From the sound of it, the only thing you're going to give him is a list of stuff he needs to do to make you happy. That is not a good deal for a guy. Our friends welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared podcast. I'm your host, Austin Creed, and my friends, they're going to revisit Christian love. We're going to talk about why I believe it too. However, you build off of a fraud or at the very. Least. For it to be something that's disingenuous and not what a lot of people want to pretend that it is. It's it's an unseen battle that's going on in the church today and I really think that we would be doing a disservice to not highlight it. So what we're going to do today is we'll be looking at some videos or I'm going to give my commentary. But more than anything, my friends, what I want. To do. Is I've very. I'm very thankful for this. A lot of men have been joining the channel and they've been sharing. Their thoughts, their comments, their stories on the show, in the comments section of these videos. I'll I love it. I would love for that to continue because at the end of the day, when we realize we're not alone with the difficulties of Christian women, when we realize we're not alone with a lot of the the double standards and the double dipping being exposed. In the churches today and how it's really kind of, it's the oh, like and the is this not as common as it used to be, but there is this, this shop called Build-a-bear. Now we have build a Gump in the Christian Church we have build a a beta. And I'm not saying not to insult you. I'm saying that because when I look in the church today, a lot of the guys like on a goofball, they're good men. The most part, absolutely they are. But the problem is they don't. They're gullible. Ness is being exploited by the women who are actually out here in these streets who are double dipping. And I know I'm not alone with this and I don't want I don't appreciate people trying to gaslight me into thinking that it doesn't happen. Trust me, I have eyes and I have ears, OK? Because I turned up my headphones doesn't mean like that. I don't have them. But look, it's time we really addressed this. And we're going to look at. Some. Videos and we're going to explore why I would say that Christian love is kind of based off of a fraud. One of the things I really want to point out is a lot of the reason why Christian love is not what you think it is is because people like to use this flamboyant spiritual Christian. I call it christianese. Like, if you if you're a non Christian or maybe you're kind of a casual. We should. I don't. I don't get into all these titles. I don't really care about this. Ohh, you're not a real Christian. I don't care about all that garbage, man. Like I'm not God. I don't get to decide who's real, who's not real. I don't do that. I don't play that. Name But what I will say is this. When you look at what people do versus what they say and when you look at what people say, for example, ohh I use my faith and I used to just to trust and I I waited on on this and it's like what are you actually saying? Like how do we actually live these things out for goodness sake a lot of people want to use flamboyant. And philosophical sounding language, whether it's on TikTok or even in the church itself, and they want to make it seem. Like ohh yeah. Yeah, man, that was really profound. I didn't understand a word you said, but it sounded nice. So, you know, it must make. Sense no, I don't play that game over here. We're on this channel. We're all about actually living this. Realistically, I'm not talking about the idealism. I'm not gonna argue idealism with people because it's a waste of time. The waste of time. I'm talking more about how can we actually live this out? How can we actually? Build a lifestyle and make this applicable every day of our lives. How can we build a foundation for ourselves? And actually be able to follow it, kind of like a diet, you know, a lot of people diet and they'll do this crashed fad diet for like a month and then they'll just completely gorge themselves afterwards completely in the gating all their progress. That's what a lot of people do with idealism. They'll be like, oh, I need to like not ever have sex ever. And then I can't have on sexual thought, and I can't do this, and I can't do that. It's like you realize that people got married like and after they had a bot mitzvah for men and a bar mitzvah for, sorry. A bat mitzvah for women and a bar mitzvah for the men. And in Jewish culture, which is where Christian culture stems from. In case you didn't know that. Maybe you've never read the Old Testament or the Torah, or the Talmud. Of the 12 books of Moses, I understand you may not know that, but that's the truth. And the problem is people want. To. Take the culture and then they want to, like, create this Frankenstein of Ohh well, this is where the thing should be. It's like no, this is the way things were and now we have its current. Culture and it is not compatible with the actual teaching of the Bible at all, but now we're trying to find a way to mix it and make nobody happy. That's basically what we found today and without further ado, we're going to jump into these clips and I'm going to show you what I'm talking. About a. Lot of men, you might suspect this, but you're not going to call it out like I do, because at the end of the day, you're a nicer person than me. But well, here's the first thing we gonna look at. Look at this. Let's watch this video and then please, as we watch these videos or as you watch them after we've after I've done this show, please leave your comments. Please leave your thoughts. I know I'm not alone with all these reactions and. I'm very passionate about this. I might come off as anger. I'm not angry. I'm just passionate about trying to expose people who are ruining the very system that they're trying to get you to participate in. Let's, let's read. Let's watch this video before. 

