1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:13,200 Hello and welcome to the first episode of Dating Log. 2 00:00:13,200 --> 00:00:14,200 Yay! 3 00:00:14,200 --> 00:00:15,920 Thank you for tuning in. 4 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:18,000 I'm your host, Wyndham Juneau. 5 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:23,840 I have spent the last month reaching out to single friends and people I know from all 6 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:28,000 over the world and from all different parts of my life. 7 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:33,200 It turns out a lot of them are willing to share with me the nitty gritty of their dating 8 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:38,360 lives, how it's changed, what they wished they had, what they didn't like, how the world 9 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:39,360 is changing. 10 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:47,720 And voila, the podcast! 11 00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:54,040 My first guest, who was also the first available person for an interview, is someone who I 12 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:57,320 met at a festival last winter in Thailand. 13 00:00:57,320 --> 00:01:00,800 We literally met at the top of a climbing sculpture. 14 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:05,160 She's super stylish, she's a great dancer, she loves mango sticky rice, I'm pretty sure 15 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:08,240 she ate 12 over the four days we were there. 16 00:01:08,240 --> 00:01:10,600 She's got a very kind soul. 17 00:01:10,600 --> 00:01:14,080 And without further ado, this is Flo. 18 00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:23,120 I guess currently, I don't know, in the dating pool of, of, of, in Vancouver, I, I guess 19 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:32,040 I go by she hers for, for my pronouns, but I, I do also know I dress very, like a tomboy, 20 00:01:32,040 --> 00:01:33,920 I guess you could say. 21 00:01:33,920 --> 00:01:36,640 So it's also very confusing for people. 22 00:01:36,640 --> 00:01:41,200 So when the way I appear and then when I start talking, they're like, wait, what? 23 00:01:41,200 --> 00:01:48,720 But yeah, I'm currently, I am dating, but I'm not in the monogamous world of dating. 24 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:57,080 I am open, whether it's non-monogamous, there's all these terms that as I'm meeting people, 25 00:01:57,080 --> 00:01:58,400 I'm learning these new terms. 26 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:01,360 So that's good. 27 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:03,720 What are some of the new terms you're learning? 28 00:02:03,720 --> 00:02:09,320 I think the latest one that I learned was, is like relationship anarchy or no, have you 29 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:10,320 heard of that one? 30 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:11,320 Something anarchy. 31 00:02:11,320 --> 00:02:17,360 And I was like, I was talking to them, like, can you explain like, what does that mean? 32 00:02:17,360 --> 00:02:22,360 And they're just saying like how it's, it's kind of like, it's more on the, in the, in 33 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:24,480 the world of like non-monogamous, I guess. 34 00:02:24,480 --> 00:02:30,320 So it's like, it's not, you're following the traditional relationship, monogamous dating 35 00:02:30,320 --> 00:02:31,320 world. 36 00:02:31,320 --> 00:02:35,400 It's more about, I guess, whatever, I guess for me, it's like, whatever I would, it's 37 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:41,760 putting in the way, what I got out of it was it was putting me, taking care of me first. 38 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:43,480 And then it's like the dating part of it. 39 00:02:43,480 --> 00:02:45,640 So that was kind of what I got out of it. 40 00:02:45,640 --> 00:02:47,520 I was like, okay, yeah, I do agree with that. 41 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:51,600 Like, I agree, like when it comes to relationships, like you should be taking care of yourself 42 00:02:51,600 --> 00:02:53,640 first before and everything. 43 00:02:53,640 --> 00:02:55,440 So I don't know if they were talking about that. 44 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:56,440 Okay. 45 00:02:56,440 --> 00:02:59,000 And who told you about this? 46 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:00,640 Someone that I met on Hinge. 47 00:03:00,640 --> 00:03:08,800 Cause you know, on Hinge, it has like the dating, not goals or something, like the interest 48 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:09,800 or something. 49 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:11,640 Can you explain Hinge? 50 00:03:11,640 --> 00:03:14,720 Like how does it work? 51 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:16,800 What's the function of it? 52 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:17,800 Yeah. 53 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:21,360 I really, I've never used it and probably a lot of listeners have not either, or maybe 54 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:23,040 they have, I don't know. 55 00:03:23,040 --> 00:03:29,880 So Hinge is, I guess it's like the friend, like the way I see it, it's like, it's a more, 56 00:03:29,880 --> 00:03:33,280 it filters out the weirdos from Tinder, but you get on Hinge. 57 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:35,560 But a lot of times you still see the overlaps. 58 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:37,280 I won't get it, don't get me wrong. 59 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:47,160 But for Hinge, it's like you have X amount of likes per day and you basically set what 60 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:49,360 your interests are, what you're looking for. 61 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:54,360 And then it's very similar to Tinder when it comes to like X's and like, nope. 62 00:03:54,360 --> 00:03:59,640 And then the other side for like, yes, you're interested. 63 00:03:59,640 --> 00:04:00,640 And then that's it. 64 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:04,080 And then it kind of like same thing if for them. 65 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:07,720 And then if you two match, then like it's a match situation. 66 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:09,600 So it's very similar to Tinder in that sense. 67 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:15,360 So the two are very, they're similar when it comes to like how to meet up or how to 68 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:18,240 get connected. 69 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:22,820 And then I think the only main difference is the platform of your profile. 70 00:04:22,820 --> 00:04:25,160 It's more interactive than Tinder. 71 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:29,680 So it'll ask you to prompt you with more questions. 72 00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:33,720 And you have to have these questions like to get your profile out there. 