The human if you're not getting sex in your relationship, she's giving it to somebody. Women don't just go without sex like that. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared podcast. I'm your host, Austin Creed, and my friends today we're going to talk about learning the language of women. So I not it wasn't recently, but it was somewhat in the recent past. I read the book, called The Manipulated Man by Esther Villar, and it changed my life in a lot of ways. The reason I say that. Is because as a man, you have a certain existence and as a woman you have a totally different existence. This is an unavoidable fact. But one of the things that a lot of men don't understand about women in particular is that women operate differently than men. I know that's not popular to say today. I understand that a lot of people make it a point to pretend like men and women are just interchangeable and they're there's no biological or biochemical difference, but there there is. I don't know what else to tell you and women. Use a certain language. They almost speak in code to other women, and Esther Vilar is a woman, by the way. So this is a. Woman. Talking about what she talked about, the different language that women speak, especially in the presence of men. Well, they'll say one thing, knowing that you'll take it that way, but what they actually mean is something totally different. And the women all picked up on it. So this is not strictly limited to just like dating and whatnot. This is, in general with politics and what not. We see the same thing with Aesopian language. So not to make things too political, but do you ever read the Aesop? Tables. As a kid, you know, like the lion in the mouse, the crow and. You get what I'm talking about, like the maybe even the frog and the scorpion. I forget if that's one of his or not. They not see the spider like these kind of stories, these fables that don't have explicit meanings. They have to be inferred. Women operate in very much the same way where their meanings have to be inferred. You have to look at what? What they're not saying or what they're alluding to, not what's directly being spoken to you. And we're gonna look at a couple of videos, and we're gonna break them down, and I'm going to show you what I'm talking about. I'm not just going to tell you to take my word for it. We're going to actually break this down, and we're going to have a conversation about it. So without further ado, let's look at the first video. This is married couple. OK. No, I know. Let's not do that one. Let's do this one first. Honest pieces of advice for men from women. Let's look at what she's got to. 

Boys, listen up, ladies. Let me know if I'm right. This is my extremely honest advice for guys when it comes to shooting your shot from a girl's perspective. Ohh. Sliding into a girls DM's and you're private. And you don't even have a profile picture. Stranger Danger Girls are not answering. Who are you, OK? Girls can tell when you act single. And I know you know what I mean. There is a very fine line between acting extremely single and acting really taken. 

Of course I do. 

Just be yourself. If you are shooting your shot and you want a girl to remember you and like, stay in her mind, give her a compliment that she probably hasn't received before this weekend. The guy came up to me and he told me that I had really nice teeth and I've never been told that before, so I'm literally. Still thinking about him? Hi. Part 2. 

What? 

OK. We're gonna break that down. I'm gonna rewatch it on my own. I know it might be painful for you to listen to. We're going to do it again. And I'm going. To break it down, what she actually said now, you probably took it if things down and you thought. It. Wasn't bad advice. No, it was pretty bad advice, because that's not what she actually said. Let's look at what she actually said. 

Always. 

First of all, anytime a woman calls you a boy. She's immediately talking down to you as if you were a child. OK, so automatically we're framing this in a very negative light, and she's emasculating you and humiliating you right out the gate. Just so you know. 

Listen up, ladies. Let me know if I'm right. This is my extremely honest advice for guys when it comes to shooting your shot from a girl's. 

Just so you know, anytime anyone says they're being extremely honest, they're lying. You have to say you're being honest. You're not being honest. That's like same thing as someone saying, ohh. Just trust me. Well, I was going to, but now that you told me to trust you, now I'm having second thoughts. It's kind of along the. Same lines as that. And also look she's, she says on in a in a caption and above it says I'm not wearing makeup. I don't want to hear it. See now she's extremely women are very insecure by the way. In case you didn't know that. Gentlemen women are very insecure. So a lot of times when they tell you that like ohh I don't do this for a man I don't do this blah blah they're not they're using their own language. To just they're not actually saying what they're saying. They're saying something different. What they're saying is I'm trying to get validation, but I also don't want. I want only the good things I. Don't want the bad? In other words, I want the positive results of wearing makeup, but I also don't want the negative results of people finding out. That's not what I actually look like. That's what she's saying. 

Yes. 

Ohh. Sliding into a girls DMS and you're private. 