Before God ever next levels you, he separates. You stop calling it loneliness. You're not alone. You've been separated. Now listen. God separates us for three reasons. #1 anytime God separates you, it's because I want to give you the tools necessary for your destiny. That's the first reason I've separated you. You're not alone, Boo Boo. You've been separated. The second reason that God separates you is because I want you to clearly know my voice. 

What? 

And you're surrounded by too many voices to where you can't hear my voice from the coaches voice to your friend's voice, to your base. Voice to your mama's voice. I need you to know my voice, so I'm gonna put you in a season where I can train you and teach you how to know my voice. And the third reason that God separates us, which is my personal favorite. He separates us to make us unrecognizable to the people who only knew us by our wound. 

Wait, what? Hold on a minute. What? 

Well this is getting weird. 

I'm confused. So in other words, this is God's fault because you're single. This is God's fault. It's not because maybe you're not a great relationship material. It's not because maybe you've hooked up with Chad and Tyrone a lot in the past and now you're trying to pretend like that's not an issue. And it's in the past. And it doesn't affect the present. And all. Let's start this over from the beginning and let's really break this down. I wanted it to play in full. And now we're going to break it down piece by piece. 

Before God ever next levels you, he separates. You stop calling it loneliness. You're not alone. You've been separated. 

I love how we're reframing everything. You know how, like you know how I talk about on the show reframing. The men and how we need to think about things differently. Women do this all the time. Don't take. Ohh no, I'm not lonely because of by bad mistakes. I'm not single cause like I've made my mistakes in my relationships. No, they'll say that you are the problem because you're not there in other words. They wanna be like Rapunzel, entangled and hang out in their tower, painting their wall, doing their nails, playing with their gecko, and then they want Flynn rider, who's a Christian guy who's great, who has money, who's hot and all these things to just show up. It's your job to show up, to plan the dates, to impress her, to do all these things. But you can't ask about her past. You can't ask. Wait a minute. What's your body count? Cause then don't get mad. You can't ask. Wait a minute. How are you, 2425? A woman, a Christian and single. And yet you say your body counts non-existent. You you realize. That that's not possible. I'm not talking about improbable. It's not possible. OK, look, I am not going to sit here and make this make believe of. Ohh well, Austin, like a woman could be 25 and a virgin. Really. Let me tell you something right now, OK? I'm younger than 25. I've I am not a virgin and I. AM. A man as a man to get sex, you have to actually give and provide and be somebody, a woman. All you gotta do is really ask the first guy you come across, no pun intended and then ask him and his and that's it. And and lay there and that's it. And you wanna tell me? That despite it being the number one biggest influence they have over men, there's going to not use it ever. No social media, no hot guys. No, no fleeting, no romance novels. Nothing. Right. Please, please, please, please. If you believe that, please leave my. You know, because you are the problem. You, my friend. You're the problem. And you're the reason why I do these videos. Because it's your ignorance that is leading you to being the guy. That's not gonna probably get a Christian divorce because you're the guy who's gonna call me the problem, but then get with a woman who's been doing doing complete double backflips on on. Brad and Chad and front flips on Tyrone. And then you wanna pretend like she's a good woman now she's never been a good woman. But you want it to be women. Do this thing too, and they want the bad boy to be the good man. But a lot of men do the same thing. They want the bad girl to suddenly like they want to make a a hoe into a housewife and it's not possible when you stop. Doing it. 

Now listen. God separates us for three reasons. #1 anytime God separates you, it's because I want to give you the tools necessary for your destiny. 

