00:34:00,280 We should have the things we should do the things we shouldn't be, you know, we shouldn't 717 00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:01,280 be arguing. 718 00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:02,280 We shouldn't know all the things. 719 00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:08,960 And she's like, they're freshly married, which in, and these are good absolute standards 720 00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:09,960 to live by. 721 00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:16,800 Like, cause I'm looking at her going like, I could probably count on less than one handful 722 00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:21,680 in almost 13 years of marriage, where you and I have ever raised our voice with each 723 00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:22,680 other. 724 00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:24,880 No, like less than a handful. 725 00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:25,880 Yeah. 726 00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:28,440 I have to literally rack my brain. 727 00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:29,440 Yeah. 728 00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:35,520 And, and even the times where it has, it, it hasn't, like, if I can say it like this, 729 00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:40,880 it hasn't necessarily us been yelling at each other or one of us yelling at the other. 730 00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:50,200 It's been frustration of, you know, that, that, that thing that's sitting on you, you 731 00:34:50,200 --> 00:34:55,920 know, the, the, the attitude, the, the, the darkness, the, the spirit of oppression that's 732 00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:57,760 like trying to drown you right now. 733 00:34:57,760 --> 00:34:59,840 It's like, I'm yelling at that thing. 734 00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:01,640 I'm not yelling at you. 735 00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:02,640 Right. 736 00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:03,640 Right. 737 00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:04,880 And we've even taught our daughter that, right. 738 00:35:04,880 --> 00:35:07,160 And our, our teaching our son. 739 00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:08,160 Yeah. 740 00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:12,680 And it's like, and I'm looking at her and I said, I'll be incredibly transparent with 741 00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:14,200 you. 742 00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:19,440 Just two days ago, we're downstairs in our basement because I walked out of the room 743 00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:22,920 and said, I didn't even say anything. 744 00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:25,120 I just walked out. 745 00:35:25,120 --> 00:35:29,160 I was like, Oh, we're I'm pissed. 746 00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:30,160 Yep. 747 00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:31,160 We're done. 748 00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:35,680 I'm not, we're done, but I am, I am, I am done being in this room. 749 00:35:35,680 --> 00:35:36,680 I am agitated. 750 00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:43,560 And if I stay here any longer, I'm probably going to cuss and get angry. 751 00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:45,760 And yeah, you know what? 752 00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:50,800 I know we're gonna, I'm just gonna, I'm just gonna try to figure out how to work this stupid 753 00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:51,800 TV. 754 00:35:51,800 --> 00:35:58,960 And I couldn't, so I just laid there and I prayed and nothing was breaking. 755 00:35:58,960 --> 00:35:59,960 Yeah. 756 00:35:59,960 --> 00:36:01,960 Like I'm just there. 757 00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:02,960 Yeah. 758 00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:07,360 And it was love is patient. 759 00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:08,360 Love is kind. 760 00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:09,360 Right. 761 00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:16,260 The first Corinthians 13, the thing that we keep talking about and, and I'm, I'm grateful. 762 00:36:16,260 --> 00:36:24,320 One thing I can say is I'm grateful that even in these times, like you had had an incredible 763 00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:32,920 night, you had had a really good, solid touch with God, like even like I'm going to tell 764 00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:33,920 on myself. 765 00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:34,920 Yeah. 766 00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:43,160 And I was mad as a hornet because the perspective of what was happening with me in that moment 767 00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:46,760 was not what was happening with you. 768 00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:50,920 And the selfishness and I can't even so much say I was being selfish because I even looked 769 00:36:50,920 --> 00:36:54,520 at you as like, like I'm not trying to be, I'm not trying to be selfish. 770 00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:57,600 Like I don't believe that this is a selfish thing that's in me. 771 00:36:57,600 --> 00:37:02,320 And then the moment that I said, but I think it's, and I'm not going to go into it. 772 00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:07,960 And like, with all due respect guys, you don't need to know everything, but like whatever 773 00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:11,960 that was, that was, I was dealing with in that moment broke. 774 00:37:11,960 --> 00:37:16,480 And I looked at you and I was like, okay, okay. 775 00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:21,480 This is, this is, oh, this is right. 