1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:07,180 See, even people like me who constantly make stupid decisions, even people like me who 2 00:00:07,180 --> 00:00:14,580 are very foolish and don't read all the instructions, find that we constantly miss out on bad decisions 3 00:00:14,580 --> 00:00:17,160 because we're asking the right question. 4 00:00:17,160 --> 00:00:21,660 You say, what is the right question, pastor? 5 00:00:21,660 --> 00:00:28,520 The right question is, how are you? 6 00:00:28,520 --> 00:00:34,960 And the other question is, what do you think? 7 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:40,760 How are you and what do you think? 8 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:46,280 And with whom you have these questions is incredibly important. 9 00:00:46,280 --> 00:00:53,640 The counselors in your life, the advisors, the people around you to listen. 10 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:58,920 And that's what I want to begin with today, a conversation about developing your own cabinet 11 00:00:58,920 --> 00:01:04,760 of mentors and coaches to where you can ask the question, what do you think? 12 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:10,280 And they can ask the question, how are you? 13 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:18,000 You see, when we were kids, if you were going to go on a road trip and you were not driving, 14 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:22,520 or even if you were just going down to the Dairy Queen to get a dip cone and you weren't 15 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:28,520 driving, there was a phrase that we would shout out to make sure that we got preferable 16 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:30,200 seating. 17 00:01:30,200 --> 00:01:34,000 What was the phrase that you would shout out, shotgun? 18 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:35,000 Why? 19 00:01:35,000 --> 00:01:40,440 Because you don't want to sit in the back with all the losers. 20 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:42,080 It's a shotgun. 21 00:01:42,080 --> 00:01:48,760 I love shotgun because it stems back to the old West and I was born and raised in Nevada. 22 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:53,840 So as you can see, I'm kind of a cowboy. 23 00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:58,680 And a shotgun, somebody who rides shotgun with you is the type of individual who is there 24 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:06,800 for communication and protection and direction and they're going to help you get wherever. 25 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:07,800 Here's my question. 26 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:10,400 Who's riding shotgun with you? 27 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:12,440 Who is it that's providing protection? 28 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:14,600 Who is it that's providing direction? 29 00:02:14,600 --> 00:02:16,720 Who is it that's giving you communication? 30 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:19,080 Who is riding with you in life? 31 00:02:19,080 --> 00:02:24,400 Who is it in your life that are your mentors and coaches that are surrounding you to speak 32 00:02:24,400 --> 00:02:25,480 into your life? 33 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:29,440 The Bible talks about this over and over, yes, a wise man will hear and will increase 34 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:30,440 learning. 35 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:33,520 A man of understanding will attain under wise counsel, but the Bible also says in Proverbs 36 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:43,800 chapter 11 and verse 14, where there is no counsel, the people fall. 37 00:02:43,800 --> 00:02:50,840 Do you ever wonder why it is that you continue to make mistake after mistake after mistake? 38 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:56,240 You keep seeming to fall down and then fall down again and then fall down again? 39 00:02:56,240 --> 00:03:00,240 Do you ever wonder why it is there are parts of your life you're extremely successful and 40 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:02,880 then parts of your life that are just an utter mess? 41 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:05,880 Do you ever wonder why? 42 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:12,440 Could it be possible that you have not surrounded yourself with the right counselors and mentors? 43 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:16,720 Could it be possible you have the right coaches, counselors and mentors in some areas of your 44 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:21,280 life, but you have failed to bring them up in the other areas of your life? 45 00:03:21,280 --> 00:03:28,160 See the Bible says where there is no counsel, people fall, but in the multitude of counselors, 46 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:30,440 there is safety. 47 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:36,640 When you get to a place where you surround yourself, not with just one, but with a multitude 48 00:03:36,640 --> 00:03:45,320 of counselors, that's when you avoid the big mistakes. 49 00:03:45,320 --> 00:03:50,000 So what do I call it, a cabinet of mentors and coaches? 50 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:54,000 Years ago I had a deacon in the church, his name was Andrew. 51 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:59,880 And Andrew gave me this principle, he taught me that just like the president of the United 52 00:03:59,880 --> 00:04:06,520 States develops a cabinet, so are you. 53 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:09,760 Now I don't know which is your favorite president, I'm sure some of you are ready to shout it 54 00:04:09,760 --> 00:04:13,480 out right now, don't do it, you'll be fine. 55 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:17,240 And I know whoever has a favorite president, you also have ones that are not your favorites. 56 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:19,400 By the way, I think there's an election coming up, did you hear about it? 57 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:22,760 I think there's another one, they do them every couple years. 58 00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:26,240 And no matter who the president is, when they get in there, one of the things that the president 59 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:31,240 does is he establishes a cabinet. 