1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:13,440 Hello and welcome back to another episode of Upfront and Undivided with Luke and Dean'na. 2 00:00:13,440 --> 00:00:14,440 Hi. 3 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:15,440 Hi. 4 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:16,440 How's it going? 5 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:17,440 It's good. 6 00:00:17,440 --> 00:00:18,440 I was looking over, you saw me. 7 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:19,440 I did. 8 00:00:19,440 --> 00:00:21,280 You were like, what are you looking at, babe? 9 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:25,960 I'm literally looking at your book, Strength Finders, thinking, I need to read that. 10 00:00:25,960 --> 00:00:30,600 And then I was looking at your devotional on the floor, The Hero's Journey, and I was 11 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:33,840 like, oh, I wonder how that's going or if that's going. 12 00:00:33,840 --> 00:00:34,840 It's not. 13 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:35,840 It's not? 14 00:00:35,840 --> 00:00:36,840 It's not. 15 00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:37,840 Okay. 16 00:00:37,840 --> 00:00:38,840 That's okay. 17 00:00:38,840 --> 00:00:39,840 I haven't touched it. 18 00:00:39,840 --> 00:00:40,840 Okay. 19 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:41,840 I'm going to grab that book though. 20 00:00:41,840 --> 00:00:42,840 Yeah. 21 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:45,680 Because I was thinking that I know that we bought some books and I need to start doing 22 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:59,280 some reading and strategizing and developing my skill sets and things like that. 23 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:06,160 All the big words, all the fancy lingo for when we help people in their relationships. 24 00:01:06,160 --> 00:01:07,160 So but Strength Finder. 25 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:10,880 And to be ready for when I take the class. 26 00:01:10,880 --> 00:01:11,880 Yes. 27 00:01:11,880 --> 00:01:15,360 Because if you tell me when, I'll make it happen. 28 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:16,360 I'll sign you up. 29 00:01:16,360 --> 00:01:17,360 We'll get you going. 30 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:18,360 Yeah, you will. 31 00:01:18,360 --> 00:01:21,640 But yeah, that's what you saw me looking at. 32 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:22,640 So yeah. 33 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:23,640 How are you doing? 34 00:01:23,640 --> 00:01:24,640 I'm good. 35 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:25,640 See, I thought you were looking at Sparks. 36 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:26,640 Oh, well Sparks is here too. 37 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:27,640 She was making noise and licking herself. 38 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:32,160 And then all of a sudden I started talking and she's like, what's going on? 39 00:01:32,160 --> 00:01:33,160 Yeah. 40 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:34,160 Why is dad talking? 41 00:01:34,160 --> 00:01:35,160 What's going on? 42 00:01:35,160 --> 00:01:36,160 Why are you talking like that, dad? 43 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:37,160 Yeah. 44 00:01:37,160 --> 00:01:39,120 And she gets to, babe, she gets to, you have news with her. 45 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:40,120 I do. 46 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:41,120 She passed her test. 47 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:42,120 Yay. 48 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:48,680 So she is, yeah, she's about to get rid of her in training patches and just be regular 49 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:49,680 service dog patches. 50 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:53,760 And then we get to do the graduation, you said, like at the end of the month? 51 00:01:53,760 --> 00:01:54,760 No. 52 00:01:54,760 --> 00:01:55,760 Or October? 53 00:01:55,760 --> 00:01:57,560 No, sometime in, I think they're aiming for sometime in November. 54 00:01:57,560 --> 00:01:58,560 Oh, okay. 55 00:01:58,560 --> 00:01:59,560 Is the talk. 56 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:00,560 Okay. 57 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:01,560 So yeah. 58 00:02:01,560 --> 00:02:05,280 So that's when the little get recognized and stuff. 59 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:10,440 Maybe we can borrow your friend's little diploma hat that his dog had, because that was super 60 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:11,440 cute. 61 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:13,160 I'm not sure she would go for that though. 62 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:14,160 Maybe. 63 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:15,160 I don't know. 64 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:16,160 And then she's got new jewelry. 65 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:18,120 I surprised you with new jewelry for her. 66 00:02:18,120 --> 00:02:19,880 So she's got a little dog collar. 67 00:02:19,880 --> 00:02:20,880 Yep. 68 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:21,880 Or not collar, dog tag. 69 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:23,200 Dog tag that has her name on it. 70 00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:27,560 And then on the back it says, I'm my person service dog. 71 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:32,000 If I go missing, please, you know, basically give me back. 72 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:33,000 Yeah. 73 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:34,000 So yeah. 74 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:35,000 Yeah. 75 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:36,000 Just very sweet. 76 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:38,440 Which kind of along those lines, I've seen a couple of people that have stickers on the 77 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:39,440 back of their cars. 78 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:40,440 Yeah. 79 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:43,520 And it basically says, a service dog on board. 80 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:44,520 Oh. 81 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:45,520 Do not separate from handler. 82 00:02:45,520 --> 00:02:46,520 Wow. 83 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:47,520 Yeah. 84 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:48,520 Oh, I love that. 85 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:49,520 Yeah. 86 00:02:49,520 --> 00:02:51,960 Oh, it makes me think of that reel. 87 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:56,880 Was it you that sent it or I sent it to you where there was a dog that was chasing an ambulance 88 00:02:56,880 --> 00:03:00,960 and then they finally figured out that it was the person's dog that was trying to be 89 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:01,960 with the owner. 90 00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:02,960 Gosh, that's so sweet. 91 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:03,960 I like that. 92 00:03:03,960 --> 00:03:05,440 Maybe we need to get one of those for you. 93 00:03:05,440 --> 00:03:07,440 That would be sweet. 94 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:10,360 Oh, it's your, it's your. 95 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:11,360 Your person. 96 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:14,840 She's not a person, but she's a person. 97 00:03:14,840 --> 00:03:17,720 And she's her and I are starting to become more. 98 00:03:17,720 --> 00:03:19,080 We like each other more. 99 00:03:19,080 --> 00:03:20,080 Yes. 100 00:03:20,080 --> 00:03:25,440 Where before it seemed like there was a little bit of a competition and I'm like, listen, 101 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:28,920 girlfriend, she's understanding her place and that's good. 102 00:03:28,920 --> 00:03:30,240 She's sweet. 103 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:36,840 So we have not been here for two, almost three weeks, three weeks. 104 00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:37,840 So hi guys. 105 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:38,840 Hi. 106 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:43,560 So do we want to kind of get a quick update about maybe what's been going on in our lives? 107 00:03:43,560 --> 00:03:44,560 I think so. 108 00:03:44,560 --> 00:03:45,560 Yeah. 109 00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:46,560 Okay. 110 00:03:46,560 --> 00:03:48,840 It's like, I hate to use the excuse of life happened, but you know what? 111 00:03:48,840 --> 00:03:49,840 Life happened. 112 00:03:49,840 --> 00:03:55,240 I think, I think, and I don't know if I've said this before, but I think when we say 113 00:03:55,240 --> 00:03:59,520 this because even in the real, like me and the girls, we have taken a little bit of a 114 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:04,200 hiatus and said that, you know, life is happening. 