It's supposed to be funny. It's supposed to be. Ohh tee. That's so funny. Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, it's not funny. This is unfortunately a very real reality for many men. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared Podcast. I'm your host, Austin Creed, and my friends today. We're going to. Discuss a topic that I've touched on before, but we're going to revisit it again today and it's a double standards Christian women. No, I understand a lot of people are going to be upset. A lot of people are probably going to be mad. But you know what? This isn't about feelings. This is about an unfortunate reality. Unfortunately, a lot of us, whether we grew up in the church, we currently go to church, all of these things are unfortunately. All too real for many of us and some of us continue to trudge through the jungles and some of us are, like you know what? We're gonna go our own way. We're gonna do our own thing, and we're gonna accept the reality. And we're not going. To sit here and try to. Make everything work when we're using fantasy and not reality. As a reference point. 

For our lives so. 

What we're going to do, my friends, is before we'd hop into the meat and potatoes of today's show. I encourage you to comment. Share your story because a lot of us, we have these stories right? We're out here and we have dealt with this personally or we used to deal with this and now we're we're signing off. We don't want to deal with this anymore. We've gone our own way. We've either lost faith, we've gone spiritual. A lot of us have this issue. With a lot of Christian men I've met in my entire life, I grew up with these people. I talk to these people all the time, and even men I meet in the new churches that I go to, a lot of men have this desire of. I just want a good Christian woman. Their standards are not super high. Arguably they're too low. But unfortunately if it's not easy to find. Christian women seem to say they can't find Christian men and Christian men seem they can't seem to find Christian women, but apparently it's the biggest religion in the world and. People seem to be having a disconnect now. Those of us who understand male and female nature alike, we know what's actually going on here. It has less to do with religion and more to do with reality. But we're going to hop into it. We're going to see what advice other people are giving each other. And I want you to share your thoughts and your comments below and let me see how much of this resonates with you or maybe you just have something you want to say and you want to get it off your chest. My comments section is open to you, my friends. Let's get. And let's let's let's stop messing around and let's jump into this first video that says 5 must ask questions during courtship, and this is done by an African American woman. We'll see what she got to say. 

In the dating phase of the according phase with a Christian man, 1 deeper in tongues just cut to the chase. Do you pray in tongues? Are you baptized in the Holy Spirit? And then the follow up would be like, have you heard them pray in tongues because someone telling you that they have a prayer life versus someone actually having a prayer life are two completely different things. Trust and verify #2. I'd be asking what is their relationship with their pastor look like? 

What? 

This is important because as a man, he needs spiritual accountability in the flesh there needs. 

In other words, don't be a horn dog. Is that what she's saying? Oh, don't you be *****. Don't be a ***** dude. This is unacceptable. Be better. Is that? Is that what I'm hearing? Cause that's kind of what it sounds like. John, let me ask you a question. How many men? How many of you have dealt with this problem? Like turn. My light up a little bit. Gentlemen, let me ask you something. How many of you in your life have dealt with with women who have these really high standards for? You. But they didn't have high standards when they were 18, when they were younger than 18. Unfortunately, that's just how it works. A lot of times. How many times have you seen a guy put in minimal effort and get maximum results? Meanwhile, you got to put in Max effort just to get the minimum effort y'all ever seen that before? I know I have. And you know what's interesting? Is I've seen both sides of the spectrum, so women like this. I don't know her personally, but I I just been finishing up college. I went to high school. I know these types of younger women. At least she looks like she's somewhat young. She looks like she's what, 2530 maybe, you know, here's the issue right here. OK. A lot of women who are Christians. Have to double dip. They like to say that they want this nice Christian man over here, but then I'll mess around with Pookie and Chad and Tyrone on the other side. They'll mess with the guy they told you not to worry about the guy that you don't even know about, cause you're naive. Christian men are often very naive to the unfortunate realities of female nature, with women want to have fun, they don't want to be bored, they want to be excited. They want to always have something going on, something to tell their girlfriends, something that they could post about on social media. And most Christian dudes are good men and they're boring. OK. That's why they they usually come to you when they're 303540 or even if they're 25, they've just been in the streets for an an exorbitant amount of time or they've made-up. Just but doing doing debaucherous things, they'll come back to you and they'll say, wait a minute. OK. I'll take you. Now that I'm, you know, bored or that I I need a break from the carousel, though. They'll find you then. But a lot of times you same women who have all these high standards. You gotta ask yourself, where were these standards when you were 18 and not your prime? Where were these when you were 20 years old? See, I'm not saying that. You have to do anything I'm saying. Ask the question because these kind of questions don't get asked in the church, which is why it's up to guys like me and guys like you watching this video to ask these questions for ourselves and warn other men that these women who ask these questions now, they weren't asking them before. These women want to tell you about you being a man and having a good relationship with your past. Meanwhile, they were out here in these streets getting their cheeks blown out. Guess what, my friends? I'm sorry to be vulgar, but at the end of the day, this is what it's happening. And people don't want. To accept. This because they don't like it. Too bad. Unfortunately it's happening. 

