1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:13,680 Hello and welcome back to another episode of Upfront and Undivided with Luke and Dean'na. 2 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:14,680 Hi. 3 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:15,680 Hey babe. 4 00:00:15,680 --> 00:00:16,680 How's it going? 5 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:17,680 It's good. 6 00:00:17,680 --> 00:00:18,680 How are you? 7 00:00:18,680 --> 00:00:19,680 I'm good. 8 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:21,760 How many different types of music are in your head about the time that you're doing this 9 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:26,880 that you always say who we're about to be? 10 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:29,160 It's, I'll be honest, it's not the music. 11 00:00:29,160 --> 00:00:30,160 It's just the intro. 12 00:00:30,160 --> 00:00:31,920 I do not hear the music. 13 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:34,440 It's literally the what podcast. 14 00:00:34,440 --> 00:00:40,400 Again, it's like years ago we learned how men's brains and women's brains work differently 15 00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:46,560 and how it's like a woman's brain is all these connected wires and they're connected spots 16 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:50,960 and it's really great and it's like connection to here to connect to there, connect to there 17 00:00:50,960 --> 00:00:56,520 and men's brains are very compartmentalized and it's like a box for this and a box for 18 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:57,520 this. 19 00:00:57,520 --> 00:01:01,920 So I feel like I have to, okay, which box am I going into? 20 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:02,920 I got you. 21 00:01:02,920 --> 00:01:03,920 Okay. 22 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:08,720 And it's almost like, I think it's almost like there's, it's not so much boxes in my 23 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:12,200 brain but it's almost like breaking down computer files. 24 00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:13,200 Okay. 25 00:01:13,200 --> 00:01:17,200 So it's like, or computer folders where it's like, okay, I have a podcast folder and I 26 00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:21,600 went into that folder and now I have three subfolders for right now into that. 27 00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:25,600 Well, four subfolders in that podcast, main podcast folder. 28 00:01:25,600 --> 00:01:30,720 So it's like, okay, which folder am I going into? 29 00:01:30,720 --> 00:01:39,520 Where I do like an eighties remix of all three of the things in my, like the different music. 30 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:44,080 Which is funny because it's like, you don't even partake in mine. 31 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:45,080 But I listen to it. 32 00:01:45,080 --> 00:01:46,080 That music still runs. 33 00:01:46,080 --> 00:01:47,080 That stuff. 34 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:48,080 So a good friend, a good friend. 35 00:01:48,080 --> 00:02:00,160 Sent me a really funny reel, you know, cause you're talking about that. 36 00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:02,880 And it was like, you know, how do they, how do they make heavy metal music? 37 00:02:02,880 --> 00:02:03,880 You sent it to me. 38 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:04,880 Yes. 39 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:09,880 And it's like, you know, somebody sucking like the last bit of air out of a juice box. 40 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:12,680 And it's like, that's singing for heavy metal. 41 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:14,200 So I was like, that is so appropriate. 42 00:02:14,200 --> 00:02:15,200 That is awesome. 43 00:02:15,200 --> 00:02:18,240 And when the guy did it actually sounded like it. 44 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:19,240 Yeah. 45 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:20,240 That was crazy. 46 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:22,680 And the friend of mine that sent that to us, he used to do that. 47 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:25,960 So he's very aware of, yes, this is, this is heavy metal. 48 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:29,400 I asked him one day, I was like, how do you even do that? 49 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:30,400 Right? 50 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:31,400 Yeah. 51 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:32,400 And he's like, you, you, what is it? 52 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:34,600 You suck in, you don't breathe out. 53 00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:35,600 Yes. 54 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:38,600 And it was like, it's no wonder. 55 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:42,400 Like, just cause I'm thinking you are shredding those vocal cords. 56 00:02:42,400 --> 00:02:44,400 And it's like, no, just like I'm sucking in. 57 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:45,400 I'm not breathing out. 58 00:02:45,400 --> 00:02:46,880 And it's like, that's bizarre. 59 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:54,400 And apparently I've also seen, we're taking a really weird sidetrack rabbit hole. 60 00:02:54,400 --> 00:03:00,440 So from other people that I follow on Instagram, like people that are like heavy metal, like 61 00:03:00,440 --> 00:03:06,240 screamers and stuff like that, there is, there's at least one well-known like scream coach. 62 00:03:06,240 --> 00:03:07,240 Okay. 63 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:14,360 And she actually teaches people how to scream and how to do these really guttural, without 64 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:15,960 damaging their vocal cords. 65 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:21,680 I mean, here's how you can do this and sound good. 66 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:26,760 Because again, one of the ones that I followed that I found out about this coach is David 67 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:29,320 Draben, the front man for Disturbed. 68 00:03:29,320 --> 00:03:30,320 For Disturbed. 69 00:03:30,320 --> 00:03:34,440 The fact that he can scream and yell, but then also does that really great rendition 70 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:35,440 of Sound of Silence. 71 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:36,440 It's one of my favorites. 72 00:03:36,440 --> 00:03:40,680 That actually is on my playlist when we're on the treadmill and things. 73 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:41,680 Yeah. 74 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:42,680 No, that's cool. 75 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:43,680 That's cool. 76 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:47,120 And he also said that he doesn't speak a lot afterwards. 77 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:48,120 Yes. 78 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:49,120 Yes. 79 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:50,120 After he has... 80 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:51,560 He admits that he basically becomes a monk. 81 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:52,560 Yeah. 82 00:03:52,560 --> 00:03:55,160 And just gets real quiet and just lets his body rest. 83 00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:58,680 And I would assume that that would have to be part of it. 84 00:03:58,680 --> 00:04:03,080 That you have to be very, very careful about what you partake in in every area. 85 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:04,080 And self-care. 86 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:05,080 Yes. 87 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:09,480 And surrounding yourself with people that support you and are okay with that. 88 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:10,480 That's true. 89 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:11,480 That's true. 90 00:04:11,480 --> 00:04:12,480 Which... 91 00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:14,160 Look at that. 92 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:16,600 We took a really weird rabbit hole trail. 93 00:04:16,600 --> 00:04:17,760 Right to where we needed to be. 94 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:19,280 Right to where... really good segue. 95 00:04:19,280 --> 00:04:20,280 I think so. 96 00:04:20,280 --> 00:04:21,280 That was really fun. 97 00:04:21,280 --> 00:04:22,280 We did not plan that at all. 98 00:04:22,280 --> 00:04:23,280 Nope. 99 00:04:23,280 --> 00:04:24,280 Not at all. 100 00:04:24,280 --> 00:04:25,280 Proud of us. 101 00:04:25,280 --> 00:04:26,280 So proud of us. 102 00:04:26,280 --> 00:04:27,280 Look at us. 103 00:04:27,280 --> 00:04:28,280 Look at that Holy Spirit. 104 00:04:28,280 --> 00:04:29,280 Come on. 105 00:04:29,280 --> 00:04:30,280 Talking about heavy metal and everything. 106 00:04:30,280 --> 00:04:31,280 And he just takes us right there. 107 00:04:31,280 --> 00:04:32,280 Yeah. 108 00:04:32,280 --> 00:04:33,280 See? 109 00:04:33,280 --> 00:04:34,280 We have a diverse God. 110 00:04:34,280 --> 00:04:35,280 I like that. 111 00:04:35,280 --> 00:04:36,280 Yes. 112 00:04:36,280 --> 00:04:37,280 What are we talking about? 113 00:04:37,280 --> 00:04:38,280 Today we are talking about physical support. 114 00:04:38,280 --> 00:04:39,280 Okay. 115 00:04:39,280 --> 00:04:42,720 And then next week is week four of our... 116 00:04:42,720 --> 00:04:43,720 Yes. 117 00:04:43,720 --> 00:04:44,720 ...question four. 118 00:04:44,720 --> 00:04:45,720 Of questions from the audience. 119 00:04:45,720 --> 00:04:46,720 Questions from the audience. 120 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:47,720 And then I think... 121 00:04:47,720 --> 00:04:48,720 Next episode will be our final. 122 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:49,720 I think so. 123 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:54,560 And then are we taking a hiatus? 124 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:56,240 We are not planning on taking a hiatus. 125 00:04:56,240 --> 00:04:57,240 Okay. 126 00:04:57,240 --> 00:04:58,240 We're gonna keep going. 127 00:04:58,240 --> 00:04:59,240 That is in the real. 128 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:00,240 Beautiful. 129 00:05:00,240 --> 00:05:01,240 You guys are taking... 130 00:05:01,240 --> 00:05:02,240 Okay. 131 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:03,240 I just wanted to double check. 