Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheepkitshire podcast.
I'm your host, Austin Creed.
My friends, we're going to talk about the conversation of younger women versus older
women today.
Raise it being that there are some of us men in this community who are not fully in on
going your own way forever.
They maybe believe in monk mode, which is important.
They believe in having relationships selectively, which, you know, it's interesting to even
have that discussion because, you know, my friends, I want to be totally honest with
you.
I'm in a very interesting situation myself in that I move around a lot with the jobs
I've done over the last couple of years and moving around in parts of the country.
And it's hard for me to have a consistent relationship in the same way that a lot of
dudes who, for example, let's say you can't get a girlfriend, you're not going to fully
understand why guys like me and guys on the side of the Internet, we talk about not having
a girlfriend, not having a wife, not having these things.
The reason is not because we want you to suffer.
The reason is not because we want to flex that we get girls and you don't or anything
else like that.
That is goofy.
It's stupid.
The reason is because relationships are not what they once were.
If you look at the ghost of Chris past, you look at the world out used to be.
And when you look at how the world used to be, the world that was a lot simpler back
in the day, the world was men ran things, women followed.
And of course, I'm very oversimplifying.
But when we look at the modern world, modern world is we're living in a reactionary period.
But even in history, we look guys like Benjamin Franklin, who allegedly, and I put allegedly,
you allegedly said that a younger guy should be with an older woman because they tended
to have more sex and because they were, you know, you had lower standards as a guy and
you had to kind of just take what you can get.
And of course, I'm paraphrasing him.
I'm not quoting him exactly, but that's what he's talking about allegedly.
And when I look at a quote like that, I say, you know what's funny?
He's not totally wrong.
In the sense that you look at the fact that a lot of older women are now talking about
how they're dating 19 year olds, 20 year olds, 21 year olds, and they're like 40, 50.
Now this is, this is nothing new.
This has been going on forever.
But when we get into the conversation of guys doing it, like guys are 40, 50, 60, and they're
dating a woman who's 20, all of a sudden, oh my gosh, she's a pervert.
He's no good.
He's creepy.
He's weird.
Blah, blah, blah.
And I see it even in my own, I see it sometimes even in my own profession.
Now, am I sitting here and telling you you should do this?
No, am I telling you that it's the right thing to do?
No, I'm telling you that it's legal.
Number one, let's get that straight.
And number two, it's a lot of times more normal than you think.
We put it to you in perspective.
When we talk about older guys, that usually means guys who are five to 10 years older
than the woman they're dating or older woman, women's five to 10 years older.
Men, naturally, we take time to accumulate resources.
We take time to build ourselves in our industry, build ourselves with our lifestyle and build
ourselves in a way where people respect us.
Okay.
Now, people want us to say that, oh, it's you should get married in college or you should
date someone that's the same age as you.
Or I think the normies say, what is it?
Your age divided by two plus seven, I think is what most people say.
Now, the reason I don't subscribe to that is number one, I'm kind of on the younger
side, so it doesn't really affect me yet.
And number two, if it's legal, as in, if it is legal to do in your country, if it is
legal to do in your state, if you live in America, then it's nobody's business.
Number one, and number two, a lot of times as a guy, you're not going to hit your stride
till you're in your 40s.
Sometimes your 50s, sometimes beyond that.
So why the hell would you bust your behind work your absolute hard out just to get something
that you don't really want?
Why in the world would you go out there sacrifice, risk, eat plates of crap day in and day out
from the from the boss, work hard at the gym, take risks in your career and your personal
life?
Why would you do all those things?
But there wasn't a reward for doing it.
That's one of the reasons why I hate socialism and communism, because there are systems of
government that subsidize people's own sloth and enables them to make money and make a
living out of other people's work.
Now it's one thing if you set up a business to run autonomously, that is not at all the
same thing.
But when you have systems of government that allow you to just sit back as a gender and
make as much money as a doctor or a lawyer or whatever, that's not going to work.
That's not sustainable.
In the same way that guys will risk, they'll take a ton of risk.
They'll take oftentimes a lot of L's on their way to building themselves, their brand, their
image, their reputation.
And then they want their expected when they hit 35 or 40 to get with a woman who is 35
or 40, who when he was 20 years old, when he was 18 years old, was telling him that
he wasn't good enough, he was garbage, he was dusty, he was broke, he was no good.
He now has to wipe up that woman.
Oh I don't think so.
Oh hell no.
Why in the world would you do that?
Why?
Why should that person who didn't build with you, who didn't invest in you, who didn't
take a chance on you, why in the world should that person eat the fruits of your labor?
Why should those people be rewarded for being pieces of garbage?
Why should they be rewarded for betting against you?
Now this is just one of the ways you can look at this conversation.
The other way you can look at this conversation is to say men especially are naturally attracted
to women who are fertile, who are pleasant, who don't have a lot of baggage and all these
things are normal.
In fact back in the day they were very mainstream across multiple different patriarchal cultures.
