1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,880 How much do you know about your cervix? 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:08,280 If not much, don't worry, you're not alone and in this episode we're going to 3 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:14,600 demystify this incredible organ and you're going to learn some life-changing information. 4 00:00:14,600 --> 00:00:21,160 So what if I told you that this organ can not only be a source of divine orgasms and 5 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:27,400 really deep and beautiful loving connection with a partner or with yourself, but also 6 00:00:27,400 --> 00:00:31,640 a place that leads to healing and empowerment. 7 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:37,640 I definitely feel and believe this and in this episode I'm beyond excited to share with 8 00:00:37,640 --> 00:00:43,200 you the wisdom and inspiration of Olivia, the founder of Celf Cervix. 9 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:49,040 And Celf Cervix is the world's renowned cervical awakening project that has been driving forward 10 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:56,640 the revolutionary research and the work helping women to reconnect to this mysterious and 11 00:00:56,640 --> 00:01:03,480 deeply powerful orgasmic and healing place right inside of their own bodies. 12 00:01:03,480 --> 00:01:09,600 I highly recommend listening to this episode because it contains essential and really empowering 13 00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:17,160 information that is difficult to find out there and I personally have completely changed 14 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:22,680 the relationship with my body when I discovered this place and there is no better person than 15 00:01:22,680 --> 00:01:27,960 Olivia to share about this work as she has been helping thousands of women all over the 16 00:01:27,960 --> 00:01:33,080 world to connect to this place and empower themselves. 17 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:40,080 For us women it is possible to have it all and embody our truth and power in all areas 18 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:42,080 of life. 19 00:01:42,080 --> 00:01:48,320 Feminine Power Podcast is your guide to reconnecting with your feminine essence, reclaiming your 20 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:53,040 power and arising into your fullest potential. 21 00:01:53,040 --> 00:02:00,320 I'm your host Maria Grinina, co-founder of Feel, the feminine embodiment platform and 22 00:02:00,320 --> 00:02:06,960 here on this podcast I interview our expert community and our members and we together 23 00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:15,280 share transformative tools, intimate conversations and embodiment practices, bringing you a wealth 24 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:19,880 of wisdom and practical tools to support your journey. 25 00:02:19,880 --> 00:02:25,760 Follow this podcast for your weekly inspiration and if you'd like to go deeper into your 26 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:32,520 embodiment journey and the awakening of your sexual energy, check out our online membership 27 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:36,080 linked in this podcast description. 28 00:02:36,080 --> 00:02:42,080 I am myself, I'm trained in Tantric Sexuality so I've done a lot of hours of learning about 29 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:47,040 my body, about the energy and a lot of that work and before that I'm trained as an embodiment 30 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:52,120 teacher so I am a very aware and connected woman and I started my yogic past when I 31 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:58,560 was 12 years old and I had a history of sexual trauma so I was aware of how to go there on 32 00:02:58,560 --> 00:03:05,200 my healing path but I have touched my cervix for the first time this year. 33 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:09,200 Isn't that interesting though? 34 00:03:09,200 --> 00:03:16,440 We can go through this entire embodiment journey and I realized this about 20 years ago I was 35 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:23,920 feeling this, I'm so embodied, I've done all of this work and yet there's this place where 36 00:03:23,920 --> 00:03:26,720 I haven't gone and no one's really told me to go there. 37 00:03:26,720 --> 00:03:27,720 Yeah. 38 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:32,680 It doesn't seem like a thing and then on the other hand you hear you might have heard all 39 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:38,120 of this stuff like cervical orgasms, maybe, maybe not. 40 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:42,560 It's kind of like this last place that gets visited. 41 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:49,680 It is crazy and to make it even more dramatic or whatever it is, when I touched it for the 42 00:03:49,680 --> 00:03:55,920 first time it was during my course, during my studies, we've been practicing self-pleasure 43 00:03:55,920 --> 00:04:05,000 and the teacher asked to gently meet the cervix and I met my cervix and I had like a wave 44 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:11,640 of fear going through my entire body and it was so tight and it was so scary, it was far 45 00:04:11,640 --> 00:04:17,160 from pleasurable for the first time but it definitely showed to me that there is something 46 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:23,800 there that I haven't ever went into and it's something deeply, deeply powerful. 47 00:04:23,800 --> 00:04:28,480 So I went on this whole journey of trying to figure it out and I am still figuring it 48 00:04:28,480 --> 00:04:34,800 out but now I'm seeing through like, whoa, what is this? 49 00:04:34,800 --> 00:04:38,000 Far from a very amazing and curious perspective. 50 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:46,640 So I'm excited to tell women all about this incredibly magical place from you, an expert. 51 00:04:46,640 --> 00:04:47,640 Yeah. 52 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:53,200 Well, thank you so much for bringing this conversation forward because like we discussed 53 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:58,040 earlier, so many women don't even know they have a cervix. 54 00:04:58,040 --> 00:05:00,520 Like, it's quite profound. 55 00:05:00,520 --> 00:05:06,400 I did this whole interview series when I first began this work on the streets of Berlin and 56 00:05:06,400 --> 00:05:11,760 London and New York and I was asking women, what do you know about your cervix? 57 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:16,440 And the responses were anything from my what? 58 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:17,880 All the way through you. 59 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:24,840 Oh, you know, I think, you know, it's where you give birth from or my doctor touches it, 60 00:05:24,840 --> 00:05:28,240 I go for a smear test or cancer. 61 00:05:28,240 --> 00:05:35,640 Like, you know, it would be very medicalized and sort of this hidden either inconsequential 62 00:05:35,640 --> 00:05:38,240 like, so what? 63 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:41,680 Or this kind of, why are you talking about something so personal? 64 00:05:41,680 --> 00:05:44,000 My friend just has cancer. 65 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:46,080 It's just the magic wasn't there. 66 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:51,160 The understanding that it's more than just an amazing birthing canal, which is powerful 67 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:59,560 enough in itself, it is this incredible portal to expanded states of, I can say, orgasm. 68 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:05,520 But the more I talk about this, the more that word doesn't really work because what I found 69 00:06:05,520 --> 00:06:12,440 was I remember when I started, I thought it would be like other experiences of orgasm 70 00:06:12,440 --> 00:06:14,600 that I'd had. 71 00:06:14,600 --> 00:06:20,240 Just to share with your audience, I was never very orgasmic. 72 00:06:20,240 --> 00:06:23,040 I was pretty stuck. 73 00:06:23,040 --> 00:06:28,160 I wasn't one of these women who came in and I was already like fully alive, fully awake, 74 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:29,160 fully open. 75 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:32,000 I was really wanting and yearning that. 76 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:37,880 And I even was like, from about 25, helping women get through some of the things that 77 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:42,320 I'd gotten through, which was mainly just shame and like starting to even be able to 78 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:43,960 speak about it. 79 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:52,320 So by the time I got close to this path that found me, I was very dependent on a large 80 00:06:52,320 --> 00:06:55,600 vibrator that was my only access to sex. 81 00:06:55,600 --> 00:07:04,320 And I don't ever shame vibration as a tool for learning how these sensations can feel 82 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:07,280 if someone is very blocked in their body. 83 00:07:07,280 --> 00:07:15,400 And I also recognized that I was so used to this very intense stimulation externally that 84 00:07:15,400 --> 00:07:23,800 I really had no concept or feeling or connection or relationship to the deeper places inside 85 00:07:23,800 --> 00:07:24,800 of me. 86 00:07:24,800 --> 00:07:29,200 I just didn't factor in much of my self-pleasure process. 