60 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:33,520 Now why does he do that? 61 00:04:33,520 --> 00:04:40,640 Because he realizes or she realizes that they do not have to be the expert in everything, 62 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:44,800 they just are the leader, they're the final decision maker, they're the one where the 63 00:04:44,800 --> 00:04:50,120 buck stops, they have to make the call, but to make the call sometimes you need experts 64 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:52,840 in different areas so they can speak into it. 65 00:04:52,840 --> 00:04:56,200 So you've got an expert about war, and you've got an expert about the economy, you've got 66 00:04:56,200 --> 00:05:01,920 an expert on housing and development, you've got all the experts so that the guy, who the 67 00:05:01,920 --> 00:05:07,800 woman who has to make the decision can rely upon the expertise of the counselors around 68 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:08,800 them. 69 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:17,640 Instead of a fool, would not surround themselves with experts when so much is on the line. 70 00:05:17,640 --> 00:05:20,280 Here's my question. 71 00:05:20,280 --> 00:05:28,560 Why is the president more important than you? 72 00:05:28,560 --> 00:05:35,440 Why don't you develop a cabinet of mentors and coaches? 73 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:40,480 Now a few thoughts about this, first of all, you have to release yourself from the idea 74 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:45,240 that there is one perfect mentor that will tell you everything you need to know. 75 00:05:45,240 --> 00:05:48,760 One of the reasons why some of us make a lot of mistakes is we've got one person in our 76 00:05:48,760 --> 00:05:52,040 lives and that person is going to be the answer to everything. 77 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:57,000 And so we overly burden our wife or we overly burden our husband or we think our father 78 00:05:57,000 --> 00:05:58,000 has failed us. 79 00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:03,800 We've got so much big expectations of one particular mentor and everything you have 80 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:07,760 in life goes to that one person and here's the problem, that one person may not be an 81 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:12,200 expert in everything. 82 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:15,320 For some of you, it wasn't a family member you did this with, for some of you it was 83 00:06:15,320 --> 00:06:21,640 some professional coach in life and this professional coach in life is really good at the job they 84 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:23,960 do but their family falls apart. 85 00:06:23,960 --> 00:06:28,600 That's why you are really good at your job but your family is falling apart. 86 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:30,360 You see? 87 00:06:30,360 --> 00:06:34,000 Or maybe you are following a family expert in everything, your family is fine but your 88 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:39,600 job is falling apart because you haven't found a coach or a mentor in work. 89 00:06:39,600 --> 00:06:45,400 So one of the things we must do is find a multitude of counselors and then go to each 90 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:49,760 individual one for the specific areas that we need in life. 91 00:06:49,760 --> 00:06:54,080 I've been thinking about this sermon literally since last September of how I could share 92 00:06:54,080 --> 00:06:57,880 these principles with you and I thought at this point the best thing I could possibly 93 00:06:57,880 --> 00:07:03,920 do is show you my own personal, Josh Tice, my personal cabinet of mentors and coaches 94 00:07:03,920 --> 00:07:05,420 so let me show it to you. 95 00:07:05,420 --> 00:07:07,120 This is mine. 96 00:07:07,120 --> 00:07:10,680 As you can see, there I am on the left, I'm at the head of the table. 97 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:11,680 Why? 98 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:12,680 Because it's my table. 99 00:07:12,680 --> 00:07:16,920 So I can sit there, that's where I put myself. 100 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:20,040 It's your table, you can create your own table, put yourself there. 101 00:07:20,040 --> 00:07:25,600 As you see to my right is my wife Heather, she is my number one counsel, she rides shotgun, 102 00:07:25,600 --> 00:07:27,120 she's the one I bring things to. 103 00:07:27,120 --> 00:07:28,640 I get counsel and advice. 104 00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:32,800 But notice as important as her role is, she is not the only person I go to for counsel 105 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:33,800 and advice. 106 00:07:33,800 --> 00:07:37,320 Neither am I the only person she goes to for counsel and advice. 107 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:40,840 We need a multitude of counselors, you see. 108 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:47,840 Person beside that is our own personal counselor, my wife and I go to at Renewing Life Center. 109 00:07:47,840 --> 00:07:50,040 She's a wonderful counselor and you should find a counselor. 110 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:59,240 You say, what, you, pastor, you go to a counselor, a therapist? 111 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:00,520 The answer is absolutely. 112 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:04,160 When Heather and I are in a scenario that we can't figure out, we don't agree upon. 113 00:08:04,160 --> 00:08:13,600 When we have a fight once every 20 years, what we, when we're not on the same page, 114 00:08:13,600 --> 00:08:17,480 we love to schedule a meeting at Renewing Life Center, sit down with this counselor 115 00:08:17,480 --> 00:08:22,040 that we've developed a relationship with over the years and say, okay, here's our situation. 116 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:24,080 And I love this woman. 117 00:08:24,080 --> 00:08:32,600 She's wisdom, she's godly, she knows the Word of God, she often sides with me. 118 00:08:32,600 --> 00:08:34,880 Not always. 119 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:37,280 And this is our counselor. 120 00:08:37,280 --> 00:08:40,200 We also have a family expert in our life. 121 00:08:40,200 --> 00:08:44,400 The family expert is always beside the financial expert, not always to the family experts, 122 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:48,480 no finances and not always to the finances people, no family. 123 00:08:48,480 --> 00:08:50,480 But for us, we have a family expert. 124 00:08:50,480 --> 00:08:52,600 For me, that's my mother and father. 125 00:08:52,600 --> 00:08:56,840 We often go to them for a lot of counsel, how we deal with children at this age, how 126 00:08:56,840 --> 00:09:00,360 about now we're going into the grandparent phase in a couple years. 127 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:02,440 These are the people we're fighting as a marriage. 128 00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:05,280 Sometimes we just need help on how to love one another. 