All right, welcome to the sheep gets shared podcast
with in this it's a special show a because I
don't usually do them with the cameras anymore
because it's so complicated and be Reagan is
my girlfriend is on the show today and Her livestream
is actually going simultaneously with this show
So I wanted to do something a little different
because politics is so all over the place and
I'm kind of getting bored of it and that should
tell you something I'm getting sick of it Like,
I don't know how much people can handle of politics
anymore, so instead I want to talk more about
relationships today. So here's the main question
I want to start with, and we can have an entire
conversation off of this one question. Do you
think that it's men's fault that dating is where
it's at? No, I think it's a collective. As in
like it's a team effort? Yeah. What makes you
say that? Well, let's break it down then if it's
not men's fault, it's not just women's fault
very broad question Well, okay. Let me narrow
it down Why do you think that men and women have
a hard time connecting so often? Nobody knows
what real love is anymore. I would say the overall
I always say overall that's true That's coming
from my live stream But it begs the question
of well, then what if what is love then if people
don't know what it is? That a who knows in B
How are you supposed to figure it out? I think
love true. Love is putting your own like In my
opinion it's about putting the needs of others
before yourself. Yeah, however There's a saying
I was told once that says if you're only if you're
not for yourself, then who will be But if you're
only for yourself, then who are you? Love is
making sacrifices that benefit both of you and
not just yourself. True, but you can't you can't
be a charity either because then eventually you're
going to start resenting the other person. And
I think we see that reflected on social media.
We see that reflected in a lot of personal encounters
that people have all the time and they voice
that on the Internet. And overall, it's. Everything's
connected with the theme of. People are taking
other people's experiences as if it's their own
For example people are not experiencing in tons
of hate like people who are not No, no, I told
I said I wouldn't do politics today. We got to
do something else I don't want to I don't want
this to devolve into a political show. I want
to talk about anything else anything else today
But the reason we in my opinion see the relationships
we see is a Women don't care about what men want
and a lot of times men don't care about what
women want and in doing so people get the very
thing that Like they get what they think they're
gonna get which is nothing Yeah, I feel like
you have to be able to put an effort on both
sides and if you're not willing to put an effort
and understand that you're gonna make sacrifices
on who you are and what you do as like your own
when you're single is not what is going to continue
to happen when you find a relationship and expecting
that to happen is just not and it's going to
make you and your relationship fail and you're
not willing to put in the effort to get past
that honeymoon stage to get past that fighting
stage to get past through all those different
stages of a relationship then it's not going
to work and either it's not meant to happen and
that's just how it is sometimes or you need to
try harder. Well, here's what I think. I think
you're right with a couple of things that you
said so far. One thing that I would hype on is
everybody thinks that either A, need to be in
a relationship or B, they either need to be in
one or they never are going to be in one. Yeah.
Like it's very one way or the other. And I can
understand to an extent how people end up there,
especially when you're a younger guy or a younger
woman. You have one, two, three really bad experiences.
You immediately are going to think that it's
not possible. You're going to immediately shut
yourself off to it. And I understand the inclination
to do that. This person says old love was so
much easier. Wish I was born in the 80s. I actually
think that a big portion of why love was so easy
in the 80s is because people didn't give a flying
fuck. Not only that, they just didn't, I would
say that's, I wouldn't say that's as much part
of it as stand for the week, the constant, like,
criticizing, criticize, they didn't stand for
all of that crap of having someone else come
into your relationship, someone else speaking
on your relationship, they would just look at
them and go, Mind your business. People were
a lot less quiet back then when it came to other
people's relationships. Like people still had
to fight for their relationships. That's not
what I'm trying to say. But like it was a little
well, a lot of things were more hidden. For example,
today, I'll pick on women for a second, but I'll
switch over to men. I'll pick on women first.
A lot of women will have on their shut up. A
lot of women will have, like, oh, I cheated on
my husband for x, y, or z reason, and you'll
see women come out and say, yeah, you go, girl.
You cheat on that man. He ain't no good for you.
Versus back in the day, she would have still
cheated, but she wouldn't have told the entire
internet. No. She would have maybe told her friends
in secret, and nobody would ever said anything.
It would have been a very hush -hush situation.
Exactly. Versus now, it's glorified. Like, you
made a good choice. No, you made a bad choice,
but it was hidden. It was one of those things
where it's like, the guy didn't find out until
he was, like, 80 years old. She was like, Oh,
by the way, you know, I did this 30 years ago.
Or you find out from some drunk buddy 30 years
later, like biting your tongue around in like
the public. It was very seen to be more hush
hush rather than very open about all of your
issues and all of your problems. Like it is now,
if you played the victim back then, you were
looked down upon. Whereas if you play the victim
now and like, or even just like Pop your mouth
off in certain aspects. You're gonna get like
Applauded you're gonna get raised above onto
like a pedestal Whereas back then that's not
how it was. No, it was very reverse like make
no mistake the things we see are happening now
They are they were so happening back in the day.
Yeah, not a I would say maybe not to the same
extent And but they also to Reagan's point. We're
not glorified for their perceived or actual victimhood.