87 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:35,480 When I had sex, obviously I would feel a little more inside there, but I didn't really know 88 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:42,000 how numb I was on the inside until I started exploring this. 89 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:47,160 And to what you said earlier, right, I've touched my cervix and I'm still trying to 90 00:07:47,160 --> 00:07:49,040 figure it out. 91 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:53,960 I spent years trying to figure it out. 92 00:07:53,960 --> 00:08:03,800 Because the sensations, because A, I was numb, I've had a big chunk of my cervix cut out. 93 00:08:03,800 --> 00:08:09,400 And I was also looking for more of a clitoral orgasm experience. 94 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:16,000 I didn't really understand how to work with my body in a different way to create this 95 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:22,040 expansion feeling that that cervical orgasm was to become for me. 96 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:25,200 So it took me a while to figure it out. 97 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:32,320 For me, it was part of the journey because the cervix will show you this mirror. 98 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:38,000 Like even with you, you said, oh, this wave of fear came up. 99 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:43,560 And so look, you're like, wow, what is there for me to be afraid of? 100 00:08:43,560 --> 00:08:50,480 This place inside of me, inside of my sovereign space, I'm afraid. 101 00:08:50,480 --> 00:08:52,000 What is here? 102 00:08:52,000 --> 00:08:58,440 And all sorts of things will come up for people just beginning like fear, shame, even feelings 103 00:08:58,440 --> 00:09:03,920 of repulsion if they haven't been inside it, feel sensations on their fingers that they 104 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:11,160 might not have felt before, a lot of avoidance, a lot of resistance because there's some 105 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:17,680 intuition that inside there there is things that I haven't yet felt that I've held there. 106 00:09:17,680 --> 00:09:21,560 I just did a session the other day with a woman and she was like, I haven't really done 107 00:09:21,560 --> 00:09:22,560 any practice. 108 00:09:22,560 --> 00:09:23,560 And I was like, well, why? 109 00:09:23,560 --> 00:09:24,560 What do you think's there? 110 00:09:24,560 --> 00:09:31,640 I broke it down to I am afraid that if I express what I am feeling right now in my heart, that 111 00:09:31,640 --> 00:09:35,960 all this rage, I'm going to create disconnection. 112 00:09:35,960 --> 00:09:41,840 And see the heart and what you're holding here, it's going to be blocking. 113 00:09:41,840 --> 00:09:51,080 You got to address here first your heart before being ready, available to go into a more vulnerable 114 00:09:51,080 --> 00:09:58,320 space inside your cervix, because you know, somewhere inside, we know, like, I have all 115 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:05,080 of this power rage that will like spill out of me and I'll break my relationships and 116 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:08,960 then I'll be alone and no one will love me and then I'm the witch and then I'm like, 117 00:10:08,960 --> 00:10:11,200 you know, all of it comes out. 118 00:10:11,200 --> 00:10:17,640 So 100% it goes so deep and the layers I've been uncovering and myself are surprising 119 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:23,320 and powerful and sometimes scary and to my to my partner, they all can be also sometimes 120 00:10:23,320 --> 00:10:24,320 scary. 121 00:10:24,320 --> 00:10:27,400 I definitely want to dig into the partner play as well with you. 122 00:10:27,400 --> 00:10:28,960 And I know you have this course for me. 123 00:10:28,960 --> 00:10:33,560 And I actually, I was so cheeky that I made my boyfriend watch, but then I kind of watched 124 00:10:33,560 --> 00:10:34,560 with him. 125 00:10:34,560 --> 00:10:35,560 Yeah. 126 00:10:35,560 --> 00:10:41,880 But let's start first on this more of a medical perspective, because you've just said that 127 00:10:41,880 --> 00:10:47,880 your cervix has been also part of it out, could you elaborate on it? 128 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:49,480 What does that mean? 129 00:10:49,480 --> 00:10:54,200 I was growing up in the days of like kind of an HPV. 130 00:10:54,200 --> 00:10:58,200 There was a lot of it going around. 131 00:10:58,200 --> 00:11:06,840 And that just, they would describe it as the common cold of sexually transmitted viruses. 132 00:11:06,840 --> 00:11:14,240 And like at that point, most people were kind of getting it, it was just so easy to contract. 133 00:11:14,240 --> 00:11:19,800 You just had to have unprotected sex once with the wrong person. 134 00:11:19,800 --> 00:11:22,080 And there is usually no symptoms. 135 00:11:22,080 --> 00:11:23,320 So you don't even know you have it. 136 00:11:23,320 --> 00:11:27,360 And that's why people able to pass it around. 137 00:11:27,360 --> 00:11:32,120 Then I went to the doctors and the doctors took a biopsy and they were like, you have 138 00:11:32,120 --> 00:11:40,640 abnormal cells and you have a syn3, which means that it can very easily change into 139 00:11:40,640 --> 00:11:41,640 cancer. 140 00:11:41,640 --> 00:11:46,680 And they said the C word and I went, and they were like, we think you should get these cells 141 00:11:46,680 --> 00:11:48,240 taken out. 142 00:11:48,240 --> 00:11:55,560 And so within a very short time of having that diagnosis, I was in having this terribly 143 00:11:55,560 --> 00:11:58,880 barbaric medical procedure. 144 00:11:58,880 --> 00:12:00,560 I had to be held down. 145 00:12:00,560 --> 00:12:04,080 It's brutal. 146 00:12:04,080 --> 00:12:06,680 And at that stage, I was 28. 147 00:12:06,680 --> 00:12:11,720 I didn't really understand anything about, I was just following what the doctor told 148 00:12:11,720 --> 00:12:13,440 me to do. 149 00:12:13,440 --> 00:12:17,040 And I have a very different perspective on it now. 150 00:12:17,040 --> 00:12:25,000 But I realized that what is the good thing about this is that now I can say it's possible 151 00:12:25,000 --> 00:12:31,360 to go through an experience like that and still take back the medicine of the cervix. 152 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:37,360 It took a while and probably I was living with a lot of numbness for a very long time. 153 00:12:37,360 --> 00:12:44,800 And even still, it will take sometimes depending on where I'm at in my life, if I'm really 154 00:12:44,800 --> 00:12:49,720 stressed, if I'm holding a lot of tension, it will take me a while to bring my cervix 155 00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:51,840 back online again. 156 00:12:51,840 --> 00:12:58,360 It's an interesting organ, it feels like it has its own communication going on. 157 00:12:58,360 --> 00:13:05,200 I always try to share that just because you've started to feel sensations now at your cervix, 158 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:06,200 that's amazing. 159 00:13:06,200 --> 00:13:08,120 So you know there's an access point. 160 00:13:08,120 --> 00:13:10,480 You kind of know that you can get there. 161 00:13:10,480 --> 00:13:12,680 It's just going to sometimes not be so linear. 162 00:13:12,680 --> 00:13:14,920 And you'll think, oh, I've had a breakthrough. 163 00:13:14,920 --> 00:13:19,800 And then you might end up going through a terrible experience in your emotional life 164 00:13:19,800 --> 00:13:25,120 before, stressed out at work or whatever it is, and then you don't really pay much attention 165 00:13:25,120 --> 00:13:26,520 to your cervix for a while. 166 00:13:26,520 --> 00:13:31,680 And then you got to go and do some work on it again and bring it back and work on your 167 00:13:31,680 --> 00:13:34,120 heart and go through the process. 168 00:13:34,120 --> 00:13:41,760 So yeah, I suppose I know I can say that you can go through medical trauma and reclaim it. 169 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:48,200 I think there's some stat like 15% of people who go through that procedure lose all sensation 170 00:13:48,200 --> 00:13:52,960 even to the clitoris and it's a very experienced PTSD after it. 171 00:13:52,960 --> 00:13:58,360 So it's a very sort of shoot from the hips system where it's like, oh, we see this thing, 172 00:13:58,360 --> 00:14:00,160 you better hurry up and do it. 173 00:14:00,160 --> 00:14:03,680 And I always leave this choice to women to make a personal choice. 174 00:14:03,680 --> 00:14:05,800 I don't give medical advice. 175 00:14:05,800 --> 00:14:13,200 For me personally now, I know that that disease takes a long time to shift change in your 176 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:21,280 body and there is time to look out for natural remedies and lower your stress levels and try 177 00:14:21,280 --> 00:14:23,440 for a period of time to heal naturally. 