115 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:11,440 I think what it does is it gives people permission to reprioritize because this is another thing 116 00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:13,480 of we don't want to. 117 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:16,080 It's not a thing of we're getting lazy. 118 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:25,000 It's a thing of when things get a little extra and there's a lot happening, then we give 119 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:27,200 you permission to reprioritize. 120 00:04:27,200 --> 00:04:32,600 And if, if this podcast happens to be the thing that gets to be put on the back burner, 121 00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:36,680 then that then so be it because our family comes first. 122 00:04:36,680 --> 00:04:38,360 Our mental health comes first. 123 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:42,120 Our, our wellbeing, just baseball. 124 00:04:42,120 --> 00:04:43,120 We got all of it. 125 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:45,240 Just everything's we're kind of in the thick of everything. 126 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:46,240 Just celebrated. 127 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:47,240 There was a family vacation. 128 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:49,560 There was about to be a family funeral. 129 00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:50,560 Yeah. 130 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:51,560 Yeah. 131 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:52,560 School started. 132 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:53,560 School started. 133 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:54,560 Baseball started again. 134 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:56,520 Our beautiful girl turned 20. 135 00:04:56,520 --> 00:04:57,520 Yeah. 136 00:04:57,520 --> 00:04:58,880 Birthdays, all the things. 137 00:04:58,880 --> 00:05:00,360 That's where the family vacation came in. 138 00:05:00,360 --> 00:05:03,760 But yeah, just a lot of, a lot of everything. 139 00:05:03,760 --> 00:05:04,760 Yeah. 140 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:10,120 And, and just, and in the process, some physical health, some mental health. 141 00:05:10,120 --> 00:05:11,120 Yeah. 142 00:05:11,120 --> 00:05:12,120 Just all of it. 143 00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:13,120 Just all of it. 144 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:19,560 And, and it's okay to say, Hey, I'm shooting off a flare or I'm just putting a quick little 145 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:21,640 pause right here. 146 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:24,840 I even suggested to you, Hey babe, do we just want to take a second? 147 00:05:24,840 --> 00:05:26,960 And you were like, Nope, because then we'll stop. 148 00:05:26,960 --> 00:05:30,240 And then we will try to, it'll be hard to get back on the train. 149 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:37,720 So we appreciate you guys being patient with us, but yeah, I lost, I lost my stepsister. 150 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:39,000 Is that, what is this babe? 151 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:40,360 Like when was that? 152 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:42,880 Is it a week ago? 153 00:05:42,880 --> 00:05:43,880 A week ago? 154 00:05:43,880 --> 00:05:44,880 Yes. 155 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:45,880 A week ago. 156 00:05:45,880 --> 00:05:46,880 Actually, yes. 157 00:05:46,880 --> 00:05:50,340 A week ago, 12 at 12 something. 158 00:05:50,340 --> 00:05:56,560 My nephew made the hard decision of basically saying, taking her off life support. 159 00:05:56,560 --> 00:06:01,600 Let's take her off life support because she would not be able to breathe on her own. 160 00:06:01,600 --> 00:06:03,080 And that's no way of living. 161 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:11,040 And so unfortunately at the age of 59, which is insanely young, you know, my sister now 162 00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:15,320 gets to walk out of this world and walk right into the arms of Jesus. 163 00:06:15,320 --> 00:06:22,400 And then we just came across yesterday was our beautiful girl's 20th birthday. 164 00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:28,840 It's also the anniversary of Papa Charlie's death. 165 00:06:28,840 --> 00:06:31,760 And that came up on my memories. 166 00:06:31,760 --> 00:06:38,560 And it was like, just taking that time to just kind of, sometimes you got to give yourself 167 00:06:38,560 --> 00:06:40,600 space to feel. 168 00:06:40,600 --> 00:06:46,920 And I would say that you, the kids, friends, really close friends, good friends have been 169 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:50,160 giving me a chance to just feel. 170 00:06:50,160 --> 00:06:56,360 And then you are, today was your first day in your new position as far as a project at 171 00:06:56,360 --> 00:06:57,360 work. 172 00:06:57,360 --> 00:07:02,720 And that is now officially has been, it has been, it's not even it is, but it has been 173 00:07:02,720 --> 00:07:05,760 consuming your brain. 174 00:07:05,760 --> 00:07:11,960 And so now we get to just stand back and say, okay, father, how would you like to move forward 175 00:07:11,960 --> 00:07:12,960 on this? 176 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:15,480 And so we, we're back. 177 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:16,480 So we're here. 178 00:07:16,480 --> 00:07:17,480 We're here. 179 00:07:17,480 --> 00:07:20,160 A lot is happening. 180 00:07:20,160 --> 00:07:24,400 And again, we just, you know, it's okay. 181 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:28,280 It's okay to just say, Hey, there's days where you have to trudge through. 182 00:07:28,280 --> 00:07:32,240 And then there's other days where you have to say, no time out. 183 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:35,120 I'm going to take a quick break, but I promise I'll be right back. 184 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:39,240 Cause I mean, in a way that's kind of what we were going to talk about today. 185 00:07:39,240 --> 00:07:45,200 I'm going to, I'm going to throw out the title real quick or at least the working title. 186 00:07:45,200 --> 00:07:50,780 And then I'm going to kind of explain some more, or at least kind of talk some more. 187 00:07:50,780 --> 00:07:53,560 But it's like, I keep wanting to call this like the covering. 188 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:54,560 Okay. 189 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:59,920 It's like, I know that it doesn't really, it does, but it doesn't really encompass what 190 00:07:59,920 --> 00:08:00,920 we want to talk about. 191 00:08:00,920 --> 00:08:07,920 But I kind of want to talk about it, you know, because real quick, it's like, you know, us 192 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:12,920 being married, you know, we are covering each other, you know, it's, you know, in a way, 193 00:08:12,920 --> 00:08:18,040 especially as me, as the husband, as the father, as the head of the house, it's that, that 194 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:23,840 covering is, you know, mandated by God basically, you know, that's, that's the role that I get 195 00:08:23,840 --> 00:08:24,840 to step into. 196 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:27,040 Those are the duties that I get to assume. 197 00:08:27,040 --> 00:08:28,040 Yeah. 198 00:08:28,040 --> 00:08:34,600 Um, you know, and, and I, for this thing from, I am not complaining. 199 00:08:34,600 --> 00:08:37,320 I would not take it back for the world. 200 00:08:37,320 --> 00:08:41,080 Um, you know, but it's, it's a reality. 201 00:08:41,080 --> 00:08:42,880 It's something that I get to do. 202 00:08:42,880 --> 00:08:53,280 And as, as much as I want to excel at everything that I put my hand in my mind to, um, you 203 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:57,240 know, I told you just a little while ago, I mean, we went for a walk earlier and I told 204 00:08:57,240 --> 00:09:02,360 you, it's like, there are days, a lot, a lot of days lately, I feel like I'm just surviving. 205 00:09:02,360 --> 00:09:03,360 Yeah. 206 00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:07,920 You know, it's like, I'm still doing what I need to do, but barely. 207 00:09:07,920 --> 00:09:08,920 Yeah. 208 00:09:08,920 --> 00:09:13,400 It's like, you know, it's like, when you go to, you know, get the, the progress report 209 00:09:13,400 --> 00:09:17,000 for your kids, you know, at school, it's like, you know, meets expectations, you know, it's 210 00:09:17,000 --> 00:09:21,720 like, I'm meeting expectations, you know, I'm not, I'm not surpassing, but right now 211 00:09:21,720 --> 00:09:22,960 I am meeting expectations. 