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Hello and welcome back to another episode of Upfront and Undivided with Luke and Dean'na. 

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Hi babe.

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Hi babe.

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How's it going?

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It's good.

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How are you?

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I'm good.

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Hey, we're back.

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We're back.

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We're back.

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We took June off?

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Yeah, June off, yes.

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Was it most of June?

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Did all of it June?

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I think so.

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I forget my dates.

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My dates are all blended.

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But yeah, it was at minimum most of June and the first week of July off.

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There we go.

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Yeah.

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Because it's summer.

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Yeah.

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Because at first you were like, we need to record for the first of July.

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And I'm like, no, I was planning after the fourth of July.

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Let things calm down.

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That was probably wisdom.

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Yeah.

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Because happy birthday America.

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Yes.

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248.

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248.

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Woo.

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Yep.

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Oh, even numbers.

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Yeah.

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Two times four is eight.

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What?

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Look at me, Mathen.

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Cool, babe.

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Thanks.

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That was, yeah, that was, I just, hey, it's all right.

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Yeah.

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That's my third grade education coming out.

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It's fine.

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Because summer, we're summering.

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Our sweet little guy is done with baseball.

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Our sweet girl is about to do a trip.

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Yep.

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I finished my certification and now I'm going back and redoing some certification to potentially

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substitute teach again this coming school year.

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You're still plugging away and working on projects and doing things.

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Yes.

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And...

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Re-evaluating other parts of my life.

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What are you re-evaluating?

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Well, it's just the, just again, just all the stuff that we've had talks about of, you

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know, again, where do I want to put my energy?

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Where do I want to, what do I want to make my priority?

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Yes.

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You know, outside of you, the kids, you know, God, you know, where does, where does God want

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me to put my energy?

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Right.

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You know, so again, it's just, because I think, I think the other day we had a conversation.

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I know we're kind of jumping in early, but...

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No, it's fine.

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Oh, it was just last night with, we were chatting with another couple and we were talking about

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how, you know, when your priorities are even a little bit out of order, it all of a sudden,

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it really throws disorder into everything.

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Oh man.

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Yeah.

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I mean, it's like, the scripture that ultimately always first and foremost comes into my brain

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when it comes to things getting out of kilter is seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness.

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And then all of these other things will be added to you.

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And so it's like, when we, when we take the time to seek Him first, when we take the time

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to get our eyes off of, off of the mess and onto Him, then He says, ultimately here, this

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is how we're going to walk through this.

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We're going to do X, Y, Z or eight, 20, 32.

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And you're like, what, what are we doing?

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Like that doesn't even, that's not even, and he's like, no, this is how it's going to go.

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Because this will help unravel potentially whatever we got ourselves into, whatever mess

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we got ourselves into.

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But if we follow His lead, genuinely follow His lead, even sometimes when it doesn't quite

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make sense, then that's when we, we get to see some really cool things happen.

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You know, and it's like, you, you mentioned like taking our eyes off the mess, you know,

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it's kind of like when you are cleaning or when you're packing or unpacking, you know,

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it's like focus on, you know, one box at a time, one drawer at a time, you know, one

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cabinet at a time, you know, or, you know, again, when cleaning, it's like, just focus

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on the pile.

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What the, what's, what's gathered in this chair, deal with that first before you deal

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with the room.

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I'm going to go do laundry.

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I've never done that was not my intention.

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I know, but like all of a sudden I was like, I got a pile.

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I got a good sized pile.

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That's all right.

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It's okay.

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Um, but it is, it's, it's one of those where it's like, we had that amazing time with our

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friends last night and then we've got other friends that are smack in the thick of it

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too.

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Yep.

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That are literally doing the boxes, doing the packing, purging the stuff, um, letting

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go of things.

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Ooh, Hey guys, when God has you on a journey and, um, he's making, he's making room.

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Um, that seems to be my thing today is make room.

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Are you making room?

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Um, when he's telling you to make room for the new thing, um, don't, don't get yourself

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so caught up in, uh, the numbers.

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Don't get yourself so caught up in the, uh, what's the next step.

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Just make room.

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Just, um, just pack the box, just throw away the stuff.

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Um, let go of, uh, the past, let go of the stuff that, that doesn't, um, serve you any

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longer.

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Um, there's going to be some things that obviously that we keep along the way, right?

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Like we talk, if we're talking about physical stuff, we talk about heirlooms, we talk about,

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you know, sentimental, the sentimental things, you know, um, our kiddos have got quite a

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bit of sentimental.

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I think you have a box.

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I have a box.

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Um, maybe two.

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I might have a little bit more than you.

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The reason I have a box for the most part is because you insist that you don't throw

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it.

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I'm like, what?

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I don't need it.

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I don't need pictures from high school.

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They would get to those.

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And I'm like, no, I didn't know.

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You gotta know what you look like with hair, babe.

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Like that wasn't on your face, but on your head, right?

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Things of that nature.

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Cause our, our sweet boy is going to be like, did you look like that?