73 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:41,040 So you have to have at least like three of these prompt questions to fill out. 74 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:45,760 They're also interactive in the sense of they sometimes have like multiple choice. 75 00:04:45,760 --> 00:04:50,560 Like you can like interact as in like on our first date, we're going to go. 76 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:52,060 But you get to create those. 77 00:04:52,060 --> 00:04:55,000 You get to create the things to what you want. 78 00:04:55,000 --> 00:04:58,960 And then there's the photos and the same thing with the photos if you want to like those 79 00:04:58,960 --> 00:04:59,960 prompts. 80 00:04:59,960 --> 00:05:06,280 And then when you get a match or when you are going through someone's profile rather 81 00:05:06,280 --> 00:05:13,680 than just having a generic chat box situation, like you can comment on those prompts. 82 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:17,840 So it gives you like a lead, like it gives you something to talk about. 83 00:05:17,840 --> 00:05:20,040 I think I saw that on Bumble recently too. 84 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:23,880 You can like compliment people on their answers or something. 85 00:05:23,880 --> 00:05:24,880 Yeah. 86 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:28,800 So it's very similar then with Bumble, I guess. 87 00:05:28,800 --> 00:05:30,600 And correct me if I'm wrong. 88 00:05:30,600 --> 00:05:36,240 Is Hinge not the one that it's like you have to connect to your Facebook and then you can 89 00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:38,960 only match with friends of friends or is that not? 90 00:05:38,960 --> 00:05:41,960 Is that the Facebook dating? 91 00:05:41,960 --> 00:05:42,960 It's for dating. 92 00:05:42,960 --> 00:05:43,960 Yeah, it's for dating. 93 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:45,720 But is it like Facebook dating? 94 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:47,600 Because apparently Facebook has dating. 95 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:49,840 I don't know what it is yet, but Facebook has dating. 96 00:05:49,840 --> 00:05:50,840 Facebook has dating? 97 00:05:50,840 --> 00:05:52,800 Yeah, Facebook has dating. 98 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:53,800 For boomers? 99 00:05:53,800 --> 00:05:54,800 I don't, maybe. 100 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:55,800 I don't know. 101 00:05:55,800 --> 00:05:57,120 I have never explored that button. 102 00:05:57,120 --> 00:06:01,200 Oh my God, I'm so curious. 103 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:06,880 I think I'm going to learn about a lot of different dating apps on doing this, talking 104 00:06:06,880 --> 00:06:11,020 to people around the world. 105 00:06:11,020 --> 00:06:14,920 So you do Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble. 106 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:20,560 Would you say that those are like the biggest dating apps in Vancouver for people around 107 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:22,160 our life age? 108 00:06:22,160 --> 00:06:25,000 I would say Bumble and Hinge more. 109 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:27,120 I think Tinder has kind of fallen through. 110 00:06:27,120 --> 00:06:33,880 I think Tinder, when I have come across people on Tinder, is more like the travelers for 111 00:06:33,880 --> 00:06:34,880 Tinder. 112 00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:37,920 That's just for my observations at least. 113 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:40,600 But it's more Bumble and Hinge. 114 00:06:40,600 --> 00:06:41,960 I've heard of Field. 115 00:06:41,960 --> 00:06:44,720 People have talked about Field. 116 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:49,800 There was like a queer one app. 117 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:57,160 There's one for just queers for Vancouver, but I forget what that one was called. 118 00:06:57,160 --> 00:06:58,160 Like specific to Vancouver? 119 00:06:58,160 --> 00:06:59,160 Her? 120 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:00,160 Her. 121 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:01,160 No, no, no. 122 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:02,160 Her. 123 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:03,160 Her, no, no, no. 124 00:07:03,160 --> 00:07:05,160 Not just Vancouver, but I remember a lot of the queers in Vancouver use that one. 125 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:06,160 Her? 126 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:07,160 Have you heard of her? 127 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:08,160 Her is the lesbian one. 128 00:07:08,160 --> 00:07:09,160 Yes. 129 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:14,080 It's like for, let's say for women seeking women, whatever that means, gender, sex. 130 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:15,080 Yeah. 131 00:07:15,080 --> 00:07:16,080 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 132 00:07:16,080 --> 00:07:17,080 So there's that one. 133 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:18,080 I remember that one. 134 00:07:18,080 --> 00:07:22,440 Yeah, I remember when that came out, like over 10 years ago, I was in Boston and there 135 00:07:22,440 --> 00:07:24,040 was nobody on it. 136 00:07:24,040 --> 00:07:25,040 Right? 137 00:07:25,040 --> 00:07:26,040 Yeah. 138 00:07:26,040 --> 00:07:27,040 So. 139 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:28,840 Have you tried it? 140 00:07:28,840 --> 00:07:34,000 I did try it long ago, but it wasn't a great one. 141 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:35,000 I don't use it anymore. 142 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:39,520 So yeah, for me, it's just Hinge now. 143 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:40,880 I am curious. 144 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:43,360 What is your radius set to for dating? 145 00:07:43,360 --> 00:07:45,160 Oh, it's in kilometers. 146 00:07:45,160 --> 00:07:47,320 I don't know if that's... 147 00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:53,360 I think I have it for like 20, 30 or something. 148 00:07:53,360 --> 00:08:00,000 So for Vancouver, that would be like, I think it's about like half an hour, 45 minutes. 149 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:04,560 I think that's the drive radius for me. 150 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:07,480 That's how far you're willing to go. 151 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:08,480 For now. 152 00:08:08,480 --> 00:08:11,040 That's what I don't know. 153 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:12,920 I don't put it too far, I guess. 154 00:08:12,920 --> 00:08:16,280 How long have you been active in the Vancouver dating scene? 155 00:08:16,280 --> 00:08:18,040 Good question. 156 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:24,240 I think since like 2012, 2010? 157 00:08:24,240 --> 00:08:29,480 No, after high school. 158 00:08:29,480 --> 00:08:30,480 So that was 2010. 