Yeah. Like everybody wants to be wronged. There
was a time when people wanted to be right. Not
everybody wants to be wronged by somebody else
so that they can say, oh, this person wronged
me. Come have sympathy for me. Whether it's men,
women, children, aliens, it doesn't matter. Everybody
wants sympathy from somebody else. They'd rather
have tried or pretended to try, lose, have people
feel sorry for them than to actually win. In
my opinion. What is your comment section saying
I can't really read it from this so they're just
kind of agreeing they're like straight -up facts
The big problem in relationships of social media,
I wouldn't say they're the it's the problem I
Think it causes more issues than people would
like to admit. I would say there's an element
to that. However, here's the thing good medicine
Tastes lousy and what I mean by that is if you
go to CVS Walgreens, whatever and they don't
sponsor me by the way, even though they should
If you go and get real medicine, it tastes terrible
Like I can tell you I can tell you from experience
you get like real herbs and spices and stuff
and you have that tastes terrible You don't have
cotton candy flavor. They don't have the cherry
cola flavor They just have straight medicine
and it tastes bad, but it gets you better. Your
cold goes away. Your fever goes away But when
you have the cotton candy flavor, it can tend
to like it tastes good, but it tends to not be
quite as effective or fast acting as just pure
ingredients. I also think another big thing of
relationships is people don't prioritize alone
time and actually going out. Like going out and
celebrating your relationship, going out and
celebrating that you hit those milestones, going
out at least once a month to make sure that you're
like keeping the fire lit or whatever. Like,
well. It's more of the - It also creates more
conversation within your relationship, especially
if you work together constantly, you live together,
like, you can't always find those, like, like,
how was your day conversations? You don't really
get those when you live and you work and everything
like that, when you do every little thing together.
So if you go out and you celebrate yourselves
and you celebrate your love and you celebrate
these things, then you're more likely to meet
new people and on top of that make conversations
that you wouldn't have had if you hadn't gone
out. Like last night a hibachi. Well, let's I
would say it's part of it. That's more of a symptom
I wouldn't say it's so much the problem I would
say more it's an attitude thing if you want to
find something wrong your relationship to find
it You want to find something right? You'll find
it now Do you need to do things, you know together
because why not and it's gonna be enjoyable,
of course But it's one thing to hold it against
somebody like I didn't get to do this or I didn't
feel this and then you Hold it like we've had
fights Especially more and more recently and
without the beginning of our relationship But
it's it never devolves into something that's
toxic in my opinion It usually ends and it's
like look you're not actually the problem. You
might be 10 % You're not majority the problem.
No, it's more the straw that broke the camel's
back and Because they're the one there They're
the one that gets to take it out on yeah, that's
usually how it works It's not so much you're
100 % the problem even though you can feel like
it in that moment I think this is so off topic,
but I think it's funny that so we've got two
cameras set up right now and so on my camera
my face looks like More done and on this one.
It does not look very you have a filter on yours,
don't you? I don't think so. Oh, I Think it's
just like how the lights hitting. Yeah, I think
it's funny. Sorry High star it's relationships
are always gonna be complicated but to me it's
more the the spirit behind it yeah you have to
be you have to be willing to like this person
says a big problem at least for me is the fact
that if we arguing you don't need to run the
run the other people like run to other people
about the problem oh that's a huge problem i
think that's i think that's what he was talking
about when he was talking about like social media
becoming the problem because you could just run
to online and make a TikTok about how you're
upset or how about your hurt and get so much
sympathy and then you're like, oh, I'm not the
wrong because this person, this person, this
person, this person, this person, this person,
this person. And all these people in my comments
are like, oh, you're not in the wrong, babe.
That's, that's totally, definitely how things
work. You're definitely not the issue. It's him.
It's he's the problem or, or she's the problem,
whatever this side or the other. I think that's
a huge element of it. It's, it's more of symptom.
Like the main thing is letting other people think
for you. Instead of you saying hey, you know
what you make a good point I don't agree with
everything you said but in general I see what
you're saying and I'm gonna take that and I'm
gonna think about it I'm gonna let it marinate
in my mind and then I'm gonna come up with what
I think because it's my relationship It's my
life and I'm gonna decide what I want to do But
most people don't do that they'll think oh because
most people think this therefore it must be true
or Accurate and I'm gonna do that like that's
got to be the right thing to do instead of saying
maybe they're right or some of it's right not
all of it super easy to let other people do the
thinking especially on social media especially
when they're telling you things you want to hear
like everybody wants to be right you're not going
to listen to the person who's like no you're
100 % wrong you're immediately going to be like
well screw you i don't want to listen to what
you have to say versus if they say oh you're
right queen are you right king you're immediately
going to be like yeah yeah i'm right yeah you
better believe it i'm right instead of saying
well you're right here you weren't right over
here and uh maybe you can work a little bit on
this side over here that's comprehensive that's
real advice hey autumn like and i think it's
important that you get both sides of the spectrum
like on my show i'm a guy so obviously i'm going
to talk more from the male perspective you're
a woman even though some people would say there
is no such thing as a woman i personally disagree
people would say the same thing about men i'm
just being facetious i'm being funny I'm not
I'm trying to be funny what's wrong with you
I know I'm trying to be funny too and so you
can talk more from the female perspective and
so it's good to have both or both arenas represented
otherwise you can only think of things so far
100 % because you can imagine what someone might
say but how accurate is that going to be and
of course you can be cynical like me and assume
that most things most people say are probably
twisted or wrong hey Hailey But still, it gives
you a little bit of input so you can come up
with your own output. Thank you so much for the
heart, me. I think it's incredibly important
for you to do. Like, I'll be honest. I suffered
from that really early on. Like, I was very focused
on just being right and not being understanding
of what the heck is actually happening to people's
relationships. Oh my gosh. Haley, holy crap.
