1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:13,480 Hello and welcome back to another episode of Upfront and Undivided with Luke and Dean'na. 2 00:00:13,480 --> 00:00:14,480 Hi. 3 00:00:14,480 --> 00:00:15,480 Hey babe. 4 00:00:15,480 --> 00:00:16,480 How's it going? 5 00:00:16,480 --> 00:00:17,480 I'm sweaty. 6 00:00:17,480 --> 00:00:18,480 You are sweaty. 7 00:00:18,480 --> 00:00:19,480 You just worked out. 8 00:00:19,480 --> 00:00:20,480 I did. 9 00:00:20,480 --> 00:00:27,400 I was like, I have music playing in my head from a workout thing so it wasn't even ours 10 00:00:27,400 --> 00:00:29,400 at this point. 11 00:00:29,400 --> 00:00:35,240 Then I posted it because I try to do my best to like, hey, I'm being accountable. 12 00:00:35,240 --> 00:00:37,360 I'm posting the work out. 13 00:00:37,360 --> 00:00:40,960 Not trying to be like that girl but it's more for me than anybody. 14 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:42,720 It's just honestly that's the reality. 15 00:00:42,720 --> 00:00:47,160 I'm trying to be accountable to anyone in particular. 16 00:00:47,160 --> 00:00:51,440 But then I'll put music with the picture of just like what I worked out. 17 00:00:51,440 --> 00:00:58,400 Today I put it's quality over quantity because you were actually standing there when I was 18 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:01,640 finishing up my workout and you're so sweet because you're good job, babe. 19 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:04,760 And I was like, I can't breathe. 20 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:15,680 And then it was like the music is like. 21 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:19,840 So that's what was playing in my head while you were just another just another sound bite. 22 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:21,320 It's just that's it. 23 00:01:21,320 --> 00:01:24,760 It's just quiet intros. 24 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:26,760 You know, that's it keeps me entertained. 25 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:27,760 I can't hear anything. 26 00:01:27,760 --> 00:01:29,680 I say quite intros for us. 27 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:30,680 It's quite it. 28 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:35,400 It is because they hear all the things and we're sitting in silence. 29 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:36,400 Yes. 30 00:01:36,400 --> 00:01:37,400 Like just very quietly. 31 00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:42,880 Again, this is where we need video because like I just nine out of 10 times my eyes are 32 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:44,880 closed when you're you're doing it. 33 00:01:44,880 --> 00:01:49,040 So I'm just like to get myself ready in the game with you. 34 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:50,040 So yeah. 35 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:53,640 You're doing air drums and then your eyes are open to make sure not to hit the mic. 36 00:01:53,640 --> 00:01:54,640 Correct. 37 00:01:54,640 --> 00:01:55,640 Correct. 38 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:57,880 Because I've been known to do that and that's not good. 39 00:01:57,880 --> 00:01:58,880 How are you? 40 00:01:58,880 --> 00:01:59,880 Good. 41 00:01:59,880 --> 00:02:00,880 How are you? 42 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:01,880 How is your week? 43 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:03,880 In a way, it could have been better. 44 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:04,880 Yeah. 45 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:05,880 Yeah. 46 00:02:05,880 --> 00:02:06,880 Do you want to tell everybody what happened, baby? 47 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:08,160 So I got pink eye. 48 00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:10,680 You look so sexy in your glasses. 49 00:02:10,680 --> 00:02:11,680 Thank you. 50 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:13,280 Because you hate them. 51 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:15,480 I am not a fan of me in glasses. 52 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:18,520 You're so you're so handsome. 53 00:02:18,520 --> 00:02:19,920 You are so serious. 54 00:02:19,920 --> 00:02:20,920 You are so handsome. 55 00:02:20,920 --> 00:02:21,920 Okay. 56 00:02:21,920 --> 00:02:27,760 You are so handsome and I have determined part of me two things. 57 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:28,760 Okay. 58 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:30,280 So here's my synopsis of you. 59 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:31,360 So my two things. 60 00:02:31,360 --> 00:02:37,640 Number one, you have been wearing glasses since you were fourth grade, right? 61 00:02:37,640 --> 00:02:38,640 Third grade? 62 00:02:38,640 --> 00:02:39,640 Fourth or fifth? 63 00:02:39,640 --> 00:02:40,640 I think maybe fifth. 64 00:02:40,640 --> 00:02:41,640 Okay. 65 00:02:41,640 --> 00:02:43,120 So you've been wearing them for a while. 66 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:44,120 Yes. 67 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:47,760 And the moment that you got to do contacts, you were on it. 68 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:48,760 Yes. 69 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:49,760 Sixth grade. 70 00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:50,760 Okay. 71 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:51,760 Oh, so not for very long. 72 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:52,760 No. 73 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:53,760 Wow. 74 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:54,760 They let you wear contacts at sixth grade? 75 00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:55,760 Oh, yeah. 76 00:02:55,760 --> 00:02:56,760 Really? 77 00:02:56,760 --> 00:02:57,760 Yeah. 78 00:02:57,760 --> 00:02:58,760 That's interesting. 79 00:02:58,760 --> 00:02:59,760 Wow. 80 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:01,760 Times, listen, y'all, 80s and 90s, it changes. 81 00:03:01,760 --> 00:03:03,280 You know what I'm saying? 82 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:07,520 So that is my one thing. 83 00:03:07,520 --> 00:03:13,360 My other thing is because you are in the military, everybody that has any kind of stigmatism 84 00:03:13,360 --> 00:03:15,200 has to wear what? 85 00:03:15,200 --> 00:03:16,200 BCGs. 86 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:17,200 BCGs. 87 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:19,200 I'm looking for birth control glasses. 88 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:22,680 That's just a horrible name. 89 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:23,920 It's true though. 90 00:03:23,920 --> 00:03:31,560 So I think you have some things in your brain that you are, you know, fourth grade, fourth, 91 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:32,560 fifth grade glasses. 92 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:34,960 I remember my fourth grade glasses, they were not cute. 93 00:03:34,960 --> 00:03:35,960 Listen to me. 94 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:36,960 They were not cute. 95 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:39,040 Not stylish at all like the ones they are today. 96 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:43,720 And I have seen military glasses and they're all the same. 97 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:48,960 So part of me goes, I think you might have it in your brain that that's what you still 98 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:50,400 look like and it's not. 99 00:03:50,400 --> 00:03:53,240 You're incredibly handsome with your glasses, babe. 100 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:58,400 I think part of it is just because it's, I mean, I know there's, because I've done 101 00:03:58,400 --> 00:04:04,480 enough self introspection, if you will, as to why I'm not a fan. 102 00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:09,720 And part of it is because, I mean, for the longest time, because my eyes are so bad, 103 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:12,600 I've always had to have really thick lenses. 104 00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:14,080 Yeah. 105 00:04:14,080 --> 00:04:18,240 You know, with technology, they've been able to get the lenses thinner. 106 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:20,360 But they're also more expensive because they're thinner. 107 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:22,480 And it's like, well, okay, that stinks. 108 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:23,480 That's no fun. 109 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:24,480 Yeah. 110 00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:25,480 Thank you, Jesus, for insurance. 111 00:04:25,480 --> 00:04:28,120 Me now as an adult insurance, you say. 112 00:04:28,120 --> 00:04:29,120 Yes. 113 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:31,520 Insurance will pay for contacts or glasses. 114 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:32,520 Yeah. 115 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:33,520 You get to do one or the other. 116 00:04:33,520 --> 00:04:34,520 Yeah. 117 00:04:34,520 --> 00:04:36,920 And so it's like, okay, well, I'd rather wear contacts. 118 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:41,000 So that's the free or that's the discounted. 119 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:42,000 You know. 120 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:44,240 And then we'll put the money into your glasses. 121 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:45,240 Right. 