Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheepkitsheared podcast of your host Austin Creed, my friends.
I'm in the middle of my work day, actually, but I really wanted to get this show out today
because I haven't been able to do as much content for y'all as I normally do.
And it's honestly been eating away at me a little bit.
I really enjoy doing it, as I can tell some of you who really love the show love to listen
to it, which I'm thankful for by the way.
One thing that I really want to talk about today was I was at my best friend's wedding
last weekend.
It was a great ceremony, really well done, but as I was shitting there, me being the
cynical guy that I am, I couldn't help but have some thoughts.
And obviously I'm not going to tell my bro who's getting married, my cynical thoughts.
Number one, he doesn't want to hear it.
And number two, he's trying to have a great day considering that I literally saw the legal
paperwork being done because I was one of the groomsmen.
I saw the legal paperwork being signed in the back room.
That was an experience because I'd never seen it actually done before where they have two
witnesses sign the paper, then they sign the paper, then they initial here and they dot
the T's there and they cross the I's.
You know, you get what I'm talking about.
They dot the I's, cross the T's, put the date on there.
They sign everything and make a look official, all that type of shit.
You know what's crazy to me?
Nobody wants to talk about how the guy is risking everything on that relationship.
You know, I'm sitting there on the table and they're saying their vows, they're saying
like the family members, the maid of honor, the groomsmen, like it's all great.
I'm not talking about people personally.
I'm talking about the institution.
I'm talking about how a lot of dudes, they port everything they have into this shit.
They do everything they can to make this day unforgettable.
And then unfortunately, a lot of times, that's exactly what it becomes because then they
may get the divorce and 80% of the time, it's the woman who files a divorce.
Before they wouldn't even admit that that was the truth.
Now they'll admit it, but then say that it's not their fault.
You gotta love that part.
But my friends, the reason I bring this up is not because you haven't heard it before
because odds are you have, the reason I bring it up is because a lot of people who are skeptical,
maybe a little skeptical like me, but they still want to get married.
They still want to have a committed relationship.
They are not ready to fully walk off the plantation.
The political plantations that's set up by the rubber barons of last of yesteryear being
continued by the tech pirates of today, nobody wants to completely walk off that plantation.
It's a very, very rare exception.
People don't want to fully walk off the plantation.
They'll try to negotiate.
They'll go through all the stages of grief.
They'll say, hey, you know what?
Maybe if I negotiate here, or maybe if I strike a bargain there, or I accept certain things
over here, or I deny this because I don't like how the guy said it, or I don't like
what he said.
So therefore I disagree with it.
The fact that has no regard on how valid the statement is, they'll ignore it because there
are stages of grief when people are exposed to the truth in the same way that I'm going
through the stages of grief because my grandfather just died.
Except I've been through this once or twice.
And so for me, I know where I'm going through the stages of grief.
I know how to handle it to an extent because I've dealt with loss my entire life.
So I know how to deal with it a little bit better.
But when it comes to the truth, when it comes to your worldview, people don't want to give
it up.
They don't want to say, you know what?
You know, Austin, I see what you're saying with marriage not really benefiting me as
a man, but you know, if only I do X, Y, or Z, I can make it work.
Or if only I find the right woman, I can make it work.
How will give be these excuses in real life?
Oh yeah, we'll give it to me on the internet.
We'll give them probably to you in your in your life as well.
And my friends, I'm not going to sit here and tell you, oh, just listen to me, everything
will work out.
Hey, if it working out for me, that's far.
Let me tell you.
But number two, I don't expect people to want to walk off the plantation that's been built
for them by the politicians and by the billionaire class.
They want to sit there and they want it.
They want to soak in the lies.
They want to soak in the propaganda that's pushed on them.
And you might ask yourself, why?
Why is it that I guys like me on the side of the internet, we say that guys finish last.
We say that you shouldn't invest in women.
We say you shouldn't be long term relationships.
You don't know why we say these things.
We don't say them because they're easy.
We don't say them because they make us feel good.
We say it because it must be done if you want to walk off the plantation.
You know, in days gone by, there was actual slavery in this country, in America.
There was.
Now there isn't that defining line between who is a slave and who is a free man.
There used to be a very clear distinction on who was a slave and who was a free man.
Now, I am not here to tell you that slavery should come back because it already is here.
Oh yeah, you're not walking around in chains.
You're walking around with debt.
