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Welcome to this edition of Parallel Times, where we'll explore

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why joy and gratitude are your levers for changing the world and being resilient in

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the face of the world's current challenges.

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My name is Melanie Rubin with ParallelTimes.info.

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Thank you for joining us.

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And I'm with Sherry Fox, who's my dear friend and one of the most powerful manifesters that

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I know.

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Today, we'll be talking about how joy and gratitude are keys to manifesting what you

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want to create, such as a healthy parallel society.

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Sherry, thank you for being here.

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Thank you for having me.

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Yes, it's delightful.

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How about we start by you telling us a little bit about Together Source and about your work?

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Together Source is a collective of businesses that operate through the center that I own

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and actually extended businesses as well.

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And we are working together collectively to share our gifts with each other and with

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the community and to empower a diverse community, which is healing.

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The optimal healing tool is to create connection and love.

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It's great, and just to add a little bit, Sherry founded this organization in 2006.

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And what I've seen is that it has hosted a steady stream of just hundreds, I don't know,

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maybe thousands of people who've moved through that business, who have experienced all kinds

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of personal growth and increased health, greater spiritual understanding, and who've

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just had a lot of fun.

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There's a lot of fun that happens at that place, fairs, dance parties, festivals, celebrations.

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So it used to be called the source, now called Together Source, has been really a saving

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grace for the community and of joy and refuge and sanity and serenity for many people.

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It's also a very beautiful place to visit.

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So and Sherry herself is a very skilled practitioner, healing practitioner and facilitator of many

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modalities, including voice dialogue, family constellations, radical gratitude, relationship

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enhancement, kinesiology, emotional freedom technique, and many more.

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She's constantly studying.

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She works with individuals, couples, and groups.

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So in her work, I've seen Sherry use gratitude and joy for manifestation.

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And she's also just one of the most fun people to be around.

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And I consider her a center of joy and gratitude.

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And that's what we're going to be talking about today.

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So and the sources, together sources website, can you give that to us right now and we'll

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repeat it again at the end?

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Sure, it's TogetherSource.com.

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It's T-O-G-E-T-H-E-R-S-O-U-R-C-E.com.

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Great.

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Thank you.

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So I'm going to give a little preview of our topic and then Sherry's going to actually

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lead us through a little experience.

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What I see is that a person's beliefs are like the operating system for their life.

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What you believe is what you manifest.

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And that's why this is the first topic in the checklist and blueprint for leaving the

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matrix and joining Parallel Society, which you can download for free from the homepage

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of the parallel times.info website.

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So for example, if you believe you will always lack resources, say, you'll create the circumstances

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that make that be so.

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And therefore, in order to change our world, we actually have to change our beliefs.

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Otherwise, we can keep re-enslaving ourselves.

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And joy and gratitude are key levers to changing our beliefs.

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And they're also the keys to living a happy life, no matter what's going on outside in

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the world, which we know is pretty crazy right now and we'll get more soon into how joy and

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gratitude can help you change your world.

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But since our focus is on creating a parallel society that is new in the world, how we manifest

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in the role that our beliefs play and the role that joy and gratitude play in shifting

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our beliefs are very important topics.

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So it's a big subject, but instead of talking about it in the abstract, can you start us

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off by giving us a little experience of gratitude?

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I would be delighted.

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Let's just first breathe and say thank you with each breath.

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Breathe and say thank you.

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And I'll just let this happen for a few moments.

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Breathing and saying thank you.

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And notice where your mind goes, what thoughts you have when you say thank you, how it feels

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in your body when you say thank you.

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And continue to breathe and say thank you.

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I'd like to start out a little bit with looking at a part of ourselves as if you can look

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in the mirror.

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So you can close your eyes or look in the mirror or imagine yourself and I want you to see

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a part of you that has a strong need.

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So part of you that wants something, that needs something, needs a breakthrough, that

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needs a healing, that needs love, needs money, acceptance.

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And I want you to look at that part of you the way you would look at another who had

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that need.