122 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:47,720 And you have some really nice ones. 123 00:04:47,720 --> 00:04:48,720 Thank you. 124 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:49,720 Yeah. 125 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:50,720 You have some really nice. 126 00:04:50,720 --> 00:04:51,720 But you also take really good care of your stuff. 127 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:55,080 So I don't mind spending a little extra coin. 128 00:04:55,080 --> 00:04:59,560 But it's also like, I don't like being able to not see. 129 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:00,560 I know. 130 00:05:00,560 --> 00:05:01,560 That drives you crazy. 131 00:05:01,560 --> 00:05:02,560 It does. 132 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:03,560 And. 133 00:05:03,560 --> 00:05:04,560 Especially in the middle of the night. 134 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:05,560 Yes. 135 00:05:05,560 --> 00:05:06,560 Yeah. 136 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:10,440 And it's, you know, so it's like the middle of the night, it's like, I don't, you know, 137 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:14,080 if something were to happen emergency wise or something, I don't want to have to worry 138 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:15,800 about fumbling for glasses. 139 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:16,800 Right. 140 00:05:16,800 --> 00:05:24,600 Or, you know, or again, wearing glasses, it's like they work really well if you're looking 141 00:05:24,600 --> 00:05:27,320 straightforward through the center of the lens. 142 00:05:27,320 --> 00:05:28,320 Right. 143 00:05:28,320 --> 00:05:31,960 And it's like, if you're a little bit off, your vision is a little bit off and it's like, 144 00:05:31,960 --> 00:05:33,760 it's just, it's a pain in the butt. 145 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:34,760 Yeah. 146 00:05:34,760 --> 00:05:35,760 Yeah. 147 00:05:35,760 --> 00:05:36,760 I know. 148 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:37,760 You're still handsome. 149 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:38,760 Thank you. 150 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:39,760 I appreciate that. 151 00:05:39,760 --> 00:05:42,040 I got, I got a lot of compliments, actually. 152 00:05:42,040 --> 00:05:45,000 A lot of people noticed them and mentioned it. 153 00:05:45,000 --> 00:05:46,000 They look sharp, babe. 154 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:47,000 They are. 155 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:48,000 I appreciate that. 156 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:50,320 It's like, we see the glasses, but we see you. 157 00:05:50,320 --> 00:05:51,800 And then you got me some new glasses. 158 00:05:51,800 --> 00:05:52,800 I got you new glasses. 159 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:54,960 And my nine new glasses, not your new glasses. 160 00:05:54,960 --> 00:05:55,960 Yes. 161 00:05:55,960 --> 00:05:56,960 Which are really fun. 162 00:05:56,960 --> 00:06:00,840 So we get to both look really sharp, maybe come Wednesday. 163 00:06:00,840 --> 00:06:01,840 I might wear them Wednesday. 164 00:06:01,840 --> 00:06:02,840 We'll see. 165 00:06:02,840 --> 00:06:03,840 There you go. 166 00:06:03,840 --> 00:06:04,840 We'll see how I feel. 167 00:06:04,840 --> 00:06:05,840 Yeah. 168 00:06:05,840 --> 00:06:14,240 So we're in the Kansas City area that might be looking for a space or looking for, I don't 169 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:22,360 know, a church, but more than anything, just maybe wanting some, some really good nuggets 170 00:06:22,360 --> 00:06:26,040 to kind of plug into their marriage and their family. 171 00:06:26,040 --> 00:06:32,400 Luke and I will be speaking this coming Wednesday at Revive Church in Kansas City, Missouri. 172 00:06:32,400 --> 00:06:37,120 And it's going to be a, what is it, marriage and family? 173 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:38,120 Something like that? 174 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:41,760 I think they wanted to call it like a family series, but they didn't tell us. 175 00:06:41,760 --> 00:06:42,760 They didn't tell us until. 176 00:06:42,760 --> 00:06:48,680 That it was a series or the topic of the series until much after we, they said, hey, you guys 177 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:50,160 want to talk? 178 00:06:50,160 --> 00:06:57,640 But what we can say, and I do, I think this, you know, like what we can say is for anybody 179 00:06:57,640 --> 00:07:04,600 that knows us and we actually are really grateful because some of the, some of our closest friends 180 00:07:04,600 --> 00:07:10,320 that literally are probably around us more than anybody have a front row view of our 181 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:12,280 family and our marriage. 182 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:18,120 And so they can probably attest to the fact that the things that we were going to share 183 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:25,920 anyway, very much contribute and are the foundations of who we are as far as a couple. 184 00:07:25,920 --> 00:07:30,920 And just the, just the foundation that we even have laid for our children. 185 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:37,080 So I think it's going to be kind of an easy way for us to kind of transition it over and 186 00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:41,960 just say, okay, I mean, you and I both have talked it through. 187 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:44,120 That's actually something else that we get to do. 188 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:49,400 It's on our checklist for the next day or two to really just hash it out. 189 00:07:49,400 --> 00:07:55,840 But if you are, if you are interested, if you want to get some really good solid godly 190 00:07:55,840 --> 00:08:03,520 principles for your family, for your marriage, we invite you to revive church in Kansas City. 191 00:08:03,520 --> 00:08:05,560 9900 U High Drive. 192 00:08:05,560 --> 00:08:06,560 That's it. 193 00:08:06,560 --> 00:08:07,560 At 7 o'clock. 194 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:08,560 Yep. 195 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:09,560 At 7 o'clock. 196 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:10,560 So we will be there. 197 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:11,560 We get to be the first ones. 198 00:08:11,560 --> 00:08:12,560 We get to come right out of the gate. 199 00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:13,560 Yep. 200 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:14,560 Wednesday. 201 00:08:14,560 --> 00:08:15,560 Wednesday. 202 00:08:15,560 --> 00:08:16,560 August 7th. 203 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:17,560 Is that right? 204 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:18,560 Yes. 205 00:08:18,560 --> 00:08:20,800 We have a lot of things on our socials. 206 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:21,800 Yes. 207 00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:25,320 Because I was going to do that today and I got sidetracked with another project that I'm 208 00:08:25,320 --> 00:08:26,320 working on. 209 00:08:26,320 --> 00:08:27,320 But it's good. 210 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:28,320 It's good. 211 00:08:28,320 --> 00:08:29,320 Okay, babe. 212 00:08:29,320 --> 00:08:30,320 Okay. 213 00:08:30,320 --> 00:08:31,320 Enough chit chat. 214 00:08:31,320 --> 00:08:32,320 Chit chat. 215 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:33,320 Now for the real chit chat. 216 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:34,320 Yes. 217 00:08:34,320 --> 00:08:35,320 What you got? 218 00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:40,720 So something kind of hit me earlier that it was like, it was one of those things I was 219 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:43,040 like, ooh, this would be a fun topic to talk about. 220 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:45,360 And I dropped it in your lap and then I went away. 221 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:49,160 And after I went away, I was like, I don't know, does that make sense? 222 00:08:49,160 --> 00:08:53,480 It's like it made sense at first, but then I'm like, I don't know, that seems kind of 223 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:59,520 harsh and I don't know if it, so it's like it would need to be fleshed out more. 224 00:08:59,520 --> 00:09:04,120 And I know we kind of fleshed it out a little bit. 225 00:09:04,120 --> 00:09:05,640 And it makes sense in my mind. 226 00:09:05,640 --> 00:09:08,280 It makes sense in my mind. 227 00:09:08,280 --> 00:09:13,040 And I think it's making sense in your mind from what I was explaining and describing. 228 00:09:13,040 --> 00:09:15,120 So we're just going to kind of run with it. 229 00:09:15,120 --> 00:09:17,000 And see what happens. 230 00:09:17,000 --> 00:09:18,000 I like it. 231 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:19,960 You know, so, so yeah. 232 00:09:19,960 --> 00:09:21,400 So what was your statement? 233 00:09:21,400 --> 00:09:25,200 Because do you want to do the premise of how the statement even showed up or just make 234 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:26,960 this, I'd say just make this statement. 235 00:09:26,960 --> 00:09:28,360 Yeah, just making the statement. 236 00:09:28,360 --> 00:09:30,160 So if this is the title, cool. 237 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:32,320 If not, it's a working title. 