159 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:31,480 So maybe like 2011, 2012. 160 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:34,040 It was kind of like when I came out. 161 00:08:34,040 --> 00:08:37,120 And have you been in relationships as well? 162 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:38,920 Have you dated people for longer? 163 00:08:38,920 --> 00:08:44,200 Kind of tell me about these last 10 years in the dating scene in Vancouver. 164 00:08:44,200 --> 00:08:45,640 Yeah. 165 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:52,920 When I first started dating, I was in a relationship, but it wasn't a good relationship. 166 00:08:52,920 --> 00:08:55,040 It was like my first one, we were young. 167 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:59,040 I never thought I was in a relationship. 168 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:00,040 It was a bad one. 169 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:01,120 So if that was... 170 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:02,480 It didn't start off great. 171 00:09:02,480 --> 00:09:04,280 Got out of that one. 172 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:07,420 And then I started seeing someone. 173 00:09:07,420 --> 00:09:09,760 That was when it was getting more into the... 174 00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:13,700 Like they were more understanding too of open relationships. 175 00:09:13,700 --> 00:09:20,240 At first, because we were still young and we started dating and stuff, but I was never 176 00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:22,600 fully committed to in this relationship anyways. 177 00:09:22,600 --> 00:09:24,840 It was just like, yeah, it's fun. 178 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:29,040 I enjoyed the time we spent together, but I never saw it as a serious relationship. 179 00:09:29,040 --> 00:09:30,800 And they the same. 180 00:09:30,800 --> 00:09:35,720 And for them, they were also exploring the world of non-monogamy too. 181 00:09:35,720 --> 00:09:39,480 I did meet somebody else at the same time and they also met somebody else at the same 182 00:09:39,480 --> 00:09:41,840 time and it was great. 183 00:09:41,840 --> 00:09:46,520 So that was when I was like, okay, this is more of the field of the world of dating that 184 00:09:46,520 --> 00:09:48,600 I'd be more into. 185 00:09:48,600 --> 00:09:49,600 It didn't work out. 186 00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:53,160 We kind of drifted apart again. 187 00:09:53,160 --> 00:09:55,820 And then I was single for a while. 188 00:09:55,820 --> 00:09:58,120 I was more focusing on just me. 189 00:09:58,120 --> 00:10:02,760 And then since then, all the relations that I've been with, it's very... 190 00:10:02,760 --> 00:10:09,580 It was very clear to myself that it's not a monogamous. 191 00:10:09,580 --> 00:10:15,820 And so when I did go meet people and go on dates and stuff, I was very clear with that. 192 00:10:15,820 --> 00:10:20,520 But I also then learned some people say they want to try it. 193 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:21,840 Absolutely amazing. 194 00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:25,200 But then sometimes they get a little bit too involved. 195 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:28,680 I'm still aware of what my intentions were. 196 00:10:28,680 --> 00:10:32,760 Their intentions were like, yeah, I can try this, but then realize, oh, I can't do this. 197 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:34,200 I'm still going to be dating other people. 198 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:39,000 If you're not going to be okay with that, then maybe we should talk about this. 199 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:41,920 And Liz was like, yeah, okay. 200 00:10:41,920 --> 00:10:44,840 And then since then, definitely more people. 201 00:10:44,840 --> 00:10:49,680 Now more people are on the same boat of like, okay, yes, they're also non-monogamous. 202 00:10:49,680 --> 00:10:53,560 They have other partners too, and for me, and I have my own. 203 00:10:53,560 --> 00:10:54,960 It's working out better now. 204 00:10:54,960 --> 00:11:00,080 How did you come to this conclusion that you were non-monogamous? 205 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:03,080 Because it sounds like you've been doing it for a long time. 206 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:08,160 Since your first or second serious, I guess serious, let's call it serious, it's longer 207 00:11:08,160 --> 00:11:09,320 than six months. 208 00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:12,800 You moved in at some point. 209 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:15,520 How did you figure this out about yourself? 210 00:11:15,520 --> 00:11:18,760 And yeah, can you tell me more about it? 211 00:11:18,760 --> 00:11:23,840 I'm a pretty independent person, I would say. 212 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:25,080 I know a lot of people are friends. 213 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:28,080 They're very codependent on their partner, and that's what they need. 214 00:11:28,080 --> 00:11:31,320 And that's, I'm like, absolutely, yes, you do need your person to be with you. 215 00:11:31,320 --> 00:11:36,040 And I want your person to be there, because I know that's when you thrive the best. 216 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:42,240 And for me, I know if I'm going somewhere, I thrive the best when I'm solo. 217 00:11:42,240 --> 00:11:45,480 Yeah, I don't know. 218 00:11:45,480 --> 00:11:50,840 At first I thought maybe it was the partner that I was with that I was just kind of like, 219 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:53,280 oh, how do I explain this? 220 00:11:53,280 --> 00:11:55,240 I'm going to tell you a story. 221 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:58,160 Tell me a story. 222 00:11:58,160 --> 00:12:02,440 So our group of friends, we have a core group of friends from high school. 223 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:07,320 We would go to like a cabin, like someone's cabin, a family cabin all the time. 224 00:12:07,320 --> 00:12:09,180 And whenever we went, it was the best. 225 00:12:09,180 --> 00:12:14,040 And I would usually go when I'm single and everyone else is bringing their partners and 226 00:12:14,040 --> 00:12:15,040 stuff. 227 00:12:15,040 --> 00:12:17,320 And then there were times where I was dating those people. 228 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:20,520 And then if you know what, they're going to come along too. 229 00:12:20,520 --> 00:12:23,980 I never enjoyed those trips as much. 230 00:12:23,980 --> 00:12:30,080 I enjoy my time on the island, on the cabin, when I can do my own thing and not have to, 231 00:12:30,080 --> 00:12:34,360 you know, think of something else or somebody else or something. 232 00:12:34,360 --> 00:12:35,640 I'm like, yeah, I'll do it. 233 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:38,440 But it's also like, it's just a different trip. 234 00:12:38,440 --> 00:12:43,160 Yeah, I guess it was just always my understanding growing up. 235 00:12:43,160 --> 00:12:48,560 Being in a serious relationship with somebody was never really something that I've thought 236 00:12:48,560 --> 00:12:53,500 about or craved or wanted. 