But the problem is today with all the pseudo psychology, all of the mad scientists out
there, all the Dr. Frankensteins, they want to come out of the woodwork and they want
to say hey you know what, your brain doesn't develop till 25 so therefore if you're 25
you're a kid.
Well first of all, screw you, I'm not a child, I'm 24, I'm not a kid.
I've served in the military as an adult, I've paid taxes as an adult, I work really hard
and I don't want to sit here and people tell me oh you're a kid.
Like hell I am.
No I'm not and in fact what it does is it makes a lot of young men lose out and young
women as well but I will speak from a young male perspective on this and it basically
enables you to be a leech, to be a mooch, to be a sloth instead of taking risks and
taking advantage of called power interest when you're younger.
Instead of saying hey you're 18 or you're 16, you've hit puberty, you're starting to
become an adult by animal standards, you should start acting like one.
No that doesn't mean you're not going to make mistakes, that doesn't mean you're not
going to do stupid things here and there and learn in the school of hard knocks and get
your degree.
No, that's part of the game.
For example, I took one wrong turn here in Kansas and now I'm driving an extra hour
to get home.
Now I could sit here and talk about how that's not fair and this, that and the other or I
could just do it.
In the same way there are a lot of people or I don't want to put in hard work, I don't
want to take eat plates of garbage, I don't want to do those things, I want to just win.
I want to look at the guy who's been grinding for 15 years, oh I want to have his life with
a nice house and the car and all the stuff that he didn't have when he was starting
out the same way that you're starting out.
But you see, you might ask Austin, what does this have to do with dating younger women?
Everything.
Because when a guy risks, when a guy puts his heart and soul and everybody around him
is either a, not interested or be telling him he's not going to do it or to be careful
or he might fail, whatever.
And then he doesn't or he fails and he fails and he fails, then eventually he wins.
Takes one huge win to make all your losses worth it.
Never forget that.
And eventually you start to win and when you start to win, the people suddenly feel like
oh now that you're winning, let me tell you what to do with your winnings.
Here are some rules you need to follow.
You can't enjoy yourself too much.
You got to enjoy yourself the way we want you to enjoy yourself, they say.
No, I don't believe in doing that.
Why?
Why in the world would a person be interested in doing that?
That's my question.
Maybe you can answer that in the comments.
To me it's the equivalent of socialism and communism because if you're told as a doctor
or a lawyer that you're going to make the same amount of money as a guy who doesn't
go to college, doesn't take all those student loans out, doesn't put in all this extra work
and sacrifice and heartache and bullshit and all this, why would you go through all that
struggle if you're not going to gain from it?
It's not going to benefit you tangibly.
And the way you want it to, why would you do it?
Is there maybe one or two out of a hundred altruists out in the world somewhere?
But even if they made complete pennies on the dollar, they'd still go to medical school.
They'd still take out all those loans, those long nights, take all those hard tests and
all that.
Sure, I'm sure there is.
But most people wouldn't.
And they shouldn't be expected to do that.
The same way, why should a man strive for greatness if he's going to be expected to
just accept mediocrity as his reward?
And I'll be real with you, as a guy right now who's talking to a girl who's 19, as
a 24 year old man, I understand guys who are 35, 45, 55 and why they are doing what they're
doing if they choose to do this.
I understand it now in a way that I didn't when I was 19, when I was 20, I didn't get
it.
I thought, hey, these dudes are tricks.
You know, they're cheating.
They can't do this.
This isn't fair.
You know, all the girls are weird for liking these guys.
It's gross.
No, it's not gross.
It's normal.
It's how life works.
The women want security, they want guys have respect, have resources who have things in
life.
They want to go out on they want to go out and have fun.
They want to go into the cool restaurant and just open.
They want to go to the nice VIP section at the club.
They don't want to bum it with you.
Will they do it if they have to?
Yes.
Are they going to do it if they have the option not to?
No.
They're not going to do it and they shouldn't.
Why should they?
If they don't why would you would you take the hard road if you didn't have to?
Probably not.
Right.
Yeah.
Women are humans just like you.
I know that might shock you.
But women are humans just like you.
So when they don't want to take the hard road, if they don't have to, don't be surprised
when if you do the same thing and going back to the why I think younger women, they're
not going to always be better in every circumstance.
God knows that my generation of Gen Z, why these people are absolutely entitled, intolerable
and a headache to deal with.
I can tell you that point blank period.
However, I can also tell you that when you're dealing with there's less baggage.
No.
Is their baggage?
Yes.
Is there less baggage?
Also yes.
Because the older people get, the more bad experiences, the more trauma, the more headiness
and BS they're going to have is part of life.
I have more baggage than I did when I was 19.
I'm 24, can you imagine what women are like when they're 30?
Women live life a lot faster than men do, by the way, to the 90th percentile.
If not more women live a totally different existence than you do as a man.
They are learning about stuff in their teens that you're learning about in your 20s and
they're learning stuff in their 20s that you're going to learn your 30s and 40s.
