My friends welcome to the sheep get shared podcast.
I'm your host Austin Creed my friends. I'll be
honest with you My life has changed a lot ever
since the show was started Started the show back
when I was in college And I used to post every
single day and I need to get back to the point
where I post every day But the world is so full
of crap right now. Oh There's so much going on
in the world. There's so little time in the day.
Does anybody else relate to that? I think I speak
for a lot of us when I tell you that as you grow
up, you go to high school and go to college even,
and then once you really get into what people
call the real world, so to speak, your life changes
forever. Not only does your life change, but
your perspective, it changes with it. You go
from caring about certain things and having priorities
to just being consumed in the day to day. It's
hard to think about the future because you're
so stuck in the moment. You're so stuck in what
you're doing, what you got to get done in the
day. And then you wake up the next day and you
repeat the process over and over. You know, dealing
with loss when it comes to the investments that
you make, it can really hurt you. I'll tell you
that right now. I actually am dealing with some
of that myself. When it comes to loss, when it
comes to dealing with a gamble. Gambling, I'm
not a gambler. I don't understand why people
like to gamble at like the casino. You know,
I know people, both people I meet professionally
as in I work in the roofing consulting construction
business. And I meet a lot of people who like
to gamble, but more than that... there are people
who like sports gambling like go to the casino
they they like to you know go to have their poker
night whatever it is whatever it is things any
stripe any color you know but what i don't get
is the same people will not gamble when it comes
to bettering their life see that's the kind of
gambling i'm a for I'm all for the gambling when
it comes to taking chances to make more money,
be better looking, be more attractive, do things
that are going to benefit you in the long term.
Not just hoping you're going to beat the house,
because nobody ever wins against the house. I
don't care who sits there and tells me, no, no,
bro, I like go to the casino and I make mad money.
Isn't a game like me. I've only known one guy
in my life was really good at gambling. His name
is Nick and he don't know if he listens to the
show anymore But he's the one guy that I've known
who's actually really really good at gambling
He's always been smart. I've known him for most
of my life. He's very smart But when it comes
to gambling my friends, I find it very interesting
that Recently I suffered a big loss sort of very
big loss when it came to I invested a lot of
money into this person Who's supposed to help
me in my job and it turns out she didn't want
to do that She wanted to just use me and move
on and up I get it when it comes to two women
you might expect that when it comes to related
like Relationships, this wasn't a relationship.
I never had sex with this woman. I never Kissed
this woman. I never did anything like that with
this woman So that's why it's a little different
I'm used to playing a game when it comes to you
know having fun with a girl and then seeing what
happens. But that's not what happened this time.
See, that's the interesting part. I invested
in her. I wanted to put her in a better position.
I want her to win and me to win. That's business.
That's how business is done. But what's interesting
is she didn't get to that part where she could
just deal with it. It was reinforced to me, my
friends, that women are not like us. And what
I mean by that is women are good at certain things.
I mean, I'm not going to sit here and tell you
that women are bad at everything. That's just
not true. But they don't have that same drive
to conquer the world, to go out there and take
what's theirs. They don't have that same mindset.
I'm sure some of them do, but they're usually
more on the rainbow scale and they're not. I've
only met one woman who's really gung -ho about
business and she's a lesbian. Most of the people
especially when it comes to women. They'll back
you up if you're the right if you're the dom
guy facts They'll back you up, but they're not
gonna go out there and have that same level of
meticulous grind day in day out Sacrifice not
live the high life not it not yet because you
want to grind you want to get there Not a lot
of women will do that. They want to sit the finish
line and wait for the winners. We all know this
But there are some who do That's not the main
point. The main point, my friends, is you gotta
understand that let's take sex out of the equation.
Let's take it out of the equation, because that
is where a lot of women get their leverage. Because
once they get you in the bed, now their sex appeal
has leverage over you as a man. We all know this.
Anybody who's been in the game, high school,
college, the adult world, they understand these
things. She might not even want you, she might
just want your attention, your money, your time,
resources, you name it. But at the end of the
day, my friends, you have to be aware that even
if you don't have sex with certain women, you
don't let them in your bed, you don't go on dates
with them, you don't do any of that stuff, this
stuff could still happen to you, even in business.
