Or if there's an in between, the problem is you're going to get shamed. If you want to ask a question, you're gonna get shamed. If you wanna go be a biblical bachelor like me, you wanna go and blaze your own trail and you wanna be. As close as you can. But you're not going to fall for the for the matrix. You're not gonna fall for the garbage you're fed every day that. Ohh just forgive and forget. Just move on. Just do it cause it's the manly thing to do. No. The manly thing to do, in my opinion. Is to. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared podcast. I'm your host, Austin Creed. My friends. Today, we're going to talk about the dark sides of Christian marriage. So there was a guy in my comment section, I believe it was earlier today and he discussed how he was getting engaged and he brought up the dichotomy that I've heard pretty much my entire life. Which was you either remain silent on this side of the air. Well, or on the other side, you get married and you know, I think it's very important that we address the purpose of this show. The purpose of this message, and it's not so that we get to get out of a debate about ideals. No, I'm talking about how we can actually, realistically live our lives here. And one of the dark sides. Of Christian marriage is that people are not honest. OK, now, this isn't just Christians. Marriage in general. OK, so this is not something that's just exclusive to people who are religious. However, it's exacerbated in the Christian world. Well, because I. Will grow up in this world. I don't want to hear a Dang thing from people who want to lie. And tell me. Ohh, know what the women are like when their crews just stop. Stop. Gentlemen, we need to have a frank conversation. OK. I understand that if you were born in the church or even. If you're a guy who's. Not super into the truth. You don't go all the time. I don't care where you're at with that. But I do care. About is if there's this notion in society that ohh I'm Christian dating ohh, this is different. I'm holier, you know we did with purpose. It's they pretend like it's a mixture of a bunch of different things. Courtship tradition. Modern. Not so not so modern. The whole thing is it can entire disaster. And the reason why I say that there's dark sides of Christian Americans. Because the women are overall, not just in the Christian subculture, but in society as a whole. Women have a lot more experience both in life and sexually than most men, period. Now let's add to the fact that a lot of women, they have a rebellious stays usually between the ages of 16 and 25. It's not 30. And maybe beyond that. So let's add that to the equation as well, and say that women have a lot more experience sexually, a lot more relationship experience and a lot more, and they're good with human dynamics and they know how to manipulate people around them, be they male or female, all young, rich, poor, doesn't matter. And again, this isn't always insidious. A lot of this is very normal. The problem is, men don't talk about this. Lot of men want to pretend like, oh, she goes to church now she's good. Oh, she she grew up in the church. She had her little rebellious things, but now she's back, and now she's holy now, and now we can put the whole thing aside. Now you seem to be confusing forgiving with forgetting. I can forgive God can forgive, but I'm. I'm over here and I. Say, wait a minute. So you were out here doing back flips and front flips on Chad, Tyrone, Pookie, Ray, Ray, Enrique, Eduardo, all these guys, right? But now me, I've been the good man. I'm not saying me personally, I'm using an anecdotal of I'm using anecdotal. And statistical evidence. Here. Well, you're the average guy, right? You're a good guy. You were taught to be respectful. You were taught to value women. Respect women. All these things. Right. And you look at the guys, whether it's in high school, middle school, college and beyond. You're like, why do all these women have the same story? They've all been traumatized. They've all been abused by our. Or a cheetah by their ex boyfriends. Their boyfriends were no good. They're looking for a good man. They want a nice guy, but all their boyfriends are jerks. It's all familiar to anybody. It's all familiar at all. My friends in math, there is this thing called the lowest common denominator. And in life we have a lowest common denominator. If you want to pause and variable. Amidst a sea of information. If we have to ask the question of meaning, it maybe that one constant. Is the problem. Maybe your selection is the problem, John, and there's a huge difference between a woman having one bad experience with a guy and then going in totally different direction and pivoting and finding good men doesn't usually happen. But let's speak hypothetically. Let's say that that does happen. That's different. She says she's got many of those guys. Fifteen of those guys. 100 of those. Guys and if you. Think the number 100? It's too high. I'm sorry. You don't have any idea what's going on in these streets out here, sugar baby culture. Her. TikTok Instagram, flying girls out, mahi-mahi y'all know what the Hell's going on out here? If you think that a girl, it's almost impossible for a girl to have intimacy with 100 guys. You are out of your mind. You are out of your mind. I don't know what to tell you. You are. Naive and that's. Exactly the problem a lot. Of men want to assume the best. We have a natural inclination to not want to be with a woman who has a higher body. Count. And if anyone tries to shame you for that. There, that is not a problem, that is biology, my friends. And while I appreciate it when people bring up the idea of the idea of ideology of you either got to be this or that, I don't fall. I I don't. I don't go for that. You know why? Because. No one can. Actually live that out. Nobody can actually do that. See, there's a difference between philosophy and actual real life. So when we talk about this idea of either moving to China and being a monk or living here becoming a dad, you know corporate, you know, beta Brad kind of guy there and there's no in between. Of course, there's an in between. The problem is you're gonna get Shane if you want to ask a question, you're gonna get shamed. If you want to go be a biblical bachelor. Like me, you wanna go and blaze your own trail and you wanna be. As close as you can. But you're not going to fall for the for the matrix. You're not gonna fall for the garbage you're fed every day that. Ohh just forgive. And forget, just move on. Just do it cause it's the manly thing to do. No, the manly thing to do, in my opinion. Is to use your brain. And actually be someone who is masculine. Masculine qualities are not just drinking beer and are wrestling dudes or going to the gym. Those are going to the gym is great, man. Good shape is great. But being a guy worthy of respect is also a whole nother thing entirely. The problem is