Hi. Thank you for stopping in. Bring his live
streams going nuts. Holy cow! Hailey's amazing.
That's insane. Holy cow, girl. Oh my gosh. Jade
says a kiss and I'll give you a rose. You gonna
blow him a kiss? I thought the chill would go
down my spine. It's not usually my thing. I just
didn't want to do it. You're taking advantage
of the fact that I'm not wearing my glasses because
it's glaring with all extra light behind us.
That's not cool. Now you have to do it. There
you go. Now we're even. I think a lot of times
people want to cast blame when it comes to whether
their relationships, most people's relationships,
instead of saying, hey, We have to to some extent
work together because I've met guys and I even
still understand the argument of, hey, I don't
want to be married because marriage doesn't benefit
men in a lot of ways. And I've also heard the
woman side of, hey, a lot of men maybe don't
have the wealth or the lifestyle that I want
to have. That makes me feel comfortable because
let's be honest, most people wouldn't work if
they didn't have to. Or at the very least, they
don't want to have to worry about money and they
want to do what they want to do regardless of
whether money is a factor or not. Yeah. And historically,
that's what you have to have as a man. Like if
you look back in history, men had to have property.
They had to have whether it was a farm or an
estate or something before they would even get
marriage proposals from other families and then
say yes or no. And then there's a dowry and blah
blah blah blah, but you couldn't be mr. Average
Joe and living in the gutter in London and Try
to get some supermodel. No, it doesn't work that
way It's never worked that way and so when I
go to you know A lot of dudes get the a lot of
women and men have a very false expectation of
how relationships work They think hey, I should
just have I deserve someone by default I should
just have somebody because other people have
somebody or I'm lonely. Therefore. I should have
something Mason says, would you say the biggest
problem in relationships revolves around money?
It's the number one reason people get divorced.
I can tell you that. Money is the number one
reason people get divorced. It's the financial
problems is the number one reason that marriages
fall apart. I also feel like if you're more,
if you're open and you talk about the issues
or if you just come to like an understanding
that like if Like you just don't talk about it
either. You don't talk about it or you overly
talk about it It's got to be one of the two you
can't have this like oh, you know We'll talk
about it sometimes but not always but you also
as a man you need to have ambition Yeah, I know
dudes who they get married they let them and
this is not against the dudes I know in real
life this most like my best friends I'm not talking
about y 'all talking about people in the military
that I met people that I've met doing this job
Etc where what they do is they get married And
then they'll show you pictures of like, this
is me on the high school diving team. This is
me when I was in college. And you're like, dang
dude, you looked in good shape. Like, yeah, you
looked good. And then you see them 20 years later
and they look like poop. And you're like, well,
like people still have eyes. Just because the
person loves you doesn't mean they like the fact
that you're letting yourself go. And it goes
across men and women. You let yourself go. You're
going to lose attraction to you. They fell in
love with you for who you were in that moment.
It's going to change over time. Well, they fell
in love with you for more things. But if you
let yourself go and you continuously show the
person that you're supposed to be with that you
don't care or you're not willing to put in the
effort, if you're not willing to put the efforts
into you, then how can you put in the effort?
Your shoulder hurt? No, you're just sitting up
weird. If you're not willing to put in the effort
to yourself, then how are you willing to put
in the effort for me? How are you going to put
in the effort for our relationship, our family,
all of these things that we want and that we
need, if you can't even keep yourself up to date?
And that goes both ways. That's not just saying
for women or for men. That is both. Well, I'd
add to it. I'd say, forget like, for example,
let's use you and me as an example. Okay. Let's
forget us for a second. Let's talk about kids.
Do you think your kids are gonna respect you
if you look like you should have your own gravitational
pull? Like your kids are not gonna expect like
Especially if you have male children and you're
in your husband and you're a father if your kids
look at you And they're like dang you want shape
like they'll still like you they'll still love
you as their father But they're not gonna respect
you as much as if you look and I'm not saying
you need to get on all these performance enhancing
drugs to look good It's also one thing if it's
like health related, whereas if it's like, um,
just like you letting yourself go, it's, there's
a big situation and it's also a little more like,
um, accepted for women after they have kids.
That's, I actually didn't think about that. That's
very true. It's very accepted for women. Not
I'm not saying let yourself go after you have
kids. That's not what I'm saying I'm just saying
it's a little more accepted You have a lot more
leniency when it comes to being a woman after
having kids because that has a lot of changes
on your body But in my opinion for men, you shouldn't
be putting on baby weight Well, like I'm not
trying to be mean but I'm just like you shouldn't
be trying like I've heard men be like, oh I put
on some baby weight what baby weight from eating
all those snacks Like, come on, dude. Well, it's
one of those things that if you don't prioritize
it, it'll show. Oh, yeah. It's not gonna happen
overnight. You don't go from being someone in
shape to morbidly obese. It takes time. One burger
here, 10 years there, and before you know it,
you're now severely overweight and out of shape.
And you can still have, there are a lot of things
I think that's misunderstood is that you can
have a burger. You can have things that are unhealthy
for you, but you can make them healthy. Instead
of going out to McDonald's or instead of going
out to this, that, or the other, make it at home.
Know what ingredients you're putting in your
food. Know what ingredients you're giving to
your children. Know what ingredients that your
body is taking because that is a big change.