What does that actually mean? Can someone actually interpret what that means? What is this whole thing? OK, can someone explain to me? Maybe even though I grew up in the church, I still am too ignorant to understand this very apparently basic concept that all these girls talk about on TikTok. Can someone explain to me how it's God's job to find you a man? It's God's job to change you. It's God's job to do. What are women supposed to do? Like, let's look at this woman. This woman is not ugly. This woman is decent looking. She's gonna have a plain Jane, but she's not bad. Look. Thing. She could have a husband, so then they answered. The question becomes, why does she not have a husband? Answer Because the husband is not the guy that she's imprinted on in the past. But he's Christian. That's the thing she's looking for. She's not. She never stopped looking for Chad. She never quit her chase at Tyrone. But she wants Chad to go to Bible study. She wants Tyrone. To go to church, he wants them. The guys who look like that, the guys who are desired by other women like that, they want that guy to also be a moral Christian guy who has all these access to these women, but still only wants them. That's what they want. But they can't. Find that guy cause he doesn't exist. Christian men don't operate like that. They're usually pretty good, consistent, nice men who women are only attracted to when they've hit the wall or after they've just they're not in their prime anymore. And that's why you see a lot of older Christian women putting on makeup, which is sorcery by biblical. Definitions, by the way, in case you wanted to know. They now want to lecture you about what Christian women bring to the table. OK. When where was that 20 years ago? When? When she looked like this. Where was that? When she had nice blonde hair? She looks like she's early 20s. Maybe. You know. Where was that back then? Answer. You were still looking for the guy who? Look like like like Chris like like Chris Pratt or the guy who looks like Brad Pitt, who also had all these things. That's what they're not telling you. 

That's the first reason I've separated you. You're not alone, Boo Boo. You've been separated. The second reason that God separates you is because I want you to clearly know my voice. 

Can anybody tell me what the voice of God actually sounds like? Look, I want to be honest with you. I'm not telling you that God doesn't talk. I'm not foolish enough to say that, but what I will say is. God tends and I'll pick up my personal examples for a second when I've seen the most success is when I'm doing something and things don't seem to work for me in one way or another, but then suddenly stuff starts to work. Maybe I'm trying three different things at one time and then one out of those three things seems to be working somewhat decently. Now I'm gonna say, you know what? I think that's what God wants me to do. That's what I do. I don't sit there and I'm not like, alright, God, tell me what? To do I'm. Listening cause that's typically not how God works anymore. I I. I don't understand this whole thing. Anybody anytime somebody tells me like God literally talks to them, I look at them like they're kind of crazy. Ohh I know they could be telling me the truth, but I'm just. I'm skeptical. Like, how does someone who's not Christian actually do what you're talking about? That's what this is what I said earlier about people who are maybe casual Christians, or maybe they're not Christians or whatever, and they hear stuff like this. They think you're insane. OK. Like, how do we actually live this out? That's what I don't understand. People want to talk and woo language. That makes no sense. And this is the. 

You're surrounded by too many voices to where you can't hear my voice from the coaches voice to your friend's voice, to your base voice. 

We used the term Bay. What is this 2012? 

Your mama's voice. I need you to know my voice. So I'm gonna put you in a season where I can train you and teach you how to know my voice. 

And I find it funny. The same women who want to will want to teach me or teach you as a man about how to listen to God, to the same women who have a hard time listening to their fathers or their or their husbands. You ever noticed that it's the same women who are very defiant and don't listen to anybody but their feelings are the same people to lecture you about how to find God? Do you ever notice that maybe it's just me? I don't know. 

And the third reason that God separates us, which is my personal favorite, he separates us to make us unrecognizable to the people who only knew us. By our wound. 

What does that? What does that mean? Again, could somebody explain what the hell that's supposed to mean? See, This is why This is why, on this show, I don't use language like this. This is why I use very precise words. I try to explain things as thoroughly as possible because I never want to sound like that guy. I never want to sound like I'm using a bunch of words to say nothing or using words that don't make any actual logical sense. They make feelings sense that they make you feel something, but they don't actually logically compute at all. All right, let's go to the next video. Speaking of what doesn't make sense logically, let's see what this woman has to say, and hopefully. She makes a little more sense. 

