1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:09,760 I always giggle at my crazy collection of salt and pepper shakers. 2 00:00:09,760 --> 00:00:18,460 We use actual disposable ones when it comes to eating food, but I have this collection 3 00:00:18,460 --> 00:00:20,200 of salt and pepper shakers. 4 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:26,680 And again, I always talk about and advocating for keeping stuff that you're actually using. 5 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:28,840 Well I don't use these salt and pepper shakers. 6 00:00:28,840 --> 00:00:32,600 But here's the reasoning of why I keep them. 7 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:38,240 I actually got them from when my grandmother passed away and they lived on her wall in 8 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:39,680 her dining room. 9 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:42,160 So I asked if I could just scoop them up. 10 00:00:42,160 --> 00:00:46,960 I loved them when I was a kid and I used to actually buy her salt and pepper shakers. 11 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:52,040 So I got the ones that I bought her plus all of her extra ones from all the places that 12 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:53,040 she's traveled. 13 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:57,960 There are salt and pepper shakers from places I've even never been to. 14 00:00:57,960 --> 00:01:00,720 And so I put them on my kitchen wall. 15 00:01:00,720 --> 00:01:08,680 So even though I'm not actually specifically using them, they bring a usability in my spirit 16 00:01:08,680 --> 00:01:14,840 and I can look at my salt and pepper shakers and think I have never been to Sedona, Arizona, 17 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:17,520 however they are for my grandma. 18 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:25,680 And I would like to keep them for my next style. 19 00:01:25,680 --> 00:01:27,840 Hi, I'm Ginny Rogers. 20 00:01:27,840 --> 00:01:31,240 And this is the Organizing and Beyond podcast. 21 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:36,200 We will talk about how to tackle your stuff to make your life exactly what you want. 22 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:41,320 I hope to inspire you into action and have a ton of laughs along the way. 23 00:01:41,320 --> 00:01:48,560 There are no rules in decorating or organizing. 24 00:01:48,560 --> 00:01:57,520 The only rule I have is you must enjoy the things you keep and get rid of the extra crap. 25 00:01:57,520 --> 00:02:00,760 Don't live in guilt and keep stuff. 26 00:02:00,760 --> 00:02:05,080 Set your shoulders free and thoughts directed towards your life goals, right? 27 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:09,640 It's all about happy organizing. 28 00:02:09,640 --> 00:02:17,520 Funny story about what I keep is I always giggle at my collection of salt and pepper 29 00:02:17,520 --> 00:02:19,320 shakers. 30 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:24,600 We use disposable ones from the grocery when we actually have dinner. 31 00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:28,760 But I have the collection of salt and pepper shakers from places that I've actually never 32 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:30,480 been. 33 00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:37,920 I got them from my grandmother and they lived on her while when she was alive and well. 34 00:02:37,920 --> 00:02:43,800 Well when given the opportunity to take them, I jumped at it. 35 00:02:43,800 --> 00:02:47,920 I now hang them up in my kitchen and I can enjoy them every day. 36 00:02:47,920 --> 00:02:54,520 So not everything you keep needs to be used per se. 37 00:02:54,520 --> 00:03:02,880 Everything you keep needs to be enjoyed and you need to love them. 38 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:14,080 I follow the Connery method of organizing or sometimes I refer to her as Marie Kondo 39 00:03:14,080 --> 00:03:15,240 when I can. 40 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:22,720 She has a great attitude toward hard decisions on what to keep. 41 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:29,440 Whether it's a vibration or a feeling, you unconsciously have towards an object. 42 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:33,720 For example, hold your favorite shoes in your hands, right? 43 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:39,240 They could be fancy or they could be the best summer sandal. 44 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:41,840 Feel how your thoughts are towards the shoe. 45 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:47,360 Maybe you can't wait for it to be warm and the weather allows you to wear them outside 46 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:53,440 or they remind you of the last activity you did with them on, right? 