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Cause you know, our girl, even though like she's got the better tan and all the things

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there's, there's pictures that I look back at and I go, wow.

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Yeah, that's Gabri.

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There's there.

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There we are.

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There's, there's our common denominator, but it is, it's, it's making room and allowing

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God to just come in and, um, and purge and uproot and, and get rid of things again that

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either no longer suit you in this moment that are no longer going to benefit you in the

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rest of the journey or at least in the next part of the journey or just things that will

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absolutely it'll kill you.

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It'll absolutely kill you if you hold onto it.

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And it, and it just struck me.

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This is, this is a really nice segue into what we were going to talk about.

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Cause again, you know, we're, we're thinking, you know, we're talking about making room

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and we're thinking about not focusing on the mess.

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Yeah.

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And this episode, we were going to talk about not having a critical spirit.

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Yes.

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You know, not focusing on the mess, not focusing on what could be wrong, you know, don't, don't

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be that negative Nancy.

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You know, so to speak, no offense to anybody, Nancy.

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Yeah, Nancy.

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I'm sure you're cool.

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Yes.

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We actually do have some Nancy's in our, we love you.

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You're fine.

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So I ended up getting very, very convicted and actually, um, God had been dealing with

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me probably for about a month now, I would say.

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And um, we heard a sermon on Sunday that was really kind of, um, Friday night and then

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Sunday and it, it kind of, uh, exposed some stuff.

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And um, one of the things that I'm going to butcher it, I mean, I could go back into the

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notes that I wrote from the person that had been speaking, but, um, the reader's digest

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that I got out of it was this.

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So the gentleman was talking about the book of Esther.

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He's talked about Queen Esther.

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He's talking about, um, there's some things that are in our life that have come to the

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surface and it's not because of our doing.

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It's not something that we per se had a hand in.

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Um, it's generational, uh, hereditary.

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Um, it, it's things where the enemy sees our bloodline and says, you know, like you hear

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this, the statement of, well, you know, well, my, my great, great, great had XYZ.

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So every generation after there's been somebody in the line that ends up having this to a

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certain trait or certain characteristic, a certain, um, personality.

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And so, um, a critical spirit is something that actually I've been seeing, uh, along

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the way in my lifetime and in the life of those in front of me.

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And this isn't me to even throw anybody under the bus.

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Okay.

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So understand me guys, this isn't something, but I also know that there are certain gifts

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that God has given us along the way.

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And I do believe this with everything inside me.

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There's certain gifts that God has given us along the way that are pure and holy and just

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and true, right?

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Enough good report.

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But the enemy has become so sly and so keen that he'll twist something just enough to

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where all of a sudden it becomes toxic.

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It becomes something that's very, um, destructive.

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And so I had actually wrote a post, um, did a post about this and, um, for those of y'all

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that do follow us, um, on any kind of socials, this is going to sound very familiar to you,

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but for those of you that do not, I'm going to read it.

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So, um, a critical spirit is a negative attitude that can cause people to be judgmental, complain

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and see the glass as half empty.

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People with a critical spirit may also be ungrateful, selfish and quick to point out

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others flaws.

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This is what God is dealing with me and wants to uproot.

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So I'll, I'll put a pin in that right there because a lot of people that encounter me

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are like, you're always very encouraging.

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You're always, you speak positive, all of the things which I appreciate.

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Um, so I'm going to follow that up with it disguises itself as discernment or revelation

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at times.

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And though that may be true, that's where the twisting comes in.

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Like God shows you something about somebody or he, he, um, highlights a situation that

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you might, that he's wanting to put in your site, right?

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He wants to, to give you, Hey, look, look, this is, this seems to be, there seems to

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be a problem here.

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And so instead of us, God doesn't want us to be critical of people or situations.

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He wants us to be someone who sees with a heart and the eyes of God, he desires us to

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come and pray and war at his throne and not gossip and backbite on the throne.

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He longs for people to be safe with us.

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And we need to ultimately long that this generational route ends with us.

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And so, um, when I was thinking about this critical spirit and I was thinking about different

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family members in my life that are above me, and I think God has given them such discernment.

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He's given them such insight.

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He's given them like, like there seems to be a direct line.

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And I, I'm pretty certain.

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I'm very certain that I have shared, like one of my brothers in particular had said,

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um, God was showing him some things that were going on in a church, right?

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And immediately he started getting angry.

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He started getting very, um, just vocal about it.

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And the Holy Spirit immediately spoke to him and convicted him and said, I didn't show

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you that for you to talk about and to be angry.

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I showed you that to pray into war and to set people free.

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And there's too many times, um, that I'll go to war at the beginning or I I'm putting

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this on me, but I'm saying this for all of us that there's those, those gifts that God

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has given us that it's like, we see things, we see certain aspects, we see certain things.

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It's like, okay, God, are you wanting me to pray about this ultimately?

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But is there something that physically that you want me to do?

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Is there something that I need to say?

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Do I see that there's a lack here?

