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Welcome to Radical Urgency. I'm Cam Gallant. When we're young, we have a ton of vitality.

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Everything is exciting. We're asking all sorts of questions - you know, like, "Why do I have

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to clean the table?"  "Why does my chicken nugget not look like a dinosaur?" We're full of life.

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We're full of energy. But as we get older, we tend to lose that. We're maybe not as happy

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as we hoped we would be. Maybe we're still waiting for that special somebody. We're

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going to talk about bringing energy back. Let's imagine that we're watching a sports

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game. And this is your favorite team; you are a huge fan. But you're realizing that

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they really suck. The players are kind of halfheartedly moving around. They're hanging

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their heads. One player just threw off his jersey. And even the cheerleaders, like the

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cheerleaders suck. They are not cheering for the team. Well, they're kind of cheering for

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the team. They're like, "We might be behind. Screw it. There's next time. Yeah. Wooh." As

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a fan, you're probably going to be pretty upset and you're going to have a hard time

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cheering for this team. You would expect them to be accountable to their managers, to themselves,

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and to the fans, to keep trying even when it seems like the game has already been lost.

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But here's the thing; every day, there is a game going on in our lives. And every day

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we have a decision for how we show up. Even the days when nobody seems to be watching,

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there's always at least one spectator. And that is you. The sports players that we get

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really excited about exude vitality. Who are you being? Are you being that sports team

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that's tearing off the jersey - that's being lazy just because you're a little behind?

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Or are you being the sports team that people cheer for and go crazy over? Picture vitality

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like a magnet that draws people in. If we want more - if we want more good relationships,

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if we want more money, if we want more fulfillment for what we do on the day to day - we'll get

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this by bringing more vitality into our lives. So here's how you do that. Step number one

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is just being aware that something may be lacking. With vitality, we want to focus on

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things that are going to give us energy. We had this when we were children. When we were

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kiddos, we're bouncing off the walls, doing all sorts of crazy stuff, and we don't give

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a shit about who is watching or what people think of us. And obviously, as we grow older,

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a lot of this is corrected out of us. They want us to fit the mold. They want you to

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sit and ask for a bathroom pass at school. And then they want you to graduate and go

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to college, and graduate and get a job. And all the stuff, it's not bad. I'm not bashing

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jobs, or college, or school in general. The problem is these can often have an unattended

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side effect. And that is sucking the vitality out of your life. Step number two is leveraging

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our time. You might be doing that right now. Maybe you're listening to this podcast as

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you're driving, as you're at the gym or out on a walk. That's leverage because it's allowing

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you to do more with your time. Another way to add more energy into our lives and utilize

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leverage is to try something totally new. When you're doing something totally new, your

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brain is forced to make new connections and to basically learn on super speed. One final

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means of leveraging our time is getting real feedback instead of trying to think about

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everything and model everything in our heads. When the iPhone was first introduced, it had

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a small and scratchable screen. It had no front flashlight. You needed to download a

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sketchy flashlight app. It had really poor service, and it was the best that Apple could

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do at that time. Had they sat and continued to think about all the possibilities for a

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better iPhone, they would not have come up with an iPhone that's as good as what we have

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today. But by putting that out and then getting real-world feedback, they were then able to

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make a better product. When we take a small action -nothing too crazy - but maybe a little

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uncomfortable, we do the best we can right now. And by doing that now, one year from

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now, one month from now, you are going to be better at what you do than you would be

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if you just thought for a longer amount of time. Overthinking might get you marginally

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better, but it's not going to get you substantially better. The third step, and this is the one

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that ties it all together. The third step is following your curiosity. You have obligations

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and I imagine right now you probably have very little time, maybe just an hour, maybe

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a handful of minutes a day. So we need to capitalize on making that time worth it. And

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what's going to be tempting that can fight the temptations of Netflix or Facebook or

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TikTok. It's probably going to have to be something that you're excited about. It's

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going to have to be something that gives you a wow. It's going to have to be following

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the curiosity. James Clear in his book, Atomic Habits, talks about four different ways to

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solidify a habit. And these are make something obvious, attractive, easy and satisfying.

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Now we can see the things that addict us often do this. And that's why we need something

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potent like following our curiosity. Something that by definition is going to excite us.

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So what do you want? Maybe you know, maybe you don't. It doesn't matter so much because

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you don't have to know definitively. Instead, focus on the smaller curiosities and explore

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those threads and see where they take you. Right now you have the best data set you ever

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will for today. Because tomorrow, 8 billion people will have made decisions that for better

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or worse change the world in some small way, maybe in some large ways. So right now you

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have the best information to act. If you wait until tomorrow, your decisions are 8 billion

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decisions outdated. I want you to start thinking about your life in terms of energy and time.

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When you spend a certain amount of time with somebody, do you leave that conversation feeling

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more energized? Are you excited? Do you feel great? Or do you feel a little drained? It

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doesn't really matter that we don't have everything that we're curious about become some sort

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of passion. Right? You think of a plant, it might spread a thousand or 10,000 seeds and

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only a couple of those maybe will sprout. But that is still enough for the plant to

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reproduce. And heck, if you look at humans, according to Mayo Clinic, sperm density ranges

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from 15 to 200 million per milliliter. But we don't really mourn the loss of sperm. You

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have a kid and as the kid grows, you're not like, oh, I love the kid, but I feel so bad

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for those 150 million sperm that never made it. No, you're like, wow, I love my kid. The

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same is true with our different interests and our different curiosities. You might have

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10, 100, 1000, 10,000 false starts, but in the end, you're not really going to mourn

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those things that didn't work out. You're eventually going to strike gold and find the

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thing for you that is captivating, is exciting, just like that almost tangible excitement

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you had when you were a kid. That's what I got for you for today. If you liked this,

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