WEBVTT 00:00:01.459 --> 00:00:04.139 All right, welcome to the sheep gets shared podcast 00:00:04.139 --> 00:00:07.259 with in this it's a special show a because I 00:00:07.259 --> 00:00:09.060 don't usually do them with the cameras anymore 00:00:09.060 --> 00:00:13.000 because it's so complicated and be Reagan is 00:00:13.000 --> 00:00:16.820 my girlfriend is on the show today and Her livestream 00:00:16.820 --> 00:00:19.679 is actually going simultaneously with this show 00:00:19.679 --> 00:00:23.300 So I wanted to do something a little different 00:00:23.300 --> 00:00:26.379 because politics is so all over the place and 00:00:26.379 --> 00:00:28.359 I'm kind of getting bored of it and that should 00:00:28.359 --> 00:00:31.230 tell you something I'm getting sick of it Like, 00:00:31.230 --> 00:00:33.469 I don't know how much people can handle of politics 00:00:33.469 --> 00:00:35.329 anymore, so instead I want to talk more about 00:00:35.329 --> 00:00:39.469 relationships today. So here's the main question 00:00:39.469 --> 00:00:42.109 I want to start with, and we can have an entire 00:00:42.109 --> 00:00:45.570 conversation off of this one question. Do you 00:00:45.570 --> 00:00:47.729 think that it's men's fault that dating is where 00:00:47.729 --> 00:00:51.149 it's at? No, I think it's a collective. As in 00:00:51.149 --> 00:00:53.750 like it's a team effort? Yeah. What makes you 00:00:53.750 --> 00:00:57.899 say that? Well, let's break it down then if it's 00:00:57.899 --> 00:01:00.060 not men's fault, it's not just women's fault 00:01:00.060 --> 00:01:02.640 very broad question Well, okay. Let me narrow 00:01:02.640 --> 00:01:05.980 it down Why do you think that men and women have 00:01:05.980 --> 00:01:08.599 a hard time connecting so often? Nobody knows 00:01:08.599 --> 00:01:11.400 what real love is anymore. I would say the overall 00:01:11.400 --> 00:01:14.939 I always say overall that's true That's coming 00:01:14.939 --> 00:01:17.400 from my live stream But it begs the question 00:01:17.400 --> 00:01:20.200 of well, then what if what is love then if people 00:01:20.200 --> 00:01:23.879 don't know what it is? That a who knows in B 00:01:24.459 --> 00:01:27.180 How are you supposed to figure it out? I think 00:01:27.180 --> 00:01:37.180 love true. Love is putting your own like In my 00:01:37.180 --> 00:01:40.500 opinion it's about putting the needs of others 00:01:40.500 --> 00:01:44.219 before yourself. Yeah, however There's a saying 00:01:44.219 --> 00:01:48.260 I was told once that says if you're only if you're 00:01:48.260 --> 00:01:51.659 not for yourself, then who will be But if you're 00:01:51.659 --> 00:01:54.079 only for yourself, then who are you? Love is 00:01:54.079 --> 00:01:57.019 making sacrifices that benefit both of you and 00:01:57.019 --> 00:02:00.459 not just yourself. True, but you can't you can't 00:02:00.459 --> 00:02:02.540 be a charity either because then eventually you're 00:02:02.540 --> 00:02:04.219 going to start resenting the other person. And 00:02:04.219 --> 00:02:07.640 I think we see that reflected on social media. 00:02:07.640 --> 00:02:10.060 We see that reflected in a lot of personal encounters 00:02:10.060 --> 00:02:12.580 that people have all the time and they voice 00:02:12.580 --> 00:02:18.060 that on the Internet. And overall, it's. Everything's 00:02:18.060 --> 00:02:21.180 connected with the theme of. People are taking 00:02:21.180 --> 00:02:25.199 other people's experiences as if it's their own 00:02:25.199 --> 00:02:29.180 For example people are not experiencing in tons 00:02:29.180 --> 00:02:32.020 of hate like people who are not No, no, I told 00:02:32.020 --> 00:02:33.520 I said I wouldn't do politics today. We got to 00:02:33.520 --> 00:02:38.180 do something else I don't want to I don't want 00:02:38.180 --> 00:02:39.979 this to devolve into a political show. I want 00:02:39.979 --> 00:02:43.500 to talk about anything else anything else today 00:02:43.500 --> 00:02:46.639 But the reason we in my opinion see the relationships 00:02:46.639 --> 00:02:50.370 we see is a Women don't care about what men want 00:02:50.370 --> 00:02:51.990 and a lot of times men don't care about what 00:02:51.990 --> 00:02:55.090 women want and in doing so people get the very 00:02:55.090 --> 00:02:58.729 thing that Like they get what they think they're 00:02:58.729 --> 00:03:01.650 gonna get which is nothing Yeah, I feel like 00:03:01.650 --> 00:03:03.909 you have to be able to put an effort on both 00:03:03.909 --> 00:03:05.870 sides and if you're not willing to put an effort 00:03:05.870 --> 00:03:08.930 and understand that you're gonna make sacrifices 00:03:08.930 --> 00:03:14.710 on who you are and what you do as like your own 00:03:14.710 --> 00:03:17.069 when you're single is not what is going to continue 00:03:17.069 --> 00:03:19.330 to happen when you find a relationship and expecting 00:03:19.330 --> 00:03:22.509 that to happen is just not and it's going to 00:03:22.509 --> 00:03:25.789 make you and your relationship fail and you're 00:03:25.789 --> 00:03:28.409 not willing to put in the effort to get past 00:03:28.409 --> 00:03:30.949 that honeymoon stage to get past that fighting 00:03:30.949 --> 00:03:32.789 stage to get past through all those different 00:03:32.789 --> 00:03:37.770 stages of a relationship then it's not going 00:03:37.770 --> 00:03:40.689 to work and either it's not meant to happen and 00:03:40.689 --> 00:03:43.949 that's just how it is sometimes or you need to 00:03:43.949 --> 00:03:48.650 try harder. Well, here's what I think. I think 00:03:48.650 --> 00:03:50.889 you're right with a couple of things that you 00:03:50.889 --> 00:03:52.930 said so far. One thing that I would hype on is 00:03:52.930 --> 00:03:54.770 everybody thinks that either A, need to be in 00:03:54.770 --> 00:03:57.370 a relationship or B, they either need to be in 00:03:57.370 --> 00:03:59.490 one or they never are going to be in one. Yeah. 00:03:59.810 --> 00:04:02.969 Like it's very one way or the other. And I can 00:04:02.969 --> 00:04:05.530 understand to an extent how people end up there, 00:04:05.770 --> 00:04:07.810 especially when you're a younger guy or a younger 00:04:07.810 --> 00:04:10.810 woman. You have one, two, three really bad experiences. 00:04:11.270 --> 00:04:12.689 You immediately are going to think that it's 00:04:12.689 --> 00:04:14.689 not possible. You're going to immediately shut 00:04:14.689 --> 00:04:17.629 yourself off to it. And I understand the inclination 00:04:17.629 --> 00:04:20.550 to do that. This person says old love was so 00:04:20.550 --> 00:04:23.709 much easier. Wish I was born in the 80s. I actually 00:04:23.709 --> 00:04:27.189 think that a big portion of why love was so easy 00:04:27.189 --> 00:04:30.750 in the 80s is because people didn't give a flying 00:04:30.750 --> 00:04:34.029 fuck. Not only that, they just didn't, I would 00:04:34.029 --> 00:04:36.310 say that's, I wouldn't say that's as much part 00:04:36.310 --> 00:04:41.889 of it as stand for the week, the constant, like, 00:04:41.949 --> 00:04:45.529 criticizing, criticize, they didn't stand for 00:04:45.529 --> 00:04:48.769 all of that crap of having someone else come 00:04:48.769 --> 00:04:50.769 into your relationship, someone else speaking 00:04:50.769 --> 00:04:53.089 on your relationship, they would just look at 00:04:53.089 --> 00:04:57.850 them and go, Mind your business. People were 00:04:57.850 --> 00:05:00.550 a lot less quiet back then when it came to other 00:05:00.550 --> 00:05:03.550 people's relationships. Like people still had 00:05:03.550 --> 00:05:04.850 to fight for their relationships. That's not 00:05:04.850 --> 00:05:06.810 what I'm trying to say. But like it was a little 00:05:06.810 --> 00:05:11.470 well, a lot of things were more hidden. For example, 00:05:11.889 --> 00:05:15.050 today, I'll pick on women for a second, but I'll 00:05:15.050 --> 00:05:17.290 switch over to men. I'll pick on women first. 00:05:17.569 --> 00:05:20.000 A lot of women will have on their shut up. A 00:05:20.000 --> 00:05:22.639 lot of women will have, like, oh, I cheated on 00:05:22.639 --> 00:05:24.839 my husband for x, y, or z reason, and you'll 00:05:24.839 --> 00:05:27.019 see women come out and say, yeah, you go, girl. 00:05:27.019 --> 00:05:29.120 You cheat on that man. He ain't no good for you. 00:05:29.360 --> 00:05:31.060 Versus back in the day, she would have still 00:05:31.060 --> 00:05:32.579 cheated, but she wouldn't have told the entire 00:05:32.579 --> 00:05:35.000 internet. No. She would have maybe told her friends 00:05:35.000 --> 00:05:36.620 in secret, and nobody would ever said anything. 00:05:36.759 --> 00:05:38.379 It would have been a very hush -hush situation. 00:05:38.439 --> 00:05:41.319 Exactly. Versus now, it's glorified. Like, you 00:05:41.319 --> 00:05:43.620 made a good choice. No, you made a bad choice, 00:05:43.920 --> 00:05:46.139 but it was hidden. It was one of those things 00:05:46.139 --> 00:05:47.560 where it's like, the guy didn't find out until 00:05:47.560 --> 00:05:49.670 he was, like, 80 years old. She was like, Oh, 00:05:49.670 --> 00:05:52.449 by the way, you know, I did this 30 years ago. 00:05:53.329 --> 00:05:55.910 Or you find out from some drunk buddy 30 years 00:05:55.910 --> 00:05:58.769 later, like biting your tongue around in like 00:05:58.769 --> 00:06:02.170 the public. It was very seen to be more hush 00:06:02.170 --> 00:06:04.709 hush rather than very open about all of your 00:06:04.709 --> 00:06:07.589 issues and all of your problems. Like it is now, 00:06:07.850 --> 00:06:11.089 if you played the victim back then, you were 00:06:11.089 --> 00:06:14.170 looked down upon. Whereas if you play the victim 00:06:14.170 --> 00:06:18.069 now and like, or even just like Pop your mouth 00:06:18.069 --> 00:06:21.870 off in certain aspects. You're gonna get like 00:06:21.870 --> 00:06:24.970 Applauded you're gonna get raised above onto 00:06:24.970 --> 00:06:28.569 like a pedestal Whereas back then that's not 00:06:28.569 --> 00:06:32.230 how it was. No, it was very reverse like make 00:06:32.230 --> 00:06:34.649 no mistake the things we see are happening now 00:06:34.649 --> 00:06:38.149 They are they were so happening back in the day. 00:06:38.170 --> 00:06:40.269 Yeah, not a I would say maybe not to the same 00:06:40.269 --> 00:06:43.629 extent And but they also to Reagan's point. We're 00:06:43.629 --> 00:06:47.519 not glorified for their perceived or actual victimhood. 