Needs to be someone that you can call. If that person gets out of line or out of pocket, that person needs to have some type of spiritual accountability in the flesh now. 

Oh, in other words, if you try to get anything from her, shame on you. That's what she said. 

#3, what's your relationship with your mom and your family? Look like I need to know the dynamic. What's going on? How often do you talk to them? How often do you see them? What's the respect? Like Long story short, you know what's going on? You know what's going on. 

Oh, this again? 

Oh. 

Out there because that is a direct reflection of potentially what could be happening with you and him. So you need to know, get clear, get very clear as to what the dynamic of the mother, son, mother, Father, relationship and dynamic is immediately, expeditiously for for what are your financial obligations monthly. 

Well, so you know, she mentioned money towards the end. Gentleman. Don't be fooled by this. Christian women are still women. Christian men are still men. The problem is Christian men in particular are taught to be naive. They're taught that. Ohh. You know what? If you just read the Bible, you go to Bible study. You do these things you're don't worry because everything's gonna workout for you. No, I'm not telling you. It's not gonna work out the way you want. Some people still have great marriages and great families. Unfortunately, that's what their soul is. The norm. It is not the norm. In fact, look at if you want to test this theory right now. And you're seeing a woman, whether you're married to her, you're in a relationship with her. You want to be in a relationship with her, go to her Instagram, go to her, TikTok, go to her Twitter and look at who. She's. Following right now. OK. And then follow those people. And then see what they post, because I can guarantee you, just like I might affect the way you think about things or another content creator, I can guarantee you women are the same way. So she's talking about all this. Ohh you. I have all these high standards for these men, but she's listening to sprinkle. Sprinkle. She's listening to Nicki Minaj. She's listening to. These feminists, women, these feminist women who talk about how you owe this, you deserve this and men should do this. I'm sorry bro, but. She's put on the front. It's not real. And then it begs the question, where are these rules for? Chad. Where are these rules for Pookie? Where are these rules for the guys that she was attracted to? Who could buy her fries at McDonald's? Where were the standards for those guys? I'm sorry, I know this is not comfortable. I know you don't like this, but guess what? These are the double standards that a lot of men face. And unfortunately, a lot of us don't learn until it happens to us. And then we learn about it. We're like, oh. 

Hey. 

Thing. I can't believe it. How did this happen? Why did this happen? How do I deal with this? What do I do? We all have this awakening moment where we see the world for what it is. The real question is, are you going to to just kind of live in the fantasy of? Well, if I just do XY or Z, things are going to be fine? Or are you gonna live in the world of you know what? Here is the unfortunate. Realities of the world, and I gotta deal with it. I have to adapt. I have to adapt. I have to adjust. I have to live in this reality. And I have to make do with. What? The cards that I have been dealt, unfortunately a lot of us. Have to make that hard choice. So again, she mentions money towards the end because it's not something that if you say first people are going to judge you. So people often leave these things towards the end and be the equivalent of you being asked what you are attracted to in a woman and you list everything except for like looks last as if you care about it last when we all know that it's a lie, the same thing. 

These are real questions. These are real questions. I can go into great detail about when you should ask these questions, but these are just things to have on your radar, in no particular order. 

See, she just told herself. She just. She just confirmed what I just said. 

So yes, what are your financial obligations monthly? If it is a person who is not from the United States of America, higher chance that they have a financial obligation outside of your immediate home. So these are just questions that you wanna know cause you just want to know, like how much money are they obligated or responsible to send out monthly. 

No words how much money is gonna be left for me? OK. Thank you. 

Or how much they're just giving monthly engine #5. And I really shouldn't have to mention this one, but I'm gonna mention anyway. Do you pay your tithes? I'm not arguing. Nobody over ties and offering. And you shouldn't be either. That's some really good. 

And another money one. And again, gentlemen, do I have to ask the do I have to be the one to ask the question? Why is it that these things only seem to matter? When they get a little bit older, where is this conversation when you're younger and if you're having it when you're younger? Where is your? Where is your boyfriend? Where is your husband? Where's your fiance? Because there are a lot of men who fall in this. Category. Right here, when you are a single Christian guy, a lot of Christian men can identify with this right here. 