And you have to be ever so vigilant to prevent
this from happening. Because in general, there's
a saying that I learned working in the consulting
world and it's buyers are liars. In other words,
when you think you've got a deal, when you think
that they're right about to sign, when they're
right about to do business with you, anything
can happen. It's not always a slam dunk. There
are some people where a handshake is as good
as a wet signature on the dotted line. There
are other people where they'll cross their fingers
whether Physically or metaphysically as they're
telling you this done the other thing of how
that happened to me multiple times by the way
I Actually had it happen to me today. Oh, yeah.
Oh, yeah, I signed one. I signed one agreement
today and Another one bailed on me after I helped
him out did all these things for him and he bailed
on me now Don't get me wrong people don't owe
you anything in this life. Here's the interesting
part though You have to make your investments
selectively. If you're a man who wants to build
yourself, if you're a man who has vision and
drive, you want things out of life. Guess what?
Other people want the same thing you do. A lot
of other people, they want to use your ambition
to further not their drive, not their goals,
their comfort. That's what they want. Most people
want the freedom to be comfortable, not the freedom
to fail, not the freedom to succeed, not the
freedom to achieve the highest levels. They don't
want that. They want the freedom to be comfortable.
They want to sit back and they want to have a
nice time. They want to sit and look out that
that penthouse glass window on the 100th floor
of the building. They want to sit there and be
like, yeah, yeah, I like this. Just it's pretty
good. I can tell you right now, me. and you gentlemen
like myself, you'll sit on that 100th floor of
that penthouse and you'll sit there and you're
like, okay, what's next? Because I'm not done
yet. There's gotta be something more. There's
gotta be another goal. There's gotta be another
thing that I can do, that I can conquer, that
I can wrangle. There's gotta be something else.
There's two types of people. people who I guess
there's more than two types but when it comes
to people who strive in life there are people
who strive to be comfortable and then there are
people who strive because they just want the
chase they want to achieve things they want to
know wait a minute I did this now let's do that
oh I did these two things and now now I'm going
for the grand prize and along the way you need
to learn to vet people I never understood this
By the way, I never understood this whole thing
of, oh, don't judge people. What kind of statement
is that? What kind of statement is don't judge
people? How do you think you're going to survive
your putz? How are you going to survive in this
life knowing that everywhere you turn, everywhere
you look, there's somebody who's going to try
to take advantage of you, use you, exploit you,
take something from you everywhere you turn.
You're going to find these types of people. And
it's not always going to be obvious, by the way.
Sometimes it's obvious. Other times you think
you're getting the good end of the bargain you
think that you're getting one over on them when
in fact They're getting one over on you and you
don't realize it because you don't understand
in that moment What you're giving up You know,
I actually hit a breaking point the other day
I don't know if you've ever been in the situation
either about where you just You throw your hands
up, and you're like, I'm not answering my phone
for the rest of the day. I'm not looking at my
email. I'm not looking on social media. I'm not
doing any of this crap. Why? Because everywhere
I turn, somebody wants something from me. They
want my attention. They want my time. They want
my money. They want something. Something. They
can't just sit there and be like, hey, hey, Austin,
do you need something? Can I offer you something?
Do you want something? Nope. It's always, hey
Austin, I want this. Hey Austin, I want that.
Hey Austin, can you come over here? Hey, can
you do that? I'm not kidding you. I got to that
point where I was done and I know I'm not alone
with that. But what's interesting to me and my
friends is the more that I deal with people,
the more I'm convinced that I was right the whole
time. And don't take this the wrong way. you
listening to the show don't take this the wrong
way I'm not necessarily talking about you and
I use the word you with the pejorative term it's
meant to include the vast majority of individuals
that you will encounter in your life not necessarily
you listening to the show right now I'm not necessarily
saying that you are the problem when I make the
statement but most people in general I'm convinced
I'm convinced that most people only want to use
you in this life. They want to use you for what
they can get. And as soon as they're done, they're
like, yeah, OK, I'm going to go to the next one.
