And this is something that I would encourage other men to have and don't feel bad if people try to guess light. You don't feel bad if people try to tell you you're a bad man for asking a question or thinking for yourself instead of just doing what people tell you to do. And being a good schmuck. My friends, welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared Podcast. I'm my I'm your host, Austin Creed and my friends, we wanna talk today about. I really wish I didn't have to have this conversation about the church today. I really wish I didn't have to do it. But the problem is when we look at the church today and I see that people want to preach morality, and yet they don't give people a proper outlet in which to live this life, they don't say hey. We want you to live a certain way and because of that, we're going to advocate for these types of policies and the government. We're going to advocate for you to be able to actually live this mindset out because it's one thing to say, hey, gentleman go out there and get married because marriage is the right thing to do. And then when you look at the divorce courts, you look at the marriage laws, you look at how community. Properties divided up. You look at most marriages are ended by women. You look at the fact that no fault divorce is a thing and people can just leave for any reason that they want. It paints a more realistic picture and it makes people start to ask questions and that's why a lot of I've never heard in a single church that I've been to and I've been the multiple churches. I've never heard any pastor online or in person talk about the divorce courts, talk about the laws, talk about the sexless marriages. Talk about any of these unfortunate realities that parental alienation that happens after your divorce, and I don't have personal experience with this. I'm they've been married. I've seen this happen to people. So there's anecdotal evidence on that, but I've also seen the statistics and my friend my third thing about numbers is numbers don't lie. And so today I want to call for a reform in the church and say, you know what, we need to give men and women, frankly, we, but mainly men, we stop letting women just come in into the church, bamboozle the men, and then set them up for a divorce. We need to stop telling the men. Ohh, don't worry about a woman's past. Just like, that's ridiculous and said just be a good man. Man up. And just take the plunge and do that. I can't in good faith tell you to do that. And these pastors need to stop doing that as well, because so many of them are doing it and. Frankly, it makes me sick. When we look and we say that the church and he likes to cite the Bible and likes to avoid the context, they like to avoid the very uncomfortable conversations that come with. Hey, we want you to do this, but here's how you could actually live that out. They don't usually get to that part. They'll punch on it, but just enough for you to have. Aid you know. Ohh hush, hush. Don't, don't. Don't ask too many uncomfortable questions because you should still do it. Should I? Why should I do something that doesn't advantage me at all? It's one thing to do something sacrificial. It's something to do, to do something that's completely stupid. That's a totally different story, something that would self sabotage me if it goes bad. If you're an investor, would you invest in a stock that at any point in time could just get rid of you and not give you any payback for your investment? No, of course you wouldn't. But yet men do that with relationships. Why? Why do we do this? The answer is we people do it under the guise of morality. They say that, oh, you need to be a good man. I hate the terms. Good men, real men, because it's all a manipulation attempt to get you to take the raw deal. It's one thing if you just want to do it and you feel called to do it and you do it. Fine, do that. That's fine. But you should know what you're getting into. The problem is, people don't know what they're. Into people don't know the dark sides of marriage. They don't understand that your wife's going to stop having sex with you. They don't understand that you're going to have to pay for sex from your wife. You're gonna have to do all these chore, play garbage things that you want your kids to come. Your wife's not going to want to be as interested anymore. You might have to go. A lot of the married men and the ones who go on only fools. They don't talk about these things because it's uncomfortable. It's not polite conversation, so they don't. They conveniently leave it out. They just pretend like, oh, how it starts. It's how it's always going to be. And don't worry about it. And if you have a call, if you want to say anything else, dummy, you up, go away. We don't want to have time for you. And I think we, I want to call for the Church to reform and say stop telling men to just be lemmings, walk off the Cliff. Just. Just be a good gum and just go for it. I say no, I say no. Because all it does is it tells you as a man that you are not valuable. Your time, not valuable, your money, only good for use of other people's attention, not useful energy should be put everywhere besides you, and we stop letting men think that their entire. Value comes from being a utility. Is there fulfillment and building a family? Absolutely. But is it feasible to do that with the modern woman? It's becoming increasingly difficult, I'll tell you that. I'll be generous. But again, I'm not telling men necessarily to not do it. I'm not telling you to do it. I would never do that. What I'm saying is educate yourself, educate yourself and decide what you want to do. People don't want to hear these uncomfortable realities because then it makes the right thing to do, quote UN quote. 