238 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:34,280 And that's how it goes. 239 00:09:34,280 --> 00:09:41,480 But creating a safe space to say this is dumb. 240 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:42,480 Yeah. 241 00:09:42,480 --> 00:09:43,480 Yeah. 242 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:47,520 And it's kind of, you know, I almost said, you know, this is stupid, but it's like, you 243 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:48,800 know, we're not a fan of that word. 244 00:09:48,800 --> 00:09:51,160 We don't like that word now. 245 00:09:51,160 --> 00:09:57,680 But it's in a marriage, in a relationship, you know, we always talk about honesty, you 246 00:09:57,680 --> 00:10:03,320 know, being upfront, you know, being undivided on the same team, you know, creating that 247 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:11,920 safe space so that your partner, your spouse, you know, what have you can be open, be vulnerable 248 00:10:11,920 --> 00:10:16,360 and, you know, express how they're feeling, express how they're thinking. 249 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:24,240 And, you know, knowing that, you know, if I say something or if I disagree, then it's, 250 00:10:24,240 --> 00:10:27,560 you know, it's not going to be taken as an attack. 251 00:10:27,560 --> 00:10:31,600 You know, it's, it's, okay, we're commuting, kidding, and we're talking about this. 252 00:10:31,600 --> 00:10:38,160 And, you know, it's not so much a, this is how I feel in the moment. 253 00:10:38,160 --> 00:10:45,320 But it's like, I think one of the examples I used, and I'm not going to get really anything 254 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:50,360 specific, I could, but I don't want to right now. 255 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:56,880 But it's like, let's say we're going to do, let's say you enjoy doing an event. 256 00:10:56,880 --> 00:10:58,120 Yeah. 257 00:10:58,120 --> 00:10:59,120 And I don't. 258 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:00,120 Yeah. 259 00:11:00,120 --> 00:11:02,720 You know, if I say, well, I, I don't like this. 260 00:11:02,720 --> 00:11:04,520 I don't, I don't want to do this. 261 00:11:04,520 --> 00:11:05,520 Yeah. 262 00:11:05,520 --> 00:11:08,080 I don't have no interest in doing this. 263 00:11:08,080 --> 00:11:10,360 Please don't involve me. 264 00:11:10,360 --> 00:11:11,880 I'm trying to think of what that would even be. 265 00:11:11,880 --> 00:11:12,880 I know. 266 00:11:12,880 --> 00:11:13,880 Which is crazy. 267 00:11:13,880 --> 00:11:14,880 It's kind of, that's cute. 268 00:11:14,880 --> 00:11:15,880 Yeah. 269 00:11:15,880 --> 00:11:16,880 Continue. 270 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:17,880 Sorry. 271 00:11:17,880 --> 00:11:18,880 Yeah. 272 00:11:18,880 --> 00:11:21,440 But, you know, but it's like, you know, so it's, it's one of those things that, you 273 00:11:21,440 --> 00:11:24,160 know, you know, you don't have to necessarily say it. 274 00:11:24,160 --> 00:11:27,400 But I mean, if you did, you, you could say, this is dumb. 275 00:11:27,400 --> 00:11:29,400 I don't want to do it. 276 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:30,400 Right. 277 00:11:30,400 --> 00:11:32,960 And it's, it's okay to say that. 278 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:33,960 Yeah. 279 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:38,480 It's okay for you as a spouse or partner, whatever, to hear that. 280 00:11:38,480 --> 00:11:39,480 Yeah. 281 00:11:39,480 --> 00:11:47,840 Because as fun as it is to be doing adventures together, to be going on the journey together, 282 00:11:47,840 --> 00:11:56,400 it's still fun to go and do things like either on your own or as, you know, with you and 283 00:11:56,400 --> 00:11:58,280 your friends. 284 00:11:58,280 --> 00:12:00,480 And then you come back together to be spouses. 285 00:12:00,480 --> 00:12:01,480 Yeah. 286 00:12:01,480 --> 00:12:08,080 And so, anyway, so the other night, I went to go watch fights with some friends. 287 00:12:08,080 --> 00:12:09,080 Yes. 288 00:12:09,080 --> 00:12:10,920 I know you are not a fan of fights. 289 00:12:10,920 --> 00:12:12,720 That really, yeah. 290 00:12:12,720 --> 00:12:13,720 Disturbs me. 291 00:12:13,720 --> 00:12:14,720 Right. 292 00:12:14,720 --> 00:12:15,720 Yes. 293 00:12:15,720 --> 00:12:18,640 So it's like, I know you have zero interest in doing that, but it's like, it was kind 294 00:12:18,640 --> 00:12:20,040 of entertaining to me. 295 00:12:20,040 --> 00:12:22,960 So it's like, I'm going to go do that. 296 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:27,040 And I mean, I didn't ask you if you wanted to go because I knew you were staying us ahead 297 00:12:27,040 --> 00:12:28,040 of time. 298 00:12:28,040 --> 00:12:31,040 Well, that, and it's a whole bunch of the husbands and all the beds. 299 00:12:31,040 --> 00:12:32,040 That too. 300 00:12:32,040 --> 00:12:33,360 It was more of a guy's situation. 301 00:12:33,360 --> 00:12:34,360 It was a guy thing. 302 00:12:34,360 --> 00:12:36,000 But yeah. 303 00:12:36,000 --> 00:12:42,640 But even if you had asked me, because when you were telling me this subject, I was like, 304 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:47,720 okay, let's remove the word dumb because I think that that's part of, I think that that's 305 00:12:47,720 --> 00:12:49,360 part of the communication problem. 306 00:12:49,360 --> 00:12:54,840 And I think that that's part of what causes people to shy away. 307 00:12:54,840 --> 00:13:02,200 And because they think, well, I don't want my spouse to think less of me if I like something 308 00:13:02,200 --> 00:13:07,600 that they don't, or I don't want them to our children. 309 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:20,320 And I don't want, because I don't ever want me to be interested and excited about something 310 00:13:20,320 --> 00:13:23,560 that you think is an absolute waste of time. 311 00:13:23,560 --> 00:13:24,560 Right. 312 00:13:24,560 --> 00:13:27,160 And it's part of who I am. 313 00:13:27,160 --> 00:13:31,360 It's part of something that I enjoy. 314 00:13:31,360 --> 00:13:39,560 And I think more often than not, it's all in the delivery of how we even say it. 315 00:13:39,560 --> 00:13:43,840 Because if you were to say, hey, babe, would you like to go to the fights with me? 316 00:13:43,840 --> 00:13:45,720 Well, that's so dumb. 317 00:13:45,720 --> 00:13:46,720 It's so barbaric. 318 00:13:46,720 --> 00:13:48,760 Oh my gosh, a bunch of guys just jump. 319 00:13:48,760 --> 00:13:52,660 You heard him saying like it goes into a whole other weird spin and it becomes very 320 00:13:52,660 --> 00:13:53,660 belittling. 321 00:13:53,660 --> 00:13:54,660 Yeah. 322 00:13:54,660 --> 00:14:00,080 And that's, I think that's kind of the topic that you're really, that's what hit me anyway. 323 00:14:00,080 --> 00:14:02,640 I was like, okay, what would be a topic of this? 324 00:14:02,640 --> 00:14:07,720 And I'm like, trying to be a safe place to tell somebody that that's dumb. 325 00:14:07,720 --> 00:14:12,360 Okay, it's basically trying to express to somebody I'm not interested. 326 00:14:12,360 --> 00:14:15,440 Or maybe something is a very bad idea. 327 00:14:15,440 --> 00:14:22,160 Like you can say it in a way that's not belittling your spouse or your children or whoever it 328 00:14:22,160 --> 00:14:24,840 is that you're having this conversation with. 329 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:29,360 You can say, you know what, I don't think that's the best idea. 330 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:31,160 We say that a lot to our girl, right? 331 00:14:31,160 --> 00:14:36,920 Like if she goes and does some same thing with our boy as our children are growing and 332 00:14:36,920 --> 00:14:41,200 they're learning to make different decisions and things of their own and they're choosing 333 00:14:41,200 --> 00:14:42,200 things. 334 00:14:42,200 --> 00:14:47,880 We're trying to do our best to let them grow into the amazing human beings that they were 335 00:14:47,880 --> 00:14:55,320 created to be without discouraging them or without trying to disrupt too much of what 336 00:14:55,320 --> 00:14:57,280 God wants to do. 337 00:14:57,280 --> 00:14:59,360 But the enemy has play in there too. 338 00:14:59,360 --> 00:15:01,120 Okay, play in with your spouse. 339 00:15:01,120 --> 00:15:06,280 Like all of a sudden it's like, hey, I'm going to go to a bar and I'm going to do the, well, 340 00:15:06,280 --> 00:15:07,280 that's dumb. 341 00:15:07,280 --> 00:15:08,440 Why would you do that? 342 00:15:08,440 --> 00:15:14,080 You know, like you could say that's dumb, probably to a friend, potentially faster than 343 00:15:14,080 --> 00:15:15,240 with maybe your spouse. 344 00:15:15,240 --> 00:15:19,320 Just because like that's more of a, like I could see you saying this, I literally had 345 00:15:19,320 --> 00:15:23,960 flashes of faces of your friends in my phone that you guys could look at each other and 346 00:15:23,960 --> 00:15:25,600 say, dude, that's dumb. 347 00:15:25,600 --> 00:15:26,840 Don't do that. 348 00:15:26,840 --> 00:15:31,480 But if I was to say that to some of my friends, I think it would almost like they would start 349 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:37,440 to recoil and be like, oh, well then I shouldn't say anything. 350 00:15:37,440 --> 00:15:47,240 And my response, and maybe this would be marriage 101 or conversation 101 would be, why do you 351 00:15:47,240 --> 00:15:50,400 want to do that? 352 00:15:50,400 --> 00:15:58,400 I go back to our first date when I'm asking you about the tattoos and the piercings and 353 00:15:58,400 --> 00:16:00,200 the things. 