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Well, we're here.

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We are here.

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Welcome to the Young in Love podcast.

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This is a podcast where being young in love has absolutely nothing to do with your age

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in love, but has all to do with your maturity and your growth in love over time.

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We talk about all things love and relationships here, and we branch them off, or I branch

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them off, I guess I'm the only person here, right?

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I branch them off in three different sections.

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The first section is our spiritual love.

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The second one is our love with others, whether that be relationships that we have, boyfriend,

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girlfriend, husband, wife, fiance, fiance, or relationships with our parents, with our

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siblings, with our friends, with our cousins, so on and so forth.

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And then the last strand that we talk about here, which is probably always counted as

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a second most important relationship, is a relationship that we have with ourselves.

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I always like to say and always like to think I am no good to you if I am no good to me.

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I am cheesing super hard.

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If you were watching this on YouTube, then you know that I've been cheesing hard the

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entire introduction because this is the first official episode of this podcast.

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And real quick, I just want to be super transparent and let you know that all this podcast equipment,

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you can't really see there's a light here.

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I actually do like the box showing here, but there's a light here.

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There's a light here.

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There's a light right here.

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There's a lot of here.

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There's a podcast mic and a podcast stand here.

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There's a recorder.

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I forget a mixer.

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The audio is going to switch.

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Now there's a mixer because I didn't have it on the entire time.

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Anyway, that relates to the reason why I was smiling and it's because this is the first

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episode that I'm filming of this podcast and I'm laughing because I had all this equipment

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probably a year between a year and a year and a half ago because I knew that I would

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have a podcast.

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It was always named the Young and Love Podcast.

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I just didn't know how to start it.

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And so one day randomly propped up the camera and I filmed a video and I told God that this

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video gets 20,000 views in seven days.

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I will march on and I will do this podcast thing.

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And in seven days, I got a million views.

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And so I was like, Oh, I guess I guess I really got to do this podcast.

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Guess I really got to do this podcast thing.

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Yeah.

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Huh?

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So we're here and we're doing the thing.

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Today's episode, as you can tell by the title, is an episode that I want to start off with

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because I think it's something that a lot of people might be dealing with, especially

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in my age.

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But really, I feel like you kind of deal with you can deal with this all throughout your

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life.

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And it is a it is a episode topic that is very relevant to the timing in my life that

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I'm kind of dealing with right now.

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And it's about being alive on purpose.

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I think a lot of us, I think a lot of people are alive and struggling with finding purpose.

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I think a lot of people are alive and just facing the challenge of not just not only

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can you not identify what your purpose is, but since you haven't identified it, it kind

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of feels like you're living life in a void, you're living life in a void that feels purposeless.

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I don't necessarily feel purposeless, but I have made some pretty drastic changes, two

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major drastic changes in my life that are attached to purpose.

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The first thing is me sitting in this.

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I mean, all of it really is me sitting in this apartment right now at the top of the

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sea.

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I moved out on my own.

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Not only did I move out on my own, but I decided to move twenty five.

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I decided to move six hours away from home.

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In addition to that, I quit a job.

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I quit a job at a company that I had kind of worked my way through the ranks a little

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bit where my first started at and kind of gave up all of that because it didn't feel

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attached to my purpose.

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The church that I was going to at the time loved the people there, loved the church there,

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but didn't really feel attached to my purpose.

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And once I turned twenty five, I kind of made the decision in myself that I was not going

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to do anything at all.

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I don't care who was involved, didn't care if it was a relationship, if it was a job.

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If it did not serve my purpose, then I committed to myself that I was not going to serve it.

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And so I am in an interesting season of my life trying to define what exactly my purpose

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is.

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And I think that as we go along throughout this first season, which will just consist

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of eight episodes, it'll kind of highlight and identify what season I felt like I was

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in before I turned twenty five and then the season that I'm in as as as a moving forward

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in life.

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And so although I have defined or at least I've identified the path of what my purpose

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feels like, I think if we were all to be honest, there are some people who struggle with as

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crazy as it might sound.

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There are some people who struggle with being alive because for them, there is no clarity

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in what their purpose in life is.

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Like waking up every day, the day to day interactions that they have either feel repetitive every

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single day or it all just feels like a blur altogether.

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And I hope that you never feel so overwhelmed or literally so depressed into the lack of

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identifying or feeling that you don't have any purpose.