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I want you to see that part of you as if it was a child or a creature, a pet.

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And I want you to thank that part of you with all your heart for expressing this need for

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having this yearning.

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And give that part of you as much appreciation and gratitude as possible, like you're filling

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it with light, like you're completely embracing that part of you.

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Continue to say thank you and breathe.

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I want you to look again as if you're looking in the mirror and I want you to see a part

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of you that you are proud of.

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A part of you that has been a superpower of yours or something that you have accomplished,

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great things with or that you feel really good about yourself.

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And I want you to honor that part of you now that is confident, at least in one area.

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And bow to that part of you with gratitude.

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The way you would if you looked at another person who possessed that power with deep

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respect say thank you and breathe.

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Thank you and breathe.

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And I'd like to look at one more part of you and that is a part of you that is a future

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you.

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This is a part of you that achieves the success that you're looking to create right now.

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This is a part of you that knows what you're made of, knows what you have to let go of,

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what you need to surrender or shift.

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And it's you on the other side in fulfillment.

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And let that part of you give you support now.

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Thank that part of you that is your future you, that wise self.

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Thank that part of you and give your commitment to yourself, to that future you with all your

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heart.

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Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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I like your dream come true.

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Because in truth, we don't create anything new from our past.

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We create actually from our future.

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And then just come into total appreciation of the total you, include your precious body.

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And once again, breathe and say thank you.

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Breathe and say thank you.

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And when you're ready, gently open your eyes.

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Thank you.

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I feel better already.

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It's really interesting because for me, it's all about whether I will be able to support

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this world somehow in shifting into parallel society.

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That's the future self that I want to see myself in, that the world is healed and we're

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on the other side of it.

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And it starts with us, doesn't it, we have to believe that we can get there.

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We have to see ourselves there.

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We have to be grateful for being there.

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The fear and trembling about not being able to get there doesn't serve us in getting there.

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And we let ourselves be led by that part of us that's already there.

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So this is a great demonstration of how manifestation starts with living into the place you want

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to be.

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And maybe people also felt as I went through this exercise that you were guiding that as

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they started establishing themselves in gratitude, that their heart calmed down, their breathing

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calmed down, their nervous system calmed.

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And gratitude is this giant lever for shifting us in the moment and it re-regulates our system,

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which the HeartMath people have proven, the HeartMath Institute.

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And we humans are these gigantic resonators, like big magnets attracting from the infinite

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possibilities in the universe what it is that we are intending to create.

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But if we're resonating at the frequency of fear and distress, we're likely to attract

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more of that.

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And if we're resonating at the frequency of gratitude and joy, then we're likely to attract

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more of that.

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So can you talk a little bit from your experience about when was it back in 2016, I guess, that

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you really started to get into this gratitude work and you've completely dove into it.

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Can you share a little bit about why you decided to do that and how that has all unfolded for

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you personally and with your work with others?

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Yes, absolutely.

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I owned this wellness center and I was having a very hard time with a divorce, with a great

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deal of disappointment.

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I was feeling a listlessness and a lack of joy and a lack of capacity to really get the

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blessings that were around me, very heartbroken.

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And I knew that I had a lot of potential beauty and grace around me and someone handed me

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a book on gratitude.

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It's the magic and I took it through the 28 day process and I found that a lot of stuff

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shifted for me very dramatically.

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And then I took it through again, the 28 day process that's in that book.

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And the conflicts that I had with the ex seemed to completely disappear.

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Some of the exercises that I used when we were dividing assets allowed there to be a

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pathway, like a light that just bore through the conflict.

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Just so many other things unfolded out of that.

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I would say that there were countless blessings.

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Writing down exactly a number of money that I would like to receive and it boom landing

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in my lap, $30,000.

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Someone gave me $30,000 and that was something I'd written on a gratitude check and was grateful

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for.

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And countless opportunities.

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I started a group and I do that group every week since 2016 and I saw people in that group

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change their lives.

