The problem is now they want that where was that when you were 1817 wanting to get married and avoid the Rooster Roller coaster or the carousel? For those of you who might refer to it as that, where was this when you were at your prime years? Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared Podcast. I'm your host, Austin Creed. My friends, we're going to revisit Christian dating, and I'm going to. I'm gonna expose the lies and the hypocrisy and the the sheer unbelievable. Hello. Fusions that I see. Look, I don't like being on TikTok or anything more than I have to, because quite frankly, I can feel my IQ dropping like the room temperature, the longer I'm on the app, but nonetheless, what we're going to do is we're going to look at dating advice for Christian men that other people want to put forward about Christian dating. And you know, what's the funny part? Christian. Daddy, I'll put it all on the. Line right now. Well, almost all of it #1 the reason why I think Christian dating is a complete myth in. A lot of ways. It's because a lot of times it's not done. In good faith. All too often you have men who are actually trying to date. With intention and do things biblically to all but most. And then the woman on the other hand, they get the cherry pick they get to say, oh, you know what? I'll see this guy intentionally and he's not going to assume I'm out getting plowed by Pookie. He's not going to expect me to be out there having fun with Ray Ray because you know what? He's so naive. He's not gonna see it. Or even worse, what they'll do is maybe like they're 25 or they're they're 27, or they're 30, or they're whatever they've been, they've been ran through. They're doing the Rooster roller coaster ride time after time after time, and then they want to come into the Christian. Church. And then they want. To be like where are the good men at? I want a good man. And they want to tell you how to date them. And before book, you had to pay for like, fries and a milkshake. And now you gotta pay for a house and a ring. And all this just to go where he got on fire. Sale. You think I'm making this up? I unfortunately am not. You might ask me how I know this. Oh, I've seen it. Oh yeah, I've seen it so well and I've read the research a lot of other. People talk about this. If you think that I'm just bitter, hurt and alone. I'll tell you something. You could think whatever you want. But unfortunately you're wrong. I know you want to believe you're right. But you're that you're wrong. My friends, I'm not. We're going to do. We're going to explore, and we're going to watch some videos. Y'all want to watch some videos. Let somebody else do the talking for once. I couldn't agree more. Let's do it. Fell we. Here we go. Let's listen. You'll see what she got to say. 

I feel like a lot of people and Christians look at Christian dating very cringey they think Christians take it way too seriously. They get. Way too fast cause they just want to sleep together. I don't know. There's so many stereotypes. And to be honest, I used to also think like that. But now I have a new perspective and I want to share. 

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It translate that for you. Translation. Yeah. I I dealt with all these bad boys, but now all of a sudden I've I've. I've been redeemed by the blooming man. All my sins have been washed away. I'm here to give you. Uh, what everybody else has already gotten for basically for free. Ohh, I know she didn't directly say that, but that's what she actually meant. Let's continue, shall we? 

I've been learning all about the covenants and promises of God and how marriage is probably, if not one of the most important ones. 

She had just learned learning about it. What I just said, let's keep. 

Going the world dance. So flip it late. Let's go and casual date and just get to know each other. Let's not call it anything. Let's swipe on hinge and look at all of the. Options and then if we're not feeling it, let's ghost each other. 

She's done that. 

Here's my new perspective. If marriage is one of the most important things to God, finding the right person. Is going to be. 

Hard. Where was the right person when you were doing back flips on on Tyrone and Funk flips on Chad again. Here's the reason I hate this so much. You want to know why I get really annoyed by this? Because if people actually stuck to what the Bible says, then there'd be no issue I wouldn't have. To do this, show today. I can take the day off, but guess what? It doesn't work that way because of feminism and because of and look, feminism was not all bad for men, by the way. I know you think that, but that's actually frees a lot of us men to actually do what we want to do. But if you want to be a traditional guy, you're you're it's tough for you, man. I'm sorry. Unfortunately, you are not in the best marketplace. No. Now if you want to be more biblical bachelor like me, you're in good shape because now you could kind of selectively choose and go your own way. That's cool. But now, but now you see what you see. See, here's a problem. Women have their own language. OK, you will take what they say at face value, because that's what they want you to do. Meanwhile, other women know what they're saying. And who know what they're talking about. We know what they're saying. She's talking about this because she's been that girl who's been ghosted by Chad, Tyrone, Pookie, some other guy, Giga Chad, even maybe. Those are all archetypes for men, in case you don't know what I'm talking about. The problem is now they want that where was that when you were 1817 wanting to get married and avoid the Rooster Roller coaster or the carousel? For those of you who might refer to it as that, where was this when you were at your prime years? Because I guarantee you this woman looks about like 25, she looks about 25. Maybe even. Older than that. Problem is, women have options out here, and when they have, when you're only as loyal as your options. And it's very easy to try to find the security guy over on the right side, and then the exciting guy on the left hand side, you are almost never going to be the same guy. As both exciting and the guy who gives her the butterflies and the excitement and it gets her downstairs, all watery and warm, it's not going to be. You're probably not. Gonna be the same guy. Let's continue. Let's let her keep talking. I don't wanna. The reason why I don't want to play her all the way through is because I don't know if I can handle hearing and all the way through. 