And also if you're a stay at home mom or a stay
at home dad or whatever you do, cook. for your
significant other. Clean. Food is the way to
the heart in either gender. Well, okay, I'm out
of use. Give me food. Stay at home dads only
work if you like are a podcaster or you work
from home. That's fine. Don't I don't think that
most and by most I mean like 90 % if not more
relationships don't work when the man's the the
man mommy and the woman goes and makes the money
because women naturally want a man who is At
their level or above them not below them in their
own heads. You mean a mammy? Yeah Basically,
yes Mammy are there not not Manny Mammy are there
a couple relationships where it can work? Sure
I wouldn't aim for that because number one Your
woman's gonna over time not respect you in my
opinion and this is reflected in most statistics
that you see Where the one is the bread sole
breadwinner and the man doesn't Like contribute
to the household in a financial way or at least
not very much. It doesn't work as well. I Want
a tiny dino? I want a tiny dino You're gonna
do one of those cringy things where they know
dino roar that sounds like it's gonna give me
like No, no No, I just want a tiny dino I just
want a tiny dino so that I can get two tiny dinos
and then we can move to a different Overall,
I think it's incredibly, um, disingenuous for
people to only say one side of the spectrum when
it comes to relationships. We got a tiny dino.
TikTok is just so different than YouTube or like,
for example, like podcasting overall can't happen
on TikTok, but TikTok is largely like its own
entity. Oh, it's its own separate. So it's very
interesting to see like the very stark. Difference
like obviously you can go live on YouTube, which
or maybe I should start doing more big But it's
not like the same as tick -tock. No, it's not
the same It's not make talk a live -streaming
platform as much it's starting to go there, but
it's not at that point just yet And so it's important
that It's important that you say the whole story
I think it's I think it's disingenuous to only
blame men or only blame women but the same time
You need to be able to see through the BS on
both sides 100 % the problem is a lot of dudes
they don't at the beginning and then they get
their heart broken and women have the same problem
because they they choose the so -called bad boys
and they they love it and Then they and then
they hate men as a result of it and it's more
Accepted for women to hate men than it is for
men to hate women what I don't think you should
hate anybody I agree. It's stupid. That's something
I talk about a lot online is if you go on my
TikTok, the first thing in my bio is like positivity
is key. I don't we all want each other to win.
That's the great thing about TikTok too is like
they want you to win. They want you to be a creator,
especially now. Like right now they want you
to be a creator. They want you to like make money.
That's what they want. They want people to make
you money. They want you to make other people
money. That's that's kind of the whole point
and It's becoming widely What just happened you
sort short -circ? What did you do? I just like
smelled something that shouldn't be smelled,
but that's okay. What are you talking about?
I Can't say it on tiktok. I need you to smell
it Let's derail my entire train of thought. I
know, I was like... If anybody's ever seen Inside
Out, like where the train's going, you just hear
the e -brake and it's just like... That was exactly
what just happened. That was my train of thought
just now. Literally just smelled the whiff of
it and I went whoop! That went gone. I feel like
the guys in the Old West where the train goes
off the bridge. I have ADHD so that will probably
happen more times than I'd like to admit. See,
people think ADHD is like... Not a real thing
or that like everybody has it. No, it's super
funny people be like, oh, yeah I'm like thumper
from Bambi with my foot. So therefore I have
ADHD. That's you your thumper But I don't have
80 I don't self diagnose myself with ADHD like
a lot of people do well There's also a difference
between like fidgeting and then like overly fidgeting.
There's a people just need also There's a thing
called having a nervous tick. Yeah Where that's
not so much like a disorder. It's just like you're
nervous about something like I took my hair behind
me Oh my gosh, like I'm playing with my hair
Oh gosh, I have ADHD because I can't sit still.
No how that works. Well, how that works everybody
wants to work Everybody wants like a problem
to have as a shield whether it's in a relationship
in society for work Whatever they want to have
like a oh you can't criticize me on this. You
can't criticize me on that I have this problem
and this disability or this alternative lifestyle
that they don't want They want to be immune from
any kind of accountability or backlash for anything
that they do. It's kind of sad. I think people
just really need this. Like, there's a lot more
information on ADHD coming out recently. So educate
yourself because people who actually have it
are really tired of hearing, oh, you're like,
oh, you just can't sit still or you just don't
apply yourself or you just don't try hard enough.
We're all annoyed. We're all tired. One interesting
thing is my audience is obviously going to be
a little different than yours. Yeah. And what
I mean by that is a lot of people that I've talked
to who watch my show, they don't like it when
people make excuses. I agree. They don't like
it when they hear like, oh, they're hiding behind
this or they're hiding behind that. And I totally
get it. I totally get it. That's what we want
to stop, is people are hiding behind the false
ADHD diagnosis. You should use any kind of deficiency
or potential like disadvantage, however you want
to say it, that you have, to then say, I... I
won or I succeeded in spite of the things that
were in my way. I didn't not win because of this.
I didn't I can't win because of X, Y or Z. Therefore,
you need to feel sorry for me and you need to
help me win while I climb over your shoulders.
We can't have that. We got another dino. We completed
our goal. Let's go. Is it like a Tyrannosaurus
dinosaur? I love them. They take 10 coins. This
is why I don't know if I could ever like do TikTok
like for full time because like I'm gonna do
like it's distracted to my train of thought.
