WEBVTT 00:00:00.240 --> 00:00:03.220 Welcome to the Feminine Power Podcast and today's 00:00:03.220 --> 00:00:07.099 episode is quite unique. I'm speaking with Lynn, 00:00:07.580 --> 00:00:10.679 a former high -class escort who now works as 00:00:10.679 --> 00:00:14.400 a sensuality practitioner offering deeply intentional 00:00:14.400 --> 00:00:17.699 sessions to individuals and couples seeking reconnection 00:00:17.699 --> 00:00:20.640 with their bodies and desires and playfulness. 00:00:21.480 --> 00:00:24.379 We're not talking about sexual services here 00:00:24.379 --> 00:00:27.579 so that you understand the context. We're exploring 00:00:27.579 --> 00:00:31.980 the world of sensual services. a space many can 00:00:31.980 --> 00:00:35.219 be unfamiliar with and so a space that might 00:00:35.219 --> 00:00:38.539 carry a lot of stigma but also quite a potential 00:00:38.539 --> 00:00:41.780 for healing and you will see why. Lynn shares 00:00:41.780 --> 00:00:44.960 how she chose this profession consciously and 00:00:44.960 --> 00:00:48.420 how she now continues to deepen her skills and 00:00:48.420 --> 00:00:51.399 how sensuality when held with safety, presence 00:00:51.399 --> 00:00:55.340 and care can become a getaway for emotional release, 00:00:55.679 --> 00:00:58.259 nervous system regulation and deep deep intimacy. 00:00:58.920 --> 00:01:01.500 I personally find this work fascinating. I have 00:01:01.500 --> 00:01:04.980 had her services. And if you're curious, I invite 00:01:04.980 --> 00:01:19.219 you to keep listening with an open mind. I'm 00:01:19.219 --> 00:01:23.099 your host Maria Grinina, founder of Feel, a global 00:01:23.099 --> 00:01:26.680 platform for feminine embodiment and a coach 00:01:26.680 --> 00:01:29.840 for women ready to live with magnetism, love 00:01:29.840 --> 00:01:33.260 and full aliveness. If you're ready to rise, 00:01:33.459 --> 00:01:36.099 you're in the right place. Follow the show and 00:01:36.099 --> 00:01:39.200 let's begin. I always love to say that I've been 00:01:39.200 --> 00:01:44.299 raised incredibly open -minded. So that is definitely 00:01:44.299 --> 00:01:48.920 a privilege. that many people don't have, meaning 00:01:48.920 --> 00:01:52.239 lots of topics were always open, including sexuality 00:01:52.239 --> 00:01:57.079 or sensual expression. And yet, it took me so 00:01:57.079 --> 00:02:00.319 many years to really indulge it myself. I had 00:02:00.319 --> 00:02:04.140 these stories in my mind of self -judgment and 00:02:04.140 --> 00:02:06.780 maybe lack of confidence. And that held me back 00:02:06.780 --> 00:02:11.139 for many years, even though I think I must have 00:02:11.139 --> 00:02:14.180 been around the age of 20. For me, it started 00:02:14.180 --> 00:02:17.099 with a movie I saw about a high -class escort. 00:02:17.620 --> 00:02:20.099 And I watched that movie and I thought, that 00:02:20.099 --> 00:02:23.300 is me. I really felt that, like, that is me. 00:02:23.360 --> 00:02:25.500 That's my life. That's what I want my life to 00:02:25.500 --> 00:02:29.599 be, which is a very unpopular choice of profession. 00:02:29.979 --> 00:02:31.840 There were so many other things I also liked. 00:02:31.919 --> 00:02:36.219 So I studied, so I had another career. And yeah, 00:02:36.300 --> 00:02:39.110 it took me until I reached the age of 30. And 00:02:39.110 --> 00:02:42.050 by that time I had already gone to many erotic 00:02:42.050 --> 00:02:45.650 events and parties. I had dipped my toe in the 00:02:45.650 --> 00:02:48.669 world of eroticism, but it turned, yeah, it turned 00:02:48.669 --> 00:02:53.289 30 and then I felt ready to make it my professional 00:02:53.289 --> 00:02:58.590 life. So on my side, when I look at central services, 00:02:58.750 --> 00:03:03.669 yeah, I see that this is something that is a 00:03:03.669 --> 00:03:07.189 much quicker answer to a state that a lot of 00:03:07.189 --> 00:03:12.389 people like a state of surrender, a state of 00:03:12.389 --> 00:03:15.849 bliss, a state of joy, a state of connection. 00:03:17.409 --> 00:03:22.849 And you have such deep skills, so trained, highly 00:03:22.849 --> 00:03:25.870 trained in different modalities that you have 00:03:25.870 --> 00:03:30.349 this ability to put people into a state of bliss 00:03:30.349 --> 00:03:33.270 and surrender while feeling so safe and seen 00:03:33.270 --> 00:03:36.740 in a short amount of time, I must say. So in 00:03:36.740 --> 00:03:38.979 the world that is constantly seeking for solutions 00:03:38.979 --> 00:03:43.180 for connection and mental health and relaxation, 00:03:44.180 --> 00:03:48.560 what you can offer, I find it so special. And 00:03:48.560 --> 00:03:52.599 I enjoyed my time with you. And I want to start 00:03:52.599 --> 00:03:54.759 here, actually, with this personal outlook. When 00:03:54.759 --> 00:03:57.139 I asked you to give me a session, which was a 00:03:57.139 --> 00:04:02.340 session of Shibari and sensual body manipulation. 00:04:02.500 --> 00:04:04.620 And basically I asked you just make me submit 00:04:04.620 --> 00:04:08.979 and relax. For me it was like, I'm going through 00:04:08.979 --> 00:04:12.199 this marketing launch and I'm all in this doing, 00:04:12.219 --> 00:04:15.319 doing, doing energy and I have to perform. And 00:04:15.319 --> 00:04:18.860 every day I have to be all together for about 00:04:18.860 --> 00:04:22.259 a month. So it's really intense time. And me, 00:04:22.600 --> 00:04:24.300 myself, knowing how important my nervous system 00:04:24.300 --> 00:04:27.459 is for my success, including as for many years 00:04:27.459 --> 00:04:29.899 of life, but also for the actual success of the 00:04:29.899 --> 00:04:32.639 launch. And be like, I'll do anything I need 00:04:32.639 --> 00:04:35.180 to make sure I'm healthy and relaxed. Although 00:04:35.180 --> 00:04:38.660 I did massages during that stage, your session 00:04:38.660 --> 00:04:43.060 just took me out of my mind. And that was what 00:04:43.060 --> 00:04:46.139 I needed at that time, because I already started 00:04:46.139 --> 00:04:48.879 to even losing my libido. I started losing my 00:04:48.879 --> 00:04:51.139 like softness at all. I was like, so, oh, and 00:04:51.139 --> 00:04:54.680 just in one hour I was like, ah, okay, now I'm 00:04:54.680 --> 00:04:59.519 good. So, I know we haven't given a lot of background 00:04:59.519 --> 00:05:02.019 yet, but I want to start from the spicy bit right 00:05:02.019 --> 00:05:04.379 away and the background is going to open. What 00:05:04.379 --> 00:05:09.379 did you do to me? How? I wish I had an answer, 00:05:09.560 --> 00:05:11.259 right? That would be incredible if I would say 00:05:11.259 --> 00:05:13.139 like, yeah, I just did this and then I could 00:05:13.139 --> 00:05:16.959 teach that to everyone. But the truth is I work 00:05:16.959 --> 00:05:20.079 on intuition and that is an intuition I've developed 00:05:20.079 --> 00:05:24.120 over years of experience and lots of education. 