1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:04,560 Ladies and gentlemen, I want to welcome you to the Sheepgast Sheared podcast. 2 00:00:04,560 --> 00:00:11,360 I'm your host, Austin Creed, and my friends, today we're going to discuss suffering in silence 3 00:00:11,360 --> 00:00:12,760 and male psychology. 4 00:00:12,760 --> 00:00:13,760 You know what? 5 00:00:13,760 --> 00:00:19,360 The more I'm in a relationship, the longer I'm in it, the more I understand the differences 6 00:00:19,360 --> 00:00:25,680 between men and women, and the more I understand why, you know, to some extent men and women 7 00:00:25,680 --> 00:00:26,760 complement each other. 8 00:00:26,760 --> 00:00:31,880 This is well understood throughout all of human history, but the interesting part is 9 00:00:31,880 --> 00:00:36,240 when it comes to my job, it comes to the grind, it comes to making money, it's one of those 10 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:40,360 things that I don't like to talk about by problems. 11 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:44,680 You listen to any man in the audience who likes to talk about their problems, raise 12 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:45,680 your hand. 13 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:55,480 Maybe one, two out of the audience of 2,000 people, like guys like us, guys in general, 14 00:00:55,480 --> 00:00:56,480 what am I even talking about? 15 00:00:56,480 --> 00:00:58,680 We're not talking about our feelings like that. 16 00:00:58,680 --> 00:01:01,640 I mean, what kind of sick world am I living in? 17 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:08,240 Where somehow we're expected to talk about our feelings and go to therapy and all these 18 00:01:08,240 --> 00:01:09,240 things. 19 00:01:09,240 --> 00:01:10,240 It's stupid. 20 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:11,240 I'm sorry. 21 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:13,760 I'm not knocking you if you go into therapy. 22 00:01:13,760 --> 00:01:18,240 I was in therapy when I was on suicide watch in a mental hospital in the Air Force. 23 00:01:18,240 --> 00:01:19,240 Oh yeah! 24 00:01:19,240 --> 00:01:22,440 Oh yeah, I know a thing or two about the mental health institutions. 25 00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:24,800 Let me tell you right now. 26 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:27,880 I know as SRIs do a person, I'll tell you that right now. 27 00:01:27,880 --> 00:01:31,120 It's a story I would say for another time. 28 00:01:31,120 --> 00:01:33,800 I don't know if I want to talk to the body right now. 29 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:41,120 What I do want to talk about, my friends, is the being surrounded by low means. 30 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:43,040 Does anybody relate to that? 31 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:49,200 Whether it's your guy friends, girlfriends, parents, mentors, you name it. 32 00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:55,320 You're sometimes in your life when you're working so damn hard and you're pushing yourself, 33 00:01:55,320 --> 00:01:58,680 you're doing everything you can, you're flying by the seat of your pants, you don't always 34 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:05,000 know what you're doing, especially if you're anywhere near an entrepreneur like myself. 35 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:12,840 And as I sit here, as God is my witness, it's so hard. 36 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:16,360 It frustrates me to no end. 37 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:19,920 I'm out here trying to work really hard, trying to make something of myself and all the time 38 00:02:19,920 --> 00:02:23,080 I got haters surrounding me. 39 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:25,120 My friends, does anybody relate to that? 40 00:02:25,120 --> 00:02:28,720 Having haters just swarm you. 41 00:02:28,720 --> 00:02:33,160 Somebody has to be able to relate to that because it's one of those things that you would think 42 00:02:33,160 --> 00:02:34,160 wouldn't bother you. 43 00:02:34,160 --> 00:02:38,160 And most of the time, I'll be honest, it doesn't bother me whatsoever. 44 00:02:38,160 --> 00:02:45,160 You know what it bothers me when I had a really hard day, when I'm at work, or even when I 45 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:51,320 got to sit through these tongue-washings from these left-wing scumbags who are all over 46 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:52,320 social media. 47 00:02:52,320 --> 00:02:55,440 I'm sick and tired of these morons. 48 00:02:55,440 --> 00:03:02,560 Every time I'll be sitting there and my girlfriend will be on TikTok and she's every once in 49 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:06,120 a while listening to something on TikTok and I'm gonna sit there and I'm like, oh my 50 00:03:06,120 --> 00:03:11,120 God, I can't listen to this rubbish another second I gotta get out of here. 51 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:12,680 And this is not even that stupid. 52 00:03:12,680 --> 00:03:16,640 It's just stuff I'm listening to it, it's some woman talking about some garbage or some 53 00:03:16,640 --> 00:03:21,480 non-binary person talking about something and I'm like, what the hell, who cares about 54 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:22,480 this garbage? 