In other words, you're not a celebrity. Or in other words, if you're an average guy, don't hit her up. That's what she's saying. If you're an average guy, you're not an influencer. You're not a celebrity, you're not a millionaire or a billionaire. She's not listening. 

And you don't even have a profile picture. Stranger Danger Girls are not answering. 

Yeah, of course not, because you're not, Chad. You're not Tyrone. You're not Mr. sexy with a nice car. That's why she's not going to answer you. 

Who are you? 

Yeah, she doesn't know who you are. She can't look you up on it. She can't Google your name and then immediately, like 5011, things show up talking about how your net worth is this. You've done this. You've been in this movie. You've been in this TV show. Whatever. You, you, you, you're sponsored by this brand. If she doesn't see any of that, she's immediately not interested. 

OK, girls can tell when you act single. 

In other words, you don't have. Hoes you don't have 30 fours chasing you. You don't have women hitting you up on Instagram. You don't look like. You get *******. And plain English, that's what she's saying. That is what she's saying. If you don't look like if you don't look high value for lack of a better term. I know. I think that's Kevin. Samuel's thing. If you don't act like you are that guy, if you don't seem like that guy, you don't have a the car. The look, the attitude, the social media, all that has to go with it. She's not interested. 

Good. 

If other women don't look like they'd be interested in you, she's not interested in you. But she also says on the flip side, if you look too taken, then it's a negative negative thing. So in other words, if you look like you are so attractive and have so many options, she's going to be very and very, very insecure, and she's more likely to chase you even more or just drop out. That's what she's saying. She wants to think she has a. Chance. Without being reminded that she literally is shooting so far out of her league that it's not possible. 

And I know you know what I mean. 

Oh, I I did. I just broke it down. Yeah, I know exactly what she the girl. See, she's talking to the ladies. Ladies know what she's talking about? The men, they're gonna think. Ohh well, what's I mean? Don't act too single. What it means is don't act like you don't get no, no girls. 

There is a very fine line between acting extremely single and acting really taken. Just. 

Women, like men who have other women, by the way, in case you don't know that. I know that's not popular to say, and women will probably tell him a liar. Women will lie about this, by the way, because it makes. Them look bad. See, gentlemen, when you look at how women treat men, that's how they want to. Be. Treated. You shouldn't know that. You know why women like cats. Women like cats. Because cats engage with them when they want to. They don't give them any. They're bored. They leave. They have the woman chase their validation. That's why we would like cats. Men like dogs. Because dogs are loyal and get assistant creatures. Most women don't like dogs like that. Some do, but most don't. Most are inclined to like cats, and that's exactly why. Women, like men who have other options. That's called having social proof or social validation. If a woman sees other women like you, that means you have to have something going. For you in the 1st place or that woman would not even entertain you being around. So now she's interested as to what it is about you that the other women now like, which means now she's thinking about you, which means now that you're on her mind, she's you. You're now interesting to her versus the other fifty guys who hit her up in the DM's or talked to her today. That wasn't interesting and didn't look like they had any girl. Women after them. That's how that works. Be yourself. 

If you are shooting your shot and you want a girl to remember you and like, stay in her mind, give her a compliment that she probably hasn't received before. 

Gentlemen, don't ever compliment women. Don't do it. You know why I say that? Because women get complimented on everything. What's the first thing you hear a lot of? If you look like, if you look up game guys on the Internet, like the guys who called approach and do all these goofy things. Women, what's the first thing they do? And they they say to a woman most likely. Ohh girl You Beautiful. How? How you doing? How my name is XY. Cuz that's what they say first thing they usually say is ohh wow, you're you're really good looking or you're really pretty or whatever. That's one of the first things they say. Women are showered by compliments every day, and yet they somehow manage to chase the guy who does not give them validation. You know why that is? If you know the answer, then you then you're closer to the truth because you now stand out. You're now part of the small percentage of men who now she's like, wait a minute. If he's not complimenting me, that must mean that that he has either options or he's not interested in me. And women can't stand a man not being interested in them. They now have to convince you to be attracted to them, or they gonna tear you down a peg. They make it their mission to do it. Women have very large egos. Men have egos too. But women's egos are so much vastly bigger than men. You feel me? Let's keep going. 

