Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to the Sheepkid Sheared podcast, I'm your host,
Auster Creed, my friends, I'm still on the road, I've lost encounter the number of times
I've said that, but you know the closer I get to my final destination, the more I've
encountered questions about what's to come, and I thought to myself I'm not the only
one who could stand to benefit by having this conversation. And what I mean is, all
of us have gone through phases of our life where either we had to build ourselves or
reinvent ourselves. Those of you who've gotten divorced, I know you've had to reinvent
yourself, that'll revamp your image with a lot of people who took your ex wife's side,
or if you're a younger guy, you face here in the face of adversity as I do. And as
I have in the past as well, uncertainty and unfamiliarity breeds fear and malcontents.
You have no idea what to expect, you have no idea what's to come. And so that then
automatically usually means you think of the worst possible thing that could happen. And
I want to challenge you as I challenge myself with the following. Don't focus on what could
go wrong. Focus on what you set out to achieve. Focus on your goal. I'm not saying don't
analyze risks. Absolutely. Make sure you know what you're getting into. Not saying
just jump in. That's stupid. I never tell you do that in a relationship or in an investment.
And you are essentially investing in your future by betting on yourself. Make no mistake
about it. That's what you're doing. You are betting on yourself. You're saying, I'm not
going to take the safe route. I'm not going to take the route of least resistance. I'm
not going to just go forward with what I think has the lowest probability of failure, but
also then by extension, the lowest possible opportunity for growth. No, if you are out
here to build yourself a reinvent yourself. It's all about saying I am going to make
this work. Now, is it going to be hard first? It's been already anytime I've gone down
a new road because you don't know what to expect. And even when you're going through
it, you're trying to build some sense of understanding, trying to know what's going
on around you. You're trying to find your footing. But you know, last night, after I
drove for about 10 hours, I went up with an old friend who I used to play volleyball
with. He's a technical surgeon in the US Air Force. He was he was then when I was in
and he's still there now. And he's a he's a E six and the United States Air Force.
And what's interesting to me is as we're having dinner, we had got steaks, we got some beer.
It was fantastic. But after we were talking, it was interesting to hear him talk about
his ex because he was with this one girl for four years. And I knew her. She, you know,
they're very interesting dynamic. But what was really interesting was when he was talking
to me, he's like, Hey, Austin, you know, I haven't seen you in a couple of years. You
know, why are you out here? What's going on? You know, what's going on? But I can go
on all with you. And I told him all about how I went to after the airport was over, I went
to college. Now I'm going out to start a new job working at the city. And as I was talking,
I could tell you something about me a little differently. And I was like, what? And he's
like, you seem a lot more confident in yourself. You're curing yourself differently. And I
I'm pause for a second. I said, what do you mean? And he said that it's really easy,
especially when he's he's been in the Air Force for almost 10 years. And so he was
telling me about how it's really easy for people to get complacent to get comfortable.
And a lot of times when people fail or they think they have failed, it's easy to accept
that defeat and not go out there and try not go out there and face adversity again because
of the way it turned out before. And his insight was amazing. And it was interesting to hear
him talk about how he put his relationship behind them. The other one that went bad.
And he was making a rink and he was wanting to change bases because he'd been at this
one for so long. And he it was it was great to see a man that I truly care about. And
I've you know, seen in a not as good place. Be ready to face adversity again and be willing
to risk and take a chance on himself. And I thought it was fantastic. And I thought to
myself, I wish I could have recorded that conversation. It would have been great to
play for you guys, but I wouldn't have done that. And I didn't want to do that to him.
You know, I don't want to put people on the internet if they don't want to be on the internet,
you know. And he was fantastic. And it was a great night. We shot fool. We shot the shit
about life. It was fantastic. Well, my friends, the reason I tell you the story is not to
tell you that I have great friends and you don't or anything like that. It's to let
you know that just because you can can't necessarily identify with what I do per se,
I know you might think, well, Austin, I'm not moving really across the country. I'm
not getting in the roofing. I'm not trying to set up a cast. I'm not trying to do any
of these things that you do. You know, so it's hard for me to relate or I'm older and
I have a different story and I'm well, I like what you say. I don't always identify with
it, but I try to. Three steps. How you my friend's story is not because I want you to,
you know, say that always a cool guy or whatever, which he is, but it's to understand that.