00:05:24.459 --> 00:05:28.459 By now I cannot tell really what it is that I 00:05:28.459 --> 00:05:32.779 do exactly other than I do believe I have an 00:05:32.779 --> 00:05:37.500 incredible skill in being able to read what someone 00:05:37.500 --> 00:05:42.339 wants before they can actually speak into that. 00:05:43.259 --> 00:05:45.579 And I would say the base of that is something 00:05:45.579 --> 00:05:49.319 I use all the time. I think a lot of people have 00:05:49.319 --> 00:05:52.240 no idea what it is that they are actually desiring. 00:05:52.399 --> 00:05:55.720 in general, but even when they do book a sexual 00:05:55.720 --> 00:06:00.720 service. And I've come to realize that it's very 00:06:00.720 --> 00:06:05.100 rarely about sex. Actually, it's never. And so 00:06:05.100 --> 00:06:09.680 then there is this whole gray area in which we 00:06:09.680 --> 00:06:13.720 can explore. And if you have never tried different 00:06:13.720 --> 00:06:17.759 things like centric work or body work or shibari 00:06:17.759 --> 00:06:20.879 or hypnosis for that matter, then how can you 00:06:20.879 --> 00:06:23.839 know what it is that you need? So I would say 00:06:23.839 --> 00:06:26.860 that for me as a professional, it is up to me 00:06:26.860 --> 00:06:30.959 to make sure that the menu is presented in a 00:06:30.959 --> 00:06:34.319 way that someone can choose which modality kind 00:06:34.319 --> 00:06:38.680 of feels most attractive. Or what is the starting 00:06:38.680 --> 00:06:41.060 point, let's say, because once you start somewhere 00:06:41.060 --> 00:06:43.439 and you feel the connection is there, then kind 00:06:43.439 --> 00:06:45.699 of the sky's the limit. If we would have another 00:06:45.699 --> 00:06:47.660 session, you would probably tell me, do whatever 00:06:47.660 --> 00:06:51.819 you feel is right. So yeah, I think it's just 00:06:51.819 --> 00:06:55.500 a combination of a lot of experience. Here for 00:06:55.500 --> 00:06:59.069 all the listeners who are like, what? And now 00:06:59.069 --> 00:07:01.769 I want to give a background. We in this modern 00:07:01.769 --> 00:07:04.449 world have a lot of stigma around escort, sex 00:07:04.449 --> 00:07:07.750 work. Then the narrative there is that, oh, this 00:07:07.750 --> 00:07:09.870 is for people who are lonely. That's why they 00:07:09.870 --> 00:07:11.629 just can't have get sex elsewhere. So that's 00:07:11.629 --> 00:07:15.189 why the book is sexual service. And this is because 00:07:15.189 --> 00:07:17.250 we just don't have enough information. We just 00:07:17.250 --> 00:07:19.790 don't know what is possible, what is out there. 00:07:20.209 --> 00:07:23.569 And we also have a lot of shame and stigma and 00:07:23.569 --> 00:07:26.709 a lot of other conditioning that we can go into 00:07:26.709 --> 00:07:28.769 for a very long time if we wanted to, but we 00:07:28.769 --> 00:07:31.490 won't. If we actually come back into, hmm, what 00:07:31.490 --> 00:07:34.209 is it that is true to me? What feels good? What 00:07:34.209 --> 00:07:37.629 do I need? And if we also connect to other people 00:07:37.629 --> 00:07:40.230 from a space of love and acceptance, this kind 00:07:40.230 --> 00:07:46.430 of service. can be a beautiful way of Even releasing, 00:07:46.930 --> 00:07:51.310 reconnecting with oneself, experiencing a desire, 00:07:51.449 --> 00:07:54.230 having a new experience with your body. Especially 00:07:54.230 --> 00:07:56.769 connection to the body is so powerful that can 00:07:56.769 --> 00:08:00.410 be explored when there is somebody who is professional, 00:08:00.689 --> 00:08:04.110 who can take you to certain places. And what 00:08:04.110 --> 00:08:06.410 I love about you is that you are really trained 00:08:06.410 --> 00:08:08.709 in so many different modalities. And then indeed, 00:08:08.709 --> 00:08:10.769 as you say, you can have a menu and you can pick 00:08:10.769 --> 00:08:13.629 and choose different things and combine them 00:08:13.629 --> 00:08:16.089 into a recipe. bring something to a person that 00:08:16.089 --> 00:08:18.490 they actually need in a moment. And that can 00:08:18.490 --> 00:08:22.670 all range from being in a power dynamics, having 00:08:22.670 --> 00:08:26.129 sexy talk, dirty talk, having an experience of 00:08:26.129 --> 00:08:29.480 bondage, having just a sensual connection. It 00:08:29.480 --> 00:08:32.720 may also not even involve any kind of sexual 00:08:32.720 --> 00:08:35.759 connection in this experience. For example, for 00:08:35.759 --> 00:08:38.519 myself, it was enough that you tied me and put 00:08:38.519 --> 00:08:40.840 me to the ground and then spoke to me nicely, 00:08:41.039 --> 00:08:42.720 like, right? So it's like, it's a whole hour 00:08:42.720 --> 00:08:45.740 of essential experience. It just brings me back 00:08:45.740 --> 00:08:48.759 to the body. So people imagine that this just, 00:08:48.759 --> 00:08:51.639 oh, sex service is about penetration, right? 00:08:51.639 --> 00:08:54.340 And that's such a small look at it. And in reality, 00:08:54.399 --> 00:08:58.659 there is a whole world of body, embodiment connection, 00:08:58.759 --> 00:09:00.879 especially when there is somebody that is so 00:09:00.879 --> 00:09:04.200 skilled. Tell me, what is it that you do? What 00:09:04.200 --> 00:09:07.899 is your menu? Well, my starting point was as 00:09:07.899 --> 00:09:11.179 a high -class escort. And I stepped into that 00:09:11.179 --> 00:09:13.679 with not that much experience, other than just 00:09:13.679 --> 00:09:17.090 being very fascinated. And then... did lead me 00:09:17.090 --> 00:09:19.309 into all these different skills that I learned. 00:09:19.649 --> 00:09:24.070 So shibari, tantric work, body work, hypnosis, 00:09:24.590 --> 00:09:27.309 more power play dynamics. And it came with a 00:09:27.309 --> 00:09:30.009 huge conclusion for me, which was, hey, it's 00:09:30.009 --> 00:09:33.029 actually never about sex. And so right now the 00:09:33.029 --> 00:09:36.710 services that I offer evolve around, I would 00:09:36.710 --> 00:09:40.049 call it sensuality. So it's not longer a sexual 00:09:40.049 --> 00:09:43.259 service. But I do play in that area where there 00:09:43.259 --> 00:09:46.580 is, let's say the gray zone of sensuality. So 00:09:46.580 --> 00:09:50.879 that is erotically charged, even though it doesn't 00:09:50.879 --> 00:09:55.059 go into penetrative or oral sexual services. 