Let's listen to it. So how's your dating life going? It isn't. You haven't been on any dates? No meant anybody? No. Are you even on dating apps? No. Playing on getting on dating apps? No. So you're just. Happy being single. No. Do you have a will to live? No. 

See see how many can you identify with that right there. How many of you gentlemen can relate to that? Let's play it again. Let's play it again. 

So how's your dating life going? It isn't. You haven't been on any dates? No meant anybody. Are you even on dating apps? No, I'm playing on getting on dating apps. So. So you're just happy being single? No. Do you have a will to live? No. 

See a lot of Christian men fall in that category right there. There's tremendous truth in humor and unfortunately, a lot of Christian men can identify with this guy right here. It's supposed to be funny. It's supposed to be. Ohh Gee, that's so funny. Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, it's not funny. This is unfortunately a very real reality for many men and what they do is they get mad. They think that ohh I'm just not looking in the right place. I'm just not doing it right. I'm just not waiting. I'm not praying enough. I'm not doing these things. See, gentlemen. I'm not telling you God can't jump in out of nowhere and and and give you something. He absolutely can. What I'm telling you is don't expect that. That's what I'm telling you. I'm not telling you that God is not going to come through. I can't. I can't in good faith say that I'm not God. What I am going to tell you is look. We need to stop pretending like. These Christian women are holier than you because they're not. No one's holy, holier than anybody. Everybody has their own problems, and unfortunately, a lot of Christian women, how they passed, they don't want to discuss because it would make them look bad. And a lot of Christian men, they save themselves for marriage. And unfortunately, a lot of times our wife does. And I know one of my best friends right now. He's dealing with that right now. And God, God bless him, he's a stronger man than. I am to to to. Take the deal he's taking right now and again. Married. But I'm telling you, gentlemen. Unfortunately. That video is the message for a lot of men out here. I played him a video. I think it was two days ago about a guy who said he'd been single for six years and he worked in the church single for six years and the guy was, and I think it was his late. Monies. And he said that women would kind of get uncomfortable when as soon as they found out that he was a working like he was a man, like an underlying minister, like he was training to be a minister or in the ministry field. And guess what? Women were put off by that so-called Christian women were off put by that. Do you really think that that's an accident? No, it's not. So gentlemen. I mean, I rest my case on that front, but let's go to this front. Let's see what this woman has to say, she says. This is around purity culture. Well, let's see what she's got to say. 

OK, I want to talk about something kind of rated R so if you're a kiddo, I'd recommend you don't watch this video. There's my disclaimer. I feel like I can't be the only Christian that feels this way, but I also feel ashamed and embarrassed of this. I don't think it's wrong for me to feel this way, but. 

What is it? What is it already? 

Can you feel the same way? Can you please let me know because. Because I want to know that I'm not alone and feeling like this, I'm saving myself for marriage. It's very important to me. I've only ever kissed two people and. 

What is it? 

What? 

I got a raise of hands. Who believes this? Can I get a raise the hands of anybody in the audience who believes this woman's only kissed two men and done nothing more? Can I get a raise of hands? Who believes that? Ohh nobody. Oh, that's what it. 

Only one of them was willing. OK. 

Wait, what? What? Wait a second. What is that supposed to? 

I mean, I was willing to kiss him. One was not consensual. But I feel like with the society. 

Are you admitting that you said somebody? Because that's kind of what I just heard. 

That we live in, I've become very defensive with my purity because I'm always frightened and feeling like it's being threatened and like people are going to try to trick me or push me past my battles and. 

All right. Because like it has nothing to do with your own desire, which you already signaled was there on top of the lie that you said. You're a virgin. I don't believe that for a second. OK, #1, even if she is one, it's not going to stay that way much longer. Let's just be totally clear on that. Secondly, ma'am. You expect us to believe? That you are the victim in this situation. You do realize that you as a woman have the power over intimacy, and the men have power over a relationship. You you are aware of that, right? Just so we're clear, that's how the reality works. So for you to then say ohh, some dudes going to trick me out of my virginity and no, what's actually gonna happen is you're gonna be attracted to that man. You're gonna wanna be with that man. You're gonna want that man to like you and get that validation from him. And then going to sleep with him. Like you can have a lot of other women because I can guarantee you I've been in this position where as soon as you have one woman, you can usually have access to two or three or four or more, because if that's how women work, that's how hypergamy works. The more women you have interested in you, the more women will be automatically intrigued by you and then ergo, eventually interest. It that's how it works. I wish I could tell you it didn't work that way, but that's unfortunately how life works. Let's continue. 