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I hope you don't get so overwhelmed in that, that you forget the quest of identifying who

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you are and what you were created on this earth for.

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I don't think our purpose in life just falls out of the sky.

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I think it is.

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I think it is an actual quest that we have to go on to identify what exactly we are here

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for and then how do we achieve the execution of whatever that purpose is that we have.

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But before we get too deep into this conversation, I want to play a game.

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And this game that we are going to play this week is called Roses and Thorns.

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Wherever you're watching this at, you can participate with me in the comment section

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below.

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It's called Thorns and Roses.

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I'm sorry.

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Thorns and Roses.

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You can participate in the comment section below.

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Tell me what your thorn was this week.

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What was the aggravation?

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What was the aggravation that you felt like you had to deal with this week?

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The thing that probably hurt, the thing that aggravated you, the thing that you could have

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done without.

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And then what was the rose of this week?

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What was the thing that was sweet, the thing that was nice, the thing that you enjoyed?

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Today is Tuesday.

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I have a Bible study in a half an hour.

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Let's see.

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My thorn this week was...

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My thorn this week, if I'm honest.

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I forgot to pay my car note last month.

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And so I ended up having to pay last month's car note and this month's car note together,

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which seems like a simple thing, but I actually spent the money that was supposed to go to

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that car note.

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I don't know on what, I don't even know how I missed the fact that I forgot to pay it

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because it's not on O2Pay.

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But anyway, I got a call from the bank today while I was at Starbucks and they were like,

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bro, you got a car from us and we gave you a loan for that car?

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You didn't make the payment on the car.

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So I had to double up my payment, which luckily, you know, God is nice to me.

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So I was able to go ahead and just pay it.

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But my thorn was that I wish I would have just been more responsible with my finances

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and paid the bill when it was due.

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My roles for this week is actually, actually I have two.

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My first role for this week is one, I'm doing this podcast, which feels like I don't want

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to call it a dream come true.

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That seemed a little bit extra, but it is kind of like something that I feel like God

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gave to me.

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And now it's starting to all come together and starting to all make sense.

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Getting comments and DMS every single day of people asking me, where can I find this

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podcast that I was literally you have to create the podcast.

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It's a whole set up process that you have to go through to create the podcast before

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you start uploading things.

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And I went on Spotify and on Apple, I think like two days ago, and there's already people

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who are following me on there and I haven't even mentioned that I have this.

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But obviously, if you see it on TikTok and you're wondering where can I find this podcast,

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you would search my name and podcast and it pops up.

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But that has been my rules.

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That's my first rules for this week.

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My second roles is a very special friend to me celebrated her birthday.

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Actually your birthday is today and I wanted to do this thing where I was like, oh, you

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know, we'll celebrate your birthday as soon as it drops.

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I'll call you on FaceTime.

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You'll have a cake.

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I'll have a cake.

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But I waited extremely too late for it, but I ended up door dashing a dessert to her house

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and I went to Walmart and I grabbed a cupcake and I put the cupcake.

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I put the candles in the cupcake and I sing it birthday.

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Yeah, that that was the rules for me.

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I like creating memories and that was a memory that we got to create.

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That was a memory of her birthday that we got to create together.

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And so that was that meant a lot to me and it meant a lot to her as well.

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So that was nice.

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But yeah, let me know what your thorns are.

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Let me know what your rules are down in the comments section below.

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I would do my best to respond to what your thorns and what your rules are.

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But I really, really genuinely do hope that everybody had a good week this far.

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And I hope that you all had more roses or more experiences of roses in your life than

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the thorns.

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There's actually a scripture in the Bible and it says that all things work together

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for the good of them who love the Lord and who are called according to his purpose.

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And so I think that shifting to this podcast episode today, I think that when we look at

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our thorns and roses, not just from these past seven days, but even the thorns and roses

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that we've experienced in our life, that every single bad part of our life and every single

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good part of our life, they all shape.

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They all work together for the good that God has called us to.

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And I think the good that God has called us to is one is our ultimate purpose that we

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were created for.

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But secondly is our individual purpose that we were created for.

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What do you say to the person who doesn't feel that the good things or the bad things

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are working for their good at all?

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What do you do?

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One of the first Bible lessons that I taught at my church, at my home church, was what

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do you do?

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And literally the topic goes, what do you do dot dot dot?