They don't have physical chains on you and you're not calling people a massa.
You have debt over your heads and you're calling people boss.
Oh, I'm sorry that I offend you with that direct comparison.
I don't give a damn because unless you could sit there and call me a liar, you missed the
point.
The point of the matter is it's easy to see things when people put it in frappe perspective.
You might find the style of speech abrasive.
You might find it offensive.
You might say, Austin, I cannot stand how you say things because it triggers me.
Good.
Good because guess what?
That's how I woke up.
You think I woke up by people sitting me down and saying, now Austin, I'm going to sit here
and I want to tell you about the different unfortunate realities of the world that I'm
going to say to a nice, calm, soothing voice.
It's very likely to put you to sleep.
Of course they didn't.
A lot of people are not, but they're not put up on game.
What they do is they go through life with the faulty manual given to them by the corporate
overlords and then they try it time and time again until they realize, wait a minute, something's
not working and then they're told it's their fault.
You're not doing it right.
You're not hitting it right.
You're not doing it the way it's supposed to be done and they'll buy that initially
because they can't accept the fact that they've been lied to.
They can't accept the fact that they've been deceived.
So instead they'll say, hey, must be me.
I'm the common denominator.
It must be me.
When they're only half right, it's their belief system.
If that belief system changed, if it adapted, I think it was Patrick O'Neill.
I think that's the guy who said that men are 5,000 years behind peace leave.
Shout out to Coach Greg Adams.
He said that men were 5,000 years behind peace leave.
Let me tell you something.
Men are behind the curve on when it comes to relationship dynamics.
Not because we're inherently stupid, but because a lot of men that we want to believe in romance,
that women love us for who we are and not what we provide.
We want to believe these things because they make us feel good and make us feel valuable.
Instead of saying, you know what, I could find myself a maid.
I could find myself a cook.
I could find myself a personal assistant.
I could find myself a sugar baby.
I can get all of these things with money to save me time.
They'll say, no, I'll get a wife and I'll try to convince her to do all these things,
pay her more money to do less and have to nag her, how to convince her, bribe her, give
her an allowance, all these things while paying her car, paying her insurance, paying
her half the mortgage, doing all these things.
Why?
Usually in the name of because it's the quote unquote right thing to do.
Tell me I'm lying.
Hey, gentlemen, if you think I'm lying or I'm out of pocket or I'm out of line, go
in the comments, tell me I'm out of line.
Tell me that I'm out here lying to you because the unsubscribe button, the block button, the
report button, it's right there.
You think I'm lying to you?
You can go ahead.
See, this is the problem.
Too many men, they just don't like the style and how it's said and then they choose to
ignore it instead of saying, you know what, he has validity in what he's saying.
His points make sense.
I just might have said it differently, but what he is saying holds weight.
What he's saying is true.
What he's saying rings with me.
It's sticking around in my head and I can't get it out.
I don't want to believe it.
I don't want to think it's true, but it is.
My friends, do you see right there?
That is the sign of personal growth because you're understanding that it just because
I don't like something or do like something should have nothing to do with whether you
believe it or don't believe it.
Now I'm not going to sit here and pretend like I am not also someone actively attempting
to overcome this reality.
But what I will tell you is there is a there are levels to this.
There are different grades to this because once you start to accept the unfortunate realities
of the world you live in, you will start to view the world differently.
You will see and operate your life in a different way that is unrecognizable to the average
normie who goes around like an MPC.
Not an AI.
AI is too smart for doing that.
I thought an NPC like you'd find in a video game like Elden Ring, Skyrim, Batman, you
name it.
That's the kind of stuff we're talking about, these people who they don't think for themselves.
They don't want to have a brain because they're going to have somebody broadcasting their
views and they don't want to think for themselves because that requires work.
That requires saying wait a minute, I could actually be wrong here.
I'm going to have to deal with conflict.
Conflict?
Oh hell no.
Guys, this is why I say nice guys finish last.
This is why I say that husbands are getting hustled out here and the reason is because
you are not being told there are alternatives.
In your father and grandfather's generation, this was commonplace for you to be married,
whether you were a stepdad, a biological father, you were expected to be a father, to have a
wife.
You were expected to do these things.
Today you don't have to, you are free.
But people want to go back to those old days.
They want to bring the old days back, not having any knowledge of history as to what
that entails, what they have to sacrifice, and what comes along in the fine print.