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Do you want me to step into this place or is this something that I need to be maybe

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seeking out and saying, father, who do you see fit to fill this void?

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Right.

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Because it's, I think, I think we get so caught up in the mass, kind of like what we were

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talking about, like our eyes get on the mass.

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Instead of focusing in on his righteousness, think on things that are just and good and

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holy and good report.

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Okay.

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Even if I see that you're in the middle of a mess, even if I see that there's garbage

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going on inside of you, um, that there's stuff maybe that needs to be, that needs to be uprooted,

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right?

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I need to love God and love you enough to say there's a treasure inside there.

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There's something inside there.

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Father, help me to, to nourish or help me to support or help me to, to just pray and

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just speak blessings or help me just to keep my freaking mouth shut and stop, stop being

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so negative because blessings and cursings cannot come out of the same space.

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If I, if I'm expecting something good out of a person's life, including my own, like,

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because the reality is, is I was seeing it full force coming out of our children's mouths.

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I'm hearing critical things.

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I'm hearing them being critical of themselves and I'm like, Ooh, okay.

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Cause some people will be like, well, I don't talk about anybody.

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What about, what do you say about yourself?

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You know, what are you saying about God?

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Well, you're critical about God.

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What are you talking about?

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Are, are you freaking out because he's not doing something on your timetable?

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Are you being critical about it?

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Are you saying where, where are you God?

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What do you mean?

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Where am I?

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I'm right here.

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I haven't left here.

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I'm right in the midst of it.

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I'm going to get your eyes off of the mass and get him back on me.

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Yeah.

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And, and to also bring it kind of like, uh, I want to say almost local level, you know,

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down to, you know, relationships and all that.

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It's, you know, is that critical spirit that can really harm how you look at your spouse

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or how your spouse looks at you.

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You know what I mean?

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Again, it's, you know, cause it can be, you know, it can be number one, the, the critical

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spirit of you criticizing everything that your spouse does, you know, how they do stuff,

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what they do, you know, how they say stuff and all that, or two, it can be, you are so

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critical of yourself and, and basically swatting down and batting down anything that your spouse

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tries to say to build you up.

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Right.

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That eventually your spouse will stop.

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That's right.

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That's right.

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You know, so it's like that critical spirit, you know, again, either going out towards

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your spouse or, you know, blocking all the good things coming from your spouse, you know,

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it's like, you know, it's, it's those kinds of things that, that can really, that can

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really affect a marriage, you know, and it's, I think that that's one of those things,

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you know, again, kind of, you know, hopefully you've got it taken care of before you get

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married or, or strategies to take care of it, you know, but again, you know, we are

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we, we can fix this.

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We can, we can, you know, confront and conquer anything that comes up that could harm our

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marriage.

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Yes.

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So it's like, whenever that kind of comes up, it's like, okay, I know, I know what that

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is or I see what that is.

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And again, rather than saying, I see this in you, just, I see, I see this coming up.

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Yes.

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And I, and we need to take care of it.

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Right.

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And it's the same even with our children, right?

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Like, in every relationship, just looking at them.

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One of my favorite lines with our brown eyed girl, right?

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Like, I'll look at her and I'll say, don't talk to my daughter like that.

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Because ultimately it's a critical spirit.

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It's not necessarily her, you know, but that thing has got her so twisted, not even twisted,

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but just he's lying to you.

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The enemy's lying to you.

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And we're learning more and more when it comes to that critical thing.

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Yes, somebody might look at you and say, okay, listen, this is something we need to do.

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This is, we need to better our lives.

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We need to do this, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

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And then there's those other times where it's like, maybe the person that is being critical.

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Because I know with me, I get very, very critical when I'm not sleeping well, when I'm not eating

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well, when I'm not exercising, when I haven't been in the word of God.

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I'm not feeling good about me.

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Right?

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And so I start because or if or I'm not doing what it is that God's told me to do.

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Yeah.

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Right?

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Like, oh, well, they should be, well, they should, well, they will well.

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And it's like, because it's the deflecting off of, of what God is dealing with you on.

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And it's incredibly uncomfortable.

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But man, it's so needed.

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Like, we need to put that, we need to put that mirror up against ourselves and look

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and say, how could I do better?

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How can I, how can I change my stink and think?

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And I mean, we could read the books, we could say the things we could pray the prayers we

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could, but it's, it's ultimately it's, it's just that disciplining our speech, disciplining

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our minds, taking thoughts captive, saying, Oh, that's not what the word of God says.

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That's not who he calls me to be.

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I am more than a conqueror.

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I can, I genuinely can do all things through Christ.

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That gives me grace where he gives me that grace and where he strengthens me to do it.

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You know, that there are certain things that we stand back and we have to say, and then

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we have to give ourselves grace and give our give the person in front of us.

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If there genuinely is something that's needed to be dealt with, you know, like you're

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so gracious to me when it comes to growth and it's when it's I'm standing there going,

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I suck, behave like a suck and you're like, you don't suck.