I'm the kind of guy who could talk for like five
hours and just have it be a natural train of
thought ever evolving conversation. and that's
why a lot of times i don't do live streams is
for that exact reason not that people are distracting
or bad but like we've got a new one i don't understand
how like like people who do like talk radio or
like podcasts or people like call into their
show i can only imagine how like that distracts
your train of thought of what you wanted to say
what you're going to say and then goes in a completely
alternate direction and you never saw it coming
it definitely does do that where like you definitely
have that You definitely get a little distracted
But if you're someone like me who gets like needs
the like serotonin boost It honestly is great.
Especially like there's ones that like are he
like cost a lot of coins that like Fly across
your whole screen and it's so cool. Well, you're
letting something totally different where there's
for example I can do a show and I can be in a
completely empty room by myself. And a lot of
people who perform, they have audiences. They
can measure their crowd. Is the crowd into it?
Are they not into it? Are they laughing? Are
they booing and throwing tomatoes at you? What
are they doing? You can engage and you can shift
and kind of bob and weave verbally and mentally
with the feedback you're getting from your audience.
Me, I'm more used to being alone and kind of
having this this conversation with what i would
assume people would say or as the conversation
evolves you think oh well maybe i can go down
this hole or that rabbit hole or whatever instead
of it just being like i want to wait here and
wait for somebody to talk to me or wait for somebody
to kind of kick my gears in my head and grease
the skids for me to keep flying down this mountain
of creative thinking we've definitely moved on
from where we first started But that's the whole
point. But to me, everything is all tied in.
The whole point and goal of this show was no
politics. I agree. I can't take it for another
second. You can't take it? I'm having fatigue
from it. I need to talk about anything else.
Thank you so much for the follow. My goal is
to hit at least 900 followers by the end of today.
I promise I wouldn't talk about it. And the one
thing is, and I'll say I'm really fatigued about
it, is the whole pope garbage. Can't I can't
take it anymore? Everybody's immediately decided
whether they love or hate him instead of actually
waiting for him to do anything like that's what
I don't get This person says you got a good one
with Reagan. She's honest genuine person number
one No, number one rule. No politics swear to
God Well, I talked about it from time and time
I think it's important but I can't do it every
single day in my life like who can live like
that and I'm a More political junkie than most
people that I know Like I just can't take it
anymore. I love the people are coming in. They're
like, why do we look alike? I don't like you
but that's okay. Yeah That's like saying every
black person looks the same or every Hispanic
person That said it like what I don't we don't
look the I agree this Mason saying the Pope stuff
is annoying. Well, of course it is because it's
not fair You can't say that because you could
take and in my opinion They They stole a picture
from my live and put it as their profile picture
They snap the picture in my life and then posted
it as their profile picture I don't know if that's
more cool or creepy. It's creepy I can't tell
because I can see both sides of the aisle to
be totally honest I Just look I've read a lot
about like the whole Vatican situation. In my
opinion, like any other politician, the only
thing I want to say about it is you got to give
people a chance. I don't care what they did before.
You have to give people a chance. Now, I'm fully
prepared to make my own conversation, like my
own theories afterwards, but that's all I'm going
to say about it is you got to give people a chance.
I don't care if it's in a relationship or in
politics. You got to give people a chance and
not just only go off what other people have told
you because they're not going to give you the
full story. They can't. It's that simple All
right, let's get back on track where we were
because I don't want to talk about it What well,
I've been asking a lot of relationship questions
up from my end. What questions do you have? What
do you want to talk about relationship wise?
Otherwise, I'll just keep asking mine. Yeah,
just keep asking questions. I like answering
questions This person says I like this guy I'm
not always very likable my audience will be the
first to tell you there are some people who love
me who lives watch every show that I do shout
out to Eric he's great everybody else most people
are like oh this guy is either really annoying
or really awesome it's either one way or the
other I'm like Trump people love me or hate me
most of the time but that's the last political
reference I'll use because I can't take it I'm
getting mad I'm getting mad at myself for even
bringing it up I'd rather talk about something
I am not a more interesting person at all well
here's the thing It's so easy to get wound up
by things you don't care about. Like in life,
for example, your friends talk to you about something
that doesn't affect you whatsoever, and you're
like, I want to care about this, but at the same
time, I'm not going to pretend like I know what
you're going through. Does anyone have any? Does
anyone have a question about relationships? Let's
see. You got to give people a minute. Because
you can only type so fast. I can type really
fast. I don't know what you're talking about.
I took those typing lessons back in like middle
school. There was like a typing game with Timon
and Pumbaa when I was a kid where you had to
type fast otherwise like they wouldn't make it
where they needed to go. That's sad. That's so
sad. I was always really bad at those. I'm not
a typer. I'm a text. I'm honestly jealous. I
get all the cool video games weren't that many
fun video games I Am definitely not a typer by
any means I always was really bad so I can't
do the tradition I'm not a traditional person
when it comes to almost anything that I do I
can't type in a traditional way like this Yeah,
like who do who do only like Millennials do this
thing where they're like No, it's like it's like
they're one -handed typing is harder. I don't
get it. You take me 45 seconds to type four words
That's we gotta get like Grammarly and stuff
like that We're like the AI that helps you write
and correct your like commas and stuff like that.
Fantastic. Grammarly sponsor me I feel like Rick
from Rick and Morty when he has that episode
where he's like Nintendo give me free stuff Okay,
ask your relationship question because I don't
think anyone right now is Has anything well,
what would you say is the most common problem
in a relationship that can do rail a relationship
like it's Letting the little things that bug
you consume your relationship Like good morning
is very intellectual What is so many people watching
when they're stoned I don't get that I'm not
a stoner. I don't like getting high. I've heard
because it's trippy I'm not a stoner, right?