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What do you do when the good things that the Bible talks about feels completely opposite

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of what you see currently in your life?

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What do you do when everybody else seems to be following their dreams and living out their

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dreams and finding their purpose and you feel like you are so behind in life?

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Everybody else has a car.

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Everybody else has their license.

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Everybody else is moving out.

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Everybody else is in nice relationships.

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Everybody else has children.

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Everybody else has college degrees.

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What do you do when you are not where you want to be?

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When at the same time you're surrounded by people who are in the places and have the

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possessions of things that you would like to have?

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I think the first thing to do is to stop and to take a second and to realize what you do

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I think that we it is so easy to be consumed with the negative things that people say it's

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so easy to be consumed with the negative things that we see in our life that we don't always

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appreciate as much the positive things that we do have in life.

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Somebody today was texting.

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I was texting back and forth with them and they were saying how they feel so behind.

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They're in college right now and how they feel so behind in life and although their

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feelings might be a hundred percent justified based based on the conversation that we had,

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but the reality is this person is in college.

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This person had a debt that had to be paid.

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That was a pretty nice amount of money that had to be paid in some way.

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Somehow people were able to come through to make sure this person was covered in those

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expenses and just different aspects of things that this person needed or wanted that they

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have today right now and I think that because the negative things sometimes cloud us or

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they stand bigger than the positive things and the positive attributes that we have in

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life, I think we oftentimes miscount all the good things that we have that are pushing

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us towards our purpose and we highlight the negative thing so much more and I'll be honest.

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I'll keep it a book.

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When I know that this might seem so I don't know if this seems shallow or not, but the

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comments that I get on TikTok, I'm going to say about 90.

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I'm going to be honest actually about 99.8 of those were always positive comments when

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I was doing the other kind of content that I was doing highlighting problems that women

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in the world go through.

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When I shifted over to this kind of content, it maybe went to like 98% were all positive

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and then 2% were negative and I'll be honest those negative comments, I can remember them

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verbatim more than I can remember any positive comment that I had.

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I don't know why our brains are wired like that.

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I don't know why we see negativity in a way that stands out more than positivity, but

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I think that we have to actively remember that not only am I alive for a purpose when

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those negative feelings or those negative emotions start to come up, not only am I alive

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for a purpose, but I am alive on purpose.

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I think that we have these negative thoughts and I think that if we were not supposed to

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be here, if we were not meant for some greater purpose in our life, then according to my

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faith, according to what I believe that we wouldn't have any purpose to serve, we wouldn't

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be on this earth, we wouldn't be on this world if we were not here to serve any purpose.

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in life is to serve people who one, will never see and then two, for people who we just can't

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see right now.

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That we'll have children, we'll have husbands and wives that are attached to our purpose

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and because we might not know those people right now, we might not have children right

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now, we might not be married or in relationships right now.

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I think over time, as we learn, as we grow and as we develop, our purpose will be pulled

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out of us and it'll be impactful, but we don't always see what we are to impact right now.

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But I absolutely get, I absolutely understand the person who might say or the person who

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might think that like, I would rather, there was a time in my life, if I'll be super, super

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transparent, there was a time in my life where I, there was a time in my life where I had

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suicidal thoughts, but there was also a time in my life where I just did not understand

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what my purpose was.

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I didn't feel like I served any purpose.

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I felt like being alive was a waste of time and not that I'd necessarily wanted to, and

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not that I was necessarily suicidal.

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I was just like waking up seemed so pointless, like being alive seems so pointless, but I

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promise you, if I can give one of the greatest pieces of advice or one of the greatest pieces

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of wisdom that I've learned from that point until now is that it eventually starts to

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make sense.

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What you're here for eventually starts to make sense.

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The purpose that you will serve eventually starts to make sense.

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The people even that you will serve eventually starts to make sense.

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Like the greatest advice is just live.

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Like literally whatever your circumstance in life is right now, of course we are always

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trying to progress and get to the next best thing, but learn how to live and enjoy the

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moments of life that you have right now so that when it is time to serve your purpose,

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you were not drained, you were not confused, you were not serving from a place of hostility,

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but because you've learned how to enjoy, but because you have learned how to enjoy your

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life in the moments where somebody else might look at you and be like, I don't know how

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you're enjoying that.

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I don't know how you're going through that.

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your purpose where literally I'm looking around where everything starts to make sense, where

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the lighting is here.