776 00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:26,800 And it's like, it helped you, it helped me. 777 00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:34,160 And sometimes even in the perspectives, cause it is, it's like you, I think the thing that 778 00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:39,040 I appreciated most about you and I feel like I really hope I'm not everywhere right now. 779 00:37:39,040 --> 00:37:43,680 I hope I'm staying on topic, but I think the thing that I appreciated the most about you 780 00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:56,200 in that space with me was you weren't trying to say, Oh, but babe, Oh, but, but you didn't. 781 00:37:56,200 --> 00:38:03,400 Well that's on you or Oh, but babe, you know, kind of you, you actually were, it's cause 782 00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:05,520 I'm looking at you going, I'm sorry. 783 00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:06,520 Like I'm sorry. 784 00:38:06,520 --> 00:38:09,120 You're really like poo pooing all over your stuff. 785 00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:13,840 And this is so crap on me. 786 00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:14,840 Sorry. 787 00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:21,200 This is, you know, and it's like, you didn't lose that moment. 788 00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:27,200 And while keeping that moment, you also were like, saw what was happening with me and we're 789 00:38:27,200 --> 00:38:28,760 like, I'm sorry. 790 00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:29,760 Yeah. 791 00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:33,560 Like we both saw each other's moments. 792 00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:35,960 And then at the same time, we're like, I'm sorry. 793 00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:36,960 Yeah. 794 00:38:36,960 --> 00:38:43,240 And I think if we just give each other space in those moments, whether they're good, whether 795 00:38:43,240 --> 00:38:46,220 they're bad, like this is devastating. 796 00:38:46,220 --> 00:38:48,040 This is a moment that's devastating for me. 797 00:38:48,040 --> 00:38:52,320 And I'm not talking about what we had, but like you have the loss of a child. 798 00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:53,320 You have the loss of a something. 799 00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:55,840 You have a loss of something, right? 800 00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:56,840 Yes. 801 00:38:56,840 --> 00:39:02,400 One spouse might be seemingly handling it better than the other or something might be 802 00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:08,600 happening and then like you're expecting the other person to come into your, your sad party, 803 00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:09,600 right? 804 00:39:09,600 --> 00:39:11,840 And I don't, because I don't want to call it a pity party. 805 00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:17,240 That's genuinely like, there's a sad, there's a grief, but in those spaces, you also need 806 00:39:17,240 --> 00:39:21,400 to say, we're going to feel differently. 807 00:39:21,400 --> 00:39:23,360 We're going to see this differently. 808 00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:28,840 We're going to maybe grieve at different rates. 809 00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:31,320 We might even celebrate at different rates. 810 00:39:31,320 --> 00:39:38,920 You know, like, you know, here I'm all like giddy excited about our daughter's new car. 811 00:39:38,920 --> 00:39:41,600 You're giddy excited to, you're excited too. 812 00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:46,720 You just don't get all like, I'm walking around with the phone and doing all the videos and 813 00:39:46,720 --> 00:39:48,200 oh my gosh, this is amazing. 814 00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:49,760 You know, and my phone didn't leave my pocket. 815 00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:54,360 It didn't leave the pocket, but you are still very much in the moment and still very much 816 00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:55,360 in this space. 817 00:39:55,360 --> 00:39:56,360 Right. 818 00:39:56,360 --> 00:40:02,360 Like, I think we just need to give our spouses, our children, our family, the people, our 819 00:40:02,360 --> 00:40:08,680 loved ones, license to be who they are in those moments. 820 00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:12,080 Experience it for who and what they are. 821 00:40:12,080 --> 00:40:17,400 And then maybe take this, take the time afterwards. 822 00:40:17,400 --> 00:40:18,400 How did that? 823 00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:19,760 What did you see? 824 00:40:19,760 --> 00:40:25,760 Like, I could tell you all of this stuff, but like, what did you, what did you see? 825 00:40:25,760 --> 00:40:28,400 Because I want to see this from your eyes too. 826 00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:29,400 Yeah. 827 00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:30,400 Yeah. 828 00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:31,400 I like that. 829 00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:32,400 Yeah. 830 00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:33,400 And that is, it does. 831 00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:36,120 I mean, it, I, it makes sense to me. 832 00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:38,840 I mean, hopefully it makes sense to our listeners. 833 00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:39,840 Yes. 834 00:40:39,840 --> 00:40:41,920 I almost said to our readers, I'm like, wait, you're not reading this? 835 00:40:41,920 --> 00:40:42,920 Not today. 836 00:40:42,920 --> 00:40:45,960 No, but it is. 837 00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:48,840 Um, but no, I think, I think that's exactly how it is. 838 00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:53,440 Like even, even when you're talking about it, you know, like this is how, this is what 839 00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:55,920 I felt or this is what I saw, this is what I experienced. 