129 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:07,720 Okay, so we go to a family expert. 130 00:09:07,720 --> 00:09:08,720 Let me ask you this. 131 00:09:08,720 --> 00:09:13,080 Who is it in your life that you go to for family advice? 132 00:09:13,080 --> 00:09:14,680 Now let me just stop and say this. 133 00:09:14,680 --> 00:09:19,680 If you go to them and their family has fallen apart, not a good person to go to. 134 00:09:19,680 --> 00:09:21,880 Look, I'm not saying they're bad people. 135 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:26,080 They might have other areas of expertise, but why are you getting family advice from people 136 00:09:26,080 --> 00:09:28,800 who don't know how the family works? 137 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:30,520 Like good question, right? 138 00:09:30,520 --> 00:09:35,480 That's like getting financial advice from your poorest friend. 139 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:36,480 Am I wrong? 140 00:09:36,480 --> 00:09:37,480 Is that hurtful? 141 00:09:37,480 --> 00:09:39,440 Is that hurtful, to say? 142 00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:42,360 Like they might be incredibly good in other areas, but they don't know money. 143 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:44,640 Why would you get financial advice from them? 144 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:47,120 So I always have a financial expert there. 145 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:50,960 As our finances have grown over the years, it's become professionals. 146 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:52,080 You pay for these things. 147 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:55,600 So we go to somebody at Edward Jones. 148 00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:59,280 Across the table from me is perhaps one of the most important positions, and that's 149 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:01,920 what I call my spiritual life coach. 150 00:10:01,920 --> 00:10:06,600 Historically, it's been referred to as a shepherd or a pastor. 151 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:07,600 Somebody that I could go to. 152 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:08,600 You say, well, you're my pastor. 153 00:10:08,600 --> 00:10:11,680 I am your pastor, but I have a pastor too. 154 00:10:11,680 --> 00:10:14,560 My pastor that I go to is the one I grew up with. 155 00:10:14,560 --> 00:10:15,920 That's my father. 156 00:10:15,920 --> 00:10:19,680 And I'll go and get counsel from him about my spiritual life when I'm not walking with 157 00:10:19,680 --> 00:10:23,240 the Lord the way I need to, or I need counsel or prayer, and I go to him and he's such an 158 00:10:23,240 --> 00:10:25,920 encouragement to me. 159 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:30,520 Now he is a pastor of a very large church, but he only really sits at the table of a 160 00:10:30,520 --> 00:10:32,720 very few spiritual life coach. 161 00:10:32,720 --> 00:10:33,720 Why? 162 00:10:33,720 --> 00:10:38,560 Well, because you can only be the spiritual life coach of so many people. 163 00:10:38,560 --> 00:10:42,320 Now some of you are like, oh, okay, pastor, I got it, that one's you. 164 00:10:42,320 --> 00:10:46,720 Well, for some of you, perhaps, but for most of you, no, I'm not that. 165 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:49,200 Our relationship is this. 166 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:56,880 You learn, and I teach, but in reality, you don't have a phone call with me once a week. 167 00:10:56,880 --> 00:10:58,560 We can't do that with 1,500 people. 168 00:10:58,560 --> 00:11:01,080 You say, well, then who do I have in that area? 169 00:11:01,080 --> 00:11:02,080 It's a very good question. 170 00:11:02,080 --> 00:11:07,200 Who do you have in that area? 171 00:11:07,200 --> 00:11:13,220 What often happens in a church is that sometimes we get upset because the person we want to 172 00:11:13,220 --> 00:11:17,280 sit in that seat isn't sitting in that seat, when in reality it's your responsibility to 173 00:11:17,280 --> 00:11:20,120 find somebody to sit in that seat. 174 00:11:20,120 --> 00:11:23,760 Who's sitting there for you? 175 00:11:23,760 --> 00:11:27,800 Now at Southern Hills, one of the things we attempt to do is provide small groups for 176 00:11:27,800 --> 00:11:29,000 that reason. 177 00:11:29,000 --> 00:11:35,200 There are dozens and dozens of small groups, men and women, who lead incredible small groups. 178 00:11:35,200 --> 00:11:38,800 These are the shepherds of our church. 179 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:42,000 These are the pastors that you could go to and say, this is what's going on in my life. 180 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:43,800 I see James is over here in Priscilla. 181 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:45,340 They lead in small groups. 182 00:11:45,340 --> 00:11:48,080 These are the men and women that you can go to and say, hey, this is what's going on in 183 00:11:48,080 --> 00:11:49,080 my life. 184 00:11:49,080 --> 00:11:52,200 You can text them and say, hey, pray for this situation that's happening in my life. 185 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:53,200 Here's my question. 186 00:11:53,200 --> 00:11:57,400 Who is it that you can text today and say, pray for this today, and they'll call you 187 00:11:57,400 --> 00:12:00,080 on the phone, and they'll pray with you in that moment? 188 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:01,080 Who do you have? 189 00:12:01,080 --> 00:12:02,080 Who do you have? 190 00:12:02,080 --> 00:12:03,080 Who do you have? 191 00:12:03,080 --> 00:12:05,080 Or they can counsel you and say, you better not do that or you better do that. 192 00:12:05,080 --> 00:12:10,840 I have a guy named Mike Smith who I call a life coach. 193 00:12:10,840 --> 00:12:17,840 He spent 20 years in the Air Force as the, retired as the sergeant of the Thunderbirds. 194 00:12:17,840 --> 00:12:19,760 And then he went and worked for Berkshire Hathaway. 195 00:12:19,760 --> 00:12:21,360 He has a lot of life experience. 196 00:12:21,360 --> 00:12:24,160 He now is a professional speaker and he comes to our church. 197 00:12:24,160 --> 00:12:27,560 And years ago, I began to do work with him. 198 00:12:27,560 --> 00:12:29,960 So why pastor, don't you know everything about in life? 199 00:12:29,960 --> 00:12:31,120 No, not like him. 200 00:12:31,120 --> 00:12:34,160 He knows a lot of things about life that I don't know. 201 00:12:34,160 --> 00:12:37,840 So when I have to have a really tough conversation about something with somebody, I'll often 202 00:12:37,840 --> 00:12:40,800 go to him and be like, hey, I got to have this conversation. 203 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:41,800 What do you think? 204 00:12:41,800 --> 00:12:43,680 Now do I go to him about theology? 205 00:12:43,680 --> 00:12:44,680 No. 206 00:12:44,680 --> 00:12:47,480 He doesn't know theology. 