212 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:23,960 Yeah. 213 00:09:23,960 --> 00:09:26,240 You know, I'm at a three and a five. 214 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:27,240 Yeah. 215 00:09:27,240 --> 00:09:33,760 So, um, you know, but it's like, as much as I want to get down on myself for that, it's 216 00:09:33,760 --> 00:09:41,440 like, I also want to say it's okay, as long as that's not where you're at always. 217 00:09:41,440 --> 00:09:42,440 Correct. 218 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:43,440 Correct. 219 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:47,840 You know, if, if, if, if there are moments, if, you know, hopefully they're as short as 220 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:54,920 possible, but you know, if there are seasons where so much is going on, that that's where 221 00:09:54,920 --> 00:09:59,280 you're at, it's like, I think again, it's kind of like you said earlier, it's like people 222 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:06,520 need that permission to, it's okay to, you know, I don't want to say it's okay to be 223 00:10:06,520 --> 00:10:11,600 in survival mode because that's not good, but just like, you know, to be meeting the 224 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:12,600 standard. 225 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:13,600 Yeah. 226 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:18,680 You know, it's okay for, you know, if stuff's going on and it's like, I am meeting the standard, 227 00:10:18,680 --> 00:10:20,800 you know, it's like, I'm a horrible parent. 228 00:10:20,800 --> 00:10:24,040 My kids didn't get out of the PJs or brush their hair today. 229 00:10:24,040 --> 00:10:25,040 It's like, you know what? 230 00:10:25,040 --> 00:10:26,040 That would be our son. 231 00:10:26,040 --> 00:10:27,040 That would be our son today. 232 00:10:27,040 --> 00:10:28,040 Yeah. 233 00:10:28,040 --> 00:10:31,200 And it's, it's okay because he didn't have school. 234 00:10:31,200 --> 00:10:32,200 Correct. 235 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:34,640 You know, we didn't really have anywhere we needed to go today. 236 00:10:34,640 --> 00:10:35,640 No. 237 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:40,920 You know, I work from home, you being a sub, you didn't have school today, obviously, you 238 00:10:40,920 --> 00:10:43,400 know, you didn't have any clients to go clean today. 239 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:44,400 Right. 240 00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:45,400 You know, so it's like, we were home. 241 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:46,400 I had a doctor appointment, but that was it. 242 00:10:46,400 --> 00:10:47,400 Yeah. 243 00:10:47,400 --> 00:10:48,400 Yeah. 244 00:10:48,400 --> 00:10:51,480 You had a doctor appointment, but, but you know, for the most part we are a home. 245 00:10:51,480 --> 00:10:52,480 Yeah. 246 00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:56,080 Even our daughter got a chance to just, everybody was just home today, which was nice. 247 00:10:56,080 --> 00:10:59,920 I mean, even me working from home, I was basically in PJs. 248 00:10:59,920 --> 00:11:00,920 Yes. 249 00:11:00,920 --> 00:11:04,920 I'm going to have to up my game because they do a lot of video calls in this new position. 250 00:11:04,920 --> 00:11:07,680 I'm like, oh man, you're going to make me work for this. 251 00:11:07,680 --> 00:11:11,680 We're going to need to get you, I've already determined this, we're going to need to get 252 00:11:11,680 --> 00:11:15,000 you just a really nice looking Zippa Pudding. 253 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:16,000 Yeah. 254 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:17,120 It can't be your little cutoff one. 255 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:21,000 It's going to be, we're going to need to get you like a Mr. Rogers kind of Zippa Pudding. 256 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:22,000 Yeah. 257 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:24,000 Like a cardigan or like a, like a quarter zip. 258 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:26,120 Don't you have one? 259 00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:27,800 Don't we have one in the closet somewhere? 260 00:11:27,800 --> 00:11:29,000 I think I got rid of them. 261 00:11:29,000 --> 00:11:30,000 Okay. 262 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:31,000 Well then we need to get you another one. 263 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:32,000 Yeah. 264 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:33,000 Yeah. 265 00:11:33,000 --> 00:11:34,680 Cause a lot of times I don't like quarter zips cause they mess with my beard. 266 00:11:34,680 --> 00:11:40,800 I will say let's get you just a cardigan that you can just throw it over even if it's just 267 00:11:40,800 --> 00:11:44,600 a t-shirt and it will literally just dress you up just enough. 268 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:45,600 I think that would be nice. 269 00:11:45,600 --> 00:11:46,600 Yeah. 270 00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:47,600 I think so. 271 00:11:47,600 --> 00:11:48,600 We get to go shopping. 272 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:51,600 I know where to go. 273 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:56,120 Sorry. 274 00:11:56,120 --> 00:12:01,560 You know, but again, it is, it's, it's so it's, you know, we didn't do anything above 275 00:12:01,560 --> 00:12:06,000 and beyond, you know, but again, you know, it's kids were fed. 276 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:07,000 Yeah. 277 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:08,800 We're taken care of those getting paid. 278 00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:09,800 Yeah. 279 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:10,800 We, we worked. 280 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:11,800 Yes. 281 00:12:11,800 --> 00:12:13,360 You know, we, we did what we needed to do today. 282 00:12:13,360 --> 00:12:14,360 Yeah. 283 00:12:14,360 --> 00:12:16,440 Rested from the weekend. 284 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:17,440 We rested from the weekend. 285 00:12:17,440 --> 00:12:23,040 We had birthday parties and we had family and we had, we've been busy. 286 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:24,040 Yeah. 287 00:12:24,040 --> 00:12:25,040 Yeah. 288 00:12:25,040 --> 00:12:26,040 Yeah. 289 00:12:26,040 --> 00:12:30,400 And it's, and it's I, in the words of literally God and in the words of like my sweet brother, 290 00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:32,800 like it is good to have a day of rest. 291 00:12:32,800 --> 00:12:38,280 You just, you have to, you just have to take that time to recharge. 292 00:12:38,280 --> 00:12:41,440 Ours just happens to land on it depending on the week. 293 00:12:41,440 --> 00:12:42,440 It depends on the day. 294 00:12:42,440 --> 00:12:43,440 Yeah. 295 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:49,960 And I am grateful that today got to be a day just to kind of like laundry and got things 296 00:12:49,960 --> 00:12:52,840 done and cleaned up from the party and just the stuff. 297 00:12:52,840 --> 00:12:57,800 But it was, and like you said, and you got to meet your new coworkers and you got to 298 00:12:57,800 --> 00:13:06,640 meet people and it's, but it's been a very, not even laid back, I think an easy day. 299 00:13:06,640 --> 00:13:08,080 It's been a very nice day. 300 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:09,760 It has been a very nice day. 301 00:13:09,760 --> 00:13:10,760 Yeah. 302 00:13:10,760 --> 00:13:11,760 Yeah. 303 00:13:11,760 --> 00:13:17,920 And I understand the, sometimes you get stuck in that space. 304 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:22,520 There's I would consider some, some places are ruts, ruts or something you have to like, 305 00:13:22,520 --> 00:13:26,120 you have to be very intentional not to get yourself out of. 306 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:32,520 And then I believe that there's other seasons of our lives where we, we have to, it's, it's 307 00:13:32,520 --> 00:13:34,880 okay for us to kind of take a breath. 308 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:38,880 Like when people talk about the race of life, right? 309 00:13:38,880 --> 00:13:44,120 It's not a sprint, it's a marathon and you have to have a cadence to that at times. 310 00:13:44,120 --> 00:13:49,680 And sometimes your cadence seems mundane and sometimes it seems like it's just, or it's, 311 00:13:49,680 --> 00:13:52,280 you know, I feel like I'm trudging literally through mud. 312 00:13:52,280 --> 00:13:54,440 What do I do? 313 00:13:54,440 --> 00:14:03,120 I saw a meme and it said, a dear person reading this, if all you did today was wake up and 314 00:14:03,120 --> 00:14:05,520 breathe, good job. 315 00:14:05,520 --> 00:14:12,720 You know, because you're taking the time, even if it's just that time to say, okay, 316 00:14:12,720 --> 00:14:16,600 I'm having to re, I'm going to have to rework some stuff now. 317 00:14:16,600 --> 00:14:21,480 I'm working with new people or I have a new schedule or maybe my health isn't quite what 318 00:14:21,480 --> 00:14:22,480 it needs to be. 319 00:14:22,480 --> 00:14:24,440 I need to start doing some things to help better. 