132 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:04,240 Yeah. 133 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:05,240 And then next week, what's important that's happening? 134 00:05:05,240 --> 00:05:06,240 Next week is your birthday. 135 00:05:06,240 --> 00:05:07,240 You're turning 49. 136 00:05:07,240 --> 00:05:08,240 Woo hoo! 137 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:12,080 Listen, and all the girls that just cringed and just says, 138 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:14,040 oh, he said your age. 139 00:05:14,040 --> 00:05:19,560 Darn, Tootin, he said my age because I look good and I feel good and God is good. 140 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:22,920 And listen, even with all of my... 141 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:28,960 Sometimes my hurts and my squishes and my aches and my pains and my things, I am alive. 142 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:30,640 I am loved. 143 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:33,240 I am blessed. 144 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:35,040 And I'm still moving. 145 00:05:35,040 --> 00:05:36,720 I'm not stopping. 146 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:37,720 I will not stop. 147 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:42,960 I will not stop because God has entrusted me with a very precious gift and that is the 148 00:05:42,960 --> 00:05:44,520 gift of life. 149 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:45,520 This is... 150 00:05:45,520 --> 00:05:48,680 Listen, guys, your bodies are the thing that you are accountable for. 151 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:51,520 You will be accountable for how you treated it. 152 00:05:51,520 --> 00:05:54,560 So do it well. 153 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:58,520 And fun fact about physical health and age. 154 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:02,200 You found out today that you are roughly the same age as the Spice Girls. 155 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:03,420 The Spice Girls. 156 00:06:03,420 --> 00:06:04,840 That was the coolest... 157 00:06:04,840 --> 00:06:05,840 Like you were in that... 158 00:06:05,840 --> 00:06:06,840 Yes. 159 00:06:06,840 --> 00:06:12,840 We had the day off today because we were going to do field day with our kiddo and they changed 160 00:06:12,840 --> 00:06:14,920 it for tomorrow, which we're like, I can't now. 161 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:15,920 I can't change. 162 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:16,920 I can't. 163 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:17,920 I got things to do. 164 00:06:17,920 --> 00:06:20,560 I actually have to work and got to do some stuff. 165 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:22,480 And your boss needed you. 166 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:25,600 So shout out to your boss if he listens to us. 167 00:06:25,600 --> 00:06:27,500 If not, shout out to your coworker. 168 00:06:27,500 --> 00:06:29,600 Does he listen to us or does he just listen to you and the boys? 169 00:06:29,600 --> 00:06:31,000 I think he just listens to me. 170 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:32,000 Oh, okay. 171 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:33,000 I'm not sure. 172 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:34,000 No, that's fine. 173 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:35,000 I'm not mad. 174 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:36,000 That's fine. 175 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:37,000 I'm not mad at my coworkers anyways. 176 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:38,000 Yes. 177 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:40,360 Shout out to every one of them because you do. 178 00:06:40,360 --> 00:06:44,360 You go, you hang out with them and then you come home and you're in a good mood. 179 00:06:44,360 --> 00:06:48,680 Not that you're not in a good mood, but there's just, there's genuinely something about being 180 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:55,160 surrounded by people kind of like what you're saying that kind of help support you in a 181 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:56,160 space. 182 00:06:56,160 --> 00:06:57,160 Yeah. 183 00:06:57,160 --> 00:06:58,760 It does help that the majority of them are veterans. 184 00:06:58,760 --> 00:06:59,760 Yes. 185 00:06:59,760 --> 00:07:02,840 So you guys are all twisted in some sort of fun way. 186 00:07:02,840 --> 00:07:03,840 Yes, we are. 187 00:07:03,840 --> 00:07:06,920 But it is, it's silly stories. 188 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:08,120 It's good stories. 189 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:14,280 It's being able to communicate in a level and a place because not everybody understands. 190 00:07:14,280 --> 00:07:15,280 Yes. 191 00:07:15,280 --> 00:07:16,280 And it's good. 192 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:17,280 Yes. 193 00:07:17,280 --> 00:07:18,280 It is good. 194 00:07:18,280 --> 00:07:21,320 So you got to hang out with me today and then it was, we ran some errands, did some grocery 195 00:07:21,320 --> 00:07:23,640 shopping, picked up something for our daughter. 196 00:07:23,640 --> 00:07:31,640 And about that time I saw a magazine cover and it was, it was Victoria Beckham and Posh 197 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:32,640 Spice. 198 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:33,640 Yes. 199 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:35,920 And I went, I went 50, 50, 50. 200 00:07:35,920 --> 00:07:36,920 What? 201 00:07:36,920 --> 00:07:37,920 Wait a minute. 202 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:38,920 What? 203 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:39,920 Spice Girls. 204 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:40,920 And I'm like staring at you going Spice Girls. 205 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:41,920 Wait, babe. 206 00:07:41,920 --> 00:07:43,280 Like they came out when we were what? 207 00:07:43,280 --> 00:07:44,280 I don't understand. 208 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:45,280 We're on some high school. 209 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:46,280 What's going on? 210 00:07:46,280 --> 00:07:50,240 And so we found out 1994 was when they came out. 211 00:07:50,240 --> 00:07:51,240 Right? 212 00:07:51,240 --> 00:07:52,240 Is that what we said? 213 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:53,240 Yeah. 214 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:56,360 So that was a year after I graduated, but a year prior. 215 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:57,360 When did you graduate? 216 00:07:57,360 --> 00:07:58,360 96? 217 00:07:58,360 --> 00:07:59,360 Yes. 218 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:01,000 I graduated May of 96. 219 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:02,000 Yes. 220 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:06,880 So those paying attention, number one, I am 18 months older than Luke. 221 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:10,920 And your favorite story is that you got held back a year. 222 00:08:10,920 --> 00:08:11,920 Yes. 223 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:12,920 Not my favorite story. 224 00:08:12,920 --> 00:08:16,920 Not your favorite story, but it's not your favorite story at all. 225 00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:18,400 But one of the reasons why... 226 00:08:18,400 --> 00:08:22,600 One of the reasons why I graduated in 96 was because I was held back a year. 227 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:23,600 Yeah. 228 00:08:23,600 --> 00:08:26,880 Because it would, it's like that doesn't math and it's like this is why. 229 00:08:26,880 --> 00:08:27,880 Because you were. 230 00:08:27,880 --> 00:08:28,880 I was 19. 231 00:08:28,880 --> 00:08:31,240 And it's funny because you were 17 when you graduated high school. 232 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:34,160 I was 19 when I graduated high school. 233 00:08:34,160 --> 00:08:35,160 Yep. 234 00:08:35,160 --> 00:08:36,160 So. 235 00:08:36,160 --> 00:08:40,920 I was the tiny of the kiddos and you were the older of the kiddos. 236 00:08:40,920 --> 00:08:41,920 Yep. 237 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:42,920 It's fine. 238 00:08:42,920 --> 00:08:46,600 Anyway, so yeah, so I am as old as spice. 239 00:08:46,600 --> 00:08:47,600 Yes. 240 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:50,000 I'm not mad. 241 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:51,000 It's fine. 242 00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:52,000 I'm in good company. 243 00:08:52,000 --> 00:08:53,000 I saw pictures of them recently. 244 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:54,000 I'm like, all right, you all look good. 245 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:55,000 Good. 246 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:56,000 All right. 247 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:57,000 That's what 50 is looking like. 248 00:08:57,000 --> 00:08:58,000 Come on. 249 00:08:58,000 --> 00:08:59,000 Yep. 250 00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:00,000 Bring it. 251 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:01,000 Okay. 252 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:02,800 So we have one more question that we have from our audience. 253 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:03,800 Yes. 254 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:08,720 How do we support each other in physical health in marriage? 255 00:09:08,720 --> 00:09:13,280 And I know that can take a lot of different forms because I mean, and we'll try to hit 256 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:14,280 them. 257 00:09:14,280 --> 00:09:18,400 I mean, it's impossible to hit like every aspect of physical health. 258 00:09:18,400 --> 00:09:19,400 Yes. 259 00:09:19,400 --> 00:09:24,320 But we'll try to hit some of the big ones are the ones that we think are kind of some 260 00:09:24,320 --> 00:09:26,080 of the big ones. 261 00:09:26,080 --> 00:09:27,320 Right. 262 00:09:27,320 --> 00:09:33,880 Because again, I think one of our stories about within the first couple months of our 263 00:09:33,880 --> 00:09:38,360 marriage, I got hit pretty hard with a physical health attack. 