178 00:14:23,440 --> 00:14:29,400 And I know many, many people who have, but I obviously can't take that responsibility 179 00:14:29,400 --> 00:14:34,240 for people that has to be a deeply personal choice because it's very scary when the doctor 180 00:14:34,240 --> 00:14:36,720 says it might turn into cancer. 181 00:14:36,720 --> 00:14:38,640 It's like, whoa, what? 182 00:14:38,640 --> 00:14:45,960 So, you know, something not as strong, but something similar happened to me and I'm glad 183 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:51,960 that you say that it's all possible to recenter size even after more significant traumas like 184 00:14:51,960 --> 00:14:52,960 that. 185 00:14:52,960 --> 00:14:58,400 But in my, I don't even have exact names because it's all in another language, but I've been 186 00:14:58,400 --> 00:15:03,040 growing up, I was growing up in Kazakhstan and it's a post-Soviet Union environment. 187 00:15:03,040 --> 00:15:09,560 And in Soviet Union, it was very popular procedure to get rid of erosion on the cervix because 188 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:12,440 they also believed that that might lead to cancer. 189 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:19,080 So my mom being a doctor and she was checking me regularly to avoid any kind of problem. 190 00:15:19,080 --> 00:15:21,640 And we found erosion on my cervix. 191 00:15:21,640 --> 00:15:23,800 I was maybe like 19, something like that. 192 00:15:23,800 --> 00:15:30,200 And so obviously I had no idea what it is, why, what, and they had to like electro-echegulated 193 00:15:30,200 --> 00:15:34,320 something like that, if I'm saying the word right, but actually basically it's extremely 194 00:15:34,320 --> 00:15:38,120 painful, somebody goes and electro-eches your cervix. 195 00:15:38,120 --> 00:15:42,960 And I mean, I just had no idea what did they do to me. 196 00:15:42,960 --> 00:15:47,080 Just now looking back, I'm like, what was that? 197 00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:52,200 And the worst thing is that two years later, my mom is always up for research and there 198 00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:59,160 is new research that came out that that erosion is actually normal and it comes in goes. 199 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:02,240 And you don't have to do that. 200 00:16:02,240 --> 00:16:04,040 Isn't that crazy? 201 00:16:04,040 --> 00:16:11,440 I think I would say that the cervix is the most traumatized place in the human body. 202 00:16:11,440 --> 00:16:17,120 I can't think of anywhere else that has to go through all of these tests and if there's 203 00:16:17,120 --> 00:16:23,320 like the slightest thing, it's like cut it out, laser it, electric shock it. 204 00:16:23,320 --> 00:16:27,800 Doesn't that remind you of like, it's symbolically which energy at the cervix? 205 00:16:27,800 --> 00:16:29,880 It's like, which goddess? 206 00:16:29,880 --> 00:16:33,480 Like it is so powerful that this happens to it. 207 00:16:33,480 --> 00:16:39,720 It makes so much sense to me, you know, like it's in the name of like safety and health, 208 00:16:39,720 --> 00:16:40,920 like your mom. 209 00:16:40,920 --> 00:16:48,960 But because there's so little education and so little research around the female body, 210 00:16:48,960 --> 00:16:54,080 female sexual anatomy, female potential, that there's this kind of free for all, let's 211 00:16:54,080 --> 00:16:55,320 just do this thing. 212 00:16:55,320 --> 00:17:00,680 And even doctors will tell you, if you go to your doctor, they'll say, it's fine to do 213 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:01,680 this process. 214 00:17:01,680 --> 00:17:04,000 Your cervix is meant to be numb. 215 00:17:04,000 --> 00:17:05,000 Yeah. 216 00:17:05,000 --> 00:17:09,360 That is a very common experience, but it's not a normal experience. 217 00:17:09,360 --> 00:17:16,800 Your cervix has three sets of paired nerves attached to it and it's innovated on the surface. 218 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:19,800 It is highly innovated. 219 00:17:19,800 --> 00:17:24,600 Biggest connection to the brain out of all of your organs, the science was, I was like, 220 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:28,640 I found that hard to believe, but that needs to be the truth. 221 00:17:28,640 --> 00:17:33,920 Three sets of paired nerves, which means one on each side going all the way out to the 222 00:17:33,920 --> 00:17:34,920 brains. 223 00:17:34,920 --> 00:17:36,120 That makes sense. 224 00:17:36,120 --> 00:17:38,400 It's part of our reproductive function. 225 00:17:38,400 --> 00:17:40,960 It's part of our human survival mechanism. 226 00:17:40,960 --> 00:17:45,200 So it would make sense that it needs to be sensitive. 227 00:17:45,200 --> 00:17:53,400 And so anything that is going on at the cervix transmits through these nerves to the rest 228 00:17:53,400 --> 00:17:55,040 of the body and the brain. 229 00:17:55,040 --> 00:18:01,440 So if you're experiencing trauma at your cervix or pain at your cervix, which so often happens 230 00:18:01,440 --> 00:18:06,600 during sex, you get a shock into your system. 231 00:18:06,600 --> 00:18:12,760 Your system freezes, closes, shuts down, tightens, armors. 232 00:18:12,760 --> 00:18:18,080 And then you might enter sexual experiences being a little hesitant, like a little tributaryl 233 00:18:18,080 --> 00:18:23,800 when I want to feel sex or pain, or you might just go along with it with a little bit of 234 00:18:23,800 --> 00:18:27,360 pain because it'll pass soon. 235 00:18:27,360 --> 00:18:32,200 Instead of being really honest and brave and being like, I need you to stop right now. 236 00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:34,840 I just need to pause for a moment. 237 00:18:34,840 --> 00:18:36,440 Just I need to breathe and relax. 238 00:18:36,440 --> 00:18:38,400 I'm feeling some pain. 239 00:18:38,400 --> 00:18:39,400 Yeah. 240 00:18:39,400 --> 00:18:45,200 Well, I feel like this relationship as a cervix open up so many gates into self inquiry. 241 00:18:45,200 --> 00:18:49,120 Yeah, ability to be vulnerable. 242 00:18:49,120 --> 00:18:52,080 That's why my program is called self cervix. 243 00:18:52,080 --> 00:18:56,720 And the funniest I didn't even know when I called it self cervix, I was thinking about 244 00:18:56,720 --> 00:18:59,720 really just serving ourselves with this process. 245 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:05,520 But I realized as I started diving deeper that you can't look at the cervix. 246 00:19:05,520 --> 00:19:08,600 Honestly, you're going to look at yourself. 247 00:19:08,600 --> 00:19:13,080 A lot of people come into my work and they're like, just tell me how to have a cervical orgasm. 248 00:19:13,080 --> 00:19:18,640 I'm like, sure, but it's not that simple because you're going to wonder why you keep meeting 249 00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:19,840 resistance. 250 00:19:19,840 --> 00:19:24,440 You wonder why it's not happening and here because you've got to look at your heart or 251 00:19:24,440 --> 00:19:28,640 you've got to look at your behaviors or you've got to look at the way you've crossed your 252 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:34,240 boundaries again and again or you've allowed touch that really, it's okay, but it's not 253 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:38,760 really what you want because you just want your lover to know what to do. 254 00:19:38,760 --> 00:19:41,720 So you've deferred your power to them. 255 00:19:41,720 --> 00:19:47,080 And instead of really claiming and knowing the keys to your body, and I think when you 256 00:19:47,080 --> 00:19:49,840 speak about, I'm still figuring it out. 257 00:19:49,840 --> 00:19:55,160 Now you're learning how to play the instrument of your cervix and you learn how your nervous 258 00:19:55,160 --> 00:20:00,560 system joins into this chorus as a chorus for your cervix. 259 00:20:00,560 --> 00:20:08,040 And what's so beautiful is it's like all these parts of your anatomy, your clitoris, your 260 00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:14,080 breasts, your internal environment all the way up to your cervix, they all play different 261 00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:16,360 kind of notes and frequencies. 262 00:20:16,360 --> 00:20:22,400 And when you get this, my goodness, the way you compare your body is like, and so why 263 00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:28,240 wouldn't you want to share with your lover in a really gentle play? 264 00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:32,320 This is how you do it, baby. 265 00:20:32,320 --> 00:20:37,200 The female body is so wonderful with all our different erogenous zones and all our different 266 00:20:37,200 --> 00:20:38,200 pleasure buttons. 267 00:20:38,200 --> 00:20:42,360 And you come up against a different body and you're just like, well, I wonder how this 268 00:20:42,360 --> 00:20:43,360 one works. 269 00:20:43,360 --> 00:20:47,320 And it's not one size fits all. 270 00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:56,240 So I provide a map and there are some universal truths within it, but I can never know your 271 00:20:56,240 --> 00:21:00,440 particular body and the music that your instrument plays. 272 00:21:00,440 --> 00:21:07,160 And so my job really only is to get you learning how to feel and learning how to listen. 273 00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:14,200 And that's really what I try to do more than tell you how to touch your cervix. 