00:06:47.819 --> 00:06:50.819 Yeah. Like everybody wants to be wronged. There 00:06:50.819 --> 00:06:52.819 was a time when people wanted to be right. Not 00:06:52.819 --> 00:06:54.899 everybody wants to be wronged by somebody else 00:06:54.899 --> 00:06:57.180 so that they can say, oh, this person wronged 00:06:57.180 --> 00:07:00.379 me. Come have sympathy for me. Whether it's men, 00:07:00.439 --> 00:07:03.139 women, children, aliens, it doesn't matter. Everybody 00:07:03.139 --> 00:07:05.879 wants sympathy from somebody else. They'd rather 00:07:05.879 --> 00:07:10.180 have tried or pretended to try, lose, have people 00:07:10.180 --> 00:07:13.019 feel sorry for them than to actually win. In 00:07:13.019 --> 00:07:15.579 my opinion. What is your comment section saying 00:07:15.579 --> 00:07:18.259 I can't really read it from this so they're just 00:07:18.259 --> 00:07:20.439 kind of agreeing they're like straight -up facts 00:07:20.439 --> 00:07:25.500 The big problem in relationships of social media, 00:07:25.500 --> 00:07:29.439 I wouldn't say they're the it's the problem I 00:07:29.439 --> 00:07:31.980 Think it causes more issues than people would 00:07:31.980 --> 00:07:33.860 like to admit. I would say there's an element 00:07:33.860 --> 00:07:37.100 to that. However, here's the thing good medicine 00:07:38.040 --> 00:07:40.540 Tastes lousy and what I mean by that is if you 00:07:40.540 --> 00:07:43.220 go to CVS Walgreens, whatever and they don't 00:07:43.220 --> 00:07:45.019 sponsor me by the way, even though they should 00:07:45.019 --> 00:07:48.779 If you go and get real medicine, it tastes terrible 00:07:48.779 --> 00:07:50.879 Like I can tell you I can tell you from experience 00:07:50.879 --> 00:07:52.959 you get like real herbs and spices and stuff 00:07:52.959 --> 00:07:55.920 and you have that tastes terrible You don't have 00:07:55.920 --> 00:07:58.279 cotton candy flavor. They don't have the cherry 00:07:58.279 --> 00:08:00.839 cola flavor They just have straight medicine 00:08:00.839 --> 00:08:03.319 and it tastes bad, but it gets you better. Your 00:08:03.319 --> 00:08:06.079 cold goes away. Your fever goes away But when 00:08:06.079 --> 00:08:08.139 you have the cotton candy flavor, it can tend 00:08:08.139 --> 00:08:10.199 to like it tastes good, but it tends to not be 00:08:10.199 --> 00:08:13.240 quite as effective or fast acting as just pure 00:08:13.240 --> 00:08:15.839 ingredients. I also think another big thing of 00:08:15.839 --> 00:08:19.220 relationships is people don't prioritize alone 00:08:19.220 --> 00:08:23.399 time and actually going out. Like going out and 00:08:23.399 --> 00:08:25.519 celebrating your relationship, going out and 00:08:25.519 --> 00:08:27.759 celebrating that you hit those milestones, going 00:08:27.759 --> 00:08:29.639 out at least once a month to make sure that you're 00:08:29.639 --> 00:08:34.519 like keeping the fire lit or whatever. Like, 00:08:34.799 --> 00:08:37.480 well. It's more of the - It also creates more 00:08:37.480 --> 00:08:39.120 conversation within your relationship, especially 00:08:39.120 --> 00:08:41.320 if you work together constantly, you live together, 00:08:42.059 --> 00:08:45.919 like, you can't always find those, like, like, 00:08:45.919 --> 00:08:47.860 how was your day conversations? You don't really 00:08:47.860 --> 00:08:49.879 get those when you live and you work and everything 00:08:49.879 --> 00:08:52.500 like that, when you do every little thing together. 00:08:53.019 --> 00:08:55.019 So if you go out and you celebrate yourselves 00:08:55.019 --> 00:08:56.720 and you celebrate your love and you celebrate 00:08:56.720 --> 00:08:59.120 these things, then you're more likely to meet 00:08:59.120 --> 00:09:01.580 new people and on top of that make conversations 00:09:01.580 --> 00:09:03.159 that you wouldn't have had if you hadn't gone 00:09:03.159 --> 00:09:06.730 out. Like last night a hibachi. Well, let's I 00:09:06.730 --> 00:09:08.830 would say it's part of it. That's more of a symptom 00:09:08.830 --> 00:09:11.409 I wouldn't say it's so much the problem I would 00:09:11.409 --> 00:09:13.710 say more it's an attitude thing if you want to 00:09:13.710 --> 00:09:15.370 find something wrong your relationship to find 00:09:15.370 --> 00:09:17.490 it You want to find something right? You'll find 00:09:17.490 --> 00:09:20.909 it now Do you need to do things, you know together 00:09:20.909 --> 00:09:23.669 because why not and it's gonna be enjoyable, 00:09:23.690 --> 00:09:26.330 of course But it's one thing to hold it against 00:09:26.330 --> 00:09:28.450 somebody like I didn't get to do this or I didn't 00:09:28.450 --> 00:09:30.730 feel this and then you Hold it like we've had 00:09:30.730 --> 00:09:33.230 fights Especially more and more recently and 00:09:33.230 --> 00:09:35.690 without the beginning of our relationship But 00:09:35.690 --> 00:09:38.169 it's it never devolves into something that's 00:09:38.169 --> 00:09:40.429 toxic in my opinion It usually ends and it's 00:09:40.429 --> 00:09:43.129 like look you're not actually the problem. You 00:09:43.129 --> 00:09:46.090 might be 10 % You're not majority the problem. 00:09:46.429 --> 00:09:48.529 No, it's more the straw that broke the camel's 00:09:48.529 --> 00:09:52.169 back and Because they're the one there They're 00:09:52.169 --> 00:09:54.450 the one that gets to take it out on yeah, that's 00:09:54.450 --> 00:09:56.990 usually how it works It's not so much you're 00:09:56.990 --> 00:09:59.029 100 % the problem even though you can feel like 00:09:59.029 --> 00:10:03.059 it in that moment I think this is so off topic, 00:10:03.120 --> 00:10:05.500 but I think it's funny that so we've got two 00:10:05.500 --> 00:10:08.000 cameras set up right now and so on my camera 00:10:08.000 --> 00:10:12.120 my face looks like More done and on this one. 00:10:12.299 --> 00:10:14.919 It does not look very you have a filter on yours, 00:10:15.059 --> 00:10:18.279 don't you? I don't think so. Oh, I Think it's 00:10:18.279 --> 00:10:21.039 just like how the lights hitting. Yeah, I think 00:10:21.039 --> 00:10:27.000 it's funny. Sorry High star it's relationships 00:10:27.000 --> 00:10:29.610 are always gonna be complicated but to me it's 00:10:29.610 --> 00:10:33.129 more the the spirit behind it yeah you have to 00:10:33.129 --> 00:10:36.070 be you have to be willing to like this person 00:10:36.070 --> 00:10:39.129 says a big problem at least for me is the fact 00:10:39.129 --> 00:10:44.070 that if we arguing you don't need to run the 00:10:44.070 --> 00:10:47.289 run the other people like run to other people 00:10:47.289 --> 00:10:49.409 about the problem oh that's a huge problem i 00:10:49.409 --> 00:10:51.190 think that's i think that's what he was talking 00:10:51.190 --> 00:10:54.070 about when he was talking about like social media 00:10:54.070 --> 00:10:55.629 becoming the problem because you could just run 00:10:55.629 --> 00:10:57.879 to online and make a TikTok about how you're 00:10:57.879 --> 00:11:00.019 upset or how about your hurt and get so much 00:11:00.019 --> 00:11:02.840 sympathy and then you're like, oh, I'm not the 00:11:02.840 --> 00:11:04.259 wrong because this person, this person, this 00:11:04.259 --> 00:11:05.360 person, this person, this person, this person, 00:11:05.419 --> 00:11:07.220 this person. And all these people in my comments 00:11:07.220 --> 00:11:08.480 are like, oh, you're not in the wrong, babe. 00:11:08.659 --> 00:11:10.940 That's, that's totally, definitely how things 00:11:10.940 --> 00:11:13.460 work. You're definitely not the issue. It's him. 00:11:13.539 --> 00:11:15.440 It's he's the problem or, or she's the problem, 00:11:15.620 --> 00:11:17.580 whatever this side or the other. I think that's 00:11:17.580 --> 00:11:20.879 a huge element of it. It's, it's more of symptom. 00:11:21.039 --> 00:11:24.559 Like the main thing is letting other people think 00:11:24.559 --> 00:11:27.299 for you. Instead of you saying hey, you know 00:11:27.299 --> 00:11:29.919 what you make a good point I don't agree with 00:11:29.919 --> 00:11:32.679 everything you said but in general I see what 00:11:32.679 --> 00:11:35.340 you're saying and I'm gonna take that and I'm 00:11:35.340 --> 00:11:36.820 gonna think about it I'm gonna let it marinate 00:11:36.820 --> 00:11:38.500 in my mind and then I'm gonna come up with what 00:11:38.500 --> 00:11:40.740 I think because it's my relationship It's my 00:11:40.740 --> 00:11:43.659 life and I'm gonna decide what I want to do But 00:11:43.659 --> 00:11:46.159 most people don't do that they'll think oh because 00:11:46.159 --> 00:11:49.059 most people think this therefore it must be true 00:11:49.059 --> 00:11:51.759 or Accurate and I'm gonna do that like that's 00:11:51.759 --> 00:11:53.919 got to be the right thing to do instead of saying 00:11:53.919 --> 00:11:56.659 maybe they're right or some of it's right not 00:11:56.659 --> 00:12:00.779 all of it super easy to let other people do the 00:12:00.779 --> 00:12:03.379 thinking especially on social media especially 00:12:03.379 --> 00:12:05.679 when they're telling you things you want to hear 00:12:05.679 --> 00:12:08.440 like everybody wants to be right you're not going 00:12:08.440 --> 00:12:09.700 to listen to the person who's like no you're 00:12:09.700 --> 00:12:12.139 100 % wrong you're immediately going to be like 00:12:12.139 --> 00:12:14.000 well screw you i don't want to listen to what 00:12:14.000 --> 00:12:16.200 you have to say versus if they say oh you're 00:12:16.200 --> 00:12:18.340 right queen are you right king you're immediately 00:12:18.340 --> 00:12:21.240 going to be like yeah yeah i'm right yeah you 00:12:21.240 --> 00:12:23.720 better believe it i'm right instead of saying 00:12:23.720 --> 00:12:26.000 well you're right here you weren't right over 00:12:26.000 --> 00:12:28.120 here and uh maybe you can work a little bit on 00:12:28.120 --> 00:12:30.639 this side over here that's comprehensive that's 00:12:30.639 --> 00:12:36.639 real advice hey autumn like and i think it's 00:12:36.639 --> 00:12:38.379 important that you get both sides of the spectrum 00:12:38.379 --> 00:12:40.440 like on my show i'm a guy so obviously i'm going 00:12:40.440 --> 00:12:42.940 to talk more from the male perspective you're 00:12:42.940 --> 00:12:45.039 a woman even though some people would say there 00:12:45.039 --> 00:12:47.480 is no such thing as a woman i personally disagree 00:12:47.480 --> 00:12:49.940 people would say the same thing about men i'm 00:12:49.940 --> 00:12:52.870 just being facetious i'm being funny I'm not 00:12:52.870 --> 00:12:54.370 I'm trying to be funny what's wrong with you 00:12:54.370 --> 00:12:57.169 I know I'm trying to be funny too and so you 00:12:57.169 --> 00:12:59.250 can talk more from the female perspective and 00:12:59.250 --> 00:13:02.830 so it's good to have both or both arenas represented 00:13:02.830 --> 00:13:06.470 otherwise you can only think of things so far 00:13:06.470 --> 00:13:08.909 100 % because you can imagine what someone might 00:13:08.909 --> 00:13:12.409 say but how accurate is that going to be and 00:13:12.409 --> 00:13:15.090 of course you can be cynical like me and assume 00:13:15.090 --> 00:13:17.409 that most things most people say are probably 00:13:17.409 --> 00:13:21.159 twisted or wrong hey Hailey But still, it gives 00:13:21.159 --> 00:13:22.940 you a little bit of input so you can come up 00:13:22.940 --> 00:13:25.340 with your own output. Thank you so much for the 00:13:25.340 --> 00:13:28.240 heart, me. I think it's incredibly important 00:13:28.240 --> 00:13:30.480 for you to do. Like, I'll be honest. I suffered 00:13:30.480 --> 00:13:33.220 from that really early on. Like, I was very focused 00:13:33.220 --> 00:13:37.620 on just being right and not being understanding 00:13:37.620 --> 00:13:39.720 of what the heck is actually happening to people's 00:13:39.720 --> 00:13:44.480 relationships. Oh my gosh. Haley, holy crap. 00:13:47.399 --> 00:13:50.440 Hi. Thank you for stopping in. Bring his live 00:13:50.440 --> 00:13:54.200 streams going nuts. Holy cow! Hailey's amazing. 