354 00:16:00,200 --> 00:16:06,800 And I'm asking, I'm not saying, wow, that's demonic or wow, that's really outlandish or 355 00:16:06,800 --> 00:16:09,640 wow, you were really far gone. 356 00:16:09,640 --> 00:16:10,640 It was, huh. 357 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:11,640 Yeah. 358 00:16:11,640 --> 00:16:13,600 Well, what made you do that? 359 00:16:13,600 --> 00:16:19,480 Well, what made you want to do, and instead of saying this is a peer pressure thing or 360 00:16:19,480 --> 00:16:23,160 this is a this thing or that thing, because again, anybody that has ever seen my husband 361 00:16:23,160 --> 00:16:28,440 in real life, for our listeners that do not know physically what my husband looks like, 362 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:37,600 he's a most amazing six foot three sexy glass wearing, but he he is tatted, you're tatted 363 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:43,400 kind of not so much head to toe, but you know, shoulders maybe one day, one. 364 00:16:43,400 --> 00:16:46,440 Nope. 365 00:16:46,440 --> 00:16:50,240 That would be dumb. 366 00:16:50,240 --> 00:16:53,680 See is like, no, why would you want that babe? 367 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:56,000 Why would you want, you know what I mean? 368 00:16:56,000 --> 00:17:00,080 And that would be the conversation, well, why, why did you do what's the story behind 369 00:17:00,080 --> 00:17:02,280 this or what's the story behind that? 370 00:17:02,280 --> 00:17:07,760 And I think that what that does is it keeps it keeps you in a place where you are a safe 371 00:17:07,760 --> 00:17:09,720 place for that person. 372 00:17:09,720 --> 00:17:17,000 You're a safe place for them to, to share their ideas to share even maybe their beliefs 373 00:17:17,000 --> 00:17:20,160 or share just what they're thinking in the moment. 374 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:25,240 And what is our favorite one of our favorite sayings to say in our house, think your thought 375 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:26,960 through, right? 376 00:17:26,960 --> 00:17:34,360 So when our children come to us or even each other and we come with an idea, okay, think 377 00:17:34,360 --> 00:17:35,360 your thought through. 378 00:17:35,360 --> 00:17:36,360 Okay, cool. 379 00:17:36,360 --> 00:17:37,360 That's great. 380 00:17:37,360 --> 00:17:40,200 That's a great thought or maybe that's not a great thought, but let's think the thought 381 00:17:40,200 --> 00:17:41,280 through. 382 00:17:41,280 --> 00:17:43,800 Why would I say that that might not be a good idea? 383 00:17:43,800 --> 00:17:44,800 Yeah. 384 00:17:44,800 --> 00:17:49,640 And that's, that's the bonus of me being an overthinker is I have thought the thought 385 00:17:49,640 --> 00:17:52,000 through and I've thought 10,000 thought through. 386 00:17:52,000 --> 00:17:53,000 It's true. 387 00:17:53,000 --> 00:17:57,840 Again, with the idea of us bringing cameras into the studio. 388 00:17:57,840 --> 00:17:58,840 Yes. 389 00:17:58,840 --> 00:18:02,160 I mean, I have been as I'm burping and blowing it the other way. 390 00:18:02,160 --> 00:18:03,160 That's all right. 391 00:18:03,160 --> 00:18:04,160 That's all right. 392 00:18:04,160 --> 00:18:05,160 That's it's live. 393 00:18:05,160 --> 00:18:06,160 It's life. 394 00:18:06,160 --> 00:18:09,680 It's life is the realness of being a couple. 395 00:18:09,680 --> 00:18:17,160 But it's like, I mean, I think I've been batting around the idea of what would it involve? 396 00:18:17,160 --> 00:18:18,160 What would camera? 397 00:18:18,160 --> 00:18:20,160 What would it involve to get cameras in here? 398 00:18:20,160 --> 00:18:21,160 Yeah. 399 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:22,160 Probably for over a year. 400 00:18:22,160 --> 00:18:23,520 Yes, you have. 401 00:18:23,520 --> 00:18:26,680 If not since we shortly after we started this. 402 00:18:26,680 --> 00:18:29,440 It's true. 403 00:18:29,440 --> 00:18:33,160 You know, so it's, it's I've definitely thought the thought through. 404 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:34,160 Yes. 405 00:18:34,160 --> 00:18:37,640 So, so to go back to the conversation, right? 406 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:42,840 Like as far as like becoming a safe place to basically tell somebody that it's dumb. 407 00:18:42,840 --> 00:18:46,360 I think number one, you need to know what kind of lingo and what kind of language that 408 00:18:46,360 --> 00:18:48,960 you can speak to that spouse. 409 00:18:48,960 --> 00:18:55,400 Because another one of the sayings that we say in our household that we stole from my 410 00:18:55,400 --> 00:18:58,800 sister-in-law was you need to know what dance you have. 411 00:18:58,800 --> 00:19:03,640 Like that's their dance because some, some of our friends, they speak to each other, 412 00:19:03,640 --> 00:19:09,760 there's them as far as their spouses and I just go, wow, I could never say that to you. 413 00:19:09,760 --> 00:19:13,880 Or I would hit you with a frying pan if you were to speak to me like that. 414 00:19:13,880 --> 00:19:15,800 You know, and they're cool with it. 415 00:19:15,800 --> 00:19:17,840 Like they're fine with it. 416 00:19:17,840 --> 00:19:25,800 I, I think too many times though, even in those kind of realms, we need to slow down 417 00:19:25,800 --> 00:19:31,680 enough and be respectful and honorable enough to each other's thoughts to where even if 418 00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:42,520 it is a dumb thought, takes a time to, to, to unwrap the thought, takes a time to have 419 00:19:42,520 --> 00:19:44,200 the conversation. 420 00:19:44,200 --> 00:19:48,360 Because if, if they're having that thought to begin with, you kind of want to know why 421 00:19:48,360 --> 00:19:51,040 they got to that space anyway. 422 00:19:51,040 --> 00:19:52,040 Yeah. 423 00:19:52,040 --> 00:19:58,320 Especially if it is something that is, that's deemed dumb or potentially toxic or, or harmful 424 00:19:58,320 --> 00:20:07,080 or something that could become, you used the word earlier, somebody would end up being 425 00:20:07,080 --> 00:20:09,680 very, what was it that you said? 426 00:20:09,680 --> 00:20:12,000 Shoot, what's the word? 427 00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:13,000 Resentful? 428 00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:16,240 Resentful, thank you, baby. 429 00:20:16,240 --> 00:20:22,120 You know, because you don't, you, you want to, you want to say, Hey, I know that this 430 00:20:22,120 --> 00:20:29,640 is, you and I've had these conversations where I am, and it's usually me, where I am 431 00:20:29,640 --> 00:20:33,320 spiraling in a really weird space. 432 00:20:33,320 --> 00:20:37,680 And it's usually potentially hormonal or it's something that's just, I'm just off. 433 00:20:37,680 --> 00:20:40,480 And I'll say, just bear with me. 434 00:20:40,480 --> 00:20:47,520 Give me just, give me five minutes to, to vent or give me the five minutes to just kind 435 00:20:47,520 --> 00:20:57,120 of unwrap this and, and just, just lose my ever loving crap everywhere. 436 00:20:57,120 --> 00:21:02,360 And then, and then, okay, now let's put the pieces back together. 437 00:21:02,360 --> 00:21:03,840 Okay, let's pray. 438 00:21:03,840 --> 00:21:08,680 Hey, let's, let's take the time or just hold me while I cry. 439 00:21:08,680 --> 00:21:16,640 Because I'm, I'm trying to think my thought through and not, and have a greater understanding 440 00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:19,440 myself of even what I'm having to deal with. 441 00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:20,440 Yeah. 442 00:21:20,440 --> 00:21:25,800 And I'm, and I'm gonna, I'm gonna turn it a little bit to, to kind of play with the 443 00:21:25,800 --> 00:21:26,800 word dumb. 444 00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:27,800 Okay. 445 00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:32,920 Because I think, I think when I initially said it, and, and with some of the conversations 446 00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:41,240 that we were having before we hit record, I'm second guessing, I'm not regretting, but 447 00:21:41,240 --> 00:21:47,080 I'm second guessing the use of the word dumb because it's, it's not so much, I mean, yes, 448 00:21:47,080 --> 00:21:50,520 if something's a bad idea, it's like, you know, hey, no, that's not a good idea. 449 00:21:50,520 --> 00:21:53,880 Oh, hey, I'm thinking of getting a tattoo, you know, right below my chin. 450 00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:54,880 Maybe not. 451 00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:55,880 Let's, let's think about that. 452 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:58,480 I'd suffocate you in your sleep. 453 00:21:58,480 --> 00:21:59,480 You would. 454 00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:01,800 I really wouldn't guys, it's okay. 455 00:22:01,800 --> 00:22:09,880 But I think, I think it's, it's more of not so much this is dumb as in this is a bad idea, 456 00:22:09,880 --> 00:22:14,680 but more of I have no interest in doing this. 457 00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:15,680 Correct. 458 00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:21,800 Because I think, I think what it is, is, you know, sometimes it's, it's, I have zero interest 459 00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:22,800 in doing this. 460 00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:26,920 And I, as I say that, I think back to our conversation with Eric and Laurie. 461 00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:27,920 Yeah. 462 00:22:27,920 --> 00:22:31,520 And, you know, where it's, he loves to golf. 463 00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:32,520 Correct. 464 00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:33,520 She has no interest. 465 00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:34,520 Right. 466 00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:38,080 But yet they, she went because she likes to be with him. 467 00:22:38,080 --> 00:22:42,400 And it's, it's like, that is important as, as a couple. 468 00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:48,240 That is, that is important to help maintain and, and keep life in your marriage. 469 00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:49,240 Yeah. 470 00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:54,160 But it's also, there, there are things that I'm going to do that you have no interest 471 00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:57,240 in it or that you do that I have no interest. 