Everybody has their own story. You have a story to tell. You have adversity in your own life
and you have choices to make about what you want to do next. I know some of you are older
and you've gone through different stages of life that I have yet to go through and I would
love to hear your advice on that. But I'd also love for you to know that you're not
alone with the changes going on. If you want, if you're thinking that Austin, you know,
I want to take this chance. I want to start this business. I want to stop. Look at this
punk job. I don't like. I want to stop focusing on things I can't control. I want to make
a change in my life that I actually like that I want. I want to become this person, but
I don't know how to do it. But all I know that don't like what I'm doing right now is
that self familiar to anybody or I'm in a relationship that I don't like. You know,
one of the things my friend told me he was with his ex. Why I met when I first got on
base and I met him, you know, two years ago, he was with it for four years. And he's in
his late twenties now. He bet he'd been in there there for four years. That's not easy
to just get rid of, you know, but he told me he's like, look, I couldn't get the relationship
going. And I asked him, well, why not? Why'd you, why'd you not keep the relationship going?
He looked at me and he said, because I had made so many small sacrifices over a long
period of time. And this guy is, he's not fully Caucasian. He's half Filipino. He's
half Caucasian. And he told me about how his girlfriend was not a huge fan of Filipino
food, not a big fan of Asian food in general. So he didn't get to, you know, fully be in
touch with himself and that's just one example of the things he gave up in that relationship
to make her feel included, to make her feel good in that relationship. And I didn't go
on full when I might talk about on the show, because the other day I didn't want to, I
didn't want to hijack the conversation. I wanted to hear what he had to say. And it
was interesting for him to really talk about what we talk about on this show, which is
you kind of lose yourself in a relationship. And at the end of the day, you sacrifice to
see success, whether it's in a relationship, whether it's professionally, whether it's
personally, you will always sacrifice to achieve. You don't just get without giving something.
And he told me he was tired of giving and giving and feeling like it wasn't reciprocated.
He told me straight up, if he passed up by an opportunity to go to a different base,
you stay at, you know, where we were with his girlfriend, because he cared about her.
And then she brought it, then he brought it up later as if, Hey, you know, I really care
about you. I want to make this work, whatever. And she was like, Oh, I didn't ask you to,
you know, not leave. I didn't ask you to mess up on an opportunity for me. And he was like,
I didn't say you did. I said, I did it because I cared about you and his relationship. And
it was a big wake up call for him. If he was sacrificing and he, she was appreciating it.
And so my friends, when he was talking about his professional life, his relationships and
everything with him finally standing up for himself and finally saying, I want this because
I want it, I'm going to go get it. I was like, that's damn right. Damn right. What I like
to hear. That's what I'm talking about. And he doesn't know a lot of the stuff that we
talked about on the show and stuff like that, because at the end of the day, she's just
have a different mindset than me. And I don't think he fully agree with all the stuff we
talked about on this show. And that's fine. But it was interesting to hear a man who has
a different mindset than me, agree with a lot of the things that I espouse on the show
and a lot of the things that you, the audience, you know, the loyal members of the show also
agree with, you know, and they say it different ways, not exactly in the blunt way that, you
know, the eye, my, or that you might, but it was refreshing to hear that we are, we
are the silent majority as men. We all know that a lot of ways we sacrifice for women
and they don't always appreciate it in the same way that we always have a natural fear
of the unknown and of change. He brought that up to which I was happy to hear that he had
the self-awareness to know that of that side of himself, which I kind of already knew.