00:13:56.720 --> 00:14:02.879 That's insane. Holy cow, girl. Oh my gosh. Jade 00:14:02.879 --> 00:14:05.220 says a kiss and I'll give you a rose. You gonna 00:14:05.220 --> 00:14:13.940 blow him a kiss? I thought the chill would go 00:14:13.940 --> 00:14:20.169 down my spine. It's not usually my thing. I just 00:14:20.169 --> 00:14:24.450 didn't want to do it. You're taking advantage 00:14:24.450 --> 00:14:26.870 of the fact that I'm not wearing my glasses because 00:14:26.870 --> 00:14:29.870 it's glaring with all extra light behind us. 00:14:30.269 --> 00:14:34.889 That's not cool. Now you have to do it. There 00:14:34.889 --> 00:14:42.169 you go. Now we're even. I think a lot of times 00:14:42.169 --> 00:14:44.129 people want to cast blame when it comes to whether 00:14:44.129 --> 00:14:46.750 their relationships, most people's relationships, 00:14:46.750 --> 00:14:50.529 instead of saying, hey, We have to to some extent 00:14:50.529 --> 00:14:55.250 work together because I've met guys and I even 00:14:55.250 --> 00:14:58.370 still understand the argument of, hey, I don't 00:14:58.370 --> 00:15:00.470 want to be married because marriage doesn't benefit 00:15:00.470 --> 00:15:02.889 men in a lot of ways. And I've also heard the 00:15:02.889 --> 00:15:07.129 woman side of, hey, a lot of men maybe don't 00:15:07.129 --> 00:15:09.190 have the wealth or the lifestyle that I want 00:15:09.190 --> 00:15:12.289 to have. That makes me feel comfortable because 00:15:12.289 --> 00:15:14.070 let's be honest, most people wouldn't work if 00:15:14.070 --> 00:15:16.299 they didn't have to. Or at the very least, they 00:15:16.299 --> 00:15:17.600 don't want to have to worry about money and they 00:15:17.600 --> 00:15:19.220 want to do what they want to do regardless of 00:15:19.220 --> 00:15:23.000 whether money is a factor or not. Yeah. And historically, 00:15:23.419 --> 00:15:24.980 that's what you have to have as a man. Like if 00:15:24.980 --> 00:15:28.379 you look back in history, men had to have property. 00:15:28.500 --> 00:15:30.820 They had to have whether it was a farm or an 00:15:30.820 --> 00:15:34.519 estate or something before they would even get 00:15:34.519 --> 00:15:36.779 marriage proposals from other families and then 00:15:36.779 --> 00:15:41.289 say yes or no. And then there's a dowry and blah 00:15:41.289 --> 00:15:43.289 blah blah blah, but you couldn't be mr. Average 00:15:43.289 --> 00:15:46.149 Joe and living in the gutter in London and Try 00:15:46.149 --> 00:15:49.009 to get some supermodel. No, it doesn't work that 00:15:49.009 --> 00:15:51.570 way It's never worked that way and so when I 00:15:51.570 --> 00:15:54.250 go to you know A lot of dudes get the a lot of 00:15:54.250 --> 00:15:56.549 women and men have a very false expectation of 00:15:56.549 --> 00:15:59.750 how relationships work They think hey, I should 00:15:59.750 --> 00:16:02.269 just have I deserve someone by default I should 00:16:02.269 --> 00:16:04.809 just have somebody because other people have 00:16:04.809 --> 00:16:07.789 somebody or I'm lonely. Therefore. I should have 00:16:07.789 --> 00:16:11.100 something Mason says, would you say the biggest 00:16:11.100 --> 00:16:13.139 problem in relationships revolves around money? 00:16:14.840 --> 00:16:16.340 It's the number one reason people get divorced. 00:16:16.720 --> 00:16:19.019 I can tell you that. Money is the number one 00:16:19.019 --> 00:16:22.259 reason people get divorced. It's the financial 00:16:22.259 --> 00:16:24.759 problems is the number one reason that marriages 00:16:24.759 --> 00:16:26.399 fall apart. I also feel like if you're more, 00:16:26.460 --> 00:16:28.940 if you're open and you talk about the issues 00:16:28.940 --> 00:16:31.240 or if you just come to like an understanding 00:16:31.240 --> 00:16:35.360 that like if Like you just don't talk about it 00:16:35.360 --> 00:16:36.899 either. You don't talk about it or you overly 00:16:36.899 --> 00:16:38.879 talk about it It's got to be one of the two you 00:16:38.879 --> 00:16:41.659 can't have this like oh, you know We'll talk 00:16:41.659 --> 00:16:44.600 about it sometimes but not always but you also 00:16:44.600 --> 00:16:48.419 as a man you need to have ambition Yeah, I know 00:16:48.419 --> 00:16:50.539 dudes who they get married they let them and 00:16:50.539 --> 00:16:52.000 this is not against the dudes I know in real 00:16:52.000 --> 00:16:54.159 life this most like my best friends I'm not talking 00:16:54.159 --> 00:16:56.460 about y 'all talking about people in the military 00:16:56.460 --> 00:16:59.580 that I met people that I've met doing this job 00:16:59.580 --> 00:17:03.450 Etc where what they do is they get married And 00:17:03.450 --> 00:17:05.349 then they'll show you pictures of like, this 00:17:05.349 --> 00:17:08.150 is me on the high school diving team. This is 00:17:08.150 --> 00:17:09.970 me when I was in college. And you're like, dang 00:17:09.970 --> 00:17:12.809 dude, you looked in good shape. Like, yeah, you 00:17:12.809 --> 00:17:15.069 looked good. And then you see them 20 years later 00:17:15.069 --> 00:17:19.589 and they look like poop. And you're like, well, 00:17:21.190 --> 00:17:23.289 like people still have eyes. Just because the 00:17:23.289 --> 00:17:25.990 person loves you doesn't mean they like the fact 00:17:25.990 --> 00:17:27.769 that you're letting yourself go. And it goes 00:17:27.769 --> 00:17:33.029 across men and women. You let yourself go. You're 00:17:33.029 --> 00:17:35.549 going to lose attraction to you. They fell in 00:17:35.549 --> 00:17:38.089 love with you for who you were in that moment. 00:17:38.690 --> 00:17:40.730 It's going to change over time. Well, they fell 00:17:40.730 --> 00:17:42.529 in love with you for more things. But if you 00:17:42.529 --> 00:17:45.829 let yourself go and you continuously show the 00:17:45.829 --> 00:17:48.670 person that you're supposed to be with that you 00:17:48.670 --> 00:17:50.950 don't care or you're not willing to put in the 00:17:50.950 --> 00:17:52.289 effort, if you're not willing to put the efforts 00:17:52.289 --> 00:17:55.210 into you, then how can you put in the effort? 00:17:57.230 --> 00:18:00.029 Your shoulder hurt? No, you're just sitting up 00:18:00.029 --> 00:18:03.289 weird. If you're not willing to put in the effort 00:18:03.289 --> 00:18:05.210 to yourself, then how are you willing to put 00:18:05.210 --> 00:18:07.349 in the effort for me? How are you going to put 00:18:07.349 --> 00:18:10.809 in the effort for our relationship, our family, 00:18:11.430 --> 00:18:13.390 all of these things that we want and that we 00:18:13.390 --> 00:18:17.069 need, if you can't even keep yourself up to date? 00:18:18.109 --> 00:18:20.450 And that goes both ways. That's not just saying 00:18:20.450 --> 00:18:23.049 for women or for men. That is both. Well, I'd 00:18:23.049 --> 00:18:25.730 add to it. I'd say, forget like, for example, 00:18:25.769 --> 00:18:27.589 let's use you and me as an example. Okay. Let's 00:18:27.589 --> 00:18:29.450 forget us for a second. Let's talk about kids. 00:18:30.809 --> 00:18:32.529 Do you think your kids are gonna respect you 00:18:32.529 --> 00:18:34.890 if you look like you should have your own gravitational 00:18:34.890 --> 00:18:39.089 pull? Like your kids are not gonna expect like 00:18:39.089 --> 00:18:41.609 Especially if you have male children and you're 00:18:41.609 --> 00:18:44.250 in your husband and you're a father if your kids 00:18:44.250 --> 00:18:46.650 look at you And they're like dang you want shape 00:18:46.650 --> 00:18:49.089 like they'll still like you they'll still love 00:18:49.089 --> 00:18:50.730 you as their father But they're not gonna respect 00:18:50.730 --> 00:18:53.329 you as much as if you look and I'm not saying 00:18:53.329 --> 00:18:55.089 you need to get on all these performance enhancing 00:18:55.089 --> 00:18:59.250 drugs to look good It's also one thing if it's 00:18:59.250 --> 00:19:08.460 like health related, whereas if it's like, um, 00:19:09.599 --> 00:19:12.700 just like you letting yourself go, it's, there's 00:19:12.700 --> 00:19:17.819 a big situation and it's also a little more like, 00:19:19.220 --> 00:19:22.279 um, accepted for women after they have kids. 00:19:22.859 --> 00:19:24.599 That's, I actually didn't think about that. That's 00:19:24.599 --> 00:19:27.660 very true. It's very accepted for women. Not 00:19:27.660 --> 00:19:29.460 I'm not saying let yourself go after you have 00:19:29.460 --> 00:19:31.299 kids. That's not what I'm saying I'm just saying 00:19:31.299 --> 00:19:32.920 it's a little more accepted You have a lot more 00:19:32.920 --> 00:19:35.000 leniency when it comes to being a woman after 00:19:35.000 --> 00:19:36.720 having kids because that has a lot of changes 00:19:36.720 --> 00:19:40.339 on your body But in my opinion for men, you shouldn't 00:19:40.339 --> 00:19:44.579 be putting on baby weight Well, like I'm not 00:19:44.579 --> 00:19:47.680 trying to be mean but I'm just like you shouldn't 00:19:47.680 --> 00:19:52.160 be trying like I've heard men be like, oh I put 00:19:52.160 --> 00:19:55.500 on some baby weight what baby weight from eating 00:19:55.500 --> 00:19:59.859 all those snacks Like, come on, dude. Well, it's 00:19:59.859 --> 00:20:01.779 one of those things that if you don't prioritize 00:20:01.779 --> 00:20:04.559 it, it'll show. Oh, yeah. It's not gonna happen 00:20:04.559 --> 00:20:07.500 overnight. You don't go from being someone in 00:20:07.500 --> 00:20:11.059 shape to morbidly obese. It takes time. One burger 00:20:11.059 --> 00:20:13.619 here, 10 years there, and before you know it, 00:20:13.819 --> 00:20:15.980 you're now severely overweight and out of shape. 