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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheepkits Sheared podcast. I'm your host, Austin Creed.

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My friends, life is difficult, man. I know leading off with that probably depresses a

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lot of you and trust me, it's not my intention to depress you. Life is depressing enough

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as it is in my estimation. But the reason I say that is because today we're going to

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discuss the importance of vetting women. As a guy who's going through a change in

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my own life, change of profession, change of environment, change of area, meeting new

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people, all this type of stuff. With all the change being cultivated in my life, it's

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only reinforced to me the importance of sticking to your principles. And if you don't have

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principles to put forth, the part of the reason why as men, I think it's important for us

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to have our own sense of morality, our own guiding principles is because the world around

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us will always change. Opportunities may come, opposition may present itself. And it's

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important for us as men to not just be blown around like a plastic bag in the wind. We

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need to plant ourselves like a tree and weather the storms of life. Now, while trees might

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be constricted to where they are, you know, unless you're talking about Narnia trees,

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you know, like the one you'll never see Narnia, I recommend you see it. Fantastic series by

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CS Lewis, who wrote a lot about similar stuff with Christianity, which I thought was interesting.

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No one's or if anyone's already like screwtape ladders or mere Christianity, good stuff,

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really good stuff. But I really liked his fiction when I was growing up is fiction of

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Narnia and whatnot. Fantastic stuff. Anyways, we're getting off topic. Can't get off topic.

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It's too early in the show. We got to talk about women, right? Because that's what you

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guys want to learn about, right? What I want to learn about for a long time. When to learn

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about chicks, I want to learn how to get them, how to, you know, keep them sometimes how

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to get rid of them, if you know what I'm saying. But that's why we have to have this conversation

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about vetting women. Because just in the same way that you might vet dudes who come into

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your life, whether it's for business, whether it's to be your friend, whether it's to,

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you know, be your basketball buddy you play on with on the weekends or once a week, or

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do homies you go to the gym with, all these things might seem like they're different,

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but they're actually not. We just think about them differently. When it comes to women,

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a lot of us dudes, we want to have sex with women. That's part of the game. The same thing

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as eating, sleeping, taking it, you know, taking a dump. It's the same thing, stuff that we

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naturally want, naturally want to do. And so vetting is important. We need to just we

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need to distinguish between quote to trust, who not to trust, and where they fit in our

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lives if they should even fit in our lives at all. And the reason a lot of people don't

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do this is because it takes time and you risk potentially not getting what you want in that

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moment. A lot of people, myself included for a very long time, it's all about the moment,

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man. In that moment, I wanted to get late. In that moment, I didn't notice how crazy

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she was, or that she had tons of tattoos, or maybe that she was a single mom, or maybe

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that just she just something was off. You could never really put your finger on it,

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but you're like, eh, you know what, I'm going to go in anyway. And then when you come to

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your senses pun intended, suddenly you realize, dang, this woman's kind of crazy, or, Hey,

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you know what, this woman doesn't really is not conducive to life I want to build for

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myself. But yet, I let the monkey take over. I make this distinction in a book that I'm

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working on right now called the man and the monkey, where you can separate yourself from

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there's the biological like animalistic side of your being. And then the other side, which

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is more divide, which is a spirit, something that's more than just a beast in a field.

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And some animals, you can actually see this in some like dogs, for example, some dogs

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are actually almost like a spirit guide level because they're just they seem more insightful

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and other dogs, they're content to just chase a tire down the down the road. So everybody

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has a spectrum that they operate on. And one of the spectrums that people tend to overlook

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is the vetting spectrum of women because people we as men, we like the physical, we want to

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jump right in. We don't want to vet women and almost like a job interview because make

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no mistake. You might think that all I'm not hiring this person. So therefore, there's

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no reason for me to do a background check. There's no reason for me to do my due diligence

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trying to really go down that extra mile and make sure this person is who they say they

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are and is who they appear to be. Anybody ever heard of the halo effect? The halo effect

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is something that I'm fascinated by. I did a paper rod in college. Halo effect is this

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idea that good looks or lack thereof. Immediately, we start to assume that if you look good,

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you must have a good personality or good characteristics. Conversely, if you're ugly, people assume

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that oh, you must there must be something wrong with you or defective or faulty or you

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must be a bad person or at the very least, you find them distasteful. And you assume

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that they're not as good people. You want to like people who are attractive. So therefore,

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you find ways to like them. And the opposite is also true and vice versa. We need to understand

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this fact because if we don't, it prevents us from properly vetting people. For example,

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men, let's be honest, okay, ladies, I'm sure you all will be more than happy to jump on

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this because it's going to benefit you probably. But a lot of dudes, we tend to just go in

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for the we tend to go for the panties real quick, for lack of a better term. We would