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Yeah, and a personal experience that I had was that Sherry handed me a copy of one of

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these books, the magic, well, the book, one of the copies she had.

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And it was right after my mother died rather suddenly.

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And when you have a beloved person, even if you have a complicated relationship with them

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as I did with my mother, when they suddenly die without much warning, it's a big deal.

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And I was pretty upside down for at least six months after her passing.

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And it was actually the gratitude work that got me through because every morning I would

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roll out of bed and before even getting dressed, I would go for a walk around the neighborhood

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and do the gratitude practices.

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And it was the lifeline that kept me grounded and that work has been a lifeline ever since

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and a source of joy and of being able to shift perspective.

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So in the world that we're in now where there's so much distress that we have coming to us

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in our inboxes about what's going on out there, being able to shift and be in gratitude

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for even the difficult things is this invaluable skill.

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So can you talk about that a little bit that the paradox of being able to be grateful for

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the things that are not our preferences and how to alchemize those so that they become

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sources of power and growth and even joy.

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Yes, absolutely.

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There are some exercises that are in the magic that are focused on challenging relationships,

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challenging situations, some struggles with any number of things.

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And we, being the group that keeps meeting and they won't even let me cancel the group

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when I go away.

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So they have to keep having it.

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So we have substitutes and it just keeps going on.

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That is something that has moved people through the worst obsessive compulsive disorders,

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health issues, relationships, struggles, family issues, great and grave disappointments in

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their lives.

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Just this year, somebody brought another gratitude book.

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People bring different exercises to the group.

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They brought 40 days to a miraculous life and that is a radical gratitude practice where

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at least 10 minutes a day, you say you're grateful for everything that just appears.

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And that may be things that you don't necessarily feel very grateful for at first glance.

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And you're not even trying to figure out why you feel grateful for it, you just say it.

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And it is my experience that I relaxed more deeply into myself than I've ever been relaxed

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into myself.

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I suddenly saw myself as a being who's living this experience in the fullest sense of deep

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acceptance.

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And I would also wake up with shadow memories, material stuff that I had packed away and

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tried to forget.

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And I would go, oh gosh, this is a set of stuff that I don't want to be grateful for,

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but I'm going to look around at it and say I'm grateful for this.

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I'm grateful for these feelings about it.

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It feels that that radical gratitude practice has brought me into deeper wholeness, into

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greater resolution to be the person that's an awakener here.

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It's also brought me into the field of what is not comfortable in this life that can be

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changed and how to change it.

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It gives me power again.

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So it seems like it's counterintuitive.

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Like if you're grateful for things that are devastating to you or heart wrenching to you.

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And I'm not saying that you should be grateful for something so tragic, like a giant loss,

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but you can be grateful around it, around what you've learned from it or your own responses

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or many things about it.

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So if you're capable of being grateful for that, then you have more power.

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What I've noticed through this whole COVID period is that it's been the gratitude that

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has pulled me through because there are a lot of things that I'm not grateful for, but

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I'm finding even in the things that I didn't think I was grateful for, something to be

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grateful for, it just keeps reorienting me in the direction that I need to go.

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I'm sorry I've lost these friends.

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I'm so grateful I've connected with this new group of people that are so like-minded and

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we have developed this deep connection through this time where it was really hard that I

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lost that job because I wouldn't get vaccinated and it opened all these other doors of opportunities

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that I never would have had if I had stayed where I was.

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So learning to play with that, almost like a game, making it into a game, what is there

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that is being revealed in front of me and how can the gratitude help me see what's being

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revealed instead of resisting what I don't prefer or how can I live into what the new

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opportunity is that's presented.

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So I feel like gratitude is sort of like this rainbow bridge into the future if you choose

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to walk on it.

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And we had played this game called the Mahalila, which is actually an ancient game from India

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that our dear friend Zayda brought from Brazil.

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connection with God and with life.

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And there was one quote that I wrote down which Zayda actually said when we were playing

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that game, which was so on point and made me actually want to have this conversation with

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you do a recording.