Excited about this word like God has changed my life like I could. Oh my, this I could literally do laps around the room right now because he's changed my life with this on a question I've asked for years and I I hear the same question on Tik. T.O.K on Christian, TikTok. 

He's wearing a Disney sweatshirt, brother. Ohh no. Gentlemen, anytime a woman says that she's a big Disney person, just so you know, that's code for I'm a hopeless romantic black hole for affection. I want to have a Disney Princess life type of treatment. Just so you know, that's what that signifies. So we're already off to a rough start, but maybe she's going to make a great point here. I have no idea. Let's see. 

Oh. The time, and I haven't heard it from any of the sermons I've watched the podcast I've listened to, or any of the church circles I've been in for years. And it's he's putting me in this waiting season. But why? Why am I having to wait for so long whenever I'm following you, I see other people out here doing the wrong things, and they're getting these beautiful relationships. But why is it that whenever I'm following you and I'm requesting biblical love, I'm having? To wait for so long. 

My question, ma'am, is a how old are you, B? What's your body count? And see how much do you weigh? And I'm gonna go. I'm going for Kevin Samuels. May he rest in peace. Let's actually have a conversation real quick. OK. Ma'am, just because you pray just because you read the Bible just because you do these things does not mean that God owes you something or anybody else owes you something. See, this is this notion. This is why I really don't like it when people use like the ohh I'm bringing ohh. I'm reading my Bible. Ohh I'm going to church. Where's where's my significant other? Where's this? Where's that God? Doesn't owe you anything, bro. Number one, God the busy guy. OK. God is a very busy guy. OK, so there's that. There's also the. It seems like you're just trying to find a dude to marry you, which is a very suspicious. Gentleman, anytime a woman tries to rush you into a relationship, it's a huge red flag. Just so you know, you might think this is great, but then you gotta ask yourself, wait a minute. If this is such a good deal, and if I'm all that. Why is why? Why is she choosing me? Why does she want a relationship from me so badly? What happened to her in the past? What's her body count? What are all these things that are indicators of relationship success? Is it the things you gotta ask? Because a lot of people don't ask them because they don't want to be perceived as a bad person or a rude person or whatever. That's not rude. It's called doing reconnaissance. 

Ask questions like God. Do you just not want me to have love? Why? 

Of course, love enters the conversation now. Oh boy. OK. 

You want this for me? Song Salman Tutu. Let's go. Like a Lily among the thorns. So is my darling among the maids. And you might say, Claudia, what does this verse have to do with anything? And what this has to do with anything? Is that song of Solomon is a whole book surrounding love. Two people who demonstrate very biblical love to each other. This is. 

We're gonna leave conveniently leave out that it was written by Solomon, who was a king. Who was he supposedly the wisest man to ever live. We're gonna leave that part out again. Gentlemen, this is the problem. This is the equivalent of putting out like, a a celebrity marriage or using the. British Monarchy as a model for love. But you know how that bar is. That's a very high bar. See the problem with these types of women? I don't know her personally. She could be a nice person, but the problem is I told you she was a. Hopeless. Romantic. She's quoting song of Solomon. She's wearing a a Mickey Mouse sweatshirt. And she's talking about how God should give her love. This is a hopeless, romantic woman who wants to dance in the rain, who wants to do all these things? You're going to jump through so many hoops for this woman, and she's never gonna be happy. And it's never gonna be enough. I'm letting you know. That straight up. Now if you want to choose to still go for it, that's your choice. I'm letting you know this is the problem. One of the problems with Christian love is that a lot of it is based. Off of fantasies. Based off of Bible stories that are not able to actually be applied in the modern day. No, no, it's not. It's not fiction, but it might as well be. By today's standards, that's the point I'm making to you. We're not talking about how, OK, we live in an economy that's really supposed to be either a you gotta make a lot of money as a man to have your wife stay at home or two you both have. Work. Which then becomes OK then who does the household chores and your wife's gonna complain cause she's gonna see a woman on TikTok who don't do it. All women who talk about how. Ohh, we're partners. No, we're not partners. I'm not a rainbow person. That's where that lingo comes from. Well, let's see what else she got to say. She's not making a lot of she's not off to a great start, but let's see. Maybe she'll come around. 