207 00:12:47,480 --> 00:12:49,520 But he does know life. 208 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:51,320 So I keep him at my table. 209 00:12:51,320 --> 00:12:52,840 There's another vacant seat there. 210 00:12:52,840 --> 00:12:54,480 I have a vacant seat in my personal. 211 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:56,200 I'm just trying to be as transparent as I can. 212 00:12:56,200 --> 00:12:58,160 I have a vacant seat professional mentor. 213 00:12:58,160 --> 00:13:02,360 A mentor in your profession is somebody who has gone already ahead of you beyond where 214 00:13:02,360 --> 00:13:03,920 you've gone. 215 00:13:03,920 --> 00:13:08,160 And right now, I'm looking for somebody who has built a church beyond where our church 216 00:13:08,160 --> 00:13:09,280 is built. 217 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:11,880 And I'm in the market, as it were. 218 00:13:11,880 --> 00:13:15,160 I'm always looking for somebody else to learn from. 219 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:17,040 I have a professional accountability partner. 220 00:13:17,040 --> 00:13:18,640 His name is Mike McConnell. 221 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:20,880 He's somebody that I sit with every three months. 222 00:13:20,880 --> 00:13:22,200 He's the chairman of our deacons. 223 00:13:22,200 --> 00:13:24,480 I sit with him once every three months. 224 00:13:24,480 --> 00:13:32,720 And I present with him my weekly schedule and my quarterly goals. 225 00:13:32,720 --> 00:13:34,480 Some of you live a lifestyle like me. 226 00:13:34,480 --> 00:13:36,120 You're a little bit entrepreneurial. 227 00:13:36,120 --> 00:13:39,560 You don't necessarily have a direct supervisor that you have to check in with. 228 00:13:39,560 --> 00:13:44,680 And because you live an entrepreneurial lifestyle and you don't have somebody overseeing you 229 00:13:44,680 --> 00:13:49,360 constantly, you kind of let things slack. 230 00:13:49,360 --> 00:13:54,160 Could it be possible that you do what I do and you find yourself submitting to somebody 231 00:13:54,160 --> 00:13:58,680 and having a professional accountability partner that can ask you tough questions like, how 232 00:13:58,680 --> 00:14:00,520 are you doing? 233 00:14:00,520 --> 00:14:02,280 And what can I help with? 234 00:14:02,280 --> 00:14:04,320 One that holds you accountable to your own goals. 235 00:14:04,320 --> 00:14:07,040 This is one of the things that Mike does for me. 236 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:10,360 Every single quarter he'll ask me, what's your schedule look like? 237 00:14:10,360 --> 00:14:12,160 What are your goals for the coming months? 238 00:14:12,160 --> 00:14:14,280 Month, do you feel like those are reasonable goals? 239 00:14:14,280 --> 00:14:15,800 We walk through this. 240 00:14:15,800 --> 00:14:17,760 Then I have my spiritual accountability partner. 241 00:14:17,760 --> 00:14:18,760 That's Aaron Flanagan. 242 00:14:18,760 --> 00:14:20,240 He's another pastor in town. 243 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:24,480 This is a personal one-on-one relationship where once a month we sit over coffee and 244 00:14:24,480 --> 00:14:28,160 he asks me the tough questions. 245 00:14:28,160 --> 00:14:32,480 He's like, are you spending time with your wife? 246 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:36,080 Are you reading your Bible and praying every day? 247 00:14:36,080 --> 00:14:40,680 Are you keeping your eyes and your mind and your heart pure before God? 248 00:14:40,680 --> 00:14:45,480 We have very, very honest conversations over the last many years. 249 00:14:45,480 --> 00:14:47,480 He's been my personal accountability partner. 250 00:14:47,480 --> 00:14:48,840 Why am I telling you all this? 251 00:14:48,840 --> 00:14:54,920 I'm trying to show you that one of the things that make, according to the Bible, a successful 252 00:14:54,920 --> 00:15:03,120 life, void of more mistakes is a multitude of counselors. 253 00:15:03,120 --> 00:15:05,720 What I call a cabinet of mentors and coaches. 254 00:15:05,720 --> 00:15:11,360 That leads us to our second thought today, and that is, how do I build one? 255 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:15,280 The goal is not for you to walk away and say, well, our pastor really has a good group around 256 00:15:15,280 --> 00:15:16,280 him. 257 00:15:16,280 --> 00:15:20,800 The goal is for you to walk away and say, how can I build my own? 258 00:15:20,800 --> 00:15:23,160 Let me help you with that. 259 00:15:23,160 --> 00:15:25,760 How do I build a cabinet of mentors and coaches? 260 00:15:25,760 --> 00:15:33,480 The Bible says in Proverbs 12 verse 15, the way of the fool is right in his own eyes, but 261 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:38,040 he who heeds counsel is wise. 262 00:15:38,040 --> 00:15:40,800 How many of you have ever known a fool before? 263 00:15:40,800 --> 00:15:41,800 Raise your hand. 264 00:15:41,800 --> 00:15:43,280 How many of you have ever known a fool? 265 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:45,400 Come on, more of you know fools than that. 266 00:15:45,400 --> 00:15:48,240 You live in Las Vegas. 267 00:15:48,240 --> 00:15:50,160 How many of you have not just known a fool? 268 00:15:50,160 --> 00:15:51,160 Sometimes you've played the fool. 269 00:15:51,160 --> 00:15:52,160 How many of you have ever played the fool? 270 00:15:52,160 --> 00:15:53,160 Raise your hand. 271 00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:54,160 More of us, right? 272 00:15:54,160 --> 00:15:55,160 Amen. 273 00:15:55,160 --> 00:15:58,400 The way of a fool, did you know a fool doesn't know he's a fool until after he did the foolish 274 00:15:58,400 --> 00:15:59,900 thing? 275 00:15:59,900 --> 00:16:01,680 Just like a villain doesn't know he's the villain. 276 00:16:01,680 --> 00:16:02,840 The villain doesn't know he's a villain. 277 00:16:02,840 --> 00:16:05,320 The villain thinks he's doing the right thing. 278 00:16:05,320 --> 00:16:06,560 Always. 279 00:16:06,560 --> 00:16:09,680 And the fool doesn't think he's a fool until after the foolish thing, and then he looks 280 00:16:09,680 --> 00:16:10,840 back and he's like, that was dumb. 281 00:16:10,840 --> 00:16:12,640 You ever been a fool? 282 00:16:12,640 --> 00:16:15,240 The Bible says the way of a fool is right in his own eyes. 283 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:19,800 However, to keep yourself from being a fool, he who heeds counsel is wise. 284 00:16:19,800 --> 00:16:26,200 If you listen and heed the counsel around you, there is wisdom, there's safety, according 285 00:16:26,200 --> 00:16:27,760 to what we see in the scripture. 286 00:16:27,760 --> 00:16:29,200 So how do we build a cabinet? 287 00:16:29,200 --> 00:16:31,880 Well in my second thought here, I really want to make it really practical, so I'm going 288 00:16:31,880 --> 00:16:33,280 to show you this graphic. 289 00:16:33,280 --> 00:16:38,920 This graphic is what could be your own personal cabinet. 