264 00:09:38,360 --> 00:09:41,000 It was like my wrist was all jacked up. 265 00:09:41,000 --> 00:09:43,320 My ankles were all jacked up. 266 00:09:43,320 --> 00:09:49,400 A lot of crazy stuff was happening like gout, heavy metal and just- 267 00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:53,080 You were bent over literally having to walk with a cane. 268 00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:54,080 Yeah. 269 00:09:54,080 --> 00:10:00,680 So again, and I think we've told that story how it was just that reminder of in sickness 270 00:10:00,680 --> 00:10:01,680 and in health. 271 00:10:01,680 --> 00:10:02,680 Right. 272 00:10:02,680 --> 00:10:03,680 Right. 273 00:10:03,680 --> 00:10:08,760 But it's like, what do we do? 274 00:10:08,760 --> 00:10:15,760 If something like that happens, and I think it when stuff like that happens, it's easier 275 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:23,120 for a spouse to say, well, of course I'm going to support my spouse in this time of them 276 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:27,760 being hurt or injured or something is going on. 277 00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:29,880 Oh, you just had your gallbladder out. 278 00:10:29,880 --> 00:10:34,880 Oh, you just had surgery to remove a lump from the side of your breast. 279 00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:35,880 Right. 280 00:10:35,880 --> 00:10:36,880 Two surgeries actually. 281 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:39,880 Two surgeries, yes. 282 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:44,960 It's easier for us to look at each other and say, well, of course, that's your physical 283 00:10:44,960 --> 00:10:45,960 health. 284 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:48,600 Yes, I'm going to take care of you. 285 00:10:48,600 --> 00:10:53,360 But it's like, I almost feel, and we didn't talk to really the people that ask these questions 286 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:55,920 and say, hey, can you fill us in? 287 00:10:55,920 --> 00:10:57,040 What exactly did you mean? 288 00:10:57,040 --> 00:11:02,480 So we're kind of blindly saying, we're assuming we think we know what people mean. 289 00:11:02,480 --> 00:11:05,920 We don't know what people mean, but this is how we interpret it. 290 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:06,920 Yes. 291 00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:16,720 But I see it as different than that because again, it's so many aspects of, do we talk 292 00:11:16,720 --> 00:11:27,080 about the motivation or not to be physically active, go out for walks, go to the gym. 293 00:11:27,080 --> 00:11:28,080 Which is where we're headed. 294 00:11:28,080 --> 00:11:29,080 We're done with this. 295 00:11:29,080 --> 00:11:35,320 Because we were having a debate earlier about, do we record first or do we gym first? 296 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:36,480 We record it first. 297 00:11:36,480 --> 00:11:39,620 You are a priority. 298 00:11:39,620 --> 00:11:40,620 But it is. 299 00:11:40,620 --> 00:11:48,080 So how do we prioritize those kind of things or what if you're somebody that, oh, I like 300 00:11:48,080 --> 00:11:50,800 being physically active, my spouse doesn't. 301 00:11:50,800 --> 00:11:55,040 How do you navigate those waters? 302 00:11:55,040 --> 00:12:01,360 Because for a while, it's kind of, I can see where a spouse would be like, well, that's 303 00:12:01,360 --> 00:12:02,360 fine. 304 00:12:02,360 --> 00:12:03,360 That's your walk. 305 00:12:03,360 --> 00:12:04,360 That's your journey. 306 00:12:04,360 --> 00:12:05,800 I'll be over here. 307 00:12:05,800 --> 00:12:12,720 But eventually I could almost see where that could introduce a wedge into the marriage. 308 00:12:12,720 --> 00:12:18,280 I will be as vocal as to say I could see where that would absolutely infuriate and piss somebody 309 00:12:18,280 --> 00:12:19,280 off. 310 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:20,280 Yeah. 311 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:24,320 I mean, I'll just go there because I know that when you were hurting, and again, absolutely 312 00:12:24,320 --> 00:12:27,560 no fault of your own. 313 00:12:27,560 --> 00:12:29,800 This just all of a sudden happened. 314 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:30,800 And it was day three. 315 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:31,800 It was a day three. 316 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:32,800 Yeah. 317 00:12:32,800 --> 00:12:37,240 And you being in bed, you literally go to bed and then you'd go to the bathroom and 318 00:12:37,240 --> 00:12:38,640 then you'd come back to the bed again. 319 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:40,280 You would not go anywhere else in the house. 320 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:41,280 You wouldn't move. 321 00:12:41,280 --> 00:12:42,920 You just kind of lay there. 322 00:12:42,920 --> 00:12:44,080 And you were in pain. 323 00:12:44,080 --> 00:12:45,080 We understand. 324 00:12:45,080 --> 00:12:47,440 Listen to me, guys. 325 00:12:47,440 --> 00:12:49,760 This is not me being cold hearted at all. 326 00:12:49,760 --> 00:12:52,960 I genuinely believe that this was one of those moments. 327 00:12:52,960 --> 00:12:58,480 And this is something I will say that you need to really ask the Holy Spirit to guide 328 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:09,600 you in it because I walked over to our bed, climbed pretty much over you and said, it's 329 00:13:09,600 --> 00:13:12,080 time to get up now. 330 00:13:12,080 --> 00:13:18,080 Because I think what was happening was when we start physically hurting or we're not feeling 331 00:13:18,080 --> 00:13:24,000 good, the enemy wants to not just attack you physically, but mentally and emotionally and 332 00:13:24,000 --> 00:13:25,860 spiritually. 333 00:13:25,860 --> 00:13:26,920 It starts to weigh on you. 334 00:13:26,920 --> 00:13:28,280 It gets really heavy. 335 00:13:28,280 --> 00:13:29,660 And I think that that's what was happening. 336 00:13:29,660 --> 00:13:36,440 I was starting to watch the enemy starting to bring a darkness over you and into our 337 00:13:36,440 --> 00:13:37,880 home. 338 00:13:37,880 --> 00:13:42,440 And I said, we're getting up and we are going to the pool. 339 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:49,240 And if I have to put you on a floaty and float you around on a lazy river, you are going 340 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:51,120 to get outside. 341 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:54,880 And you obliged me, which was very precious. 342 00:13:54,880 --> 00:14:00,600 I think that in itself was a good thing because sometimes that's not always the case. 343 00:14:00,600 --> 00:14:02,320 Somebody will fight you. 344 00:14:02,320 --> 00:14:07,200 And you didn't, which I'm grateful that you didn't. 345 00:14:07,200 --> 00:14:13,400 And I think I will say, and you could correct me if I'm wrong, I will say, yes, number one, 346 00:14:13,400 --> 00:14:17,760 we were freshly married, but we also have been very, very careful of how we speak to 347 00:14:17,760 --> 00:14:19,360 each other. 348 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:28,560 And you heard not just my words, but you heard the intensity in my voice of like, we've got 349 00:14:28,560 --> 00:14:34,200 to go because if you don't get up, you're going to die here. 350 00:14:34,200 --> 00:14:41,040 And it's like having a great understanding of that or trusting your spouse enough to 351 00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:42,920 say, I don't feel good. 352 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:49,000 And then looking at you saying, I know you don't now, but I promise if we get moving, 353 00:14:49,000 --> 00:14:52,400 it is going to get better. 354 00:14:52,400 --> 00:14:58,120 And we're going to, you know, cause like, again, we're almost 49. 355 00:14:58,120 --> 00:15:01,280 I've got like, sometimes my hip doesn't want to work with me. 356 00:15:01,280 --> 00:15:04,080 Sometimes my back gets weird, just things like that. 357 00:15:04,080 --> 00:15:08,280 Things that I'm praying for, praying, you know, God, Father, thank you for healing me. 358 00:15:08,280 --> 00:15:09,920 Thank you for restoring me. 359 00:15:09,920 --> 00:15:14,160 But I also know that there's those times where you stand back and you say, I've got to move. 360 00:15:14,160 --> 00:15:16,720 Number one, it's going to help me in my health. 361 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:19,220 But number two, I'm going to hurt anyway. 362 00:15:19,220 --> 00:15:24,360 So I might as well move, enjoy my spouse while I'm moving. 363 00:15:24,360 --> 00:15:29,280 Even if I'm hurting, the fact is that I, I at least am trying to take back what the enemy 364 00:15:29,280 --> 00:15:31,080 has stolen from me in that point. 365 00:15:31,080 --> 00:15:32,080 Yeah. 366 00:15:32,080 --> 00:15:33,080 And that's true. 367 00:15:33,080 --> 00:15:34,080 And, and it is. 368 00:15:34,080 --> 00:15:38,480 And that's, and I think that's, you know, it's so often, especially with the physical 369 00:15:38,480 --> 00:15:42,720 health, you know, with the, you know, getting out and being active, you know, and I'm not, 370 00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:48,400 I'm not saying, you know, well, you know, you should go out and run 5Ks together and, 371 00:15:48,400 --> 00:15:50,120 you know, do these extreme things. 372 00:15:50,120 --> 00:15:55,160 It's like, no, do, do the level that you're, we have, we have done crazy things together, 373 00:15:55,160 --> 00:15:57,880 but you know, we haven't really done them on a consistent basis. 374 00:15:57,880 --> 00:15:59,840 Like, it's like, oh, this is what we do. 375 00:15:59,840 --> 00:16:01,200 We're going to go run marathons. 376 00:16:01,200 --> 00:16:06,800 It's like, no, I would, I would probably throw up if I even thought about running a marathon 377 00:16:06,800 --> 00:16:10,160 seriously, but yeah, I don't, I don't run. 378 00:16:10,160 --> 00:16:14,640 I will cheer you on all day, all three to four hours that you're running. 379 00:16:14,640 --> 00:16:18,400 I will find a golf cart and I will ride alongside of you and I will cheer. 380 00:16:18,400 --> 00:16:20,200 I will be your biggest cheerleader. 381 00:16:20,200 --> 00:16:22,240 I'll bring Sparks with me. 382 00:16:22,240 --> 00:16:23,240 She'll run. 383 00:16:23,240 --> 00:16:24,240 She will run with you. 384 00:16:24,240 --> 00:16:31,080 But yeah, it's just, but again, you know, what, what level of activity is good for the 385 00:16:31,080 --> 00:16:32,080 two of you? 386 00:16:32,080 --> 00:16:37,600 You know, what level of activity not only is good for the two of you, but what can the 387 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:39,120 two of you have fun with? 388 00:16:39,120 --> 00:16:40,120 Yeah. 389 00:16:40,120 --> 00:16:45,960 Even if it's just going for a walk, go for a walk, hold hands, you know, or go to planet 390 00:16:45,960 --> 00:16:48,240 fitness and hold hands while you're on the treadmill. 