320 00:14:24,440 --> 00:14:31,100 I need to, you know, and it's like, strategizing, learning how to re strategize certain parts 321 00:14:31,100 --> 00:14:32,100 of your life. 322 00:14:32,100 --> 00:14:35,480 And I believe I do babe with everything in me. 323 00:14:35,480 --> 00:14:38,000 I believe that that's the season that we're in right now. 324 00:14:38,000 --> 00:14:41,800 It's re strategizing, finding out what that next step is. 325 00:14:41,800 --> 00:14:47,600 And there are some things that are just every day and they're just going to be every day. 326 00:14:47,600 --> 00:14:52,880 Our beautiful girl, she unfortunately sometimes gets caught up in, you know, the next big 327 00:14:52,880 --> 00:14:53,880 thing. 328 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:59,160 And it's like, sweetheart, it's just that it's the everyday, it's the everyday disciplines. 329 00:14:59,160 --> 00:15:01,400 It's the everyday getting in your word. 330 00:15:01,400 --> 00:15:05,040 It's the everyday going outside. 331 00:15:05,040 --> 00:15:06,040 It's the everyday choices. 332 00:15:06,040 --> 00:15:07,040 It's the everyday choices. 333 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:11,960 You know, it's the, you know, it is, it's the, it's the choice to get up in the morning. 334 00:15:11,960 --> 00:15:17,160 It's the choice to, you know, get dressed, you know, even if, even her who pretty much 335 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:21,640 has a uniform, you know, she doesn't get to really pick what she wears for the day. 336 00:15:21,640 --> 00:15:24,440 Which in my mind, I'm like, thank you Jesus for that. 337 00:15:24,440 --> 00:15:25,440 Right? 338 00:15:25,440 --> 00:15:26,440 Yes. 339 00:15:26,440 --> 00:15:28,160 See, she could do it. 340 00:15:28,160 --> 00:15:29,160 Yes. 341 00:15:29,160 --> 00:15:30,160 Yes, she could. 342 00:15:30,160 --> 00:15:36,360 You know, but, you know, it's, it's the choice to, you know, I'm going to get dressed. 343 00:15:36,360 --> 00:15:39,960 I'm going to, you know, wash my face, I'm going to do my hair. 344 00:15:39,960 --> 00:15:45,520 I'm going to, you know, drive safe, I'm going to, you know, the choice to leave on time. 345 00:15:45,520 --> 00:15:46,520 Yes. 346 00:15:46,520 --> 00:15:48,160 You know, it's, it's all these little choices. 347 00:15:48,160 --> 00:15:53,920 And that's, you know, I think that's what it is is a lot of it is, it's the little choices. 348 00:15:53,920 --> 00:15:56,040 It's the little choices we make. 349 00:15:56,040 --> 00:16:01,040 even as the covering, to kind of go back to that, 350 00:16:02,160 --> 00:16:06,900 because part of our conversation earlier was 351 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:12,720 with that covering, and it's like, 352 00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:15,680 as much as my covering goes over our family, 353 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:17,880 it almost feels like your covering goes 354 00:16:17,880 --> 00:16:20,520 almost like under or through our family. 355 00:16:20,520 --> 00:16:21,360 I'd agree with that. 356 00:16:21,360 --> 00:16:24,240 You know, it's like, I know sometimes they talk about how, 357 00:16:24,240 --> 00:16:26,440 yes, the man is the head of the household, 358 00:16:26,440 --> 00:16:29,240 but the woman is the thermostat, you know, type thing. 359 00:16:29,240 --> 00:16:31,680 And it's like, that does, that helps make sense, 360 00:16:31,680 --> 00:16:34,220 because the covering under or through, 361 00:16:34,220 --> 00:16:37,340 it's like, it helps tell the temperature of the family. 362 00:16:37,340 --> 00:16:38,720 It helps tell the mood of the family. 363 00:16:38,720 --> 00:16:41,600 I mean, so often when something is going on, 364 00:16:41,600 --> 00:16:42,840 you're the one that's like, you know, 365 00:16:42,840 --> 00:16:45,560 hey, I know you didn't catch this, 366 00:16:45,560 --> 00:16:47,280 but here's what's going on right now in the house. 367 00:16:47,280 --> 00:16:48,120 Okay, cool. 368 00:16:48,120 --> 00:16:50,760 And it's not because I don't pay attention, 369 00:16:50,760 --> 00:16:53,440 it's just because I don't pick up on some of those signals, 370 00:16:53,440 --> 00:16:57,240 or I'm not hearing those conversations 371 00:16:57,240 --> 00:16:58,600 that they'll come to you and have. 372 00:16:58,600 --> 00:17:00,800 You know, it's like, okay, you know, it's like, 373 00:17:00,800 --> 00:17:03,720 I'm here to steer the ship, and you're, you know, 374 00:17:03,720 --> 00:17:05,640 doing the trim or something like that, you know? 375 00:17:05,640 --> 00:17:08,000 And it's, but it's like, 376 00:17:09,920 --> 00:17:13,360 I think it's important to remember in marriage, 377 00:17:13,360 --> 00:17:17,440 you know, in a marriage, in this relationship, 378 00:17:17,440 --> 00:17:22,440 that because I'm providing the covering 379 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:26,320 that I'm providing, you're able to provide 380 00:17:26,320 --> 00:17:27,360 what you're providing. 381 00:17:27,360 --> 00:17:28,200 Correct. 382 00:17:28,200 --> 00:17:30,840 You know, it's, you know, because we had a conversation 383 00:17:30,840 --> 00:17:33,880 of, you know, for six, seven years, you were a single mom. 384 00:17:33,880 --> 00:17:34,720 Yeah, yeah. 385 00:17:34,720 --> 00:17:39,720 And as much as nowadays, I know that you can do things, 386 00:17:40,720 --> 00:17:42,720 you truly appreciate that you don't have to. 387 00:17:42,720 --> 00:17:43,760 I don't have to, yeah. 388 00:17:43,760 --> 00:17:48,760 You know, or, you know, or it's like, you know, 389 00:17:49,080 --> 00:17:52,080 when I went to Puerto Rico for 45 days 390 00:17:52,080 --> 00:17:54,960 for that deployment, you know, it was like, 391 00:17:54,960 --> 00:17:59,120 even though I wasn't home physically, 392 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:02,560 doing and being what I am, 393 00:18:03,560 --> 00:18:05,280 because we had that connection, 394 00:18:05,280 --> 00:18:07,960 I was still able to spiritually, 395 00:18:09,080 --> 00:18:13,760 and in a way financially also, provide that covering 396 00:18:13,760 --> 00:18:18,760 so that you could continue in who and what you are 397 00:18:18,960 --> 00:18:20,800 and what you've been designed to be. 398 00:18:20,800 --> 00:18:21,720 Yes. 399 00:18:21,720 --> 00:18:24,880 So all of a sudden, it wasn't like, okay, well, 400 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:27,160 okay, we're married, married, married for 45 days, 401 00:18:27,160 --> 00:18:29,440 you're a single mom, and we're married again. 402 00:18:29,440 --> 00:18:30,280 Right, right. 403 00:18:30,280 --> 00:18:32,800 You know, it was just, it was seamless. 404 00:18:32,800 --> 00:18:37,040 Right, because there's, you got that spiritual tie, 405 00:18:37,040 --> 00:18:39,340 is what's going on there, and it was like, 406 00:18:40,720 --> 00:18:43,200 when we were talking about it, because again, 407 00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:45,360 it was something, it was a conversation 408 00:18:45,360 --> 00:18:47,880 that had been brought up, and it was, 409 00:18:47,880 --> 00:18:50,640 the person that we were talking to basically was saying, 410 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:54,720 you know, like, they're gone all the time, 411 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:57,280 so I feel like I could do this by myself. 412 00:18:57,280 --> 00:19:02,280 And I didn't say this until after we finished talking, 413 00:19:02,520 --> 00:19:04,800 and I was like, okay, I need to make sure 414 00:19:04,800 --> 00:19:07,940 that this is a conversation that I continue to have, 415 00:19:09,000 --> 00:19:11,680 because the revelation came as we are walking, 416 00:19:11,680 --> 00:19:14,560 and I was like, when I was a single mom, 417 00:19:16,440 --> 00:19:18,960 it was hard, right? 418 00:19:18,960 --> 00:19:22,320 It wasn't until I allowed God to become my covering 419 00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:28,200 in that space that life was fairly good for Gabriel and I, 420 00:19:28,880 --> 00:19:32,840 and I really appreciate that our beautiful girl 421 00:19:32,840 --> 00:19:35,880 acknowledges that, that she understands, 422 00:19:35,880 --> 00:19:38,960 because she, even again, it's like every birthday 423 00:19:38,960 --> 00:19:42,040 it seems to bring this up, which is kind of funny to me, 424 00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:45,680 but every birthday she'll say, you know, 425 00:19:45,680 --> 00:19:47,200 I'll always say, Gabriel, like, 426 00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:50,280 you never go without, sweetie, it's constant, 427 00:19:50,280 --> 00:19:52,360 like, you always have, and she says, 428 00:19:52,360 --> 00:19:54,240 I never understood that, Mom, 429 00:19:54,240 --> 00:19:55,960 because I'm decorating the dining room, 430 00:19:55,960 --> 00:19:58,320 getting ready for the family, and Gabriel's talking, right? 