What I see statistics. The Christian divorce rate is not that far behind the divorce rate of not unreligious people, by the way. Ladies and gentlemen, and welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared Podcast. I'm your host, Austin Creed, and my friends, we're going to talk today about Christian marriage and how it must change. You know, I think it is really, really. Funny. And by funny, I mean sad that we like to pretend. And I grew up in the Christian Church, by the way, non denominational Christian Church exposed to Baptist teaching Lutheran all this good stuff. OK, Pentecostal. All this different stuff. But you know what I don't understand. Why is it people think that, oh, I want to go to church and then all of a sudden, every statistic, everything in popular culture, everything and the legal system, I'm immediately immune to all. You don't want to pretend like there's some kind of like, I think a diplomatic immunity to all this garbage. The sewage of society. They think they're just immune to it. Like it's a vaccine or something. It's unbelievable to me, but. That's what we're gonna talk about today. I wrote a whole book on the subject, actually. Biblical bachelor, not just about Christian marriages, but about marriage. About. Why it is that relationships are in the toilet, why it is that people think? Ohh, I'm a Christian, therefore you know all the stuff in society doesn't affect me because I chose to dedicate my life to God all of a sudden I'm immune to all this garbage. Oh, hell no. I'm not laughing at you. OK, if you if you think that I'm not laughing at you, I'm laughing at the line of logic that we just talked about. First of all, we need to understand something. This this whole idea of being in the world but not of it. But when I see statistics. The Christian divorce rate is not that far behind the divorce rate of not unreligious people, by the way. Oh, and I know I've talked. I've talked to so many people. This is not just. I don't. I see the evidence, but the IT bear out in the statistics and then I have the anecdotal. I have both sides of the spectrum on this one. OK, so when I tell people this, though, who are more religious? Ironically enough, people who are religious don't like to be called religious for some reason. They're like, oh, it's not a religion, it's a relationship. OK, whatever the hell. You want to call it. People who bring up these garbage terms, you're part of the problem because you want to pretend like you're different. Your relationship is different. Your approach is different. No, it's not that much different. You know, it's not different when I see the women in the church today who are coming into the church. Hey, great. That's great. Come in the church. But here's the problem. There are women who are 2530, and it's not always the age. There's this idea of a left over woman. And this isn't just me making this up. Kevin Samuels talked about this. May he rest in peace, but he got it from more of the eastern China, Japan, Korea, places like that who have come up with this concept of the leftover woman. And what it means to be left over is not you or old necessarily. It's not that you're ugly necessarily, it's that you cannot build with a man anymore. You'll know more experiences to share. You've been to Ruth. Chris. You've been to island hopping. You've been to the Eiffel Tower. You've been to these places. A guy can not build with you. Cause I'll tell you something. Ladies like. Yes, the like two women who probably watch the show. Men want to show you. World you ever seen? You ever heard that that song from Aladdin Whole New World type of thing? Yeah, a lot of guys want to actually give that to women. But when guys go on social media and yes, social media is important people, let's be honest here, everybody and their grandma is on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, YouTube acts. Everybody's on these platforms. So don't pretend like ohh, that doesn't have a big effect. What the hell it? Doesn't mean to tell me all these seeing all these celebrities trick on women seeing all these boss babe fake Queens who are out here pretending like they're earning their money themselves when they're not, and then they want to go out and have all these amazing vacations and this feminism this this woman. Some garbage and then they want to go out there and they want to portray this fake lifestyle. They're not living, whether it be rappers, hip hop