290 00:16:38,920 --> 00:16:42,560 So I've left it blank on purpose because some of you might want to fill this out. 291 00:16:42,560 --> 00:16:44,360 Some of you might want to take a screenshot. 292 00:16:44,360 --> 00:16:46,840 Some of you might want to pull this out later and say, okay, wait a second. 293 00:16:46,840 --> 00:16:50,400 I sit here, who is it that sits to my right? 294 00:16:50,400 --> 00:16:52,280 Who is my counselor, my therapist? 295 00:16:52,280 --> 00:16:54,200 Who is my family expert in life? 296 00:16:54,200 --> 00:16:55,800 Who is my financial expert? 297 00:16:55,800 --> 00:16:58,320 Who is my pastor or spiritual life coach? 298 00:16:58,320 --> 00:17:01,320 Who is that small group leader in my life? 299 00:17:01,320 --> 00:17:05,160 Who is my professional mentor, my professional accountability partner, my spiritual accountability 300 00:17:05,160 --> 00:17:06,160 partner? 301 00:17:06,160 --> 00:17:07,160 Who are these people? 302 00:17:07,160 --> 00:17:09,320 Now how exactly do you build this cabinet? 303 00:17:09,320 --> 00:17:10,320 Here's how you do it. 304 00:17:10,320 --> 00:17:15,240 The very first thing you do is you've got to, number one, you've got to name the seats. 305 00:17:15,240 --> 00:17:22,280 What you need may not be what I need, and what I need may not be what you need at this 306 00:17:22,280 --> 00:17:23,560 stage in your life. 307 00:17:23,560 --> 00:17:26,840 For me, these seats are often changing. 308 00:17:26,840 --> 00:17:28,120 What I might need at the moment. 309 00:17:28,120 --> 00:17:31,360 For example, for years I had a preaching coach. 310 00:17:31,360 --> 00:17:32,360 How weird is that, right? 311 00:17:32,360 --> 00:17:35,040 Say what do you mean a preaching coach? 312 00:17:35,040 --> 00:17:36,560 Exactly what it sounds like. 313 00:17:36,560 --> 00:17:43,520 A guy that I paid who was a pastor for years and he would listen to my sermons and then 314 00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:48,800 we would get on a Zoom call and he would tell me how bad I did. 315 00:17:48,800 --> 00:17:49,800 Like a coach. 316 00:17:49,800 --> 00:17:51,520 And then he would tell me that was good and that was good. 317 00:17:51,520 --> 00:17:52,520 Why do you say that? 318 00:17:52,520 --> 00:17:53,520 Why do you stand this way? 319 00:17:53,520 --> 00:17:55,200 Why don't you do this? 320 00:17:55,200 --> 00:18:00,520 And a lot of the things that you know of my speaking have been developed through counsel. 321 00:18:00,520 --> 00:18:05,800 You see, we in our society we call it coaching. 322 00:18:05,800 --> 00:18:09,880 So the question that you need to wrestle with first is what are the seats that you need 323 00:18:09,880 --> 00:18:11,040 to name? 324 00:18:11,040 --> 00:18:14,320 Maybe right now in your life maybe you need a seat called dietitian. 325 00:18:14,320 --> 00:18:15,320 Right? 326 00:18:15,320 --> 00:18:16,960 I mean genuinely. 327 00:18:16,960 --> 00:18:19,040 You might look at your life and you say, you know what I really need? 328 00:18:19,040 --> 00:18:21,440 I just need to figure out how to eat well. 329 00:18:21,440 --> 00:18:25,320 Maybe you need a personal trainer. 330 00:18:25,320 --> 00:18:26,960 Maybe you need a ministry leader. 331 00:18:26,960 --> 00:18:28,920 Maybe you need a marriage expert. 332 00:18:28,920 --> 00:18:34,160 Maybe you need a childhood expert, early childhood development expert, raising young children. 333 00:18:34,160 --> 00:18:38,160 I don't know what seat, but the first thing you do is you name these are the seats that 334 00:18:38,160 --> 00:18:39,160 I need. 335 00:18:39,160 --> 00:18:43,440 And the first you name the seats, then you pick the people to go in the seats. 336 00:18:43,440 --> 00:18:45,640 Here's the coolest thing about this. 337 00:18:45,640 --> 00:18:47,840 You're in charge of who sits at your table. 338 00:18:47,840 --> 00:18:50,440 Do you know what we often do? 339 00:18:50,440 --> 00:18:54,360 Instead of picking good people to sit at our table, we just allow all the people around 340 00:18:54,360 --> 00:19:00,080 us that have no idea what they're doing, tell us whatever their opinion is at the moment. 341 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:02,960 Or worst case scenario, some of you are like, I don't think I need this. 342 00:19:02,960 --> 00:19:03,960 Why? 343 00:19:03,960 --> 00:19:05,040 Because I have YouTube. 344 00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:12,920 And YouTube tells me everything I need to know about life. 345 00:19:12,920 --> 00:19:14,600 Who is it that's sitting at your table? 346 00:19:14,600 --> 00:19:19,760 Not only do you name the seats, you pick the people to sit at those seats. 347 00:19:19,760 --> 00:19:21,120 And so there are all sorts of people. 348 00:19:21,120 --> 00:19:25,240 I will show you this next slide because I want you to know as a member of Southern Hills, 349 00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:28,280 you already have multiples of these available to you. 350 00:19:28,280 --> 00:19:32,440 For example, did you know as you look right across the table at Spiritual Life Coach, as 351 00:19:32,440 --> 00:19:37,920 I mentioned before, maybe your small group leader would be the perfect type of shepherd 352 00:19:37,920 --> 00:19:42,480 or spiritual life coach that you need in life. 353 00:19:42,480 --> 00:19:43,880 They love Jesus. 354 00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:47,400 They're a little bit farther down the road in this walk with God or her walk with God 355 00:19:47,400 --> 00:19:50,120 than you are. 356 00:19:50,120 --> 00:19:55,440 And you can go to them for prayer requests and counsel and they're always available to 357 00:19:55,440 --> 00:19:56,440 you. 358 00:19:56,440 --> 00:19:59,040 They're only ministering to 10 to 12 people. 359 00:19:59,040 --> 00:20:00,720 They're there for you. 360 00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:03,280 What about like a financial expert? 361 00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:05,400 Now I know some of you are getting older. 362 00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:08,200 You're in your 40s like pastor. 363 00:20:08,200 --> 00:20:11,400 But some of you in your 20s and you're like financial expert, what is that? 364 00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:12,520 How do I do that? 365 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:15,520 Did you know that we have one right here, a pastor that can help with that? 366 00:20:15,520 --> 00:20:16,720 Somebody like Fred Murray. 367 00:20:16,720 --> 00:20:21,920 And we've got men like Sorrell and Gary Amick who can sit down with you free. 368 00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:24,120 They're not trying to sell you anything. 369 00:20:24,120 --> 00:20:28,120 And they just sit with you and help you get out of debt or help you set a budget for the 370 00:20:28,120 --> 00:20:30,080 first time. 371 00:20:30,080 --> 00:20:31,680 What about a family expert? 