1. Harder. Guess what that is? What should be the case? You should not be fear of being educated. You should not fear understanding reality. That is dangerous, that is toxic. We don't want to do that. You should want to understand these uncomfortable realities, so that then you can come to grips with them so you can then say I want to choose to do this because it's what I want them to do, not because other people decided it for me, not because my pastor told me to do it, not because the Internet told me to do it, because it's what I have decided that I want to do with my life. That is where I want you to get to. That is what I tell men to do because. That's what I tell myself to do. That's what I do every day of my life, and I want you to have that same freedom. You want to always learn so that then you can make the right choice for you and not be a lemming and just hear about people who fundamentally will throw you to the wolves at the first convenient time. In your divorce, you have one. They won't come to rescue you. They won't help you. They'll blame you because as a man, as a man, I'd like to quote Hopper from Bug's life. He says first rule of leadership. Everything is your fault and that is what men live with every day of our lives. We live the everything is your fault. Women want us to lead, but then they don't wanna follow you. They wanna backseat Dr. and choose whether whether they wanna follow you or not. No, no. You either going to follow me or you going to go away. I don't care if it's business. Pleasure or anything else you don't want to sign up? OK, then sign out and go away. I don't have use for you. It's that simple and that's how you should operate in your life. The end of the day. This is your only life. You're going to get. According to what I know. So why the hell would. You spend it. Around people who don't care about you, the church needs to either show up and they need to help people produce this reality, or they need to shut up and they need to stop telling men to just take. The plunge. And then wonder what happens when they can't come up for air and they're drowning in their marriage. There's a saying that says don't swim where other men have drowned, and a lot of men have drowned in this pool, and yet they keep telling men to go for. So we need to have a frank conversation about this, and this is something that I would encourage other men to have and don't feel bad if people try to gaslight you don't feel bad if people try to tell you you're a bad man or asking a question or thinking for yourself instead of just doing what people tell you to do. And being a good schmuck. My friends, this is a very important issue. Your relationships are the most important choices you'll make in your life. So the question is, are you going to make this? Are you going to make a choice, or are you going to make someone else make that choice for you and you? Going. To be a victim. Don't ever be a victim. Be a volunteer for being a Voyager and carve out your own path or decide at the very least. To to do what you want to do, that's what I encourage you to do, and I would encourage anybody who goes to church, any church leadership that they need to stop just pushing this forward because it's, quote, the right thing to do. How about no, how about we do something called educating men about the realities of marriage. Let's do that. I think that's very smart. I think that's more honest. You want to talk about honesty and morality? Why do you lie to men about the realities of marriage and a lie by omission and still a lie? Leaving that out is a lie, and you know it, but you don't want to come to terms with that because then it might make you think that you're not the good person you want to pretend. Pretend that you. Are my friends we need to call for reform. In. This this is not something that I wanted to continue and it makes me sick when I see it. Because I know a lot of these women, I know where they come from. I know what they do. I know who they are and I could tell it really easily. Other men can't because they don't have the eyes of someone who's seeing the the worst parts of the world. Who's been in the military, who's seen the garbage and life, who's seen garbage people? Who knows garbage behavior and and a very. The. Very weak attempt at trying to get what you want and being an apex predator, when I see one my friends, we need to have a very honest conversation about this and if you want to have it in the comment section or on my ex page. At cheap. Good. You're welcome to do it. My friends, I encourage you to do your own research. Think for yourself, because these are very complex issues and ones that will affect your life forever. So please don't make them on a whim. Please don't make them because of your hormones. Use your mind. It is the most valuable thing that you've ever been given, my friends. You take care of yourselves. I'm out of here. Peace.