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Now I realize why I had these lights all this time.

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having a podcast didn't make sense.

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I think when you learn to live and to enjoy the moments in life that you'll eventually

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get to a point in life where you'll look around at the things that you accumulated in your

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enjoyment you look around and eventually you'll be like, dang, like this, like I'm glad that

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I listened.

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I'm glad that I was obedient.

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I'm glad that I spent some time and I enjoyed my life even in the time where it didn't make

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I'm glad that I still allowed my dreams to dream.

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I'm glad that I still allowed myself to dream.

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I'm glad that I still allowed myself to hope.

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I'm glad that I still allowed myself to vision to envision myself in a different place, even

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when it didn't make sense.

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Even when I didn't understand what exactly my purpose was going to be.

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I'm glad that I still enjoyed those moments of life because now eventually you will be

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in a place where you'll look around.

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It will all like it all makes sense.

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the people of God, people who really believe in God, like it always works out.

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There has never been a situation that I've been in.

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There has never been a prayer that I had.

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Whether God was faithful enough to me to give me exactly what I was asking for or whether

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God was faithful enough to me to give me something different that was not what I was asking for.

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It has always worked out for me.

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And I think that for the believer, especially I think that for, I remember, I remember hearing

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somebody say that you will never, her name is Dawn Brunson.

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I remember hearing her say, you can never beat God at giving.

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Like no, I, I, no matter when, when I look back and I think about how much I served my

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home church, like the years that I put in and the things that I did, I, I, I am so confident

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in God.

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I am so confident in God's ability to give back to me, not just like financially, not

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just even now today, but when I get married, I'm so, I, I'm so invested in the future of

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my marriage.

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I'm so invested in the future of having children.

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I'm so invested in the future of just living my life even before I get married, even after

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I get married.

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I'm so invested in it because I put in all this time and I know that I've been serving

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a God literally all of my, literally all of my life.

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Who is more faithful in giving than I can ever be.

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Who has more abundance to give than I ever have to give.

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Who has more resources to give than I ever have to give, like the ability to give at

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all.

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I think you'll listen to this and you'll probably be encouraged, but like a week from

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now you'll still, you might still be in the place that you were when this episode first

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started.

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But I think that we have to constantly remind ourselves.

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I want to just jump back to, I just want to jump back to real quick.

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You can't be God at giving.

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There's a scripture, there's a scripture that my youth director used to say to us all

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the time and it says, seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these

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things will be added unto you.

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And so when I talk about that, I served my church giving all that time, that was literally

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the action of me seeking first the kingdom of God.

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There were other things that I could have did.

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I don't mean like other things that I could have thought of doing.

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I mean like there were other things that I was invited to do and as a sacrifice, I was

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like, nah, you know, I have church or, you know, just different things that I could have,

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I could have slept in on a Sunday because I like to sleep in sleeping is great.

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Sleeping is nice.

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I enjoy sleeping.

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I could have slept in all those Sundays and decided, no, I'm not going to serve.

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I could have said no to all the things that I was asked to do.

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But because I was so invested in that scripture, seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness

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and all these things will be added unto you because I was so invested in that and really

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just genuinely seeking first the kingdom of God.

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I can recall and recount to you all the things that I prayed for.

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That God is faithful.

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There are some things I don't see right now, but I still have hope.

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I still have faith that God is faithful enough to bring those things to past.

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So I think that you can listen to this episode and you can be encouraged and you can feel

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confident.

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But a week later, the reality, you know, starts to set back in an hour later, the reality

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starts to set back in.

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When you close your laptop, you close the phone out, you get, you know, you get in your

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room and you walk back into the setting that put you in the that put you in a feeling of

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depression anyway.

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But I think that we have to constantly remind ourselves that it always works out like I

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mean, you literally have to wake up every morning, put it on a sticky note, put as your

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screens it literally my screen saviour right now says everything is easy for God.

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I think that when we start to remind ourselves who we are, we start to remind ourselves that

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there is a light at the end of this tunnel.

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We start to remind ourselves that like this situation is terrible, but it won't last always.

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I think when we actually remind ourselves constantly that life gets better.

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And I think that when we remind ourselves that my purpose is bigger than my depression,

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my purpose is bigger than my confusion.

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I think that when we start to understand and to know that and to know that like it'll all

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make sense and the timing that it's supposed to make sense when we know those things, we'll

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be able to live and to operate in a way in life where we enjoy where we are now, even

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when it doesn't make sense.