55 00:03:22,480 --> 00:03:29,200 Who the hell cares about this in a time in American history, in world history, where 56 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:31,120 we have so many other things to worry about? 57 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:37,000 Why is it I gotta sit here and listen to that, oh I'm non-binary and this is how I identify? 58 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:40,560 I don't give a damn about how you identify. 59 00:03:40,560 --> 00:03:43,960 How my problem, I don't give a damn about it. 60 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:45,400 Am I a bad person my friends? 61 00:03:45,400 --> 00:03:49,000 Does anybody relate to me out there? 62 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:50,000 Who am I kidding? 63 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:51,800 Who am I kidding? 64 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:58,040 For all I know, y'all just never even see that. 65 00:03:58,040 --> 00:04:02,680 For all I know, I'm alone and you know, that's one of the funniest things my friends is when 66 00:04:02,680 --> 00:04:08,080 I'm sitting in a microphone in my car or sitting in a microphone, you know, working or whatever, 67 00:04:08,080 --> 00:04:09,720 you never know who's listening. 68 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:12,760 You never know who's gonna receive this, what they're gonna think about you, what they're 69 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:15,280 gonna come away with what you say. 70 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:19,880 It's one of those weird things that, you know, when you're a live audience, you can see how 71 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:22,040 people are responding to what you say. 72 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:28,640 You get that live feedback mechanism, but when you're on a podcast or when you're on 73 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:32,840 YouTube or anything else, you don't know what people are, unless they say something to you 74 00:04:32,840 --> 00:04:37,000 in a comment, you don't know what they're thinking, you don't know if you impacted them, you don't 75 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:39,600 know if you made a difference in their life, you have no idea. 76 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,760 None, none whatsoever, you have no idea. 77 00:04:42,760 --> 00:04:47,480 For all you know, it went over like a lead balloon, like Cascale Mountains, and when 78 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:53,600 we're right on everybody's head, nobody cares about it, nobody heard a damn word you said. 79 00:04:53,600 --> 00:04:58,320 And that's when you feel like you're surrounded by people, you're surrounded by people who 80 00:04:58,320 --> 00:05:02,840 are suffering, people who are going through struggles like you and others who are going 81 00:05:02,840 --> 00:05:06,400 through completely different situations in their lives. 82 00:05:06,400 --> 00:05:14,120 And here we all are, trying to get through life, and the problem is so many of us, we 83 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:17,440 gotta play the tough guy, we gotta pretend like nothing phases us, we gotta pretend like 84 00:05:17,440 --> 00:05:21,720 nothing bothers us, everything's hunky-dory and everything's fantastic. 85 00:05:21,720 --> 00:05:27,360 But you know what, my friends, it's okay to admit to yourself that stuff's not good, 86 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:31,440 you're not happy, stuff's not going your way, you're going through hard times. 87 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:37,280 And you know, I'll be the first to tell you, I'm so used to negative reinforcement, I'm 88 00:05:37,280 --> 00:05:43,240 so used to people telling me I'm not enough, I'm not doing enough, I'm not basically enough, 89 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:47,840 I'm failing, I'm not succeeding, I'm not doing enough, I could be doing more, you know, same 90 00:05:47,840 --> 00:05:49,760 standard crap. 91 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:55,960 And I sit there and I think to myself, you know what, why am I even doing this anymore? 92 00:05:55,960 --> 00:05:57,960 Why am I even on this earth anymore? 93 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:01,280 Why do I even, why do I talk on a microphone in front of people? 94 00:06:01,280 --> 00:06:03,200 Why do I go to work every day? 95 00:06:03,200 --> 00:06:05,760 Why do I care about anything that I care about? 96 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:08,280 Why don't I just check out? 97 00:06:08,280 --> 00:06:12,920 I'll be honest with you, my friends, I have those thoughts sometimes, oh yeah, oh yeah, 98 00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:15,680 I have those thoughts all the time actually. 99 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:22,600 But you know what's interesting, what's interesting, my friends, is you probably, you don't hear 100 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:27,200 people talk this raw about their life in a lot of ways, you just don't, a lot of people 101 00:06:27,200 --> 00:06:30,640 want to talk about politics, I'll talk about it. 102 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:34,240 Whatever you want to talk about, they're going through certain things in their life, but 103 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:37,120 they don't have the raw passion. 