472 00:22:57,240 --> 00:22:58,240 Yeah. 473 00:22:58,240 --> 00:22:59,240 Yeah. 474 00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:02,680 I have to say, I, I don't care about that. 475 00:23:02,680 --> 00:23:03,680 I have no interest. 476 00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:04,680 I'm good. 477 00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:07,360 I don't, I don't want to participate in this. 478 00:23:07,360 --> 00:23:08,360 You know, and it's... 479 00:23:08,360 --> 00:23:09,360 Go call your girls. 480 00:23:09,360 --> 00:23:10,360 You're fine. 481 00:23:10,360 --> 00:23:12,560 You know, oh, you want to sign up for a, for a half marathon? 482 00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:13,560 Sweet. 483 00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:14,560 Go for it. 484 00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:15,560 I will cheer you on. 485 00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:16,560 I will support you. 486 00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:17,560 I will drive you to the venue. 487 00:23:17,560 --> 00:23:18,560 Yes, you will. 488 00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:19,560 I do not want to partake in that. 489 00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:20,560 No. 490 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:21,560 You know. 491 00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:22,560 Yeah. 492 00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:29,200 Um, you know, so again, so it's that, it's that, that freedom to say, I don't want 493 00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:30,200 to do that. 494 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:31,200 Yeah. 495 00:23:31,200 --> 00:23:32,200 I have no interest in that. 496 00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:34,680 I don't want anything to do with that event. 497 00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:35,680 Yeah. 498 00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:42,840 Um, you know, but again, it's, it's that. 499 00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:45,480 It's like, it's, it's also, it's like, I want to tag on. 500 00:23:45,480 --> 00:23:50,920 It's also, that's not important to me. 501 00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:52,600 I don't care about that. 502 00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:57,960 You know, but, but saying it in a nice way or, or having that, that safe space to say, 503 00:23:57,960 --> 00:23:59,640 I don't care about that. 504 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:03,320 And not to be like, Oh my gosh, you don't care about this thing that I care about. 505 00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:07,080 It's like, okay, I care about you and I care. 506 00:24:07,080 --> 00:24:08,080 But I don't care. 507 00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:09,080 Right. 508 00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:14,400 You know, I mean, I mean, yes, you know, some of this was prompted. 509 00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:19,040 I love our friends, friends know that I love you, know that we love you. 510 00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:21,600 Um, love you bits. 511 00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:27,080 But they are having some discussions these days and some things are important to one. 512 00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:29,000 And some things are important to the other. 513 00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:34,840 And, and they're individually like almost saying that's not important to me. 514 00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:36,340 Pick whatever you want. 515 00:24:36,340 --> 00:24:39,000 And it's like they, they're not flat at times. 516 00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:41,440 It seems like they're not flat out saying it in front of us. 517 00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:45,440 I mean, I don't know what conversations they're having in quiet and private. 518 00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:46,640 Not my business. 519 00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:51,280 But the, the conversations they have in front of us, you made it our business because you're 520 00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:54,560 having it in front of us or you're asking our opinion. 521 00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:57,040 You know, but it is, it's like, you know, it was. 522 00:24:57,040 --> 00:25:00,360 It would be like, you know, when we're decorating, you know, when I was setting up my office, 523 00:25:00,360 --> 00:25:04,760 you know, the studio and I would be like, well, I'm thinking about going this, this 524 00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:06,200 kind of setup or that kind of setup. 525 00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:08,040 And you'd be like, I really don't care. 526 00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:09,040 This is your office. 527 00:25:09,040 --> 00:25:10,040 Right. 528 00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:11,040 Yeah. 529 00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:14,160 You know, I mean, it's kind of turned into our studio, but it's like, but if I was like, 530 00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:19,560 what belongs here and that is mine, that chair in the two blankets. 531 00:25:19,560 --> 00:25:20,560 And I'm aware. 532 00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:24,120 But still our studio. 533 00:25:24,120 --> 00:25:25,120 I didn't say that. 534 00:25:25,120 --> 00:25:26,120 No, I know. 535 00:25:26,120 --> 00:25:27,120 I know. 536 00:25:27,120 --> 00:25:29,640 See what just happened there guys. 537 00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:33,080 But, but it's, but it's one of those things that it's like, you know, you could say, you 538 00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:36,880 know, if I'm trying to figure out how to set things up or what's put in here and you could 539 00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:38,400 be like, I don't care. 540 00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:39,400 Yeah. 541 00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:42,760 You know, and, and I'd be like, okay, well, she really doesn't, you know, it really doesn't 542 00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:43,760 affect her. 543 00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:45,760 You know, as long as there's space for her. 544 00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:46,760 Right. 545 00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:54,240 You know, this is, this is where you get to be like, you're here probably not seven days 546 00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:58,440 a week, but at least a good five, four or five solid. 547 00:25:58,440 --> 00:25:59,440 Yeah. 548 00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:03,240 And this is your domain and I get to live in it. 549 00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:04,240 Yeah. 550 00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:05,240 I get to visit. 551 00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:07,040 I get to come and visit. 552 00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:11,240 I don't even get to live in it because I do get kicked out on time from time to time. 553 00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:14,560 And in, and that is, and that is okay. 554 00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:15,560 That's okay. 555 00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:22,680 It's, it's okay to appreciate that's the word, to appreciate the differences that your 556 00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:27,560 spouse brings to the table because like in the midst of my workout, this was what was 557 00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:32,520 funny because I almost recorded it onto in the rail on our Facebook. 558 00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:37,200 So you guys get to have my thoughts before they do. 559 00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:43,400 The guy kept saying there's, everybody's going to come to the table and be able to do something 560 00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:45,000 different. 561 00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:50,000 Not everybody is going to come with the same amounts of strengths and the same amount of 562 00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:53,400 tenacity and abilities. 563 00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:57,680 Like you hear the guy, like again, you were there when at the last part of it. 564 00:26:57,680 --> 00:26:58,680 He's very positive. 565 00:26:58,680 --> 00:26:59,680 Oh yeah. 566 00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:05,040 You know, but he's pushing you, but he's pushing you in such a space where it's like he's, 567 00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:11,120 he's reminding you, you do what is good for you that is not going to harm you or hurt 568 00:27:11,120 --> 00:27:14,520 you and just know that you're building a better body. 569 00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:16,320 You're not trying to run away race. 570 00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:19,160 You're not trying to look like the person next to you. 571 00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:23,280 You're not trying to, you're not my competition. 572 00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:27,520 You're not, it's okay that we have different interests. 573 00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:33,880 It's okay that we, we have different parts of our house that this is your domain. 