And there should be a lot of weight to who you date. Dating shouldn't be this thing that just fills voids. There should be complete time and effort put into it. If you enter into a relationship as a Christian, you are intentionally dating this person to see if you want to marry them if you want. To bind your life with them. For the rest of your life, God is never going to break his covenant with us. I actually learned that God didn't create relationships for them. 

I just again, she's saying she just learned this. What were you doing? Fire to this? 

She seems. 

Oh, don't answer that. I already know the answer and those of you who are make tale or whatever. You already know what she's been doing. She's been out here in these streets how and all the fun drinking all. The drink having a. Having a ball. But now now she wants you to be a good man and wife her up. Uh ma'am. Why are you deserving of of commitment? Let's ask the question. Why are you deserving A commitment like? That. What says that you are deserving of being intentionally dated? Why? Because you're a woman. Sorry, no. A man is not entitled to anything because he's a man and a woman is not entitled to anything cause he's a woman. You earn the things. That you get. In this life or for some reason there's this notion in society today that women are deserving. Of things by default. No, I don't buy that for a second. 

To break it all, yes, we're human and sometimes we get it wrong and there's grace for that. Relationships are important because if they break, there's trauma and there's brokenness, and God doesn't want us walking in any of that. This is why it's important to be intentional with everyone you choose to. 

OK. 

She's just learning now. She doesn't done that in the past. Keep in. Mind, let's continue. 

And be slow with it be slow. 

Oh, in other words, don't expect me to actually give you anything, you know, like the one thing that you want, which is, you know, below my belt. No, I'm gonna give you all that I've been able to. Chad. I gave it to Tyrone, but now you gotta pay high. You gotta pay top dollar. Even though I let him get it for very little fee. Now you get to pay top dollar for it. That's wow. Good job. Great. You're great sales pitch. 

Ohh before you start dating, take the time to get to know the person without actually crossing any boundaries. Boundaries are important and staying committed and not compromising. I've learned is probably the most important thing. Call me crazy but I really believe you don't have to go through a ton of relationships before you actually find the person you're going to be. 

Gentlemen, I would you would be forgiven for thinking that. Ohh, and you're being so mean, bro. Why would you say this about this woman? For all we know, she's a nice woman. She's been a good girl. Blah blah blah, gentleman. This is a teaching moment. Look at the screen. If you're listening to the podcast, I'll describe it for you, but well, but look at the screen right now. Let's look at what you let's look. At. What we're looking out here? Oh, we got. Make up we got filters. We got. All kinds of cosmetics going on. Here, she's literally wearing fake skin. Fake AI filters. And then she wants to lecture you as a man. About what you how you should treat her. How has she been treating herself when it comes to men? I find it funny that the it's the women who virtue signal the most about telling you how to be biblical are often the most debaucherous people out here. Now. You might say that description that might fit me. I don't claim to be holier than anybody. I don't do I have problems? Oh, absolutely I do 100%. I don't claim to be holier than people. What I claim? To have his knowledge and understanding of the current world we're living in, and the problem is. A lot of women who are Christian women, so-called, they're not telling you about their past, about the guys that they dealt with in the past, who treated them bad, who they're and printed on, by the way. Ohh yeah. Yeah. They're not over that guy. No, they're not. They want you to be like that guy, but be Christian. That's what they want. But they won't tell you that because then you might judge them or anything else. They won't tell you what they want. See this is the problem. This is why Christian data needs to be exposed for the fraud. It is because a lot of people want to pretend like they're all dating intentionally and they're all out here giving people the honest to God. Truth. No, they're not, in fact. The men usually are, and they're the ones who. Get screwed over the most. They're the ones who particulate gasoline, thinking that they are the problem, when in fact it's the women who are out of your cherry picking between feminism and being Christian, then the ones who are out here trying to have their cake eat it too, would have you beg it for them. Now if you want to marry a woman. Like that and. That's your choice. A lot of men don't realize that's what they're marrying and. Then they find. Out five years in, when all of a sudden she. Becomes a feminist and you're like. Well, it's like the shining. You walk in the room and you. Don't know who's in the house. You think I'm making? This up, I wish I was. But I'm not. Let's keep going. Let's go to the next video. More, more dating advice from women to men, first of all and gentlemen, don't ever listen to dating advice that women give to men. I I know when you're a younger guy, you think that, hey, if I want to get women, I gotta listen to what women tell me to do. No. What am I? Say? What? That's ridiculous. Why would you say that? I'll tell you why. Because women will tell you what to do. But they don't want you to listen to them. They want you to be masculine. They want you to not listen to them because that demonstrates you have options and that you don't care. You think that they're above these games, they're not. Now pretend like they are, but they are not. Let's continue. Let's watch this video. 