00:09:56.379 --> 00:09:58.899 I have divided it kind of into different things 00:09:58.899 --> 00:10:02.019 that work really well for me. So first of all, 00:10:02.059 --> 00:10:06.080 shibari. What an incredible tool in a really 00:10:06.080 --> 00:10:09.299 soft way, connect to someone's body and create 00:10:09.299 --> 00:10:12.889 a sense of. I mean, to me, it feels as if I'm 00:10:12.889 --> 00:10:16.029 being like wrapped up and held. It's so soft, 00:10:16.049 --> 00:10:19.649 so tender. And you can also go into suspension, 00:10:19.649 --> 00:10:22.350 which is very technical skill. And there simply 00:10:22.350 --> 00:10:25.730 are not so many people, especially women in Europe 00:10:25.730 --> 00:10:29.529 that offer this service. So I give Shibari sessions, 00:10:29.909 --> 00:10:34.789 private or lessons to couples or people with 00:10:34.789 --> 00:10:37.129 their play partner. You don't need to be a romantic 00:10:37.129 --> 00:10:41.379 couple. Besides that, I offer a few tantric experiences. 00:10:41.820 --> 00:10:45.299 One of them is genital massages, something I 00:10:45.299 --> 00:10:50.220 am deeply adoring myself. I love to give it. 00:10:50.259 --> 00:10:53.600 There are so many people who have never experienced 00:10:53.600 --> 00:10:57.759 their genitals being touched other than it being 00:10:57.759 --> 00:11:01.279 to get aroused, like in preparation of sex or 00:11:01.279 --> 00:11:04.179 in a medical manner. To offer that to me is very, 00:11:04.840 --> 00:11:08.570 yeah, it's just beautiful. incredible. I offer 00:11:08.570 --> 00:11:11.289 tantric couple sessions where it's more about 00:11:11.289 --> 00:11:14.570 reconnecting together in a different way. And 00:11:14.570 --> 00:11:17.870 I offer domination sessions or lessons, which 00:11:17.870 --> 00:11:21.370 is basically a bit more power play dynamics in 00:11:21.370 --> 00:11:24.409 reality. So yeah, I think all the things that 00:11:24.409 --> 00:11:27.509 I offer, I also want to teach because I just 00:11:27.509 --> 00:11:29.549 get a lot of requests from couples saying like, 00:11:29.710 --> 00:11:31.789 Oh, could we come together on a session or how 00:11:31.789 --> 00:11:34.309 could we learn this? And I thought it's kind 00:11:34.309 --> 00:11:37.070 of important that. If you don't want to go into 00:11:37.070 --> 00:11:39.809 a group workshop, but you do want to learn something 00:11:39.809 --> 00:11:44.029 new, that you can have a private learning experience. 00:11:45.070 --> 00:11:48.730 Exactly. Yeah. And often that's just deeply touching 00:11:48.730 --> 00:11:53.049 also. In a couple dynamic to reconnect together 00:11:53.049 --> 00:11:55.429 with someone being present who is just giving 00:11:55.429 --> 00:11:59.129 tips and tricks and new ideas. What an incredible 00:11:59.129 --> 00:12:02.230 thing to see. Like for me even to see that unfolding 00:12:02.230 --> 00:12:06.909 is just, it warms my heart so deeply. And let's 00:12:06.909 --> 00:12:09.049 break it down a little bit for those who might 00:12:09.049 --> 00:12:11.429 not know so much what does this actually mean. 00:12:11.950 --> 00:12:14.730 Starting from genital massages, what are they? 00:12:15.289 --> 00:12:18.549 So these are basically different techniques to 00:12:18.549 --> 00:12:21.049 work with pressure points around your genitals. 00:12:21.970 --> 00:12:25.360 And I mean, honestly, We all have had a massage 00:12:25.360 --> 00:12:28.659 before. We have knots in our muscles. We love 00:12:28.659 --> 00:12:31.639 it when they're being cracked open. But our genitals 00:12:31.639 --> 00:12:34.639 are never touched. And for women, our breasts 00:12:34.639 --> 00:12:38.120 are never touched. Well, actually, those are 00:12:38.120 --> 00:12:41.720 the places where we store so much tension, so 00:12:41.720 --> 00:12:44.259 much emotional blockages. And so our muscles 00:12:44.259 --> 00:12:46.740 around our genital area are often incredibly 00:12:46.740 --> 00:12:50.870 tense for men and for women, actually. So I love 00:12:50.870 --> 00:12:53.590 to give people the experience of actually loosening 00:12:53.590 --> 00:12:57.309 up that area and really sinking into their body, 00:12:57.529 --> 00:13:01.090 sinking into what it feels like to be touched 00:13:01.090 --> 00:13:04.429 there without needing to do anything in return, 00:13:04.549 --> 00:13:07.629 just to receive it. And very often it's actually 00:13:07.629 --> 00:13:10.809 a very emotional experience rather than very 00:13:10.809 --> 00:13:13.929 arousing. First you have to get all that shit 00:13:13.929 --> 00:13:16.669 out, like all these emotional blockages, and 00:13:16.669 --> 00:13:19.590 then... you will feel that also your arousal 00:13:19.590 --> 00:13:22.750 will be different afterwards. And what about 00:13:22.750 --> 00:13:26.309 the tantric experiences for couples? What is 00:13:26.309 --> 00:13:29.649 it that you do them? It's mainly about slowing 00:13:29.649 --> 00:13:33.830 down together. And taking a moment to explore 00:13:33.830 --> 00:13:37.990 together and just to take time. I think the key 00:13:37.990 --> 00:13:41.090 word there is slowing down. And it also includes 00:13:41.090 --> 00:13:43.710 different way of touching or holding each other 00:13:43.710 --> 00:13:46.950 and kind of trying different things. I mean, 00:13:46.950 --> 00:13:49.090 especially couples who have been together for 00:13:49.090 --> 00:13:52.009 many years, you just have your ways, and it's 00:13:52.009 --> 00:13:56.409 very difficult to change your ways. And it's 00:13:56.409 --> 00:13:59.590 just a beautiful experience, I believe, to under 00:13:59.590 --> 00:14:04.110 guidance, go into something together that feels 00:14:04.110 --> 00:14:07.330 really connective. And just for those wondering, 00:14:08.230 --> 00:14:10.570 there is an option of being naked, that's not 00:14:10.570 --> 00:14:13.610 necessary. It doesn't include penetration of 00:14:13.610 --> 00:14:17.929 any kind. But I do feel when we strip there and 00:14:17.929 --> 00:14:20.470 we kind of reveal ourselves a true connection, 00:14:20.830 --> 00:14:23.429 and if people feel comfortable, you're welcome 00:14:23.429 --> 00:14:26.070 to be naked. Like that's just natural, but it's 00:14:26.070 --> 00:14:29.389 definitely not necessary. So I love it. You help 00:14:29.389 --> 00:14:32.809 couples to go through these experiences and slow 00:14:32.809 --> 00:14:35.169 down with your guidance, right? It sounds like 00:14:35.169 --> 00:14:37.730 a perfect fit. With these experiences, I know 00:14:37.730 --> 00:14:40.129 you also teach central domination. We've done 00:14:40.129 --> 00:14:42.570 workshops with you. They were always amazing 00:14:42.570 --> 00:14:44.590 and you do this now more and more in Europe. 