Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the sheep get
shared podcast. I'm your host Austin Creed and
I want to welcome you into the show today though
my friends I wanted to update you so when it
comes to I want to do two shows a day. It's one
of those things that I think it needs to be Done
to get the show to the next level But I also
have a story to update you on and we have three
different stories that we're going to address
on today's show So without further ado I'm going
to show you the first story. These are all from
my ex account, by the way. Those of you who don't
know, I am on ex. And so what we're going to
do is we're going to look at three different
stories that I've responded. I've been that I've
found and might've even left a comment on or
reposted with a comment from myself. But here's
the first story of the day. First story of the
day is from this woman right here. This woman
is talking about her marriage and we're going
to listen. And feel free to share your thoughts
and comments below. But let's get into what she
has to say. I've been with my husband for almost
20 years, but about three years ago, I was strongly
considering divorce and I want to talk to you
about why. So I'm going to tell you the story
of the day where I thought to myself, maybe I
don't want to do this anymore. My husband and
I had four kids. We both worked full time. We
had been together for 16 years at this point.
We've been together since high school and on
paper. I have an amazing husband. He is incredibly
supportive. He's kind. He's loyal. He's a great
dad. He's very hands on. He's an active participant.
He's always present. Like on paper, what else
could I ask for? Um, but in reality, my experience
is very similar to the experience of other women.
I had this amazing husband who on paper was great,
but I was incredibly frustrated and burnt. Okay.
Hold on a second. Let's stop right there before
she keeps going. It's a five minute video. Oh
my gosh. Okay. Okay. First of all, anytime that
anybody ever says, oh, he's great, but you know
that there was some kind of rug pull bait and
switch. Something happened where she put up with
it. She put up with it. She put up with it. Didn't
tell him. Didn't say anything. Didn't, and then
all of a sudden she saw her friend getting a
better deal. She saw that she was just, something
happened. She woke up one day and was like, I'm
done with this and moved on. All this is preparing
you. to let you know why she's justifying bad
behavior. Nice frame freeze. I'm like, ha ha
ha, by the way. All right, let's see what else.
Keep going. Out from our marriage and from motherhood,
because what happens to so many of us is that
we marry these amazing men. Did you just say
she's burned out from motherhood? Gentlemen,
if you procreate with a woman, please, please
be careful who you procreate with, because this
can you imagine? Being told that That's bad man
and we have amazing relationships and then we
have kids and when we have kids women tend to
carry a Disproportionate amount of the work in
the home the work of raising kids and the mental
load and that oh my god This is the same garbage
women always say okay first of all Women will
use this argument on you gentlemen. Let me only
change the frame for a second back to my book
into the show brand. First of all, let's get
this out of the way. Women will use the mental
load and the housework as a tool to manipulate
you. First of all, mental load, you can't measure
that. That could be anything from I'm worried
about what you're worried about to I'm thinking
about you throughout the day. That's mental load.
You can't measure that. So therefore, because
you can't measure it, I think it's garbage. Number
two, Of course you're going to be expected to
do a lot of the housework. You're probably at
home more than he is. That's part of being a
mom. It's been like this forever. Okay? I don't
understand where this idea came from all of a
sudden. This equal partnership garbage. No woman
actually wants this. And let me tell you why.
They think they want it. Because it sounds good
in their heads. It doesn't work though when you
take it into the real world. In the real world,
a woman wants a man who's equal to or better
than her. She's gonna try to upgrade on you if
there's a quote, partnership. She's gonna want
a better deal. It's not her cause she's evil,
it's her cause she's a woman and this is how
women work. She's using this as a tool to manipulate
you. If anybody's ever read The Manipulated Man
by Esther Velar, fantastic book. I'd recommend
it right after you read my book, Biblical Bachelor.
But nonetheless, this whole argument is frame
by frame exactly what she talks about in her
book. If you, let's look up, let me send you,
look, here's the screen. What do you see right
in the corner? That's a dishwasher. Back in the
day, women didn't have dishwashers. Guarantee
you with a house like that, with a nice granite
island that she's filming this from, guarantee
you she has a nice washer and dryer. I guarantee
you she has a maid or she has a landscaper. She's
got people to help her with this so -called homework
and mental load. Ma 'am, you signed up to be
a mother. Unless you marry a man who doesn't
want kids, you know you signed up for her and
now you want to play the victim afterwards and
it doesn't work Now it's one thing if he said
hey, I don't want I want kids now. I know I don't
want kids now I want kids. Okay. No, he's payment
switching. That's not fair. You can't do it So
you can't do it So, you can't rug pull like that.
But here's the problem. Women do this in droves.