00:20:16.099 --> 00:20:18.740 And you can still have, there are a lot of things 00:20:18.740 --> 00:20:22.440 I think that's misunderstood is that you can 00:20:22.440 --> 00:20:26.329 have a burger. You can have things that are unhealthy 00:20:26.329 --> 00:20:30.230 for you, but you can make them healthy. Instead 00:20:30.230 --> 00:20:32.049 of going out to McDonald's or instead of going 00:20:32.049 --> 00:20:35.390 out to this, that, or the other, make it at home. 00:20:35.910 --> 00:20:37.349 Know what ingredients you're putting in your 00:20:37.349 --> 00:20:38.950 food. Know what ingredients you're giving to 00:20:38.950 --> 00:20:40.630 your children. Know what ingredients that your 00:20:40.630 --> 00:20:45.089 body is taking because that is a big change. 00:20:45.329 --> 00:20:49.029 And also if you're a stay at home mom or a stay 00:20:49.029 --> 00:20:53.269 at home dad or whatever you do, cook. for your 00:20:53.269 --> 00:20:55.809 significant other. Clean. Food is the way to 00:20:55.809 --> 00:20:59.130 the heart in either gender. Well, okay, I'm out 00:20:59.130 --> 00:21:01.710 of use. Give me food. Stay at home dads only 00:21:01.710 --> 00:21:04.309 work if you like are a podcaster or you work 00:21:04.309 --> 00:21:08.190 from home. That's fine. Don't I don't think that 00:21:08.190 --> 00:21:11.349 most and by most I mean like 90 % if not more 00:21:11.349 --> 00:21:14.210 relationships don't work when the man's the the 00:21:14.210 --> 00:21:17.390 man mommy and the woman goes and makes the money 00:21:17.390 --> 00:21:21.430 because women naturally want a man who is At 00:21:21.430 --> 00:21:24.029 their level or above them not below them in their 00:21:24.029 --> 00:21:27.750 own heads. You mean a mammy? Yeah Basically, 00:21:27.910 --> 00:21:32.990 yes Mammy are there not not Manny Mammy are there 00:21:32.990 --> 00:21:35.650 a couple relationships where it can work? Sure 00:21:35.650 --> 00:21:39.369 I wouldn't aim for that because number one Your 00:21:39.369 --> 00:21:42.150 woman's gonna over time not respect you in my 00:21:42.150 --> 00:21:44.930 opinion and this is reflected in most statistics 00:21:44.930 --> 00:21:48.089 that you see Where the one is the bread sole 00:21:48.089 --> 00:21:51.890 breadwinner and the man doesn't Like contribute 00:21:51.890 --> 00:21:54.670 to the household in a financial way or at least 00:21:54.670 --> 00:21:58.710 not very much. It doesn't work as well. I Want 00:21:58.710 --> 00:22:02.230 a tiny dino? I want a tiny dino You're gonna 00:22:02.230 --> 00:22:04.089 do one of those cringy things where they know 00:22:04.089 --> 00:22:06.430 dino roar that sounds like it's gonna give me 00:22:06.430 --> 00:22:11.670 like No, no No, I just want a tiny dino I just 00:22:11.670 --> 00:22:14.190 want a tiny dino so that I can get two tiny dinos 00:22:14.190 --> 00:22:19.819 and then we can move to a different Overall, 00:22:19.839 --> 00:22:23.559 I think it's incredibly, um, disingenuous for 00:22:23.559 --> 00:22:26.440 people to only say one side of the spectrum when 00:22:26.440 --> 00:22:31.259 it comes to relationships. We got a tiny dino. 00:22:33.500 --> 00:22:36.720 TikTok is just so different than YouTube or like, 00:22:36.720 --> 00:22:39.839 for example, like podcasting overall can't happen 00:22:39.839 --> 00:22:42.839 on TikTok, but TikTok is largely like its own 00:22:42.839 --> 00:22:45.339 entity. Oh, it's its own separate. So it's very 00:22:45.339 --> 00:22:47.799 interesting to see like the very stark. Difference 00:22:47.799 --> 00:22:49.839 like obviously you can go live on YouTube, which 00:22:49.839 --> 00:22:52.480 or maybe I should start doing more big But it's 00:22:52.480 --> 00:22:54.759 not like the same as tick -tock. No, it's not 00:22:54.759 --> 00:22:58.160 the same It's not make talk a live -streaming 00:22:58.160 --> 00:23:00.200 platform as much it's starting to go there, but 00:23:00.200 --> 00:23:06.960 it's not at that point just yet And so it's important 00:23:06.960 --> 00:23:10.480 that It's important that you say the whole story 00:23:10.480 --> 00:23:12.859 I think it's I think it's disingenuous to only 00:23:12.859 --> 00:23:15.920 blame men or only blame women but the same time 00:23:16.310 --> 00:23:18.289 You need to be able to see through the BS on 00:23:18.289 --> 00:23:20.869 both sides 100 % the problem is a lot of dudes 00:23:20.869 --> 00:23:22.490 they don't at the beginning and then they get 00:23:22.490 --> 00:23:26.089 their heart broken and women have the same problem 00:23:26.089 --> 00:23:29.069 because they they choose the so -called bad boys 00:23:29.069 --> 00:23:32.069 and they they love it and Then they and then 00:23:32.069 --> 00:23:33.970 they hate men as a result of it and it's more 00:23:33.970 --> 00:23:36.390 Accepted for women to hate men than it is for 00:23:36.390 --> 00:23:37.869 men to hate women what I don't think you should 00:23:37.869 --> 00:23:41.619 hate anybody I agree. It's stupid. That's something 00:23:41.619 --> 00:23:44.680 I talk about a lot online is if you go on my 00:23:44.680 --> 00:23:48.099 TikTok, the first thing in my bio is like positivity 00:23:48.099 --> 00:23:51.480 is key. I don't we all want each other to win. 00:23:51.500 --> 00:23:53.839 That's the great thing about TikTok too is like 00:23:53.839 --> 00:23:57.680 they want you to win. They want you to be a creator, 00:23:58.180 --> 00:24:02.259 especially now. Like right now they want you 00:24:02.259 --> 00:24:05.599 to be a creator. They want you to like make money. 00:24:06.180 --> 00:24:08.579 That's what they want. They want people to make 00:24:08.579 --> 00:24:10.119 you money. They want you to make other people 00:24:10.119 --> 00:24:12.440 money. That's that's kind of the whole point 00:24:12.440 --> 00:24:19.380 and It's becoming widely What just happened you 00:24:19.380 --> 00:24:21.700 sort short -circ? What did you do? I just like 00:24:21.700 --> 00:24:24.079 smelled something that shouldn't be smelled, 00:24:24.099 --> 00:24:26.680 but that's okay. What are you talking about? 00:24:28.079 --> 00:24:31.460 I Can't say it on tiktok. I need you to smell 00:24:31.460 --> 00:24:38.049 it Let's derail my entire train of thought. I 00:24:38.049 --> 00:24:40.509 know, I was like... If anybody's ever seen Inside 00:24:40.509 --> 00:24:42.569 Out, like where the train's going, you just hear 00:24:42.569 --> 00:24:45.769 the e -brake and it's just like... That was exactly 00:24:45.769 --> 00:24:46.829 what just happened. That was my train of thought 00:24:46.829 --> 00:24:50.109 just now. Literally just smelled the whiff of 00:24:50.109 --> 00:24:52.210 it and I went whoop! That went gone. I feel like 00:24:52.210 --> 00:24:53.890 the guys in the Old West where the train goes 00:24:53.890 --> 00:24:57.849 off the bridge. I have ADHD so that will probably 00:24:57.849 --> 00:25:01.190 happen more times than I'd like to admit. See, 00:25:01.269 --> 00:25:04.250 people think ADHD is like... Not a real thing 00:25:04.250 --> 00:25:07.349 or that like everybody has it. No, it's super 00:25:07.349 --> 00:25:10.329 funny people be like, oh, yeah I'm like thumper 00:25:10.329 --> 00:25:12.390 from Bambi with my foot. So therefore I have 00:25:12.390 --> 00:25:16.009 ADHD. That's you your thumper But I don't have 00:25:16.009 --> 00:25:18.630 80 I don't self diagnose myself with ADHD like 00:25:18.630 --> 00:25:20.750 a lot of people do well There's also a difference 00:25:20.750 --> 00:25:23.970 between like fidgeting and then like overly fidgeting. 00:25:23.970 --> 00:25:26.289 There's a people just need also There's a thing 00:25:26.289 --> 00:25:29.779 called having a nervous tick. Yeah Where that's 00:25:29.779 --> 00:25:32.119 not so much like a disorder. It's just like you're 00:25:32.119 --> 00:25:34.079 nervous about something like I took my hair behind 00:25:34.079 --> 00:25:36.240 me Oh my gosh, like I'm playing with my hair 00:25:36.240 --> 00:25:38.259 Oh gosh, I have ADHD because I can't sit still. 00:25:38.259 --> 00:25:40.779 No how that works. Well, how that works everybody 00:25:40.779 --> 00:25:43.019 wants to work Everybody wants like a problem 00:25:43.019 --> 00:25:45.700 to have as a shield whether it's in a relationship 00:25:45.700 --> 00:25:48.640 in society for work Whatever they want to have 00:25:48.640 --> 00:25:51.240 like a oh you can't criticize me on this. You 00:25:51.240 --> 00:25:53.619 can't criticize me on that I have this problem 00:25:53.619 --> 00:25:56.880 and this disability or this alternative lifestyle 00:25:56.880 --> 00:25:59.670 that they don't want They want to be immune from 00:25:59.670 --> 00:26:02.150 any kind of accountability or backlash for anything 00:26:02.150 --> 00:26:04.569 that they do. It's kind of sad. I think people 00:26:04.569 --> 00:26:06.950 just really need this. Like, there's a lot more 00:26:06.950 --> 00:26:12.690 information on ADHD coming out recently. So educate 00:26:12.690 --> 00:26:15.150 yourself because people who actually have it 00:26:15.150 --> 00:26:18.309 are really tired of hearing, oh, you're like, 00:26:18.410 --> 00:26:20.470 oh, you just can't sit still or you just don't 00:26:20.470 --> 00:26:22.549 apply yourself or you just don't try hard enough. 00:26:22.549 --> 00:26:24.309 We're all annoyed. We're all tired. One interesting 00:26:24.309 --> 00:26:25.829 thing is my audience is obviously going to be 00:26:25.829 --> 00:26:28.279 a little different than yours. Yeah. And what 00:26:28.279 --> 00:26:30.599 I mean by that is a lot of people that I've talked 00:26:30.599 --> 00:26:33.400 to who watch my show, they don't like it when 00:26:33.400 --> 00:26:35.619 people make excuses. I agree. They don't like 00:26:35.619 --> 00:26:37.859 it when they hear like, oh, they're hiding behind 00:26:37.859 --> 00:26:39.779 this or they're hiding behind that. And I totally 00:26:39.779 --> 00:26:42.799 get it. I totally get it. That's what we want 00:26:42.799 --> 00:26:46.319 to stop, is people are hiding behind the false 00:26:46.319 --> 00:26:49.539 ADHD diagnosis. You should use any kind of deficiency 00:26:49.539 --> 00:26:52.579 or potential like disadvantage, however you want 00:26:52.579 --> 00:26:57.319 to say it, that you have, to then say, I... I 00:26:57.319 --> 00:27:00.140 won or I succeeded in spite of the things that 00:27:00.140 --> 00:27:03.400 were in my way. I didn't not win because of this. 00:27:03.859 --> 00:27:06.980 I didn't I can't win because of X, Y or Z. Therefore, 00:27:07.420 --> 00:27:09.339 you need to feel sorry for me and you need to 00:27:09.339 --> 00:27:12.019 help me win while I climb over your shoulders. 00:27:12.480 --> 00:27:18.859 We can't have that. We got another dino. We completed 00:27:18.859 --> 00:27:22.079 our goal. Let's go. Is it like a Tyrannosaurus 00:27:22.079 --> 00:27:33.609 dinosaur? I love them. They take 10 coins. This 00:27:33.609 --> 00:27:36.069 is why I don't know if I could ever like do TikTok 00:27:36.069 --> 00:27:40.569 like for full time because like I'm gonna do 00:27:40.569 --> 00:27:42.769 like it's distracted to my train of thought. 