What is up everybody and welcome back to another episode of the Young in Love Podcast.
A podcast where being young in love has absolutely nothing this zero to do with your age, but
instead has all to do with your maturity, your growth in your experience in love over time.
My name is Darius Covington.
I am the host of this podcast.
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Most of the clips do go viral on Tick Tock.
Ninety five percent of the time.
And that's what leads people to the podcast here.
I appreciate you all following through and coming over here wherever you're watching
and hanging out with me for these next twenty five, thirty, forty, forty five minutes.
It is it is truly it's really amazing.
It is truly I am truly grateful for for all of it.
As you can tell by the title today, we are talking about one of the videos that actually
went viral.
And I'll give you a backstory to the video that I'll insert real quick right here.
There's a backstory to that video.
One day I was walking through the mall and really just trying to figure out what I was
doing with my content over on Tick Tock.
A lot of you know me in the beginning, I was doing a lot of normalizing ministration kind
of videos, learning about ministration as a man, experiencing or trying my best to experience
and go through the challenges that a lot of women faced with, whether it be period struggles,
pink tax, the list goes on and on.
So I did all of those things and I was trying to figure out what the next strand of my podcast
or excuse me, next strand of my content was going to be.
That was great.
I enjoyed it, but I felt like there was more that I had to offer not to the world, but
just more, more creativity, more wisdom that I had to offer.
Then one day I was walking through the mall and I felt like the Lord spoke to me and told
me to start this short series podcast on Tick Tock.
And he gave me the first, you know, the first snippet that he gave me was is that oftentimes
he hears our tears and we don't ever have to utter the words, but just be just through
those tears.
God's able to translate those tears into words.
And I wrote my notes because I don't want to just be doing things just to waste time.
So I wrote my notes and said, I'll do it.
If it gets 20,000 views in seven days, I will, I will continue to do this podcasting thing.
I already had all the equipment that I bought.
I think last year, because I knew I knew I was going to do a podcast eventually.
I used to walk around at work during my break.
I walk outside of what lap the building and I would just be having a conversation with
myself, imagining I was on this podcast.
Hello.
Hello, strange.
And here we are.
So seven days I posted that video and in a couple of hours it had 20,000 views and in
seven days it had, I think it was 1.7 million views that it had at that time.
I think now it's at 2 million something.
And then video since then have have also run their way up the ranks.
And so that moment there and so that moment there was obviously the video goes for just
a few seconds and then after I finished saying what I'm saying, the video cuts off.
But right after that video cut off, you see me glance out the window and then the video
cuts up, but I glance out the window and just started to think about the prayers that I
had that were once tears that God had eventually heard.
Or I think that God was hearing the entire time.
And I think that in the right season, in the right time, and God was able to process or
to manifest the blessings that were supposed to be attached to those miracles.
But for a long, I remember for a long time, there were a lot of prayers that I had that
I didn't verbalize because some I just didn't know how to verbalize others.
I didn't feel were important enough to verbalize.
But even those tears, even those those prayers, even those small those things that seem small
to me, God heard those things and translated them on my behalf.
And I think there's and I think that there is something to say about a God who cares
enough about our tears to even listen to just those.
You know, because I like to often say that if I was God, we would be terrible.
I mean, I would.
The fact that like he made it, he gave us two eyes, two legs, two arms, two ears, a
mouth, a nose, and they function like I even think about just as simple as eyebrows.
Like they say eyebrows are there because they block the sweat from coming into your eye.
Man, you're not getting no eyebrows.
The way I'll be acting out here, you know, I get you ever seen you ever been on Twitter?
The way I'll be acting on Twitter, you're not getting no dag on eyebrows, not giving
them to your legs.
You're not getting those.
I'm put a leg on the side of your hip, one leg on the side of your hip, the other leg
where it's supposed to be now figure out how you're going to walk.
You know, I would everybody would be discombobulated.
But the fact that God is gracious enough to us to have given us our bodies to function
in a way that makes sense and then on top of that.
And then on top of that, to incline to our prayers on top of that, to hear the things
that we pray.
And then on top of that, that even in the even in the times when we don't have enough
energy, we don't have enough words, we don't have enough faith.
To verbalize what our prayers are that he and all we have are tears to give.
All we have is moaning and groaning to give that even in that that God hears the moaning
and the groaning that God sees the tears and he's able to translate them into prayers on
our behalf.
That's crazy to me.
That's insane to me.