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And then we'll get to a place where we eventually get to see that like it all it all worked

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out.

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It all worked out, man.

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It all works out.

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I'm telling you, it always works out.

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I'm telling you, it always works out.

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It always.

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And I think that for some people it works out fast.

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For other people, it works out not fast.

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It works out slow.

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But I really do.

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I can look at every single situation in my life and tell you that God has been faithful.

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It always works out.

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And I think it always works out when you are on the path that you're supposed to be on.

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And when you put in the work to get to that path, I don't think you could just wait.

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I don't think you could just wake up and say it's going to work out and go back to bed

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and just sit in a pit of depression.

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But I think that when you get up and you take accountability, you take responsibility to

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making your life, to doing the things that you were supposed to do in life, to doing

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the things that bring you closer to your purpose, I think when you wake up and make up your

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mind that like, no, I'm going to do what it takes, I think then you'll start to put yourself

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on a path of it all making sense that it all works out in the end.

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You are alive on purpose.

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I am alive on purpose.

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You are alive with purpose.

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I am alive with purpose.

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And though it might not seem like it, though whatever the dream, the vision, the promise

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is for you, though it might be hanging in the balance or it might just feel like, oh,

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I don't see it right now.

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Know that if you were doing the right thing, that if you were taking the time to enjoy

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the phase of life or the part of life that you're in right now, that it will all work

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out.

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And I think that when you wake up and you make that your mantra every day, that it all

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works out when you speak positive things, even in the light of negative situations,

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I think that when you speak those positive things, then like.

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You have no other option but to follow up with the things that you're speaking out of

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your mouth.

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So I hope that if you are in a place where you struggle with identifying what your purpose

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is, I hope you at least learn what the path is that leads you to your purpose.

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And I hope that you learn how to still be able to enjoy life while you're searching

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for what that purpose is.

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I hope that you're reminded.

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I said this a thousand times.

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I hope that you're reminded that in the end, it all works out.

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I think that if you're good and according to my faith, that if you believe in God, then

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you have to believe that it like it's all going to work out.

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It's all going to get better.

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And if you're a person who feels like you know what your purpose is and you've been

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chasing it, but like it's not making sense, the results, which I'll be saying the results

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aren't resulting.

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I think that if you are a person who's actively chasing after your purpose and you feel like

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the results aren't resulting.

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But in that still, I hope that you don't give up.

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I hope that you continue.

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Listen, go back to the drawing board.

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One of my pastors at my church right now, preached a sermon a few weeks ago and the

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topic was pivot.

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And I think that sometimes pivoting does not mean that you leave your purpose pivoting

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does not mean that you lose your purpose.

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Sometimes you just have to pivot the plan that gets you to your purpose.

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You have to take a detour.

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Detours always get us to the same destination.

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So be encouraged.

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This is the first episode.

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This is a little fun.

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It's a little scary because there's nobody in this room.

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So I was going to say, I feel like they're watching me, but nobody's watching me.

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Nobody's watching me because there's nobody in this room.

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But if you enjoyed this episode, episode, if you enjoyed this episode, make sure that

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you like, I would love to hear what y'all have to say down in the comment section below.

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I would love to have some conversations down there.

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So make sure you comment down below.

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Let me know if you have any tips or any comments on living on purpose or being alive with purpose

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or if you have a struggle and you just have some questions that either I can answer or

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I can direct you to a link that can answer or maybe somebody in the comment section has

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been through what you've been through and they have some answers on what you could do

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to kind of make it out of the rut and out of the pit that you're in.

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Thank you guys for watching the Young and Love podcast.

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Again, you can find us visually and audibly, I guess, on YouTube.

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You can look in the description of wherever you're watching this and the YouTube link

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will be there.

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Otherwise, you can find us everywhere else that podcasts are streamed.

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And make sure the important part, make sure you're following me on Instagram, the Darius

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Covington.

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Until next time, g'day govna.

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I just filmed an episode of a podcast.

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That's crazy to me.

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It's crazy.

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Tis is crazy.

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Oh, wow.

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Church started five minutes ago.

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I gotta go.

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I gotta log into church.

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Log in.

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Log in to church.

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Log in.

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Where is the remote?

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I don't know.

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Don't need a thumbnail.

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There it is.

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That's what it's got to do.