00:27:42.769 --> 00:27:44.690 I'm the kind of guy who could talk for like five 00:27:44.690 --> 00:27:48.069 hours and just have it be a natural train of 00:27:48.069 --> 00:27:51.359 thought ever evolving conversation. and that's 00:27:51.359 --> 00:27:53.660 why a lot of times i don't do live streams is 00:27:53.660 --> 00:27:55.859 for that exact reason not that people are distracting 00:27:55.859 --> 00:28:00.500 or bad but like we've got a new one i don't understand 00:28:00.500 --> 00:28:02.700 how like like people who do like talk radio or 00:28:02.700 --> 00:28:04.400 like podcasts or people like call into their 00:28:04.400 --> 00:28:07.940 show i can only imagine how like that distracts 00:28:07.940 --> 00:28:09.799 your train of thought of what you wanted to say 00:28:09.799 --> 00:28:12.799 what you're going to say and then goes in a completely 00:28:12.799 --> 00:28:14.880 alternate direction and you never saw it coming 00:28:14.880 --> 00:28:17.660 it definitely does do that where like you definitely 00:28:17.660 --> 00:28:24.450 have that You definitely get a little distracted 00:28:24.450 --> 00:28:29.490 But if you're someone like me who gets like needs 00:28:29.490 --> 00:28:33.809 the like serotonin boost It honestly is great. 00:28:33.809 --> 00:28:36.109 Especially like there's ones that like are he 00:28:36.109 --> 00:28:40.410 like cost a lot of coins that like Fly across 00:28:40.410 --> 00:28:43.190 your whole screen and it's so cool. Well, you're 00:28:43.190 --> 00:28:45.150 letting something totally different where there's 00:28:45.150 --> 00:28:47.799 for example I can do a show and I can be in a 00:28:47.799 --> 00:28:51.740 completely empty room by myself. And a lot of 00:28:51.740 --> 00:28:53.920 people who perform, they have audiences. They 00:28:53.920 --> 00:28:56.299 can measure their crowd. Is the crowd into it? 00:28:56.420 --> 00:28:58.440 Are they not into it? Are they laughing? Are 00:28:58.440 --> 00:29:01.099 they booing and throwing tomatoes at you? What 00:29:01.099 --> 00:29:03.720 are they doing? You can engage and you can shift 00:29:03.720 --> 00:29:06.640 and kind of bob and weave verbally and mentally 00:29:06.640 --> 00:29:09.259 with the feedback you're getting from your audience. 00:29:10.140 --> 00:29:12.279 Me, I'm more used to being alone and kind of 00:29:12.279 --> 00:29:15.079 having this this conversation with what i would 00:29:15.079 --> 00:29:19.240 assume people would say or as the conversation 00:29:19.240 --> 00:29:22.799 evolves you think oh well maybe i can go down 00:29:22.799 --> 00:29:25.799 this hole or that rabbit hole or whatever instead 00:29:25.799 --> 00:29:27.940 of it just being like i want to wait here and 00:29:27.940 --> 00:29:30.460 wait for somebody to talk to me or wait for somebody 00:29:30.460 --> 00:29:33.240 to kind of kick my gears in my head and grease 00:29:33.240 --> 00:29:36.140 the skids for me to keep flying down this mountain 00:29:36.140 --> 00:29:39.559 of creative thinking we've definitely moved on 00:29:39.559 --> 00:29:41.960 from where we first started But that's the whole 00:29:41.960 --> 00:29:45.059 point. But to me, everything is all tied in. 00:29:45.319 --> 00:29:47.720 The whole point and goal of this show was no 00:29:47.720 --> 00:29:50.740 politics. I agree. I can't take it for another 00:29:50.740 --> 00:29:54.440 second. You can't take it? I'm having fatigue 00:29:54.440 --> 00:29:57.799 from it. I need to talk about anything else. 00:29:57.859 --> 00:30:01.440 Thank you so much for the follow. My goal is 00:30:01.440 --> 00:30:04.680 to hit at least 900 followers by the end of today. 00:30:04.700 --> 00:30:06.440 I promise I wouldn't talk about it. And the one 00:30:06.440 --> 00:30:07.859 thing is, and I'll say I'm really fatigued about 00:30:07.859 --> 00:30:11.440 it, is the whole pope garbage. Can't I can't 00:30:11.440 --> 00:30:13.660 take it anymore? Everybody's immediately decided 00:30:13.660 --> 00:30:16.299 whether they love or hate him instead of actually 00:30:16.299 --> 00:30:18.480 waiting for him to do anything like that's what 00:30:18.480 --> 00:30:22.119 I don't get This person says you got a good one 00:30:22.119 --> 00:30:24.579 with Reagan. She's honest genuine person number 00:30:24.579 --> 00:30:28.240 one No, number one rule. No politics swear to 00:30:28.240 --> 00:30:32.400 God Well, I talked about it from time and time 00:30:32.400 --> 00:30:35.079 I think it's important but I can't do it every 00:30:35.079 --> 00:30:36.759 single day in my life like who can live like 00:30:36.759 --> 00:30:38.900 that and I'm a More political junkie than most 00:30:38.900 --> 00:30:41.519 people that I know Like I just can't take it 00:30:41.519 --> 00:30:43.339 anymore. I love the people are coming in. They're 00:30:43.339 --> 00:30:45.259 like, why do we look alike? I don't like you 00:30:45.259 --> 00:30:48.420 but that's okay. Yeah That's like saying every 00:30:48.420 --> 00:30:50.220 black person looks the same or every Hispanic 00:30:50.220 --> 00:30:54.619 person That said it like what I don't we don't 00:30:54.619 --> 00:30:58.039 look the I agree this Mason saying the Pope stuff 00:30:58.039 --> 00:31:00.680 is annoying. Well, of course it is because it's 00:31:00.680 --> 00:31:05.180 not fair You can't say that because you could 00:31:05.180 --> 00:31:11.279 take and in my opinion They They stole a picture 00:31:11.279 --> 00:31:15.460 from my live and put it as their profile picture 00:31:15.460 --> 00:31:19.180 They snap the picture in my life and then posted 00:31:19.180 --> 00:31:22.599 it as their profile picture I don't know if that's 00:31:22.599 --> 00:31:25.519 more cool or creepy. It's creepy I can't tell 00:31:25.519 --> 00:31:28.240 because I can see both sides of the aisle to 00:31:28.240 --> 00:31:34.839 be totally honest I Just look I've read a lot 00:31:34.839 --> 00:31:38.380 about like the whole Vatican situation. In my 00:31:38.380 --> 00:31:40.900 opinion, like any other politician, the only 00:31:40.900 --> 00:31:42.900 thing I want to say about it is you got to give 00:31:42.900 --> 00:31:45.400 people a chance. I don't care what they did before. 00:31:45.579 --> 00:31:49.160 You have to give people a chance. Now, I'm fully 00:31:49.160 --> 00:31:52.160 prepared to make my own conversation, like my 00:31:52.160 --> 00:31:54.960 own theories afterwards, but that's all I'm going 00:31:54.960 --> 00:31:56.980 to say about it is you got to give people a chance. 00:31:57.039 --> 00:31:58.259 I don't care if it's in a relationship or in 00:31:58.259 --> 00:32:00.539 politics. You got to give people a chance and 00:32:00.539 --> 00:32:02.299 not just only go off what other people have told 00:32:02.299 --> 00:32:03.980 you because they're not going to give you the 00:32:03.980 --> 00:32:08.559 full story. They can't. It's that simple All 00:32:08.559 --> 00:32:10.319 right, let's get back on track where we were 00:32:10.319 --> 00:32:13.960 because I don't want to talk about it What well, 00:32:13.960 --> 00:32:16.079 I've been asking a lot of relationship questions 00:32:16.079 --> 00:32:19.000 up from my end. What questions do you have? What 00:32:19.000 --> 00:32:21.259 do you want to talk about relationship wise? 00:32:21.339 --> 00:32:23.079 Otherwise, I'll just keep asking mine. Yeah, 00:32:23.079 --> 00:32:24.759 just keep asking questions. I like answering 00:32:24.759 --> 00:32:29.259 questions This person says I like this guy I'm 00:32:29.259 --> 00:32:31.619 not always very likable my audience will be the 00:32:31.619 --> 00:32:33.339 first to tell you there are some people who love 00:32:33.339 --> 00:32:36.180 me who lives watch every show that I do shout 00:32:36.180 --> 00:32:38.839 out to Eric he's great everybody else most people 00:32:38.839 --> 00:32:40.940 are like oh this guy is either really annoying 00:32:40.940 --> 00:32:42.680 or really awesome it's either one way or the 00:32:42.680 --> 00:32:44.799 other I'm like Trump people love me or hate me 00:32:44.799 --> 00:32:46.960 most of the time but that's the last political 00:32:46.960 --> 00:32:48.740 reference I'll use because I can't take it I'm 00:32:48.740 --> 00:32:51.140 getting mad I'm getting mad at myself for even 00:32:51.140 --> 00:32:53.599 bringing it up I'd rather talk about something 00:32:53.599 --> 00:32:57.299 I am not a more interesting person at all well 00:32:57.299 --> 00:33:00.730 here's the thing It's so easy to get wound up 00:33:00.730 --> 00:33:02.950 by things you don't care about. Like in life, 00:33:03.049 --> 00:33:04.890 for example, your friends talk to you about something 00:33:04.890 --> 00:33:06.650 that doesn't affect you whatsoever, and you're 00:33:06.650 --> 00:33:09.589 like, I want to care about this, but at the same 00:33:09.589 --> 00:33:12.970 time, I'm not going to pretend like I know what 00:33:12.970 --> 00:33:19.329 you're going through. Does anyone have any? Does 00:33:19.329 --> 00:33:24.769 anyone have a question about relationships? Let's 00:33:24.769 --> 00:33:28.309 see. You got to give people a minute. Because 00:33:28.309 --> 00:33:31.349 you can only type so fast. I can type really 00:33:31.349 --> 00:33:32.910 fast. I don't know what you're talking about. 00:33:33.029 --> 00:33:35.130 I took those typing lessons back in like middle 00:33:35.130 --> 00:33:39.369 school. There was like a typing game with Timon 00:33:39.369 --> 00:33:41.430 and Pumbaa when I was a kid where you had to 00:33:41.430 --> 00:33:43.809 type fast otherwise like they wouldn't make it 00:33:43.809 --> 00:33:47.609 where they needed to go. That's sad. That's so 00:33:47.609 --> 00:33:51.309 sad. I was always really bad at those. I'm not 00:33:51.309 --> 00:33:55.769 a typer. I'm a text. I'm honestly jealous. I 00:33:55.769 --> 00:33:59.230 get all the cool video games weren't that many 00:33:59.230 --> 00:34:03.670 fun video games I Am definitely not a typer by 00:34:03.670 --> 00:34:06.450 any means I always was really bad so I can't 00:34:06.450 --> 00:34:08.650 do the tradition I'm not a traditional person 00:34:08.650 --> 00:34:10.769 when it comes to almost anything that I do I 00:34:10.769 --> 00:34:13.289 can't type in a traditional way like this Yeah, 00:34:13.329 --> 00:34:16.210 like who do who do only like Millennials do this 00:34:16.210 --> 00:34:18.440 thing where they're like No, it's like it's like 00:34:18.440 --> 00:34:20.980 they're one -handed typing is harder. I don't 00:34:20.980 --> 00:34:24.639 get it. You take me 45 seconds to type four words 00:34:24.639 --> 00:34:27.199 That's we gotta get like Grammarly and stuff 00:34:27.199 --> 00:34:29.159 like that We're like the AI that helps you write 00:34:29.159 --> 00:34:31.519 and correct your like commas and stuff like that. 00:34:31.880 --> 00:34:36.559 Fantastic. Grammarly sponsor me I feel like Rick 00:34:36.559 --> 00:34:39.099 from Rick and Morty when he has that episode 00:34:39.099 --> 00:34:42.920 where he's like Nintendo give me free stuff Okay, 00:34:42.920 --> 00:34:44.960 ask your relationship question because I don't 00:34:44.960 --> 00:34:48.460 think anyone right now is Has anything well, 00:34:48.860 --> 00:34:51.019 what would you say is the most common problem 00:34:51.019 --> 00:34:54.179 in a relationship that can do rail a relationship 00:34:54.179 --> 00:34:58.400 like it's Letting the little things that bug 00:34:58.400 --> 00:35:03.300 you consume your relationship Like good morning 00:35:03.300 --> 00:35:07.519 is very intellectual What is so many people watching 00:35:07.519 --> 00:35:10.480 when they're stoned I don't get that I'm not 00:35:10.480 --> 00:35:12.780 a stoner. I don't like getting high. I've heard 00:35:12.780 --> 00:35:16.559 because it's trippy I'm not a stoner, right? 