574 00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:36,840 This is where you get to be. 575 00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:39,280 There's certain parts of the house for the most part. 576 00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:44,680 I mean, we share everything in the house, but you're so sweet because you're like, you decorate 577 00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:48,440 the rest of the house any way, which way you want to, right? 578 00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:49,440 Do you have input? 579 00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:50,440 Absolutely. 580 00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:51,440 Please understand. 581 00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:53,320 I take this man to Ikea. 582 00:27:53,320 --> 00:27:55,080 I take him to paint shops. 583 00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:56,920 I take him to all the places. 584 00:27:56,920 --> 00:28:00,120 You are very hands-on, very in it. 585 00:28:00,120 --> 00:28:01,880 And you have a definite opinion. 586 00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:05,040 I do not want our kitchen to be purple, babe. 587 00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:06,840 Okay, no problem. 588 00:28:06,840 --> 00:28:07,840 You know what I mean? 589 00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:14,240 It's, it's finding those places where you say, this is really important to both of us. 590 00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:15,520 This is really important to you. 591 00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:17,320 This is really important to me. 592 00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:22,720 And then just figure out what your non-negotiables are and then find out where the other things 593 00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:28,720 are, but don't make the other person feel inadequate or less than or that they have 594 00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:32,400 to, to go your way or no way. 595 00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:33,400 That's not fair. 596 00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:34,400 Yeah. 597 00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:40,480 They're again, it's like, it's, it's the small and the sounds probably pretty trite and just 598 00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:47,080 very simplistic, but it's the simple things that could cause the frustrations that can 599 00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:49,080 cause the, what was ordered. 600 00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:51,280 I don't know why I can't seem to keep that in mind. 601 00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:52,280 The regret. 602 00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:53,280 The regret. 603 00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:54,280 Resentment. 604 00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:55,280 Resentment. 605 00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:56,280 Yeah. 606 00:28:56,280 --> 00:29:00,920 Because, because seeds, seeds of resentment start at the smallest of things. 607 00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:04,600 I, I would much rather just be like, okay, well, we're just not going to touch this at 608 00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:09,440 all until we can come to a place of either agreement or just somebody just says, it's 609 00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:11,760 really not that important to me. 610 00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:13,000 It really is okay. 611 00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:14,880 We can move on. 612 00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:22,160 And I think, I think sometimes that comes from, it's almost an external resentment through 613 00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:24,520 keeping up with other couples. 614 00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:25,520 Yeah. 615 00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:26,720 Well, they have a marriage like this. 616 00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:28,120 Why don't we have a marriage like this? 617 00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:30,600 You know, they, they have all these interests together. 618 00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:32,800 We need to have all these interests together. 619 00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:33,800 Yes. 620 00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:34,800 Yes. 621 00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:35,800 Yeah. 622 00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:38,240 You know, I've, I've heard it in, you know, I've heard it from coworkers, you know, it's 623 00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:43,400 like, you know, I have a coworker that really loves going to the gym and his wife's like, 624 00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:45,040 well, I want to go to the gym with you. 625 00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:46,040 And he's like, okay, cool. 626 00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:47,440 And he buys gym memberships. 627 00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:50,920 And then he says that she doesn't use them as often as he does. 628 00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:53,520 And he's like, why am I paying for this? 629 00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:58,920 You know, but it is, it's, it's that, you know, it's, it's that keeping up with the 630 00:29:58,920 --> 00:30:00,440 Jones's mentality. 631 00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:01,440 Right. 632 00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:09,520 And I think it's also that, that microwave mentality, you know, kind of like, you know, 633 00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:14,120 like when, when we pray to God, you know, we, we need that instant response. 634 00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:16,920 We need that instant answer to prayer. 635 00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:20,160 And if it's not, then all of a sudden it's like, well, what am I doing wrong? 636 00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:21,840 Or why isn't God listening? 637 00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:25,760 You know, well, what, what do you mean we don't have a hundred percent of our interests 638 00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:28,640 in line as a couple, you know, what's, what's wrong with us? 639 00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:29,640 Why are we struggling? 640 00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:30,840 It's like, you're not struggling. 641 00:30:30,840 --> 00:30:31,840 You're doing fine. 642 00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:34,640 You just, it's okay that you guys don't have the same interests. 643 00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:35,640 Right. 644 00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:36,640 Right. 645 00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:37,640 That's what helps keeps things spicy. 646 00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:39,480 It's, I mean, and genuinely, right? 647 00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:40,480 Yeah. 648 00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:46,760 Because again, and back to, because what I was thinking was there's going to be times 649 00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:53,560 where you come to the table and you're, you're like hitting a hundred percent on certain 650 00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:57,480 spaces and I may not be, right? 651 00:30:57,480 --> 00:31:02,160 And then it'll flip or there'll be, or there's just something, there's just, again, you're 652 00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:03,280 wicked smart. 653 00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:06,760 You are Google and I am common sense. 654 00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:11,520 I get to bring certain other things to the table and is it that you don't have common 655 00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:12,520 sense? 656 00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:13,520 No. 657 00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:14,520 Is it that I'm not smart? 658 00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:15,520 No. 659 00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:22,240 But you, we have different strengths that we get to walk in and when you aren't walking 660 00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:28,360 in the same thing, because especially when you're in a marriage, like you said, not just 661 00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:33,360 keeping it spicy, but you guys get to bring a full package to the deal when you're both 662 00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:34,560 there together. 663 00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:37,800 There's, it's not that one person is completing the other. 664 00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:41,000 It's just you now become a little bit more well rounded. 