This weekend, the guy came up to me and he told me that I had really nice teeth and I've never been told that before, so I'm literally still thinking about him. 

I guarantee you that guy was good looking if you if you were a guy who looked weird or you looked disheveled or you weren't hot and you said that you would think you're a weirdo, but I guarantee you that guy looked really good. He had a good jaw line. He was probably dressed nice. He smelled nice, all these things, and that's why she thought she thought about him, not about what he said. Just This is why we talk about men being creepy versus men being cool. It has nothing to do with what you said and has everything to do with who you are that. Said it, that's what separates you being creepy versus not creepy. 

Hi. Part 2. 

OK, I've had enough of that woman. See, this is what I'm see. That's what I'm talking about. This. See how she said one thing, but what she actually meant was something different. This is what we talk about when we talk about learning the language of women. Because they don't speak in the same way that men do. They'll use indirect inferences. They'll use passive aggressive. Passive aggressive attacks. They'll use these things to try to get they're covert. They're not overt, they're not going to. Most women will never confront you. They'll do something shady on the back. They'll do something that you don't see. And then that's why you're shocked by it. So alright, here's the next clip I have for you guys. Married couple gives advice, so this guy's gonna be interviewing this couple and let's see what he's got to say. 

Are you married? Yes. How long have you been? Married. 

25 years. 

Wow, that's amazing. What's your advice for couples that are looking to have a long and? Healthy relationship. Listen to your wife. 

Ohh no. Ohh hell no. Did you just say what Denzel Washington says of happy wife, happy life? Look at this guy, man. This is. Look at it. Look at her laughing in the background like I got this dude on a leash. Look at this woman. Oh my goodness. See, these are the kinds of Christian men who you go to for her advice, and all they do is tell you to listen to your wife. That's all they do. That's all they tell you to do. They don't tell you to man up and cuff your balls. They don't tell you to make a decision cause you're supposed to be the leader. What kind of leadership is this? Listen to somebody else, that's what. Leaders do leaders make choices? They don't submit to other people. But you see, this is the double standard in the Christian community. They want you to be a man and man up when it suits them, but then they also want you to be a follower when it suits the other person. You can't. You don't have the power in the in America especially, you don't have the power to tell your wife to get behind you and listen to you. She'll. Just divorce you. She'll just withhold sex from you. She'll she will do all these things, and she's incentivized to do it because at any point, she can walk away and take your stuff and your kids and make you the problem. Now, will every woman do that? No. But can they? Yes. Yes, they can. 

Yeah. Whatever she says goes. 

How did you learn? 

Ohh. 

That lesson? To feel married. 

Two failed marriages. 

Ohh that's even worse. Ohh my goodness. So he's been married three times. Gentlemen, I'm not even gonna get married once. Why in the world would you can see? It's he's all that. It's he's all that's boomers and Gen. X people that are, like, really on the old, young, really old Gen. Xers or really young boomers. They're the people who put this idea forward that like you gotta keep trying. This isn't a this isn't a video game. This isn't. This isn't a, a, a Dark Souls boss where you keep fighting it time after time after respawning. This is real life. 

Third one I. 

Learned. You think that's the reason that the? Last two failed. Yes. How long have both of? You been married like. 

11 years old since you were. 

11 years old. From Cuba, So what would be your advice for a long and healthy marriage? 

Do what he says does. 

You ever know? Ohh. Gentlemen, I can't help but notice that these men are all out of shape. They look a little goofy. And they don't seem particularly happy. Just so you know, I pick up on the stuff and those the women are just laughing and they're not saying anything. I'm not saying anything because they know what, no matter what they say, they're probably going to get held accountable for it. 

Judge me. That's it. Don't do anymore. 

She's laughing. She's laughing because she's like, yeah, he's basically he's, he's my *****. That's what you're saying? 

Even think anymore he say something you make. 

What kind of? Male leadership is this. This is disgusting. 

Long have you been married 42 years? What's your advice for a long and healthy marriage? 

Wife. 

It's always right. 

This is so toxic to men. Men do not listen to this. This is why marriage doesn't work today. Look at this dude. Look at how pitiful this dude looks. Look at this guy. Look how he looking. You like. Shoot. Yeah, unfortunately, she right. 

I've gotten a few of those already. 

Wife is always. Right. 