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like to just go for it and make no mistake, women leverage this women are not victims

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in this regard. They actively as soon as they hit the age of like, I don't know, 131415,

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they quickly start to figure out, hey, dudes are looking at me differently. Hey, I can

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use this to my advantage. And this is why you have to vet people. This is why you need

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to understand that everybody has their own agenda. And everybody has their own goals,

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they're working towards. And some people, they don't know what they're doing, and they're

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just agents of chaos. They have no idea what they're doing. But all they know is they don't

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like what they're doing right now. They don't know what they want. They just know what they

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don't want. You ever met that type? I'm sure you have. Maybe you've even been that

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type and there's no shame in being that type. At least for the short term, staying that

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way. Oh, that's a different story. But being there, we've all been there at least once

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in our lives. And so very Pete, once we vet a woman, it's important for you to assign

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them a role. Maybe they're part of the, let me their number on your roster. Maybe they're

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a part of your program that you're trying to build as an maybe they're a little more

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part of the inner circle, but they earn that. And that's why I don't encourage dudes to

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jump into a woman's bed right away. Because guess what guys, once you do that, you've

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lost leverage. Once you've done that, she has leverage over you. He will believe anything

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that women say for the most part, because they're perceived as being weaker than men

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when in fact I'd argue they're in a lot of ways stronger than men. I know a lot of men

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might be triggered by that, but I'm not telling you your week. I'm saying that if you look,

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take the average ward of a man versus the average ward of a woman, people are going to

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believe the woman over the man nine, nine and a half times out of 10. That includes men

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and women alike who believe women over men any day of the week. So it's important for

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you to know these things to properly vet women. First, number one thing I have some of a very

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short list of what you should do to that women that I found out their personal experience.

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Number one, do not believe what they say. Look at what they have done. For example, if

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you meet a woman, she's like, maybe mid 20s, late 20s, and she's talking about how, Oh,

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I want to find my forever person, my friends charming type, you know, the type type that

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realizes she's running out of time was around 30 years old and suddenly she gets married

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in about a year. Yeah, that type. Trust me, I have family members who have done that.

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And I had to hold my tongue, sitting back there looking at the dude whose wife and his

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will grow up like you are a dumb motherfucker. You are a stupid man. You big dummy. Anyways,

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I'm not here to bash on them. I just feel sorry for them more than anything. And of

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course, even if I tell them what's going on or I told them about the past, they're

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not going to give a shit because they haven't done their proper vetting and they're too

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emotionally invested in plain English. That's what they've gotten to. Number one is do not

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believe what they say. Look at what they do. That's number one. Number two, my friends

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is determine what you are looking for me personally. I can always speak for myself. I'm sure some

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of you will agree with me. But me, I'm not looking to get married. So I'm not looking

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for wife material per se. Now, am I looking for a woman who would, for example, say, Hey,

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Austin, you know, I like what you're trying to build. I know you were working really hard.

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I want to be a part of it. Sure, I'd be tentatively be open to that. But again, we got to go back

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to number one, don't just believe what they say. They got to prove it to you time and

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time again that they are part of your program. Number three is if you find women like this,

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reward them. This might go against what you might hear on the side of the internet. But

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I'm going to tell you part of the reason why I have a whole chapter on surrogacy in the

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biblical bachelor, which is a book fantastic. It's about a lifestyle that I created that

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hopefully you yourself could benefit from finding your own purpose, finding your own

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way to live through life with people wanting you to be on one side of the tracks for the

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other. I don't believe in choosing sides. I believe in you being on your own team and

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going and discovering your own route to that own self be true as Shakespeare once wrote.

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But I believe in rewarding people who are good to you. Now, I'm not saying you treat

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people who are bad to you like garbage. No, what I'm saying is if somebody is on my team,

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someone is actively proven that they are willing to invest in me, I'm going to reward them

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for that. I'm going to make sure that they make money that they are rewarded. They earn

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something back by investing in me. You're investing in me. I want people to get a return

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on their investment in plain English. That's part of investing in women too. Women just

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like other people. Women are people guys. Remember that. The last time is we can lose

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the force for the trees here. It's important for us to remember that the world turns on

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reward and punishment. So if you are around people, first of all, if I don't believe necessarily

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in punishment, you go play the games if you want and I've played them and I will probably

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continue to play them. But I'm more of a type of look up you are doing what you want, whether

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they be men, women, children, dogs. I don't care what they are. Just you don't have to

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get angry with them. You don't have to curse them out. Just walk away. Save yourself time.

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Save yourself sanity and just leave. When it comes to women, you give them one chance.

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Maybe two. I would argue you shouldn't, but you can. But by the third time, cut them off.

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That's part of the vetting process is realizing that even if you made it through the first

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round of the vetting process, the second round is still there and you're always on probation.