Then God, if you see a girl that you like in church. A conference, a small group certain outing. Please, please. Please do not wait and then text a friend to get her info. Are we 12? Are we in middle school? Passing notes. Don't get me wrong, that's cute. But pass it to her. Don't pass it to the friend. Don't go in DMS and texting your friend to get the girls. Info. 

I want to note the shading language that she's using. Ohh and by the way in case you don't realize, I'm pretty sure she got the tattoo, that necklace or a tattoo I can't. No. She either has a necklace or a tattoo. I can't tell what that is, but it might be a tattoo. I can't tell. But regardless, my friends, the shaming language anytime a woman tries to shame you immediately disregard what she said. Because she shine to emotionally manipulate you and then doing. What she wants you. To do, she's trying to get you. To avoid the logic. And also gentlemen, let's have this discussion real quick. I don't care if there's women like this you see on the Internet or women you see in real life. If you are up talking to a woman and she's telling you all the things she wants from you and she's like 25 or older than that or even like 22, like when you normal, most people graduate college no less, are in the military or something. Move on. Moving on. If no one's dated or married this woman yet with intention. If she was so valuable, if this deal was so great. Why has no one else jumped on it yet? 

About this gentle weird. 

Weird, right? Kind of weird that all of a sudden you'd think. Wait a minute, if this deal is so great, because it seems great, and it always seems great. The question you have to ask is wait a minute. If it's so good, why has no one else taking this deal yet? Why is nobody else married to this woman? Why is no one else in a serious relationship with this woman? If the steel is so good, why is no one else seemed to be in a rush to take it? I'll let you marinate on that while we continue this video. 

Men of God. 

Please step. 

Don't step up shaming language yet again. 

Use that courage that God has given you. Use that boldness that God has given you. Use that strength that God has given you and step up. Ohh. Go to the girl and say hey. Simple as that. Bye. 

Ohh my land. 

Hell no. 

You. This is unbelievable. Oh, in other words, give me what I want. Give me the attention. Risk the rejection. Do all these things. Because what you're supposed to do? OK, ma'am? Well, if I'm going to do all those things, what are? You. Supposed to do if I'm supposed to lead. What are you supposed to do? You going to follow me? Ohh, you're only gonna do it if you feel like it. Ah, see. See, that's what I talked about when I talk about Christopher. The idea of Christianity morphing with feminism. And it's the people who preach the most about how much their they use their religion as like a a shield. They use it as like a a shield, but not like as a night shield like Captain America shield like bash. You in the head with it. Because the sore is too conspicuous, so instead what they do is they use it as like a shield, so you can't hold them accountable for anything that they do. Oh, I've been forgiven. You can't blame me for anything. Yeah. Sorry, sorry. We have these things called eyes and ears and we can hear and see what you're saying and. It's not enough. And I can't in good faith tell men. To just take this bait, it's stupid. Well, let's let. Let's see what. Else we got here. I think this OK. This one has music on it, so I'm not gonna play this video. What I will do is we're gonna read this list that she has on the screen says to the Christians who want to be in a relationship in today's world. Here's what she says. Make sure you are equally yoked again. Equally yoked is a code word. In other words, they do what I want them to do. You would think that it means faith. That's only one part of it. The other half is they do what I say and I. With your partner, I hate the term partner. I hate it. You know why? Because that is a word that implies that you guys are equals in every way which you are not. This is not. An equal partnership. You are a if you are a Christian woman, you are supposed to follow the lead of your husband. He is not your partner, he is your. Husband, you listen to him. Rob. Miss Ohi getting a phone call right now. Oh, I'll call him back. But here's the problem, OK? Too many people today. They use the term partners of wearing equal partnership. No, you. I'm the leader. You listen to me. You follow my lead. If I'm the man I'm leading. And if you want to follow, you can get lost. You don't listen to me. Or I'm gonna walk away from you. I'm not gonna put up with this. Ohh, well, let's have a rounding table. Let's discuss all of it now. Now I'll listen to your side of it if you want, but I'm making the choice and you're following me. That's. How? That works. That's not toxic. That's called being a man. Next thing women pursue men, she says, pursue her. Or other words, you risk the rejection and give her all your attention and validation and everything for free. Make your feelings for her. Very clear, in other words. Make her unattracted to you. Women like uncertainty because it makes them. Chase a man. See, don't ever listen to this advice. This is terrible advice. Respect each other's physical and emotional boundaries. In other words. Ah, don't expect any. Don't expect any leg from me. Don't expect any intimacy from me. And but I expect everything from you. Next, she says women let him lead you. Be gentle and be clear with your feelings. As well. Let him lead you see that as if you are allowing him to lead. No. You're gonna follow me, or you're gonna get lost. That's how that works. Next case. 