47 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:55,440 Your husband took you out for a date. 48 00:03:55,440 --> 00:04:02,520 So now on the flip side, hold shoes you don't necessarily have joy towards. 49 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:04,960 Maybe they hurt your feet. 50 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:07,840 They're really not flattering, right? 51 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:08,840 You feel like they're ugly. 52 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:15,920 There are so many reasons you can brainstorm towards a pair of shoes as to why you don't 53 00:04:15,920 --> 00:04:16,920 like them. 54 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:24,680 Usually my major hate toward shoes is that they're dang blisters always come up. 55 00:04:24,680 --> 00:04:29,920 Don't keep them if they're doing that, right? 56 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:37,000 So looking at how you react towards those pairs of shoes, use that to gauge towards everything 57 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:38,500 else. 58 00:04:38,500 --> 00:04:41,360 Start with the easier items first. 59 00:04:41,360 --> 00:04:43,520 Start with the things you just absolutely love, right? 60 00:04:43,520 --> 00:04:45,960 You have a pile of clothing on your bed. 61 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:49,520 Take out everything you just absolutely love and you want to keep. 62 00:04:49,520 --> 00:04:53,520 Hang those up in your closet and sit with what you decided. 63 00:04:53,520 --> 00:05:02,360 Once you have those items in the pile, right, or hung up in your closet, you now have given 64 00:05:02,360 --> 00:05:11,160 yourself the permission to give away the rest, right? 65 00:05:11,160 --> 00:05:14,800 You almost feel more satisfied with the decisions you do make. 66 00:05:14,800 --> 00:05:22,280 So the more you make that decision, it is easier to let go of those items. 67 00:05:22,280 --> 00:05:26,840 If you just can't find a good reason to keep it, you probably shouldn't, right? 68 00:05:26,840 --> 00:05:30,840 It's just taking up space and then it takes up your mind. 69 00:05:30,840 --> 00:05:36,640 Let's talk about the reasons why you would keep or wouldn't keep something just a little 70 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:37,640 bit deeper. 71 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:44,440 There's a lot of you who will keep something because it was given to you as a gift. 72 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:47,760 Maybe for an example, I'll just do something simple. 73 00:05:47,760 --> 00:05:50,400 There's a magnet on your refrigerator. 74 00:05:50,400 --> 00:05:57,800 It was given to you from someone when they went on a trip and they brought it back because 75 00:05:57,800 --> 00:06:00,560 they wanted to bring you back a gift. 76 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:04,520 They were thinking of you while they were on that trip. 77 00:06:04,520 --> 00:06:11,720 The fact that they brought you something back should make you feel joy, right? 78 00:06:11,720 --> 00:06:17,560 That moment, you felt joy and you felt the love in that moment. 79 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:23,440 If it's a magnet that sits in the back of your fridge because you never use it, right? 80 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:30,920 Odds are you won't because it's not as important because you didn't go to that tropical island. 81 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:35,280 It just sits in the back of your fridge and gets dust on it. 82 00:06:35,280 --> 00:06:37,240 And believe me, I've seen that. 83 00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:38,440 Then get rid of it. 84 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:40,680 You have that permission. 85 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:51,280 You think about the thankfulness and the moment of them thinking of you and then you thank 86 00:06:51,280 --> 00:06:53,960 them in your mind, right? 87 00:06:53,960 --> 00:07:02,880 And getting rid of something doesn't minimize your relationship with them. 88 00:07:02,880 --> 00:07:08,360 And that's why I love the Conn Marie method and why I practice it. 89 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:13,160 There's no denying your feelings towards objects. 90 00:07:13,160 --> 00:07:21,160 I can never predict how someone will react, but I know if you love something, you should 91 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:22,800 keep it. 92 00:07:22,800 --> 00:07:24,600 Just like my salt and pepper shakers, right? 