But he told me straight up that he was done being afraid of change and that he wanted
the cultivate the change you wanted in his life. I applauded him mentally for that because
for me, that was huge. We're going to say that. And my friends, just understand that
while you may not be able to identify, like completely understand where I'm coming from,
there are tons of different ways to apply this mindset of not being afraid of the unknown,
not being afraid of what you don't know might happen, but instead arming yourself with knowledge
and trusting that you can handle the adversity that's going to come your way and then you
can formulate a strategy to win. Might not be easy. Might not be as obvious as you thought
it might, but you could do it and you have to believe that you have to continue to face
that adversity even if you fail at first, which is possible. I've failed before and
I'm all front and honest about the places I've failed in the past. I honestly think
I failed a lot in the military to be honest with you, but I didn't take that and then
see myself as a victim. I saw that I learned from my mistakes. I used my depression, I
used my anxiety, I use these things that a lot of people use as a shield. I use as a
springboard to to push forward towards what I want out of my life. Period. And the story,
a lot of people they don't do that because either they don't like to stand or they don't
have the will to get back on the horse and ride that bucking bronco. Breaked out horse.
One of my favorite movies when I was a kid was Spirit about a horse who was ironically
voiced by Matt Damon. But his whole thing was he was a wild horse that was caught by
cowboys and sold to the US Army and they couldn't break this horse. They couldn't break him.
And you then met this Native American man who understood him as a, you know, as a wild
spirit basically. And that's where he got his name from. Beautiful story. I don't think
it's based on a true story, but it was back when DreamWorks and Hollywood can make movies
about actual stories and not just pure propaganda and lies and annoying crap. But that's what
you have to understand. And that's something that I have to remind myself all the time
that you have to invest in yourself and you have to trust yourself to see things through.
Might not get it the first time, second time, third time, fourth time, fifth time, but you
will if you keep at it and you adjust and you refuse to quit. It was, I think it was
Babe Ruth who said it's hard to beat the man who doesn't give up. My friends don't
ever give up. Adjust, reevaluate, but never give up, never quit. I'll be honest, the
closer I get to my destination, the more I'm like, I have no idea what to expect. I
have no idea what's going to look like. I don't know anything about like what's what's
to expect outside of the little bit that I know about the profession. But you know that
fear can creep in and it could cripple your joy of this new fresh start and never let
that happen. You got to be conscious. It's not going to happen naturally unless you're
just a special breed of person have to be purposeful. You have to remind yourself why
you set out to do this. Why you said I'm going to do this. I will do this and we're going
to see it through. Have to remind yourself why you set out to do this. Whatever it may
be for you could be personal, could be professional, could be spiritual. I don't know what it is
for you, but you have to understand that you can do it. You just have to be willing to
stick it out the long haul might take you 20 years, but you can do it. But you have
to believe that I could say it for the next 20 years every day to you. If you don't believe
it, it's then it's not going to make an impact on you. My friends, I'm encouraging you to
not give up and to learn from my mistakes, learn from my friends mistake and understand
that you're not alone. If you have these feelings, these uncertainties that might saturate the
psyche of your mind, make you question your sanity even. But my friends, you are not
alone and there is a lot of us out here who understand that struggle, who are here to
give you advice you wanted. If you want to talk about it in the comments, go ahead, talk
about your story now you've made it through or how you're in a thick of it and you just
need to vent. I'm here for you, man. I'll read it. I might even heart the comment. I'll
be there for you because I'm in the middle of a toe. And even if you watch this video
a year from now or two years from now, I get here to you. This is the last time I'm going
to be in a situation. You'll be the last time they are in the situation either I'm
willing to bet. I'm on a wager that that's the truth. So my friends, keep your chin
up, keep your head in the game. Don't focus on all the things that could go bad and instead
of focus on why you've set your mind to this what you came to do. Why did you decide to
do this? What pushed you over the line to even try and focus on that? My friends to
care yourselves. I might do another one of these on the road. If not, I'll let you guys
know what but I want to I can't wait to set my camera back up again and do those videos.
But anyways, take care of yourselves. I'm out of here. Enjoy your day. And I'm I mean
what I tell you if you want to use a comment section to talk about things go ahead. It's
an open open forum for you. Long as YouTube doesn't block it. I don't delete comments.
My friend is to care yourselves. I'm out of here. Peace.