Are you 2? Married. Yes, 50. Oh. That's amazing. Yeah. What advice would you give for a long and healthy relationship? 

Be considerate of each others wants and needs, and never argue about money. 

Look at. It's always the old people, bro. The old people that y'all go to for advice and the church, the Deacons, the elders, the pastors. It's knows these types of dumps who are teaching you how to be a man. Meanwhile, they are out of shape. They are outside the times, acting like no fault. Divorce is not a thing. Acting like this, this is male. Your ship. This is male leadership that tell men to listen to women. This is leadership that you'd rather listen to a guy like this, that a guy like me, most men in the Christian Church would rather listen to that guy than me. Why? Ohh he. He's older. He's wiser. Just because he's married does not mean that he's a successful marriage by the. Way. When's the last time you've had sex, Sir? When's the last time that you've not just, you know. Choked the chicken in in the bathroom. When's the last time that you think? How many? How was the bed? This woman? Every single one of these wives had cheated on their husbands. For sure. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. They have. They have cause. Gentlemen, if you're not getting sex in your relationship, she's giving it to somebody. Women don't just go without sex like that. No, I don't. Just so you know, I don't want to accept what I just said, but it's true. 

How did you learn that? 

Over time. 

You've just gotta be kind to each other and realise each other's wants and needs. 

That's beautiful. OK. 

The bus. 

No. 

Ohh. Geez. 

Oh, hell no. 

Gentlemen, do you do? Do you see why I see a need to intervene as a younger guy, I'm a genzi. Guy. These guys like that were the guys I listened to when. I. Was a kid, not that exact gentleman, but guys like him. Who who would say like? Oh, she's a pistol like that. When her when their wifes disrespecting them or when they're when they like their wives yelling at them or their wife be really passive aggressive. Especially cause I'm I'm Caucasian. I'm in the Caucasian church. Black women are different. Asian women are all types of people are different. But especially with white people, they'll do this passive aggressive garbage, like they won't actually say things they'll be like. Well, I. Why can't you just help me? Like they'll they'll slam things. They'll they'll be like they'll huff and they'll puff like the big bad. Wolf. Right to blow the house down if you don't help. I picked up on these things as a kid. And it got reinforced in my own relationships and the relationships with my friends statistics. All these things. And This is why I tell you, women have their own language, you know, every single time a man said that, they laughed. They laugh because they tamed that guy. That guy is a pocketbook with short hair. He's a hubby. He's not a husband. Is a big difference. Hubby is a guy who's basically like their their girlfriend, like one of their friend girls. Husband is a male leader. Most of those men are. They're not. Those are the guys who would tell you to man up. Meanwhile, they have a manned up in their marriage in 50 years. They've never been a man in their marriage. Ever. They've. Never LED. They submitted the wife right away because they wanted to get vagina from them, so they submitted to them. Oh yeah. That's why they did it. Gentlemen, that's not leadership. That is not leadership. So when I talk about learning the language of women, you got to understand that this is how women get men to turn in the men like that. Overtime, slowly but surely, they break you down and they change you. If you let you let them do it. They don't do it without your permission, but that's their goal is to change you and then by the time they change you, they get bored and they move on. Gentlemen, we need to understand this. So we need to start decoding what they say. We need to start understanding what they're actually saying, not what you think they mean. This is this is very important. Otherwise, we're gonna. You might end up with like. That. And that guy, those men were pathetic. They were weak. And This is why we are living in the world we're living in. I don't. I don't care what you say. Oh, they're good married men. No, they're not. No, they're weak. This is why a lot of men of my generation are weak as well. This is why because they traded their backbones for some extra bedtime fun. Which now they're getting none of it. By the way, I can guarantee you they're getting none because their wife does not respect them. My friends, you take care of yourselves. Win in this arena, because I can guarantee you a lot of us are naturally going to go down that way, and the men will tell you as much that you'll win. Doing that, you won't win. You might win the short term, but you will lose long term doing that strategy. It's a disgrace. My friends, please share your thoughts and your comments about. What? How you've devoted people's messages. What if you think I was fair? Foul off base. Right on point. Please let me know. I would love to hear what you have to say. Please do your own research. I would encourage you to think not with what's below your belt, but with your brain. And because that's part of the reason why those men ended up the way they did. Our friends take care of yourselves. Out of here? Peace.