237 00:12:53,500 --> 00:12:54,880 Some people think this is like a bummer. 238 00:12:54,880 --> 00:13:00,200 But for me, it's like it's what I grew up with was like, you're going to you're born 239 00:13:00,200 --> 00:13:01,200 alone. 240 00:13:01,200 --> 00:13:04,280 Kind of like we're born, but you're always going to die alone anyways. 241 00:13:04,280 --> 00:13:09,320 I put myself first for everything when it comes to like what makes me happy. 242 00:13:09,320 --> 00:13:15,640 For me, it's like I am in a way of like eventually like when I do girls and I die and stuff, 243 00:13:15,640 --> 00:13:22,400 it's like I put me first of like, hey, like you want to make sure you're happy with yourself 244 00:13:22,400 --> 00:13:27,780 and you don't need somebody else to kind of be there to make you satisfied with your life. 245 00:13:27,780 --> 00:13:31,320 So that was, I don't know, that was one of the things that I had. 246 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:32,480 No, it's good. 247 00:13:32,480 --> 00:13:38,980 I think being able to enjoy your time alone and be independent and do your own things 248 00:13:38,980 --> 00:13:39,980 are so important. 249 00:13:39,980 --> 00:13:46,480 And especially the older I get, like the more I meet someone, if they don't give independent 250 00:13:46,480 --> 00:13:49,000 vibes right away, I'm like, you know what? 251 00:13:49,000 --> 00:13:51,000 You have some self-growing to do. 252 00:13:51,000 --> 00:14:00,440 So then how does like dating factor into your life? 253 00:14:00,440 --> 00:14:04,520 You are independent, living your best life, doing your own thing. 254 00:14:04,520 --> 00:14:06,360 You've got your friends groups. 255 00:14:06,360 --> 00:14:07,360 Yeah. 256 00:14:07,360 --> 00:14:10,680 What, why and how does this fit with you? 257 00:14:10,680 --> 00:14:15,720 I mean, it's always like to have fun. 258 00:14:15,720 --> 00:14:20,360 I'm a very, I do like my physicals, my physical touch. 259 00:14:20,360 --> 00:14:22,200 I'm like in all those things. 260 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:25,160 And yeah, I would say I have a pretty high sex drive. 261 00:14:25,160 --> 00:14:31,920 So I think when it comes to that world of satisfaction and pleasure, I'm like, yeah, 262 00:14:31,920 --> 00:14:40,600 I've definitely, that's why I would seek partner or partners because that's what I want. 263 00:14:40,600 --> 00:14:44,160 And the same, I guess for others too. 264 00:14:44,160 --> 00:14:49,920 Is this more like a hookup culture or is this dating culture? 265 00:14:49,920 --> 00:14:50,920 Hmm. 266 00:14:50,920 --> 00:14:53,120 More of a hookup culture. 267 00:14:53,120 --> 00:15:00,480 Dating, if it were to be dating, like I also won't say like, I'm never going to be a serious 268 00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:01,480 dating person. 269 00:15:01,480 --> 00:15:04,240 Like that is still absolutely an option. 270 00:15:04,240 --> 00:15:09,640 If that happens, if that comes, if that, you know, if the pieces fall and stuff, then absolutely. 271 00:15:09,640 --> 00:15:14,440 Like I'm not going to be like, no, I'm not going to do that. 272 00:15:14,440 --> 00:15:20,720 But like as for now, like with when I can date and stuff, then yeah, like this is more 273 00:15:20,720 --> 00:15:26,400 in line of what my desires and interests are. 274 00:15:26,400 --> 00:15:27,400 Yeah. 275 00:15:27,400 --> 00:15:31,520 So like for, I guess the big part would just be, yeah, like I do have like a physical side 276 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:33,400 where I do like to have that fulfilled. 277 00:15:33,400 --> 00:15:39,760 And then when it comes to dating and stuff, like going with people to things like, yeah, 278 00:15:39,760 --> 00:15:45,920 I like going on dates. 279 00:15:45,920 --> 00:15:50,000 I think it's pretty, like I still like doing activities. 280 00:15:50,000 --> 00:15:51,240 Don't get me wrong. 281 00:15:51,240 --> 00:15:53,640 And it's nice to do it with somebody. 282 00:15:53,640 --> 00:15:54,720 Yeah. 283 00:15:54,720 --> 00:15:58,160 And there are some things where like it is nice to kind of share and meet people and 284 00:15:58,160 --> 00:16:02,560 you know, going on dates is still fun. 285 00:16:02,560 --> 00:16:03,560 Don't get me wrong. 286 00:16:03,560 --> 00:16:04,560 Like 287 00:16:04,560 --> 00:16:08,760 Have you noticed a change now that you've crossed the threshold from dating in your 288 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:12,400 twenties to dating in your now that you're 30? 289 00:16:12,400 --> 00:16:17,400 You know, the biggest change I actually was talking about this with people, the biggest 290 00:16:17,400 --> 00:16:22,640 difference is when I am dating, the biggest difference that's coming into play are kids. 291 00:16:22,640 --> 00:16:31,800 Because now that people in their thirties, more people have kids now, like babies. 292 00:16:31,800 --> 00:16:38,400 And or like, this is just, this is just from the pool that I'm currently interacting with, 293 00:16:38,400 --> 00:16:42,680 but they all seem to be like moms. 294 00:16:42,680 --> 00:16:46,000 Are you sleeping with moms? 295 00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:48,000 Yes. 296 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:50,000 What? 297 00:16:50,000 --> 00:16:58,240 Or just like the, the, the, or the question of like, would you date somebody that has 298 00:16:58,240 --> 00:16:59,240 a kid? 299 00:16:59,240 --> 00:17:02,880 That seems to be more of a, a frequent question now. 300 00:17:02,880 --> 00:17:06,560 Because before it's like when you're in your twenties, kids were never a factor. 301 00:17:06,560 --> 00:17:09,480 You know, like maybe another partner, sure. 302 00:17:09,480 --> 00:17:11,000 But the kids were never really a factor. 303 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:13,800 But as people get older, like, yeah, they're going to have babies. 304 00:17:13,800 --> 00:17:14,800 Right. 305 00:17:14,800 --> 00:17:15,800 You know, they do. 306 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:22,400 And whether it's, you know, they were, they were young and they had a kid with whoever 307 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:29,440 they had, you know, was it whatever happened, but they have a child now, or it's they have 308 00:17:29,440 --> 00:17:33,880 a child, they have a family, but they're also wanting to explore the sexuality and their 309 00:17:33,880 --> 00:17:36,800 partners more like, yeah, okay, go ahead. 310 00:17:36,800 --> 00:17:37,800 Try that. 311 00:17:37,800 --> 00:17:40,760 I was like, okay. 312 00:17:40,760 --> 00:17:41,880 I'm intrigued. 313 00:17:41,880 --> 00:17:44,760 I have yet to like, well, that's not true. 314 00:17:44,760 --> 00:17:53,080 I did sleep with one mom, but to really see someone like on a dating app who is also a 315 00:17:53,080 --> 00:17:54,080 parent. 316 00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:55,080 Yeah. 317 00:17:55,080 --> 00:17:58,720 And I'm coming across those a little bit, a little bit more. 318 00:17:58,720 --> 00:18:02,000 So those, that would be like a main difference that I'm seeing now. 319 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:06,760 Are there any other differences you notice? 