00:14:45.090 --> 00:14:48.490 And they're about stepping into this seductive 00:14:48.490 --> 00:14:53.450 dominatrix energy, which... For me, and especially 00:14:53.450 --> 00:14:55.690 on this Feminine Power podcast, it's such a big 00:14:55.690 --> 00:14:58.149 and important topic. It's like, how do we as 00:14:58.149 --> 00:15:03.309 women embody our powerful energy, a leader energy, 00:15:03.809 --> 00:15:07.169 a dominatrix energy, which can be really challenging 00:15:07.169 --> 00:15:10.090 for many people because we are taught to be submissive 00:15:10.090 --> 00:15:13.230 and we're taught to listen and to be good girls. 00:15:14.110 --> 00:15:16.690 So embodying such energy is really, it can be 00:15:16.690 --> 00:15:19.049 really out of comfort zone for many people, but 00:15:19.049 --> 00:15:22.029 also so empowering. And I personally would use 00:15:22.029 --> 00:15:25.409 it, and I use it very much outside of my sensual 00:15:25.409 --> 00:15:28.230 sexual experiences. It's something really important 00:15:28.230 --> 00:15:30.629 and powerful in all settings and all areas of 00:15:30.629 --> 00:15:32.870 life, including business. How do you yourself 00:15:32.870 --> 00:15:36.480 step into your dominatrix energy? If you're enjoying 00:15:36.480 --> 00:15:39.480 this episode, I'd love your support. Just tap 00:15:39.480 --> 00:15:42.019 three dots next to the podcast name wherever 00:15:42.019 --> 00:15:44.799 you're listening and select rate the show and 00:15:44.799 --> 00:15:48.039 leave us five stars. It takes a few seconds and 00:15:48.039 --> 00:15:50.340 it really helps more women find their space, 00:15:50.399 --> 00:15:53.080 connect with their buddies and come home to themselves. 00:15:53.320 --> 00:15:55.480 Thank you for being here with us. Well, then 00:15:55.480 --> 00:15:58.980 I have to go back to how I started. For me, what 00:15:58.980 --> 00:16:02.539 really changed something was starting pole dance 00:16:02.539 --> 00:16:05.679 and sensual dance. Always when I tell people 00:16:05.679 --> 00:16:09.820 that, let's say four years ago, I was incredibly 00:16:09.820 --> 00:16:14.559 shy while moving my body. And the first time 00:16:14.559 --> 00:16:17.399 I went to pole class, you're there in your pole 00:16:17.399 --> 00:16:21.860 outfit, which is basically a bikini, in a class 00:16:21.860 --> 00:16:26.759 full of mirrors. And I thought, what? And over 00:16:26.759 --> 00:16:30.799 the course of that year, I learned so much what 00:16:30.799 --> 00:16:36.289 it meant to feel sexy for myself. And that I 00:16:36.289 --> 00:16:40.169 can highly advise everyone. And you know, some 00:16:40.169 --> 00:16:42.830 people feel they're most confident when they're 00:16:42.830 --> 00:16:45.610 cooking and others feel they're most confident 00:16:45.610 --> 00:16:48.370 when they're making art. And for me, it was central 00:16:48.370 --> 00:16:50.889 movement. It's so personal. That's beautiful. 00:16:50.950 --> 00:16:53.429 So that helped you to feel confident and sexy. 00:16:54.110 --> 00:16:56.889 What about the leader energy, the dom energy? 00:16:58.190 --> 00:17:00.730 Yeah, I do have to admit that that's something 00:17:00.730 --> 00:17:04.559 I was kind of... I had since childhood. I have 00:17:04.559 --> 00:17:08.319 this incredibly funny anecdote actually, which 00:17:08.319 --> 00:17:12.740 is when I was about let's say 10 years old, we 00:17:12.740 --> 00:17:16.240 had this summer camp in school. And I remember 00:17:16.240 --> 00:17:19.299 that we were all like in a forest building huts, 00:17:19.519 --> 00:17:22.079 everybody was building their house. And then 00:17:22.079 --> 00:17:25.119 I had a house and there were three boys from 00:17:25.119 --> 00:17:28.759 my classroom, my dog all day long. And they were 00:17:28.759 --> 00:17:31.299 just walking around and following me around and 00:17:31.299 --> 00:17:33.640 I was giving them orders. Which in that time 00:17:33.640 --> 00:17:36.339 was just like a way of playing and very innocent. 00:17:36.660 --> 00:17:39.819 But if I look at it now, a part of this, you 00:17:39.819 --> 00:17:41.599 can fake it till you make it. And then there 00:17:41.599 --> 00:17:44.920 is this little part where some of us just have 00:17:44.920 --> 00:17:47.440 that, which I would say makes the difference 00:17:47.440 --> 00:17:50.920 between being a professional in it or just using 00:17:50.920 --> 00:17:53.539 certain techniques or skills to get more confident. 00:17:53.599 --> 00:17:56.640 And that is beautiful too. What do you usually 00:17:56.640 --> 00:17:59.160 teach to people when you teach them a little 00:17:59.160 --> 00:18:02.519 bit of a domination experience? I would say it's 00:18:02.519 --> 00:18:05.559 about confidence more than anything else. It's 00:18:05.559 --> 00:18:10.299 about for women to feel confident, to show themselves, 00:18:10.519 --> 00:18:14.160 to reveal themselves, to ask for what they want. 00:18:15.059 --> 00:18:18.539 And with that, actually guide their partner. 00:18:18.829 --> 00:18:21.609 male or female doesn't really matter, guide their 00:18:21.609 --> 00:18:25.269 partner into like a blissful state. Because I 00:18:25.269 --> 00:18:28.069 feel that if we do speak about the masculine 00:18:28.069 --> 00:18:31.210 and the feminine, for the masculine, they also 00:18:31.210 --> 00:18:33.829 just want to do it right. And sometimes they 00:18:33.829 --> 00:18:37.269 simply don't know how or what the woman wants. 00:18:37.869 --> 00:18:41.230 And the more the feminine learns to actually 00:18:41.230 --> 00:18:45.329 express what it is we desire, the more easier 00:18:45.329 --> 00:18:49.309 it becomes and I have been surprised how many 00:18:49.309 --> 00:18:52.470 women find that incredibly difficult to actually 00:18:52.470 --> 00:18:56.230 start a sentence with, I want you to do this 00:18:56.230 --> 00:19:00.250 or that to me, or I would like to do this or 00:19:00.250 --> 00:19:04.230 that to you. We never really learned to ask for 00:19:04.230 --> 00:19:07.630 what we want or need. Yeah. Yeah. So most of 00:19:07.630 --> 00:19:10.609 these workshops are really about embracing your 00:19:10.609 --> 00:19:13.990 power. and growing in confidence and actually 00:19:13.990 --> 00:19:18.309 inviting sensuality in. Yeah, inviting sensuality 00:19:18.309 --> 00:19:21.369 that you desire, not because you want to please 00:19:21.369 --> 00:19:23.630 someone, but because you want it for yourself. 00:19:24.009 --> 00:19:26.650 And this is really powerful, your reclaiming 00:19:26.650 --> 00:19:30.329 sensuality and playing with it this way. Also 00:19:30.329 --> 00:19:33.450 irresistible for yourself and for the other, 00:19:33.789 --> 00:19:37.740 but yeah, deeply. Daily practice is what truly 00:19:37.740 --> 00:19:42.400 transforms inspiration into embodiment. It is 00:19:42.400 --> 00:19:46.099 how this path moves from something you know to 00:19:46.099 --> 00:19:49.359 something you truly live. 