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And she said, joy is the, I'm reading it, joy is the fruit of gratitude.

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If you have empathy, you forgive.

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If you forgive, you're grateful.

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If you're grateful, you have joy.

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And pure joy allows you to access higher dimensions of consciousness.

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So joy is like the doorway into higher consciousness.

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And I feel like in order for us to get through this period and create this new world, we

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have to start accessing different understandings than we've had before.

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I guess it was Einstein that said we can't fix a problem with the same consciousness

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that created it.

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So we have to start living into higher understandings.

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And I was just so fascinated as we were playing the Mahalila game to make the connection that

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it's joy ultimately that allows you to access that higher consciousness and gratitude is

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the lever for accessing the joy.

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So that was like a big epiphany for me.

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And I'm just wondering if you have thoughts around that also because that was just last

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weekend we were playing that game with our friends.

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Yeah, we have to be defrosted to have joy.

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The trauma can be pulled out of our bodies and relaxed away.

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We need to be in safety to have joy.

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And that is the place of connection.

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I'm in a belief that we're being divided and we don't have to buy that.

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We, you know, many people are sharing different viewpoints and with the kind of energy that

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divides that gets people to be scared of each other, that gets people to not recognize

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our commonality or our deepest values or the love that we have for each other.

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And it is my opinion that we need each other's viewpoints.

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We need the whole gamut and we need to not be afraid of each other.

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And so that ability to forgive the illusions that people have been bought into ourselves

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and included and to come into our hearts is the power.

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I think that's way more powerful than having a vendetta.

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Not that you shouldn't hold your truth close to your heart, but that we could get to the

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table and talk about those truths when we're feeling connected.

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And we can make a difference when we exude that appreciation of love for ourselves and

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we're in joy.

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People want to feel that safety and connection.

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And that's more powerful.

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And one of the things I've been most amazed with, I mean, as you know, I've been working

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with the HeartMath work for about 10 years now, right around the same time when we started

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doing this gratitude work together, that gratitude is the fastest way to shift your whole nervous

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system.

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When you focus on something you're grateful for and literally feel yourself breathing

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that as if you were breathing it right through your heart, it very quickly shifts your whole

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nervous system and all of the physiological systems in your body into a state that the

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therapists call regulation, which feels peaceful and feels joyful.

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So gratitude is physiologically proven to be good for your health.

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So the other thing that I've noticed just on a very practical level is that in addition

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to doing all this work with gratitude and working with individuals and couples and groups,

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that you also create a lot of opportunities for joy in the community.

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Parties, dances, concerts, festivals, fairs, celebrations, potlucks.

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And so, I mean, and I know you run a community center, which has resources and gathering

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rooms and that sort of thing.

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And it hasn't, it's been my observation that it's not the room or the facility that has

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made it possible for you to do these things, but your pure dedication to doing those things.

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And so, I wonder if you would speak a little bit about the importance of creating opportunities

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for joy and celebration and how people can do that no matter who they are, whether they

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have a community center or they don't.

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That is a good question.

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I would say that, I would say that through fear, we get more contracted.

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We pull deeper in when we perceive that somebody outside of us has hurt us or that life has

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treated us unfairly.

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We become much smaller.

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And I guess I'm going to give you more of an energetic response to that.

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What I have discovered is that I am here.

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I'm alive.

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I'm full of light.

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I have authority in this domain, which is life.

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And the thoughts of harm and betrayal and the experience of the pressure of fear, the restriction

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into slavery, kind of masks me to hide behind a falseness, and then I'm sort of trapped

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in it if I'm in hate and retribution.

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I have been caught, been caught in a particular web that is not authentically me, which doesn't

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mean I don't get angry.

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I guess I believe that I have the right and the authority here from just being in this

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gratitude practice for a while to shine my light, to expand my, expand and intensify

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my vibration and that every cell in my body is connected to everybody else's hearts,

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cells, vibrations to the light.