320 00:18:06,760 --> 00:18:14,600 I guess now being in the thirties, age is more of a, something that I clue into more 321 00:18:14,600 --> 00:18:20,440 when someone is super young, but super young now is a different age before like dating 322 00:18:20,440 --> 00:18:24,600 someone who's like 19, 20, 21, when I was in the twenties. 323 00:18:24,600 --> 00:18:26,040 Sure. 324 00:18:26,040 --> 00:18:32,440 But now that I'm in my thirties, dating someone that's 21, we're in different life stages. 325 00:18:32,440 --> 00:18:33,440 Does that make sense? 326 00:18:33,440 --> 00:18:34,440 Yeah, totally. 327 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:35,440 I agree. 328 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:36,440 Yeah. 329 00:18:36,440 --> 00:18:37,440 Okay. 330 00:18:37,440 --> 00:18:38,800 They could be still in school. 331 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:40,360 They could just be finishing up school. 332 00:18:40,360 --> 00:18:45,840 They could be just entering like the work world, just maturity levels. 333 00:18:45,840 --> 00:18:47,360 Yeah. 334 00:18:47,360 --> 00:18:50,800 I found like the younger ones. 335 00:18:50,800 --> 00:18:54,440 And also when you think of it, when someone's 23, they're born in 2000. 336 00:18:54,440 --> 00:18:55,440 Right? 337 00:18:55,440 --> 00:18:56,440 That's unreal. 338 00:18:56,440 --> 00:19:03,240 So, I mean like 23, like there doesn't sound like a young age, but it doesn't sound like 339 00:19:03,240 --> 00:19:04,240 an old age. 340 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:07,240 But it's also when you think like, okay, if you think about it, that they were born in 341 00:19:07,240 --> 00:19:11,680 2000, that makes it like, okay, hold on one second. 342 00:19:11,680 --> 00:19:13,880 They're born in 2000. 343 00:19:13,880 --> 00:19:17,000 Can I ask what is your dating range set to? 344 00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:18,000 What ages? 345 00:19:18,000 --> 00:19:23,880 Ooh, I think I have, I think it's like 21, 22. 346 00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:27,040 Because there are some people that are still mature for their age, sure. 347 00:19:27,040 --> 00:19:32,480 And then I think my range for the high up is like 40, 45? 348 00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:37,120 45 I think. 349 00:19:37,120 --> 00:19:40,120 How old is the oldest person you've gone on a date with? 350 00:19:40,120 --> 00:19:46,880 I can guarantee the number for 36 or 37. 351 00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:53,480 There are people that I have, but I didn't ask them their age. 352 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:55,080 Did you meet them on an app or just out? 353 00:19:55,080 --> 00:19:58,440 No, on the dance floor. 354 00:19:58,440 --> 00:19:59,440 So I don't know. 355 00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:05,760 It was like, it was a go, okay, well, also I have a terminology of put it in the ranks 356 00:20:05,760 --> 00:20:07,160 for me. 357 00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:10,860 Going out, seeing somebody and dating. 358 00:20:10,860 --> 00:20:14,840 How would you rank them in the order of like seriousness? 359 00:20:14,840 --> 00:20:21,820 I think for me, I would say going out is like, oh, unless we're talking like middle school 360 00:20:21,820 --> 00:20:22,820 going out. 361 00:20:22,820 --> 00:20:28,760 Like, are we talking going out like once on the dance floor or like going out? 362 00:20:28,760 --> 00:20:29,760 That's tricky. 363 00:20:29,760 --> 00:20:31,040 Those are different things, right? 364 00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:32,960 But like, and everyone has their differently. 365 00:20:32,960 --> 00:20:38,400 But okay, if I had to like, for me, going out is like the lowest, most casual for me. 366 00:20:38,400 --> 00:20:43,080 Just like you go out going out, going out, hanging out, going out, seeing somebody and 367 00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:44,500 dating. 368 00:20:44,500 --> 00:20:48,320 Those two are like, some people always flip those two. 369 00:20:48,320 --> 00:20:57,360 I think again, this, I think context is key here because if I say that I'm seeing someone, 370 00:20:57,360 --> 00:21:02,880 it implies that I'm seeing them on a regular basis and that we have established some sort 371 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:05,200 of relationship. 372 00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:11,400 Right now, I would say I'm dating, but what I really mean is I'm dating around. 373 00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:18,360 I'm dating everyone who wants to go on dates with me and I have not seen one person like 374 00:21:18,360 --> 00:21:19,640 more than once. 375 00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:20,640 It's just I'm dating. 376 00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:23,600 I'm in the dating pool. 377 00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:24,600 What about for you? 378 00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:27,520 I would flip the two. 379 00:21:27,520 --> 00:21:31,240 So for me, like I'm seeing somebody is more just like, but for me, it's like I'm just 380 00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:34,600 seeing them once or twice. 381 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:36,440 It's not like the, yeah. 382 00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:42,760 And then dating would be like, oh, I'm dating this person is more serious, I guess. 383 00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:46,920 And just, that's how I perceived it. 384 00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:50,160 Do you talk about, well, let me ask this question first. 385 00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:56,160 Do you have other friends around you who are also dating slash seeing people slash going 386 00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:58,320 out, whatever it is. 387 00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:02,340 That's another difference in the thirties in my friend group. 388 00:22:02,340 --> 00:22:10,480 One is either in a long term serious committed relationship, engaged or married. 389 00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:13,720 And they're, they're now entering the world of babies now as well. 390 00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:19,040 There's like two of my friends just had their babies like within there are like two blitz 391 00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:20,040 right now. 392 00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:28,360 So yeah, so my friend group, they're all in serious relationships. 393 00:22:28,360 --> 00:22:33,800 No one, so yeah, no one is really, no one's single. 394 00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:37,120 Does that make you the hot single friend? 395 00:22:37,120 --> 00:22:38,120 They always like my stories. 396 00:22:38,120 --> 00:22:40,520 They always like to live through me. 397 00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:42,320 They like to hear what's going on. 398 00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:45,920 So yes. 399 00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:54,760 How is that for you to be the only one like in your friend group who is not doing those 400 00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:55,760 things? 