391 00:16:48,240 --> 00:16:49,480 We have been known to do that. 392 00:16:49,480 --> 00:16:50,480 We have done that together. 393 00:16:50,480 --> 00:16:51,480 Yes. 394 00:16:51,480 --> 00:16:58,880 Um, you know, but again, it's, it's the getting out and, and being together, you know, it's, 395 00:16:58,880 --> 00:17:01,320 it's, it's another opportunity for a connection. 396 00:17:01,320 --> 00:17:07,640 It's another opportunity for a, another level of conf, uh, I don't know. 397 00:17:07,640 --> 00:17:10,400 I don't know why some, uh, communication. 398 00:17:10,400 --> 00:17:11,400 Yes. 399 00:17:11,400 --> 00:17:12,400 The word I'm looking for is communication. 400 00:17:12,400 --> 00:17:13,400 Yes. 401 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:15,320 Another level of communication. 402 00:17:15,320 --> 00:17:22,920 Um, because that is ultimately that's important and that needs to be a priority in our marriages. 403 00:17:22,920 --> 00:17:23,920 Yeah. 404 00:17:23,920 --> 00:17:30,260 I keep seeing, um, like we have a sweet, sweet friend of ours just, uh, had surgery herself 405 00:17:30,260 --> 00:17:34,120 reached out to Gabriel and I, so my shout out to our sweet friend. 406 00:17:34,120 --> 00:17:38,080 So, um, it's like, well, what if I can't do certain things right now? 407 00:17:38,080 --> 00:17:41,800 What if I just physically just, my body is just whatever it's doing. 408 00:17:41,800 --> 00:17:42,800 Right. 409 00:17:42,800 --> 00:17:47,360 Um, and you know, having one surgery of or another, or maybe like something's going on 410 00:17:47,360 --> 00:17:50,920 with your foot, something that you physically cannot move. 411 00:17:50,920 --> 00:17:51,960 What do you do? 412 00:17:51,960 --> 00:18:00,320 And I instantly saw you do card games, you do board games, you laugh, you, um, you know, 413 00:18:00,320 --> 00:18:06,280 do the best you can because our sweet boy and you have decided that you're, you guys 414 00:18:06,280 --> 00:18:07,760 are going to start your own business. 415 00:18:07,760 --> 00:18:08,760 Yeah. 416 00:18:08,760 --> 00:18:11,600 It's going to be a medicine business of some sort, but it's going to be natural and it's 417 00:18:11,600 --> 00:18:13,440 going to be good. 418 00:18:13,440 --> 00:18:20,400 And um, knowing that laughter does the heart good like a medicine. 419 00:18:20,400 --> 00:18:26,440 And so get to a space where, you know, maybe just that you guys are laughing together, 420 00:18:26,440 --> 00:18:27,440 together. 421 00:18:27,440 --> 00:18:28,440 Yes. 422 00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:36,760 Um, that, that, that pulls in something that, that dopamine or that chemical, whatever that 423 00:18:36,760 --> 00:18:43,840 is that ties you to that person because it's like it, you are now creating a shared experience 424 00:18:43,840 --> 00:18:46,000 that's making you laugh. 425 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:49,880 And I know that your laugh is one of my favorites and my life is one of your favorites. 426 00:18:49,880 --> 00:18:56,400 And then once you start hearing your favorite person's laughter, it becomes even more contagious. 427 00:18:56,400 --> 00:19:02,040 And it's like just knowing that all of a sudden life isn't so heavy stuff. 428 00:19:02,040 --> 00:19:04,560 Isn't so right. 429 00:19:04,560 --> 00:19:11,540 Um, you know, that, you know, you can see the light on the, on the other side of this, 430 00:19:11,540 --> 00:19:15,200 it's going to be okay because it does it. 431 00:19:15,200 --> 00:19:21,880 It creates that, you know, cause a heart deferred, you know, if you, it, it just makes it or 432 00:19:21,880 --> 00:19:22,880 what is it? 433 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:23,880 Hope, hope deferred. 434 00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:25,000 That was it. 435 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:28,240 Hope deferred makes a heart sick. 436 00:19:28,240 --> 00:19:30,920 So if you don't have hope, that's in the word of God. 437 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:37,200 So if you do not have hope, if your hope becomes like, well, I'm never, I'm never going to 438 00:19:37,200 --> 00:19:38,200 get better. 439 00:19:38,200 --> 00:19:39,200 Yeah. 440 00:19:39,200 --> 00:19:41,400 I'm never going to get back where I was. 441 00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:44,520 I'm never, you and I've been caught up in that before. 442 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:49,320 You know, you had that rotator cuff surgery, you know, just me having babies, just stuff 443 00:19:49,320 --> 00:19:54,360 happening, a standing back going, wow, I don't look like I did when we got married or I don't 444 00:19:54,360 --> 00:19:55,960 do what I used to do. 445 00:19:55,960 --> 00:19:59,000 And then standing back and saying, that's okay. 446 00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:00,000 That's okay. 447 00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:01,000 The thing is, is that we're still moving. 448 00:20:01,000 --> 00:20:02,880 We're in a new season of our lives. 449 00:20:02,880 --> 00:20:05,300 We're on a new path, a new journey. 450 00:20:05,300 --> 00:20:07,220 This didn't take God by surprise. 451 00:20:07,220 --> 00:20:11,080 And now we're going to ask him, how would you like to rebuild our body? 452 00:20:11,080 --> 00:20:18,320 How would you like to redo what needs to be done, you know, to restore it, not just fix 453 00:20:18,320 --> 00:20:19,320 it? 454 00:20:19,320 --> 00:20:20,320 Right. 455 00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:21,320 So. 456 00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:28,480 I think, and I think another aspect, I'm going to shift a little bit here, talking, still 457 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:30,760 talking about physical health. 458 00:20:30,760 --> 00:20:31,760 Yeah. 459 00:20:31,760 --> 00:20:33,840 But I'm going to say diet. 460 00:20:33,840 --> 00:20:34,840 Yes. 461 00:20:34,840 --> 00:20:39,520 I'm going to say, you know, because, you know, because again, it's, it's kind of like the, 462 00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:43,920 you know, it's, it's back to the, you know, somebody wants to be really active and, and 463 00:20:43,920 --> 00:20:48,680 the other doesn't, you know, how that can introduce a wedge. 464 00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:49,680 Yes. 465 00:20:49,680 --> 00:20:51,160 I'm going to, I'm going to use that. 466 00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:52,160 I'm going to use that. 467 00:20:52,160 --> 00:20:53,160 Start using that a lot. 468 00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:54,160 Yes. 469 00:20:54,160 --> 00:20:55,160 But introduce a wedge. 470 00:20:55,160 --> 00:20:56,160 Yeah. 471 00:20:56,160 --> 00:21:06,560 But I think when it comes down to, to diet and, and how people eat and what people eat, 472 00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:13,920 I think that can, you know, because again, it's, it's not that the two of you, it's, 473 00:21:13,920 --> 00:21:16,840 I'm not saying that the two of you should be on the same meal plan. 474 00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:20,520 No, because I can't eat the amount of food that you do. 475 00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:21,520 Right. 476 00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:24,160 But we can eat similar things. 477 00:21:24,160 --> 00:21:25,160 Yes. 478 00:21:25,160 --> 00:21:29,720 You know, kind of, I almost, I almost said eating out of similar buckets. 479 00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:31,720 I'm like, that sounds disgusting. 480 00:21:31,720 --> 00:21:36,680 At times I wouldn't mind eating out of a bucket. 481 00:21:36,680 --> 00:21:41,160 Full of chicken and ribs. 482 00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:42,160 Probably. 483 00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:48,600 But, you know, but just, you know, again, it's, it's kind of back to, you know, I know 484 00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:54,160 you and I, we've talked about, you know, making the, the, the smarter choices, making the, 485 00:21:54,160 --> 00:22:01,000 the healthier choices, you know, instead of, instead of option A, maybe go with option 486 00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:02,000 B. 487 00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:03,000 Yeah. 488 00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:06,200 You know, make, make the little, make the little steps that are, are just a little bit 489 00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:11,720 better, you know, but it's like, you know, if you've got one spouse that always wants 490 00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:19,120 to eat at home and eat some of like the, the fresher whole food type stuff. 491 00:22:19,120 --> 00:22:20,560 Yeah. 492 00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:24,440 Not the brand, but the description of food. 493 00:22:24,440 --> 00:22:25,440 Yeah. 494 00:22:25,440 --> 00:22:30,920 Versus the one that always wants to hit the drive through. 495 00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:35,560 You know, that's, that's going to be, again, that can cause contention. 496 00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:38,680 That can cause, that can introduce a wedge. 497 00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:39,680 Yes. 498 00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:47,680 You know, in marriage and so it's, I think, I think it's one of those, yeah. 499 00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:48,680 Yeah. 500 00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:49,680 Say it. 501 00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:56,720 So I literally, as you're talking, I literally was seeing, dang it, dang it, dang it. 502 00:22:56,720 --> 00:22:57,720 Okay. 503 00:22:57,720 --> 00:22:59,000 Just going to say it. 504 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:04,560 I was seeing where it's like, okay, you've got the one spouse that can eat anything they 505 00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:08,720 want to, and it appears as though nothing is changing. 506 00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:09,720 Yes. 507 00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:10,720 Like, I'm fine. 508 00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:13,640 I don't see what your problem is. 509 00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:19,960 And then it's like, but if I eat this or if I eat this, then it starts affecting my body, 510 00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:20,960 my gut health. 