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And that is my authentic self.

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All of us live potentially from our authentic selves and we become more, more bright and

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we take up more space, more energetic and dimensional space and that affects everything.

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Every relationship.

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So would you say that the gatherings or celebrations are just one of the types of outward expression

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of that shining your light and taking up space in the world and connecting with others who

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are shining their light and taking up space in the world and being their authentic selves?

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Yeah I think that it's a consequence and it's an opportunity to transmit a vibrational

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frequency that wakes up people to their own true light as well.

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And different people might have a different result if they knew that they had the authority

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to be their own vibrant light and to not be contracted.

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But for me, it's me and a whole group of other people that are collaborating, it seems like

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a consequence of deepened and profound love for every fiber of our being and the desire

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to touch others that are wanting that frequency as well.

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So what, I don't know if advice is the right word, but what would you share with folks

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out there who are wanting to create more joy in their lives and to use that as a magnetic

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attractor to manifest what they want in their own lives or in the world?

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What suggestions or thoughts would you want to distill in for them?

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I would say that that requires healing and that healing is doing everything that occurs

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to you.

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Not just one thing, not looking for something outside of you, but becoming your own healing

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instrument.

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The body is a healing instrument, so getting into it and crying or weeping or meditation

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or feeling certain things, releasing or getting involved in something or other and being intimate

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with yourself, vulnerably with your heart, becoming attuned to your heart.

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All of that is whatever you need to do to be well and to be connected.

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I have a little exercise that I do, I have several actually, I have lots of little exercises

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that I do because I've been leading this group since 2016, but I do have one that I could

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recommend.

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Yeah, that was kind of where I was coming to because I think that for people who are

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not familiar, this can seem like a lot or a little bit obscure.

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How does someone begin?

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If they're maybe not going to engage a whole, maybe they are going to engage a whole trauma,

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healing process and different modalities and who only knows what they're going to engage.

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If they're just going to start with a simple gratitude practice like I did after my mother

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died, it was a five minute walk every morning, it changed my life.

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What would be one thing somebody could start with?

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Things have a way of leading from one thing to the next.

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What is that practice or would you like to lead us through another practice?

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I think I could lead us through a different practice.

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I do believe that just listing gratitude, just walking with gratitude, not even having

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to think about it and saying, thank you, thank you, thank you for 100 steps or for a whole

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walk could be a part of that.

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But this is specific to the feeling of connection that I would like to actually offer as a little

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exercise.

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I'd like you to think of somebody that you care about.

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I want you to imagine or hear them say, I love you just the way you are.

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You don't have to edit it even if you're like, I don't know if they really do.

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Just imagine them saying, I love you just the way you are.

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Then imagine yourself saying, I love you just the way you are.

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And then think of somebody else.

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Maybe this is somebody who you're not totally connected with.

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It's not terrible, just somebody who you're not totally connected with.

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And once again, imagine them saying, I love you just the way you are.

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And imagine yourself saying, to them, I love you just the way you are.

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And then pick a third person, maybe again, a higher gradient, somebody who you're pretty

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certain may judge you or you judge them.

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And I want you to imagine or feel them saying, I love you just the way you are.

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And imagine yourself saying, I love you just the way you are.

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We could go on, and then you could spend another 10 or 15 minutes going through all the different

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people that come to mind.

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And you could have an experience with that and see what that does.

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If you tried it without, with just curiosity, without any resistance, you just tried it.

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You could have an experience with it and see what happens.

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I'm curious, Melanie, how that is for you.

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I think I'm going to have to try it when I'm not in the midst of doing a program so that

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I can give it everything.

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Sure.

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Honestly.

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Because it's a big thing to go through gradients of people, especially those who one might have

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had challenges with.

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Or if you start to take it into, again, what we're seeing in the world when I start to

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think of the people who are doing things that I consider horrific, how do I use this so

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that I have compassion or, I don't know, we're just fit in that idea.

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So it's an interesting, virtual exploration.