431 00:19:58,320 --> 00:20:00,640 And she's like, remember, Mom, 432 00:20:00,640 --> 00:20:02,200 I had all the Justice clothes, 433 00:20:02,200 --> 00:20:04,880 and all my friends wanted to get my clothes 434 00:20:04,880 --> 00:20:06,600 when I started out growing it. 435 00:20:06,600 --> 00:20:08,060 And she was, how did that even happen, 436 00:20:08,060 --> 00:20:11,480 because you were a single mom, and we were struggling, 437 00:20:11,480 --> 00:20:12,960 but I didn't know we were struggling, 438 00:20:12,960 --> 00:20:14,640 and I said, because I did without, 439 00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:17,040 or I would just go to the thrift store, 440 00:20:17,040 --> 00:20:20,240 and I just had the same clothes forever. 441 00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:22,120 I mean, you know, you've seen my closet, 442 00:20:22,120 --> 00:20:24,560 I still have some clothes from forever. 443 00:20:24,560 --> 00:20:25,400 Hey, guess how long I've had this? 444 00:20:25,400 --> 00:20:27,000 Yeah, like, this is back in high school, 445 00:20:27,000 --> 00:20:28,360 like, you know, this is crazy. 446 00:20:28,360 --> 00:20:32,000 So, but it's one of those where, you know, 447 00:20:32,000 --> 00:20:37,000 and just understanding that God being the covering there, 448 00:20:38,420 --> 00:20:43,420 the thing that I did want to say was, because this, you know, 449 00:20:43,420 --> 00:20:47,100 when this person said this, I was standing back, 450 00:20:47,100 --> 00:20:49,540 and I was thinking, I believe that the reason why 451 00:20:49,540 --> 00:20:51,460 you feel so confident in this, 452 00:20:51,460 --> 00:20:54,100 because I very much, listen, I very much encourage them, 453 00:20:54,100 --> 00:20:56,900 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, don't go down this road, 454 00:20:56,900 --> 00:21:00,660 okay, don't go, trust me from somebody that is in this space, 455 00:21:00,660 --> 00:21:02,420 don't go down this road. 456 00:21:03,380 --> 00:21:07,840 But it's one of those where I believe 457 00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:10,020 that the reason why people, 458 00:21:10,020 --> 00:21:11,980 this is where the enemy comes in, 459 00:21:11,980 --> 00:21:15,580 and he messes with you, because it's like, 460 00:21:15,580 --> 00:21:19,280 so say you have, you know, your spouse is deployed, 461 00:21:19,280 --> 00:21:24,080 or you have a 45 days, your husband is on a completely 462 00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:26,340 different continent, kind of scenario. 463 00:21:26,340 --> 00:21:30,540 You know, every Tuesday through Friday, 464 00:21:30,540 --> 00:21:32,060 they have to fly out of town for work. 465 00:21:32,060 --> 00:21:32,980 That's it, right? 466 00:21:32,980 --> 00:21:35,780 It's like, how do you respond to these things? 467 00:21:35,780 --> 00:21:38,140 You know, do you all of a sudden live your life 468 00:21:38,140 --> 00:21:39,900 footloose, fancy free? 469 00:21:39,900 --> 00:21:42,300 Why do you feel so confident, 470 00:21:42,300 --> 00:21:45,060 even if they're separated out from that space? 471 00:21:45,060 --> 00:21:48,100 Well, it's because of the spiritual covenant 472 00:21:48,100 --> 00:21:49,700 that you have with this person. 473 00:21:50,660 --> 00:21:55,440 Whenever my first marriage, when I was separated out, 474 00:21:57,040 --> 00:22:00,020 number one, I love this term, 475 00:22:00,020 --> 00:22:02,680 somebody actually brought it up to me, 476 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:04,780 and said, what God has put together, 477 00:22:04,780 --> 00:22:06,540 let no man separate, right? 478 00:22:06,540 --> 00:22:09,380 And so, when they gave me that scripture, 479 00:22:09,380 --> 00:22:11,660 and they said, with my first marriage, 480 00:22:11,660 --> 00:22:14,100 it was on a God situation, so, 481 00:22:15,500 --> 00:22:17,180 God didn't have to follow through 482 00:22:17,180 --> 00:22:19,940 with blessing that marriage, because it wasn't. 483 00:22:19,940 --> 00:22:21,340 Because God didn't put it together. 484 00:22:21,340 --> 00:22:22,740 He didn't put it together. 485 00:22:22,740 --> 00:22:25,340 And I was like, dude, like that's, 486 00:22:25,340 --> 00:22:28,620 I would have to agree with that scenario. 487 00:22:28,620 --> 00:22:29,540 Were there good things? 488 00:22:29,540 --> 00:22:32,060 Yes, but were there not? 489 00:22:32,060 --> 00:22:40,060 Yeah, and so, it's like, when I separated myself from the junk, 490 00:22:40,260 --> 00:22:43,260 and from the stuff, from the sickness, 491 00:22:43,260 --> 00:22:44,820 let me say the sickness, okay, 492 00:22:44,820 --> 00:22:47,100 because it was just, it was bad. 493 00:22:47,100 --> 00:22:50,900 So, when I separated myself from the sickness, 494 00:22:50,900 --> 00:22:54,060 even my own sickness that I had got myself into, 495 00:22:54,060 --> 00:22:55,820 when I finally separated myself, 496 00:22:55,820 --> 00:22:58,260 that's when the blessings came. 497 00:22:58,260 --> 00:23:01,300 That's when, God, did he take care of us 498 00:23:01,300 --> 00:23:02,340 during that period of time? 499 00:23:02,340 --> 00:23:05,980 Yeah, but there was a security. 500 00:23:05,980 --> 00:23:10,380 There was a goodness there that lies there. 501 00:23:10,380 --> 00:23:15,380 And so, I would say, if you are somebody that is, 502 00:23:16,180 --> 00:23:19,580 maybe your spouse does have to take off for work. 503 00:23:19,580 --> 00:23:22,380 Maybe they're doing their best, 504 00:23:22,380 --> 00:23:24,740 and they're doing overtime somewhere, 505 00:23:24,740 --> 00:23:26,180 or they're trying to do whatever, 506 00:23:26,180 --> 00:23:28,260 and then all of a sudden, you're just standing back going, 507 00:23:28,260 --> 00:23:29,620 oh, it's just really peaceful. 508 00:23:29,620 --> 00:23:34,380 I can live without this person, those voices of the enemy. 509 00:23:34,380 --> 00:23:36,060 I want you to stop. 510 00:23:36,060 --> 00:23:39,620 I want you to stop, because part of the thing, 511 00:23:39,620 --> 00:23:43,460 unless there is tremendous amount of something, right? 512 00:23:43,460 --> 00:23:47,700 If there's some things that are needing to be fixed, 513 00:23:47,700 --> 00:23:50,780 if something is, if you're in a scary situation, 514 00:23:50,780 --> 00:23:52,460 by all means, get out of there. 515 00:23:52,460 --> 00:23:54,620 But that's not what we're talking about. 516 00:23:54,620 --> 00:23:56,540 We're talking about something that, you know, 517 00:23:56,540 --> 00:23:58,820 everybody is fine, everything is good. 518 00:23:58,820 --> 00:24:01,460 You might just be hitting, like what you said, baby. 519 00:24:01,460 --> 00:24:02,780 You might be just hitting a space 520 00:24:02,780 --> 00:24:05,060 where it just might be a little bit mundane. 521 00:24:05,060 --> 00:24:06,660 You might feel like you're just surviving. 522 00:24:06,660 --> 00:24:09,980 Or it just might be extra stressors of life. 523 00:24:09,980 --> 00:24:11,540 It's just extra stressors of life. 524 00:24:11,540 --> 00:24:13,900 Just might be a stressful season. 525 00:24:13,900 --> 00:24:15,300 That's it, that's it. 526 00:24:15,300 --> 00:24:17,460 Under, just take a breath. 527 00:24:17,460 --> 00:24:19,460 Like, I think that that's what you and I wanted 528 00:24:19,460 --> 00:24:20,980 to kind of share today. 529 00:24:20,980 --> 00:24:22,860 Like, take a breath. 530 00:24:22,860 --> 00:24:24,620 Take a breath, step back. 531 00:24:24,620 --> 00:24:29,340 Don't be so quick to say the D word. 532 00:24:29,340 --> 00:24:33,140 Don't be so quick to think, ooh, now I'm going to separate. 533 00:24:33,140 --> 00:24:35,700 Or don't be so quick to think that you can do this 534 00:24:35,700 --> 00:24:36,620 all on your own. 535 00:24:37,860 --> 00:24:42,860 Because it is, it's, do, you alluded to it, you said it. 536 00:24:43,020 --> 00:24:45,580 Could I do this by myself with the kids, babe? 537 00:24:45,580 --> 00:24:46,540 Yes. 538 00:24:46,540 --> 00:24:47,600 Do I want to? 539 00:24:48,540 --> 00:24:50,100 Hell no. 540 00:24:50,100 --> 00:24:53,220 Like, no, I don't want to, you know? 541 00:24:53,220 --> 00:24:56,620 Even in our hardest and worst days, and we've had them. 542 00:24:56,620 --> 00:24:59,340 And I'm sure that we'll still have some, right? 543 00:24:59,340 --> 00:25:00,820 Because you're stuck. 544 00:25:00,820 --> 00:25:01,660 Because we're in the world. 545 00:25:01,660 --> 00:25:03,820 We're in the world, and you're stuck with me. 546 00:25:03,820 --> 00:25:08,820 And it's one of those where, for better or for worse. 547 00:25:09,220 --> 00:25:12,980 For sickness and in health, richer or for poor, 548 00:25:12,980 --> 00:25:14,780 all of the things, right? 549 00:25:14,780 --> 00:25:16,060 All of the things. 550 00:25:16,060 --> 00:25:18,820 It's like, you're stuck with me. 551 00:25:18,820 --> 00:25:21,500 And we are going to figure this out. 552 00:25:21,500 --> 00:25:25,340 We're going to step back and say, and not, 553 00:25:25,340 --> 00:25:28,820 I think the number one thing is not point fingers 554 00:25:28,820 --> 00:25:31,460 at each other and go, you should be better. 555 00:25:31,460 --> 00:25:33,040 You should know better. 556 00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:34,220 You're the man of the house. 