Like a mosquito. Or as soon as I get the right
amount of blood from you, they'll just move on
to the next host. It's that simple. And there
are some people who want to build with you and
say, hey, you got ambition. I got a drive. Let's
go make some money. Now, that's a friend. That's
somebody you can team up with. I mean, I think
it was Machiavelli. I think it was Machiavelli.
Machiavelli said that you should hire an enemy
instead of a friend. Why? Because an enemy has
something to prove, whereas a friend is very
easily spoiled and very easily turned envious
of you. Huh. How about that? You agree with that?
I think it's an interesting statement. After
all, I mean my girlfriend she had that happen
to her recently. Oh, yeah Oh, did I not mention
that the the per the canvasser that I had was
actually her former best friend Oh, I didn't
mention that. Yeah So that happened to her and
I guess to me because you know, I was the one
financing it but the interesting part was It
was my girlfriend who got fended up for got fed
up first and she she was just like, you know
what? I can't take this anymore and she didn't
she It was, you know, hey, we gotta get rid of
her and we got rid of her. It was that simple.
But what's interesting, my friends, is, you know,
you have to be selective about who you let in
your sphere, who you let around you, because
your piece as a man is currency. When you let
too many people around you, whether it be they're
calling you, social media, in person, they're
taking up your time. They're taking up your sanity.
Sanity is a resource. I don't know who. I mean,
the treasure cat said that one. He said, you
can't help that most people are mad. He said
most everyone's mad here. He wasn't talking about.
He wasn't talking about what's that place called
again. He wasn't talking about wonderland. He
was talking about here. Most people are mad.
And the interesting part is it doesn't get a
whole lot better. And the older you get, in fact,
it gets worse. You think it would get better.
You would think that wouldn't you but actually
in fact it gets much worse and My friends the
interesting part about the whole ordeal is you
would be forgiven for thinking that things can
get better if You just want them to but the thing
is you can't control other people You can't control
what they do and what they say and you have to
understand that if you care too much about anybody
in your life That gives them leverage over you
and I understand Not everybody's going to betray
you or stab you in the back, but I'm this cynical
guy. That's why you listen to me. You don't listen
to me because I'm here to tell you about how
to win friends that influence people. If you
did, you're on the wrong show. Of course, that's
part of it. You want to win friends and influence
people, but you also got to understand that life
is not easy. Life is good and is not good. And
if it is for you, you know, maybe you're a lucky
person. You're the exception. You're not the
norm. For most people, me. probably you listening
to the show life is a grind life is horrible
and life sucks now does that mean that life's
not worth living? no but you know when it comes
to certain forms of entertainment they expand
on this concept quite well because when you experience
this type of professional downturn so to speak
when people you invest in people and it doesn't
work out Whether it's your time, your money,
a combination of the two. When you realize that
your investment doesn't work out, it's easy to
get depressed. You seem to get down on yourself.
Like you should not have tried at all. I actually
disagree with that. I really do. And the reason
is because you gave yourself the ability to try.
If you are not doing enough, then you're not
going to risk failure. Failure is not a death
sentence. It is not something you should be fearing.
And this is coming from somebody who feared failure
above everything back in the day. Now, for those
of you who know me in real life, you know this
to be true. For those of you who don't know me
in real life, you may not know. Now, back in
the day, I was huge, hugely scared of failure.
I didn't want to do anything. I didn't want to
fail. I didn't want someone telling me I wasn't
good. Like, anybody who's seen Back of the Future,
Back of the Future is my favorite movie. Favorite
movie series of all time back in the future fantastic
series and there's a line in the first movie
Where Marty McFly He goes around he's he's a
He's trying to play his music right? He's at
the talent show at his high school It's an 80s
movie in case you didn't know and the interesting
thing is He goes and he does his act and they're
telling me he has no talent and he's talking
to his girlfriend Jennifer Jennifer and Then
she proceeds to say oh You know you have talent
you can't you can't just give up you can't just
say oh, I'm no talent Whatever he's like man
I saw like my old man because in this in the
story his old man said the same thing about his
writing and Because he said the same thing about
his writing. He never wrote a book and they never
became famous but what happened is in the story
he fears that failure it produces the life that
he now led that he lives but then when he goes
back to the future and he needs his parents I
will spoil it for you given scene is fantastic
my favorite series but what's interesting is
once you get over the fear of failure because
you'll have setbacks in your life I've had setbacks
recently I'm not into a couple details about
it the last couple minutes we've been talking
But what you need to remember is there are setbacks
on your way to success and the minute you fear
the setbacks The success is going to be inhibited
Because now you're gonna be afraid to make that
wager when you can win as opposed to just not
making it because you don't want to lose Playing
it safe is a shortcut to failure not a shortcut
to success And this was highlighted to me over
the last couple days in the fallout of this person
that we hired to help us work just bailed on
us and slammed the door and just quit out of
nowhere after we invested a decent amount of
money in the whole thing. Now, I'm not going
to go into personal attacks. It's not important.