Because like all the portals and stuff? I don't
know. Oh, man. Loyalty? Loyalty for sure should
be a problem. I want to go on loyalty for a second.
Poison the relationship. I think loyalty can
oftentimes be used in the wrong way because No,
a lot of people like to control their relationship.
A lot of people want to like say, oh, you have
to be loyal to me despite whatever the heck I
do, which I don't personally agree with. This
person says LOL because it's because it is deep.
I study philosophy and Rick and Morty is very
deep. It is, but it can also be very like infantile
and dumb and funny. Yeah, I agree. Like it's
toilet humor mixed with the most complex topics
known to mankind. It's a very rare, very rare
like Dichotomy you can how you can have a poop
joke in one in one minute in the next minute
be talking about the complexities of like science
and the like PTSD We go from PTSD to poop jokes
like like and it's nuts like that. Let me fix
myself I'm really struggling today. I'm a little
anxious Well, it's because you don't often get
Exposed to my audience. I'm dealing like I'm
dealing with two separate audiences and I'm like
really trying Mason said bro is saying too many
words for my brain I'm just trying not to talk
like Ben Shapiro. I tend to talk really quickly.
I'm trying really hard to like stay focused on
both and like answer questions in the in the
live and then also like answer your questions
on here and make sure that the You know, my answers
are really well thought through but also trying
to make sure that I want to make it a little
more Polarizing and stay on theme with what I
originally talked about. Yeah What is one thing
that you think men do that ruins a relationship?
Leaves because it gets too hard. Not willing
to put in the effort. What do you mean not willing
to put in the effort? Like not willing to stay
and fight through those issues. Fight instead
of stay as in like not break up or stay as in
like stay in that moment and not like leave or
collect themselves and come back. No, no, no.
Like leave, like be gone. Oh instead of fighting
through it and like like it's one thing to walk
away and be like alright, you know I'm gonna
take 30 minutes and I'm gonna take it to myself
and I'm gonna think about it and then it's another
to like and then I'll be back and then it's another
to be like You know what? I'm done fighting with
you. I'm done dealing with it. I'm done dealing
with how your issues I'm done dealing with constantly
fighting every single day and never being able
to find a resolution. So this I'm done. Bye instead
of trying to fix the problem at hand that you've
already started a relationship, you're already
six, seven, eight, nine months into a relationship,
and you're finally hitting that non -honey mood
stage instead of fighting through it and trying,
you're just, and like trying to fix the issues
instead of just dropping everything and losing
it. Same some things aren't worth fighting for
when it's constantly fight over the same thing
every day. I mean If you're willing to change
if you're willing to fix the problem at hand
it's worth fighting for I think Well, there's
a line between things that you can Fight for
and things you shouldn't fight like at what point
does it become? Hey, this isn't worth it anymore
At what point? Yeah, like at what point would
you like at what point do you? You're fighting
over the same like the same specific conversation
like about like let's say you're fighting about
fighting every single day about yeah, you're
fighting about the fact that y 'all can't stop
fighting and At some point, you know you have
that fight for two weeks three weeks Whatever
and you still can't figure out a reason as to
why you're fighting. It's just not meant to being
y 'all just need to be done So unless you're
gonna fight through it and like try to be better,
then it's not worth fighting for. If both of
you can't sit here objectively and say, you know
what, I love you, you love me, and we're talking
about relationships. Like if you guys can't objectively
sit down and be like, you know what? I know you
love me and I know I love you So are we gonna
be willing to sit here and have a conversation
and figure it out? Are we just gonna continue
to fight fight fight fight fight fight fight?
Because if we're just gonna continue to fight
fight fight fight fight and not try to find a
solution or try and fix things Then this relationship
isn't worth it Well that kind of borders into
like that you're trying to change the person
No, no, I don't know what you're trying to know
you don't like you shouldn't be trying to change
the yeah is my point Yeah, it's not you're trying
to force something instead of them saying hey,
you know what? Let's make this work or hey, maybe
I was wrong or maybe you were right. Whatever
needs to happen It's people don't want to always
admit that they're wrong to be fair Most of the
time I'm right and she'll admit that most of
the time I am right, but there are times where
I'm not right There's and there are times I need
to admit that There are times where he is very
right, but that's very normal when he's what
four and a half years older than me, almost five.
That's pretty regular for him to be more right
than me. I'm 20 years old. I've been on a high
school for two years. Like I've got a lot of
learning to do, but so does he. And we're both
able to sit here and admit that we have learning
to do within our relationship. and we have to
be willing to fight for that if we're not willing
to fight for that it has to come down to a conversation
and be like I would say from the male side the
relationship tends to start falling apart when
the intimacy goes away it's one thing if it's
like for example you're as busy one week or two
weeks it's one thing if like you have the time
the time is there and oh I don't feel like it
oh it's not there oh I don't this oh my back
oh my head whatever like you're finding every
excuse in the book not to versus like they're
actually being a valid reason because even if
there is at that point as a man you're going
to assume she's making it up because she just
doesn't want to you know make love with to you
and at the end of the day that's what it comes
down to and you're not entitled to that as a
man which you got to look at yourself and say
if that's the case it probably means a you're
getting out of shape or b maybe she is just not
into you anymore yeah and at that point you need
to stop wasting your time in my opinion because
you can't you can't renegotiate somebody's attraction
to you it doesn't work that way it's not a contract
you don't go to your agent don't read it out
loud but now that is the definition of too much
information that i didn't need that is tmi we
don't even have that much sharing in our relationship
that's gross um i want to get that thank you
trip to the doctor's office. That's like me saying
I have tons and tons of back hair. I want to
get that checked. I want to get that checked.