274 00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:17,560 And it's hard because I do get this a lot. 275 00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:20,240 What kind of touches should I do? 276 00:21:20,240 --> 00:21:27,000 And I used to just be very stubborn and say, well, you tell me, you go and find out. 277 00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:29,520 And I probably annoyed people. 278 00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:36,240 So I was saying, well, you could try these things, but none of those things might be 279 00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:37,840 right for you. 280 00:21:37,840 --> 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healing past traumas to reigniting their 290 00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:35,960 central fire to manifesting their wildest dreams. 291 00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:38,320 And we want that for you too. 292 00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:44,360 So if you are feeling the call to go deeper, check this podcast description for the link 293 00:22:44,360 --> 00:22:47,120 to join our membership. 294 00:22:47,120 --> 00:22:52,760 So let's actually then go into this touch and the pleasure and the orgasms. 295 00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:59,360 Everybody, I mean, there is this whole, either it's even almost a myth of a cervical or full 296 00:22:59,360 --> 00:23:00,480 body orgasm. 297 00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:05,520 People don't know if it's true, if it exists or no, and how to get there. 298 00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:10,960 I can just share a little bit of my exploration I've had this year. 299 00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:17,320 And I must say that when I want to explore my cervix and want to connect to it now, for 300 00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:22,680 me, it is more of a release journey. 301 00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:28,280 So I feel like there is so much yet to release a lot and a lot and the layers of it. 302 00:23:28,280 --> 00:23:33,360 So most of my practice involves very gentle and soft release through which I breathe for 303 00:23:33,360 --> 00:23:36,920 a long time and I apply touch differently. 304 00:23:36,920 --> 00:23:41,280 And I don't push like I would have sex. 305 00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:44,640 There is no continuous push for me on those cervix. 306 00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:50,680 There is a very soft push and then I hold it a bit and then I would change a position. 307 00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:55,880 And it all looks more like a gentle release practice. 308 00:23:55,880 --> 00:24:02,120 However, I have introduced my partner into this and I've asked him to hold me through 309 00:24:02,120 --> 00:24:05,080 it a couple of times. 310 00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:12,760 And I get more pleasure with a partner when I touch my cervix with his actual penis somehow 311 00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:18,640 because I'm feeling there is certain level of energy exchange when the partner is really, 312 00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:19,640 really present. 313 00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:24,160 And when he's consciously and intentionally works with the cervix. 314 00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:26,800 And he's not intentionally there. 315 00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:28,960 There is it's not the same. 316 00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:34,800 But when there is a pure intention to soften my cervix, I find it deeply, deeply pleasurable. 317 00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:40,600 But yeah, I feel also there is a lot to move through yet. 318 00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:46,320 And I have cried multiple times if we achieve a level of release. 319 00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:51,680 Once I got into more like a panic or something, but I was crying really, really a lot and 320 00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:54,360 I'd really scared my partner. 321 00:24:54,360 --> 00:24:55,720 So I did calm him down. 322 00:24:55,720 --> 00:24:58,400 I did explain it actually was really good for me. 323 00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:02,680 I felt like I released something from past generations. 324 00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:04,520 It was so intense. 325 00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:12,280 But basically the experiences are really diverse and I can't imagine what else is there. 326 00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:17,280 So I would love you to share from years of your experience. 327 00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:18,280 Yeah. 328 00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:20,400 I mean, I just want to speak to what you said. 329 00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:22,560 Like, wow, your partner so brave. 330 00:25:22,560 --> 00:25:24,560 How beautiful. 331 00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:31,120 Imagine again, like, like you're touching your woman and she has this like huge like 332 00:25:31,120 --> 00:25:36,960 response and it's like, you know, I will always say and with the man in this program, I'm 333 00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:40,960 always saying, you know, training them in holding the space. 334 00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:46,480 But also I speak to the women about sort of saying even beforehand, like, you know, we 335 00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:48,560 don't know what might come up. 336 00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:54,480 And if something comes up like big feelings, all you need to do is trust me and I will 337 00:25:54,480 --> 00:25:57,480 let you know if I need you to bring me back. 338 00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,160 But let me cry it out. 339 00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:02,960 And then after a while, you know, perhaps you can put a hand on my shoulder and just 340 00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:09,080 ask me how I'm doing because sometimes it can be scary in a retraumatizing situation. 341 00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:14,480 You could just fly out into disassociation and actually have a retraumatizing experience. 342 00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:21,640 So it's a very interesting line for a partner to witness, to understand are they just having 343 00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:24,720 a cathartic release or are they kind of really gone? 344 00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:30,400 And so I think it's really great to have like little ways that your partner can check in 345 00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:33,960 with you that doesn't interrupt your process. 346 00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:40,320 And yeah, and I think over time, he will grow in his capacity to be able to trust you in 347 00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:43,720 this and trust that, you know, he's got this. 348 00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:44,720 It's really exciting. 349 00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:45,720 That makes me so excited. 350 00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:46,720 Excited too. 351 00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:48,720 I mean, like people need to know. 352 00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:49,720 People need to know. 353 00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:50,720 Yeah. 354 00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:55,920 Well, it's great for me to hear that you're letting stuff go and you're right. 355 00:26:55,920 --> 00:27:01,920 Like the majority of my journey, I think I did four years of releasing, four years of 356 00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:07,920 unwinding, learning how to feel, learning how to sensitize, learning how to attune my 357 00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:13,720 senses to extremely subtle things and then ultimately learning how to transmute it all 358 00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:16,600 into an orgasmic experience. 359 00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:17,600 Yeah. 360 00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:21,920 As I said, we don't really know what might come up. 361 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:27,600 I've had experiences also that have felt really intergenerational, very big issues. 362 00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:31,960 But interestingly, after that big release, it was never, ever quite the same. 363 00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:35,520 I never really had the big release again after that. 364 00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:42,640 I think the thing that's the most uneasy to be with for people is not feeling much at 365 00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:44,560 all. 366 00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:52,440 And it's very hard to be patient and to just be with the void and just holding the void 367 00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:54,880 of nothingness. 