They want women to be traditional, not realizing that it's not as glorified, it's not as good
as they think it is number one.
And number two it means that they have to be traditional as well.
You'd be shocked by the level of bullshit I hear on the internet of people saying, oh
yeah you gotta get yourself a ride or die, wanted a billion duck chick, but then you can
go cheat on her and have her hose on the side and I'm like, what year is this?
What kind of advice is this?
This is the stupidest shit I've ever heard in my life.
So after you find the so called magical unicorn that doesn't even exist, we'll say hypothetically
you find it and then you're supposed to cheat on her with other chicks?
Uh, no.
No, sorry.
No man, that's not traditional, that's not how that works.
Look, the reason I'm saying that husbands are being awful is because I wish that marriage
was different.
Now, frankly I do.
But guess what?
It's not.
Does that mean it's impossible to have a good marriage?
No, it's not impossible.
But it's not gonna be free, that's for damn sure.
And number two, it's going to require everything and you're paying more to get less.
Now if you're already married, make that work because you're already stuck in a, you're
stuck, well stuck sounds bad.
You're in a relationship, making work as much as you can.
But if you are not married and you're listening to the show, you do not have to get married.
The days of that are long gone.
Like I said, you can get a maid, you can get a cook, you can get a personal assistant, you
can get a sugar baby, you can do all these things and they will gladly go over and help
you instead of having to deal with attitude, deal with BS, deal with her looking, you know,
not putting as much effort as she might go into girls' nights out.
You don't have to deal with that shit.
You don't have to.
But people will still volunteer for because that's what the normies are doing and they
want to fit in.
Fitting in is stupid.
You want to be like Mr. Average Eddie, but then make boo-boo bucks, you want to be like
Warren Buffet?
Yeah, sorry man.
No, I ain't going to happen.
That's not how it works.
You have to make sacrifices to get where you want to go.
You don't just show up at the finish line.
You got to run the race and you got to be willing to make sacrifices.
Hopefully it's coming through okay by the way because I'm on the road and I have no idea
how this sounds as I'm talking.
But my friends, this is a subject matter that a lot of men who have been divorced, they'll
tell you, but the men who are actively in a marriage, whether it's succeeding or failing,
they won't tell you how hard it is.
They won't tell you how difficult it is, how much they've given, and how little they've
gotten in return.
They won't tell you that.
Why?
Because it doesn't go with the program.
It doesn't fit with the narrative that people push about marriage, that it's all good and
you get this happily ever after more or less like you see at the end of every Disney movie.
And the answer is no, you don't.
But it's still sold that way because people want you to believe in the fantasy and they
want to keep this imaginary image of marriage working and it doesn't work.
Not for a lot of people.
The divorce rate has never been higher.
And a lot of people are unhappy with the system.
And a lot of the men, they don't say a damn thing because they don't want to be ostracized.
They don't want to lose their job.
They don't want people to think less of them.
So they won't say it.
So I'll say it for them.
And a lot of other guys on the side of the internet will tell you the same thing.
Not because we're bitter or hurt, but because we are not blind.
We see it for what it is.
A fraud.
My friends, let me know how you've been hustling your marriage.
Or maybe you want to flip the script and tell me, oh, it's worked for you and what sacrifices
you've made to make it work.
I'm up with for that conversation, but don't sit up here and tell me that it's all rainbows
and unicorns and pots of gold at the end of it.
Don't tell me that because we all know that's rubbish.
You got to be out here and put in a lot of work, a lot of compromise, and even then you're
not guaranteed a return.
We need to tell accurate stories here, not just ones that fit with my narrative, the
narrative, or anyone else's.
We need to have a dialogue on this from multiple different viewpoints.
My friends, let me know how marriage has impacted you, whether it was your marriage, your parents'
marriage, your grandparents' marriage, your friends' marriage.
Let me know.
I'd love to hear about it and you might save a guy's life who was thinking about getting
married and he decides, you know what, it's not as good as deal as I was told it was.
I'm going to re-evaluate my options.
I could save his life and you could be a part of that.
My friends, you take care of yourselves.
I'm getting close to my job sites so I got a role.
Well, I want to start doing this more frequently every day like I used to because this is important
to me and I know it's important to some of you as well.
You really love the show.
My friends, you take care of yourselves.
I'm out of here.
Thanks.