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We just need to tweak some things, you know, and being, being that person for each other

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and then allowing the Holy Spirit to come in, it just, it, things get better.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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And it is, and that is, that is the key is, you know, being there for each other, you

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know, being there for our kids, our spouse, you know, and remembering, you know, who they

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are to us.

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And, you know, like another thing that you said, you know, cause I know you said, you

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know, sometimes with Gabri it's, you're like, you know, don't talk to my daughter that way.

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Yeah.

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Another thing that you used to say, you still say it once in a while, just not as much.

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And sometimes something I try to remind you of is like, I want to be louder.

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I want my voice to be louder than that voice that's trying to tear you down.

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Yeah.

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You know?

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And so it's like, I, it's like, I know, you know this, but I'm still going to say it again.

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I mean, how many times like in prayer, in worship, you know, it's like, we know God

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is holy.

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We know God is all powerful and stuff like that.

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But when we worship him and we declare it, it's like, it's not like, you know, God's

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not sitting up in heaven and be like, Oh my gosh, I forgot.

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Thank you.

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Thank you for reminding me that I am your salvation.

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Yes.

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You know, so it's like, we know these things, but it is, it's, it's that, it's that reminder.

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It's that, you know, the, the voice of those that love you, those that know you to help

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overcome that internalized dark spiral voice that's, that's trying to bring us down and

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drag you down.

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And you know, so again, it's just, it is, it's those, but you know, again, it's, it's

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those things that what can we do together?

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What can we do for each other?

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Yeah.

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You know, it's not like, you know, again, you're not sitting there saying, well, you

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need to fix that.

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Yeah.

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You know, fix your face.

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I mean, you say that to me a lot, but that is, that is not, yeah, that's just intensity.

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Soften your face, babe.

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Right.

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You know, but, but it is, it's, you know, when it comes to these critical spirits and

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the, the, the tearing down self-talk and stuff like that, or the, you know, tearing things

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down because it's not to your quote unquote standards, you know, it's the, you know, how

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can we fix this?

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You know, how can we, how can we combat this?

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You know, what can, you know, if our kids are being really critical and all that, it's

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like, are they learning that from us?

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Right.

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You know, and if they're learning it from us, then we need to fix that.

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If they're learning it from somewhere else, we need to fix that.

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We need to war against it.

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Right.

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Yeah.

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We need to war against it.

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And you know, whether, you know, if it's a friend, we, we limit time with that friend

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or, or we do spiritual baths when they come back from hanging out with that friend.

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Yes.

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And it's, you know, or it's different things, you know, if it's a TV show, it's like, okay,

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we're not watching that TV show anymore.

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You know, so it is, it's, it's that, you know, what is a critical spirit?

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And how can we combat it?

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Yeah.

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You know, how can we get rid of it?

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How can we, you know, squash it and, and kind of see the warning signs so that way when

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it does try to come back and it does try to, you know, interfere and interject itself into

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our marriage, into our families that, you know, it's like, oh no, we know what that

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is.

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We can, we can take care of that and sweep it out.

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Right.

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But then when we, in the scripture, it talks about when you, when you make one go and you

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sweep the whole house clean that you need to fill it back up with something greater,

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right?

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Or something more will come back with seven of its friends.

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And so this is where the spiritual warfare comes into play that you have, that we, that

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we have to do, we get to do, we have the privilege to do the authority to do.

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We get to be the people that walks into our home.

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Okay.

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So, so your, your, your spouse and one of your kiddos, they might be at odds with each

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other, right?

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Some things going on.

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Okay.

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You as the authority, you as the head, you as, you know, the, the spiritual covering

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in that space, you get to walk into that space and you get to, to speak the word of God.

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You get to command that thing to go in the name of Jesus.

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Anoint things.

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I mean, you see it on a lie where I'll walk, I'll clean the house, but then I'll go clean

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the house and then start anointing, like anoint the doors.

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When you're folding clothes, pray, pray over the clothes.

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I actually learned that one from another friend of mine.

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He's like, wear clothes, you know, doing laundry can be a chore.

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There's times where it's like, you go, dang, you know, well, whatever piece of clothes,

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clothing that is, whoever's body belongs in that, then you get to speak.

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My child is clothed in righteousness.

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My spouse has the, that is girded with peace.

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They have, you know, socks, wherever you go, you're going to be in peace, you know, things

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like that.

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And then I'm the sticky note girl, right?

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Where I'll do the sharp or not, not the sharpies.

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What am I trying to say?

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The dry erase markers and I'll write on our children's mirrors, you know, who they are,

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whose they are, reminding them that they are set apart for such a time as this.

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And it's like, we're so good at doing this for other people.

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And so many times we forget us.

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We forget I am the righteousness of God.

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I am, I am a child of the King.

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You know, we forget our position and who we are.

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And then we have to, we get to say, now, father, I thank you that critical spirits gone.

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And I thank you that the fruit of your spirit, the joy, the peace, the joy of the self of

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my salvation father, renew a right spirit within me.

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Let my mind be sound.