This EUR love, this isn't necessarily agape love. This book was. 

Ohh now I'm getting a lecture about all the Greek words for love, OK? 

Written before Christ comes, but it is a parallel to how Christ will love the church. OK, and what this verse is saying is he's basically, it's the guy he's talking to the girl and he's like, you don't know, you're beautiful, but know what he's. 

Oh, and now we're quoting One Direction gentleman. This is this is a terrible deal for you. I might. You know this right now, this type of woman right here. You gotta be miserable in this marriage, man. This woman is gonna have you have a standard through the roof, and you aren't gonna be. Able to do it. Never going to be enough. This is an insatiable woman right here. This is an insatiable woman right here. I'm letting you know that right off the rip and and Christian women. This is why a lot of Christian men are not getting married. Or at least they're not thinking about doing it because you have become like the very people that you mock. The feminists. This is the sole feminist programming that's come in there, ma'am. At what point have you mentioned what you're gonna give to this man that he should marry you? What are you providing to a Christian man? Then that would lead him to say, alright, I'm gonna get married not only to you, but to the state. And in the eyes of God so that we can have a relationship. What have you said thus far? That indicates that you're gonna do anything for that guy other than give him a bunch of really high standards. He's gonna have to try to hurdle every single day. And as he does that. He's gonna raise his expectations even higher. What else have you said? Not much. 

Saying is I look at all these other girls and I see a bunch of thorns. And you're like the flower. Like, I love you the most. I only have eyes for you. 

Oh, they want Chad to only have gentlemen? Here's the here's another problem that I need to address. When women talk about men, they're not talking about you. They're not talking about me. They're talking about Chad talking about Tyrone. They're talking about the guys who are the eights, nines and 10s, who make a lot of money, who are good looking, who have status, those who are talking about when they talk about men. The other guys, sevens and below. Arguably 6 and below. They don't exist to these women, OK? Now as they get older, their standards might dip a little bit. Or maybe after they get a break up their their standards might go down a little bit. But overall when they talk about men, they're not talking about you. They're not talking about me. They're talking about Chad. They're talking about Tyrone. That's what they're talking about. They're talking about these guys who are really good looking, they who, guys who they want to love them. The average guy would give this woman a relationship. But guess what? She's single. What does that tell you? 

All the hopeless romantics are going ohh. They're so cute. 

What I just say about hopeless romance, I I could read this like a. Book I told you. 

Yeah, there's a whole book about it. Read about it. I want that. Me too. And guess what? God. 

Of course they want it. Women are hopeless, romantic by nature. Of course you want romance. Duh. The hell course you do. Who doesn't? 

It's not for you, and here's what he's saying on a very real note, it's not that I don't want you to have love son or daughter. I want you to experience perfect love. And that's why I'm requiring you to wait because. 

No, no, no, no, no, no. You have to work for this, love. It's not free. This is the problem. They want to sit back there and wait and be like, alright God give me my Prince Charming and just show up. And and give me all this love. Ma'am. You have to actually be a woman that that guy would actually want to marry, and from the sound of it, the only thing you're going to give him is a list of stuff he needs to do to make you happy. That is not a good deal for a guy. Guys don't wanna deal with that, OK? Ohh, they might deal with it for one night when they're popping your cheat, but they're not gonna marry that. Yeah, you want to use that same type of logic and then have a Christian relationship. No. No, it does not happening and that's why, gentlemen, romance novels are you are being compared to romance guys, guys who don't even exist. That is, you're competing against. You need to be that guy who does not even exist. That's the equivalent of you comparing this woman to like Kate Upton. Or to some woman who's like. Highest of the higher tier, which you can argue she's not, but I'm using her as an example. They would say that's unfair and it is. But then what I want to say that a woman like this comparing you to these romance novelists or guys like Solomon, who was a king. That's not. That's apparently fair game. I don't think so. 