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Well, for me, I think what 00:20:31.750 --> 00:20:35.650 is really important is a lot of people have this 00:20:35.650 --> 00:20:39.490 illusion that arousal is something that just 00:20:39.490 --> 00:20:43.809 exists. So it just pops up like a surprise. Whereas 00:20:43.809 --> 00:20:46.470 for a lot of us, that's not the case at all. 00:20:46.809 --> 00:20:49.049 It's something like that needs to be awakened 00:20:49.049 --> 00:20:52.829 that needs to be like that needs to grow. And 00:20:52.829 --> 00:20:56.140 that can grow throughout the day. So I always 00:20:56.140 --> 00:20:59.500 really love to tell people to not underestimate 00:20:59.500 --> 00:21:03.700 the power of doing nothing, of especially not 00:21:03.700 --> 00:21:05.680 giving the other person what they might want 00:21:05.680 --> 00:21:08.839 or need. And just play with that desire and let 00:21:08.839 --> 00:21:13.140 that arousal and the wanting it slowly grow throughout 00:21:13.140 --> 00:21:15.859 the day. And then take a moment, like set the 00:21:15.859 --> 00:21:19.079 scene. Especially for those who have children, 00:21:19.140 --> 00:21:22.880 they know how impossible it is to just kind of 00:21:22.880 --> 00:21:27.809 go with spontaneity. So set the scene, make sure 00:21:27.809 --> 00:21:32.650 you book a certain time frame and plan that in 00:21:32.650 --> 00:21:34.990 the agenda. And for those who think that's not 00:21:34.990 --> 00:21:40.049 sexy, well, actually it is just as sexy as spontaneity. 00:21:40.329 --> 00:21:43.390 If we bring it into an example context, it's 00:21:43.390 --> 00:21:46.349 good to play with this desire for a date, for 00:21:46.349 --> 00:21:49.190 an experience, for each other. So in a part of 00:21:49.190 --> 00:21:52.470 it could be planning a moment when sensual experience 00:21:52.470 --> 00:21:56.049 or sex or a date would happen. And then you'd 00:21:56.049 --> 00:21:59.970 play before then with this idea. And how would 00:21:59.970 --> 00:22:01.910 you play with this idea before then to build 00:22:01.910 --> 00:22:05.190 up to it? So I will just talk about myself because 00:22:05.190 --> 00:22:07.650 all our desires are different, so I can use myself 00:22:07.650 --> 00:22:12.289 as an example. So I am really sensitive for beautiful 00:22:12.289 --> 00:22:17.869 spaces and smell. For some reason. So for me, 00:22:17.910 --> 00:22:20.450 it's really important that if I go into some 00:22:20.450 --> 00:22:23.549 sort of sensual play, that the room, the light 00:22:23.549 --> 00:22:27.410 is nice. There are candles. It smells good. I 00:22:27.410 --> 00:22:31.190 just came out of the bathtub. I feel soft, clean, 00:22:31.549 --> 00:22:34.230 relaxed. And that for me is a beautiful starting 00:22:34.230 --> 00:22:38.750 point. So to invite someone into that, it could 00:22:38.750 --> 00:22:42.970 be someone telling me. hey let's take a really 00:22:42.970 --> 00:22:45.369 nice long bath and when you get out of there 00:22:45.369 --> 00:22:50.609 I will have the room exactly how you would desire 00:22:50.609 --> 00:22:53.589 it to look like so it's also like these little 00:22:53.589 --> 00:22:57.630 acts of showing interest into creating a scenario 00:22:57.630 --> 00:23:00.569 that you know arouses the other person I love 00:23:00.569 --> 00:23:03.089 to also try different things even if I don't 00:23:03.089 --> 00:23:06.009 know yet if I enjoy it or not but then again 00:23:06.009 --> 00:23:08.890 like I like to set a scene so I say like okay 00:23:08.890 --> 00:23:12.230 on Monday night I have read something, I would 00:23:12.230 --> 00:23:16.029 like to try this out. And in worst case scenario, 00:23:16.369 --> 00:23:18.809 if it's not arousing, then at least we've tried 00:23:18.809 --> 00:23:21.509 something new and we laughed about it. And that's 00:23:21.509 --> 00:23:25.589 also fine, you know, to not be shy to have a... 00:23:25.339 --> 00:23:27.779 That so -called not good experience. I mean, 00:23:27.940 --> 00:23:31.180 what is that even? You will never figure out 00:23:31.180 --> 00:23:33.940 what you're into if you are not willing to also 00:23:33.940 --> 00:23:36.940 try a bunch of stuff that you realize you don't 00:23:36.940 --> 00:23:39.960 like at all. Yeah, yeah, true. I feel like it's 00:23:39.960 --> 00:23:41.740 an amazing moment now that you're having that 00:23:41.740 --> 00:23:45.089 can help destigmatize setting up a date. setting 00:23:45.089 --> 00:23:48.109 up a time and a date and booking in a sex date, 00:23:48.109 --> 00:23:51.369 for example. Most people still have a resistance 00:23:51.369 --> 00:23:53.930 to it. Most people still think that this is unsexy, 00:23:54.049 --> 00:23:56.029 this is something for desperate people or for 00:23:56.029 --> 00:23:58.450 really busy people who don't care about each 00:23:58.450 --> 00:24:01.569 other. But in reality, if we think about it, 00:24:02.289 --> 00:24:05.049 when we date in other stages of dating and when 00:24:05.049 --> 00:24:07.930 we book a date with each other, it's kind of 00:24:07.930 --> 00:24:10.259 the same thing. Right? Like we know that most 00:24:10.259 --> 00:24:11.599 likely we're going to go for dinner and then 00:24:11.599 --> 00:24:13.220 the most likely we're going to have sex afterwards. 00:24:13.539 --> 00:24:15.880 Like most likely we prepare for ourselves. We 00:24:15.880 --> 00:24:17.920 have, when we think about our underwear, think 00:24:17.920 --> 00:24:20.480 about how we wear, we take a shower, right? So 00:24:20.480 --> 00:24:22.559 there is a preparation and we know it happens 00:24:22.559 --> 00:24:26.019 on Thursday evening at 8 p .m. And suddenly when 00:24:26.019 --> 00:24:27.880 we are in a couple and we live together for a 00:24:27.880 --> 00:24:31.460 long time and we're just every day together and 00:24:31.460 --> 00:24:33.359 people have children, people have busy lives 00:24:33.359 --> 00:24:35.859 and then they just want connection to happen. 