665 00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:42,000 Yeah. 666 00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:43,560 Well, my, my spouse really loves this. 667 00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:46,160 I, oh, are you interested in that? 668 00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:47,160 Not at all. 669 00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:52,160 But I'll get you in touch with my spouse because they have all the knowledge and they can tell 670 00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:57,800 you all of the things, you know, it, in, in understanding the strengths and not making 671 00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:04,320 that person feel less than because they don't think like you or act like you. 672 00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:08,440 You're not created to, there's only one God only needed one you. 673 00:32:08,440 --> 00:32:09,840 Why is he creating another one? 674 00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:11,640 And why is he making them marry you? 675 00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:13,760 That just seems absurd. 676 00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:14,760 Why would you do that? 677 00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:15,760 You don't want to do that. 678 00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:26,080 So, um, I think, I think giving each other a platform when you say there is no wrong 679 00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:28,120 answer, you sent that real to me today. 680 00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:34,160 It was beautiful where the lady was like this marriage 101 because immediately somebody 681 00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:38,360 will say, well, when you're asking a question, she said her husband would get really defensive. 682 00:32:38,360 --> 00:32:39,360 Yeah. 683 00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:40,360 And I'm like, well, what do you, what do you mean? 684 00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:41,360 Like, what do you mean? 685 00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:43,440 Yeah, even something as, you know, what time will you be home tonight? 686 00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:44,440 Yeah. 687 00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:46,200 And he's like, well, and he always felt kind of attacked. 688 00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:47,800 And I was like, whoa. 689 00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:53,940 And she says what she started doing was she would promise the question with there is no 690 00:32:53,940 --> 00:32:54,940 wrong answer. 691 00:32:54,940 --> 00:32:55,940 Yeah. 692 00:32:55,940 --> 00:32:56,940 Could you tell me? 693 00:32:56,940 --> 00:32:57,940 Yeah. 694 00:32:57,940 --> 00:33:00,320 You know, there is no wrong answer here. 695 00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:01,320 Which do you prefer? 696 00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:02,320 Yeah. 697 00:33:02,320 --> 00:33:03,320 There is no. 698 00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:08,560 And you yourself have to follow up with, you really don't care about their answer. 699 00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:11,120 It is, it is not that big of a deal. 700 00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:14,640 If you have a certain preference, you need to be honest. 701 00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:15,640 Yeah. 702 00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:21,640 And you need to make your requests known and then maybe give them some back history, give 703 00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:23,800 them some understanding. 704 00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:30,400 Maybe the reason why your, your spouse isn't as crazy about something is because they don't 705 00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:35,760 understand the full fledged gravity of what it is that it means to you. 706 00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:39,560 And whether they come alongside and say, ooh, I think that would be fun. 707 00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:40,920 Let's do that too. 708 00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:45,240 At least it gives them a greater understanding of my spouse isn't just going and doing something 709 00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:46,240 dumb. 710 00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:47,240 No. 711 00:33:47,240 --> 00:33:53,160 They're genuinely just enjoying this moment and this time and they come back better after 712 00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:55,880 they've done this, you know. 713 00:33:55,880 --> 00:34:03,600 Or in the cases of people like us, relationships like ours, sometimes it can be, I'm not a 714 00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:06,480 fan of that and my ex was a huge fan of that. 715 00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:08,480 So I'd rather not. 716 00:34:08,480 --> 00:34:10,360 It is true. 717 00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:11,360 Yeah. 718 00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:16,000 You know, again, and again, saying, you know, you can totally be delivered in the field of 719 00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:20,200 that and focus on, you know, this is, this is my marriage now. 720 00:34:20,200 --> 00:34:22,800 This is my spouse now. 721 00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:28,640 You know, unless it's something that caused deep hardcore trauma, you know, we can, you 722 00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:33,560 know, we can do anything and overcome anything with Jesus and God. 723 00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:37,480 But again, I know there are things, you know, it's like, you know, you could, you know, 724 00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:40,920 maybe there are those things that it's like, you know, my ex was really into this and I'm 725 00:34:40,920 --> 00:34:41,920 really not. 726 00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:43,880 I want nothing to do with it. 727 00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:44,880 Yeah. 728 00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:45,880 Is there something I need to know? 729 00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:46,880 Not that I can think of. 730 00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:47,880 No. 731 00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:50,960 I just wanted to make sure that this was like, are you just trying to tell me something? 732 00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:51,960 No. 733 00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:52,960 I'm just trying to tell you something. 734 00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:53,960 For all of everybody else. 735 00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:54,960 The broad, the broad. 736 00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:58,120 I'm making like these gestures like, like we're already on video. 737 00:34:58,120 --> 00:35:02,440 This is just a broad general statement just because, because I know it can't happen. 738 00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:03,440 Absolutely. 739 00:35:03,440 --> 00:35:04,440 Absolutely. 740 00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:05,440 You know, and. 741 00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:06,440 Or the way that you were raised. 742 00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:07,440 Yeah. 743 00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:08,440 Right. 744 00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:09,440 Like just whatever your home life might have been or something of that nature. 745 00:35:09,440 --> 00:35:10,440 Yes. 746 00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:16,480 Like this is, this is, this is how it's always been, you know, that, you know, and this is 747 00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:18,040 how it's always going to be. 748 00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:20,720 And then that bleeds into your marriage. 749 00:35:20,720 --> 00:35:22,400 So there's, there's some. 750 00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:25,160 And in a way that can, that can work out for the positive. 751 00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:26,160 Yeah. 752 00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:28,240 You know, it's like, well, I do this because that's how it's always been. 753 00:35:28,240 --> 00:35:30,240 That's how, well, what, but. 754 00:35:30,240 --> 00:35:31,240 Why? 755 00:35:31,240 --> 00:35:33,240 Do you like doing it? 756 00:35:33,240 --> 00:35:35,240 Well, not really, but that's how you do it. 757 00:35:35,240 --> 00:35:38,240 I know your dad was into it, but just like, do you really like it? 758 00:35:38,240 --> 00:35:39,240 No, me, no. 759 00:35:39,240 --> 00:35:43,560 Again, that safe space to say, well, then why are we doing it? 760 00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:44,560 Yes. 761 00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:45,560 Come on, babe. 762 00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:46,560 See that part. 763 00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:47,560 Yeah. 764 00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:54,400 So give, give safe space so people can, can reflect and they can, the introspection, like 765 00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:58,600 you were talking about, like you can just, you can say, why do I do that? 766 00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:00,480 Why do I seem to be drawn to that? 767 00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:03,240 Why do I, you know? 768 00:36:03,240 --> 00:36:09,320 And again, it's not like you have to dissect everything, but if it is a place of potential 769 00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:16,040 contention or if it's a place where like you feel like, well, my, my, I want my spouse 770 00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:17,040 to be here. 771 00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:19,280 And you, I like you everywhere I go. 772 00:36:19,280 --> 00:36:22,280 It's just you, you, you my ride or die babe. 773 00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:25,160 Like you're my bestie and I like it and it's good, right? 