If you want to know what love is for me, that's love.
That's love.
Carrying, caring enough, caring enough for me is love.
And the fact that God cares enough about our lives to see us when he cannot hear us.
That for me does it.
That does it.
It does it for me.
It does more than enough for me.
But before before we jump into this podcast episode, I we usually would play a game, but
I want to ask you all a question, a very honest question.
How y'all doing today?
How y'all doing this week?
This will be posted on a Monday.
So it's at the top of a new week.
But how in these past seven days, how have you been in these past seven days alone?
Tomorrow is June 5th.
How are you doing?
How are you doing emotionally?
How are you doing physically?
How are you doing spiritually?
How are you doing mentally?
If you're on a platform where you're able to comment down below, comment down below.
Let me know how you been.
Yeah, I think sometimes in life, how are you is such a passing greeting that people ask
us how we're doing.
And we naturally just respond and say good, even when the truth that is not that even
when the truth is something else, I don't think that we take enough time.
I think it has become such a repetitive and such a greeting question that we don't answer
it truthfully.
And I think that we also haven't taken the time to understand the importance of us sitting
down and asking ourselves, looking at ourselves in the mirror and asking ourselves, how are
you doing?
How are you doing?
How are you feeling?
How's it working for you?
I think that those are important questions that we need to ask ourselves.
And I'm curious, I'm concerned and I'm curious.
I want you to answer it to yourself, but also let us know down in the comments section.
How are you doing?
Let's let that be our weekly check in.
But however you are feeling, whether it be good, whether it be not that good, know that
whatever you're going through, that you are not going through it alone.
Not only are you not going through it alone, meaning you are not the only person who is
going like history repeats itself.
There is no situation that you can go through the Bible.
The Bible talks about, I'm a paraphrase.
The Bible talks about how there's no situation that we go through.
That's uncommon.
There's no situation.
There's no experience that you're going through that somebody else has not faced.
So you're not alone in that way.
I'm pretty sure there's a friend you can call up.
There's a family member you can dial up.
There's somebody online that you can meet who has gone through this situation.
And when I say gone through, I mean, like they're out of the situation and they're able
to give you advice and give you input.
The answer sometimes is just Google away to find out what the solution is.
But whatever you're going through, whatever you're facing this week, whatever you will
be facing in these coming weeks, to know that you are not going through this thing alone,
that of all these seven billion people in this world, that there is somebody else who
has faced this exact same situation that you're going through.
And they've been able to find the light at the end of the tunnel.
And so how important is it?
How important it is for you to know that though you might feel alone, though you might feel
confused of why you have to go through this, why you have to face this issue, why you have
to face this problem, just know that you are not alone.
And going through this, there is somebody walking along trying to figure out the end
to this, just like you are.
There are people who have already gone through this situation, who have found the end.
So be encouraged that there is a light at the end of this tunnel.
There is a solution at the end of this problem.
In this situation that you're going through, no matter how long you've been going through
it, there will come a day where this situation will be behind you, where this test becomes
a testimony, where this mess becomes a miracle.
And when these tears also transform into miracles.
So you're not alone in that aspect, but you're also not alone in the aspect that God is walking
with you.
I love the scripture that talks about how God goes before us.
That is the scripture that I rehearse.
Every situation that I go through, I remind myself that the Lord has already gone before
me, that there's no battle that I have to fight, that God has not already surveyed the
land, that God has not already went and calculated what the enemy's plan is ahead of me.
That every situation that I go through, I'm not alone because God has gone before me.
And even while I'm on my way to that situation, on my way to that problem, God is walking
there with me.
And when I find myself dead smack in the middle of that situation, trying to figure out how
I'm going to make it out of this thing, God is right there alongside with me, walking
me through and walking me to the end of the situation.
But it's up to us to remember that God is with us the entire way through.
I think that oftentimes we can allow our situations to discourage us and to make us think that
we're walking through these situations and these seasons alone.
Because oftentimes it can feel, if we're telling the truth, oftentimes it can feel that we
are walking through these situations along.
Oftentimes it feels the song, nobody told me the world, there's a song that says, nobody
told me that it would be this easy, but I don't believe that you brought me this far.
Oftentimes it sometimes it does feel that God has brought us this far, just dropped
us off.
That's what these negative situations force us to think.
They force us to believe that we're alone, that nobody else in the world has ever gone
through this.
Nobody else in the world has ever made it out of this.