00:24:36.089 --> 00:24:38.630 by itself and then it doesn't happen. And then 00:24:38.630 --> 00:24:40.950 people get frustrated. So why don't they also 00:24:40.950 --> 00:24:43.329 just book a date, right? And be it the sex date, 00:24:43.509 --> 00:24:46.069 be it a romantic experience where indeed one 00:24:46.069 --> 00:24:48.630 partner prepares a bath for another. And as you 00:24:48.630 --> 00:24:50.750 say, tells them when you go out, the room is 00:24:50.750 --> 00:24:52.609 going to be exactly as you want. Why don't you 00:24:52.609 --> 00:24:56.849 tell me how? So creating these experiences that 00:24:56.849 --> 00:24:59.990 are intentional and you book a time out for it 00:24:59.990 --> 00:25:03.619 can be amazing. On another hand, There are affairs, 00:25:03.859 --> 00:25:05.759 sometimes people are dissatisfied from these 00:25:05.759 --> 00:25:07.660 experiences they have with their long -term partners 00:25:07.660 --> 00:25:10.839 and maybe they have an affair and they hide this 00:25:10.839 --> 00:25:13.559 from their partner. And what they do, they actually, 00:25:13.559 --> 00:25:16.859 again, book a date with their lover. And again, 00:25:16.980 --> 00:25:20.559 they book a date, right? So we see these experiences 00:25:20.559 --> 00:25:23.099 that people are doing and those that they seek. 00:25:23.319 --> 00:25:27.480 very often involve booking a time. I just want 00:25:27.480 --> 00:25:30.380 to make a point out of it and try to help people 00:25:30.380 --> 00:25:34.220 to change their mindsets around it and start 00:25:34.220 --> 00:25:36.720 booking dates. And I feel like you can share 00:25:36.720 --> 00:25:41.460 many different... date scenarios that people 00:25:41.460 --> 00:25:44.799 can take a note of and benefit from. What would 00:25:44.799 --> 00:25:47.880 be your, say, date menu? If people are now listening 00:25:47.880 --> 00:25:50.240 and like, oh, okay, I want to start setting up 00:25:50.240 --> 00:25:52.839 dates with my partner. What could they start 00:25:52.839 --> 00:25:56.039 with? Oh yeah, let's first say that I completely 00:25:56.039 --> 00:25:59.480 agree. We book everything in our agenda. Why 00:25:59.480 --> 00:26:02.759 not sexy time? That is so crazy that we skipped 00:26:02.759 --> 00:26:06.950 that. So what kind of dates I like? Well, There 00:26:06.950 --> 00:26:09.910 are just certain spaces that arouse me. For example, 00:26:10.089 --> 00:26:12.829 I'm personally, I love the spa. I love warm spaces 00:26:12.829 --> 00:26:15.450 and to be naked. For me, that's just, I love 00:26:15.450 --> 00:26:18.670 to be around my partner when we're both like 00:26:18.670 --> 00:26:22.430 sweaty and nude. Like for me, that's a very deeply 00:26:22.430 --> 00:26:25.930 relaxing and therefore arousing experience. I 00:26:25.930 --> 00:26:29.549 could come up with one million different ideas. 00:26:30.009 --> 00:26:35.049 I mean, I love to go to like a fancy. like dinner, 00:26:35.230 --> 00:26:38.309 like have a great dinner and to both not wear 00:26:38.309 --> 00:26:41.650 underwear. Like it's such a simple thing. We've 00:26:41.650 --> 00:26:44.029 heard it in 1 million different places. We've 00:26:44.029 --> 00:26:46.190 seen it in movies and still we're not really 00:26:46.190 --> 00:26:49.210 doing that. You know, I adore it. For me, that's 00:26:49.210 --> 00:26:53.450 such a warm welcome of inviting a bit of eroticism 00:26:53.450 --> 00:26:55.569 into the room. Like it's such an easy thing to 00:26:55.569 --> 00:26:59.369 do. I love little tasks personally. Like I use 00:26:59.369 --> 00:27:02.029 this sometimes in my domination sessions as well. 00:27:02.349 --> 00:27:05.750 This could be Throughout the day, you know, I 00:27:05.750 --> 00:27:08.630 would like to eat this piece of fruit in a way 00:27:08.630 --> 00:27:12.589 how you would eat my pussy. Or I would like you 00:27:12.589 --> 00:27:16.569 to go to the toilet and touch yourself until 00:27:16.569 --> 00:27:19.730 you're really hard. And then you can come back 00:27:19.730 --> 00:27:22.650 and sit at the table with a heart on. You know, 00:27:22.730 --> 00:27:25.809 these little tasks throughout the day, I love 00:27:25.809 --> 00:27:28.190 them. Like it's something that just kind of like 00:27:28.190 --> 00:27:32.880 putting little bits of oil on the fire. Yeah, 00:27:32.880 --> 00:27:35.980 and in my private life, I love sweet dates in 00:27:35.980 --> 00:27:38.259 the morning, drinking coffee together, reading 00:27:38.259 --> 00:27:41.660 a book in the bed. For me, this can be really 00:27:41.660 --> 00:27:46.759 the sweetest date in simplicity. I think this 00:27:46.759 --> 00:27:50.039 is also why my personal life is sometimes not 00:27:50.039 --> 00:27:53.480 a great example. My life has been so much evolving 00:27:53.480 --> 00:27:56.579 around all of these examples is that sometimes 00:27:56.579 --> 00:27:59.819 I feel I live my life upside down. I've made 00:27:59.819 --> 00:28:03.099 it so much my work that in my private life, I 00:28:03.099 --> 00:28:06.680 want all the sweet stuff and I want to just sip 00:28:06.680 --> 00:28:10.480 coffee in bed and read a book. For me, that is 00:28:10.480 --> 00:28:14.619 the perfect date. Would you actually book a session 00:28:14.619 --> 00:28:18.880 with your partner as a couple? Is that a date? 00:28:19.240 --> 00:28:21.680 Yes. I feel like having a date where someone 00:28:21.680 --> 00:28:25.480 can guide a couple is an amazing thing to do 00:28:25.480 --> 00:28:28.079 and I would love that myself. What if I was to 00:28:28.079 --> 00:28:30.819 book it? I would be like, what's my intention? 00:28:30.980 --> 00:28:33.460 My intention is to create the next different 00:28:33.460 --> 00:28:36.119 level of experience that we don't usually have. 00:28:36.440 --> 00:28:40.380 So, and very often when someone else guides us 00:28:40.380 --> 00:28:43.539 to, it is an opportunity for both people to surrender 00:28:43.539 --> 00:28:46.759 into the experience. As usually, as everything 00:28:46.759 --> 00:28:49.359 is in union, someone needs to guide, someone 00:28:49.359 --> 00:28:52.359 needs to lead. But here, if there is a guide, 00:28:53.359 --> 00:28:56.619 then two can fully surrender into the experience. 00:28:56.910 --> 00:29:00.170 which I feel like that's the real, the US view 00:29:00.170 --> 00:29:03.170 of such an experience. I think it's also such 00:29:03.170 --> 00:29:06.109 a new thing, kind of. It feels to me as if it's 00:29:06.109 --> 00:29:08.349 something that kind of popped up as an option 00:29:08.349 --> 00:29:12.170 within the last years. I mean, prior, if you 00:29:12.170 --> 00:29:14.549 wanted to experience something, let's say naughty 00:29:14.549 --> 00:29:16.630 together with your partner, you would either 00:29:16.630 --> 00:29:19.710 go on a dating website or you would book an escort 00:29:19.710 --> 00:29:22.369 to have a threesome. But what if you actually 00:29:22.369 --> 00:29:24.170 want to learn something and you don't want to 00:29:24.170 --> 00:29:28.170 go in a group setting? Like these private lesson 00:29:28.170 --> 00:29:31.210 workshop curated sessions, I think that's still 00:29:31.210 --> 00:29:35.569 quite new and such a sweet gift to give to your 00:29:35.569 --> 00:29:38.630 couple, to give for a special occasion or even 00:29:38.630 --> 00:29:41.609 like once every so -called month. A lot of people 00:29:41.609 --> 00:29:43.650 are interested in how to make sure their long 00:29:43.650 --> 00:29:47.150 -term relationships are fulfilling and meaningful 00:29:47.150 --> 00:29:51.680 and passionate. I'm really glad that a lot more 00:29:51.680 --> 00:29:55.200 people are interested and sexuality and sensuality 00:29:55.200 --> 00:29:57.299 and actual sexual connection is so important. 