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You know, let me, let me be somebody that walks according to your statutes and, and

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who you are because I love you, not because I'm just commanded to, but because I genuinely

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love you.

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And I want to, I want to do right by you.

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And I want those around me to be safe too.

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Yeah.

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And I, and I think sometimes, you know, it's also, we, I think almost we forget to say

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that even to our spouse and kids, you know, it's, it's almost you fall into that trap

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of, well, they know I love them.

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Yes.

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They, they know, they know they're special.

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They know they're, they're encouraged.

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They know they're strong and mighty.

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You know, they, they know who they are.

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They know whose they are, you know, you know, when, when you talk about, you know, when

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you would, you know, when you would take Sebastian to school, you know, and it's like, you know,

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who are you, you know, God's boy, what are you strong, mighty, kind and brave.

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And I can do anything I put my mind to.

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And there are some times where he says it kind of quiet and the speed talks through

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it.

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And it's like, okay, you're just saying it to say it, you know, but it's like, but again,

473
00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:49,680
it's like, we know it's there.

474
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:50,680
Yeah.

475
00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:53,360
You know, so we could, we could stop saying it because we know it's there.

476
00:26:53,360 --> 00:26:54,360
We know it's in it.

477
00:26:54,360 --> 00:26:55,360
We know it's in him.

478
00:26:55,360 --> 00:26:56,360
We know it's there.

479
00:26:56,360 --> 00:26:57,360
We know he knows.

480
00:26:57,360 --> 00:26:58,360
So we'll just stop saying it.

481
00:26:58,360 --> 00:27:04,520
And it's like, you know, but if we stop saying it, then it's like, is, is that, you know,

482
00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:06,820
again, it's, it's back to that external.

483
00:27:06,820 --> 00:27:09,840
It's back to that.

484
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:14,560
I heard it once, you know, it's like you pray for your spouse, but do you pray for your

485
00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:18,440
spouse where your spouse can hear it, where you're actually praying over them?

486
00:27:18,440 --> 00:27:23,560
You know, it's like, I know sometimes it's hard, especially when I go into the office

487
00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:26,240
and you're still trying to sleep while I'm leaving.

488
00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:28,480
And it's like, I'll still wake you up.

489
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:32,880
And it's like, I'm still going to pray, pray over the day while you're, while you're half

490
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:33,880
asleep.

491
00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:34,880
Right.

492
00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:35,880
Right.

493
00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:39,640
But it's, you know, cause it is, it's, it's, there's, you know, like you said, you know,

494
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:44,440
there that, that life and death, you know, blessings and cursing has come from the tongue,

495
00:27:44,440 --> 00:27:47,920
you know, the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks.

496
00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:53,000
So it's, it's that, it's that speaking out loud of the blessings, it's speaking out loud

497
00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:58,000
of the encouragement, it's speaking out loud of the, I know you can do it.

498
00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:03,840
You know, the, just the, the goodness, you know, the positivity, you know, that, that

499
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:09,760
you speak over your family members, over your spouse, over your friends, you know, it's

500
00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:16,600
just, that's, that's what does it, you know, that's what just kind of helps.

501
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:25,240
And again, if you speak, it's almost like if you get used to speaking that goodness,

502
00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:30,120
all of a sudden when you speak critical, it's going to feel weird.

503
00:28:30,120 --> 00:28:31,120
Yeah.

504
00:28:31,120 --> 00:28:32,120
Yes.

505
00:28:32,120 --> 00:28:33,120
Yes.

506
00:28:33,120 --> 00:28:37,120
You know, all of a sudden it'll come out and be like, that's not me or why did I say that?

507
00:28:37,120 --> 00:28:39,720
You know, it's, it's, it's not going to feel right.

508
00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:40,720
Yeah.

509
00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:43,800
And then, and then you would want to follow up with, ew, I am so sorry.

510
00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:45,160
That was gross.

511
00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:46,800
Let me try that again.

512
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:49,320
I was trying to correct, not be critical.

513
00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:50,320
Right.

514
00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:51,320
Yeah.

515
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:52,320
And there's a difference.

516
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:57,280
There's an absolute difference because it is critical is, is the tearing down.

517
00:28:57,280 --> 00:29:04,800
Critical is, is like you said, the negative Nancy and just being just, yeah, gross.

518
00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:07,360
Like nobody wants to be around that, you know?

519
00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:13,640
And, and you know, and then like you said, if, if we ourselves are not being critical

520
00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:20,160
to our children, but we see certain friends or different ones and we hear how they talk

521
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:27,520
or we see how our children respond after they've been around them and we're like, Hmm.

522
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:28,520
No.

523
00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:29,520
Hmm.

524
00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:30,520
Okay.

525
00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:32,560
Um, maybe reevaluate this.

526
00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:37,080
I don't want you to be used to somebody speaking to you like this.

527
00:29:37,080 --> 00:29:41,160
I don't want this to, well, it's just normal.

528
00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:42,160
We have a lot of people.

529
00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:44,440
Well, that's just the way I was raised.

530
00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:46,120
This is just who I am.