Yeah. 

Love each other the way Christ loves the church. OK, that doesn't really have any any inherent meaning, but OK next. Again, this is what's called christianese. It's words that sound nice, but they don't actually have practical application to them. I I get what you're saying, but they don't have practical out like ohh I supposed to actually lead that out. There's always someone in who is being chased and someone who is chasing. In a relationship? I don't want to believe that, but unfortunately it's true. Next thing she says, communicate about your thoughts, feelings and issues. In other words, let be an emotional tampon. Next, be willing to sacrifice your time, money, attention for that person again. Give all of your stuff away for free as a man and you won't get any intimacy back, because if you do that, you're a bad Christian. Next. Meanwhile, oh, by the way, while you're doing all this, she's probably gonna be giving it up to some other dude. Celibacy is not really exist. If you're sell a bit, someone's going to buy a bit shout out. To coach Greg Adams. The problem that we have today. Is. Women don't actually hold out for men they're attracted to. They'll make, they'll make you hold out. If you're the beta guy that she's trying to lock down. But if you're the guy she actually is attracted to, she's downright dangerous with how she's around you. I know you don't. You don't have to believe me if you don't want to. And like I said before, I'm not a perfect man. Let me tell you something. I've been on 1st dates with women where they initiate having sex with me. You don't have to believe that if you all want to. I'm telling you that because it's true. I didn't have to run game. I didn't have to do nothing. And they did it. Now my son, everyone's going to do that. No. What I am saying is. When when a woman's attracted to you? She's not gonna make you joke through these hoops and. Do these goofy crap. OK. Next. Put Christ in the center of your relationship and love Christ more than you love your partner. Again. Partner is another Miss notion and secondly. The reason I can't stand a lot of this language is because people don't actually know what it means. It sounds really deep, so they want. To be like ooh yeah. Ohh, that's more and sophisticated, but they don't actually know what it means. So then you're like, OK. OK, what does that mean? Put Christ in the center of your relationship. Where was Christ? At the center of your relationship when you were out there being the 304? And I. Wasn't, and I wasn't because a lot of young men, that's not that. They wouldn't have a lot of relations outside of marriage, but they can't because they just have a hard time doing it. Women are in their hand. They don't have that problem. So one of the easiest things they can do, that's why that's the deficit. And to you it's an advantage. I know they don't like that, but guess what? It's too Dang bad. That's how reality is. My friends Christian dating, I have to expose it for the lies and whatnot that that it tells you because it tells you as a man to basically just take a raw deal and put in all this work. For something that somebody else probably got for next to nothing or pay off for our fire sale or basically got for free. Now when you choose to be upset and mad about that, if you want, but unfortunately it's the God's honest truth. Now, if you still want to be married, that's your business. What I'm telling you is that I can guarantee you your wife and a virgin. Ohh, she'll tell you she's. A. Virgin because she has she stands to gain, you know. What she tells? You. She's not. You're gonna look at her differently. So instead what she'll tell you is what you want to hear. And your head sit there and say, Austin, you don't know anything about my girl. My girl's different. Blah, blah, blah. OK, believe that if you want. Just know. I know women who they've been with me and then they try to pull that stuff on the other dudes. And I got to be the guy to tell them dude. Don't marry that woman. Don't. Don't take that woman seriously. You don't have. To believe me, if you don't want to. But while I lie about this. You can choose able think of a liar. On my lying to you. My friends. I encourage you to do your own research on this, and I know a lot of you are going to be very upset, but that's OK because that means that guess what? That means you get to. Decide for yourself. What you want to do, my friends? You take care of yourself. Do your research, please. Think for yourself. Because at the end of the day, if you're just believing what other people tell you all the time. You're not thinking for yourself. You're putting yourself at a very big disadvantage. My friends. You take care. Of yourselves. I'm out of here.