00:29:57.720 --> 00:30:00.039 It's so natural to crave it and a lot of people 00:30:00.039 --> 00:30:02.480 lose it with time because they don't invest in 00:30:02.480 --> 00:30:06.819 it. And such solution of having a guide is basically 00:30:06.819 --> 00:30:09.119 one of the ways so people can invest into it. 00:30:09.380 --> 00:30:12.119 Create new experiences and satisfy fantasies 00:30:12.119 --> 00:30:14.500 and have someone teaching them something new. 00:30:14.670 --> 00:30:17.349 You know, you can read books with tips and tricks 00:30:17.349 --> 00:30:21.269 and, you know, maybe one of the two is more interested 00:30:21.269 --> 00:30:23.509 in it than the other. You can talk about it. 00:30:23.730 --> 00:30:26.130 But to actually have an embodied experience of 00:30:26.130 --> 00:30:29.450 someone who is showing you examples also, like 00:30:29.450 --> 00:30:31.869 how to approach, how to try different things. 00:30:32.430 --> 00:30:35.789 I believe that's very different and actually 00:30:35.789 --> 00:30:39.470 very sweet. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, I can see all of 00:30:39.470 --> 00:30:42.509 that. Yeah, I love it so much because when I... 00:30:42.559 --> 00:30:45.500 When I smile or my eyes tingle right now it's 00:30:45.500 --> 00:30:48.119 because I see the couples in front of me who 00:30:48.119 --> 00:30:53.779 have been emotional and touched and horny and 00:30:53.779 --> 00:30:56.039 all these things that come up and they're like, 00:30:56.140 --> 00:30:58.480 wow, we never expected this and we never knew 00:30:58.480 --> 00:31:01.779 where to find this kind of session. It must be 00:31:01.779 --> 00:31:04.680 fulfilling to see people really connecting as 00:31:04.680 --> 00:31:07.910 a result. Yeah, together, but also alone, right? 00:31:08.250 --> 00:31:11.230 Like also sessions as an individual for women, 00:31:11.509 --> 00:31:14.829 poor men, doesn't matter. Such an indulging thing. 00:31:15.009 --> 00:31:17.869 It's such a luxury also to be able to put time 00:31:17.869 --> 00:31:20.029 and energy and money into something like that. 00:31:20.250 --> 00:31:24.069 And at the same time, it's the core of what we 00:31:24.069 --> 00:31:26.730 want as humans. We want to be touched, we want 00:31:26.730 --> 00:31:30.309 connection, we want... to feel aroused. This 00:31:30.309 --> 00:31:33.549 connection is in our conversations with you where 00:31:33.549 --> 00:31:35.990 I was really fascinated by your insights where 00:31:35.990 --> 00:31:37.910 you were sharing how most people just really 00:31:37.910 --> 00:31:41.549 want connection. Very often it's all about why 00:31:41.549 --> 00:31:43.990 people come and book a service is because they 00:31:43.990 --> 00:31:46.269 just want to connect. They just want to be seen. 00:31:46.410 --> 00:31:48.670 They just want to share their time. They want 00:31:48.670 --> 00:31:51.569 to feel emotions. What are the feelings that 00:31:51.569 --> 00:31:55.130 people look for? I think actually just to be 00:31:55.130 --> 00:32:00.589 seen and validated. and to shed some layers of 00:32:00.589 --> 00:32:05.950 shame around being a sexual human, but they all 00:32:05.950 --> 00:32:09.410 are. In the core, we're all the same. We all 00:32:09.410 --> 00:32:14.309 want to be seen, witnessed, and touched. We tend 00:32:14.309 --> 00:32:16.509 to under -appreciate how much it means for a 00:32:16.509 --> 00:32:20.170 human being on a physiological level, this need 00:32:20.170 --> 00:32:24.369 of touch and the need of connection. And to put 00:32:24.369 --> 00:32:27.289 it into a horrific statistics context, one of 00:32:27.289 --> 00:32:29.789 the major causes of suicide for people is loneliness. 00:32:31.750 --> 00:32:33.890 That's actually one of the major causes, it's 00:32:33.890 --> 00:32:35.769 loneliness. So many people are so lonely, but 00:32:35.769 --> 00:32:38.329 that's of course, it's really a big zoom out 00:32:38.329 --> 00:32:41.809 on just the state of the world. But in a simple 00:32:41.809 --> 00:32:46.670 sense of when it comes to sensuality and sexuality. 00:32:47.309 --> 00:32:50.289 It is just really about connection. People so 00:32:50.289 --> 00:32:52.789 want to be connected and sometimes people don't 00:32:52.789 --> 00:32:56.029 find it even with those who they are supposedly 00:32:56.029 --> 00:32:59.809 close with. That's the sad part. So I feel like 00:32:59.809 --> 00:33:01.609 the things that you've been describing in this 00:33:01.609 --> 00:33:05.809 episode, like having dates. playing with your 00:33:05.809 --> 00:33:08.490 partner in a different way, in a more intentional 00:33:08.490 --> 00:33:12.190 way, or having a sensual guide like yourself 00:33:12.190 --> 00:33:15.410 coming to a date, or recognizing the fact that 00:33:15.410 --> 00:33:18.309 we are sexual beings and honoring that by giving 00:33:18.309 --> 00:33:21.589 ourselves certain experiences helps us to connect 00:33:21.589 --> 00:33:24.970 at the very core. It's just like he satisfies 00:33:24.970 --> 00:33:29.529 that one need of connection. And thus, it is 00:33:29.529 --> 00:33:32.509 sad how stigmatized sensual services and sexual 00:33:32.509 --> 00:33:35.690 services I understand why, because there is a 00:33:35.690 --> 00:33:38.750 shadow to it. There are people, a lot of people 00:33:38.750 --> 00:33:41.410 who are in those professions that are forced 00:33:41.410 --> 00:33:45.529 to be there. But that's again, if we only understand 00:33:45.529 --> 00:33:50.230 it that way, then we only fuel the shadow because 00:33:50.230 --> 00:33:52.890 then there is a light part of it where people 00:33:52.890 --> 00:33:55.589 only create connection and it all comes consensually 00:33:55.589 --> 00:33:58.859 and by choice. So I just want to put that into 00:33:58.859 --> 00:34:00.980 this differentiation to place the background. 00:34:01.019 --> 00:34:02.819 And I wonder, what do you think about it? Because 00:34:02.819 --> 00:34:07.160 do you face any stigma, any shame from other 00:34:07.160 --> 00:34:10.559 people? And how do you respond to that? I mean, 00:34:10.559 --> 00:34:13.880 of course I do. I work in a field that is stigmatizing 00:34:13.880 --> 00:34:18.219 society, even though I live in a country where 00:34:18.219 --> 00:34:21.679 all that I do is legal. It has always been legal. 00:34:22.159 --> 00:34:25.650 I was raised open -mindedness, but still. I grew 00:34:25.650 --> 00:34:28.510 up in a small village where people like to gossip. 