531
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:52,400
And you want to go, uh, no, no, um, things change.

532
00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:54,840
You now know better.

533
00:29:54,840 --> 00:30:03,080
You, you hopefully have discernment enough to where you see that, that, that, that's

534
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:10,280
pukey and um, like I'm, I'm praying that you taste your words before they come out

535
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:18,640
of your mouth and in check your heart because you and I are so good about saying, okay,

536
00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:21,560
babe, I'm going to try to talk to you about something right now.

537
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:25,960
And there's a very good chance that this is not going to come out right, but I need you

538
00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:31,240
to hear my heart while I'm stumbling over my words.

539
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:32,240
Right.

540
00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:33,480
And I was about to say that too.

541
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:34,480
Yeah.

542
00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:35,480
I'm glad you brought that up.

543
00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:44,120
And so it's, it's that space of if your heart is right, if, if, if like, if you're angry

544
00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:48,640
at this person, if there's something going on, okay, deal with that, like deal with that.

545
00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:55,200
Um, deal with, deal with the unforgiveness or deal with the hurt, deal with a disappointment,

546
00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:57,760
deal with whatever it is that needs to be dealt with.

547
00:30:57,760 --> 00:30:58,760
Okay.

548
00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:01,800
Um, deal with that, deal with the root of it being critical.

549
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:03,560
Now you're just being nasty.

550
00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:09,680
Now you're just, you're basically, you're, you're fighting dirty and as opposed to fighting

551
00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:15,760
for a resolution, you're, you're fighting to be right or you're fighting to bury somebody

552
00:31:15,760 --> 00:31:17,280
and that that's not love.

553
00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:18,720
There's nothing good about that.

554
00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:19,720
It's not.

555
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:26,200
And it's, it is, it's, it's the, you know, again, step back and say, is, is, it's like,

556
00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:30,760
I hate to say it like this, but it's like, is this the Christian way to do things?

557
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:35,920
You know, is this the Christian way to have this conversation or to bring up this, um,

558
00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:40,800
you know, thing that I see that might be an issue or, you know, Hey, I, I see that you're

559
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:41,880
falling short.

560
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:47,480
You know, it's, if I see that, if I see a lack or if I see room for improvement, it's

561
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:55,720
like how, how best to tell somebody, you know, is it, you know, again, cause, cause nobody,

562
00:31:55,720 --> 00:32:01,360
you know, nobody wants to be torn apart to tell them where they're lacking or where they

563
00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:02,640
could improve, you know?

564
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:09,900
So it's, you know, how do you, how do you explain to somebody, you know, Hey, this bothers

565
00:32:09,900 --> 00:32:15,160
me or Hey, this is an area where you could be better or we could be better.

566
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:21,840
You know, it's, it's the, you know, again, how do you bring those things up and you know,

567
00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:24,000
pray about it, you know, yes.

568
00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:31,000
Pray and, and you know, it's, it's almost that constant prayer of, you know, God, you

569
00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:37,360
know, watch over my mouth, you know, guard my words, you know, because you're, when you're

570
00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:41,400
in the middle of a conversation, you're not going to sit there and say, okay, we need

571
00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:45,440
to pause the conversation so I can pray about what I'm going to say in the rest of this

572
00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:46,440
conversation.

573
00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:47,440
Right.

574
00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:49,200
Because then somebody is going to look at you and be like, well, what are you going

575
00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:51,520
to say about me that you need to pray about it first?

576
00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:55,080
You know, mid, mid conversation.

577
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:56,680
But man, if you need to, right, right.

578
00:32:56,680 --> 00:33:00,440
I mean, honestly, all of a sudden I'm like, I would not be mad at you if all of a sudden

579
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:04,000
you're like, you know what, babe, I need to be in short, Doria say, I need me and Jesus

580
00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:05,000
need to work something.

581
00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:06,000
Hold, I'll be right back.

582
00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:07,000
Yeah.

583
00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:11,440
And yeah, there are times where that needs to happen.

584
00:33:11,440 --> 00:33:12,440
Yeah.

585
00:33:12,440 --> 00:33:14,440
Like I'm going to walk away now.

586
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:15,440
Yeah.

587
00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:19,280
But for the most part it is when you're having a normal conversation, it's, it's not like,

588
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:22,440
you know, you're going to, you're going to pause for prayer in the middle of a convert

589
00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:24,000
of a normal conversation.

590
00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:25,000
Yeah.

591
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:28,840
Um, you know, especially if something, you know, if you notice something, it's kind of

592
00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:32,920
like been on your mind, it's been on your heart.

593
00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:36,800
It's like, you know, again, something that, you know, this bothers me or I've noticed

594
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:42,120
this or whatever, you know, it's like, you know, it's there, you know, it's coming, you

595
00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:48,600
know that, okay, I should probably pray myself up before I have this conversation.

596
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:55,400
So I'm not overly critical so that I do say what needs to be said so that I can say words

597
00:33:55,400 --> 00:34:01,200
that are, are, you know, not necessarily encouraging, but words that are not going to tear down.