00:35:16.559 --> 00:35:20.380 Because like all the portals and stuff? I don't 00:35:20.380 --> 00:35:33.920 know. Oh, man. Loyalty? Loyalty for sure should 00:35:33.920 --> 00:35:37.820 be a problem. I want to go on loyalty for a second. 00:35:38.800 --> 00:35:41.320 Poison the relationship. I think loyalty can 00:35:41.320 --> 00:35:45.630 oftentimes be used in the wrong way because No, 00:35:45.809 --> 00:35:48.070 a lot of people like to control their relationship. 00:35:48.630 --> 00:35:51.230 A lot of people want to like say, oh, you have 00:35:51.230 --> 00:35:54.150 to be loyal to me despite whatever the heck I 00:35:54.150 --> 00:35:55.750 do, which I don't personally agree with. This 00:35:55.750 --> 00:35:58.690 person says LOL because it's because it is deep. 00:35:58.849 --> 00:36:01.230 I study philosophy and Rick and Morty is very 00:36:01.230 --> 00:36:03.929 deep. It is, but it can also be very like infantile 00:36:03.929 --> 00:36:06.190 and dumb and funny. Yeah, I agree. Like it's 00:36:06.190 --> 00:36:08.710 toilet humor mixed with the most complex topics 00:36:08.710 --> 00:36:12.010 known to mankind. It's a very rare, very rare 00:36:12.010 --> 00:36:14.539 like Dichotomy you can how you can have a poop 00:36:14.539 --> 00:36:16.239 joke in one in one minute in the next minute 00:36:16.239 --> 00:36:18.840 be talking about the complexities of like science 00:36:18.840 --> 00:36:23.559 and the like PTSD We go from PTSD to poop jokes 00:36:23.559 --> 00:36:27.340 like like and it's nuts like that. Let me fix 00:36:27.340 --> 00:36:29.739 myself I'm really struggling today. I'm a little 00:36:29.739 --> 00:36:33.940 anxious Well, it's because you don't often get 00:36:33.940 --> 00:36:36.559 Exposed to my audience. I'm dealing like I'm 00:36:36.559 --> 00:36:38.800 dealing with two separate audiences and I'm like 00:36:38.800 --> 00:36:43.349 really trying Mason said bro is saying too many 00:36:43.349 --> 00:36:47.269 words for my brain I'm just trying not to talk 00:36:47.269 --> 00:36:49.329 like Ben Shapiro. I tend to talk really quickly. 00:36:49.530 --> 00:36:54.190 I'm trying really hard to like stay focused on 00:36:54.190 --> 00:36:56.389 both and like answer questions in the in the 00:36:56.389 --> 00:36:58.949 live and then also like answer your questions 00:36:58.949 --> 00:37:01.769 on here and make sure that the You know, my answers 00:37:01.769 --> 00:37:03.769 are really well thought through but also trying 00:37:03.769 --> 00:37:05.389 to make sure that I want to make it a little 00:37:05.389 --> 00:37:07.949 more Polarizing and stay on theme with what I 00:37:07.949 --> 00:37:10.519 originally talked about. Yeah What is one thing 00:37:10.519 --> 00:37:15.199 that you think men do that ruins a relationship? 00:37:17.199 --> 00:37:19.000 Leaves because it gets too hard. Not willing 00:37:19.000 --> 00:37:21.079 to put in the effort. What do you mean not willing 00:37:21.079 --> 00:37:22.840 to put in the effort? Like not willing to stay 00:37:22.840 --> 00:37:25.679 and fight through those issues. Fight instead 00:37:25.679 --> 00:37:29.119 of stay as in like not break up or stay as in 00:37:29.119 --> 00:37:32.760 like stay in that moment and not like leave or 00:37:32.760 --> 00:37:34.760 collect themselves and come back. No, no, no. 00:37:34.760 --> 00:37:38.730 Like leave, like be gone. Oh instead of fighting 00:37:38.730 --> 00:37:40.989 through it and like like it's one thing to walk 00:37:40.989 --> 00:37:43.190 away and be like alright, you know I'm gonna 00:37:43.190 --> 00:37:45.010 take 30 minutes and I'm gonna take it to myself 00:37:45.010 --> 00:37:47.210 and I'm gonna think about it and then it's another 00:37:47.210 --> 00:37:50.130 to like and then I'll be back and then it's another 00:37:50.130 --> 00:37:52.929 to be like You know what? I'm done fighting with 00:37:52.929 --> 00:37:54.730 you. I'm done dealing with it. I'm done dealing 00:37:54.730 --> 00:37:56.750 with how your issues I'm done dealing with constantly 00:37:56.750 --> 00:37:58.849 fighting every single day and never being able 00:37:58.849 --> 00:38:02.940 to find a resolution. So this I'm done. Bye instead 00:38:02.940 --> 00:38:04.980 of trying to fix the problem at hand that you've 00:38:04.980 --> 00:38:06.599 already started a relationship, you're already 00:38:06.599 --> 00:38:09.380 six, seven, eight, nine months into a relationship, 00:38:09.699 --> 00:38:11.860 and you're finally hitting that non -honey mood 00:38:11.860 --> 00:38:15.079 stage instead of fighting through it and trying, 00:38:16.199 --> 00:38:19.219 you're just, and like trying to fix the issues 00:38:19.219 --> 00:38:24.159 instead of just dropping everything and losing 00:38:24.159 --> 00:38:31.550 it. Same some things aren't worth fighting for 00:38:31.550 --> 00:38:33.550 when it's constantly fight over the same thing 00:38:33.550 --> 00:38:39.090 every day. I mean If you're willing to change 00:38:39.090 --> 00:38:41.050 if you're willing to fix the problem at hand 00:38:41.050 --> 00:38:44.929 it's worth fighting for I think Well, there's 00:38:44.929 --> 00:38:48.409 a line between things that you can Fight for 00:38:48.409 --> 00:38:50.590 and things you shouldn't fight like at what point 00:38:50.590 --> 00:38:53.730 does it become? Hey, this isn't worth it anymore 00:38:53.730 --> 00:38:56.550 At what point? Yeah, like at what point would 00:38:56.550 --> 00:38:58.900 you like at what point do you? You're fighting 00:38:58.900 --> 00:39:02.920 over the same like the same specific conversation 00:39:02.920 --> 00:39:04.699 like about like let's say you're fighting about 00:39:04.699 --> 00:39:07.739 fighting every single day about yeah, you're 00:39:07.739 --> 00:39:09.920 fighting about the fact that y 'all can't stop 00:39:09.920 --> 00:39:14.440 fighting and At some point, you know you have 00:39:14.440 --> 00:39:17.780 that fight for two weeks three weeks Whatever 00:39:17.780 --> 00:39:20.579 and you still can't figure out a reason as to 00:39:20.579 --> 00:39:22.659 why you're fighting. It's just not meant to being 00:39:22.659 --> 00:39:25.500 y 'all just need to be done So unless you're 00:39:25.500 --> 00:39:29.280 gonna fight through it and like try to be better, 00:39:29.699 --> 00:39:32.739 then it's not worth fighting for. If both of 00:39:32.739 --> 00:39:36.019 you can't sit here objectively and say, you know 00:39:36.019 --> 00:39:41.239 what, I love you, you love me, and we're talking 00:39:41.239 --> 00:39:46.670 about relationships. Like if you guys can't objectively 00:39:46.670 --> 00:39:48.570 sit down and be like, you know what? I know you 00:39:48.570 --> 00:39:51.590 love me and I know I love you So are we gonna 00:39:51.590 --> 00:39:53.750 be willing to sit here and have a conversation 00:39:53.750 --> 00:39:55.570 and figure it out? Are we just gonna continue 00:39:55.570 --> 00:39:58.070 to fight fight fight fight fight fight fight? 00:39:58.550 --> 00:39:59.909 Because if we're just gonna continue to fight 00:39:59.909 --> 00:40:01.550 fight fight fight fight and not try to find a 00:40:01.550 --> 00:40:04.150 solution or try and fix things Then this relationship 00:40:04.150 --> 00:40:08.050 isn't worth it Well that kind of borders into 00:40:08.050 --> 00:40:09.750 like that you're trying to change the person 00:40:10.369 --> 00:40:12.610 No, no, I don't know what you're trying to know 00:40:12.610 --> 00:40:14.869 you don't like you shouldn't be trying to change 00:40:14.869 --> 00:40:17.570 the yeah is my point Yeah, it's not you're trying 00:40:17.570 --> 00:40:19.130 to force something instead of them saying hey, 00:40:19.190 --> 00:40:22.489 you know what? Let's make this work or hey, maybe 00:40:22.489 --> 00:40:24.769 I was wrong or maybe you were right. Whatever 00:40:24.769 --> 00:40:29.070 needs to happen It's people don't want to always 00:40:29.070 --> 00:40:31.530 admit that they're wrong to be fair Most of the 00:40:31.530 --> 00:40:33.650 time I'm right and she'll admit that most of 00:40:33.650 --> 00:40:35.190 the time I am right, but there are times where 00:40:35.190 --> 00:40:37.969 I'm not right There's and there are times I need 00:40:37.969 --> 00:40:40.769 to admit that There are times where he is very 00:40:40.769 --> 00:40:44.829 right, but that's very normal when he's what 00:40:44.829 --> 00:40:47.590 four and a half years older than me, almost five. 00:40:48.030 --> 00:40:50.570 That's pretty regular for him to be more right 00:40:50.570 --> 00:40:53.889 than me. I'm 20 years old. I've been on a high 00:40:53.889 --> 00:40:56.170 school for two years. Like I've got a lot of 00:40:56.170 --> 00:40:59.510 learning to do, but so does he. And we're both 00:40:59.510 --> 00:41:02.030 able to sit here and admit that we have learning 00:41:02.030 --> 00:41:06.630 to do within our relationship. and we have to 00:41:06.630 --> 00:41:07.889 be willing to fight for that if we're not willing 00:41:07.889 --> 00:41:10.170 to fight for that it has to come down to a conversation 00:41:10.170 --> 00:41:14.269 and be like I would say from the male side the 00:41:14.269 --> 00:41:16.190 relationship tends to start falling apart when 00:41:16.190 --> 00:41:20.190 the intimacy goes away it's one thing if it's 00:41:20.190 --> 00:41:22.570 like for example you're as busy one week or two 00:41:22.570 --> 00:41:25.909 weeks it's one thing if like you have the time 00:41:25.909 --> 00:41:30.110 the time is there and oh I don't feel like it 00:41:30.110 --> 00:41:33.150 oh it's not there oh I don't this oh my back 00:41:33.150 --> 00:41:35.789 oh my head whatever like you're finding every 00:41:35.789 --> 00:41:39.050 excuse in the book not to versus like they're 00:41:39.050 --> 00:41:40.869 actually being a valid reason because even if 00:41:40.869 --> 00:41:43.010 there is at that point as a man you're going 00:41:43.010 --> 00:41:44.849 to assume she's making it up because she just 00:41:44.849 --> 00:41:47.909 doesn't want to you know make love with to you 00:41:47.909 --> 00:41:49.329 and at the end of the day that's what it comes 00:41:49.329 --> 00:41:52.690 down to and you're not entitled to that as a 00:41:52.690 --> 00:41:54.190 man which you got to look at yourself and say 00:41:54.190 --> 00:41:55.809 if that's the case it probably means a you're 00:41:55.809 --> 00:41:58.570 getting out of shape or b maybe she is just not 00:41:58.570 --> 00:42:01.449 into you anymore yeah and at that point you need 00:42:01.449 --> 00:42:04.980 to stop wasting your time in my opinion because 00:42:04.980 --> 00:42:07.519 you can't you can't renegotiate somebody's attraction 00:42:07.519 --> 00:42:10.739 to you it doesn't work that way it's not a contract 00:42:10.739 --> 00:42:14.019 you don't go to your agent don't read it out 00:42:14.019 --> 00:42:24.820 loud but now that is the definition of too much 00:42:24.820 --> 00:42:27.559 information that i didn't need that is tmi we 00:42:27.559 --> 00:42:29.420 don't even have that much sharing in our relationship 00:42:29.420 --> 00:42:33.079 that's gross um i want to get that thank you 00:42:35.530 --> 00:42:37.750 trip to the doctor's office. That's like me saying 00:42:37.750 --> 00:42:40.309 I have tons and tons of back hair. I want to 00:42:40.309 --> 00:42:42.050 get that checked. I want to get that checked. 