00:34:29.130 --> 00:34:34.730 I am not immune to what I believe society thinks 00:34:34.730 --> 00:34:39.489 about stigmatization. And I simultaneously feel 00:34:39.489 --> 00:34:42.090 incredibly lucky with the friends that I have 00:34:42.090 --> 00:34:45.929 and how greatly surrounded I am by people who 00:34:45.929 --> 00:34:49.190 have never judged me for what I do. But of course, 00:34:49.269 --> 00:34:53.010 it's here. What an ideal world would it be if 00:34:53.010 --> 00:34:56.460 it would not be here? I mean, even on Instagram, 00:34:56.739 --> 00:34:59.900 you get shadowbanned forever, you know, this 00:34:59.900 --> 00:35:04.099 is the example. But I mean, honestly, also, also 00:35:04.099 --> 00:35:06.780 at times if I'm in a place where I don't know 00:35:06.780 --> 00:35:09.940 anyone and people ask like, oh, what do you do? 00:35:10.639 --> 00:35:12.679 It's always like, it's always a moment for me 00:35:12.679 --> 00:35:15.139 where I have to kind of think like, okay, even 00:35:15.139 --> 00:35:18.360 though I could easily share what I do, it's not 00:35:18.360 --> 00:35:21.050 something that just that then doesn't raise any 00:35:21.050 --> 00:35:24.230 questions. And I'm not always in the mood. So 00:35:24.230 --> 00:35:26.730 sometimes I just also say something that's not 00:35:26.730 --> 00:35:28.929 true. I'm like, yeah, I do this or that, like 00:35:28.929 --> 00:35:32.329 something a bit more vague. It's just, it's just 00:35:32.329 --> 00:35:34.889 a profession that comes with and that needs a 00:35:34.889 --> 00:35:38.530 lot of explanation still. And I'm happy to provide 00:35:38.530 --> 00:35:40.769 that. And at the same time, it's exhausting. 00:35:41.389 --> 00:35:44.050 Yeah. How do you then say what it is that you 00:35:44.050 --> 00:35:47.369 do? Like if you go fully into it, how do you 00:35:47.369 --> 00:35:50.420 describe feel? Oh, if I go full into it, I explained 00:35:50.420 --> 00:35:52.480 that we help women to connect to their bodies 00:35:52.480 --> 00:35:54.739 and their feminine and their sexual energies 00:35:54.739 --> 00:35:57.860 by giving them practices and tools and education 00:35:57.860 --> 00:36:01.980 and courses in a very simple way and help them 00:36:01.980 --> 00:36:04.900 to connect. You see, and then people get really 00:36:04.900 --> 00:36:07.280 curious and then they start asking a lot more 00:36:07.280 --> 00:36:09.800 questions. And it really depends whether in that 00:36:09.800 --> 00:36:12.099 moment I am in a place where I want to talk a 00:36:12.099 --> 00:36:15.280 lot and explain, or if I'm in a place where I'm 00:36:15.280 --> 00:36:19.059 not. I'm not that tall. And that's why in those 00:36:19.059 --> 00:36:21.059 moments when I'm not, I just prefer to say I'm 00:36:21.059 --> 00:36:24.199 an entrepreneur. If I take the stigma out and 00:36:24.199 --> 00:36:27.280 I really look at these services, I mean, especially 00:36:27.280 --> 00:36:31.139 nowadays, we tend to ask help for every aspect 00:36:31.139 --> 00:36:34.980 of our lives. Preferably, there are people who 00:36:34.980 --> 00:36:38.179 cook for us, clean our house for us, we get massages, 00:36:38.320 --> 00:36:41.500 we get our hair done, we go to a psychologist, 00:36:42.239 --> 00:36:45.920 or any other form of therapy. But when it comes 00:36:45.920 --> 00:36:48.539 to our sexuality, we're supposed to just figure 00:36:48.539 --> 00:36:52.039 it out alone or with our partner. Like how old 00:36:52.039 --> 00:36:55.679 school is that idea? And how great that there 00:36:55.679 --> 00:36:58.159 are more and more options, either online or in 00:36:58.159 --> 00:37:02.179 person to actually, yeah, get to the bottom of 00:37:02.179 --> 00:37:06.800 that. Exactly. And this is a great point. Let's 00:37:06.800 --> 00:37:09.820 let it sink in because why do we not use help? 00:37:10.039 --> 00:37:13.219 When it comes to our sexuality, why do we not 00:37:13.219 --> 00:37:17.300 use knowledge, support, insights, ancient wisdom, 00:37:17.619 --> 00:37:21.599 or we basically majority of people are just trying 00:37:21.599 --> 00:37:25.300 to figure it out like in the old days before 00:37:25.300 --> 00:37:28.139 the internet, before big cities, before connections, 00:37:28.420 --> 00:37:31.840 before everything. And that's really confusing. 00:37:32.199 --> 00:37:36.179 Because we are all about enhancing our experiences, 00:37:36.980 --> 00:37:40.280 even biohacking everything, when it comes to 00:37:40.280 --> 00:37:45.179 pleasure, not so much. Exactly. Even though it 00:37:45.179 --> 00:37:49.980 is the core center of our being, it has so many 00:37:49.980 --> 00:37:55.099 levels of depth to reach. And most of us will 00:37:55.099 --> 00:37:57.900 never explore those territories. And that is 00:37:57.900 --> 00:38:00.969 still completely fine. Nobody has to. But there 00:38:00.969 --> 00:38:04.670 are so many things to explore when it comes to 00:38:04.670 --> 00:38:08.510 our sexual pleasure for all genders, for everyone, 00:38:09.130 --> 00:38:12.309 that are sometimes just much easier to explore 00:38:12.309 --> 00:38:14.610 with a professional or with people you don't 00:38:14.610 --> 00:38:17.230 really know. In our partnerships that's also 00:38:17.230 --> 00:38:20.489 sometimes just so charged or difficult or we 00:38:20.489 --> 00:38:22.570 are set in a certain scenario where we don't 00:38:22.570 --> 00:38:25.880 really want to change anything so much. But even 00:38:25.880 --> 00:38:28.880 that actually, you know, the luxury to have people 00:38:28.880 --> 00:38:31.159 around you with whom you feel open enough to 00:38:31.159 --> 00:38:34.579 talk about it. Like that is not a given for so 00:38:34.579 --> 00:38:40.099 many of us. For so many men and women we're dealing 00:38:40.099 --> 00:38:44.000 with this on our own without people to actually 00:38:44.000 --> 00:38:46.679 ask the uncomfortable questions like, hey, I 00:38:46.679 --> 00:38:49.179 had this happening and I don't know what to do 00:38:49.179 --> 00:38:52.760 or have you ever had this or that? And in the 00:38:52.760 --> 00:38:57.579 end, we are all so similar, but until the moment 00:38:57.579 --> 00:39:00.480 we talk, we will always feel like we're the odd 00:39:00.480 --> 00:39:05.070 one out and that's just sad. Yeah, there is a 00:39:05.070 --> 00:39:07.190 lot of healing that can happen in a community 00:39:07.190 --> 00:39:09.730 where people just know from other people that 00:39:09.730 --> 00:39:12.610 their experiences are similar, their experiences 00:39:12.610 --> 00:39:15.429 are normal, validated, connected. We're simply 00:39:15.429 --> 00:39:19.369 receiving someone's words of support. So it's 00:39:19.369 --> 00:39:21.789 extremely powerful. And again, sexuality is not 00:39:21.789 --> 00:39:24.210 something most people openly speak about. And 00:39:24.210 --> 00:39:26.130 that's why it creates so much shadow as well. 00:39:26.570 --> 00:39:29.090 Our invitation is to look into that shadow and 00:39:29.090 --> 00:39:32.519 see what's underneath and heal. 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