And that also that God is not with us while we're walking through this situation.
But I believe that if God is allowing us, if God is letting us go through it, then it's
because he can trust us to go through it.
Quick story, I recently, I don't know if I told this story already, but I was recently
on my way home from Jersey.
I live in Virginia.
I was on my way home from Jersey.
That was a six and a half hour drive on the way home.
My girlfriend had called me.
We were on the phone and I had stopped at a gas station thing.
So I was trying to get some food real quick.
And when I stopped there, I got back in the car to go home and the car would not start.
The battery had to I'd never had issues with my car battery before.
We're in twenty twenty three.
I got the car brand new in twenty twenty one.
So it is a twenty twenty one.
So I was lost.
I was a little bit confused.
And if I'm honest, I'm about to cry because I live in the middle of nowhere in order to
get into in order to get to the middle of nowhere.
You have to go through the middle of nowhere.
But randomly I turned around and I mean, I was at this gas station for maybe like twenty
five minutes and I turned around and there was a Wal-Mart.
I'd never seen this Wal-Mart the entire time I was there.
Obviously it was there, but I just never seen it.
And being the fact that I go through a lot of the roads that I go through, like I don't
drive on interstates to get home most of the time because the interstate is like an hour
away from this town.
So there's not there's no main highways with main these big stores or whatever.
So there was a Wal-Mart there and.
I was like, whatever.
So I before I went to Wal-Mart, I was asking people, I was like, do you have jumper cables
because my car battery's dead?
I need some help.
Nobody had jumper cables.
If you're a man, put some jumper cables in your car.
Just you'll never know when you're at a gas station and a woman, you know, something happens
to their car.
You wouldn't be able to help her.
So anyway, I went to walk to the Wal-Mart and on my way to the Wal-Mart, I just felt
like something was about to I had these urges very often that something's about to happen.
I never know if it's good or bad.
It doesn't happen every time, but it happens pretty often.
And I had this urge that something was going to happen and I walked into the Wal-Mart and
the auto center was in the back of the store.
You can make a beeline straight to the back of store to get to the auto center from the
door that I walked into.
Instead of doing that, I decided to walk around and then to the back.
And as I'm walking around to the back, I passed these two young people who were my age or
younger between 20 and 25 who were arguing or they just had, they were just having a
discussion that seemed a little bit heated, but the guy was a worker.
The girl was just, you know, some girl.
So I didn't think anything of it and I walked past the aisle and I get maybe two aisles
down and I hear like the scuffling sound of like somebody hitting another person based
on the way that he was talking when I walked past the aisle.
I obviously had to assume that it was him hitting her.
So I turn around real quick because, you know, there's a lot of things that I might play
with.
I don't be playing with don't put your don't put your man hands on a woman.
Turn around real quick to go to the aisle and they were gone.
Right.
But on the next, literally the next aisle over, there was a Walmart associate there
and I went to it.
I said, you don't hear these people on the other side of the aisle fighting.
She was like, no, no, ma'am.
I've been a lot of things in my life.
I had never been dumb.
You hear these people.
If I hear them, my ears are the size of nothing.
They're tiny.
If I hear these people, you hear these people woman.
So I'm like, well, they're fighting.
We got to go fight them.
So we go to the other aisle.
We're like looking down all these aisles and we can't find these people.
So she's like, hold on.
I'll get the store manager who's like right around right around the corner.
This is why I shop at Target.
So we go we go to the we get the lady and I'm like, I think I'm like, I'm pretty sure
I heard a guy and I'm pretty sure I heard this guy hitting this girl, but we don't know
where they went.
And so she's like, hold on.
So she takes off.
She like, you know, walking fast in front of us trying to find them.
And she turns the aisle and like you can hear them scuffling at the like as we're getting
closer, you can hear them scuffling.
She turns the aisle.
She's like, hey, stop that.
And then they both run opposite directions.
I'm trying to figure out where the guy's going.
I think they were trying to figure out where the girl was going.
Somehow we lost both of them, but they knew who the guy was because he worked there.
So whatever.
I go by my jumper cables.
This is what we're talking about.
I go and I buy my jumper cables and I'm walking out and they're like, thank you so much for
your help.
Like, yeah, I go back to the gas station or obviously by the jumper cables, go back to
the gas station on my way walking to the gas station.
What I realized is that even with that thing that seemed so small that God can trust me
with that.
So my car breaking down.
Here's the thing.