artists, it could be anybody out here. I'm not going to mention names I don't want. To get sued. What I will say is when we see people like anybody seen the Diddy case that came up recently with all this despicable, disgusting behavior going on. Yeah, people have known about this for a long time. This is nothing new and you look at stuff like Ryan Garcia, where he was said about. There are powerful people in this world. And if you think that the powerful people are going to just not go on the offensive with giving you this fake lifestyle that doesn't exist. So that you then can buy into it and trying to emulate it. What do you think marriage has become today? They they have you so convinced? Ohh marriage is about love. People then used to get married for love back in the day. I don't care if you're religious or not. Religious people didn't get married because they loved each other. No, they got married for strategic reasons and they learned to live with each other. To adapt to become friends lovers, what they learned to grow together. Now people want to do it in reverse. They want all the feelings up front and then they want to build on the back end after the feelings of kind of like falling off a Cliff because hypergamy is out of control, libertines on a dirty word. It's always. Assisted women with the best they can get, men with the best they can get. But the problem is the highest that most women can get is better than what most men can get because most men hustle backwards. Most dudes, whether they be Christian, on Christian, they hustle backwards. And then we look at the legal system. Legal system is set up like we're living 100 years ago, before no fault divorce, which was put in place by Ronald Reagan back in 1969. We then forget that the first, second, third wave of feminism came through. We we act like all these things never happened, and we're still living in the 1920s, before the Great Depression, when everybody was having a good time and the economy was great. The economy is garbage, and so people want to think, oh, I want to get married now. I want to save money. They look at statistics like ohh like 70% of millionaires are married and they act like it's because they were married, that they're millionaires? No, it's in spite of the fact that they're married, that they became millionaires. It's in spite of it. It has nothing to do with them actually being married and everything to do with the fact that it was their ambition. Most people men unfortunately, mainly you. You don't have the ambition when you're single because you think that you can. You can survive off of the less so you don't go the extra mile. Married Guy likely to go the extra mile. Because it's not just his neck on the chopping block if stuff goes South. You can emulate that same mindset as a single guy and be richer than the guy who's married, who's wife spending all of his money on Amazon, and you're spending all your money on your kids and your wife and your wife saying she's not happy. All this kind of stuff. I'm not saying this because I don't want marriage to work. I did a whole show before on. There's only two ways to fix marriage, and this isn't whether you're religious or not religious and it's. You either create red light districts like they have in Amsterdam in the in the Netherlands, or you get rid of no fault divorce. You bring back the Scarlet letter culture and we have that, but you can't have it either way. We're in this middle ground and the reason why I say the Christian marriage must change is because they act like we're living in the scarlet letter. Times where? Ohh I won't. Won't cheat on me, Austin. I'm a Christian. Oh, my woman is not hypergamous Austin because she's. Christian. Yeah. Good luck with that, Sir. Cause that's not gonna work. That ain't gonna fly. I'll tell you that right now. Look, believe whatever the hell you want, your belief does not dictate reality. I'm sorry, but I've seen it first hand. I've seen it first hand, my friends, and let's be totally upfront and honest here. You want to believe that because. You want to pretend like we're living in a society that supports that? No, we don't. We live in a divorce culture, but over 50% of marriages end in divorce, which actually, it's higher. And you have that 80% of marriages that are that end are filed by women. What am I supposed to tell you? Go out there and get married. No, I can't. In good faith tell you to do that. Now you can. 