511 00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:21,960 I don't feel good. 512 00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:25,400 My energy level, I don't think is clearly, see what I'm saying? 513 00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:29,200 This isn't just, you're just not, we're not just talking about our waistlines here. 514 00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:34,920 We're talking about our full function as far as our human beings, the makeup of who we 515 00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:35,920 are. 516 00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:43,720 And you've got some, but then the same spouse that is like, well, I can eat anything I want 517 00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:44,720 to. 518 00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:46,840 I don't know what your problem is, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. 519 00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:51,320 And they're not helping that other spouse because they're seeing what's going on with 520 00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:52,320 them. 521 00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:55,800 And the other spouse is like, listen, I can't even fit in my pants. 522 00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:56,800 I don't feel good. 523 00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:57,800 This is not good. 524 00:23:57,800 --> 00:23:59,560 I'm not sure what's going on. 525 00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:04,760 And if the spouse that can eat anything they want to starts bashing that other spouse because 526 00:24:04,760 --> 00:24:08,200 they're like, well, you should be going to the gym or you should work out more. 527 00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:09,200 What are you doing? 528 00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:11,400 You're not doing anything. 529 00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:18,160 Knowing that this other spouse is drowning because they're trying to concede or they're 530 00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:21,160 trying to please this other spouse. 531 00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:22,480 Okay, no, I get it. 532 00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:23,480 That's fine. 533 00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:24,480 We can do this. 534 00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:25,480 That's fine. 535 00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:26,480 But can we do it in a moderation? 536 00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:28,880 That's yours and my favorite thing. 537 00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:33,600 We always tell people in moderation, unless the Holy Spirit has told you directly, no 538 00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:35,200 moderation. 539 00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:40,120 If it says no in the word of God, that's the no, that's a no. 540 00:24:40,120 --> 00:24:43,440 Otherwise it's moderation. 541 00:24:43,440 --> 00:24:50,320 You want to be aware of this person because baby, you're my counterpart. 542 00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:53,180 What happens to you physically affects me. 543 00:24:53,180 --> 00:24:54,180 It just does. 544 00:24:54,180 --> 00:24:59,920 Just mentally, emotionally, spiritually, whatever is going on with you in that moment, it is 545 00:24:59,920 --> 00:25:02,640 going to affect me. 546 00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:10,760 And I need to be a good solid spouse that is an encourager. 547 00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:14,200 And if I'm the one and I am the one out of the two of us, I am the one. 548 00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:15,800 I can't eat just anything. 549 00:25:15,800 --> 00:25:17,480 I can't. 550 00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:20,160 My body says, no, thank you. 551 00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:22,720 And that's okay. 552 00:25:22,720 --> 00:25:28,040 You are gracious enough to say, I know that this affects my wife's gut health. 553 00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:31,360 I understand that this makes Dina uncomfortable. 554 00:25:31,360 --> 00:25:33,200 I don't want her uncomfortable. 555 00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:34,960 I don't want her feeling gross. 556 00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:40,880 Okay, babe, what can we do together that is going to satisfy the craving that's inside 557 00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:49,480 of you for the massive amount of meat that you want to eat? 558 00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:55,080 And at the same time, making sure that we're feeding the little rabbit that lives inside 559 00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:57,040 of me at times. 560 00:25:57,040 --> 00:25:59,600 And it's like, what do you do? 561 00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:05,680 And it's being aware, not just of yourself, but being aware of your spouse. 562 00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:09,360 That reel that you sent me where it was the man and the wife, I felt so bad. 563 00:26:09,360 --> 00:26:13,960 Where, you know, he knew everything about her, like all of the favorite things, the 564 00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:16,000 way she eats, all of the stuff. 565 00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:18,080 She knew nothing about him. 566 00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:24,200 And I proved that point this morning by bringing you something that you did not like for breakfast. 567 00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:26,200 It's not your favorite. 568 00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:27,200 Yes. 569 00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:29,020 I was going to say it's not that I don't like it. 570 00:26:29,020 --> 00:26:31,160 You ate it, but it was not your favorite. 571 00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:36,720 But the fact is that it is, it's that being more intentional, being aware of each other's 572 00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:38,200 health concerns. 573 00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:43,480 We should be up in each other's Kool-Aid when it comes to, you know, like you went with 574 00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:47,400 me to every exam when it came to my breast. 575 00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:52,640 And you went with me with almost every exam when it came to Sebastian. 576 00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:56,360 And the times that you didn't, we had a great support team that came. 577 00:26:56,360 --> 00:26:58,320 You know, it's like... 578 00:26:58,320 --> 00:26:59,640 And or I was on the phone with you. 579 00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:01,280 Or you were on the phone with, yep. 580 00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:05,080 You were usually on the phone on speaker listening to everything that was going on. 581 00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:09,880 So it's like, be in that space with your spouse. 582 00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:15,160 I for the most part have gone to every one of your major appointments with any doctors 583 00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:20,200 and outside of drawing blood because we know that that wigs me out. 584 00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:23,840 But I will go because I love you. 585 00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:25,480 If you ask me, I will go. 586 00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:32,080 So being a support, not just, hey, let's go run or hey, let's go lift some weights. 587 00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:34,040 Hey, let's go whatever. 588 00:27:34,040 --> 00:27:36,600 It's how are you today? 589 00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:38,600 What's going on with you today? 590 00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:42,560 I told you, I woke up this morning and then I told you all of the things that made my 591 00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:46,200 mind kind of go, I'm in a bad space today. 592 00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:50,400 I don't like anybody outside of our family today. 593 00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:51,920 Sorry guys, don't like you. 594 00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:52,920 And it's fine. 595 00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:53,920 I'll be better. 596 00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:54,920 That means it's my fault. 597 00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:58,360 I'm not saying something's going on with me that I need to figure out. 598 00:27:58,360 --> 00:27:59,760 Or being aware of that. 599 00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:01,680 Or it's just a straight up attack. 600 00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:02,680 It's a straight up attack. 601 00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:06,080 There doesn't necessarily need to be something wrong with you. 602 00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:07,080 It's an attack. 603 00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:08,080 I appreciate that. 604 00:28:08,080 --> 00:28:12,240 Probably is more of that than the other because it is something very, very dumb. 605 00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:13,240 Yeah. 606 00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:17,080 Something very, very dumb. 607 00:28:17,080 --> 00:28:21,080 And I'll say, you know, kind of to pull back a little bit. 608 00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:29,200 There, I mean, again, I do, I pay attention to a lot of, I try to absorb a lot of information, 609 00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:36,360 especially when it comes to food and physical health and stuff like that. 610 00:28:36,360 --> 00:28:37,360 I am not the best. 611 00:28:37,360 --> 00:28:40,720 I'm not the greatest, but I at least have a lot of information. 612 00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:42,520 A lot of knowledge. 