00:42:42.409 --> 00:42:47.510 Thank you so much for the follow. What were we 00:42:47.510 --> 00:42:49.929 talking about? I just gagged and almost threw 00:42:49.929 --> 00:42:57.909 up. Talking about a lot of different things. 00:42:57.909 --> 00:43:00.050 I was just saying that like when it comes to 00:43:00.050 --> 00:43:02.969 intimacy goes away Yeah in the relationship usually 00:43:02.969 --> 00:43:04.630 that means that either the woman's attracted 00:43:04.630 --> 00:43:07.730 to another man or you just not attracted to you 00:43:07.730 --> 00:43:10.210 Or there's I mean there's multiple different 00:43:10.210 --> 00:43:12.349 ways like if y 'all are spending too much time 00:43:12.349 --> 00:43:13.889 together then at some point y 'all are gonna 00:43:13.889 --> 00:43:19.349 be like Yeah, yeah, okay You know what I mean? 00:43:19.650 --> 00:43:22.190 I've heard that can happen and then on top of 00:43:22.190 --> 00:43:27.880 that like there are times like I've seen a lot 00:43:27.880 --> 00:43:30.860 of videos recently, especially on TikTok about 00:43:30.860 --> 00:43:37.659 like how ADHD can cause issues in that like connectivity 00:43:37.659 --> 00:43:43.199 aspect where it's like squirrel, like you were 00:43:43.199 --> 00:43:46.760 in the mood and now you're not. And so you have 00:43:46.760 --> 00:43:49.099 to kind of be willing to push through that as 00:43:49.099 --> 00:43:50.659 well. There's a lot of things you have to, it's 00:43:50.659 --> 00:43:52.440 a give and take situation in a relationship. 00:43:52.579 --> 00:43:54.699 It's never going to change. It's always going 00:43:54.699 --> 00:43:57.820 to be a give and take. That's how it works. Well, 00:43:57.900 --> 00:43:59.340 not only that, but you're highlighting something 00:43:59.340 --> 00:44:00.500 else. And you have to be willing to compromise. 00:44:00.719 --> 00:44:02.659 There's a lot of compromises in relationships. 00:44:02.659 --> 00:44:04.320 And if you're not willing to compromise, it's 00:44:04.320 --> 00:44:05.760 not going to work. But you also don't want to 00:44:05.760 --> 00:44:08.300 be treated like it's a chore. No, of course. 00:44:08.960 --> 00:44:10.739 Because then at that point, it's so different 00:44:10.739 --> 00:44:12.639 than taking out the garbage or doing the dishes. 00:44:12.960 --> 00:44:15.280 you know yeah and again there's a difference 00:44:15.280 --> 00:44:17.780 between saying hey this is just a reality and 00:44:17.780 --> 00:44:21.199 you need to deal with it versus hey i'm using 00:44:21.199 --> 00:44:24.579 this as an excuse i'll do it that's not a huge 00:44:24.579 --> 00:44:27.519 problem i've been busy i've been busy working 00:44:27.519 --> 00:44:30.059 i just realized that i've been i've been busy 00:44:30.059 --> 00:44:32.960 working so i haven't had a whole lot of time 00:44:32.960 --> 00:44:36.860 code but to me there's a difference between saying 00:44:36.860 --> 00:44:40.800 hey this is just happens versus saying this is 00:44:40.800 --> 00:44:44.280 not my excuse yeah Because you can make any excuse 00:44:44.280 --> 00:44:46.320 you want to not do something that you don't want 00:44:46.320 --> 00:44:49.840 to do True versus saying hey, you know what? 00:44:50.059 --> 00:44:54.159 I'm going through this thing But I'm you know, 00:44:54.159 --> 00:44:57.280 I'm gonna fight through it anyway Or just like 00:44:57.280 --> 00:44:59.880 have communication That's the only thing I think 00:44:59.880 --> 00:45:02.559 that people really lack on in relationships is 00:45:02.559 --> 00:45:05.579 they really like they don't realize how much 00:45:05.579 --> 00:45:07.980 Communication you have to have in a relationship. 00:45:08.019 --> 00:45:10.650 You have to open your mouth and speak If you're 00:45:10.650 --> 00:45:12.409 not willing to open your fucking mouth and speak, 00:45:13.110 --> 00:45:14.750 then you're not gonna get anywhere in your relationship. 00:45:15.610 --> 00:45:18.369 That goes for everything. Literally, you wake 00:45:18.369 --> 00:45:21.530 up in the morning, you're like, good morning. 00:45:22.590 --> 00:45:25.289 Or, hey, I'm heading out, but I'll send breakfast. 00:45:26.630 --> 00:45:28.929 Or, hey, you know what, I'm really upset right 00:45:28.929 --> 00:45:34.099 now, I'll come back in 30 minutes. You know something 00:45:34.099 --> 00:45:36.119 like you always have to communicate you always 00:45:36.119 --> 00:45:38.519 have to be willing to put in the words Because 00:45:38.519 --> 00:45:40.139 if you're not willing to put in the words, then 00:45:40.139 --> 00:45:43.440 it's never going to work. I would say conversely 00:45:43.440 --> 00:45:46.719 you can't over share No, if you over share in 00:45:46.719 --> 00:45:48.940 a relationship like if you know if you know over 00:45:48.940 --> 00:45:51.739 share I mean if you know everything about the 00:45:51.739 --> 00:45:54.510 person there is to know they get boring Well, 00:45:54.530 --> 00:45:56.250 that's the thing is you'll never know everything 00:45:56.250 --> 00:45:58.530 about a person. Well, you can know the vast majority. 00:45:59.190 --> 00:46:00.530 There's no way you can know everything about 00:46:00.530 --> 00:46:02.869 a person because a person has their own deepest, 00:46:03.070 --> 00:46:04.449 darkest secrets that they'll never share with 00:46:04.449 --> 00:46:06.469 anyone in their life. But most people are not 00:46:06.469 --> 00:46:08.489 that interesting, though. That's the problem. 00:46:08.989 --> 00:46:11.250 Well, then be more interesting. Get a fun job. 00:46:11.369 --> 00:46:13.510 Get a fancy. Well, now you're highlighting the 00:46:13.510 --> 00:46:15.030 solution to that problem. And I would definitely 00:46:15.030 --> 00:46:17.730 say you can put you could put too much trust 00:46:17.730 --> 00:46:23.500 into a relationship. It depends on what you mean 00:46:23.500 --> 00:46:26.099 by trust as in I don't think you can put too 00:46:26.099 --> 00:46:29.559 much trust I think you can put a little too much 00:46:29.559 --> 00:46:34.000 faith You should at the bottom line you need 00:46:34.000 --> 00:46:35.960 to never forget that people still have their 00:46:35.960 --> 00:46:37.920 own self -interest at heart because they're not 00:46:37.920 --> 00:46:41.980 crazy Yep, and you need to still be part of that 00:46:41.980 --> 00:46:45.380 person's best interest Because you can't expect 00:46:45.380 --> 00:46:48.940 them to time after time put their own self -interest 00:46:48.940 --> 00:46:51.699 on hold to help you It's not realistic, whether 00:46:51.699 --> 00:46:54.820 you're men, women, aliens, babies, I don't care. 00:46:55.139 --> 00:46:58.199 People have self -interest, they have ambition, 00:46:58.579 --> 00:47:00.139 and the more you get in the way of that, the 00:47:00.139 --> 00:47:02.719 more their natural biological instinct's gonna 00:47:02.719 --> 00:47:05.539 say, hey dummy, hey dummy, what are you doing? 00:47:05.980 --> 00:47:08.599 Why are we doing this? Well at some point you're 00:47:08.599 --> 00:47:12.559 gonna just have a click. It's just gonna click 00:47:12.559 --> 00:47:14.019 in your head and at some point you're gonna be 00:47:14.019 --> 00:47:16.360 like, why am I putting their needs above mine 00:47:16.360 --> 00:47:20.380 when I have needs myself? That goes both ways. 00:47:20.539 --> 00:47:23.199 It's one thing to do it here and there, time 00:47:23.199 --> 00:47:24.860 in, and they do the same for you. It's one thing 00:47:24.860 --> 00:47:27.179 if it's reciprocal. It's another if it's parasitic 00:47:27.179 --> 00:47:29.340 and you're getting nothing back, at which point 00:47:29.340 --> 00:47:32.019 you're basically a charitable foundation without 00:47:32.019 --> 00:47:37.199 the tax exemption. True. And it's not fair for 00:47:37.199 --> 00:47:38.980 the other person. That's why a lot of stay -at 00:47:38.980 --> 00:47:41.920 -home girlfriends don't work out. Because if 00:47:41.920 --> 00:47:46.639 you're not contributing, like that's why, unless 00:47:46.639 --> 00:47:51.510 you guys have like a dog, or cat or kids or something 00:47:51.510 --> 00:47:55.130 like that. Being a stay at home girlfriend doesn't 00:47:55.130 --> 00:47:58.090 always work out in the best. Well, that's why 00:47:58.090 --> 00:48:02.070 I don't look back at someone you don't. You don't 00:48:02.070 --> 00:48:09.070 read books backwards. No, but I'll reread books. 00:48:10.929 --> 00:48:13.250 Actually, no, I won't. I'll rewatch movies. I 00:48:13.250 --> 00:48:15.670 don't watch, I don't read books. That's way more 00:48:15.670 --> 00:48:18.250 your speed. Yeah, I'm not gonna lie. Gotcha. 