So I feel like I put up this wall in this defense and. I've noticed like and it's honestly probably good in our faith that I'm not, like really ever sexually attracted to people. 

I don't believe that for a second either. 

But OK, I'll find people attractive, but I'm not like. I never catch myself. 

Not virtue signaling, ma'am. I don't buy this for a second. 

Like stumbling being like. I could probably hit that like I've never had that thought and. 

Oh, my God. Yeah. 

I worry that like. When I get married, I'm going to be like grossed out by sex. 

What she's actually saying is she's unfortunately concerned that she's gonna marry a guy she's not attracted to and doesn't want to have sex with. That's what she's saying. OK, gentlemen, again, this is part of a double standard. OK. They'll tell you to be a good man. Be a consistent man. Be a caring man. Be an emotional man. But guess what? Women don't inherently like that. They might like that when they're 40 and they've been through all these dangerous, rambunctious rebel dudes, but not when they're this age right here. No, they don't. She's signaling that she likes pookie, that she's actually been with Pookie, and then wants to pretend and tell you who is pookie, by the way, maybe you don't know who he is. He's that guy that wears his hat backwards, the guy who maybe drives an edgy car in high school. Maybe he was a drug dealer. Maybe he was just the guy that did all the pranks. Was the loud kid, you know who I'm talking about. Unfortunately, women like that guy and he wins when we were young. Now don't grow out of that phase, don't find other poop. He loses in the long term, but when they're young, he's exciting. He's better, he's more interesting and whatnot than you. But again, gentlemen, we're told as men that our virtue comes from being good men. And that would be like good men. The answer is no, they don't. Not all, not most of them, no. And we had said I want to look for a Unicorn instead of seeing reality. Let me ask you guys a question. Does anybody believe this woman on the screen is actually a virgin and that she's anything on what she's saying? Very fact that she frames it as if she's a victim of men looking at her. That is very suspect immediately, but OK. 

Like. What if I don't like? What if I freaked myself out and defended myself and avoided it for so long that I'm just going to be, like, completely petrified? 

Does anybody want to sign up for this? Does this sound like a good deal to anybody? Does anybody want to marry this woman? 

Hmm. 

Let me know please let me know in the comments. 

I really hope that's not the case, but that is a worry on the back of my mind. But whenever I worry about it, I'm just like, God, take this worry. Cause. This ain't happening right now. I'm not even dating somebody, and I'm putting this in your hands and trusting. You with it. But. It is something that I think about sometimes and I was curious. You know if any. 

OK, gentlemen, I'm going to stop the video right there. Let me ask you a question. How many of you actually believe what she was saying? Now you could be true. I think she was telling. Someone the truth there. But I don't think she was telling the truth about was #1 we all know you're not a virgin. OK, you don't have to virtue signal. I prefer honesty. #2. I don't like how we're setting it up. As if you're the victim when you hold all the power and that dynamic. You even admitted as much when she allegedly admitted to basically kissing a guy against his will. Did we forget about that part? Yeah, I didn't forget about that. And yet you want it so. In other words, you're making the first move, but you would have me believe that. You're putting it off right there. Yeah, I'm not buying it for a second. But you know what? Apparently a lot of women, Christian women, are afraid of being single forever. And apparently, maybe that's a new strategy they're using. I mean, cause going this woman right here, she's got advice for Christian women who they're going to be single forever. Which. Let's be honest, if you were a Christian woman of high virtue and you actually liked a good man, you could have that guy. But instead they want Chad. But good looking, attractive guy who makes a lot of money who's also a Christian, they want that guy. They don't want the average Christian guy because if they did, they could have him right now, but they don't. So make that one makes sense in the meantime, while you're trying to make it make sense, let's. Go to the next video. 

This is for the girl who thinks that she's going to be single for the rest of her life. For the girl, that's like there's just not a man that God has. For me, this person does not exist. I'm gonna be alone forever. First of all, God sees you. He knows exactly where you are. He has you here for a reason. He empathizes with your frustration and. 

Give me Chad. That's what they're praying. Please give me Chad. I want Chad, but I want him to also pray. Go to Bible study. God, please. 

You're hurt and your disappointment. He sees it. He's with you in it. But God is sovereign. And that means that he is above all things and knows all things. He is sovereign over the world, over your life. And let me tell you the way that God can just pull things out of thin air and place them into your life is wild. 

