Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheepkits Sheared podcast. I'm your host, Austin Creed.
My friends, life is difficult, man. I know leading off with that probably depresses a
lot of you and trust me, it's not my intention to depress you. Life is depressing enough
as it is in my estimation. But the reason I say that is because today we're going to
discuss the importance of vetting women. As a guy who's going through a change in
my own life, change of profession, change of environment, change of area, meeting new
people, all this type of stuff. With all the change being cultivated in my life, it's
only reinforced to me the importance of sticking to your principles. And if you don't have
principles to put forth, the part of the reason why as men, I think it's important for us
to have our own sense of morality, our own guiding principles is because the world around
us will always change. Opportunities may come, opposition may present itself. And it's
important for us as men to not just be blown around like a plastic bag in the wind. We
need to plant ourselves like a tree and weather the storms of life. Now, while trees might
be constricted to where they are, you know, unless you're talking about Narnia trees,
you know, like the one you'll never see Narnia, I recommend you see it. Fantastic series by
CS Lewis, who wrote a lot about similar stuff with Christianity, which I thought was interesting.
No one's or if anyone's already like screwtape ladders or mere Christianity, good stuff,
really good stuff. But I really liked his fiction when I was growing up is fiction of
Narnia and whatnot. Fantastic stuff. Anyways, we're getting off topic. Can't get off topic.
It's too early in the show. We got to talk about women, right? Because that's what you
guys want to learn about, right? What I want to learn about for a long time. When to learn
about chicks, I want to learn how to get them, how to, you know, keep them sometimes how
to get rid of them, if you know what I'm saying. But that's why we have to have this conversation
about vetting women. Because just in the same way that you might vet dudes who come into
your life, whether it's for business, whether it's to be your friend, whether it's to,
you know, be your basketball buddy you play on with on the weekends or once a week, or
do homies you go to the gym with, all these things might seem like they're different,
but they're actually not. We just think about them differently. When it comes to women,
a lot of us dudes, we want to have sex with women. That's part of the game. The same thing
as eating, sleeping, taking it, you know, taking a dump. It's the same thing, stuff that we
naturally want, naturally want to do. And so vetting is important. We need to just we
need to distinguish between quote to trust, who not to trust, and where they fit in our
lives if they should even fit in our lives at all. And the reason a lot of people don't
do this is because it takes time and you risk potentially not getting what you want in that
moment. A lot of people, myself included for a very long time, it's all about the moment,
man. In that moment, I wanted to get late. In that moment, I didn't notice how crazy
she was, or that she had tons of tattoos, or maybe that she was a single mom, or maybe
that just she just something was off. You could never really put your finger on it,
but you're like, eh, you know what, I'm going to go in anyway. And then when you come to
your senses pun intended, suddenly you realize, dang, this woman's kind of crazy, or, Hey,
you know what, this woman doesn't really is not conducive to life I want to build for
myself. But yet, I let the monkey take over. I make this distinction in a book that I'm
working on right now called the man and the monkey, where you can separate yourself from
there's the biological like animalistic side of your being. And then the other side, which
is more divide, which is a spirit, something that's more than just a beast in a field.
And some animals, you can actually see this in some like dogs, for example, some dogs
are actually almost like a spirit guide level because they're just they seem more insightful
and other dogs, they're content to just chase a tire down the down the road. So everybody
has a spectrum that they operate on. And one of the spectrums that people tend to overlook
is the vetting spectrum of women because people we as men, we like the physical, we want to
jump right in. We don't want to vet women and almost like a job interview because make
no mistake. You might think that all I'm not hiring this person. So therefore, there's
no reason for me to do a background check. There's no reason for me to do my due diligence
trying to really go down that extra mile and make sure this person is who they say they
are and is who they appear to be. Anybody ever heard of the halo effect? The halo effect
is something that I'm fascinated by. I did a paper rod in college. Halo effect is this
idea that good looks or lack thereof. Immediately, we start to assume that if you look good,
you must have a good personality or good characteristics. Conversely, if you're ugly, people assume
that oh, you must there must be something wrong with you or defective or faulty or you
must be a bad person or at the very least, you find them distasteful. And you assume
that they're not as good people. You want to like people who are attractive. So therefore,
you find ways to like them. And the opposite is also true and vice versa. We need to understand
this fact because if we don't, it prevents us from properly vetting people. For example,
men, let's be honest, okay, ladies, I'm sure you all will be more than happy to jump on
this because it's going to benefit you probably. But a lot of dudes, we tend to just go in
for the we tend to go for the panties real quick, for lack of a better term. We would
like to just go for it and make no mistake, women leverage this women are not victims