00:48:18.510 --> 00:48:21.130 I prefer listening to books more because it's 00:48:21.130 --> 00:48:23.329 just, I'm more of an auditory person. I like 00:48:23.329 --> 00:48:25.690 to read still, but I like more audio books. To 00:48:25.690 --> 00:48:29.070 me, it's better for me to get more into it because 00:48:29.070 --> 00:48:31.030 I can use my imagination better than having to 00:48:31.030 --> 00:48:34.150 focus on the page. If someone's gonna read me 00:48:34.150 --> 00:48:39.590 a book, I'm totally down. Like I just got out 00:48:39.590 --> 00:48:41.469 of a year and a half relationship and the reason 00:48:41.469 --> 00:48:44.550 we broke up is because she wanted to work on 00:48:44.550 --> 00:48:50.230 herself I'll reread a book. I love multiple times 00:48:50.519 --> 00:48:52.719 You know, it's stuff like that where it's like 00:48:52.719 --> 00:48:55.320 work on myself. Like that sounds like a code 00:48:55.320 --> 00:48:58.059 word for I'm trying to find a higher caliber 00:48:58.059 --> 00:49:01.400 man and you're not him. So I got to leave. Yeah. 00:49:01.400 --> 00:49:03.699 And I'm not saying that to be a joke to you, 00:49:03.820 --> 00:49:05.860 man. I'm going to be honest. I'm going to be 00:49:05.860 --> 00:49:08.219 honest. And this might be really messed up. But 00:49:08.219 --> 00:49:11.880 I I've definitely had friends who do that too. 00:49:12.739 --> 00:49:16.159 Like they're just it's not it's not the fact 00:49:16.159 --> 00:49:18.599 it's not like, oh, you're the problem. It's just 00:49:18.599 --> 00:49:21.639 like this isn't what I want. or it's code for 00:49:21.639 --> 00:49:25.199 I wanna be a hoe. There's that too. I've heard 00:49:25.199 --> 00:49:28.800 that a lot. It's okay bro, the next day I found 00:49:28.800 --> 00:49:35.840 her and the dude's gone. I'm gonna have to say 00:49:35.840 --> 00:49:43.760 refer to this comment right here. I'm gonna have 00:49:43.760 --> 00:49:46.699 to say that. Also another thing I think a lot 00:49:46.699 --> 00:49:48.699 of men need to realize is there are no virgins 00:49:48.699 --> 00:49:51.110 out here. There really aren't and you need to 00:49:51.110 --> 00:49:53.309 stop looking for it because it's not unless you 00:49:53.309 --> 00:49:56.570 want to go to like The deep reaches of Asia or 00:49:56.570 --> 00:49:58.969 Africa and try to find something good luck, but 00:49:58.969 --> 00:50:01.949 you've also don't support bros or some crap Like 00:50:01.949 --> 00:50:06.150 don't don't do it. I don't do it a virgin like 00:50:06.150 --> 00:50:11.489 it's not feasible It's just not At the end of 00:50:11.489 --> 00:50:14.650 the day, it's not feasible. It's like a woman 00:50:14.650 --> 00:50:17.400 who's completely out of shape and she wants to 00:50:17.400 --> 00:50:20.460 find Channing Tatum looking guy who's a billionaire, 00:50:20.800 --> 00:50:22.500 and she doesn't need to do any work on herself 00:50:22.500 --> 00:50:25.420 whatsoever. That's not gonna happen, it doesn't 00:50:25.420 --> 00:50:27.719 work that way. In the same way that you as a 00:50:27.719 --> 00:50:31.139 guy, you can't expect yourself to get the results 00:50:31.139 --> 00:50:33.239 you want if you're not willing to become that 00:50:33.239 --> 00:50:36.539 guy. That's why in my relationship, I still go 00:50:36.539 --> 00:50:38.139 to the gym, I still work out all the time. Why? 00:50:38.139 --> 00:50:41.139 Because I care about myself. If I don't respect 00:50:41.139 --> 00:50:43.889 myself, I don't expect her to respect me. It's 00:50:43.889 --> 00:50:45.150 that simple. Also, there's something you brought 00:50:45.150 --> 00:50:51.510 up earlier. Sorry. I fell down. I scooted down 00:50:51.510 --> 00:50:56.750 a little too far. You brought up something earlier. 00:51:01.789 --> 00:51:07.869 Do you have a secret admirer? You brought something 00:51:07.869 --> 00:51:12.440 up earlier. Don't read those out loud. They're 00:51:12.440 --> 00:51:16.179 just spam, but You brought something up earlier. 00:51:16.179 --> 00:51:19.980 I've said that three times now, but that That's 00:51:19.980 --> 00:51:22.940 pretty classic you so that's true. I'm a pretty 00:51:22.940 --> 00:51:26.820 on brand as far as I'm concerned. I Forgot what 00:51:26.820 --> 00:51:35.960 I was gonna say Um, I think you need to check 00:51:35.960 --> 00:51:42.769 your eyeball It says you're my favorite black 00:51:42.769 --> 00:51:47.030 influencer. I don't know if you can see, but... 00:51:47.030 --> 00:51:50.150 I want to receive my black card from the NAACP 00:51:50.150 --> 00:51:52.510 before I can... Let me just put it to you this 00:51:52.510 --> 00:51:57.030 way. We are both blonde hair, blue eyed, white 00:51:57.030 --> 00:52:00.469 people. No, I want my double, I want my double 00:52:00.469 --> 00:52:04.429 NCP certificate award of nomination, at which 00:52:04.429 --> 00:52:11.949 point I will gladly accept that title. I'm actually, 00:52:12.230 --> 00:52:15.929 I'm a black albino person, actually. That's how 00:52:15.929 --> 00:52:20.190 I identify, so you have to accept it. I'm like 00:52:20.190 --> 00:52:22.769 Eminem. I wish I was black, so you have to pretend 00:52:22.769 --> 00:52:30.730 like I am. Thank you so much for the phone! Okay, 00:52:30.809 --> 00:52:32.530 anyway, let's get back to what we were discussing. 00:52:32.550 --> 00:52:34.909 You think if I identify as Elon Musk, I can have 00:52:34.909 --> 00:52:38.690 all his money? No. Well, that's not fair! I should 00:52:38.690 --> 00:52:40.860 really identify whoever I want to be! I wanna 00:52:40.860 --> 00:52:45.099 be Elon Musk, dang it! I wanna be rich! I'd identify 00:52:45.099 --> 00:52:53.440 as my chair. Do you identify as my chair? No! 00:52:54.659 --> 00:52:57.760 No, I do not. Why, you trying to sit on me to 00:52:57.760 --> 00:53:01.860 get ahead? That's not exactly what I was... I 00:53:01.860 --> 00:53:06.179 know what you were insinuating. I'm very aware. 00:53:06.840 --> 00:53:10.789 I wasn't born yesterday. You sure? At least I 00:53:10.789 --> 00:53:12.349 don't think so I might have to double check. 00:53:12.349 --> 00:53:14.230 I need to call your mom's Yeah, I might need 00:53:14.230 --> 00:53:15.929 to double check my birth certificate on that 00:53:15.929 --> 00:53:18.929 one. It's weird seeing two of me They're also 00:53:18.929 --> 00:53:21.949 at two different heights. So it's like what is 00:53:21.949 --> 00:53:32.070 happening? Awesome my brain just went I think 00:53:32.070 --> 00:53:34.469 we talked a lot about different aspects of the 00:53:34.469 --> 00:53:36.889 relationships more than I actually expected to 00:53:36.889 --> 00:53:44.320 be honest I need a Red Bull I need a Red Bull. 00:53:44.940 --> 00:53:47.280 Red Bull Zeroes are better. That's what I want. 00:53:49.380 --> 00:53:53.119 Red Bull Zeroes, the blue ones are so good. You 00:53:53.119 --> 00:53:55.039 see they taste like cotton candy? They do taste 00:53:55.039 --> 00:53:56.940 like cotton candy. I don't see it personally. 00:53:58.360 --> 00:54:02.179 Damn. Like I see it like to an extent, but not 00:54:02.179 --> 00:54:04.739 to the, like to me it tastes like a mix of like 00:54:04.739 --> 00:54:06.559 different things. It's not exactly the same. 00:54:07.820 --> 00:54:10.260 That's real. What kind of beer are we talking 00:54:10.260 --> 00:54:13.579 about? Miller Lite or Bud or what? I don't understand 00:54:13.579 --> 00:54:15.880 people who only drink beer though. Because to 00:54:15.880 --> 00:54:21.739 me... I want to have Mimosa. Champagne. Yeah. 00:54:22.039 --> 00:54:24.800 I find it ironic though, that like, of course 00:54:24.800 --> 00:54:27.900 it's not bad. But to me... We're cousins now. 00:54:28.380 --> 00:54:33.960 Beer is okay, but... Like, I gotta have like 00:54:33.960 --> 00:54:36.360 12 of them. to like feel anything at that point 00:54:36.360 --> 00:54:39.920 I feel super bloated super carbonated and then 00:54:39.920 --> 00:54:41.840 at that point I feel like I'm gonna yak it's 00:54:41.840 --> 00:54:44.440 not worth it how'd you feel about that stripe 00:54:44.440 --> 00:54:47.139 I think it was okay but again I only had one 00:54:47.139 --> 00:54:49.400 like I'm not gonna have like if I wanted to get 00:54:49.400 --> 00:54:52.139 like gone gone and have to have like six at least 00:54:52.139 --> 00:54:53.480 to get started I could go for a bottle of Jaeger 00:54:53.480 --> 00:54:58.579 it's crazy the black licorice yo stuff tastes 00:54:58.579 --> 00:55:00.119 like black licorice I never understood people 00:55:00.119 --> 00:55:03.150 who like black licorice it's weird My mother 00:55:03.150 --> 00:55:05.510 is one of those people. Licorice is gross. Mmm, 00:55:05.630 --> 00:55:09.550 red one's not bad. That's Twizzlers. No, that's 00:55:09.550 --> 00:55:13.670 like the red vines. Eww. Yeah, red vines aren't 00:55:13.670 --> 00:55:19.050 bad. No, they're gross. And I really want some 00:55:19.050 --> 00:55:27.170 Twizzlers. Oh gosh. She has a whole stash of 00:55:27.170 --> 00:55:33.030 snacks. I don't... I don't understand... understatement 00:55:33.030 --> 00:55:35.369 um because you got like all the cheddar bunnies 00:55:35.369 --> 00:55:38.809 and all this type of stuff too what are you doing 00:55:38.809 --> 00:55:50.030 i'm gonna go get some water that was fun okay 00:55:50.030 --> 00:55:56.130 so what we have for snack wise today is a lot 00:55:56.130 --> 00:55:59.489 of different things welcome to my channel no 00:55:59.489 --> 00:56:11.079 i'm just kidding I've got I know I got the lint 00:56:11.079 --> 00:56:19.340 mint or the milk chocolate balls You did not 00:56:19.340 --> 00:56:26.159 drink your chocolate milkshake We just hit oh 00:56:26.159 --> 00:56:35.280 my gosh We just achieved goal of five finger 00:56:35.280 --> 00:56:45.760 hearts Thank you so much chase the donut um so 00:56:45.760 --> 00:56:50.239 we got the lint or the lindor yeah the lint lindor 00:56:50.239 --> 00:56:56.760 milk bowls and then I've got the her stocks are 00:56:56.760 --> 00:57:02.329 inferior what are these called Caramel? No, not 00:57:02.329 --> 00:57:11.590 the... Duh! I was talking about the brand. Ghirardelli. 00:57:12.030 --> 00:57:14.289 It's like, it's like Ghirardelli or something 00:57:14.289 --> 00:57:18.130 like that. Something like that. Uh, the milk 00:57:18.130 --> 00:57:22.230 chocolate caramel squeeze. And then, and then, 00:57:23.050 --> 00:57:26.429 we got the Ghirardelli, uh, dark chocolate mint 00:57:26.429 --> 00:57:29.480 squeeze. And then... You know what I haven't 00:57:29.480 --> 00:57:32.079 had in a while? I haven't had in a while was 00:57:32.079 --> 00:57:36.940 Big League Chew. That's a big league. Big League 00:57:36.940 --> 00:57:43.219 Chew. I got my Greek yogurt bars over here because 00:57:43.219 --> 00:57:46.519 I'm trying to get my eight pack back. I'm at 00:57:46.519 --> 00:57:50.500 six, I need eight. We're trying to get your ten 00:57:50.500 --> 00:57:58.809 pack back. What should we do? What should I do 00:57:58.809 --> 00:58:07.449 next, Colby? I don't know. I do think I need 00:58:07.449 --> 00:58:09.869 to go answer my work emails before anything else, 00:58:09.949 --> 00:58:11.949 because it's getting later on a Saturday. I don't 00:58:11.949 --> 00:58:16.429 want to work on Sunday. Supposed to be my Sabbath 00:58:16.429 --> 00:58:19.389 day of rest. I think we're going to do TikToks. 00:58:20.909 --> 00:58:23.369 All right, my friends, I'm going to let you all 00:58:23.369 --> 00:58:28.219 go on my end. Let me know if you like. Doing 00:58:28.219 --> 00:58:30.980 shows with both me and Reagan and if you do, 00:58:30.980 --> 00:58:34.519 let me know we'll do more of them If you do we 00:58:34.519 --> 00:58:40.380 go live every day on to talk true My username 00:58:40.380 --> 00:58:41.400 peace