368 00:27:54,880 --> 00:28:01,480 And like I train women to create inside of the void, to sort of give their mind something 369 00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:04,800 to do, to meditate inside the void. 370 00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:12,640 And feeling pain, feeling grief, feeling rage, at least you're feeling something. 371 00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:16,320 You know, this is why I actually started, this is how self-service started because I 372 00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:20,400 was touching my cervix and not feeling anything at all, really. 373 00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:22,800 And I just got bored. 374 00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:27,680 And I didn't really understand that I was being shown a real mirror actually at that 375 00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:28,800 point. 376 00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:33,880 But I started this kind of event online and just asked for anybody else who wanted, do 377 00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:39,560 we want to support each other simulating our cervixes for 21 days? 378 00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:44,760 And it was a massive event with over a thousand women. 379 00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:50,800 And what came up there was everything from all of their trauma and past life regressions 380 00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:55,760 all the way through to like, I feel so empowered because the first time in my life I've touched 381 00:28:55,760 --> 00:28:59,120 my cervix, how come I've never been taught this? 382 00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:00,120 This is amazing. 383 00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:04,480 And reclaiming a part of myself all the way through to more experienced practitioners 384 00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:09,640 or some lucky beings who just don't have much to let go of the cervix and they're already 385 00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:14,520 able to kind of launch into feeling really pleasant, if not pleasurable experiences. 386 00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:19,360 There's a full spectrum that can be possible. 387 00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:25,880 I can't say what will be there for each person, but what I can say is that it's nonlinear. 388 00:29:25,880 --> 00:29:30,600 We have to keep going back, I don't not do release practice now that I'm able to have 389 00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:32,760 these cervical orgasms. 390 00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:37,040 It's my cervix yoga, as well as you could say it. 391 00:29:37,040 --> 00:29:42,720 Like right now, for example, I can feel that I need to do a release practice right now. 392 00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:46,480 I've been rushing at the end of the year to get everything done. 393 00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:49,240 I've not really been in much contact with my cervix. 394 00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:53,840 I've been up on my head a lot and it's like, oh, I just crave this. 395 00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:55,160 It's like a homecoming. 396 00:29:55,160 --> 00:30:00,600 It's like you could say that it's the first chakra and from a more Western point of view, 397 00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:04,760 that does make sense to me because we had all this research done at the very beginning 398 00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:11,040 of my work and it showed that women were, when they were touching their cervix regularly, 399 00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:14,920 anxiety was dropping, starting to feel less depressed. 400 00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:18,160 They were feeling more grounded in their bodies. 401 00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:20,080 So let's say it's your anchor point. 402 00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:22,000 I call it your root. 403 00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:23,000 Yeah. 404 00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:28,480 So it pulls you back and down and in and out of your head and it pulls you into your deep 405 00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:33,320 body and that's the only place when you're in your deep body, very present. 406 00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:39,920 That is the only place from which a cervical orgasm of any kind will start to open up. 407 00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:41,680 And what gets in the way? 408 00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:48,400 Who knows whether it's trauma related or just our own fixation on dopamine and instant 409 00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:56,320 gratification and self-judgment and kind of wanting something and being impatient. 410 00:30:56,320 --> 00:31:01,840 But whatever it is that pulls us away from staying with ourselves deeply in the deepest 411 00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:10,960 parts, anything that pulls you away from your, from the moment, from feeling very subtle 412 00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:17,760 things, that is, it unfortunately gets in the way of us being able to expand. 413 00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:24,280 And those of your audience who do meditate, that is also helpful when you're also embodied 414 00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:27,080 because it is a meditation. 415 00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:33,600 I love it when my partner says I'm on your cervix and then I'm just somehow mentally, 416 00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:41,240 I'm visualizing that connection and I'm visualizing my cervix and it just really kind of starts 417 00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:44,120 to open up in me. 418 00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:45,600 So yeah. 419 00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:50,720 Yeah, I visualize when, I mean, it really comes to me this picture more and more, the 420 00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:58,640 more I do this work of like cervix being this, this place in the body through which once 421 00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:04,400 we press on it, especially with something really beautiful, like your lover's penis, 422 00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:10,080 a really beautiful connection or something sacred like a wands that we really love. 423 00:32:10,080 --> 00:32:18,000 And if we press then some powerful energy as it breaks any kind of blocks through my entire 424 00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:23,720 body because we press there, it's like a wand of energy coming through the entire body and 425 00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:30,720 then breaks everything gets that all the rubbish out and I become clear. 426 00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:33,080 Yeah, absolutely. 427 00:32:33,080 --> 00:32:40,440 It makes sense that you are feeling more when your partner is making love to you for so 428 00:32:40,440 --> 00:32:45,600 many reasons and yes, energetics is one major part of it. 429 00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:51,240 Also you've got a full, more of a fullness over the entire cervix. 430 00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:56,840 Also it's not you doing it so you can relax back and feel more. 431 00:32:56,840 --> 00:33:02,200 So there are benefits to it but for those of you're in your audience who are single, 432 00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:07,240 I did the majority of this work as a single woman and I think that that was no accident. 433 00:33:07,240 --> 00:33:10,120 I'm now partnered in the perfect time. 434 00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:16,760 I feel like I've pretty much completed the body of work to where I need it to be. 435 00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:19,720 And so there's a benefit to both. 436 00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:24,960 You don't have to be in a partnership to really explore your cervix and when you are, it's 437 00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:28,880 an amazing journey that you can go on together. 438 00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:34,040 One day eventually after the men's program, I would like to do a couple's program. 439 00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:36,640 Oh yeah, that sounds amazing. 440 00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:43,600 Now I must say a lot of this, at least for me as I'm working with the cervix, for me 441 00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:46,920 self-practice, solo practice is incredibly important. 