598
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:02,200
Yes.

599
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:06,480
You know, so I think that's, that's where it needs to be.

600
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:07,480
Yeah.

601
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:16,640
You know, so it's, it is, it's, we just, we do, we just need to focus on the encouragement.

602
00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:19,000
We need to focus on the building up.

603
00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:23,600
And when we notice that there is that critical spirit, that critical talk that, that pops

604
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:29,520
up, we just need to, to be aware of it, that it's, that we take care of it.

605
00:34:29,520 --> 00:34:30,520
Yeah.

606
00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:31,520
Squash it.

607
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:32,520
Yeah.

608
00:34:32,520 --> 00:34:33,520
Squash it.

609
00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:34,520
Call it out.

610
00:34:34,520 --> 00:34:35,520
Call it out of yourself.

611
00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:41,600
I mean, like, again, if you, if you notice like, man, I, I, I've literally, I flashed

612
00:34:41,600 --> 00:34:47,640
to my brother, Bobby, and how he is so good.

613
00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:50,360
He will call himself out in front of you.

614
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:53,680
Like, like, man, that sure sounded bad, didn't it?

615
00:34:53,680 --> 00:34:54,680
I'm sorry.

616
00:34:54,680 --> 00:34:58,880
Like, let me, let me try that one again.

617
00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:04,360
You know, and it's, and, and there's, there's, man, there's power in that.

618
00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:06,240
There's strength in that.

619
00:35:06,240 --> 00:35:08,800
There's, there's a beauty that comes in.

620
00:35:08,800 --> 00:35:16,160
And it also, it gives other people, I do, we want to give other people permission.

621
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:21,640
Like we want to give them room to where they have that ability to, when, you know, it was

622
00:35:21,640 --> 00:35:27,120
beautiful because it was like, talking to Gabri today and her and I were running, right?

623
00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:31,760
She's getting ready to take off and we're getting some loose ends tied up.

624
00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:37,520
And I said, Hey, I wanted to tell you something.

625
00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:45,880
And I said, there was, I said, I had an opportunity to talk with a friend and she was expressing

626
00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:50,200
to me how like there was a situation that had happened.

627
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:53,720
And she's like, I will never, I will never tell my children that they don't need to know

628
00:35:53,720 --> 00:35:54,720
this.

629
00:35:54,720 --> 00:35:55,720
Right.

630
00:35:55,720 --> 00:36:02,580
And, and looking at her and saying, can I tell you a story?

631
00:36:02,580 --> 00:36:09,440
And I'm telling all of our listeners and when I told Gabri the story of, of some of this

632
00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:17,040
stuff that I've done and the way that I handled it and was incredibly transparent and truthful,

633
00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:18,400
right?

634
00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:21,800
Our sweet girl simply walks over to me.

635
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:27,200
I'm, I'm crying and just holds me as I just sob and just break.

636
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:28,200
Right.

637
00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:33,280
And I'm like, what happens in these moments when we are allowing God to correct us even

638
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:34,560
in front of people?

639
00:36:34,560 --> 00:36:35,560
Yeah.

640
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:41,680
Like, because we're, we're seeing where some people, they, they have this perfection mentality

641
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:46,560
or they have this, this thing that says, I have, I'm a Christian, so I have to look good

642
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:50,520
constantly or I have to do the right thing all the time.

643
00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:51,520
That's why we need Jesus.

644
00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:57,520
I mean, that's, and, and, and that's not licensed to do what you want to.

645
00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:03,160
It's licensed to say we have grace and we have mercy and we have a, we have a savior

646
00:37:03,160 --> 00:37:06,040
that's going to help us get better each time.

647
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:07,040
Right.

648
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:17,120
And so I'm looking at, at the friend and saying, we get to open up an opportunity when God

649
00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:19,440
tells us to obviously, right?

650
00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:25,560
In front of the right people when he, when the Holy Spirit says, but the point is, is

651
00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:34,000
we can't be so guarded in, in even our sins, in our shortcomings and our failings.

652
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:40,000
We need to say, Holy Spirit, open me up, open me up, deal with me.

653
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:44,700
Because as you're dealing with me, there might be an onlooker that's watching, that's dealing

654
00:37:44,700 --> 00:37:50,080
with something even greater or is, or is on a path that their destruction is going to

655
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:52,040
be even more intense than mine.

656
00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:53,040
Right.

657
00:37:53,040 --> 00:37:58,000
But because I'm being open and honest about what God is having to do with me on, it's

658
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:04,160
going to uproot some stuff that, that ultimately set me free.

659
00:38:04,160 --> 00:38:11,200
And so it's like, when, when we're having conversations with a critical spirit, a lying

660
00:38:11,200 --> 00:38:17,480
tongue, gossip, whatever it is, just like what people consider small sins, but they're

661
00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:18,480
not.

662
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:19,480
Right.

663
00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:20,480
Sin is sin.

664
00:38:20,480 --> 00:38:21,480
Okay.