557 00:25:34,220 --> 00:25:35,340 Well, you're a godly man. 558 00:25:35,340 --> 00:25:38,500 You should, shut up. 559 00:25:38,500 --> 00:25:39,780 Shut up. 560 00:25:39,780 --> 00:25:42,140 Like, because you deal with stressors 561 00:25:42,140 --> 00:25:43,980 that I do not have to deal with. 562 00:25:43,980 --> 00:25:45,540 That I don't have to deal with. 563 00:25:45,540 --> 00:25:47,980 You take on things that I don't have to. 564 00:25:47,980 --> 00:25:49,540 And vice versa. 565 00:25:49,540 --> 00:25:52,740 There are things that I take on that you don't have to. 566 00:25:52,740 --> 00:25:55,380 So that way you can fixate and focus on the things 567 00:25:55,380 --> 00:25:56,860 that you need to. 568 00:25:56,860 --> 00:25:59,460 Stop playing competition. 569 00:25:59,460 --> 00:26:03,100 Stop sitting here trying to say 570 00:26:03,100 --> 00:26:04,900 that one is harder than the other, 571 00:26:04,900 --> 00:26:06,620 or one is less than the other. 572 00:26:06,620 --> 00:26:09,100 And remember that you're on the same team. 573 00:26:09,100 --> 00:26:12,080 And that, because when you told me today, 574 00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:14,020 as we're going for a walk, like you're like, 575 00:26:14,020 --> 00:26:15,980 babe, I just feel like I'm just, I'm just. 576 00:26:15,980 --> 00:26:16,820 Just surviving. 577 00:26:16,820 --> 00:26:17,640 I'm just surviving. 578 00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:19,580 I'm just doing this. 579 00:26:19,580 --> 00:26:20,420 What was it? 580 00:26:20,420 --> 00:26:21,500 First thing that came out of my mouth. 581 00:26:21,500 --> 00:26:22,500 What'd I say, babe? 582 00:26:24,220 --> 00:26:25,060 I don't remember. 583 00:26:25,060 --> 00:26:25,900 You don't remember. 584 00:26:25,900 --> 00:26:28,300 So that's part of my other problem. 585 00:26:28,300 --> 00:26:29,620 It's okay. 586 00:26:29,620 --> 00:26:30,940 It's okay. 587 00:26:30,940 --> 00:26:32,060 I just looked at you and I said, 588 00:26:32,060 --> 00:26:33,460 then what is it that I can do? 589 00:26:33,460 --> 00:26:35,260 What can I do to help? 590 00:26:35,260 --> 00:26:36,100 Yeah. 591 00:26:36,100 --> 00:26:37,580 What can I do? 592 00:26:37,580 --> 00:26:39,860 Is there something that I need to be doing? 593 00:26:39,860 --> 00:26:42,660 Do you need me to, because we do constantly. 594 00:26:42,660 --> 00:26:44,060 You're so gracious. 595 00:26:44,060 --> 00:26:48,540 I am able to, for the most part, be a stay at home mom. 596 00:26:48,540 --> 00:26:49,380 I really am. 597 00:26:49,380 --> 00:26:50,860 I'm a glorified stay at home mom. 598 00:26:50,860 --> 00:26:53,020 That's what I, I just, and I get to go and play. 599 00:26:53,020 --> 00:26:54,980 You're glorified and you're a stay at home mom. 600 00:26:54,980 --> 00:26:56,460 Oh, baby. 601 00:26:56,460 --> 00:26:57,620 Thanks. 602 00:26:57,620 --> 00:27:00,940 But it's one of those where I've said, 603 00:27:00,940 --> 00:27:02,320 do you need me to do something? 604 00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:07,320 Do I need, our children, one is grown-ish 605 00:27:07,500 --> 00:27:10,700 and the other one is, he's pretty good. 606 00:27:10,700 --> 00:27:13,620 Do you need me to go do work somewhere 607 00:27:13,620 --> 00:27:14,460 for all time? 608 00:27:14,460 --> 00:27:16,500 Do I need to do something that will help? 609 00:27:16,500 --> 00:27:18,420 What can I do to relieve the stress? 610 00:27:18,420 --> 00:27:20,740 Do you need me to go, I don't know. 611 00:27:21,820 --> 00:27:24,180 But these are the conversations that Luke and I have, 612 00:27:24,180 --> 00:27:27,180 that you and I have, that I would say that 613 00:27:27,180 --> 00:27:30,300 with you and your spouse, you have it. 614 00:27:30,300 --> 00:27:32,920 What is it that they need from you? 615 00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:35,220 Do they need space? 616 00:27:35,220 --> 00:27:36,340 Do they need time? 617 00:27:36,340 --> 00:27:40,300 Do they need help, more help? 618 00:27:40,300 --> 00:27:44,260 And along with that, it's the loving, 619 00:27:44,260 --> 00:27:47,980 the encouraging, the positive accountability. 620 00:27:47,980 --> 00:27:49,420 Yeah, yeah. 621 00:27:49,420 --> 00:27:53,300 Because this is, because while we shouldn't be, 622 00:27:53,300 --> 00:27:54,940 well this is what you should be doing. 623 00:27:54,940 --> 00:27:56,020 Right. 624 00:27:56,020 --> 00:27:59,420 But it is, it's the holding each other accountable. 625 00:27:59,420 --> 00:28:04,180 When you were taking the course to get your certification 626 00:28:04,180 --> 00:28:06,740 for being a relationship coach, you had X amount of time. 627 00:28:06,740 --> 00:28:11,460 It's like, you were pretty much giving me status updates 628 00:28:11,460 --> 00:28:12,420 almost every day. 629 00:28:12,420 --> 00:28:14,100 So I didn't have to be like, hey babe, 630 00:28:14,100 --> 00:28:16,180 did you work on that chapter today? 631 00:28:17,060 --> 00:28:19,180 So it's like, but you could. 632 00:28:19,180 --> 00:28:22,020 If you hadn't have been already being pro, 633 00:28:22,020 --> 00:28:25,340 if you hadn't already been proactive about it, 634 00:28:25,340 --> 00:28:29,700 that's something that I could do to help you out. 635 00:28:31,780 --> 00:28:33,660 Or like you, every now and then, 636 00:28:33,660 --> 00:28:37,020 hey, have you worked on projects out in the garage yet? 637 00:28:38,700 --> 00:28:41,140 Hey babe, can I buy that tool for you 638 00:28:41,140 --> 00:28:45,260 so that way we can keep moving you forward? 639 00:28:45,260 --> 00:28:47,660 And that's what we do. 640 00:28:47,660 --> 00:28:49,140 That's what you do. 641 00:28:49,140 --> 00:28:53,220 It is, it's being a positive. 642 00:28:53,220 --> 00:28:57,100 It's reminding, I think it's also reminding that person 643 00:28:57,100 --> 00:28:59,780 that you are capable. 644 00:28:59,780 --> 00:29:01,820 Because I believe that the noise in our heads 645 00:29:01,820 --> 00:29:04,220 tells us that, well, maybe I'm not doing the right thing. 646 00:29:04,220 --> 00:29:05,700 Maybe I need to just give up. 647 00:29:05,700 --> 00:29:08,260 Maybe I just, maybe I, you know, 648 00:29:08,260 --> 00:29:09,980 and it's like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. 649 00:29:09,980 --> 00:29:12,500 No, no, no, no, no, you're doing great. 650 00:29:12,500 --> 00:29:13,340 You're doing great. 651 00:29:13,340 --> 00:29:16,820 Let's just, let's finish what we've started. 652 00:29:16,820 --> 00:29:19,100 And then, okay, what's the next thing? 653 00:29:20,140 --> 00:29:24,700 And be intentional with time, be intentional with, 654 00:29:24,700 --> 00:29:26,860 okay, you seem a little overwhelmed right now, 655 00:29:26,860 --> 00:29:28,580 or you might seem a little stressed. 656 00:29:28,580 --> 00:29:31,860 Is there something that I can help you with? 657 00:29:31,860 --> 00:29:34,340 Is there something you can drop off your plate? 658 00:29:34,340 --> 00:29:36,460 Is there something that you maybe shouldn't have 659 00:29:36,460 --> 00:29:38,180 picked up in the beginning? 660 00:29:38,180 --> 00:29:41,460 Or is this, or is the season gone? 661 00:29:41,460 --> 00:29:44,180 And now it's time to move on to the next chapter. 662 00:29:44,180 --> 00:29:47,500 What is, it could be a number of things 663 00:29:47,500 --> 00:29:49,780 in a different combination of things. 664 00:29:50,700 --> 00:29:55,700 But don't be so quick to be so judgmental. 665 00:29:55,700 --> 00:29:59,500 Don't be so quick to be so critical of your spouse, 666 00:29:59,500 --> 00:30:02,660 of your loved one, of yourself. 667 00:30:04,460 --> 00:30:07,940 Take the time, because like even at church, 668 00:30:08,740 --> 00:30:10,980 you know, I'm walking through, 669 00:30:10,980 --> 00:30:14,700 and I wasn't super, super close with my stepsister. 670 00:30:14,700 --> 00:30:19,660 Like four decades with being family is a big deal. 671 00:30:19,660 --> 00:30:21,900 Very big deal, don't get me wrong, guys. 672 00:30:21,900 --> 00:30:25,900 She wasn't, you know, it's not like in a constant, 673 00:30:25,900 --> 00:30:27,100 do I, did I cry? 674 00:30:27,100 --> 00:30:27,940 I did cry. 675 00:30:27,940 --> 00:30:29,100 Do I grieve? 676 00:30:29,100 --> 00:30:31,420 I probably will still cry, you know. 677 00:30:31,420 --> 00:30:33,660 But my heart hurts for those that are kind of 678 00:30:33,660 --> 00:30:34,660 left behind, right? 679 00:30:34,660 --> 00:30:39,540 And so it's one of those spaces where I, 680 00:30:40,940 --> 00:30:43,180 for the last week I think I've been kind of walking around 681 00:30:43,180 --> 00:30:46,740 very pissed off, and I've acknowledged it. 682 00:30:46,740 --> 00:30:48,460 I've said it, I've acknowledged it. 683 00:30:48,460 --> 00:30:51,860 And to the point where I've had a friend come up to me, 684 00:30:51,860 --> 00:30:54,940 at church just yesterday and say, 685 00:30:54,940 --> 00:30:56,860 you're not yourself, what's going on? 686 00:30:56,860 --> 00:30:58,060 You doing okay? 687 00:30:58,060 --> 00:30:59,700 And in my mind I'm thinking, I thought, 688 00:30:59,700 --> 00:31:01,500 like I thought I was faking it pretty good. 689 00:31:01,500 --> 00:31:03,900 And I was like, why am I trying to even fake it? 690 00:31:03,900 --> 00:31:05,620 I shouldn't have to fake it. 691 00:31:05,620 --> 00:31:09,660 And so it was beautiful to be able to look at this friend 692 00:31:09,660 --> 00:31:12,820 and say, this is what's going on. 693 00:31:12,820 --> 00:31:14,340 And I'm mad. 694 00:31:14,340 --> 00:31:16,580 I'm mad because the NME has literally snuffed out 695 00:31:16,580 --> 00:31:19,500 two of my family members before they hit 60. 