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And at the beginning you're going to tell me, Austin, I'm out. You're winning, man. You don't know you're talking about. I'm out. You're winning. My wife loves me. She does what I say. All that. And you're, like, five years and. Your. Marriage tops. I'm saying. OK. Hey, enjoy it while it lasts, because statistically speaking, it ain't going to last. Or at least you're going to get. Gone through the bait and switch you got. Look, one of the content creators that I love to watch not because he's agrees with me, but because he's a wise guy, that I've learned a lot from CGA. He has this thing called the marriage wheel, and I'm not going to take credit for his work because. The one who did it go to his channel coach Greg Adams, go to his channel and look at the marriage wheel. He does a lot about the marriage wheel. He's one who came up with this idea of the marriage wheel and every marriage goes through his wheel, whether it was his marriage, other people's marriage, who will testify to it in the comment section, all these people. We'll talk about this not because we're bitter, not because we hurt, because we want to warn you about what is actually happening out here. We don't want you to just go down the yellow brick road and then be surprised when a gust of wind blows you off and before you know it, you're falling off. A Cliff. We don't want that. Because that's what society's gonna tell you to do. That is what society wants you to do. That is what. And when I say society, I mean the people in power, the people with money and influence. You can use any acronym you want to describe these people. There's plenty of them, but they exist. They want you to be an average. Thrown another cog in their wheel and that's how they get you. My friends, when I talk about Christian marriage, we act like it's this vastly different thing than the average marriage. It's really not, of course. People want to pretend like ohh, because I put God in this all of a sudden everything's going to work out. Sometimes it does. Other times. No, not really. And married men who are Christian and who are married y'all need to stop lying. About how you're pretending like your marriage is perfect. Your marriage is great. I know y'all marriage is ain't good out here, by the way. I know it's not. I know you pretend like it cause you don't want men. To be like oh. Wow. Oh, your wife? Don't drop neck on you. Your wife don't give you none. Your wife making you build a porch outside your wife, treating you like garbage. Your wife not being pleasant anymore. She blowing up like a Goodyear blimp. She treating you like? You are the last priority in her life. Ohh yeah. Ohh yeah, trust me, I can tell you a whole story about the time where a guy that I really respect, who I will not name, he, he works with another man, that I really respect and literally I'm at the table talking to these people and on the other side of the table, their wives are talking about how important it is. For Christian women to continue to have sex with her husband like it's some. Kind of job. Ohh yeah, I'm not making this up. Trust me, I'm not making this up. I wish I was, but no, I'm not. I'm sitting across the table and I'm like Dang. Like they talked about. Like they're washing the dishes or or taking. The dog for. A walk like it's another job and I'm like. Ohh man you told me I worked this a guy I know. These guys. They work real hard. They're good men. They are very good to the community. They're good to their families and these same men are being talked about like pleasuring them as a chore to from for these women. Ohh, but your marriage is good, huh? And I'm telling you, people won't be honest on here. They'd rather tell me I'm crazy than be honest with you. The married men, Johnny, is stop lying. Be honest about what's going on in your marriage. Ohh, yo you. You are treated like the last priority. You work really, really hard. And you are treated like you are a utility. You might as well be the power outlet in the wall. That's how you're treated. Oh, of course you're going to pretend like it's not what I just described because you care and you love the people you provide for. I'm not saying you don't. It's because you love them, that you're even doing that. I know that. But stop lying to these men because trust me, I'm a younger guy. I know how this works. You think? Oh, I'm going to get married to a woman. She's gonna love me forever. The way it starts. You think if you're in a relationship right now or in your, you're in a young marriage right now, you think it's gonna always be this way? It will not. It will not. It cannot remain that way. But these men won't tell you that. Because that's a hard conversation. Or if they mention it, they won't talk about how bad it actually gets to warn you. We need to stop that. We need to let men know exactly what they're getting into, because otherwise you are a liar and you are leading men astray and there's enough people out here who do that. Just look at the mainstream news. They throw men under the bus every single day of their lives. And I am sick of it. My friends, This is why I'm saying that Christian marriage must change. Churches need to be more transparent about what marriage really is and how it's not what it's sold to be. And a lot of these men will pretend like they're in great marriages when they are not. My friends. If you want to Share your story, your testimony, you want to share what's going on in your life. Go ahead and comment sections right there if you want to do it or you can go on my ex page and sheep gets sheared. I'd love to hear your story. I've heard many of them already. I'd love to hear your story if you want to share. You're more than welcome to do it. My friends, you take care of yourselves. I encourage you to question everything that we talked about today because it's extremely important. That's the only way you can truly adapt and better yourself in your life is to really evaluate what's told to you so that you can decide whether you want to accept it or reject it or something in between to carry yourselves. Out of here? Peace.