372 00:20:31,680 --> 00:20:36,080 We have people like Chris and Nicky Murray or the Gebremeskels or the McCarrills. 373 00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:39,680 People who lead our family ministries that you can go to and say, I have questions about 374 00:20:39,680 --> 00:20:40,680 kids. 375 00:20:40,680 --> 00:20:41,680 I have questions about marriage. 376 00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:43,160 I need help in this area. 377 00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:46,720 You don't have to go and pay somebody $100 an hour to get some advice. 378 00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:51,120 You've got that available to you as a member of the church right here in your church if 379 00:20:51,120 --> 00:20:53,240 you'll take advantage of it. 380 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:55,200 What about a counselor or a therapist? 381 00:20:55,200 --> 00:20:59,600 Did you know right here at the church we have a pastor who dedicates himself to counseling? 382 00:20:59,600 --> 00:21:01,400 The pastor of care and counseling? 383 00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:02,400 Pastor Andrew Wilson. 384 00:21:02,400 --> 00:21:07,240 You can call the church offices and schedule an appointment and get good, godly, spiritual 385 00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:09,480 counsel on your decisions. 386 00:21:09,480 --> 00:21:13,500 And so number one, what you do is as you build a cabinet, you name the seats, you pick the 387 00:21:13,500 --> 00:21:18,360 people that are supposed to sit in those seats and then practically, very practically, I 388 00:21:18,360 --> 00:21:22,600 know this is going to blow your mind, here it is, very practically, you approach them 389 00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:25,640 and you ask them and you schedule them. 390 00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:27,160 That's it. 391 00:21:27,160 --> 00:21:31,640 This is like shocking how detailed it is, right? 392 00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:35,240 Once you figure out who needs to sit in what seat, this is what you do. 393 00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:42,160 You go to them and say, can I ask you a question? 394 00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:46,960 I would like to have a monthly conversation with you. 395 00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:47,960 That's it. 396 00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:53,280 Now, let me warn you, some people are already thinking of individuals you want to sit at 397 00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:58,720 your table and they did not come to church today. 398 00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:02,080 And so you're going to text them and you're going to be like, will you sit on my personal 399 00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:06,280 cabinet of mentors and coaches and they're going to be like, what? 400 00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:07,400 What does that mean? 401 00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:09,800 So sit down and explain what you mean. 402 00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:12,160 I see you're a little bit further in your career than I am. 403 00:22:12,160 --> 00:22:13,960 I want to learn from you. 404 00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:17,480 Or I see that you really did well with your children or your grandchildren. 405 00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:18,720 I want to talk to you. 406 00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:20,360 I see that your marriage is really strong. 407 00:22:20,360 --> 00:22:24,320 I want to sit down and approach them. 408 00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:31,120 And then lastly, be very clear to set the expectations of the relationship. 409 00:22:31,120 --> 00:22:32,120 This is key. 410 00:22:32,120 --> 00:22:33,800 This is key. 411 00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:39,120 Be very clear to set the expectations for the relationship. 412 00:22:39,120 --> 00:22:43,120 So let's say you want somebody to have a relationship, maybe a quarterly once every 413 00:22:43,120 --> 00:22:45,560 three months conversation about child raising. 414 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:50,120 Then let them know, I would like to take you to coffee once every three months. 415 00:22:50,120 --> 00:22:52,400 All I want to do is talk about how to raise children. 416 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:56,960 It'll be 45 minutes of your time and that's it. 417 00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:59,960 Now they know exactly what you mean by that. 418 00:22:59,960 --> 00:23:02,120 You set the expectations. 419 00:23:02,120 --> 00:23:03,840 You've allowed them to know exactly what. 420 00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:06,720 Then you give them time to decide and now they're there. 421 00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:10,680 And then every single time that time comes up, you call, you set the meeting, you schedule 422 00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:13,800 it, you have the meeting, you take notes, you go home with that wisdom. 423 00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:15,880 This is what we should be doing. 424 00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:16,880 This is wisdom. 425 00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:21,080 So in the professional category, be ready to pay. 426 00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:24,520 Some of you that are in your 30s and 40s and 50s, somebody like, well, I've already arrived. 427 00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:26,040 Hey, there's always room to grow. 428 00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:32,040 Be willing to pay and sometimes pay well to go to the next level. 429 00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:33,040 Yeah? 430 00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:34,040 Amen? 431 00:23:34,040 --> 00:23:35,360 You understand what I'm saying? 432 00:23:35,360 --> 00:23:39,120 So I know some of you are like, man, I was really looking forward to a verse by verse 433 00:23:39,120 --> 00:23:40,600 Bible sermon today. 434 00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:41,600 Absolutely. 435 00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:43,880 And we do that all the time here. 436 00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:48,760 But this is a sermon that God has placed on my heart since September specifically for 437 00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:49,760 young adults. 438 00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:53,520 How many of you agree the young adults of the American generation need to make sure they've 439 00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:55,400 got their ducks in a row in this new world? 