442 00:33:46,920 --> 00:33:51,000 I don't feel like I would be even able to go there with a partner if I didn't do solo 443 00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:57,960 practice because I need to know, like I need to meet my feelings in this way. 444 00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:04,200 And I would love for you to share a bit more on how does self-dearmoring actually work. 445 00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:09,880 So let's say that I mentioned before, you know, there are things that have happened 446 00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:18,720 to us and our cervixes that cause us to hold the body in response to a shock or just the 447 00:34:18,720 --> 00:34:20,800 busyness of life and stress. 448 00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:24,400 You know, I even noticed myself when I'm driving and I'm stuck in traffic and I'm running 449 00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:29,400 late and I'm pulling up my pelvic floor and holding tension. 450 00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:35,480 All of this creates a protection, you know, so let's say a place has been regularly sort 451 00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:40,520 of hit during sex, but first of all, it might feel painful. 452 00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:45,040 And then if you kind of just ignore it and you keep going, eventually it will numb out 453 00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:53,520 and it forms a, I guess you could say a thick layer of skin, a muscle over that part that's 454 00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:54,520 hurt. 455 00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:59,760 You know, when you're touching your shoulders and neck and you feel these bumps and lumps, 456 00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:02,520 that you could say is armoring. 457 00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:10,320 It's a shell protecting the vulnerable parts of us that have been hurt or strained or stressed. 458 00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:17,480 And so with the de-armoring process, which I do throughout the entire center of the body, 459 00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:22,080 running all the way up the pathway of the vagus nerve that runs all the way up to the 460 00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:24,520 brain, back the brain. 461 00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:31,560 I work on releasing those places that are holding and we call this de-armoring or release. 462 00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:33,120 It's release work. 463 00:35:33,120 --> 00:35:35,280 Look like trigger pointing. 464 00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:38,440 It can look like practices like tremoring. 465 00:35:38,440 --> 00:35:41,640 It can look like breath work. 466 00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:47,880 There are many ways that we can create a release through the central channel, but vaginally 467 00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:54,560 in cervix, it can look like working with a finger and finding places that feel like 468 00:35:54,560 --> 00:36:00,600 acidic or tense or numb and giving them some loving attention, but giving them some kind 469 00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:03,600 of holding. 470 00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:06,000 I use a wand. 471 00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:13,640 I created a wand actually that could get into deep places that my finger can't go. 472 00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:21,200 It's not that comfortable to spend a long time with your finger, but I always say starting 473 00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:27,040 with a finger is a good idea because it really keeps you connected to the exact place where 474 00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:28,040 your finger is. 475 00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:35,120 Sometimes the wand, it's a little bit of a barrier between being very aware of the sensation 476 00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:36,120 of things. 477 00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:41,400 So for example, if you're not really used to what your cervix feels like through your 478 00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:45,600 own practice with your finger, then you go to touch it with a wand and you're like, where 479 00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:46,600 is it? 480 00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:49,520 I can't quite feel it because maybe my cervix is numb. 481 00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:55,160 So it's good to have the education of your finger, but I found the wand work was essential 482 00:36:55,160 --> 00:37:01,960 for me to just open more space because I was calling a lot of tension. 483 00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:07,520 I don't do jade egg practice, for example, because I don't need that directional of energy. 484 00:37:07,520 --> 00:37:13,880 I don't need to lift my pelvic floor and most of our pelvic floors are actually in a state 485 00:37:13,880 --> 00:37:15,600 of constant lift. 486 00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:21,240 And so my work is like, let it go, let it go, get here. 487 00:37:21,240 --> 00:37:26,560 The armoring practice helps to just bring you down into the body. 488 00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:32,960 I believe you have a really good video on your Instagram that gives a bit of an introduction. 489 00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:38,520 So that's really cool so listeners can watch and see the wand and a little bit of your 490 00:37:38,520 --> 00:37:39,520 intro. 491 00:37:39,520 --> 00:37:41,960 It's a wand mastery class. 492 00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:44,760 So they can see how it works. 493 00:37:44,760 --> 00:37:49,720 It's amazing because it also, you know, you can touch into so many parts of your anatomy 494 00:37:49,720 --> 00:37:53,520 at once and it's also can offer pleasure. 495 00:37:53,520 --> 00:37:56,080 So you know, it's a big adventure really. 496 00:37:56,080 --> 00:37:57,080 Yeah. 497 00:37:57,080 --> 00:37:58,080 Yeah. 498 00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:01,680 It is an adventure worth taking for sure for everyone. 499 00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:07,320 So I'm wondering then you also have a men's course, which I adore when I saw your launch 500 00:38:07,320 --> 00:38:08,640 in this course for men. 501 00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:14,760 I'm like, yes, more men will know about it, which is better for the world. 502 00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:20,520 How do we introduce men into this work generally say women who are curious about their cervix 503 00:38:20,520 --> 00:38:21,880 and they have partners? 504 00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:24,960 How do they, what should they do? 505 00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:30,000 Well, I guess first of all, like we said, just start to get into a little relationship with 506 00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:31,080 it yourself. 507 00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:36,440 So whether that's with your own touch or whether it's with like holding presence and imagining 508 00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:41,200 your cervix and really starting to get a sense of where your cervix might be at. 509 00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:43,800 What has your cervix been through? 510 00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:48,080 Does your cervix have anything that it wants to share with you if you were to touch into 511 00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:49,080 it? 512 00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:53,560 What has the journey between you and your cervix been like in your life? 513 00:38:53,560 --> 00:38:58,960 You might start to remember stories or things that have happened and then you might just 514 00:38:58,960 --> 00:39:05,120 simply go to your partner and say, hey, there's this place inside of me that I've begun to 515 00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:06,560 really get curious about. 516 00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:08,120 It's my cervix. 517 00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:12,640 It can offer a really deeper experience of sex. 518 00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:14,200 I'm just learning about it. 519 00:39:14,200 --> 00:39:17,320 Would you be open to learning about it with me? 520 00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:22,280 Shall we explore touching it together and I'll give you some guidance? 521 00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:27,240 That's why it's really important for you to have been there yourself. 522 00:39:27,240 --> 00:39:34,000 It would just be for me a simple conversation like why and what and where. 523 00:39:34,000 --> 00:39:36,440 Invite a kind of a play with it. 524 00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:38,240 It doesn't have to be so serious. 