696 00:31:19,500 --> 00:31:22,380 This is insane. 697 00:31:23,780 --> 00:31:28,140 And I now wanna punch people and punch, 698 00:31:28,140 --> 00:31:30,340 I mean punch the enemy, but just, you know. 699 00:31:31,380 --> 00:31:36,380 But to recognize with your spouse, with your loved one, 700 00:31:37,620 --> 00:31:40,700 recognize maybe even what's going on with them 701 00:31:40,700 --> 00:31:43,060 in that space, and then remind them 702 00:31:43,060 --> 00:31:45,060 that they don't get to live there. 703 00:31:45,060 --> 00:31:48,260 But give them permission, give them space 704 00:31:48,260 --> 00:31:53,260 to grieve, to feel, to even maybe deal with the consequences 705 00:31:55,780 --> 00:31:58,540 of some of their actions, you know, whatever it is. 706 00:31:59,580 --> 00:32:01,900 Allow God to deal with them, right? 707 00:32:01,900 --> 00:32:05,180 Because, you know, man, you are a real bonehead right there. 708 00:32:05,180 --> 00:32:06,540 No, you're right. 709 00:32:06,540 --> 00:32:09,940 You know, and okay, well, Father, what do you wanna do? 710 00:32:09,940 --> 00:32:12,500 Because our first instinct is we wanna rescue 711 00:32:12,500 --> 00:32:15,300 and we wanna make sure that they're okay. 712 00:32:15,300 --> 00:32:19,260 Or you have the extreme of they wanna set them off in a boat 713 00:32:19,260 --> 00:32:22,140 and shoot a flaming arrow at it. 714 00:32:22,140 --> 00:32:23,820 That seems extreme, but you know what I mean? 715 00:32:23,820 --> 00:32:28,820 But it's like, don't be so quick to write each other off. 716 00:32:33,540 --> 00:32:36,620 Know that this comes with seasons of life, 717 00:32:36,620 --> 00:32:39,460 know that this comes with marriage. 718 00:32:39,460 --> 00:32:44,460 Be slow to speak, quick to listen, you know, 719 00:32:45,460 --> 00:32:48,620 slow to respond, quick to forgive. 720 00:32:48,620 --> 00:32:50,340 Be that person. 721 00:32:50,340 --> 00:32:51,220 Yeah. 722 00:32:51,220 --> 00:32:55,820 You said it yesterday, you know, to be somebody 723 00:32:55,820 --> 00:32:58,740 that has only the best thoughts and intentions, 724 00:32:58,740 --> 00:33:01,820 you know, be somebody that, you know, believes the best, 725 00:33:01,820 --> 00:33:04,340 trusts the best, hopes the best, you know, 726 00:33:04,340 --> 00:33:06,460 even if it looks really, really bleak, 727 00:33:06,460 --> 00:33:09,420 just know that God is very much on the scene, 728 00:33:09,420 --> 00:33:11,260 and he's not going to leave your marriage, 729 00:33:11,260 --> 00:33:12,620 he's not gonna leave you. 730 00:33:13,820 --> 00:33:16,100 If you ask him, he'll give you wisdom. 731 00:33:16,100 --> 00:33:16,940 Yeah. 732 00:33:16,940 --> 00:33:19,300 And some of that wisdom might be shut up. 733 00:33:19,300 --> 00:33:20,140 Yeah. 734 00:33:20,140 --> 00:33:22,980 You know, some of that wisdom might be just sit with them 735 00:33:22,980 --> 00:33:24,980 and just hold them and cry together, 736 00:33:24,980 --> 00:33:28,660 do whatever you gotta do, but just know that 737 00:33:28,660 --> 00:33:31,580 he's going to be there in the midst of it with you. 738 00:33:31,580 --> 00:33:33,700 That, you know, that even though they're a bonehead, 739 00:33:33,700 --> 00:33:35,220 remember the good things they've done. 740 00:33:35,220 --> 00:33:36,860 Remember the good things that they've done. 741 00:33:36,860 --> 00:33:38,660 Don't throw the baby out with the bath water, 742 00:33:38,660 --> 00:33:41,580 don't do that, don't do, that's not fair. 743 00:33:41,580 --> 00:33:43,020 Don't do that to somebody. 744 00:33:43,020 --> 00:33:43,860 Yeah. 745 00:33:43,860 --> 00:33:45,020 Don't do that to them. 746 00:33:45,020 --> 00:33:49,100 It's like I said, you and I are so in the place that 747 00:33:49,100 --> 00:33:53,980 unless God, unless the Holy Spirit says, you gotta go, 748 00:33:53,980 --> 00:33:55,300 you don't. 749 00:33:55,300 --> 00:33:58,900 There's, you fight, you stand, you fight, 750 00:33:59,860 --> 00:34:03,220 or you pause and you rest and you say, 751 00:34:03,220 --> 00:34:06,660 okay, we're gonna get our bearings, 752 00:34:06,660 --> 00:34:09,380 what is the next step, what do we do now? 753 00:34:09,380 --> 00:34:10,220 Yeah. 754 00:34:10,220 --> 00:34:12,140 And then follow his lead, knowing that 755 00:34:13,460 --> 00:34:14,980 he's the only one that knows. 756 00:34:14,980 --> 00:34:15,820 That's true. 757 00:34:15,820 --> 00:34:18,340 So just follow his lead. 758 00:34:18,340 --> 00:34:19,620 Yeah. 759 00:34:19,620 --> 00:34:22,260 And that's all we can do, you know, because again, 760 00:34:24,260 --> 00:34:29,260 as much as we talk about a lot of the roles of a husband 761 00:34:30,020 --> 00:34:32,500 and the roles of a wife and stuff like that, 762 00:34:32,500 --> 00:34:36,780 ultimately that is a mirror of the role of God, 763 00:34:36,780 --> 00:34:38,740 the role of Jesus, the role of the church. 764 00:34:38,740 --> 00:34:39,580 Right. 765 00:34:39,580 --> 00:34:42,980 And it's like, so again, it's that, 766 00:34:43,980 --> 00:34:45,900 cause I was joking with a friend 767 00:34:45,900 --> 00:34:49,620 and he was talking about something about his wife 768 00:34:49,620 --> 00:34:51,620 and I was like, yeah, just remember, 769 00:34:51,620 --> 00:34:53,460 Bible says we're supposed to die to our wives, 770 00:34:53,460 --> 00:34:54,740 just like Jesus died to the church, 771 00:34:54,740 --> 00:34:58,180 he's like four, not two, I'm like still, regardless. 772 00:34:59,380 --> 00:35:02,140 You are right, you're right. 773 00:35:02,140 --> 00:35:03,980 I mean, it's true, it's true. 774 00:35:03,980 --> 00:35:04,820 Yeah. 775 00:35:04,820 --> 00:35:08,140 Yeah, it's laying your life down for the other person. 776 00:35:08,140 --> 00:35:11,420 Yeah, cause I think it is, 777 00:35:11,420 --> 00:35:15,580 there's a lot of people that love to highlight 778 00:35:15,580 --> 00:35:19,020 and focus on the submit. 779 00:35:19,020 --> 00:35:19,860 Yes. 780 00:35:19,860 --> 00:35:23,100 You know, just the way that the church submits to Jesus, 781 00:35:23,100 --> 00:35:24,700 wives should submit to their husbands, 782 00:35:24,700 --> 00:35:27,420 but they always forget the other half of that. 783 00:35:28,820 --> 00:35:30,580 The church submits to Jesus 784 00:35:30,580 --> 00:35:32,500 because of what Jesus did for the church. 785 00:35:32,500 --> 00:35:35,220 That's right, that's right, that's right. 786 00:35:35,220 --> 00:35:39,300 It's easy to follow somebody, follow their lead 787 00:35:40,500 --> 00:35:41,980 when you know that this person 788 00:35:41,980 --> 00:35:44,020 is willing to lay their life down for you. 789 00:35:44,020 --> 00:35:44,860 Yeah. 790 00:35:44,860 --> 00:35:47,180 When they have nothing but the best intentions. 791 00:35:47,180 --> 00:35:52,100 Or even when, even without going that far. 792 00:35:52,100 --> 00:35:53,300 Yeah. 793 00:35:53,300 --> 00:35:55,660 They're willing to walk the same mile you're willing to walk. 794 00:35:55,660 --> 00:35:56,820 That's it, that's it. 795 00:35:56,820 --> 00:35:58,740 And I think that that's what I mean by, 796 00:35:58,740 --> 00:36:03,380 like you, Luke, Alan, Wants, 797 00:36:03,380 --> 00:36:07,060 are willing to lay down your agenda, 798 00:36:07,060 --> 00:36:12,060 your flesh, your agenda, to follow Christ 799 00:36:13,060 --> 00:36:15,380 and to follow what he wants. 800 00:36:15,380 --> 00:36:18,940 And that is attractive to me. 801 00:36:18,940 --> 00:36:23,180 That is something where I can stand back and say, 802 00:36:23,180 --> 00:36:25,620 if you're willing to lay your life down 803 00:36:25,620 --> 00:36:30,620 and bend to whatever it is that God has told you to do, 804 00:36:33,460 --> 00:36:36,660 yeah, babe, yeah, like all day, all day. 805 00:36:36,660 --> 00:36:37,820 What do you wanna do? 806 00:36:37,820 --> 00:36:39,020 All day, let's go. 807 00:36:39,940 --> 00:36:42,700 There's a security in that 808 00:36:43,580 --> 00:36:45,700 because it's the same with me. 809 00:36:45,700 --> 00:36:50,060 It's easy for me to be led and it's easy for me. 810 00:36:50,060 --> 00:36:53,500 It's easy to even hear my opinions, 811 00:36:53,500 --> 00:36:56,180 opinions, I'm doing quotations, right? 812 00:36:56,180 --> 00:36:58,500 But it's easy to hear my opinions 813 00:36:58,500 --> 00:37:02,100 because you know that I'm also willing to say, 814 00:37:02,100 --> 00:37:04,300 oh, babe, I think this, but you know what? 815 00:37:04,300 --> 00:37:06,740 No, no, I don't have a piece about that. 816 00:37:06,740 --> 00:37:10,180 Okay, no, if Holy Spirit says no, then we're not gonna go. 817 00:37:11,380 --> 00:37:14,220 And there's a security there. 818 00:37:14,220 --> 00:37:16,540 You're not dealing with somebody that's insecure. 819 00:37:16,540 --> 00:37:18,820 You're not dealing with somebody that's so emotional 820 00:37:18,820 --> 00:37:23,820 that I'm tossed back and forth by every circumstance. 821 00:37:25,260 --> 00:37:30,260 That itself, that itself should be what the picture of, 822 00:37:31,500 --> 00:37:33,340 what the bride of Christ looks like, 823 00:37:33,340 --> 00:37:36,940 that we're not wishy washy, that we're not saying, 824 00:37:36,940 --> 00:37:38,780 oh, things are getting really hard. 825 00:37:38,780 --> 00:37:41,620 Oh, babe, you messed up, so you know what? 826 00:37:41,620 --> 00:37:44,140 Peace out, wow, that's not a marriage. 