and I've I've talked about this before, this is nothing new. If you're just watching the show for the first time. First of all, welcome. Second, I've talked about this so many times, but marriage is not the same institution. It was back in the biblical days, even 100 years ago. It's the word is the same, but the meaning, the paperwork, the play out, all of it is different. Just look at the statistics of divorce and marriage and how the divorce has gone up. Marriage has gone down. Down. But yet, for some reason you're supposed to just go for it. You do realize that back in the day the church ran marriage was the religious thing. Now it is run by the state, not the not the church, but the state. But yet it's still the same thing. Apparently our feminism happened about 60 years ago. Does that not matter at all either? I guess not. I guess the idea of Traditionalism isn't around anymore. You know, the whole wives submit to your. Husband's thing. I guess that's not there anymore, because ohh, that's oppressive. Oh, that's bad. So we don't want that. But we want you men to be traditional. Don't you dare ask me to pay for dates. Don't ask. Don't dare have me do anything besides whatever the hell I want to do when I feel like it. Because if you don't do that, then you're a bad toxic man. And I'm going to call you out and I'm going to embarrass you. I'm gonna call you names. Gonna ruin your reputation again. This is a reality that a lot of men face, so that how they've happened to you, that is great. I'm happy for you. I really am. The problem is a lot of men have experienced this. I was in the military for a couple of years. I saw this. I saw a lot of debaucherous things. I saw some realities. A lot of men who grow up in the church, who spend a lot of time volunteering in the church. They won't see these things. So they won't want to accept. What we're talking about right now. They won't want to. Update in the back of their brain, they'll ask questions, but they won't actually ask hard questions because they've been taught to just accept whatever you're told they don't think for themselves, which, if you've anybody's read in Napoleon Hill's book outwitting the Devil the Devil. In that book talks about how. Being a super ideological and not thinking for yourself. And he says the church is one of the biggest one of the biggest helps to him in a lot of, in all honesty, not the theology always, but how they practice things, these sacraments, all these things that they do that a lot of times they cripple peoples individual thinking, which allows them to think for them. They outsource their thinking to the pastor, to the elders, to their parents, to their mentors. To other people who they think are smaller than them, they stop thinking for themselves and instead they just take the Okie dope. They just go with the program because they've been told it's a good thing to do and so they believe it's a good thing to do and that is why as a dark side to the Christian marriage, because you're not instructed. About your wife, you're not. You are not told to care about a woman's past. There's an old adage that says that women care about a man's future and men care about a woman's past. But you've been so shamed, not or even you have not been instructed to ask those questions. That even if you. Have you're shamed for asking those questions? And even if you ask those questions, you are ashamed out of the Christian community. If you don't want to adhere to what they say. You should do. We need to be a complete celibate monk, or you need to be a married. We God. In other words, it's very hard to say masculine in your married gentleman #1 because marriages didn't used to last that long because people tended to, you know, take a dirt nap, about 404550 tops. Now people don't really buy it till like 708090. 100 You don't think that extra time is going to cause an extra strain on your marriage? And then you Add all the changes on top of it. You Add all the feminism on top of it, and how it's basically you won't let the cherry pick, by the way, in case you didn't know that they like to cherry pick between the feminism. And Christianity, they want you to be a traditional Christian man, but then they want to be like a christophel. I call them crystal femmes, Christian, Christian feminists. Crystal Femme is the idea of a woman being a feminist, but she then cloaks her feminism, and this idea of virtue signaling like, oh, I go to Bible study. Ohh. I read my Bible all the time. Oh, I've posted stuff on Facebook. Ohh I do this and I volunteer and I do this and I do that. Meanwhile she's a total feminist. And you got to exercise the demon out of her. But that a lot of you don't realize that you take things at face value. You don't read between the lines. You're not paying attention. You're just going with the program, because that's what you've been told to do. And there's no shame in it until you know the truth. And then there's. Human being, after you hear a message like. This. And then you go. Back and you continue to take. The. Take the the, the the spoon fed stuff they feed you, that's your choice. That's the conscious choice you're making versus before. You didn't know. Now you do so now you get. To make a choice. You want to be another sacrificial lamb that's sent up to. The altar. Or do you want to be somebody who thinks for themselves and decides whether? They want to. Actually, use what God gave them between their brains, between their ears, and use that God does not tell people to turn their brains off. I don't know where this idea came from that. Oh, you're a good Christian of you to stop thinking that's stupid. I refuse to be. For that. I refuse and you should too, quite frankly. But I'm not gonna. I'm gonna tell you what you should do. This is just this is just something to give a little food for thought for. But there are dark sides to marriage. Gentlemen. Five years, seven years average. Marriage is 7 years. For divorce. Ohh, not even a divorce. We're talking about sexless marriages. Your wife leveraging sex against you for chore play. All these things guys at this side of the Internet. I've talked about this for years. My one of my favorites is coach Greg Adams. Shout out to coach Greg Adams. He has this thing called the marriage wheel. And it's very accurate. I've seen it happen in some of my friends. I've seen it happened with some of the people in the older generations. These are real unfortunate things that happened in our lives. Question is, are you going to just go with the Okie Doke or are you going to think for yourself? I'll leave that decision to you. In the mean time. I encourage you to think for yourself, I. Encourage you to. Remind yourself of what you want out of this life because you don't know. Then you can't get mad when you. Don't get it. My friends, you take care of yourselves. Think for yourselves. I look forward to seeing you next time I'm out. Peace.