840 00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:57,840 You know, what, what did you, what did you get out of it? 841 00:40:57,840 --> 00:41:04,440 You know, almost, um, it's like, as you're saying that in my mind, I'm like, it's almost 842 00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:05,920 like comparing scrapbooks. 843 00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:06,920 Hmm. 844 00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:08,520 You know, it's good. 845 00:41:08,520 --> 00:41:09,520 Yeah. 846 00:41:09,520 --> 00:41:13,040 You know, if, if, if we were to go on the same trip and at the end of the day, at the 847 00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:16,680 end of the trip, whatever, you know, we sat down and we made a scrapbook about what was 848 00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:20,440 cool or what was memorable, what was highlights. 849 00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:23,680 And it's like, you know, it's like, okay, well now let's compare, you know, what are 850 00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:24,680 we, what was your highlight? 851 00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:26,680 You know, who's your top three? 852 00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:27,680 Yeah. 853 00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:28,680 You know, type thing. 854 00:41:28,680 --> 00:41:29,680 And it's like, oh, that's cool. 855 00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:30,960 You know, my top three was over here. 856 00:41:30,960 --> 00:41:35,320 Um, see now I want to start making scrapbooks for like trips. 857 00:41:35,320 --> 00:41:36,520 I love that. 858 00:41:36,520 --> 00:41:37,520 No, I do. 859 00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:43,040 I love that because it's like, I think of our children, our children are so very, very 860 00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:44,040 different. 861 00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:45,040 Yes. 862 00:41:45,040 --> 00:41:46,920 So very much the same, but so very different. 863 00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:47,920 Yeah. 864 00:41:47,920 --> 00:41:54,640 And you could see the perspective of a 10 year olds, what Sebastian would be putting 865 00:41:54,640 --> 00:42:01,760 in his book or in his pockets, you know, on a trip versus what Gabri would put it. 866 00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:05,480 And they're going to look so different, but then sit down. 867 00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:08,000 I love, babe, I love that idea. 868 00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:09,320 No, that's beautiful. 869 00:42:09,320 --> 00:42:13,880 I mean, even, even what was it a couple of years ago when, when Gabri was, was first 870 00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:19,560 able to go and hit the casino floor with us, you know, and she was like, you know, for 871 00:42:19,560 --> 00:42:25,640 her it was this, this brand new thing and, you know, actually spending money to try to 872 00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:26,640 win more money. 873 00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:31,200 And you know, Sebastian looking from the outside in, it's like, I want to play video games. 874 00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:32,200 I want to play video games. 875 00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:33,200 Yep. 876 00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:34,200 They're, they're video games. 877 00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:36,000 They're big video games. 878 00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:37,000 It's like a big arcade. 879 00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:38,000 Yes. 880 00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:39,000 That's all he cared about. 881 00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:40,000 He's like, they're video games. 882 00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:41,000 I want to play. 883 00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:42,000 Yes. 884 00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:43,000 I love that. 885 00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:44,000 Yes. 886 00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:45,000 Yeah. 887 00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:47,000 The simplicity of something or the depths of something. 888 00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:52,120 But the fact is that it's something, it's something to each one of them just at a different 889 00:42:52,120 --> 00:42:53,560 rate, a different level. 890 00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:54,560 Yeah. 891 00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:55,560 I love that. 892 00:42:55,560 --> 00:43:00,400 We, listen, we are about to become, listen, we got us, we got all sorts of idea. 893 00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:01,400 We got a box. 894 00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:03,400 We got a box of stuff. 895 00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:04,400 Yes. 896 00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:06,840 Cause that was gifted to us that we never touched. 897 00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:08,960 What box? 898 00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:11,160 In the storage, the, from my mom. 899 00:43:11,160 --> 00:43:12,160 Yes, we do. 900 00:43:12,160 --> 00:43:13,160 We are going to become scrapbookers. 901 00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:15,800 They gave us a whole bunch of leftover scrapbook stuff. 902 00:43:15,800 --> 00:43:16,800 That is right. 903 00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:18,800 It's not even going to cost us anything. 