104 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:43,960 They don't have the ability to sit there and say to you what it really is. 105 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:51,760 They don't have the ability to put that emotion behind their words, you can hear it and you're 106 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:56,520 like, wow, I relate to that, that is fantastic. 107 00:06:56,520 --> 00:07:00,880 But you know what, that's lonely out here on your way to the top, I'll tell you that 108 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:05,960 right now, I'm nowhere near the top, nowhere near where I want to be, I've so far to go. 109 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:09,800 As I know a lot of you do as well, you're not satisfied with where you are, you want 110 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:15,600 to do better, you want to be more, become more, see more, do more people, you know, you want 111 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:17,600 to do all these things, right? 112 00:07:17,600 --> 00:07:23,480 But the interesting thing is, on the road to the top, the higher up the mountain you 113 00:07:23,480 --> 00:07:27,520 get, the steeper the climb becomes. 114 00:07:27,520 --> 00:07:34,200 And it gets really easy to look down and think to yourself, man, I could just slide down 115 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:38,920 this hill, have a good time on my way down and back to the bottom and just kind of take 116 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:43,120 it easy and pick it back up in the morning. 117 00:07:43,120 --> 00:07:49,320 My friends, I'm going to urge you, urge you with every fiber of my being right now. 118 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:50,760 Don't do it. 119 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:52,960 Do not let people get in your head. 120 00:07:52,960 --> 00:07:54,720 Do not let people influence you. 121 00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:58,080 Do not let them take your vision from you. 122 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:00,600 Do not let them get to you. 123 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:07,640 Do not allow them to get in your head and make decisions for you about your life, your 124 00:08:07,640 --> 00:08:10,080 goals, your vision, your desires. 125 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:12,520 Don't let them take that from you. 126 00:08:12,520 --> 00:08:17,680 Don't let anybody, I don't care if they're your mom, your cousin, girlfriend, boyfriend, 127 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:22,920 husband, wife, best friend, nobody can take that from you unless you let them. 128 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:25,760 Unless you let them take that from you. 129 00:08:25,760 --> 00:08:35,520 And I don't want you to give up and lose yourself in your subconscious program desire to make 130 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:38,640 other people around you happy. 131 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:46,440 Do not let that programming from years of education, years of being in society as a 132 00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:52,880 kid, years of consuming content on all different platforms, all different kinds of entertainment, 133 00:08:52,880 --> 00:08:58,440 do not let that take away your sacrifice and make it no void. 134 00:08:58,440 --> 00:09:05,280 Do not let anybody tell you something that's untrue and you accept it and you internalize 135 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:06,280 it. 136 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:10,800 And then you allow yourself to fall for a lie that then takes away your chance to see, 137 00:09:10,800 --> 00:09:13,600 could think clearly. 138 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:15,400 It's never worth it. 139 00:09:15,400 --> 00:09:17,720 It's never worth it in the long term. 140 00:09:17,720 --> 00:09:20,200 Always, always have the big picture. 141 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:22,440 The big picture is the only thing that matters. 142 00:09:22,440 --> 00:09:26,680 Not being happy in the moment, not chasing what feels good. 143 00:09:26,680 --> 00:09:32,640 None of that is what will make you feel fulfilled might bring you temporary excitement, but 144 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:33,640 it will not. 145 00:09:33,640 --> 00:09:39,480 I repeat, it will not lead you to feeling fulfilled. 146 00:09:39,480 --> 00:09:47,120 And that my friends is the essence of what it means to truly win as a man to chase fulfillment, 147 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:48,120 not excitement. 148 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:53,120 You never wonder why the people on earth who are always getting high, they're always doing 149 00:09:53,120 --> 00:09:59,120 something crazy new, adrenaline junkies and the people who are heathenists, the pursuers, 150 00:09:59,120 --> 00:10:02,200 the pleasure amongst us like at all costs. 151 00:10:02,200 --> 00:10:06,480 You never wonder why they're the most miserable people on the planet. 152 00:10:06,480 --> 00:10:07,480 You ever noticed that? 153 00:10:07,480 --> 00:10:08,480 Hmm? 154 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:13,720 You ever noticed that the most miserable people I have? 155 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:15,680 Now I'm my essay here and tell you my Johnny. 