This is why so many men are quitting relationships.
It's because of this woman, this type right here.
Let's continue with this. This is exactly what
happened to us. About three months after my fourth
baby was born. Fourth. I remember looking at
my husband and saying, I mean more. I need you
to do more. See? See? Okay. Um, let's steal a
page from coach Greg Adams. Shout out to CGA.
Great man in the great, great YouTuber, great
content creator. Go check out his page if you
haven't. I want to give credit where credit is
due. He calls this the bait and switch. Now that
the investment phase of his, of her relationship
is there, fourth kid, right on cue, she wants
more from him. In other words, you, what was
working before was fine. Now I want more. In
other words, Hey, you know what? You got to step
up your game now because now I have a new kid.
And either you're going to pay, you're going
to do what I say, or I'm going to turn you over
to child protective services over to the core
family court system through child support. And
one way or another, I'm going to get what I want
out of you is what she's saying. And if you don't
like that, I'm sorry. What else am I supposed
to take from this? Huh? This isn't done in good
faith. If this was good faith, she would have
said this up front. But now she's doing it after
the fourth kid is born. This is not in good faith.
She's not doing this to be a good person. This
is a bait and switch. Play it simple. Let's continue
with this. Exhausted. I am in charge of everyone
and everything in this house. Every night. When
we cook dinner, you ask me what to make. Every
day, when you drop off the kids at daycare, you
ask me what they need in their backpacks. I am
the project manager. What does your husband do
for a living? Can I ask that question? Can I
ask you what your husband does for a living?
Because it looks like you live in a pretty nice
house. I guarantee you he makes more money than
you do. Because if you made less, then you wouldn't
be with him most likely. But let's continue with
this. For all I know, she's a breadwinner, which
at that point, you're a dumb woman who married
a broke dude. I mean, At that point, it's still
your fault, I don't know what to tell you. It
always starts like this, but uh... As you do
it, it gets worse and worse. Just FYI, ask any
man who's been divorced, he'll tell you. It would
make my life so much easier because when I've
got the four kids running around and the baby
crying, I can't be looking for their favorite
water bottle in the dishwasher. I just need to
know it's clean. And he said, yeah, of course.
Yeah, I'll do that. That's no problem. And so,
of course, he does it. But then I have to remind
him and then he forgets. Maybe because he's working.
I need more context than this because I guarantee
you we're missing part of the story. That's all
I'm gonna say. Let's continue. I have to remind
him again and there was this one morning where
I woke up and I went to put something in the
trash and it was overflowing and I went to get
my son's water bottle and it was in the dishwasher
with all the other clean dishes and I felt so
disrespected and unseen and unvalued at that
point in time. felt is the key word in that sentence
that you might want to underline just so you
know he she says i instead of saying i knew i
was disrespected she said i felt which means
you can't again can't measure feelings again
you can't do anything about feelings they're
you can't debate them you can't discuss them
they're not logical continuing i remember texting
my husband being like what happened like why
didn't you do this and he said sorry i was running
late for work and i remember thinking Oh my God,
he doesn't see me. Because what he's done has
now made me late for work. And he doesn't care
about that. He doesn't care about the impact
on me. And he doesn't see how every single thing
in our home happens because I ask him to do it
or because I do it. What does your husband do
for work, ma 'am? What does he do for work? That's
kind of an important detail that you're conveniently
leaving out. Myself or because I planned and
organized it. The diaper bag is full because
I filled it, right? I put the wipes in there.
And I felt so frustrated. Okay. I got to pause
it here. My friends for a second. Okay. Let me
ask you a question. How is it that grandma, you
know, your, your grandma used to be able to raise
15 kids, eight kids, seven kids on her own and
didn't complain whatsoever. But this woman can't
even raise four kids without having a meltdown
on social media. Can I ask that question? How
is that possible? How is it possible that she's,
she's melting down? She's melting down. I can't
handle it. I can't do it. Meanwhile, her grandma
probably raised six kids on her own while the
dad was working at the factory all the time.
Are you kidding me with this crap? How many men
have had this happen to them? Please raise your
hand in the audience of the, of the sheep kid
shoot podcast. Uh, in the studio that's I can
see golf clubs, you know, golf clubs on my wall.
I imagine that there's a decent number of hands
going up in the audience. Why? Because this is
what happens to us as men. Where's this guy giving
his side of the story? Answer, nowhere, it sounds
like. Maybe we'll get to see it at some point,
but it certainly doesn't seem like it. This is
the kind of stuff that makes men give up. Is
this garbage right here? What does he do for
a living? You haven't answered that yet. What
does he do? I remember thinking, what's the point?