What are we? In other words, don't trip if you're still kind of have. **** tendencies. Don't worry about it. Because. God's gonna save you and only God can judge you, OK? 

He is a God of the impossible and a way maker and a miracle worker. It is not time to give up. Hope watch him. Just do it. Watch him. Put it all perfectly into place. 

Ma'am, I can't help notice maybe I'm wrong, but I didn't see a ring on your finger. So you're going to preach this information when it hasn't worked for you. At least from what I've seen so far. So again, we're not off. To a great start. 

It's gonna blow your mind, and if things seem impossible right now, then it is the perfect stage for the Lord to bring. 

See, I don't see no ring y'all. See that I don't see your ring. And yet she's talking about how ohh it's gonna work. This miracle. To put this this, this, this man, I mean Chad. I mean, this man in your life and everything's gonna work out well. Clearly hasn't been working out for you. I don't see no ring on that finger. All I see is a ring in the nose, which is a huge turn off to most traditional men that you claim to be appealing to. But OK. We'll continue with this. 

Bring a miracle into your life and to give him the ultimate glory. 

OK, you see, here's the problem. You have women like. This. Giving advice to other women about see she's one of these like dating coaches who are more of a they teach people about dating and marriage. Meanwhile, they're not married. And you might say, oh, Austin, what are you doing to my relationship? And you're not married. I don't tell men to get married. So I don't need to be married to talk about it because I don't. I'm not telling you to get married versus women like that are trying to tell women. Ohh, don't worry. God will give you Chad. I I mean a Christian guy. I mean Chad, who is a Christian guy and all you gotta do is just just sit there and God's gonna like, just drop them in your lap. I mean, I could pray for $1,000,000 doesn't mean. Give me $1,000,000. And again, I don't hear anybody talk about, hey, God, I'm gonna pray for this. And while I'm praying for this, I'm gonna put myself in a position to receive this. In other words, I'm gonna stop being someone who's in the streets. I'm gonna stop doing this. I'm gonna stop acting like a strag. I'm gonna stop trying to chase Chad. I'm gonna stop doing these things that they don't tell you that. Work, though they don't do that. That's the equivalent of me saying, hey God, I want $1,000,000 but like can I just like? Not do anything, not work very hard, not gain any new skills. Not apply for a job, not work for it. Can I just like get $1,000,000 for nothing because that would be great. That's the equivalent. What's the difference between that and a woman saying, hey, I want a great, virtuous masculine amazing Chad. Christian guy. What? Meanwhile, I'm not acting like I'm dressing like a like a woman who's not more of the knight than of the church. And I'm also. Not I'm not appealing to that man in any way. I'm not dressing like it. I don't talk like it. I'm not acting that way. And then they want to pretend like, oh, my goodness, why? Why isn't this happening for me? It doesn't make any sense. The gentleman this all comes back to this conversation of double standards. We'll have these standards for you, but they won't have these standards for another guy. And then you have to ask yourself, wait a minute. Why? Why is this the case? And unfortunately, a lot of the time it's because you are not that guy. You are not the guy she's super attracted to. You're the guy who's present. Not the guy who she was had a passion for. Unfortunately, that's the reality of the situation. A lot of women who get married don't get married to the guy who gets them wet. It's the guy who they can get provided for. Now us saying every person will do that again before the now all police come to my channel. I'm not saying everyone is gonna do that because there are exceptions, but the exceptions don't make the norm obsolete. In fact, it makes the norm even more present. The fact is we have to decide, are we going to adapt? Or are we gonna be in denial and my friends, you gotta make that choice for yourself. And. Only you can make that choice. My friends, if you have anything you want to add anything you want to talk about you do you want to Share your story, please leave in the comment section. I would love to listen to and I think other men as well would like to know that, hey, I'm not as alone as I think I. Am cause a lot of Christian men they don't have. They don't have the will to talk about this. They're scared. They're scared. They gonna get judged. They're scared. They're pastor's gonna judge them. They're the women and the men in their church are gonna judge them. You know, there's no judgment for me. Even if you vehemently hate everything that I just said, I'm not going to judge you for you're entitled to your opinion. And I'm not going to delete your comment. I'm not going to tell you to go. Away. I'm not going to do any of those things. At the end of the day, everybody goes through the stages of grief with this reality. Some of us are in denial. Some of us are angry, some of us are trying to still negotiate, and some of us, very few. But some of us have come to accept this reality that Christian women are not all that much different than secular women with what they want, what they desire, and ultimately. Usually how things end friends, hear yourselves. Meantime, don't be afraid to leave your thoughts. Your comments below look forward to seeing. You next time, peace.