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You got to ask yourself a question, Jensen. I've had to ask myself more times than I care

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to remember, frankly. And it's what do you want more? Do you want to just have a woman

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who's yours? All yours? You want a girl in your life? Is that what you want? Or do you

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want to have a higher calling? You want to go out there and you want to make a million

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bucks? You want to go out there and be the first AI trillionaire? You want to go out

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there and build a business? You want to go out there and build the dream body? What is

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it you want, my friends? What? Tell me what you want. Because that's what it's going

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to come down to. When you're vetting women and it's never going to stop, life will change.

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Your circumstances will change by natural circumstances will change. All that's going

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to change. You have to be the constant. You have to stick to your guns and not let your

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fluctuating hormones, not let your own weakness compromise you. Test people because they have

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to earn first getting in your life and then to staying in your life. This is all part

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of growing up that I've learned, man. And I know some of you are older and you know

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this probably better than I do. But it's important to be reminded of the obstacles

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that we all face that we're not alone if we are struggling with the people in our

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lives or we're struggling with keeping up with people in our lives or dealing with

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drama. I'm dealing with ton of bullshit drama right now where I'm working out right now

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and a lot of it could be avoided. But it's what reminded me that we got to vet the people

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in our lives, especially the women in our lives because when it comes to business,

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when we make business and pleasure, which is what love and romance is, make no mistake.

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That's a mixing of business and pleasure. It can get messy. You ever wondered where

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the saying all is there in love and war comes from? It's kind of an oxymoron statement because

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love and war are two sides of the same coin. They're basically the same thing. You just

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see them as being different. So therefore you believe them to be different. No, it's

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the same thing is different, different forms of the same thing.

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My friends, when it comes to vetting women, it's important that we understand what we're

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looking for. What we're looking for and what we roll, we want them to assign. You got to

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act like the CEO of your own life, which you are. Because you don't have an LLC or an

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S court or a C court registered in your name to your life doesn't necessarily does not

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mean you shouldn't follow the same principles. Now, putting people on payroll, I mean, you

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can decide whether you want to do that or not. But the general principle, the idea, the

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philosophy should not waiver. It should stay. We need to understand my friends and like,

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I keep saying that because I really want to drive this home. It's too easy for us to

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get caught up in the day to day, get caught up in our feelings. And then the facts tend

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to escape us or the warning signs or the cautions. We tend to just run those yellow lights, hoping

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they don't turn red. But then we end up getting caught. I'm usually at the worst time. And

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never forget that there is no such thing as free when you're vetting women. If anything

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seems free, you need to run because free upfront is the biggest expense in the back end. What

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I mean, paying upfront, I don't mean giving them money necessarily. What I mean is, you

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need to understand, hey, this is what I'm sacrificing. I'm giving my time. I'm giving

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my energy. I'm giving attention. Maybe I'm giving money in the form of a date or drinks

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or whatever. But just be careful. Because when you don't properly vet women, it can come

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back and bite you in the behind. Aftercare is another important aspect that we can get

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into at another time. When you do have, you know, when you do get intimate with a woman,

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it's important to treat them well afterwards because that's when we get the the me to stuff

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in really conversation is when they don't they don't feel good afterwards. And then they

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feel like things were equally feel like I take advantage of when everything was totally

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cool in the moment and beforehand. And then all of a sudden it wasn't we got to be careful

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with that. That's what aftercare is for. My friends, I think I will stop here with this

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episode. I got to get out of here pretty soon. I have a meeting to get to. Oh, man, I tell

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you, life is tough, man. And that's why it comes to your personal life. You want to make

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it as seamless as possible. Because on your road to the top, on your road to becoming

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more successful, more wealthy, etc. It's easy to get distracted by personal things like

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that can prevent you from hitting that compound interest in your life. It's important for

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us to stay on track, operate properly. And remember that as men, we need to not let it

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affect us. Maybe we don't have a ton of women or a ton of friends or whatever in our lives.

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We don't need a ton of people like that in our life. We need a couple of you who have

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proven themselves to be worthy. That's what we should focus on. My friends, I'll leave

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it at that. Vending women is extremely tedious and it's tough, but it will be worth it in

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the long run when you avoid being another statistic or avoid it in allegation, or you will avoid

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putting yourself in a position where you're compromised. I like the word compromise. Compromised

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in the military, I learned something you never want to be comma yet people push it today

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like it's something that's virtuous. I disagree. Anyways, my friends, you take care of yourselves.

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Ask these hard questions. Let me know if you have more things you want to add to the list

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that you thought maybe I could my mist or could have added. I'd love to hear it. Let

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me know how you vet women and what your process is. If you have one, if you don't have one,

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no problem. But it's time we rectified that. My friends, take care. I'm out of here. Peace.