665
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:27,640
And it's like these things, basically the, the, your, what is it?

666
00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:33,200
The annihilation or the assassination of someone's character when you're speaking poorly and

667
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:35,240
you're speaking lies against them.

668
00:38:35,240 --> 00:38:39,560
It's like, we need to be better about calling each other out and calling our own selves

669
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:40,560
out.

670
00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:41,560
Yeah, definitely.

671
00:38:41,560 --> 00:38:45,160
We need to be, we need to be people that see the best, that believe the best.

672
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:48,380
We need to, we need to have the eyes of Christ.

673
00:38:48,380 --> 00:38:53,320
If something's wrong, that we call it out, but we call it out in a heart of love for

674
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:58,000
that person to come to repentance, for that person to come to salvation, for that person

675
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:07,160
to be delivered, not for their demise, not to say, Oh, look, you did X, Y, Z. No, it's,

676
00:39:07,160 --> 00:39:15,240
it's being, it's being loving enough as the people of God, as the spouse, as the family

677
00:39:15,240 --> 00:39:19,520
member, whatever it is, whatever position it is that you play in this person's life,

678
00:39:19,520 --> 00:39:24,960
whatever that is, as far as that relationship, even the pastor, like again, we're seeing

679
00:39:24,960 --> 00:39:30,320
all these different pastors right now kind of just falling.

680
00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:39,360
And it's like, what can we say to each other now before that tiny seed becomes so deep

681
00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:44,560
rooted that it grows into this monster and it can completely do something that could

682
00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:46,360
wipe you out?

683
00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:49,840
We, we, we get to be better.

684
00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:50,840
That's good.

685
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:54,440
I like that.

686
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:59,160
So I think that that's kind of why this has been specifically kind of heavy on me.

687
00:39:59,160 --> 00:40:06,320
Just, yes, God's been dealing with me, but we see where this one thing could absolutely

688
00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:07,320
destroy.

689
00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:08,320
Yeah.

690
00:40:08,320 --> 00:40:09,320
Oh yeah.

691
00:40:09,320 --> 00:40:10,320
It could destroy the relationships.

692
00:40:10,320 --> 00:40:12,720
It can destroy the fabric trust.

693
00:40:12,720 --> 00:40:14,840
It could destroy all of it.

694
00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:21,440
And so if you find yourself getting critical or you're seeing more of the negative than

695
00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:26,120
the positive, you know, or if the negative is true negative, like, right, like we've

696
00:40:26,120 --> 00:40:30,120
talked about, like if there's some serious abuse or if there's some serious something,

697
00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:35,960
okay, even in that though, step back for a second.

698
00:40:35,960 --> 00:40:38,040
Holy spirit, what do you want to do?

699
00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:39,820
How do you want to fix this?

700
00:40:39,820 --> 00:40:44,640
Is this something that is completely destroyed and annihilated and I walk away or is this

701
00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:50,160
something that I stand and I fight and I pray and I soldier through and we become stronger

702
00:40:50,160 --> 00:40:51,160
on the other side?

703
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:52,160
Right.

704
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:53,160
That's good.

705
00:40:53,160 --> 00:40:54,160
I like it.

706
00:40:54,160 --> 00:40:55,160
Is it?

707
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:56,160
Is it?

708
00:40:56,160 --> 00:40:57,160
Was that short today?

709
00:40:57,160 --> 00:40:58,160
We're kind of short today.

710
00:40:58,160 --> 00:40:59,160
Not really.

711
00:40:59,160 --> 00:41:00,160
Not really?

712
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:01,160
Oh, okay.

713
00:41:01,160 --> 00:41:02,160
Not as short as I was aiming for.

714
00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:05,160
I was trying to aim for a little shorter.

715
00:41:05,160 --> 00:41:06,160
Okay.

716
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:07,160
Well, you got gaming.

717
00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:08,160
Trying to trim things a little bit.

718
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:09,160
You got gaming to do.

719
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:10,160
Yeah.

720
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:11,160
It's good.

721
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:12,160
Yeah.

722
00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:13,160
It's good.

723
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:14,160
It's good to be back in the studio.

724
00:41:14,160 --> 00:41:15,160
Yes.

725
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:16,160
It's good to be back with you guys.

726
00:41:16,160 --> 00:41:25,640
I want to pull the audience and I want to say if you guys got questions, I mean, I know

727
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:30,000
that we've had questions before that went really, really well, but if there's something

728
00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:34,600
specific that might be leaning on any one of y'all's hearts, just reach out to us.

729
00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:35,600
Let us know.

730
00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:36,600
Yeah.

731
00:41:36,600 --> 00:41:44,120
Right now, we are asking God to really deal with our lives.

732
00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:52,800
We want to be refined in a way to where we are better equipped to pour out whatever it

733
00:41:52,800 --> 00:42:00,080
is that God has us to do for you, for each other, for our family, and for the kingdom.

734
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:04,320
So know that we love you guys and have the best week.

735
00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:21,720
Enjoy the journey.