156 00:10:15,680 --> 00:10:19,600 I'm Johnny happy guy and I'm like, oh yeah, I'm a good time Charlie. 157 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:23,760 Of course I'm not always a good time Charlie. 158 00:10:23,760 --> 00:10:29,320 But that's the spectrum of your emotions, the spectrum of the human psychology. 159 00:10:29,320 --> 00:10:35,240 Anybody ever read A Long Day's Journey Into Night by, I think it was Eugene O'Neill? 160 00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:36,440 Very interesting book by the way. 161 00:10:36,440 --> 00:10:41,920 I haven't finished it myself, but the whole essence of the book is it's a long day's journey 162 00:10:41,920 --> 00:10:43,600 into night. 163 00:10:43,600 --> 00:10:48,760 Your life is basically like a day where the sun rises, it gets to the peak and then it 164 00:10:48,760 --> 00:10:52,240 slowly descends and the sun sets on your life. 165 00:10:52,240 --> 00:10:59,360 Every day we have choices, we make them, we don't make them, we make sacrifices, we don't 166 00:10:59,360 --> 00:11:03,440 make sacrifices and it's a long day's journey into night and in a lot of ways it really 167 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:12,840 mimics death, life and whether we are, you know, our different quarters of life. 168 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:17,520 You want to picture life in a sports analogy, you can picture it as the four quarters in 169 00:11:17,520 --> 00:11:22,800 basketball where you have your first quarter of life, your second, third, fourth and then 170 00:11:22,800 --> 00:11:25,880 you have overtime if you're lucky enough and you take care of yourself and you have good 171 00:11:25,880 --> 00:11:26,880 genetics. 172 00:11:26,880 --> 00:11:31,360 But a lot of people, they don't want to get serious until they're already halfway through 173 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:35,800 the game and they want to come back when they're down my 20 points to try to win the game. 174 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:40,200 And my friends please do not fall for that garbage lie that you have all the time in 175 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:41,480 the world as a young person. 176 00:11:41,480 --> 00:11:49,320 I recently turned 25 and I feel like I should be so much farther along in my life than I 177 00:11:49,320 --> 00:11:51,760 am right now, so much farther. 178 00:11:51,760 --> 00:11:52,760 But you know what? 179 00:11:52,760 --> 00:11:53,760 I'm not. 180 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:54,760 So guess what? 181 00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:56,000 I got to work harder. 182 00:11:56,000 --> 00:11:58,720 I got to make more sacrifices, not less. 183 00:11:58,720 --> 00:12:02,200 I got to risk more, not less. 184 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:07,080 Does it make me a more, does it make me at a higher potential of really, you know, going 185 00:12:07,080 --> 00:12:13,280 down farther of course, but guess what? I also have a higher chance of going up, not just 186 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:14,280 down. 187 00:12:14,280 --> 00:12:18,640 And that is what separates me from people who don't want to take risks. 188 00:12:18,640 --> 00:12:20,400 They don't want to risk in losing. 189 00:12:20,400 --> 00:12:24,480 They don't want to potentially, you know, not have something or go without. 190 00:12:24,480 --> 00:12:27,880 You must go without to get something that you want. 191 00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:31,040 That is part of the bargain. 192 00:12:31,040 --> 00:12:36,080 And my friends, I understand what it's like to be suffering, to understand what it's 193 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:40,160 like to feel like you are alone in the universe and only you are struggling. 194 00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:42,760 Only you are the one who's going through hard times. 195 00:12:42,760 --> 00:12:46,280 You're the only person who feels unhappy and like you just can't catch a break. 196 00:12:46,280 --> 00:12:47,840 I know what it's like. 197 00:12:47,840 --> 00:12:48,840 I'm here. 198 00:12:48,840 --> 00:12:54,960 I'm living it right now as I sit in this car and I make and I'm talking to you on whatever 199 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:57,000 device you're receiving the show from. 200 00:12:57,000 --> 00:12:58,320 I know what it's like. 201 00:12:58,320 --> 00:12:59,320 I've been here. 202 00:12:59,320 --> 00:13:04,760 I'm currently here and I will continue to be here as time goes on because that is what 203 00:13:04,760 --> 00:13:06,040 I've chosen. 204 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:07,040 What have you chosen? 205 00:13:07,040 --> 00:13:08,960 What have you chosen to be? 206 00:13:08,960 --> 00:13:10,560 Where are you choosing to go? 207 00:13:10,560 --> 00:13:12,600 What sacrifices are you choosing to make? 208 00:13:12,600 --> 00:13:17,160 These are all important realities that you cannot ignore. 209 00:13:17,160 --> 00:13:19,000 My friends, I got to go eat dinner. 210 00:13:19,000 --> 00:13:22,200 I'm not how much to eat today because I've been working all day. 211 00:13:22,200 --> 00:13:24,160 So I'm going to let, I'm going to leave it be. 212 00:13:24,160 --> 00:13:25,160 You take care of yourselves. 213 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:26,160 I'm out of here. 214 00:13:26,160 --> 00:13:27,160 Take care.