827 00:37:45,580 --> 00:37:46,860 I'll be submitted to Christ 828 00:37:46,860 --> 00:37:48,380 as long as he's sending me blessings. 829 00:37:48,380 --> 00:37:49,580 You know what I'm saying, ew. 830 00:37:49,580 --> 00:37:54,580 Ew, ew, ew, ew, ew, ew. 831 00:37:57,300 --> 00:37:59,060 And how many marriages are out there like that? 832 00:37:59,060 --> 00:38:03,340 Oh gosh, babe, gross, gross. 833 00:38:03,340 --> 00:38:08,340 Like, you're ready, stop, so stop with the silly talk. 834 00:38:08,900 --> 00:38:10,620 I was gonna say, no, it's stupid. 835 00:38:10,620 --> 00:38:13,820 Stop with the stupid talk, stop with the stupid talk. 836 00:38:13,820 --> 00:38:15,220 You're either in or out, 837 00:38:15,220 --> 00:38:17,340 stop doing this wishy washy stuff. 838 00:38:17,340 --> 00:38:19,300 Oh, it's getting hard, I'm so sorry. 839 00:38:20,500 --> 00:38:22,700 Guess what, it's going to get hard. 840 00:38:23,780 --> 00:38:25,740 Like, I'm not trying to be crass, 841 00:38:25,740 --> 00:38:28,420 I'm not trying to be, you know what I mean? 842 00:38:28,420 --> 00:38:31,500 But it's the reality, here's the reality. 843 00:38:31,500 --> 00:38:33,140 Oh, well, it's just, you know, 844 00:38:33,140 --> 00:38:36,100 well, they hurt my feelings, or well, you know, 845 00:38:36,100 --> 00:38:38,900 they lied to me, or well, they weren't forthcoming, 846 00:38:38,900 --> 00:38:42,860 or they just, okay, well, I'm sorry about that. 847 00:38:42,860 --> 00:38:46,500 Fix it, fix it. 848 00:38:46,500 --> 00:38:47,700 If it's a habitual thing, 849 00:38:47,700 --> 00:38:49,100 if it's something that's constantly, 850 00:38:49,100 --> 00:38:51,460 if there's a dishonesty, or if there's things like that, 851 00:38:51,460 --> 00:38:55,460 man, by all means, go to a counselor, hi, I'm available. 852 00:38:55,460 --> 00:38:56,620 But you know what I mean, but like, 853 00:38:56,620 --> 00:38:59,300 go to a coach, go to a counselor, go to a pastor. 854 00:38:59,300 --> 00:39:02,940 That's it, go to somebody that's going to look at you both 855 00:39:02,940 --> 00:39:05,180 and say, stop being boneheads. 856 00:39:05,180 --> 00:39:07,780 Somebody that genuinely wants to watch you succeed. 857 00:39:07,780 --> 00:39:08,860 Yes. 858 00:39:08,860 --> 00:39:10,380 And has no skin in the game. 859 00:39:11,540 --> 00:39:12,940 That part, right? 860 00:39:12,940 --> 00:39:14,100 Absolutely. 861 00:39:14,100 --> 00:39:19,100 And so it's like, suck it up, buttercup. 862 00:39:19,380 --> 00:39:22,260 You know, I'm not saying be a doormat. 863 00:39:22,260 --> 00:39:25,860 I'm not saying be so domineering. 864 00:39:25,860 --> 00:39:30,660 I'm saying allow your lives to be submitted to each other. 865 00:39:30,660 --> 00:39:34,420 Submit yourself to God, submit yourself to each other, 866 00:39:34,420 --> 00:39:36,180 and then watch the enemy start fleeing 867 00:39:36,180 --> 00:39:37,700 out of the situations. 868 00:39:37,700 --> 00:39:40,260 Because at that point, you're standing back and saying, 869 00:39:40,260 --> 00:39:45,260 come hell or high water, we're together. 870 00:39:45,500 --> 00:39:48,420 We are a formidable force together. 871 00:39:48,420 --> 00:39:52,220 And one can take, what is it, one can send a thousand 872 00:39:52,220 --> 00:39:55,620 to flight, two can send 10,000 to flight, right? 873 00:39:55,620 --> 00:39:59,500 So it's one of those where you and I together, 874 00:39:59,500 --> 00:40:01,380 that's why the enemy wants to divide so much. 875 00:40:01,380 --> 00:40:05,020 Because if he knows that he can divide you, then he wins. 876 00:40:05,020 --> 00:40:06,500 There's no power there. 877 00:40:06,500 --> 00:40:08,620 But when you get a husband and wife that have said, 878 00:40:08,620 --> 00:40:13,620 that say, I'm in, I'm in, I'm in. 879 00:40:13,660 --> 00:40:15,340 Okay, you're being a bonehead, fix it. 880 00:40:15,340 --> 00:40:16,340 What are we doing? 881 00:40:16,340 --> 00:40:18,540 What do I need to do to help you? 882 00:40:18,540 --> 00:40:21,060 Or what do I need to do to fix me being a bonehead? 883 00:40:21,060 --> 00:40:22,540 What do we need to, you know? 884 00:40:22,540 --> 00:40:27,180 It's like, take responsibility, own your part, 885 00:40:27,180 --> 00:40:30,900 and then love your person from the place of Christ. 886 00:40:32,660 --> 00:40:34,940 Allow yourself to be held accountable. 887 00:40:34,940 --> 00:40:36,700 Yes, yes. 888 00:40:36,700 --> 00:40:37,820 Yeah. 889 00:40:37,820 --> 00:40:38,660 That part. 890 00:40:40,140 --> 00:40:41,420 I love that. 891 00:40:41,420 --> 00:40:42,620 That's good. 892 00:40:42,620 --> 00:40:45,060 Do we talk it out? 893 00:40:45,060 --> 00:40:46,220 I think so. 894 00:40:46,220 --> 00:40:47,060 I think we did. 895 00:40:47,060 --> 00:40:48,940 I think we talked it good. 896 00:40:48,940 --> 00:40:50,980 Well, talked it well. 897 00:40:52,580 --> 00:40:54,580 All that English training out the window. 898 00:40:56,940 --> 00:40:58,100 It's getting replaced by government 899 00:40:58,100 --> 00:40:59,260 plain language training. 900 00:40:59,260 --> 00:41:00,100 It's fine. 901 00:41:00,100 --> 00:41:00,940 Yeah. 902 00:41:00,940 --> 00:41:04,420 Well, your wife that constantly says, can you define that? 903 00:41:04,420 --> 00:41:05,260 Yeah. 904 00:41:05,260 --> 00:41:07,500 What did you, just bring it down to fourth grade level, 905 00:41:07,500 --> 00:41:08,340 baby. 906 00:41:08,340 --> 00:41:09,180 Yeah. 907 00:41:09,180 --> 00:41:10,300 No. 908 00:41:10,300 --> 00:41:11,700 And I'm doing better. 909 00:41:11,700 --> 00:41:12,540 You're so much better. 910 00:41:12,540 --> 00:41:13,860 I will pat myself on the back. 911 00:41:13,860 --> 00:41:15,300 I feel like I'm doing a lot better 912 00:41:15,300 --> 00:41:17,220 about explaining things to people. 913 00:41:17,220 --> 00:41:18,580 I think you're beautiful at it. 914 00:41:18,580 --> 00:41:21,820 And not taking the high road 915 00:41:21,820 --> 00:41:23,620 and thinking more of myself. 916 00:41:24,580 --> 00:41:27,740 Listen, side note, back to the family vacation 917 00:41:27,740 --> 00:41:30,140 that we got to go and celebrate all the birthdays 918 00:41:30,140 --> 00:41:31,700 and the family. 919 00:41:31,700 --> 00:41:34,340 I remember you walking away from the table 920 00:41:34,340 --> 00:41:35,820 and the people that were at the table 921 00:41:35,820 --> 00:41:39,740 looking at me and going, he's really good at explaining things. 922 00:41:39,740 --> 00:41:43,620 And I was, and me jokingly said, you're welcome. 923 00:41:43,620 --> 00:41:47,260 Because 13 years of us, 924 00:41:47,260 --> 00:41:48,860 almost 13 years of being married 925 00:41:48,860 --> 00:41:51,180 and almost 15 years of being together, 926 00:41:51,180 --> 00:41:52,780 I just stand back and I go. 927 00:41:52,780 --> 00:41:53,660 You trained me early. 928 00:41:53,660 --> 00:41:56,060 I trained you quickly and very early. 929 00:41:56,060 --> 00:41:57,700 I need you to bring that down. 930 00:41:57,700 --> 00:42:01,500 Your $5 or $50 word right there, 931 00:42:01,500 --> 00:42:03,940 I need you to bring it down to like a buck 25. 932 00:42:03,940 --> 00:42:05,380 You're acting condescending. 933 00:42:05,380 --> 00:42:07,580 You're acting condescending, yes. 934 00:42:07,580 --> 00:42:09,380 You're being very haughty right now. 935 00:42:09,380 --> 00:42:11,820 I need you to maybe, but you are. 936 00:42:11,820 --> 00:42:14,780 You're very patient and you're very loving. 937 00:42:14,780 --> 00:42:16,300 You really are. 938 00:42:16,300 --> 00:42:19,780 You just want other people to learn and grow 939 00:42:19,780 --> 00:42:22,700 and not be boneheads. 940 00:42:22,700 --> 00:42:23,700 And that's beautiful. 941 00:42:24,820 --> 00:42:28,020 And you've gotten better about it. 942 00:42:28,020 --> 00:42:31,500 So it's good, it's good. 943 00:42:31,500 --> 00:42:32,620 All right, guys. 944 00:42:32,620 --> 00:42:37,220 We hope that you have the absolute most amazing week. 945 00:42:37,220 --> 00:42:41,180 We pray that the Holy Spirit just comes in 946 00:42:41,180 --> 00:42:43,500 to every area of your lives 947 00:42:43,500 --> 00:42:46,140 and that he just shows you, he guides you, 948 00:42:46,140 --> 00:42:47,540 he gives you wisdom. 949 00:42:47,540 --> 00:42:52,540 He reminds you to be slow to speak, quick to listen, 950 00:42:52,540 --> 00:42:56,340 slow to respond and quick to forgive. 951 00:42:56,340 --> 00:42:58,500 That he reminds you that you, 952 00:42:58,500 --> 00:43:03,340 you get to take responsibility and you get to play a part 953 00:43:03,340 --> 00:43:05,740 and that you can either make or break a situation. 954 00:43:05,740 --> 00:43:07,860 And so I'm asking that God just comes. 955 00:43:07,860 --> 00:43:10,660 He comes into those spaces with you guys 956 00:43:10,660 --> 00:43:12,740 and he just speaks loud and clear 957 00:43:12,740 --> 00:43:14,020 and he opens up the hearts 958 00:43:14,020 --> 00:43:16,020 and then ties them back together again. 959 00:43:16,020 --> 00:43:16,940 Yes. 960 00:43:16,940 --> 00:43:17,760 All right, guys. 961 00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:18,600 Have the best week. 962 00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:19,540 Enjoy the journey. 963 00:43:19,540 --> 00:43:20,560 Big