93 00:07:24,600 --> 00:07:27,600 That I got from my grandma. 94 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:29,800 Sleepies to my next thought real quick. 95 00:07:29,800 --> 00:07:38,200 Having favorite items from loved ones or things you bought does not belong down in the basement. 96 00:07:38,200 --> 00:07:44,880 They should be displayed and loved. 97 00:07:44,880 --> 00:07:47,520 Not in the back of a closet. 98 00:07:47,520 --> 00:07:56,400 I once did a room for a little girl and she had a bunch of trinkets from all her travels. 99 00:07:56,400 --> 00:08:01,720 Instead of putting them in the back of her closet, we hung a shelf in her room and she 100 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:08,280 could display all those objects which made her think of her family and the times they 101 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:09,840 had together. 102 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:16,040 So make room in your life for the stuff that you love to see and enjoy. 103 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:23,040 So let's set the stage for you so you can be productive in organizing if you want. 104 00:08:23,040 --> 00:08:25,560 First off, start with your clothing. 105 00:08:25,560 --> 00:08:27,480 You get dressed every day. 106 00:08:27,480 --> 00:08:29,960 You see them every day. 107 00:08:29,960 --> 00:08:35,320 Give yourself enough time to go through them all when you do decide to go through your 108 00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:36,320 clothing. 109 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:41,600 Don't go through anybody else's clothing, just yours. 110 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:45,280 Take them off the hangers and throw them on your bed. 111 00:08:45,280 --> 00:08:50,320 Then empty all your drawers and throw them on the bed as well. 112 00:08:50,320 --> 00:08:54,760 Take a step back and see that heaping pile. 113 00:08:54,760 --> 00:09:01,640 Quite often this is a moment when I get comments in my sessions of no wonder why I can't ever 114 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:03,320 seem to get laundry done. 115 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:05,440 I have way too much. 116 00:09:05,440 --> 00:09:12,360 I wait too long because I have other options and then my laundry pile just gets so incredibly 117 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:14,360 massive. 118 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:21,840 Hold each item of clothing in your hand and feel if you want to keep them. 119 00:09:21,840 --> 00:09:23,840 Does it fit right? 120 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:26,360 Is it way too worn? 121 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:28,560 Does it have holes? 122 00:09:28,560 --> 00:09:31,360 Put it in the keep pile. 123 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:34,360 Maybe you donate it or put it in the trash. 124 00:09:34,360 --> 00:09:39,000 Trash your gut and trash your intuition. 125 00:09:39,000 --> 00:09:46,760 Now you get to go to your closet in the morning and feel the organization and how easy it is 126 00:09:46,760 --> 00:09:48,400 to get ready in the morning. 127 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:56,080 This practice will then trickle down to your other items in your home and those other categories. 128 00:09:56,080 --> 00:10:00,720 Books, paper, kimono items and sentimental items. 129 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:04,160 Allow your brain to process through every category. 130 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:17,320 We don't often allow that time for our brain to spin those times. 131 00:10:17,320 --> 00:10:25,080 We don't allow our brains and our moments to be spent on ourselves. 132 00:10:25,080 --> 00:10:33,080 If we can just take care of ourselves, we will have our cups way more full. 133 00:10:33,080 --> 00:10:36,480 Therefore then we can help our family members. 134 00:10:36,480 --> 00:10:39,680 Take care of yourself so you can take care of your family. 135 00:10:39,680 --> 00:10:50,680 Next week for my third episode, How to set goals. 136 00:10:50,680 --> 00:11:02,160 I am the queen of procrastinator and I feel like my older brother would be gladly be able 137 00:11:02,160 --> 00:11:10,560 to give a testament to how I could not get ready to school on time. 138 00:11:10,560 --> 00:11:18,240 He was 6 foot, I was teeny tiny and it was always me running after him or him trying 139 00:11:18,240 --> 00:11:25,400 to be a responsible brother to make sure I get there. 140 00:11:25,400 --> 00:11:31,640 Being a procrastinator can sometimes make it difficult to set goals. 141 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:34,360 If I set a goal, I am setting myself up to fail.