What's the point of doing this with someone else?
I might as well just do it alone. And it's not
- You hear that? Did you hear that? Now all of
a sudden she's giving up. Four kids - Did you
think about the kids without her - without their
dad? Now they're gonna be used as pawns in your
game? Not once. Do you think about the kids?
It's all about how you felt. Did anybody catch
that? How she felt in that moment? Not what it
was, not what are the kids, not how can I make
this work, how can I maybe do something differently,
it was I give up, I'm done. I felt disrespected,
saw them out. Not because my husband didn't love
me or he did anything to me, and it's not because
I didn't love him, but because I felt so taken
advantage of in our relationship and his dynamic.
It doesn't happen by accident, right? I wonder
how much money you spend, ma 'am, on a bunch
of garbage and your husband feels used for his
money, but we'll continue. Not like my husband
did it to me, but we've been raised in this society
that... Oh, God. ...who they should be in marriages,
and what it looks like to be a good mom versus
a good dad, and we know the bar for moms is way
up here, and the bar for dads is way down here.
Oh, my God. Oh, the women! It is so hard! Oh,
my God! Ma 'am, nobody told you to be a mom.
You wanted to be a mom. You signed up to be a
mother and yet here you are complaining about
it If it's so bad and so hard then why did you
sign up for it? Can I ask that? Can I ask that
question am I allowed to ask that I'll ask it
why did you sign up for it? I Mean for God's
sakes nobody forced you and yet here you are
complaining about the probably you asked him
for kids Most women do that by the way The tactic
to manipulate the man in case you don't know
Because now she has access to his resources But
here we are and yet I guarantee you the man's
like what the heck I Didn't what you guys probably
really lost here. He's like what I guarantee.
He's probably a little beta though, too But you
know that's the tend to happen when uh men are
in relationships they tend to naturally take
that disposition, but Nevertheless, let's revisit
this. And we fell into these norms. We fell into
these roles in our family despite the fact that
we never wanted to. And I'm lucky, and I say
lucky because I have a partner who I know. Partner,
not husband. And wants me to be happy. And was
willing and able to change. And so we did the
work. Oh, you're punishing him for changing.
Gentlemen, don't do this. Just so you know. To
figure out what equity looks like in our relationship.
Equity? Equity is a code word for we end up at
the same place. You know three years later that
we are happier than ever our kids are thriving
What is this Don't give me the spinning wheel
of death. No No, you mean it. No. Oh curse. Okay.
So now did you take it down? Did you take it
down? I Mean you get the picture. I mean, what
the hell am I supposed to think about this? It
was all I feel statements. It was, I want, look,
I see from a certain perspective, what she's
talking about when it comes to, Hey, I want this
and I want that. I want this. I want that. I
get it. Here's the problem though. You've made
it all about yourself. I guarantee you your husband
has done a lot for you and how you repaying him
is, is with this, it was with a divorce. What
it sounds like to me. What it sounds like what
do you guys think? Let's move to the next Next
video is this one right here. Let's take a look
at this guys seen this Look at them vandalizing
the castle of the only ship look at them Look
look at these losers right here Look, I don't
care what you think about musk. Okay. I think
musk is the kind of guy that He's successful
like every successful person he has haters, but
here's the problem I think that these people
who vandalize Tesla's like this they They're
wasting their time. They are not actually making
a difference. They're only serving To put themselves
in prison and They look stupid because here's
the difference here's the difference Tesla is
not completely owned by Musk, in case you didn't
know it. He owns about 20%, I think, last time
I checked. About 20 % of the company. The rest
of it is publicly traded on the market. Which
means that people with 401ks, people with retirement
benefits, you're hurting them, not Musk. You
are hurting them more than you're hurting him
by doing this. By burning down Tesla stations.
By keying Tesla's cyber trucks, by putting paint
all over Tesla dealerships, you're not actually
hurting Musk. You're more hurting the people
who put their money in the stock market. That
is the difference. And that to me is why it's
so stupid what they're doing. It's ridiculous.
Let's look at this. According to the New York
Post, and this is a little oldest from January,
single women own millions more homes than single
men in the United States, and the gap is only
growing. Well, first of all, kind of a misleading
headline, and it's going to have a bias because
it was written by a woman. That's number one.
Number two, even if that is true, can someone
explain to me why it is that this is a story?
I don't understand. Why this is a flex just before
the This is this is the kind of stuff we see
all the time Let me know what you think about
this in the comments below I'm curious to hear
what you have us to say about this because I
think that that's not it's a non -story I'll
be I'll be back We need to talk more about these
things, but I got to get back to work. I'll see
you guys later. Peace