My car breaking down was never about me.
It was never about me.
It was never about me having to learn the lesson.
That was not about me.
It was about God being able to use me in this.
It was about God being able to use me as an example in this situation.
It was about God trusting me enough to use me in this situation where you have this woman.
Now whether or not she actually heard what was going on or not is debatable, but I'm
going to stand on the side of the debate that says that she heard what was going on because
I don't even know what she was doing in her aisle, but she was just standing there.
But obviously that would have happened and I don't think that he would have did anything
crazy to her, but who would have intervened had I not been there?
Because when I was there, nobody else was trying to intervene.
You know what I mean?
And so I say all that to say, I went back to my car, literally just put the jumper cables
on the battery and a guy walked up to me and he was like, hey, you need a jump?
And I was like, yeah, please.
I was like, I'll buy you some food if you do it.
He was like, no, you're good.
This just happened to me last week.
His wife pulled the car up.
He put the jumper cables on his car, fixed them up because they were in the wrong spot
on my car, started my car up and I went home.
I didn't have to beg anybody after that.
I didn't have to beg anybody from that point that I came back to help me get a jump.
This guy just walked up to me.
This guy just walked up to me, saw me, saw that I was in need and helped me out.
I say all that to say a lot of the situations that we go through have nothing to do with
us.
A lot of the trauma that we experience have nothing to do with us.
A lot of the things that we go through that might cause us to carry baggage have absolutely
nothing to do with us.
Most times or sometimes it's because God can trust us to go through those things and to
help somebody else out who might not be able to go through it and come out in the same
way that we did.
But if God knows that he can trust you, but if God knows that he can trust you, then God
will use you for situations that might sometimes be great situations.
People might look at you and be like, yeah, I want to be like you.
But I also believe that there are some situations that God, if he can trust you, he might allow
you to go through some dark seasons so that when you come out of that season, he can trust
that you'll give your testimony.
He can trust that you'll help somebody.
He can trust that you'll reach back to people who are going through that same situation
and help bring them out into a better place that you've been able to get to.
And in the situation that we go through where all we have to give are tears and we might
not have any words to give, I believe that God honors the strength of our words.
I believe that God honors the strength of our words because oftentimes praying to God,
most times praying to God, praying to God alone is just a faith thing, but I think that
oftentimes praying to God to help you out of a situation is a faith move.
And I believe that God honors our faith move when they're rooted from a good place.
I believe that God honors our commitment to be faithful to him.
I believe that God honors our commitment to still trust in him, even when in most times
this might be a hard area to trust you in.
I believe that God looks at our situation and he knows our heart and he knows what we're
going through and he knows you're going through the season, it might be a little bit hard
and it might be a little hard to trust me, but when we muster up the words to say to
God, hey, I need you.
Even in this situation, I still believe that you're able, even in this situation, I still
believe that you're faithful.
I believe that God hears those prayers and that he honors it.
I don't believe that that means he'll come right away and get us out because he honored
our commitment.
I believe there is a time and a season for everything and there are certain situations
that we have to go through and certain things that we have to experience for God to bring
us out on the other side.
But I believe that God does honor us when we are able to put those words to gather up
the strength, to muster up the strength and the faith, to actually pray to him when we're
going through these hard situations.
But I also believe that when we don't have the ability to do those, that God lends us
these things called grace and mercy.
And even in our tears, he hears the prayers that our mouths could never utter.
I believe that there are tears that we, I believe that there are tears that we shed
because we don't have the words to pray.
But I also believe that there are tears that we shed because we started a prayer and somewhere
along the line of realizing that this is too much and that I probably don't have enough
faith for this or I've tried to have enough faith for this for so long.
And it's been so hard to keep on to that faith and somewhere along that prayer, we can't
utter any words.
Our tears begin to utter words that our mouths cannot.
I believe that God hears those too and he honors them.
I believe that God sees those tears and he picks up this pen in heaven and he picks up
this book in heaven and he writes out, he transcribes what those tears are saying that
our mouths can never.
I believe that God honors those moments of vulnerability that we submit to him.
So praying oftentimes looks different.
Sometimes I can pray to God and I have a lot of words to give.
Other times I pray to God and I don't have no words.
No matter how hard I try, I can't come up with any words because all I have are just
a bunch of tears to give.
That's why, and I've rehearsed this in my mind all the time, that if you're ever to
ask me a characteristic of God that I love the most, it's that he's a God who hears.
