The idea of love being the center of relationships and the driving force behind the relationships and the passion that we feel for other people really didn't show up till the Victorian era in England. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the sheep Get Sheared podcast. I'm your host Austin Creed my friend. We're going to talk today about why modern marriage lacks meaning. Now it's interesting because I had this conversation yesterday, actually, not exactly about this subject, but about. Why marriage is not the same as it was back? In the old. Days the word is the same, but the meaning. The cultural stigmas, the laws, everything around it has changed, and for a little bit of context, I'm going to be mainly talking about what I said on Biblical bachelor. You don't have to pick up the book. You're welcome to. If you wanted to check it out, you can audio book, physical card copy, whatever you want. But. I wrote this book because I don't believe that marriage is is the way for someone who's in the modern church today, or even young men in period. I mean, we look at the birth rate in this country alone, it's pretty bad. It's bismal and that's why we have a lot of immigration. But the worst thing is people don't understand history. They don't know how we got here. They don't know why men like myself and men on the side of the Internet talk about marriage in such a way they don't understand why we say that. Marriage is not the same marriage that maybe your great grandfather had. The reason being a the culture has changed. B. We have. Womanist laws reflected in the family court industry. And see. Marriage is not what it used to mean. You know what's funny is I don't want to make this just about religion, but I'll. I'll talk about religion for just a second. When it comes to Christianity, a lot of people want to fault me. I've got a lot of backlash and I continue to get backlash. For writing a book about being a biblical bachelor, the reason I wrote it is not to be controversial. The reason I wrote it was because I in you're not in good faith, tell men whether they're religious or not religious to go get married today. You want to assume that because maybe you're religious or you live in a certain area where you have certain friends or whatever it is. That you are immune to this, that you are going to be the exception, that you are not affected by this statistical data. It doesn't apply to you. People want to take that approach. No one walks into any situation. I don't care if it's in marriage. I don't care if it comes with. Money. I don't. Care what it is. Nobody walks in and says. You know what? I'm going to be a statistic. I'm going to be like everybody else, but who came before me? Statistically speaking, I nobody walks in the night. You have to walk in the situation saying you're going to be the exception, because otherwise you wouldn't do it. Otherwise you wouldn't risk anything. Otherwise you would say, oh, you know what? I'm not going to do it. Nobody walks into a situation. Saying I'm definitely going to lose. I'm definitely going to fail this test. I'm definitely not going to make this marriage work. Nobody does that. And they shouldn't. But when they realize that, wait a minute. Lot of this is backed by shaming language and back in the day, even up till very recently. Men had to exhibit value this idea of love being the center of relationships and the driving force behind the relationships and the passion that we feel for other. People really didn't show up till the Victorian era in England, with guys like Shakespeare who wrote about not how beautiful love. Was but how silly. It was, I don't know if you know this, maybe you didn't read it. Romeo and Juliet in high school like I did. But when I read Romeo and Juliet in high school, I remember the girls. Being like ohh, this is so romantic and beautiful. I love it so much. Not knowing that number one. They were by today's standards, children like teenagers. And. They had known each other for like less than a week and before you know it, one guy's self deleting and then the other girl self deletes all after finding out the heat off himself for the wrong you know off of the wrong reason and the whole thing is just stupid. The whole thing is basically I thought she was attractive so I wanted to get the guts, she said. Oh, he's so romantic. And he's so charming and handsome and whatnot. And they messed up their whole lives and their families lives. On their own selfish feelings, that's essentially what happens. But of course, when you say it like that. Ohh, that's not romantic, Austin. That's kind of gross. And that doesn't. That doesn't make me feel good. Cause what it all comes down to. People want to feel good. Women love romance novels because they want. They want Chad the the sexy danger guy whose looks good, who has a lot of money, has power, they want that guy to also be like a chivalrous knight from the Middle Ages. They want him to. No, I'm not going to exercise all my options. Oh, no. What I'm going to do instead is I'm going to be Mr. Sexy Danger guy, but then I'm. Going to meet one girl. Change my life forever and I'm gonna give up on all my options. All my power, everything. Because I love this woman so much. Women get off on. That crap by the. Way. Ohh yeah, they love that because it never happens in real life. It doesn't happen versus on the guys. A lot of things were like, man, I just want to. I just want to get my nut and and. Bounce. But of course we if we can't say that because oh, oh, you're a bad man. You can't say that. So then we have guys like, fresh from the fresh and fit podcast. He sells women a dream allegedly. And then now look at where he's in. I hope he should definitely get a day and touch my baby. By the way, I don't think that that baby is his. If there even is one at all, but he's an example of a guy who is in this side of the on this side of the Internet, but for some reason he doesn't practice what he preaches. And we end up selling women this dream and we end up falling for the problem of modern the modern relationship marketplace. Because marriage is not an accomplishment for men. I know people are going to disagree with me when I say. That, but it's not. Back in the day, it was a sign of I have land. I got resources. I have power, I have status. That's what it was back in. The day. You couldn't just get married if you were just some stable boy or some nobody peasant somewhere. No, no, no, no, no. You could try. But you are