525 00:39:38,240 --> 00:39:42,040 Let's get curious and play and then you can ask him, can you feel it when you're inside 526 00:39:42,040 --> 00:39:43,040 of me? 527 00:39:43,040 --> 00:39:44,520 Like when we're making love, can you feel it? 528 00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:45,520 What does it feel like? 529 00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:47,880 Can you let me know when you think you're on it? 530 00:39:47,880 --> 00:39:56,080 And it can be like a curious playful dance and that's how I would bring this to my lover. 531 00:39:56,080 --> 00:40:02,600 Usually I would stare away from hugely significant scary conversations of like, all of this trauma 532 00:40:02,600 --> 00:40:04,200 might come up inside of me. 533 00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:05,600 Don't go there. 534 00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:09,800 I say a bit light about it, but that's my way. 535 00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:14,960 So it might not be your way, but it's like start with a conversation, start with why 536 00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:19,440 and then slowly start exploring what feels good while you're making love. 537 00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:24,040 Now it's tricky with the men stuff and this is why I'm running an entire program around 538 00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:30,960 it because for you and him to get the most out of it, okay, he needs to be able to hold 539 00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:34,560 himself, which you've already sort of discovered. 540 00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:40,800 He needs to be able to really know his center and really understand his little boy wounds 541 00:40:40,800 --> 00:40:48,120 that might come up in response to his woman in her absolute wild witch goddess. 542 00:40:48,120 --> 00:40:49,680 So we're going next level now. 543 00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:54,120 So this is after like, let's say you're just being a light little crazy play, you know, 544 00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:56,120 and it's like nothing too significant. 545 00:40:56,120 --> 00:41:03,600 You know, the ideal your man is like, he doesn't need validation from you with touch anymore. 546 00:41:03,600 --> 00:41:08,880 Like, you know, he's open for you to tell him how you'd like to be touched. 547 00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:14,280 And then he, his journey is about getting super sensitive and doing his own dearmoring 548 00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:21,640 work and doing his own release work and even anally and that can be a real edge for men. 549 00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:23,560 So that's an auction. 550 00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:27,480 But you know, the guy who is one of the guys who's teaching in the men's program, he's 551 00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:30,000 a huge believer in men learning how to receive. 552 00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:31,000 Oh yeah. 553 00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:32,840 I agree with so too. 554 00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:37,320 I think it will help them be better lovers on it will understand what it's like. 555 00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:38,320 That's right. 556 00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:43,560 And then the next part is learning how to touch your cervix and then we move into making love. 557 00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:48,640 But the interesting thing about touching the cervix is, oh, this is going to go into a 558 00:41:48,640 --> 00:41:49,640 big wormhole. 559 00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:58,960 I think, like, there are three, there are three main ways that I that I encourage partners 560 00:41:58,960 --> 00:41:59,960 to practice. 561 00:41:59,960 --> 00:42:06,880 And one is you allow him to explore with your permission to the limits that you feel comfortable 562 00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:11,200 with you just allow him to have an experience of feeling himself. 563 00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:16,120 And that's why his sensitizing work is so important. 564 00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:21,920 And so it's in your kind of consent, I suppose, that he is allowed to just like explore and 565 00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:22,920 feel for himself. 566 00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:25,480 And it doesn't just completely go off in his own world. 567 00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:28,480 He's like present with you and like, oh, this is what I can feel here. 568 00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:29,480 What do you feel? 569 00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:34,640 And so he's having his session and then it's more of a collaboration where you're guiding 570 00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:36,440 him and he's exploring. 571 00:42:36,440 --> 00:42:43,400 And then the final one is he only is in service of you and is only listening and you're 100% 572 00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:45,360 guiding the experience. 573 00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:52,360 So we train in going far out into some of these dynamics and then you can let it all 574 00:42:52,360 --> 00:42:56,760 go and then at least you're both empowered in your own ways. 575 00:42:56,760 --> 00:43:01,400 And then love making and it's just learning some of the energetics of the work. 576 00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:03,720 So it goes really deep into energetics. 577 00:43:03,720 --> 00:43:08,320 But the energetics, it's advanced practice because before you get to the energetics, 578 00:43:08,320 --> 00:43:12,080 you've got to be down in the body, which is what we said earlier. 579 00:43:12,080 --> 00:43:18,800 And so I never really speak much on the energetics because it can be very abstract. 580 00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:22,760 But I remember listening to conversations like that while I was still using my foot 581 00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:29,560 long vibrator, being like, that just feels completely impossible and like a myth. 582 00:43:29,560 --> 00:43:34,920 And this is why it becomes like, oh, well, is that even possible because you might have 583 00:43:34,920 --> 00:43:42,240 heard teachers speaking in this very abstract ways about the energy and about, it just seemed 584 00:43:42,240 --> 00:43:43,240 like magic. 585 00:43:43,240 --> 00:43:48,600 It seemed like something that was so far out of what was possible for me because I was 586 00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:54,320 still very much, I was not even really properly in my body. 587 00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:57,960 I was not even really properly in the 3D, let alone in the 5D. 588 00:43:57,960 --> 00:44:04,320 I was like, not even fully able to feel myself physically. 589 00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:11,200 And so there's a long journey for us, humanity, to be able to feel ourselves. 590 00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:15,920 This is why we're going to wars and why we're hurting the earth is because we can't feel 591 00:44:15,920 --> 00:44:16,920 ourselves. 592 00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:22,440 We're so disconnected from our own bodies and our own feelings. 593 00:44:22,440 --> 00:44:26,440 And so we don't want to go touch the cervix because we know that inside maybe we're going 594 00:44:26,440 --> 00:44:29,160 to have to feel all these things that we've avoided. 595 00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:30,160 Yeah. 596 00:44:30,160 --> 00:44:37,280 I feel like it is right to not allowing people to get to the energetics after they get into 597 00:44:37,280 --> 00:44:39,360 the body in terms of just by themselves. 598 00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:43,040 I feel like it's a natural progression for people. 599 00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:48,880 For people, once they get into the body, then energetics and all of that just becomes a natural 600 00:44:48,880 --> 00:44:54,040 new exploration that comes as a result of embodiment. 601 00:44:54,040 --> 00:44:58,760 And yes, then you don't want anything superficial or you don't want war. 602 00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:02,760 You don't want to inflict pain to anything. 603 00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:06,960 It's a very natural state to be in. 604 00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:07,960 Yeah. 605 00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:08,960 Yeah. 606 00:45:08,960 --> 00:45:12,600 Once you get that sensitive, it's a very interesting process for me. 607 00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:15,440 I never thought you'd get me out of a city. 608 00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:17,440 I was such a city girl. 609 00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:18,440 Save. 610 00:45:18,440 --> 00:45:24,520 Well, either it's because I've gotten older or I've just gotten so sensitive. 611 00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:30,160 Now I crave being in quiet, open planes. 