in this regard. They actively as soon as they hit the age of like, I don't know, 131415,
they quickly start to figure out, hey, dudes are looking at me differently. Hey, I can
use this to my advantage. And this is why you have to vet people. This is why you need
to understand that everybody has their own agenda. And everybody has their own goals,
they're working towards. And some people, they don't know what they're doing, and they're
just agents of chaos. They have no idea what they're doing. But all they know is they don't
like what they're doing right now. They don't know what they want. They just know what they
don't want. You ever met that type? I'm sure you have. Maybe you've even been that
type and there's no shame in being that type. At least for the short term, staying that
way. Oh, that's a different story. But being there, we've all been there at least once
in our lives. And so very Pete, once we vet a woman, it's important for you to assign
them a role. Maybe they're part of the, let me their number on your roster. Maybe they're
a part of your program that you're trying to build as an maybe they're a little more
part of the inner circle, but they earn that. And that's why I don't encourage dudes to
jump into a woman's bed right away. Because guess what guys, once you do that, you've
lost leverage. Once you've done that, she has leverage over you. He will believe anything
that women say for the most part, because they're perceived as being weaker than men
when in fact I'd argue they're in a lot of ways stronger than men. I know a lot of men
might be triggered by that, but I'm not telling you your week. I'm saying that if you look,
take the average ward of a man versus the average ward of a woman, people are going to
believe the woman over the man nine, nine and a half times out of 10. That includes men
and women alike who believe women over men any day of the week. So it's important for
you to know these things to properly vet women. First, number one thing I have some of a very
short list of what you should do to that women that I found out their personal experience.
Number one, do not believe what they say. Look at what they have done. For example, if
you meet a woman, she's like, maybe mid 20s, late 20s, and she's talking about how, Oh,
I want to find my forever person, my friends charming type, you know, the type type that
realizes she's running out of time was around 30 years old and suddenly she gets married
in about a year. Yeah, that type. Trust me, I have family members who have done that.
And I had to hold my tongue, sitting back there looking at the dude whose wife and his
will grow up like you are a dumb motherfucker. You are a stupid man. You big dummy. Anyways,
I'm not here to bash on them. I just feel sorry for them more than anything. And of
course, even if I tell them what's going on or I told them about the past, they're
not going to give a shit because they haven't done their proper vetting and they're too
emotionally invested in plain English. That's what they've gotten to. Number one is do not
believe what they say. Look at what they do. That's number one. Number two, my friends
is determine what you are looking for me personally. I can always speak for myself. I'm sure some
of you will agree with me. But me, I'm not looking to get married. So I'm not looking
for wife material per se. Now, am I looking for a woman who would, for example, say, Hey,
Austin, you know, I like what you're trying to build. I know you were working really hard.
I want to be a part of it. Sure, I'd be tentatively be open to that. But again, we got to go back
to number one, don't just believe what they say. They got to prove it to you time and
time again that they are part of your program. Number three is if you find women like this,
reward them. This might go against what you might hear on the side of the internet. But
I'm going to tell you part of the reason why I have a whole chapter on surrogacy in the
biblical bachelor, which is a book fantastic. It's about a lifestyle that I created that
hopefully you yourself could benefit from finding your own purpose, finding your own
way to live through life with people wanting you to be on one side of the tracks for the
other. I don't believe in choosing sides. I believe in you being on your own team and
going and discovering your own route to that own self be true as Shakespeare once wrote.
But I believe in rewarding people who are good to you. Now, I'm not saying you treat
people who are bad to you like garbage. No, what I'm saying is if somebody is on my team,
someone is actively proven that they are willing to invest in me, I'm going to reward them
for that. I'm going to make sure that they make money that they are rewarded. They earn
something back by investing in me. You're investing in me. I want people to get a return
on their investment in plain English. That's part of investing in women too. Women just
like other people. Women are people guys. Remember that. The last time is we can lose
the force for the trees here. It's important for us to remember that the world turns on
reward and punishment. So if you are around people, first of all, if I don't believe necessarily
in punishment, you go play the games if you want and I've played them and I will probably
continue to play them. But I'm more of a type of look up you are doing what you want, whether
they be men, women, children, dogs. I don't care what they are. Just you don't have to
get angry with them. You don't have to curse them out. Just walk away. Save yourself time.
Save yourself sanity and just leave. When it comes to women, you give them one chance.
Maybe two. I would argue you shouldn't, but you can. But by the third time, cut them off.
That's part of the vetting process is realizing that even if you made it through the first
round of the vetting process, the second round is still there and you're always on probation.