613 00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:45,560 Yes, thank you. 614 00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:55,040 But again, the fact that the foods that we eat can also affect our mental health and 615 00:28:55,040 --> 00:28:58,240 our attitudes and our personalities. 616 00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:06,040 You know, I mean, outside of a marriage, I mean, just the list of things that it's like, 617 00:29:06,040 --> 00:29:11,640 oh yeah, if you feed these foods to your kids, their personalities can change overnight. 618 00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:16,760 And if you stop feeding these foods to your kids, they'll all of a sudden become better. 619 00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:22,960 It's kind of like the shows that they watch and stuff like that. 620 00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:25,400 But it's true. 621 00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:35,720 There's so much stuff in the world that can affect how we live, how we walk, how we do, 622 00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:40,120 what we do, if we can do. 623 00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:51,040 So again, it's just, it's like I want to, I'm trying to figure out how to say, we need 624 00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:52,580 to be better. 625 00:29:52,580 --> 00:29:57,440 Not only do we need to be better for ourselves, but we need to be better for our spouses. 626 00:29:57,440 --> 00:30:09,960 And we need to encourage our, how can we encourage the best that is in our spouses so that they 627 00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:19,320 can, so they can see the best in themselves and also encourage the best in us so that 628 00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:22,800 we can see the best in ourselves, so that we can encourage, so they can see. 629 00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:23,800 It's a constant cycle. 630 00:30:23,800 --> 00:30:24,800 Yeah, it is. 631 00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:25,800 Absolutely. 632 00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:26,800 Absolutely. 633 00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:30,000 And then you have your children in the mix and then it affects your children. 634 00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:36,960 You know, because a lot of this comes, a lot of it comes down to, it's like, I almost want 635 00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:42,920 to say what you want to see in yourself, that's what you get to encourage in your spouse. 636 00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:50,840 This is one of those things where it's like, this, I think it's kind of appropriate of, 637 00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:55,520 I want to see this in myself, so I'm going to encourage this in my spouse because this 638 00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:59,640 is, we can then do this together. 639 00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:04,960 Or it's just, again, if I encourage this in my spouse, this will push me to do better 640 00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:05,960 in myself. 641 00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:06,960 Right? 642 00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:13,840 You know, again, if you said, you know, hey, let's run a 5K once a month, not my favorite. 643 00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:21,960 I will support you and I will do my best to be with you to run a 5K a month. 644 00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:22,960 Yes. 645 00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:23,960 You know? 646 00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:24,960 So you said that like I'm excited. 647 00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:25,960 I am not endorsing this. 648 00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:26,960 I am not endorsing this. 649 00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:29,880 I am not committing to anything right now. 650 00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:31,200 You all are my witnesses. 651 00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:35,360 I am not committing to running a 5K a month. 652 00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:38,120 I'm going to look it up. 653 00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:43,800 But if you did, again, because I know this has been kind of on your heart. 654 00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:45,240 It's a little bit of my bucket list. 655 00:31:45,240 --> 00:31:46,800 It is on your bucket list. 656 00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:50,000 I know one day you want to run at least a half marathon. 657 00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:51,000 Yes. 658 00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:52,000 So I'm only half crazy. 659 00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:53,000 Right. 660 00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:54,000 Yes. 661 00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:58,000 Just simply because I want to be able to see here's, and then let me tell you guys why. 662 00:31:58,000 --> 00:31:59,120 Okay? 663 00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:00,880 Because I want to see what I'm capable of. 664 00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:01,880 Yeah. 665 00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:02,880 It's just that simple. 666 00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:08,920 And I think if yours may not be a half marathon, yours may not be, you know, like you did the 667 00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:14,000 strongman things and the highland games and the stuff, right? 668 00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:15,280 Why do you do it? 669 00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:16,880 To see what you're capable of. 670 00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:18,440 I want to see what I'm capable of. 671 00:32:18,440 --> 00:32:24,880 I want to see what happens when I tell myself no. 672 00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:29,680 Like if I tell my flesh no, I want to see what I'm capable of when I say, you know, 673 00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:30,680 it starts screaming. 674 00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:38,680 I want to see what I'm capable of when I don't say stop. 675 00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:42,840 I want to see what I'm capable of because I want to see everything that God has put 676 00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:43,840 inside of me. 677 00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:47,720 And that's just not the physical aspect, but that's like, that's our workplace. 678 00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:49,280 That's us writing books. 679 00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:51,440 That's us getting our certificates. 680 00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:52,720 I'm going to start crying. 681 00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:58,620 Like all of a sudden I was like, wow, you know, I want to see like our beautiful brown 682 00:32:58,620 --> 00:33:00,880 eye girl and our sweet little guy, right? 683 00:33:00,880 --> 00:33:03,760 Like why do you guys push us? 684 00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:11,640 Because I want to see the potential of heaven unlock inside of you in such a way that you 685 00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:16,400 can say, Whoa, like God shows up on the scene. 686 00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:20,520 Heaven touches earth literally while you're doing whatever it is that you're doing. 687 00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:21,720 Well it's mundane, Dina. 688 00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:23,040 This is not a big deal. 689 00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:24,040 We got a new dog. 690 00:33:24,040 --> 00:33:25,040 We took it for a walk. 691 00:33:25,040 --> 00:33:27,080 We're doing all the things are just blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. 692 00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:29,440 No, see like it becomes a puzzle piece. 693 00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:30,440 It becomes a catalyst. 694 00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:31,860 It becomes something. 695 00:33:31,860 --> 00:33:34,000 What can you do? 696 00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:39,160 What are you capable of doing when, when you tell the enemy? 697 00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:46,120 No, that is when, when you stop listening to the lies, when you stop allowing the roadblocks 698 00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:51,920 to stand in your way, man, instead of like letting it detour, you hurdle it. 699 00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:53,920 What happens or push it over? 700 00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:55,360 You're a push it over. 701 00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:56,560 You wouldn't be trying to hurdle it. 702 00:33:56,560 --> 00:33:57,560 You're trying. 703 00:33:57,560 --> 00:33:59,640 You're going to push it over and let's keep moving. 704 00:33:59,640 --> 00:34:00,640 Right? 705 00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:02,680 What can you do? 706 00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:04,360 What are you capable of? 707 00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:09,880 Because I guarantee you're not reaching the full potential of heaven in your life today. 708 00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:10,880 Yeah. 709 00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:15,680 And I'll, I'll also say I'll give my little also about the roadblock. 710 00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:16,960 Yeah. 711 00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:21,160 To, I mean, not to a degree, but pray about it. 712 00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:22,160 Yes. 713 00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:25,680 You know, and pray about the roadblock before you see the roadblock. 714 00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:26,920 I love that. 715 00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:32,240 Because when you come up to this roadblock, you know, and, and this, this is always the 716 00:34:32,240 --> 00:34:33,240 tricky part. 717 00:34:33,240 --> 00:34:43,240 This is always the tricky part about walking as a Christian is, is this roadblock of God 718 00:34:43,240 --> 00:34:45,080 or is this roadblock of the enemy? 