612 00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:35,840 Because I'm so attuned to sensation, all the sensation of nature is so beautiful. 613 00:45:35,840 --> 00:45:36,840 It's a lot. 614 00:45:36,840 --> 00:45:37,840 It's enough. 615 00:45:37,840 --> 00:45:39,680 And I go into a city. 616 00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:41,520 I'm like, holy moly. 617 00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:43,520 And we have to armor up a bit. 618 00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:47,320 We have to arm it to resist in a city. 619 00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:50,040 And you know, I still haven't let go of my city life. 620 00:45:50,040 --> 00:45:55,120 I still can't do it, but I now have bought myself a van so I can do my half-time van 621 00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:59,320 life and go off and be in the countryside when I need to. 622 00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:05,000 But yeah, it seems to become this increasing sensitivity. 623 00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:06,520 I relate 100%. 624 00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:12,360 I'm still in my London life, but I am going to move to country next year, which is so, 625 00:46:12,360 --> 00:46:13,360 so cool. 626 00:46:13,360 --> 00:46:14,360 And I can't believe it. 627 00:46:14,360 --> 00:46:20,800 I've been a city girl, London girl, you know, and now I'm, phew, I can't wait. 628 00:46:20,800 --> 00:46:22,320 Just wake up. 629 00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:24,640 And I did that for the past year. 630 00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:27,520 I've actually lived part-time in countryside. 631 00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:31,600 I can't wait to again wake up and just be in the forest. 632 00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:32,600 Oh, yes. 633 00:46:32,600 --> 00:46:33,600 Wow. 634 00:46:33,600 --> 00:46:34,600 Okay. 635 00:46:34,600 --> 00:46:36,720 So it's not just me. 636 00:46:36,720 --> 00:46:37,720 Good. 637 00:46:37,720 --> 00:46:43,200 If everybody was exploring their cervix and if all the, all those who don't have one would 638 00:46:43,200 --> 00:46:49,560 still be aware of it and connect to it in any shape or form, it probably would be a better 639 00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:50,560 society. 640 00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:52,200 Oh, this is the answer. 641 00:46:52,200 --> 00:46:54,000 Yes, exactly. 642 00:46:54,000 --> 00:47:01,560 And you know, when men start realizing how making love with a cervix is online when they're 643 00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:07,600 online can completely transform them, you know, imagine how men would treat women differently 644 00:47:07,600 --> 00:47:13,080 knowing this power inside of us and also how it benefits them rather than shutting it 645 00:47:13,080 --> 00:47:18,520 down or ignoring it or staying addicted to porn. 646 00:47:18,520 --> 00:47:22,240 I allow that part of me to come online as well. 647 00:47:22,240 --> 00:47:27,840 And we just are very clear that we have a whole range of ways that we can make love. 648 00:47:27,840 --> 00:47:33,640 And we also know, because we've crossed our limits with making love like animals. 649 00:47:33,640 --> 00:47:34,880 Yeah. 650 00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:41,600 We can go back to having a much more conscious and ultimately more rewarding way of making 651 00:47:41,600 --> 00:47:46,280 love that I think is very sustainable for long-term couples. 652 00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:52,960 And it's very sustainable for just our own desire to have sex because there's so much 653 00:47:52,960 --> 00:48:00,160 more in it for us once we have our cervix online and once we're able to feel so deeply. 654 00:48:00,160 --> 00:48:06,400 And I think some of the myths around, you know, is internal orgasm even possible is 655 00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:15,720 because still the majority of women making love won't have an orgasmic experience. 656 00:48:15,720 --> 00:48:19,680 When I'm having sex like an animal, I'm not really having an orgasmic experience. 657 00:48:19,680 --> 00:48:25,040 It's very pleasurable, but it's not very orgasmic, you know, it's orgasmic for him. 658 00:48:25,040 --> 00:48:26,040 Yeah. 659 00:48:26,040 --> 00:48:27,440 And that's the whole thing. 660 00:48:27,440 --> 00:48:30,120 That's the whole feminist kind of perspective. 661 00:48:30,120 --> 00:48:33,200 It's like, oh, well, sex is great for him. 662 00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:35,320 He gets to ejaculate. 663 00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:41,440 And so this model of sex, which is really cervix aligned, opens up some more orgasmic 664 00:48:41,440 --> 00:48:44,040 experiences for us too. 665 00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:49,760 I think it is actually ultimately more sustainable for a couple and for us women because I know 666 00:48:49,760 --> 00:48:51,240 that there's no pressure. 667 00:48:51,240 --> 00:48:52,240 We don't have to go anywhere. 668 00:48:52,240 --> 00:48:53,520 It doesn't have to become anything. 669 00:48:53,520 --> 00:49:01,680 It's just us meeting the moment with each other and slowly opening and expanding together. 670 00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:03,400 Cervic-centered love making. 671 00:49:03,400 --> 00:49:04,400 I love that. 672 00:49:04,400 --> 00:49:07,840 Even as a term and as an explanation. 673 00:49:07,840 --> 00:49:08,840 Mm-hmm. 674 00:49:08,840 --> 00:49:10,320 Sounds so good. 675 00:49:10,320 --> 00:49:11,320 Yeah. 676 00:49:11,320 --> 00:49:14,840 It's just allowable to have such a deep experience. 677 00:49:14,840 --> 00:49:18,080 More of the dimensions of our pelvis are opened up. 678 00:49:18,080 --> 00:49:22,160 And that's because you've been doing your own dearmoring work and your own, your own 679 00:49:22,160 --> 00:49:24,000 presencing work. 680 00:49:24,000 --> 00:49:28,920 So, you know, one of the hardest things for me to share with women is like, you know, 681 00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:31,080 resistance will come up. 682 00:49:31,080 --> 00:49:32,960 Have a break of the journey for a second. 683 00:49:32,960 --> 00:49:33,960 Come back when you're ready. 684 00:49:33,960 --> 00:49:39,920 It can be a lifelong exploration, but it's not going to be a quick one necessarily. 685 00:49:39,920 --> 00:49:41,440 So yeah, be patient. 686 00:49:41,440 --> 00:49:42,840 Just be patient. 687 00:49:42,840 --> 00:49:44,440 You know, there's no hurry. 688 00:49:44,440 --> 00:49:46,280 Oh, thank you. 689 00:49:46,280 --> 00:49:49,840 I would love to finalize our podcast here. 690 00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:55,920 However, are there any programs that you that are upcoming that you would like to share 691 00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:57,440 with our audience? 692 00:49:57,440 --> 00:49:58,440 Yes. 693 00:49:58,440 --> 00:50:04,160 So, we actually will be opening up for the men again in January because we're doing the 694 00:50:04,160 --> 00:50:05,720 two modules on touch. 695 00:50:05,720 --> 00:50:09,520 It's going to be an opportunity for men to rejoin. 696 00:50:09,520 --> 00:50:13,080 For women, I'm going to do a 21-day journey. 697 00:50:13,080 --> 00:50:16,160 Very accessible, cold encounters. 698 00:50:16,160 --> 00:50:22,120 Just starting with really simple ways of exploring and experiencing your cervix, not even with 699 00:50:22,120 --> 00:50:23,120 your finger. 700 00:50:23,120 --> 00:50:27,400 So, it's really accessible to anyone, even if you've got some fear. 701 00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:29,760 And that's all I can say right now. 702 00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:30,760 Oh, cool. 703 00:50:30,760 --> 00:50:31,760 That's amazing. 704 00:50:31,760 --> 00:50:33,840 That's already really, really good. 705 00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:37,160 And I really hope more men will be joining these programs. 706 00:50:37,160 --> 00:50:43,200 That's just for me, I feel like this is an essential education that they shall have. 707 00:50:43,200 --> 00:50:45,360 Oh, when 21 days sounds good. 708 00:50:45,360 --> 00:50:49,200 It's a perfect entry point, as you're saying. 709 00:50:49,200 --> 00:50:50,200 Yes. 710 00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:51,200 That's the intention. 711 00:50:51,200 --> 00:50:52,200 Amazing. 712 00:50:52,200 --> 00:50:54,960 Thank you so much for this podcast. 713 00:50:54,960 --> 00:50:58,040 It will be incredible. 714 00:50:58,040 --> 00:50:59,520 And that's it for today. 715 00:50:59,520 --> 00:51:07,080 I hope this episode has left you feeling inspired, empowered and more connected to your truth. 716 00:51:07,080 --> 00:51:12,320 If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to subscribe to the Feminine Fire podcast 717 00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:14,400 and leave us a rating. 718 00:51:14,400 --> 00:51:19,640 If you want me to ask any specific questions to our future guests, please do leave us a 719 00:51:19,640 --> 00:51:25,720 comment wherever you are listening to this podcast and I will definitely address them. 720 00:51:25,720 --> 00:51:30,600 Your 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