Thank you so much for the follow. What were we
talking about? I just gagged and almost threw
up. Talking about a lot of different things.
I was just saying that like when it comes to
intimacy goes away Yeah in the relationship usually
that means that either the woman's attracted
to another man or you just not attracted to you
Or there's I mean there's multiple different
ways like if y 'all are spending too much time
together then at some point y 'all are gonna
be like Yeah, yeah, okay You know what I mean?
I've heard that can happen and then on top of
that like there are times like I've seen a lot
of videos recently, especially on TikTok about
like how ADHD can cause issues in that like connectivity
aspect where it's like squirrel, like you were
in the mood and now you're not. And so you have
to kind of be willing to push through that as
well. There's a lot of things you have to, it's
a give and take situation in a relationship.
It's never going to change. It's always going
to be a give and take. That's how it works. Well,
not only that, but you're highlighting something
else. And you have to be willing to compromise.
There's a lot of compromises in relationships.
And if you're not willing to compromise, it's
not going to work. But you also don't want to
be treated like it's a chore. No, of course.
Because then at that point, it's so different
than taking out the garbage or doing the dishes.
you know yeah and again there's a difference
between saying hey this is just a reality and
you need to deal with it versus hey i'm using
this as an excuse i'll do it that's not a huge
problem i've been busy i've been busy working
i just realized that i've been i've been busy
working so i haven't had a whole lot of time
code but to me there's a difference between saying
hey this is just happens versus saying this is
not my excuse yeah Because you can make any excuse
you want to not do something that you don't want
to do True versus saying hey, you know what?
I'm going through this thing But I'm you know,
I'm gonna fight through it anyway Or just like
have communication That's the only thing I think
that people really lack on in relationships is
they really like they don't realize how much
Communication you have to have in a relationship.
You have to open your mouth and speak If you're
not willing to open your fucking mouth and speak,
then you're not gonna get anywhere in your relationship.
That goes for everything. Literally, you wake
up in the morning, you're like, good morning.
Or, hey, I'm heading out, but I'll send breakfast.
Or, hey, you know what, I'm really upset right
now, I'll come back in 30 minutes. You know something
like you always have to communicate you always
have to be willing to put in the words Because
if you're not willing to put in the words, then
it's never going to work. I would say conversely
you can't over share No, if you over share in
a relationship like if you know if you know over
share I mean if you know everything about the
person there is to know they get boring Well,
that's the thing is you'll never know everything
about a person. Well, you can know the vast majority.
There's no way you can know everything about
a person because a person has their own deepest,
darkest secrets that they'll never share with
anyone in their life. But most people are not
that interesting, though. That's the problem.
Well, then be more interesting. Get a fun job.
Get a fancy. Well, now you're highlighting the
solution to that problem. And I would definitely
say you can put you could put too much trust
into a relationship. It depends on what you mean
by trust as in I don't think you can put too
much trust I think you can put a little too much
faith You should at the bottom line you need
to never forget that people still have their
own self -interest at heart because they're not
crazy Yep, and you need to still be part of that
person's best interest Because you can't expect
them to time after time put their own self -interest
on hold to help you It's not realistic, whether
you're men, women, aliens, babies, I don't care.
People have self -interest, they have ambition,
and the more you get in the way of that, the
more their natural biological instinct's gonna
say, hey dummy, hey dummy, what are you doing?
Why are we doing this? Well at some point you're
gonna just have a click. It's just gonna click
in your head and at some point you're gonna be
like, why am I putting their needs above mine
when I have needs myself? That goes both ways.
It's one thing to do it here and there, time
in, and they do the same for you. It's one thing
if it's reciprocal. It's another if it's parasitic
and you're getting nothing back, at which point
you're basically a charitable foundation without
the tax exemption. True. And it's not fair for
the other person. That's why a lot of stay -at
-home girlfriends don't work out. Because if
you're not contributing, like that's why, unless
you guys have like a dog, or cat or kids or something
like that. Being a stay at home girlfriend doesn't
always work out in the best. Well, that's why
I don't look back at someone you don't. You don't
read books backwards. No, but I'll reread books.
Actually, no, I won't. I'll rewatch movies. I
don't watch, I don't read books. That's way more
your speed. Yeah, I'm not gonna lie. Gotcha.
I prefer listening to books more because it's
just, I'm more of an auditory person. I like
to read still, but I like more audio books. To
me, it's better for me to get more into it because
I can use my imagination better than having to
focus on the page. If someone's gonna read me
a book, I'm totally down. Like I just got out
of a year and a half relationship and the reason
we broke up is because she wanted to work on
herself I'll reread a book. I love multiple times
You know, it's stuff like that where it's like
work on myself. Like that sounds like a code
word for I'm trying to find a higher caliber
man and you're not him. So I got to leave. Yeah.
And I'm not saying that to be a joke to you,
man. I'm going to be honest. I'm going to be
honest. And this might be really messed up. But
I I've definitely had friends who do that too.