719 00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:46,080 That's good. 720 00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:50,120 You know, because there, we all know that there are times where the enemy will try to 721 00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:55,280 trip us up and try to detour us off of our path, our walk with God. 722 00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:56,280 Right. 723 00:34:56,280 --> 00:34:59,000 To keep us from reaching our full potential. 724 00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:00,000 Right. 725 00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:05,600 There are also times where God will put that roadblock saying, Hey, I want you to, I want 726 00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:07,320 you to put your energy over here. 727 00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:08,320 Yes. 728 00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:09,320 Not in this. 729 00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:10,320 Yes. 730 00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:11,320 You know? 731 00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:17,560 And so when we see those roadblocks, when we see, you know, let's say we're having 732 00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:23,080 a difficult time with our physical health, with our spouse's physical health, man, I 733 00:35:23,080 --> 00:35:24,840 wish, you know, I do. 734 00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:25,840 Okay. 735 00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:30,200 I want to say, I do not say this, but you know, man, I wish, I wish Dina was more active. 736 00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:31,600 I wish she would eat better. 737 00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:32,600 Yeah. 738 00:35:32,600 --> 00:35:36,920 You know, our sex life is not as like as good as it needs to be. 739 00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:37,920 Right. 740 00:35:37,920 --> 00:35:38,920 Okay. 741 00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:39,920 How about you do something about that? 742 00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:40,920 How about you help them? 743 00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:42,880 What do you need to do to help them? 744 00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:43,880 Yeah. 745 00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:44,880 Yes. 746 00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:47,260 You know, and you know, yes. 747 00:35:47,260 --> 00:35:48,260 Say something. 748 00:35:48,260 --> 00:35:49,260 Yes. 749 00:35:49,260 --> 00:35:50,800 Say something lovingly, please. 750 00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:56,960 Say something loving with, say something with the love, respect and honor of a spouse approaching 751 00:35:56,960 --> 00:35:57,960 another spouse. 752 00:35:57,960 --> 00:35:58,960 Yes. 753 00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:02,680 You know, their spouse, not another spouse, their spouse, their spouse, approach your 754 00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:03,680 spouse. 755 00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:04,680 Yes. 756 00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:07,120 You know, but again, pray about it. 757 00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:10,040 You know, God, God, God give me the words. 758 00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:11,040 Yeah. 759 00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:16,000 Give me the words that I can say, you know, give me the words that are going to be impactful, 760 00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:18,440 not just for my spouse, but also for me. 761 00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:19,440 Yes. 762 00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:26,240 Because what if it's something of I decide to say something to you and all of a sudden 763 00:36:26,240 --> 00:36:30,880 it's like it comes as it comes out, it's like, oh wait, that was, that was for me. 764 00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:32,480 Yeah. 765 00:36:32,480 --> 00:36:34,960 You know, because that we all know that happens. 766 00:36:34,960 --> 00:36:35,960 Yeah. 767 00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:41,200 I mean, how many times, you know, have we like prayed for somebody or seen somebody 768 00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:43,920 pray for somebody else and all of a sudden it's like, oh wait, that was actually for 769 00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:44,920 me. 770 00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:45,920 Yeah. 771 00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:52,360 So I'm praying it over you to help you, but the words are meant to spark something in 772 00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:53,360 me. 773 00:36:53,360 --> 00:36:54,360 Yeah. 774 00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:55,360 That's good. 775 00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:56,360 That's good. 776 00:36:56,360 --> 00:36:57,360 Yeah. 777 00:36:57,360 --> 00:36:58,360 No, that's good. 778 00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:12,080 I like that, but it is, it's, it's a thing of don't harp in a space, but don't, don't 779 00:37:12,080 --> 00:37:13,760 pussy foot around each other either. 780 00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:14,760 Yeah. 781 00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:19,040 Don't make shells, but don't nag, don't harp, don't be little. 782 00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:21,560 Start setting the example, set the example. 783 00:37:21,560 --> 00:37:22,560 Yeah. 784 00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:29,800 And, and, and make it from a place where you say, cause ultimately here's the bottom line. 785 00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:31,840 Why are you and I active? 786 00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:32,840 We say this a lot. 787 00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:33,840 Yeah. 788 00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:34,840 Why are you and I active? 789 00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:38,560 We're active cause a number one, we're accountable to what it is that our bodies are. 790 00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:39,560 Okay. 791 00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:40,560 How we treat our bodies. 792 00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:45,120 Number two, I want to live long and prosper. 793 00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:52,640 I want to, I want to run hard into my hundreds with you right there by my side. 794 00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:58,960 And I don't want sickness and I don't want junk and I don't want stuff of this world, 795 00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:01,720 something that I know that I could have done better. 796 00:38:01,720 --> 00:38:08,420 I don't want that to be the reason why I get erased prematurely off this earth or you. 797 00:38:08,420 --> 00:38:14,600 And I also, we also do it because we want to live long and prosper for our children. 798 00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:19,960 And then maybe one day our grandchildren and then our great grandchildren, whatever that 799 00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:20,960 looks like. 800 00:38:20,960 --> 00:38:27,280 It's like, we want, we want to be good stewards with what it is that God has blessed us with. 801 00:38:27,280 --> 00:38:31,240 And we don't want to be the old couple in the hospital bed. 802 00:38:31,240 --> 00:38:32,240 Come on, babe. 803 00:38:32,240 --> 00:38:37,640 You know, again, you know, it's like, what's wrong with, you know, like if we take, you 804 00:38:37,640 --> 00:38:44,280 know, grandkids or, or great grandkids to the zoo, it's like, I want to be able to walk 805 00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:46,320 with them through the zoo. 806 00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:48,520 You know, we, we want to be able to do that. 807 00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:49,520 Yeah. 808 00:38:49,520 --> 00:38:53,440 You know, we want to be able to reach and bend and squat and walk and walk and walk 809 00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:57,560 and pick up and pick up and then pick up some more. 810 00:38:57,560 --> 00:39:01,920 DG, come to what you need, baby. 811 00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:02,920 Yes. 812 00:39:02,920 --> 00:39:03,920 Yeah. 813 00:39:03,920 --> 00:39:04,920 I already have my own grandma name. 814 00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:05,920 Thank you. 815 00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:14,280 But yeah, it's, we want, we want to be good for, we want to be healthy. 816 00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:15,280 We want to be active. 817 00:39:15,280 --> 00:39:17,160 We want to be available. 818 00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:18,160 Yes. 819 00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:20,560 For today and for tomorrow. 820 00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:21,560 Yes. 821 00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:27,080 And I, man, I don't know what, father, you're being really okay. 822 00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:32,460 It's fine. 823 00:39:32,460 --> 00:39:34,320 I want to set an example for the church. 824 00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:38,080 I want to set an example for the body of Christ. 825 00:39:38,080 --> 00:39:44,080 You and I want to be able to stand in front of people and say, you can be better because 826 00:39:44,080 --> 00:39:48,940 with all due respect, gluttony is one of the biggest sins that this church, that the body 827 00:39:48,940 --> 00:39:54,960 of Christ allows to run rampant in the church. 828 00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:58,160 It, it's unfortunate. 829 00:39:58,160 --> 00:39:59,440 It's unfortunate. 830 00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:02,280 Gluttony is not moderation. 831 00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:06,000 Gluttony is, or not being a good steward with the body. 832 00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:12,280 And that seems to be a conversation that nobody wants to have that, and it sucks. 