774 00:36:25,160 --> 00:36:26,560 You're not just my hubby. 775 00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:32,120 Um, but it, but I know that there are times too where it's like, I would like to just 776 00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:34,200 be by myself, please. 777 00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:39,200 You know, I would just, if you could just stop breathing on me, that would be great. 778 00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:44,840 Um, but do it in a space where you just mind your tone guys. 779 00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:47,000 Just mind your tone. 780 00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:50,960 Make time to say, well, this is how I always say it. 781 00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:54,040 This is what it's always done. 782 00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:55,680 Don't do that to your spouse. 783 00:36:55,680 --> 00:36:59,440 Give your spouse a little bit more respect and honor than that. 784 00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:01,960 Um, be, be more mindful. 785 00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:05,520 Um, just because it might have been, this has always been the way that it's been done. 786 00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:08,520 Doesn't mean that it always has to continue to be that way. 787 00:37:08,520 --> 00:37:14,800 Um, just be really, just be a safe space. 788 00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:26,480 And again, me and you over, you know, almost 13 years now, um, I, I can say that you and 789 00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:36,520 I take that scripture into, um, it's, that's kind of a stock in our world where it's be 790 00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:43,600 quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to respond and, and take that time. 791 00:37:43,600 --> 00:37:46,000 Listen to your spouse, hear their heart. 792 00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:47,000 Yeah. 793 00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:52,160 Sometimes their words don't come out quite the same way, but just be, you know, and, 794 00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:56,480 and if you continue to say, I, you know, I, I don't, I don't want to do that. 795 00:37:56,480 --> 00:38:01,640 Or this isn't interesting to me or I don't think this is the way we should go. 796 00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:06,160 At least take the time to listen. 797 00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:07,840 Make sure you're listening. 798 00:38:07,840 --> 00:38:14,840 Make sure you are walking away and you're listening with, um, ears that want to have 799 00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:17,760 an understanding, not just to respond. 800 00:38:17,760 --> 00:38:18,760 Yeah. 801 00:38:18,760 --> 00:38:23,480 Make sure, make sure you're taking the time to say, okay, if I hear you correctly, this 802 00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:25,840 is what you just said. 803 00:38:25,840 --> 00:38:32,320 Instead of even, um, trying to have a preconceived idea of what you think is even trying to be 804 00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:35,040 said or just, well, this is just how it's always been. 805 00:38:35,040 --> 00:38:36,560 And this is what we do. 806 00:38:36,560 --> 00:38:37,560 Why? 807 00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:40,160 You know, you have room to grow. 808 00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:41,160 Take it. 809 00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:42,160 Yeah. 810 00:38:42,160 --> 00:38:47,360 And again, the, the, the, the listening ears and the mindset of your spouse is on your 811 00:38:47,360 --> 00:38:48,360 team. 812 00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:49,840 You guys are on the same team. 813 00:38:49,840 --> 00:38:56,240 You are genuinely both looking out for the betterment and the growth of your marriage, 814 00:38:56,240 --> 00:38:57,240 your relationship. 815 00:38:57,240 --> 00:38:58,240 That's right. 816 00:38:58,240 --> 00:39:01,400 You know, don't like, don't have those listening ears of, oh my gosh, they're always tearing 817 00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:02,400 it down. 818 00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:03,400 What I want to do. 819 00:39:03,400 --> 00:39:04,400 Right. 820 00:39:04,400 --> 00:39:07,320 Or they're, they're always, you know, they never, they're never interested in what 821 00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:09,360 I'm interested in. 822 00:39:09,360 --> 00:39:10,960 You know, don't, don't do that. 823 00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:18,560 You know, you know, be, be open, be open to, you know, the changes that make sense. 824 00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:23,160 You know, if, if it seems like it's a change or something that's just a little outside 825 00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:25,560 of your comfort zone, pray about it. 826 00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:26,560 That's it. 827 00:39:26,560 --> 00:39:27,560 You know, pray about it. 828 00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:29,480 Like, oh my gosh, is, you know, should I, should I be changing? 829 00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:30,480 Should I be doing this? 830 00:39:30,480 --> 00:39:33,680 You know, why, you know, why do I do it like this? 831 00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:34,680 Right. 832 00:39:34,680 --> 00:39:36,920 You know, God, you know, should I keep doing this or should I change? 833 00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:41,800 You know, but have those conversations, have those prayers, have those, have that mindset 834 00:39:41,800 --> 00:39:47,000 that you are genuinely on the same team looking to grow and better your marriage. 835 00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:48,000 That's it. 836 00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:49,000 That's it. 837 00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:50,000 Yeah. 838 00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:51,000 Period. 839 00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:52,000 Period. 840 00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:53,000 That's good. 841 00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:54,000 Yeah. 842 00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:55,000 So I think that's good. 843 00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:56,000 I think that's good. 844 00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:57,000 I think that's good. 845 00:39:57,000 --> 00:39:58,000 Yeah. 846 00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:00,720 It got fleshed out the way you wanted. 847 00:40:00,720 --> 00:40:01,720 It did. 848 00:40:01,720 --> 00:40:02,720 I think it did. 849 00:40:02,720 --> 00:40:03,720 Yeah. 850 00:40:03,720 --> 00:40:04,720 Good. 851 00:40:04,720 --> 00:40:05,720 Good. 852 00:40:05,720 --> 00:40:06,720 Yeah. 853 00:40:06,720 --> 00:40:09,200 So I see that, Paul. 854 00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:10,740 She's so cute. 855 00:40:10,740 --> 00:40:22,720 Because when you were saying it, one thought did trigger and it was also when you were in 856 00:40:22,720 --> 00:40:28,120 those spaces, find where your common ground is. 857 00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:30,520 Make sure you're finding the common ground. 858 00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:37,440 Make sure you are in the space where you are also the one that's saying, well, they get 859 00:40:37,440 --> 00:40:38,600 their way all the time. 860 00:40:38,600 --> 00:40:40,760 They get what they want. 861 00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:44,480 I just live in their world like I tease about your office. 862 00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:52,280 But if it is not, if it really bothers you, if it's really something that is important 863 00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:56,280 to you, talk it through. 864 00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:58,280 Express your concerns. 865 00:40:58,280 --> 00:40:59,280 Hey. 866 00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:03,200 I know you don't want to do this or you don't like to go here. 867 00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:10,640 But man, it would really mean a lot if or this is how I feel when. 868 00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:16,240 Make sure you are letting your voice be heard. 869 00:41:16,240 --> 00:41:22,120 And just know that again, like you said, you guys are on the same team. 870 00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:23,120 Yes. 871 00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:24,120 I like it, babe. 872 00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:25,120 Thanks. 873 00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:26,120 That was good. 874 00:41:26,120 --> 00:41:27,120 All right, guys. 875 00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:28,120 Have the best week. 876 00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:29,120 Enjoy the journey. 877 00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:30,120 Bye. 878 00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:59,120 Bye.