You got to ask yourself a question, Jensen. I've had to ask myself more times than I care
to remember, frankly. And it's what do you want more? Do you want to just have a woman
who's yours? All yours? You want a girl in your life? Is that what you want? Or do you
want to have a higher calling? You want to go out there and you want to make a million
bucks? You want to go out there and be the first AI trillionaire? You want to go out
there and build a business? You want to go out there and build the dream body? What is
it you want, my friends? What? Tell me what you want. Because that's what it's going
to come down to. When you're vetting women and it's never going to stop, life will change.
Your circumstances will change by natural circumstances will change. All that's going
to change. You have to be the constant. You have to stick to your guns and not let your
fluctuating hormones, not let your own weakness compromise you. Test people because they have
to earn first getting in your life and then to staying in your life. This is all part
of growing up that I've learned, man. And I know some of you are older and you know
this probably better than I do. But it's important to be reminded of the obstacles
that we all face that we're not alone if we are struggling with the people in our
lives or we're struggling with keeping up with people in our lives or dealing with
drama. I'm dealing with ton of bullshit drama right now where I'm working out right now
and a lot of it could be avoided. But it's what reminded me that we got to vet the people
in our lives, especially the women in our lives because when it comes to business,
when we make business and pleasure, which is what love and romance is, make no mistake.
That's a mixing of business and pleasure. It can get messy. You ever wondered where
the saying all is there in love and war comes from? It's kind of an oxymoron statement because
love and war are two sides of the same coin. They're basically the same thing. You just
see them as being different. So therefore you believe them to be different. No, it's
the same thing is different, different forms of the same thing.
My friends, when it comes to vetting women, it's important that we understand what we're
looking for. What we're looking for and what we roll, we want them to assign. You got to
act like the CEO of your own life, which you are. Because you don't have an LLC or an
S court or a C court registered in your name to your life doesn't necessarily does not
mean you shouldn't follow the same principles. Now, putting people on payroll, I mean, you
can decide whether you want to do that or not. But the general principle, the idea, the
philosophy should not waiver. It should stay. We need to understand my friends and like,
I keep saying that because I really want to drive this home. It's too easy for us to
get caught up in the day to day, get caught up in our feelings. And then the facts tend
to escape us or the warning signs or the cautions. We tend to just run those yellow lights, hoping
they don't turn red. But then we end up getting caught. I'm usually at the worst time. And
never forget that there is no such thing as free when you're vetting women. If anything
seems free, you need to run because free upfront is the biggest expense in the back end. What
I mean, paying upfront, I don't mean giving them money necessarily. What I mean is, you
need to understand, hey, this is what I'm sacrificing. I'm giving my time. I'm giving
my energy. I'm giving attention. Maybe I'm giving money in the form of a date or drinks
or whatever. But just be careful. Because when you don't properly vet women, it can come
back and bite you in the behind. Aftercare is another important aspect that we can get
into at another time. When you do have, you know, when you do get intimate with a woman,
it's important to treat them well afterwards because that's when we get the the me to stuff
in really conversation is when they don't they don't feel good afterwards. And then they
feel like things were equally feel like I take advantage of when everything was totally
cool in the moment and beforehand. And then all of a sudden it wasn't we got to be careful
with that. That's what aftercare is for. My friends, I think I will stop here with this
episode. I got to get out of here pretty soon. I have a meeting to get to. Oh, man, I tell
you, life is tough, man. And that's why it comes to your personal life. You want to make
it as seamless as possible. Because on your road to the top, on your road to becoming
more successful, more wealthy, etc. It's easy to get distracted by personal things like
that can prevent you from hitting that compound interest in your life. It's important for
us to stay on track, operate properly. And remember that as men, we need to not let it
affect us. Maybe we don't have a ton of women or a ton of friends or whatever in our lives.
We don't need a ton of people like that in our life. We need a couple of you who have
proven themselves to be worthy. That's what we should focus on. My friends, I'll leave
it at that. Vending women is extremely tedious and it's tough, but it will be worth it in
the long run when you avoid being another statistic or avoid it in allegation, or you will avoid
putting yourself in a position where you're compromised. I like the word compromise. Compromised
in the military, I learned something you never want to be comma yet people push it today
like it's something that's virtuous. I disagree. Anyways, my friends, you take care of yourselves.
Ask these hard questions. Let me know if you have more things you want to add to the list
that you thought maybe I could my mist or could have added. I'd love to hear it. Let
me know how you vet women and what your process is. If you have one, if you don't have one,
no problem. But it's time we rectified that. My friends, take care. I'm out of here. Peace.