833 00:40:12,280 --> 00:40:13,600 It sucks. 834 00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:20,240 It's not okay because you have, you have pastors and you have people and you have congregations. 835 00:40:20,240 --> 00:40:22,560 They're dying prematurely. 836 00:40:22,560 --> 00:40:29,360 Even if they're still walking around there, they're dying because they have their joints 837 00:40:29,360 --> 00:40:34,960 hurt or they have excess on their bodies or whatever it diabetes, all of the different 838 00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:42,320 things, cancers, the stuff that is literally being created by the toxins and the junk and 839 00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:43,320 the stuff. 840 00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:46,280 We are not a crunchy couple. 841 00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:47,280 People call us chewy. 842 00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:52,040 I think I would say that I think the term they call us is chewy because we're just enough 843 00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:56,080 healthy, but we like our ice cream too, but we're going to make sure that it doesn't have 844 00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:57,820 a lot of the junk in it too. 845 00:40:57,820 --> 00:40:58,820 That's not the point. 846 00:40:58,820 --> 00:41:05,120 The point is, is moderation, but it's also just be a good steward with what you've got. 847 00:41:05,120 --> 00:41:08,320 Read the labels, figure out the things, do the stuff. 848 00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:09,960 You went through that program. 849 00:41:09,960 --> 00:41:13,400 It's the body by God is what it's called. 850 00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:17,120 And you're literally changing 1% every day. 851 00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:18,720 Do something different. 852 00:41:18,720 --> 00:41:22,620 If you, if you like your sodas, drink some water. 853 00:41:22,620 --> 00:41:27,240 If you don't like the taste of just water, then find like maybe some lemon or some sort 854 00:41:27,240 --> 00:41:29,260 of flavoring that's going to be good. 855 00:41:29,260 --> 00:41:35,360 That's natural that will digest into your system to, to help you consume your water, 856 00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:36,680 to do the things. 857 00:41:36,680 --> 00:41:41,400 It's like, you don't have to like throw everything out all at once. 858 00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:47,440 Your body will go into a weird, weird detox, almost like coming from a drug addiction or 859 00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:48,880 heroin or something like that. 860 00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:55,960 If you're not careful, but if you, everything that you take out, replace it with good. 861 00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:58,600 All the bad that comes out, replace it with good. 862 00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:00,840 That's even our walks with Jesus. 863 00:42:00,840 --> 00:42:03,320 Take out the bad, replace it with good. 864 00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:07,640 And then watch your body and watch your mind, your heart, your emotions, everything start 865 00:42:07,640 --> 00:42:10,760 getting better and better and stronger and stronger. 866 00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:11,760 Yeah. 867 00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:20,020 And again, start small, start small, you know, and, and because it is, it's, you know, the, 868 00:42:20,020 --> 00:42:25,920 the original question is how do we support each other in, in physical health in our marriages? 869 00:42:25,920 --> 00:42:28,640 Start small, you know, start small. 870 00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:29,640 Yeah. 871 00:42:29,640 --> 00:42:34,840 Start, start with where you're at and, and what, what does this look like? 872 00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:36,560 You know, what, what are our goals? 873 00:42:36,560 --> 00:42:38,120 You know, have a conversation. 874 00:42:38,120 --> 00:42:43,360 What dear Dina, what are our physical goals for our marriage? 875 00:42:43,360 --> 00:42:44,360 Yeah. 876 00:42:44,360 --> 00:42:45,360 What, what do we want to look like? 877 00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:49,920 What, what does our physical activity level want to look like? 878 00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:50,920 Yeah. 879 00:42:50,920 --> 00:42:55,460 You know, and, and I can guarantee you, I can almost guarantee you with, I can guarantee 880 00:42:55,460 --> 00:43:03,920 you with 99.9% confidence that there is something on the internet, either on the internet or 881 00:43:03,920 --> 00:43:10,120 you know somebody that can help you take steps towards that goal. 882 00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:11,120 Yes. 883 00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:16,040 I mean, I remember years ago, I was trying to, you know, what if I wanted to do this? 884 00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:17,580 What if I wanted to do this? 885 00:43:17,580 --> 00:43:25,880 And I actually found something that said, here's a calendar, this will take you from 886 00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:32,240 the couch to running a 5k in 30 days. 887 00:43:32,240 --> 00:43:33,440 I love that. 888 00:43:33,440 --> 00:43:37,680 And it was, it was little things like, you know, hey, like step one, like day one was 889 00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:39,680 like walk around the block. 890 00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:40,680 Yeah. 891 00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:43,600 You know, can you, can you walk around the block? 892 00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:45,080 Can you jog a block? 893 00:43:45,080 --> 00:43:46,080 Yeah. 894 00:43:46,080 --> 00:43:49,320 And it wasn't like, you know, go out and run a mile, see you when you're done. 895 00:43:49,320 --> 00:43:53,720 You know, it was, it was, you know, hey, can you, can you, can you jog for a block? 896 00:43:53,720 --> 00:43:54,720 Yeah. 897 00:43:54,720 --> 00:43:57,120 You know, can you jog for 100 feet, 200 feet? 898 00:43:57,120 --> 00:43:58,120 Yeah. 899 00:43:58,120 --> 00:43:59,680 You know, start small, start there. 900 00:43:59,680 --> 00:44:00,680 Yeah. 901 00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:05,680 You know, and then, then build, you know, because I've, I've seen it a lot of times. 902 00:44:05,680 --> 00:44:08,960 People are like, oh, I'm going to get healthy, you know, especially in come January, I'm 903 00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:09,960 going to get healthy. 904 00:44:09,960 --> 00:44:11,840 It's my new, you know, new year's resolution. 905 00:44:11,840 --> 00:44:17,160 I'm going to, I'm going to run a half marathon this year and they start day one. 906 00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:21,120 Let's see if I can run five miles and day two, they're hurting. 907 00:44:21,120 --> 00:44:22,120 They are so sore. 908 00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:23,800 And then all of a sudden they can't run. 909 00:44:23,800 --> 00:44:24,800 Yeah. 910 00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:25,800 They're like, nope. 911 00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:26,800 Okay. 912 00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:27,800 Yeah. 913 00:44:27,800 --> 00:44:28,800 Looks like I can't do this. 914 00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:29,800 Thanks. 915 00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:30,800 And then they quit. 916 00:44:30,800 --> 00:44:31,800 Then they quit. 917 00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:33,680 Or I even heard like, so say you do have a setback. 918 00:44:33,680 --> 00:44:34,680 Yeah. 919 00:44:34,680 --> 00:44:38,660 So you do have a day where you're just like, I can't do this or you go on a long journey. 920 00:44:38,660 --> 00:44:39,660 Something happens. 921 00:44:39,660 --> 00:44:40,660 You get sick, stuff like that. 922 00:44:40,660 --> 00:44:41,660 Yeah. 923 00:44:41,660 --> 00:44:42,660 So you get sick and you get back. 924 00:44:42,660 --> 00:44:43,660 Yeah. 925 00:44:43,660 --> 00:44:44,660 Just get back up on it. 926 00:44:44,660 --> 00:44:45,660 Just, just keep going. 927 00:44:45,660 --> 00:44:47,200 Don't stop is the point. 928 00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:48,200 Yeah. 929 00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:53,400 Don't stop because you see when I start having a mental situation happening inside of me, 930 00:44:53,400 --> 00:45:00,040 I'll look at you and I'll say, I haven't quit and I'm not going to, I'm, we're not going 931 00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:01,040 to stop. 932 00:45:01,040 --> 00:45:03,600 We're going to keep going. 933 00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:08,360 And if we get in the gym once in the week, if we get four out of five, whatever, you 934 00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:09,540 know what I mean? 935 00:45:09,540 --> 00:45:11,920 Some days it's going to look really, really good. 936 00:45:11,920 --> 00:45:12,920 Some days it's not. 937 00:45:12,920 --> 00:45:13,920 Yeah. 938 00:45:13,920 --> 00:45:15,680 But the fact is that you're not quitting. 939 00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:17,040 That's right. 940 00:45:17,040 --> 00:45:18,040 Don't stop. 941 00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:19,040 No. 942 00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:20,040 Just don't stop. 943 00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:21,040 Yeah. 944 00:45:21,040 --> 00:45:22,040 So that's it. 945 00:45:22,040 --> 00:45:23,040 I think, yeah. 946 00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:27,000 This life is not meant to be stopped and meant to be sedentary and it's not meant, it's meant 947 00:45:27,000 --> 00:45:28,720 to be lived abundantly. 948 00:45:28,720 --> 00:45:29,720 Yeah. 949 00:45:29,720 --> 00:45:30,720 Yeah. 950 00:45:30,720 --> 00:45:32,000 But yeah. 951 00:45:32,000 --> 00:45:35,220 So that's, that's, I think that's where we're at. 952 00:45:35,220 --> 00:45:39,040 Have a conversation, start small, keep going. 953 00:45:39,040 --> 00:45:40,040 I love that. 954 00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:41,040 I love that. 955 00:45:41,040 --> 00:45:42,040 Yeah. 956 00:45:42,040 --> 00:45:43,040 All right guys. 957 00:45:43,040 --> 00:45:44,040 Have the best week. 958 00:45:44,040 --> 00:46:09,600 Enjoy the journey.