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Yeah, I don't know.

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I haven't tried it with the people that I think are pulling the strings, but I have

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tried it with people that have offended me that might be holding different values.

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Like they're personal to me.

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And because I've done this again and again with different groups, there is often feedback

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of giant relief.

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And some people have said, I didn't realize that I could decide that.

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There's a little exercise that people use when they want to manifest money.

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And that is to enjoy their own company and the company of others.

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And so it's like actually perceiving ourselves through different people's eyes with love

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and appreciation is actually a relatively common manifestation tool.

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So to really hold that.

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And it's really, it occurred to me at one point, it's none of my business if people

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don't love me just the way I am.

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It finally unhooked my desire to get approval at every turn.

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At the cost of myself, it unhooked that.

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Right.

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And it seems like if one is not at risk of concern about others' opinion, that's tremendous

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empowerment because so much of what's happening to people right now is because of fear of

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what somebody can take from them or what somebody thinks of them or all of that.

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It's, you know, virtue signaling is all about that.

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So right, the incredible psychological, spiritual, energetic range of movement you would have

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if you truly didn't care what anybody thought about you, which doesn't mean you wouldn't

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care about people, it just means you wouldn't be concerned about others' opinions.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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And also, and also receiving the best part of people, you know, having the authority

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over your relationships enough that you receive only the best from them, which may mean that

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you don't have anything to do with them, but that when you do, it's only the best and that

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you can decide that as much as possible.

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It's a good idea.

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Yeah.

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So you know, these are, I mean, you've been working with this so deeply for a long time

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that what you're bringing forth represents tremendous potential with this radical gratitude

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system.

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And I would encourage people just to start with something really simple and just see

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how powerful it can be and try these other things too.

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But even just starting with three things in the morning, you know, what am I, what's one

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thing I'm grateful for today?

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Why am I grateful for it?

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And you know, think about three things and then be bold enough to think about something

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that wasn't your preference and what can you be grateful about with that is it's revolutionary.

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So I am grateful for you introducing me to all of that back when, 2014.

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And so if people want to reach you, they can reach you at TogetherSource.com.

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Yes, or my website, just SherryKFox.com.

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Okay.

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And that is C-H-A-R-E-Y-K Fox like an animal F-O-X.com.

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Yes.

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And Sherry does work online as well as in person.

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And the groups that she has, people zoom in from all over the place to participate in

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her groups.

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So I've been a happy participant in many zoomed groups with Sherry during COVID.

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And also want to announce that at Parallel Times where we now have t-shirts and you can

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find that on our website, paralleltimes.info.

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And please join us again at the next episode.

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And we're starting with this because your beliefs and your joy and your gratitude is

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so important for you changing your own world and the world that we have around us.

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And so I thank you, Sherry, for being willing to have this conversation today and share

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all of, well, just a little bit of your experience, but a little bit of your very deep experience

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with the Tharkroot.

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That the t-shirt behind you, is that one of the t-shirt designs?

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That is the back of this t-shirt.

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That is a great shirt.

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That's a wonderful set of messages, especially the together font.

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Yes.

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Yep.

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I thought it was funny that we were both coming up with together tagline separately at the

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same time.

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It's so important, right?

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That connection is so important.

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So thank you very much.

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And we'll hope to see you all soon.

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Thank you, Madden.

463
00:46:51,240 --> 00:46:52,240
Thank you so much.

464
00:46:52,240 --> 00:46:53,240
Logs, log lands.

465
00:46:53,240 --> 00:46:55,440
Thanks for doing what you're doing.

466
00:46:55,440 --> 00:46:57,440
You're most welcome.

467
00:46:57,440 --> 00:46:59,440
Mui and horkhuntry.

468
00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:02,240
Yes, and you as well.

469
00:47:02,240 --> 00:47:03,240
All right.

470
00:47:03,240 --> 00:47:04,240
Blessings.

471
00:47:04,240 --> 00:47:20,720
See you soon.