401 00:22:55,760 --> 00:23:02,440 So follow up side question, I guess, are all of your friends like heteronormative? 402 00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:09,880 Most are one friend, two are, I guess, two females. 403 00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:11,200 They have a baby. 404 00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:13,720 One guy, actually there is one guy. 405 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:16,640 He is single and dating. 406 00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:27,680 He's bi and the rest majority of the other eight, I guess, are all in hetero relationships. 407 00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:28,680 Yeah. 408 00:23:28,680 --> 00:23:31,080 What was your first question again? 409 00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:35,600 I asked you how it is to be like the only single one among your friends. 410 00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:37,080 You said they're living through you. 411 00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:39,600 Oh, how do I feel about that or something? 412 00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:40,600 Like being like the only single? 413 00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:44,040 Yeah, like how does it, yeah, how does it make you feel to be like the single one in 414 00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:45,280 that group? 415 00:23:45,280 --> 00:23:48,120 I don't really realize it. 416 00:23:48,120 --> 00:23:51,280 I mean, I think it's fun. 417 00:23:51,280 --> 00:23:53,040 I'm still having, I'm enjoying the time. 418 00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:59,280 So do I feel pressured to, you know, settle down on stuff? 419 00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:00,280 No. 420 00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:06,200 Yeah, I think they all like see it the same way too, because they understand like my, 421 00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:08,400 they've all seen my relationships. 422 00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:12,320 They've seen me the highs and lows and they know where I am now in my life and my career 423 00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:13,320 and stuff. 424 00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:18,400 Like I'm enjoying life right now. 425 00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:19,560 Yeah. 426 00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:21,320 I like the no strings attached. 427 00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:22,320 I'm going somewhere. 428 00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:23,320 I have the freedom. 429 00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:28,600 I don't have to think about or worry about or check in with somebody all the time. 430 00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:38,240 It's like, no, I can just, for me, I like to just fall off the grid and just boom, bye. 431 00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:42,920 I guess I'm still trying to figure out from my own mental gymnastics how many people you're 432 00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:43,920 dating. 433 00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:46,160 But if I asked you, who are you dating right now? 434 00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:47,160 What would you say? 435 00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:49,040 See, that's what we're at. 436 00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:52,800 So when you say dating, that's my term. 437 00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:56,080 I don't say it dating because dating is high up there. 438 00:24:56,080 --> 00:24:58,280 Who am I like seeing hanging out? 439 00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:07,360 I guess right now there's two people, but it's the different part is that, you know 440 00:25:07,360 --> 00:25:10,280 how I said they travel right now. 441 00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:15,200 It's like someone's down in the States with their partner situation, but we're still in 442 00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:16,200 touch. 443 00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:21,400 But they're in the background right now versus when someone's in Vancouver or in the city, 444 00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:23,680 they're more in the foreground. 445 00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:29,080 I guess I'm supposed to like, so I don't know if that answers your question. 446 00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:30,080 Who am I seeing? 447 00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:32,080 How many people am I seeing? 448 00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:33,080 Two, three? 449 00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:34,080 I don't know. 450 00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:35,080 It'll be different next month. 451 00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:40,360 Like in May, I have people coming up, like someone coming up from California. 452 00:25:40,360 --> 00:25:41,360 That's somebody else. 453 00:25:41,360 --> 00:25:44,200 So it's like, it's hard to give it a number. 454 00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:45,200 Okay. 455 00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:52,120 Let me ask you, what do you find the most enjoyable about seeing people hanging out 456 00:25:52,120 --> 00:25:57,440 with people in a more than friendship way, let's say? 457 00:25:57,440 --> 00:25:58,440 Can we define it like that? 458 00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:04,600 I mean, the conversations are always interesting because as we get older, we're more open with 459 00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:07,440 what we like and what we don't like and like, and everything. 460 00:26:07,440 --> 00:26:12,400 So I guess like, you know, the conversations are always fun, but it's always like the activities 461 00:26:12,400 --> 00:26:15,080 of whatever we're doing. 462 00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:19,560 Whether it's like playing tour guide in the city again and kind of exploring things and 463 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:24,360 just being able to have like funny conversations, being really free flowing. 464 00:26:24,360 --> 00:26:30,720 And I guess for me, a big part is like, I smoke a lot of weed. 465 00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:31,720 And so that's a big part. 466 00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:35,120 Like, I don't know, like for me, it's, you know, people will go out for drinks and stuff, 467 00:26:35,120 --> 00:26:36,120 right? 468 00:26:36,120 --> 00:26:38,400 Like socialize to go out for a drink, but for me, I don't drink. 