904 00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:19,800 Look at that. 905 00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:20,800 We're saving money. 906 00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:21,800 We're making memories. 907 00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:22,800 Let's do this. 908 00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:23,800 Shoot. 909 00:43:23,800 --> 00:43:24,800 Come on. 910 00:43:24,800 --> 00:43:25,800 Cause I love that. 911 00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:29,200 Cause right now, like, I mean, they're, they're home again. 912 00:43:29,200 --> 00:43:30,200 Yeah. 913 00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:33,120 But like even right before we push play or push record. 914 00:43:33,120 --> 00:43:34,120 Yeah. 915 00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:36,240 Like I said, hold on babe, she's home. 916 00:43:36,240 --> 00:43:38,200 I'm going to, before she gets out of the car. 917 00:43:38,200 --> 00:43:39,200 Yeah. 918 00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:40,200 I mean, and Sebastian. 919 00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:41,200 Yeah. 920 00:43:41,200 --> 00:43:43,880 You want to go for a ride with your sister. 921 00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:50,720 And so she took him for a cruise in her new little car and they're going to have two totally 922 00:43:50,720 --> 00:43:51,720 different memories. 923 00:43:51,720 --> 00:43:52,720 Yep. 924 00:43:52,720 --> 00:43:55,720 But the fact is that they were together. 925 00:43:55,720 --> 00:43:56,720 They were together. 926 00:43:56,720 --> 00:43:58,520 I don't remember the rest. 927 00:43:58,520 --> 00:43:59,520 Yep. 928 00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:05,000 We were together because some of my greatest memories, squishy. 929 00:44:05,000 --> 00:44:09,280 I am, I am squishy today. 930 00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:10,400 And that's okay. 931 00:44:10,400 --> 00:44:19,440 One of my absolute greatest memories to this day is my brother came home from the army 932 00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:28,960 and he had a doom buggy and it was cold and rainy, but he still wanted to take his little 933 00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:33,360 sister on a ride in a doom buggy. 934 00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:39,880 And my lips were purple and I'm chattering and we're in the rain and we're getting wet 935 00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:42,640 and we're having the time of our lives. 936 00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:43,640 Yeah. 937 00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:49,000 Because we were together and I don't remember the rest. 938 00:44:49,000 --> 00:44:51,160 That's what, that's what life should be. 939 00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:52,160 It is. 940 00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:53,160 Yeah. 941 00:44:53,160 --> 00:44:55,480 That's how we, that's how our life should be with God. 942 00:44:55,480 --> 00:45:01,160 Like I just, I just want to be with you, God. 943 00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:03,720 Like we were together. 944 00:45:03,720 --> 00:45:05,500 You never left me or forsake. 945 00:45:05,500 --> 00:45:07,960 We were together all day today. 946 00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:09,960 We got to be together, God. 947 00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:11,600 I don't remember the rest. 948 00:45:11,600 --> 00:45:12,600 What did we do today? 949 00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:13,600 I don't know. 950 00:45:13,600 --> 00:45:17,000 Like we had experiences, we had adventures, we had journeys. 951 00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:18,480 We actually enjoyed the journey. 952 00:45:18,480 --> 00:45:19,480 Yeah. 953 00:45:19,480 --> 00:45:23,040 But I don't, I don't remember much more than that, but I just, I remember you. 954 00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:25,560 I remember it was good. 955 00:45:25,560 --> 00:45:28,680 I remember here's all four of us. 956 00:45:28,680 --> 00:45:30,000 Well five, because we had sparks. 957 00:45:30,000 --> 00:45:31,000 We had sparks. 958 00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:33,520 But it's like, I don't remember the rest. 959 00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:34,520 Yeah. 960 00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:35,520 But it was good. 961 00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:36,520 It was. 962 00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:37,520 It was good. 963 00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:38,520 Yeah. 964 00:45:38,520 --> 00:45:39,600 This is a good one. 965 00:45:39,600 --> 00:45:41,840 I like this. 966 00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:43,280 Just crying. 967 00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:44,280 Yeah. 968 00:45:44,280 --> 00:45:49,300 Great is thy faithfulness, God. 969 00:45:49,300 --> 00:45:50,760 Yes. 970 00:45:50,760 --> 00:45:54,160 And the many more adventures to come. 971 00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:55,160 Yes. 972 00:45:55,160 --> 00:45:56,160 Grateful. 973 00:45:56,160 --> 00:45:57,160 Very. 974 00:45:57,160 --> 00:45:58,160 Grateful heart. 975 00:45:58,160 --> 00:46:02,580 Just a grateful heart. 976 00:46:02,580 --> 00:46:05,200 So take the memories, take the moments. 977 00:46:05,200 --> 00:46:11,240 Don't, don't get so caught up on maybe the things that you don't know. 978 00:46:11,240 --> 00:46:13,240 Celebrate each other's highlights. 979 00:46:13,240 --> 00:46:18,840 I think that might be, need to be your title. 980 00:46:18,840 --> 00:46:20,160 Okay. 981 00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:21,960 Celebrate each other's highlights. 982 00:46:21,960 --> 00:46:23,480 Yeah. 983 00:46:23,480 --> 00:46:28,960 And on that note, have the best week. 984 00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:51,920 Enjoy the journey.