stuck, dude. Nobody wanted to marry you. You were nobody. There was no love. It was. What are you bringing in this relationship? What do I gain by being associated with you? Oh, and that hasn't changed. By the way. No, they're just a little more like they they play it off a little bit more today, but that the same sentiment. Still remains. But today we have this whole idea of love, like love is supposed to just conquer everything. You have The Beatles song and all you need is love. I play it, but I don't want to copyright. I'm sure all of you have heard it before. And we we're stuck with this whole love culture. As if love is like the end all be all of human existence, when in fact it is not because it's fleeting. And the only reason that marriage really worked back in the day was because the life expectancy was like 45 and people got married when they were hormones were going crazy. And so they bonded to that one person. That's what monogamy is, by the way. I know it seems like I'm jumping around, but all these things are interwoven into this, this ball of yarn. That we call it dating marketplace, each one of these strings is wrapped around this ball we call the. Relationship marketplace. But for some reason, people want to believe in not monogamy. But then we have women who want to not follow. But men are supposed to lead, and then we have womanism with, oh, we want to be strong and empowered, but not when it comes to paying for stuff or accepting accountability for all the bad decisions that we make. And all the bad men that we choose because they're they're sexy, danger Chad. And then on the other side, we have guys who they want to be ambitious. They want to be masculine, but then they're too masculine to the wrong person or at the wrong time. They're toxic. They're bad, they're no good. Mud. They're bad and mad. We need to get rid of them, but we need them. But we want to get. Rid. Of them, you see how weird this world we're living in is? And and I understand the desire to say, hey, you know what I want to attend my own garden. I want to have my wife, my wife, maybe some kids, a dog, whatever. I understand wanting that the problem is you're hard pressed to find that reality. Not impossible, but hard pressed because at the end of the day. Marriage only used to work back in the whether it's biblical times or somewhat recent history, because women needed men, men will always need women. Unless you're not a straight guy, you're going to always need women. That's why women are able to monopolize their that power of the the peace leave against you, shout out to coach Greg Adams. They're they're able to leverage the power of the peace leave against you. They say ohh you want you. You want this? Awesome. Here's what we're gonna do. You're gonna do this for me. You're gonna do that. You're not gonna do that. You're gonna give you, like, this list of stuff. But it's not transactional. Apparently it's not transactional, even though you gotta pay for this. You got to do that. You gotta come over here and do that. You gotta mow my gotta gotta do my taxes. You gotta mow my lawn. You gotta do all this stuff. And if I feel like. It I'll do it. Women are only loyal to their feelings, gentlemen. And that's not to put them down, but they are emotional people, way more so than are you as a man, there are outliers, but the outliers make the norms, they don't disprove them. So my friends, when we look at the modern dating marketplace and we see that it lacks tremendous meaning when the divorce rate out of control. Single mother right out of control. It's very easy for us to say. Well, we should just just jump in and we should fix the marriage rate, the divorce rate, one marriage at a time. Problem is, we've tried. That already, and it is not working. If you get married as a man, you put yourself in a subservient position. You have a tremendous exit fee if you leave that relationship. The woman does not. She cheat on you and still take your kids still get child support and potentially alimony depending on the state you live in. This is just the fact of. Reality my. Friends and we need to understand that marriage isn't of itself, not what. It used to be. Doesn't have the meaning it used to have because the church doesn't have any teeth anymore and instead the state is all too happy to have you pick up the tab so they don't have to. Or they had now have control of your kids and then indoctrinate them through education. We talked about. I've talked on this show about what I called the useful idiot program, the social Justice Warrior program, about how using keyword phrases and whatnot, the education system. Since kids are young. They'll teach them to care about things instinctually. You bring up any hot topic issue in politics, popular culture, even certain individuals and people. They'll immediately have a reaction to what you. Day. That is not thought through, not researched, and it all it is is instinct is an emotional response that has been conditioned into them. All of these things tie in together into our lives. And if you understand that you're ahead of the game, you don't want them help. I'm happy to help you catch you up because I had to learn this too. You're not. Alone, my friends, I encourage you to ask questions about this. This is very important. Relationships are the most important decision you are make in your life. I have men in my life who are getting married, who are married and it's not popular for guys who are married to talk about how rough their relationship can be and the stuff they have to do to get sex from their wife and all this stuff. People don't want to talk about that. There was a. Story that came out recently about the OF the only fools shout out to. I think better bachelor, I think Joker said that only fools most of them are paid subscriptions from married men, not single in sell men, not not bitter and hurt men. No married men. Now I should tell you something. The married men have been keeping quiet because no one wants to hear from them. I do though. And you should too. My friends take care of yourselves. I encourage you to question what you heard. Do some research of your own. Think for yourself because extremely important. You want to pick up Biblical bachelor, audiobook, or hardcover to know where I'm coming from. You can pick that up in the description I I would love for you to read that and then come back and talk to me about what. It. Is you think. But my friends, you take care of yourselves. See you next time. Peace.