469 00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:40,880 But I smoke a lot of weed. 470 00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:46,320 And so when that happens, when we go on these smoke walks and we end up at places, it's 471 00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:52,440 just kind of, I get very adventurous and outgoing when these dates happen. 472 00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:59,120 So I, honestly, I don't know what happens, but it's usually a good time. 473 00:26:59,120 --> 00:27:01,120 So the fun and the spontaneity. 474 00:27:01,120 --> 00:27:02,120 Yeah. 475 00:27:02,120 --> 00:27:04,600 And I love how you just called it a smoke walk. 476 00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:08,040 I have never once thought to invite someone for a smoke walk. 477 00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:09,600 I love smoke walks. 478 00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:14,080 It's a super simple thing, but when you're on a smoke walk, everything is elevated and 479 00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:17,160 you just get more appreciative of where you are. 480 00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:20,000 And if they're down with it too, like they also see it too. 481 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:24,480 And sometimes they're like, damn, like I never, they see things differently a little bit when 482 00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:28,760 you slow it down and you kind of, I don't know, I'm very appreciative when I go on things. 483 00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:30,240 So I like that. 484 00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:31,240 Okay. 485 00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:35,440 What do you find the most challenging about dating? 486 00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:42,040 I guess when it comes to the world of the dating apps, the challenging part is that 487 00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:44,080 commitment to actually meet up. 488 00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:49,040 Yeah, I guess it's like friend and suss out like, Hey, is this actually going to be like, 489 00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:52,200 are we actually going to find the time to hang out, meet up? 490 00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:54,320 Scheduling is always different. 491 00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:56,780 I feel like there's a time, there is a, there is a window. 492 00:27:56,780 --> 00:28:00,160 There's a time when like a timeframe when you are on these dating apps. 493 00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:05,480 Sometimes that conversation, if it's like, okay, you meet, you meet, you connect, you 494 00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:08,560 figure out a time, like a date or something. 495 00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:09,560 That's awesome. 496 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:14,800 But if you, if it's too long, it's too much, not no sustenance conversation, it's just 497 00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:16,800 going to fizzle out. 498 00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:24,560 And if you don't have that time to go in and actually meet up, um, then that's difficult. 499 00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:28,280 And I guess for me, it'd just be like scheduling wise, right? 500 00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:36,160 The side one is now that I've learned is, uh, when it comes to the world of, uh, moms 501 00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:42,680 and kids is you have to, they have, there's a babysitter now, now they have to come into 502 00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:44,200 play. 503 00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:46,760 There's a third person, right? 504 00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:48,560 You can't just believe. 505 00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:50,240 And for me, I'm a very spontaneous person. 506 00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:51,240 I'm like, Hey, let's meet up. 507 00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:55,900 No, I can't anymore because it's like, Oh, there's a third person that I have to think 508 00:28:55,900 --> 00:28:59,360 about on the background, which is the babysitter. 509 00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:02,160 That sounds like a challenge to me. 510 00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:04,000 Can I ask when is your next date? 511 00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:05,280 Do you want to call it? 512 00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:07,880 Do you call them dates if you're not dating them? 513 00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:10,640 Yeah, I'd say it's more of a hangout. 514 00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:13,720 I'm a very casual person when it comes to that. 515 00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:15,520 It's more of a hangout. 516 00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:24,320 Um, it's supposed to be tomorrow, kind of, but I kind of have other plans that I would 517 00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:27,320 rather do right now in Vancouver. 518 00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:28,480 It's getting sunnier now. 519 00:29:28,480 --> 00:29:32,680 It's beach season for me on all of my days off. 520 00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:35,200 I go down to this beach, rec beach. 521 00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:36,560 It's a nude beach. 522 00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:37,560 It's a great place. 523 00:29:37,560 --> 00:29:39,240 It's just a really fun beach. 524 00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:45,000 Like rec beach is like my happy place and the sun's out this weekend and everyone's, 525 00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:49,880 it's going to be like, everyone's going to be coming back down to the beach after a winter 526 00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:54,240 season and it's going to be, it's so that's my plan for tomorrow. 527 00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:58,960 So, and if she wants to come over whenever she can, because usually I think she has to 528 00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:02,640 wait till the baby goes or till the kid goes down, like goes to sleep before she can come 529 00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:03,640 out. 530 00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:04,640 Yeah. 531 00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:05,840 So it's out there. 532 00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:08,880 I said where I'll be if she wants to come join me. 533 00:30:08,880 --> 00:30:09,880 Absolutely. 534 00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:12,680 If not, yeah, I'll be down on the beach. 