In fact, it demeans the discussion. But what
I will tell you is don't be afraid to make To
take chances and to fail It's really easy to
sit back and say this didn't work out. So I'm
just doing nothing I'm not gonna try. I'm not
gonna strive. I'm not gonna do any of those things
because I don't want to mess up I don't want
to look bad in front of other people I don't
want to sit back and beat myself up over the
mistake and I don't want you to do that That
is how you truly fail in this life. If you don't
You beat yourself you tell yourself you can't
do it Just because you have a setback doesn't
mean you fail. You didn't learn anything. In
my opinion, that's when you really messed up.
That's when you really failed. And so my friends,
do not take that route, because when you take
that route, you pigeonhole yourself. You make
a huge mistake. And I don't want you to make
a mistake like that, because that's hard to come
back from. That's time you're flushing down the
drain. I'm looking out the window of my apartment
right now and I see a shingle hanging down. I
Actually, I do a lot of roofing actually. And
so when I see this type of stuff, I can't help
but wonder why would you Why would you cut corners
like that as a contractor? I don't get it. I
Don't get why people cut corners only for it
to be revealed not long after I find that so
odd It's one thing when you you cut a corner
and no one even realizes that you did it. It's
another one that you get shown very quickly after
the fact and then you look stupid holding the
bag afterwards. Your shortcut actually takes
longer when you know you messed up. But, you
know, my friends, at the end of the day, when
everything is said and done and we've got to
live our own lives and we have to make mistakes,
both good and beneficial and bad and should never
have happened. And the only way we truly live
with ourselves, we're able to look ourselves
in the mirror and say we tried, say we did everything
we could. That's the only way we can truly live
with ourselves. At least that's how I see it.
The only thing has been taught to me in the last
week of my life, which is felt like forever to
tell you the truth is never be afraid to advocate
for yourself and never be afraid to take chances.
Will you lose money? time sure but you'll gain
a lesson something that you will remember and
that will help make you stronger as a person
I hope you don't forget that because that's an
important detail that is often left out and if
anybody's in sales I mean sales is one of the
hardest jobs ever let me tell you a lot of details
to it that a lot of people don't understand unless
you are actually a part of it And my friends,
I want to leave you with something else. You
can't control what happens to you in this life,
but what you can, and not just sometimes, but
what you can always, always control is your reaction
to what happens to you. And I've seen people
respond in ways that I've just left flabbergasted
as to how in the world have you gotten this far
with that attitude. And there are other people
where I say nothing affects them. They do not
flinch in the face of faltering or in fear. And
that is where you should strive to be, is not
to falter in the face of fear and adversity,
but to put your head down and to remember who
you are. Remember, I've said this on a show multiple
times, remember Mufasa's voice. From the movie
Lion King when he's talking to Simba and he says
it is booming James Earl Jones voice Remember
who you are You need to remember who you are
and what your goals are whenever you face adversity
Because I need to practice what I preach I do
because if I didn't I wouldn't be telling you
to do it without something like a hypocrite Understand
to those that fortune favors the bold Machiavelli
said it, the Romans said it. You have to be willing
to be bold and to be bold you cannot fear failure.
You can't fear messing up. What you should fear
more is inaction, not taking a chance, not being
willing to lose. That is what you should fear
the most. My friends, I'll leave you with that
for the night. I look forward to hearing what
you have to say and how These, you know, investments
in your life may have paid off. Maybe they really
backfired. I'd love to hear about it. Take care
of yourselves. I look forward to seeing you as
soon as I possibly can. I'm out. Peace.