440 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:56,400 Can I get an amen? 441 00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,320 Don't you think that somebody ought to tell them how to do that? 442 00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:00,320 Amen? 443 00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:02,240 To teach biblical principles from Proverbs. 444 00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:04,320 They tell you about surrounding yourself with wisdom. 445 00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:05,760 Well, then let your pastor do it. 446 00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:07,000 Can I get an amen right there? 447 00:24:07,000 --> 00:24:08,000 Amen. 448 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:09,360 So number one, what do we need to do today? 449 00:24:09,360 --> 00:24:12,080 Well, you need to build a cabinet of mentors and coaches. 450 00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:14,680 We talked about how to build a cabinet of mentors and coaches. 451 00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:17,040 And then lastly, what does this actually look like? 452 00:24:17,040 --> 00:24:19,640 What do these meetings look like, pastor? 453 00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:23,280 It's a good question and we'll be done. 454 00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:30,280 The Bible says, listen to counsel and receive instruction that you may be wise in your latter 455 00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:31,280 days. 456 00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:32,920 This is what it looks like. 457 00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:39,200 The man or woman who begins listening to wisdom and counsel in their early days, in their 458 00:24:39,200 --> 00:24:50,040 old life days, you will be found to have been wise. 459 00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:55,840 Those who ignore counsel, ignore admonition, ignore reproof, the type of person in their 460 00:24:55,840 --> 00:25:03,920 teens and twenties who says, I do what I want, nobody tells me, they end up fools. 461 00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:08,240 Those who early on in life or if you're a little latter in life as early as possible begin 462 00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:12,680 to say, I need to have the right people talking to me. 463 00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:14,840 The earlier you do that, the better. 464 00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:19,800 And what happens is by the end of your life, you will have been known to be a wise, this 465 00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:21,400 is what it looks like. 466 00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:23,000 Practically what does it look like? 467 00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:24,000 The conversation. 468 00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:27,120 Well, sometimes it's over Zoom, sometimes it's a phone call. 469 00:25:27,120 --> 00:25:30,680 A lot of times it's face to face. 470 00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:35,800 I have a quarterly conversation every three months, like I said with Michael McConnell, 471 00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:37,880 he's the chairman of our deacons. 472 00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:41,360 Every time he sits down with me, he asks me a question, I ask him a question. 473 00:25:41,360 --> 00:25:48,200 He asks me the question, how are you doing? 474 00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:56,200 And that's the moment where I can lie or I can be honest. 475 00:25:56,200 --> 00:26:00,680 And then I ask him the question, what do you think? 476 00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:02,920 I want to know. 477 00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:06,040 He'll talk to me about my quarterly goals or my weekly schedule and I'll say, what do 478 00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:07,040 you think about that? 479 00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:08,040 I think that's too much. 480 00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:09,840 Do you think I should do something else? 481 00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:13,120 He's giving me counsel. 482 00:26:13,120 --> 00:26:15,560 I do that every quarter with Michael McConnell. 483 00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:17,120 All of these relationships are going to be different. 484 00:26:17,120 --> 00:26:18,800 Some of them are going to be once a month. 485 00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:21,100 Some of these relationships are going to be once a quarter. 486 00:26:21,100 --> 00:26:22,720 Some are going to be every other week. 487 00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:25,640 Some of them are going to be once a year or whatever you need to call them. 488 00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:30,480 It's totally up to you, but you know they're sitting at your table and they know they are 489 00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:32,880 one of your counselors. 490 00:26:32,880 --> 00:26:34,680 You customize it. 491 00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:36,240 My wife and I, what does it look like? 492 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:37,240 My wife sits at my table. 493 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:38,240 We meet. 494 00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:42,720 You say, you schedule meetings with your wife? 495 00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:44,360 Yes, I do. 496 00:26:44,360 --> 00:26:46,680 She's a very important person. 497 00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:49,320 And if we don't schedule time to meet, guess what? 498 00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:51,840 We end up not communicating. 499 00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:55,240 So twice a month, my wife and I have scheduled meetings. 500 00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:57,320 And you know what we do with these scheduled meetings? 501 00:26:57,320 --> 00:27:02,480 We sit down and we go through our calendar and we go through our budget and we go through 502 00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:05,240 our issues. 503 00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:06,240 Just us. 504 00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:09,840 We have an assistant that helps now. 505 00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:11,120 Our calendar. 506 00:27:11,120 --> 00:27:12,640 What's coming up over the next week? 507 00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:13,640 What about two weeks? 