535 00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:18,000 So that's the plan that they said they want to come over, but I'm like, well, if you want 536 00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:19,000 to, sure. 537 00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:20,000 If not, no. 538 00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:29,480 Do you have any advice or words of wisdom you want to leave listeners with about dating 539 00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:33,480 or seeing people slash hanging out? 540 00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:37,240 A philosophy. 541 00:30:37,240 --> 00:30:40,080 Do you have like a dating philosophy or approach? 542 00:30:40,080 --> 00:30:44,920 I don't have a dating philosophy, but I do have a question, like a big question I like 543 00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:45,920 asking people. 544 00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:46,920 Okay. 545 00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:49,400 It's a hypothetical. 546 00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:54,120 Right now in your life for two million dollars. 547 00:30:54,120 --> 00:30:55,240 Okay. 548 00:30:55,240 --> 00:31:00,000 Right now for 365 days, you ghost everybody in your life. 549 00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:01,360 You are off the grid. 550 00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:05,400 You cannot connect to anybody in your life for 365 days. 551 00:31:05,400 --> 00:31:07,880 No contact, no communication, nothing left behind. 552 00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:08,880 You're just gone. 553 00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:11,040 You can go off into the jungle, into your own happy world. 554 00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:14,800 You are still fine, but you just cannot contact anybody. 555 00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:20,080 But when you come back, you get that two million dollars and you can share everything. 556 00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:24,080 You can tell them, by the way, I'm sorry, I'm fine. 557 00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:28,440 I was gone for a year, but I had to do it for two million dollars. 558 00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:31,960 Would you do it? 559 00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:34,960 Right now just pick up and leave and ghost. 560 00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:41,400 They'd probably think I was dead. 561 00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:42,400 I don't know though. 562 00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:48,880 The problem with me is I'm not so driven by money. 563 00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:49,880 I like my friends. 564 00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:55,040 I like my life. 565 00:31:55,040 --> 00:31:56,040 So you wouldn't do it? 566 00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:57,040 I don't think so. 567 00:31:57,040 --> 00:32:01,920 I would be worried like my grandma would have a heart attack and then she would die and 568 00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:09,040 then I'd miss the funeral and people would be pretty pissed if I just up and ghosted 569 00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:12,080 and left all my shit everywhere. 570 00:32:12,080 --> 00:32:13,080 Would you do it? 571 00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:14,080 Yeah. 572 00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:20,560 When I was asked that question, right away I was like, yes. 573 00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:22,360 Because this is true independence. 574 00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:23,360 Yeah. 575 00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:25,160 I'll be like, yeah. 576 00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:27,720 And it's like, yeah, it's only a year. 577 00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:32,720 It can be a while, but it's a year and you come back and during that year you're fine. 578 00:32:32,720 --> 00:32:37,640 And yes, you might have, your parents might worry, your grandma might worry. 579 00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:44,120 I don't know, for me, I guess my independence in life so far is pretty dependent that they'll 580 00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:47,120 probably like, oh, she's probably off doing something. 581 00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:49,760 She'll be back. 582 00:32:49,760 --> 00:32:51,400 I'm going to ask that one from now on. 583 00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:54,920 It's a good one because it shares a lot, I guess. 584 00:32:54,920 --> 00:32:58,520 I don't know if you are dating someone that is dating somebody else. 585 00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:00,600 It might be a different situation. 586 00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:07,800 Because a lot of times it's their partner that they, it's their partner that is, who 587 00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:10,880 they worry about the most. 588 00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:15,880 It's like a character question but phrased as a game show or something. 589 00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:16,880 Yeah. 590 00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:18,880 I like that. 591 00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:21,680 But yeah, dating advice, I don't know. 592 00:33:21,680 --> 00:33:25,120 Be open, be funny, be spontaneous. 593 00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:32,280 That's my thing. 594 00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:35,280 All right, that was episode one. 595 00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:42,720 If you liked it, please metaphorically swipe right or super like, say yes, that is subscribe 596 00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:43,720 wherever you listen. 597 00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:47,400 We'll be back in a couple of weeks with episode two. 598 00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:53,840 In the meantime, tell your friends, keep going on dates, keep sharing your stories and I'm 599 00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:58,080 looking forward to seeing you here next time. 600 00:33:58,080 --> 00:34:00,880 Dating Log is recorded and hosted by me, Wyndon Juneau. 601 00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:03,040 It is produced by Harry Dark. 602 00:34:03,040 --> 00:34:06,520 You can follow us on Instagram at datinglogpodcast. 603 00:34:06,520 --> 00:34:08,560 Our website is datinglogpodcast.com. 604 00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:13,640 And if you have any feedback or perhaps know someone who I should interview, please go 605 00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:17,480 ahead and send me an email at datinglogpodcast.gmail.com. 606 00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:23,360 Lastly, smash that subscribe button wherever you listen and please don't ghost us.