Then my order of the way that I want things to go down. I want you to experience love in a beautiful way. The way I intended for it to experience. And so whenever you are following my righteous path, they're going to be people who I say uh, I'm not allowing them to be in your. A life because they don't know me and I am love. And if they don't know love itself, then how are they going to know how to love you? And some of y'all don't even know my love. You don't have a relationship with. 

Ma'am, I I love that we're quoting Song of Solomon, and we're not quoting Leviticus. We're not quoting Deuteronomy. We're not quoting the, the, the any of the 12 books of Moses. We're not quoting the law. We're not quoting what God actually talks about gender roles and what men are supposed to do and what women are supposed to do. Art is nowhere to be found. What's to be found is romance. That's all they want. But if I talk about me wanting sex, that's bad. I'm an evil guy. But you could talk about one romance all day, and that's not a problem, apparently. See, this is. This is why we have to have this conversation. I'm. I don't do this gentleman. Cause I'm mad or upset. I do this because a lot of men can't translate what you're hearing the way that I can. And I'm happy to do it. 

With me, you don't know my biblical, pure love. So how are you going to recognize it? Whenever it. 

Walks to that door you apparently. Nobody else has either. Because if it did, you'd be married by now, but you're not. 

Won't because you don't spend time with me. You don't have a relationship with me. Where you understand what that. Love is and this. The part that just he said. Claudia, my love for you is not supposed to be symbolic of how one day you'll be loved by somebody. Their love for you. And that romantic relationship is supposed to be symbolic about I love you. A romantic relationship is meant to show you how I love you. I am not meant to show you how one day you could be loved by somebody else and. 

What? I know what it's talking about, how I'm great at translating, but that didn't make no sense, in other words. We're using God to not use as a guide, but as like a ideal that can't be reached like. Huh. Ladies, if you're watching the show, can you please like translate this for me and for the guys watching this channel because that didn't make no sense. But it's nothing says to anybody who's watching the show right now, because that didn't make any sense to me. Holy crap. What is that? 

And we get it so backward. And we say, well, we're in this waiting room and I guess we'll have to settle for God's love. He goes. No, that was the point the whole time because some of y'all need a romantic relationship to. Understand how I love you. 

All right, I've had enough of. What is this woman even talking about, man? Ohh man, what is she even talking about? No words. You need to be a romantic. You need to be a romantic dream guy and she's holding you to the to the to God level standard. Ohh, that's great. Good luck good. Luck with that. See this is the problem. Where's the conversation at with here's what I bring to the table. Here's what I'm willing to do. This is what I want in return. Let's make this work nowhere to be found. All there is to be found is here's what I want you to do. Here's what I expect from you. Here's what God's telling you to do. Man. Get that out of here. Ohh man. Oh no. Where's the? Where is the realism to be found? I'm not seeing it, my friends. We made it this far. You probably have a headache like I do right now. And I apologize for that. I didn't know that was going to be. That bad? I. I did not watch that beforehand and I am so glad I didn't because I wouldn't need to take like a 30 minute nap. After I did that. Because I'm exhausted after watching that. That was tough, man. I'm not gonna lie to you. That was tough. But if you appreciate the pain that we went that I went through today for your all's sake because you know I'm happy to do it. Please. Let me know your thoughts, your comments about what you heard today. Feel free to drop a. Like on this? And look, I understand that everybody has their own. Uh, everybody does their own thing, so your your experience is going to be different even if you disagree with me, I don't blame you. You probably don't want to accept the unfortunate realities that we face. And so you'd rather take it out on me than take it upon yourself to transform and to, you know, evolve and mature. But I understand my friends take care of yourselves. Please. Anything like me, I might need to take an Advil after that. That was. Well, I've got a headache listening after listening to that. Ladies. You want a man. Please don't do what? That woman didn't give me a headache or any other man a headache. For. That. Matter, my friends, to kill yourselves. Please do your own research. Please. Think for yourselves. I'm out of here. Peace.