He hears when I have the loudest prayer, when I have the loudest praise, God hears that.
When I have the lowest praise in the room, God hears that too.
When I have the loudest prayer, when I have the loudest sacrifice, the biggest sacrifice,
I believe that yes, God hears that.
But I believe that when I have no words to attach to a prayer, to a moment of prayer,
I believe that God hears the tears, that God hears the hum, he hears the moaning and the
groaning.
He hears the anger and the frustration that I have to give in moments where my words cannot
verbalize what I'm feeling on the inside.
That's why I love that we have the ability to call God our Father because I think a good
father is able to look at their child, a good parent is able to look at their child and
understand what's going on.
My sister, man, y'all people with children, I don't know what kind of books y'all be
reading.
I don't know what y'all be doing.
I don't know how y'all, especially mothers, hear me out.
I don't know how y'all understand the difference between cries.
I don't know how one cry means that your kid is hungry.
The other cry means that they're hot.
The other cry means that they just pooped.
I don't know how y'all able to transcribe those different cries, but I think a good parent
and a parent that pays attention to their child is able to come up with those, is able
to do that.
But I think in the same way that oftentimes I don't have the words to express, I don't
even have the tears to express anymore.
Sometimes I just have anger and frustration to give to God.
Sometimes I have the emotion of disappointment to give to God.
Sometimes by my actions, I'm not going to go to church as often as I do.
I'm not going to read my Bible as often as I do.
I believe that God is able to transcribe those.
I believe that God is able to transcribe and to translate those emotions, to transcribe
and to translate those physical changes and understand the true prayer behind those things.
But I think that there's a greater weight to that when you understand that God is able
to hear you even in those moments.
This is the last thing I'm going to say.
I think about the story of Abraham and the Bible going up to sacrifice his son and how
we know because we read the book, we know because we have access to the book, we know
that Abraham got to the top of that mountain and there was a ram in a bush and he didn't
have to sacrifice his son or kill his son and sacrifice him to God.
But I oftentimes imagine myself in Abraham's shoes, walking up that mountain of sacrifice,
walking up that mountain of sacrifice and the emotional turmoil that I would feel knowing
that I have to sacrifice one of the things that God blessed me with, knowing that I have
to sacrifice one of the one things that I prayed for and don't want to give up, knowing
or walking up this mountain and knowing that I'm walking into a situation that I don't
want to be in.
I'm walking into a situation that seems too hard for me to deal with.
I'm walking into a situation that I never imagined that I would be in.
But here I am, walking up this mountain.
Here I am walking through this situation.
I believe that Abraham was walking and the Bible doesn't tell us this, but I believe
that Abraham was walking and I believe that there were some tears that were forming in
his eyes.
I believe that Abraham was walking and he was mentally confused.
Where is God in all of this?
I believe that Abraham was walking and walking into moments of depression, feeling that I
have to give up what I want, feeling that I have to give up the thing that I love so
much.
And I believe that some of us are in the same position as Abraham.
We might not be sacrificing no kids and no mountain, but I do believe that we're walking
into situations that we never thought that we would have to experience.
Walking into situations that we don't know what the answer, what the outcome of this
situation is going to be.
I have no idea how I'm going to figure this thing out.
But I think the more that we walk to the place that God has called us to be, the more he'll
make it clear.
The more he will make it clear.
The more he'll translate every single step that we take.
I believe that God will translate every tear that drops along the way.
That God will translate every moment of depression.
That God will translate every moment of sadness as we walk along the way.
The important thing for Abraham, the most important thing that Abraham did, that man
kept walking and he got to the top of that mountain and there was a ram and a bush and
he was able to use that as a sacrifice.
But had Abraham never walked, had Abraham never kept the faith and never kept on walking
up that mountain, he would have never saw the goodness of God.
He would never have been able to see the goodness of God in such a dark moment.
So I say to you that whatever situation you're going through, God hears the tears.
Keep on crying.
Keep on going through the mental emotions.
Keep on doing whatever it is that you're doing.
Keep on doing whatever it is that you're doing and know that God hears you in all of
those things.
In every step that you take, you are getting closer to a testimony of the goodness of God
in your life.
So know that God hears every tear.
God hears every prayer.
God hears every ounce of frustration, every ounce of confusion.
God sees it.
God hears it and God will provide an answer in the right time.
Everything works out the way and in the time that it's supposed to work out.
Peace out, guys.