Not because you're stupid as a guy, but because you're not at the VIP at the bar.
You're not getting celebrities hitting up your DMs, promising you all this, that and
the other thing.
You're not dealing with that.
Men don't deal with that.
Women do.
So when you're talking to a woman who's younger, are they going to have some trauma?
Yeah, high school boyfriend, maybe first adult boyfriend, maybe a sugar daddy, whatever.
Versus I got divorced or I have a kid by another man or I've been dating in these streets for
four years and I've not had a relationship, basically being on the carousel for four years.
Guys, these are real realities out here.
You act like I'm making this up.
I'm not making this up.
I'm in these streets right now.
I understand it.
I'm shuckling, jiving through these streets, trying to dodge the hoes, hurl over the nightmares,
get, you know, avoid the allegations, all this stuff.
Another year to tell you the best way to operate is just to be upfront like I am on this show.
To tell people the real and if they don't like it, tell them to kick rocks.
You're not in business to be liked.
You are not doing what you're doing in life to be liked.
Now, does that mean you're going out of your way to be annoying?
No.
But does that mean you're going to sit there and take people's garbage?
No.
Why would you?
Why would you sit there and accept something you don't want?
Why would you do that?
Because all you're doing is lowering your standards to quote the women's lingo.
What you're also doing is you're telling yourself that that's what you should want.
That's what you deserve.
That's what you've earned is garbage.
You are not garbage, especially not if you actually want to better yourself.
If you want to become somebody and you're working towards it every day, you are not garbage.
Let me repeat that in case you missed it.
You're not garbage.
You're on a journey.
You are trying to make yourself better.
So when we talk about younger women being better than older women, if you're actually trying
to build anything, even if you're trying to enjoy your turn more, you're going to do it
with younger women more than older women.
I've dealt with older women.
I dealt with a woman who was in her fifties once last not my last year, senior year college
in Scottsdale, Arizona.
I dealt with a woman who was in her late fifties who had just gone through her second divorce.
I didn't date her seriously, but we were kind of like friends with benefits.
We hooked up a couple of times.
And let me tell you, she had all kinds of drama.
She talked about how her kid was younger.
Her kid was older than me.
And oh, yeah.
Oh, yeah.
Lot of baggage going on with ex-husband number one, ex-husband number two, you know, having
expectations for me as a guy, even though I was like a third of her age, almost like
a third of her age, you know, like, guys, you think that it's just do it out.
You're doing this stuff.
You are sadly mistaken.
In fact, women are literally making content about snow.
Trying to normalize this.
For God's sake, so I need to bring up the fact that a lot of the predators in the schools
right now are the teachers who are in my age demographic, who are women going after high
school guys.
I mean, do I need to bring that up?
I'll bring that up.
Gentlemen, this is not just a guy thing, but it's important for us to understand why certain
state, why certain saying stereotypes, slogans exist in the space of younger women are better
or that we don't do committed relationships or no long term commitment, etc.
The reason we do that is because we want to protect ourselves.
We want to be able to give ourselves a best chance to get what we want out of life.
Now it's going to look different depending on who you are.
This is unavoidable fact.
But just remember, you should not accept something less than what you actually want.
Because when you do that, you're disrespecting yourself.
You are telling yourself that you worked hard, hard grueling hours for something that you
don't even want, that you don't even like.
And guess what?
Is that going to motivate you to get to the next level?
No, no, it's not.
It's going to make you think, yeah, I've done enough.
Yeah, I'll kind of just coast.
I'll need to push myself in the order versus when you're redlining it and you see the finish
line, you see the refreshments, you see the girls, you see the money, you see the freedom
that's that's there.
That's going to push you to go that extra mile.
And all of this can be tied back to the fact that when men grind for 20 years, 30 years,
they want something to show for their hard work.
And they don't want to just accept something they don't want.
When a guy's out his way up, he doesn't want to pair up with a woman who's on her way down.
Men don't want that.
But yet a lot of men are ashamed and taking that very deal.
Some of you are probably listening to the show right now.
And I don't say that to make you feel bad.
I don't say that to make you feel guilty.
No, I said that because I want you to liberate yourself.
Save yourself from feeling like you are powerless, like, oh, I don't have a voice.
It's over for me.
No, it's never over.
It's not over while you're breathing, sir.
It's never over.
Just remember who you are.
Remember what you set out to be.
And if you don't have that, then you can build it today.
If you don't have a vision for your life, you don't have a purpose that you want to be working
towards.
That's OK.
But there's a way we can fix that.
There's a way for you to be a man who you never thought you could have become.
Now have the option.
Now you have the opportunity because now you've decided to not be a normie.
You've decided that you want to be someone better than you are right now.
And that is respectable.
My friends, I think I'm going to leave it there because at the end of the day, we
need to be honest with ourselves.
It's very easy for us to just believe what we want to believe, to not test the theories
that we hold dear.
It's very easy to do that.
But it's time that we did better.
My friends, take care of yourselves.
I'm out of here.
Peace out.