Like they're just it's not it's not the fact
it's not like, oh, you're the problem. It's just
like this isn't what I want. or it's code for
I wanna be a hoe. There's that too. I've heard
that a lot. It's okay bro, the next day I found
her and the dude's gone. I'm gonna have to say
refer to this comment right here. I'm gonna have
to say that. Also another thing I think a lot
of men need to realize is there are no virgins
out here. There really aren't and you need to
stop looking for it because it's not unless you
want to go to like The deep reaches of Asia or
Africa and try to find something good luck, but
you've also don't support bros or some crap Like
don't don't do it. I don't do it a virgin like
it's not feasible It's just not At the end of
the day, it's not feasible. It's like a woman
who's completely out of shape and she wants to
find Channing Tatum looking guy who's a billionaire,
and she doesn't need to do any work on herself
whatsoever. That's not gonna happen, it doesn't
work that way. In the same way that you as a
guy, you can't expect yourself to get the results
you want if you're not willing to become that
guy. That's why in my relationship, I still go
to the gym, I still work out all the time. Why?
Because I care about myself. If I don't respect
myself, I don't expect her to respect me. It's
that simple. Also, there's something you brought
up earlier. Sorry. I fell down. I scooted down
a little too far. You brought up something earlier.
Do you have a secret admirer? You brought something
up earlier. Don't read those out loud. They're
just spam, but You brought something up earlier.
I've said that three times now, but that That's
pretty classic you so that's true. I'm a pretty
on brand as far as I'm concerned. I Forgot what
I was gonna say Um, I think you need to check
your eyeball It says you're my favorite black
influencer. I don't know if you can see, but...
I want to receive my black card from the NAACP
before I can... Let me just put it to you this
way. We are both blonde hair, blue eyed, white
people. No, I want my double, I want my double
NCP certificate award of nomination, at which
point I will gladly accept that title. I'm actually,
I'm a black albino person, actually. That's how
I identify, so you have to accept it. I'm like
Eminem. I wish I was black, so you have to pretend
like I am. Thank you so much for the phone! Okay,
anyway, let's get back to what we were discussing.
You think if I identify as Elon Musk, I can have
all his money? No. Well, that's not fair! I should
really identify whoever I want to be! I wanna
be Elon Musk, dang it! I wanna be rich! I'd identify
as my chair. Do you identify as my chair? No!
No, I do not. Why, you trying to sit on me to
get ahead? That's not exactly what I was... I
know what you were insinuating. I'm very aware.
I wasn't born yesterday. You sure? At least I
don't think so I might have to double check.
I need to call your mom's Yeah, I might need
to double check my birth certificate on that
one. It's weird seeing two of me They're also
at two different heights. So it's like what is
happening? Awesome my brain just went I think
we talked a lot about different aspects of the
relationships more than I actually expected to
be honest I need a Red Bull I need a Red Bull.
Red Bull Zeroes are better. That's what I want.
Red Bull Zeroes, the blue ones are so good. You
see they taste like cotton candy? They do taste
like cotton candy. I don't see it personally.
Damn. Like I see it like to an extent, but not
to the, like to me it tastes like a mix of like
different things. It's not exactly the same.
That's real. What kind of beer are we talking
about? Miller Lite or Bud or what? I don't understand
people who only drink beer though. Because to
me... I want to have Mimosa. Champagne. Yeah.
I find it ironic though, that like, of course
it's not bad. But to me... We're cousins now.
Beer is okay, but... Like, I gotta have like
12 of them. to like feel anything at that point
I feel super bloated super carbonated and then
at that point I feel like I'm gonna yak it's
not worth it how'd you feel about that stripe
I think it was okay but again I only had one
like I'm not gonna have like if I wanted to get
like gone gone and have to have like six at least
to get started I could go for a bottle of Jaeger
it's crazy the black licorice yo stuff tastes
like black licorice I never understood people
who like black licorice it's weird My mother
is one of those people. Licorice is gross. Mmm,
red one's not bad. That's Twizzlers. No, that's
like the red vines. Eww. Yeah, red vines aren't
bad. No, they're gross. And I really want some
Twizzlers. Oh gosh. She has a whole stash of
snacks. I don't... I don't understand... understatement
um because you got like all the cheddar bunnies
and all this type of stuff too what are you doing
i'm gonna go get some water that was fun okay
so what we have for snack wise today is a lot
of different things welcome to my channel no
i'm just kidding I've got I know I got the lint
mint or the milk chocolate balls You did not
drink your chocolate milkshake We just hit oh
my gosh We just achieved goal of five finger
hearts Thank you so much chase the donut um so
we got the lint or the lindor yeah the lint lindor
milk bowls and then I've got the her stocks are
inferior what are these called Caramel? No, not
the... Duh! I was talking about the brand. Ghirardelli.
It's like, it's like Ghirardelli or something
like that. Something like that. Uh, the milk
chocolate caramel squeeze. And then, and then,
we got the Ghirardelli, uh, dark chocolate mint
squeeze. And then... You know what I haven't
had in a while? I haven't had in a while was
Big League Chew. That's a big league. Big League
Chew. I got my Greek yogurt bars over here because
I'm trying to get my eight pack back. I'm at
six, I need eight. We're trying to get your ten
pack back. What should we do? What should I do
next, Colby? I don't know. I do think I need
to go answer my work emails before anything else,
because it's getting later on a Saturday. I don't
want to work on Sunday. Supposed to be my Sabbath
day of rest. I think we're going to do TikToks.
All right, my friends, I'm going to let you all
go on my end. Let me know if you like. Doing
shows with both me and Reagan and if you do,
let me know we'll do more of them If you do we
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