Culture has a habit of blabeling daddy issues as a funny or shady reference.
And the older I get though, the more that I realize that many of us are
challenged with daddy issues and we don't even recognize it. Whether our
daddy issues were caused by our dad or our mom, there's something to be said
about the impact that the person who brought us into this world leaves on us.
To be honest, when I was younger I never really cared about having a relationship
with my dad. As I grow older, I actually do care. But it's not the person that I
care about, it's the actual relationship of a father to son that I care about.
The older I get, the more I wonder what life would have been for me if I had a
consistent father figure from the man who conceived me with my mom in my life.
I wonder how many insecurities I would have avoided, how many lessons I would
have been taught, how I would have been more intentional about showing up in my
relationships, and how the younger version of me would have grown into a
different version of who I am today.
But this one thing I do know, everything happens for a reason. We don't always
understand the reason, we don't always agree with the reason, we don't always
like the reason. But the reason always happens. And the moment that we embrace
the reason is the moment that just like a child hugs their parents and sinks
into them, is the moment that we sink into healing. And so I'm free from daddy
issues, not because I've ignored it, but because one day I stood in the mirror
and I embraced who I became as a result of my experiences. The truth is though,
even in my freedom, parts of who I am are shaped by those experiences. Both the
good things and the bad things, it's intertwined into my DNA, but I have to
make a choice to cut it off. So if daddy issues for you looks like low
self-esteem, trust issues, toxic relationships, sit in the reality of what
is and let go of what should not be. Because the moment that we expose the
truth to ourselves and to God is the moment that we know what needs to change.
And the moment that we know what needs to change is the moment that we get the
opportunity to heal. And the moment that we take the opportunity to heal is the
moment we become who God has called us to be.