508 00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:16,600 We try to make it three months so that we get our minds around. 509 00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:20,200 Even though we're meeting twice a month, we want to make sure our calendar is in order. 510 00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:21,200 Where are you going to be? 511 00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:22,480 Who's making dinner that night? 512 00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:23,840 Who's picking up the kids? 513 00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:25,080 All of that is happening. 514 00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:29,480 Not yelling across the table or across the house, but sitting down and talking about 515 00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:30,480 it. 516 00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:31,480 Yeah? 517 00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:34,880 It makes sense? 518 00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:36,900 We talk about issues. 519 00:27:36,900 --> 00:27:41,160 So instead of bringing up a weird issue late at night when one of us are trying to sleep, 520 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:44,400 we know we're going to meet in about a couple of days. 521 00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:46,560 Mark it down, bring up the issue at the meeting. 522 00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:49,440 We sit down and talk about this. 523 00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:53,240 Hey, three weeks ago this happened and we need to talk about what are we going to do 524 00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:54,880 next time this happens? 525 00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:58,280 See, no emotions begin to go away. 526 00:27:58,280 --> 00:28:00,960 Just talk. 527 00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:04,760 When you surround yourself, and by the way, I wanted to preach a whole sermon on marriage 528 00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:07,200 but I have one coming up on March 3rd. 529 00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:09,560 There's a whole sermon I'm doing on marriage. 530 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:14,160 We'll break into that in a couple of weeks. 531 00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:16,800 This is about what those meetings actually look like. 532 00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:18,240 And here's what I'm trying to say. 533 00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:25,440 I'm saying you can do this if you put the work in. 534 00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:32,660 Your life was not meant to be lived on your own. 535 00:28:32,660 --> 00:28:37,160 You don't have to blame everything on the fact you didn't have a good dad. 536 00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:43,280 Or the fact that your boss never trained you properly for your job. 537 00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:48,920 You can take control of your life by following the biblical principles of surrounding yourself 538 00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:56,280 with the right voices. 539 00:28:56,280 --> 00:29:01,280 And if you do so, well, you'll avoid the mistakes. 540 00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:04,960 Like I did with Africa. 541 00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:06,640 You see, I was not worried about my trip to Africa. 542 00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:07,640 I'm a good traveler. 543 00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:11,200 I've traveled all over the world. 544 00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:15,400 And so I didn't even read the packet in preparation and that was going to be a troublesome thing. 545 00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:19,680 But I had a meeting scheduled with Heather where we sat down and talked about the next 546 00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:21,680 few months. 547 00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:23,800 And she brought up in our every other week meeting. 548 00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:27,920 She said, now you and Savannah are going to West Africa in January, right? 549 00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:30,960 I said, yeah, yeah, but that's like, you know, months from now. 550 00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:31,960 She said, are you prepared? 551 00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:34,640 I said, of course. 552 00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:37,120 She said, did the missions agency send you anything? 553 00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:42,040 I said, yeah, I think, I don't know. 554 00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:47,720 So she read through like the 45 pages, things you need to know. 555 00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:50,400 She's like, you know, we need to schedule these vaccines. 556 00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:52,200 You need to get your visas. 557 00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:54,280 You need to make sure this is in order and that is in order. 558 00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:55,280 This is how you dress. 559 00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:56,280 This is how to bring cash. 560 00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:57,800 This is where to exchange your cash. 561 00:29:57,800 --> 00:29:59,880 You're going to a place that doesn't have Apple Pay. 562 00:29:59,880 --> 00:30:04,440 You understand? 563 00:30:04,440 --> 00:30:10,560 And so the trip went well, not because I know what I'm doing. 564 00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:15,800 The trip went well because I have the right voices asking the right questions at the right 565 00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:19,720 time to keep me accountable. 566 00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:22,800 You don't have to be the smartest person. 567 00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:25,640 You just have to surround yourself with smart people. 568 00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:28,160 You see? 569 00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:30,520 I'm pretty sure that's kind of what the Bible was saying. 570 00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:34,480 3,000 years ago, to people like you and me. 571 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:45,120 If you do it well, well, your road trip will go much more smoothly. 572 00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:46,120 Let's pray. 573 00:30:46,120 --> 00:31:03,160 Thank you.