Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared podcast.
I'm your host Austin Creed.
My friends, today I'm going to be addressing the gentleman in the room.
Gentlemen, we need to come here, come here.
Hey, don't be shy.
Yeah, come here, come here.
We need to have a conversation.
So I try not to pigeonhole the topic or the show by making it about me.
However, just like any good storyteller, you have to include elements of your own life,
your own experience.
And overall, that's what this is.
It's a story.
We all have our own story that we write chapter by chapter throughout our lives.
And it's using that that I say the following, do not get swindled for your commitment.
I know that probably didn't sit right with you.
You're not sure what we're talking about.
It kind of came off a little weird and I get that.
However, I want to reframe something that even I was taught when I was a kid.
I was taught to see women in a certain way.
I was taught to see relationships from a certain perspective.
And a lot of those things were rose colored at best and dubious at worst.
And a lot of us who have been in the dating marketplace, we see this, but we don't want
to accept it because people will tell us that we're the problem or that, oh, it was just
that one experience.
Don't worry about it.
Just keep trying.
Just keep throwing yourself out there.
Keep giving away your commitment.
Keep trying to lock someone down and find, right?
And everything in your life will work out.
You'll live happily ever after, you know, like every Disney movie ever.
And then we're all going to just, we'll win, right?
Well, my friends, what you probably haven't been told.
And if you're on this side of the internet, you probably know what's going to come next.
Some of us see these uncomfortable realities.
And instead of taking the fantastical fantasy route, we take the road less traveled.
We take the route of reality and we see things for how they are, not how we wish that they
were.
And so when I say, not to get swindled for your commitment, I'll give you a little example
of what I'm talking about.
Your commitment as a man is one of the most important things you could ever give away.
Because after you sign the papers, you get her the ring and you marry up a woman.
That will follow you forever.
If you have kids, forget about it.
You're never escaping this person.
You're never getting rid of them completely.
Whether it's in the eyes of the law, the family tree, all of those things become firmly rooted
and you can't escape it.
But I see so many men, especially as a guy who's still in college, I see so many men
who they're like seas of men who are so willing to give away their commitment for free.
They're willing to just throw it at whatever woman will take it.
And frankly, I would say that it makes me sick because it does more than anything.
It's just sad.
Because one thing that I've come to know in my own life is this.
When you're young, you have this current mindset of I'm building.
I don't have a lot to lose and I potentially have something that I want to gain.
So I'm willing to make that risk.
But give back to me in 10 years, 20 years.
When you've been working, you've been grinding, you've been slowly building your kingdom.
Now all of a sudden you stand quite a bit to lose actually, don't you?
That commitment you made 10 years ago, 20 years ago, whatever, the same commitment,
same rules, but your life has changed, your relationship has changed.
And so when I say that it's not something to be taken lightly, I mean it.
And you know, I realized that what I'm about to say might sound a little braggadocious and
pretentious.
That's not my intention.
That's more meant as a teaching lesson.
I have been on dates with women where I've smashed on the first date more than once,
several times.
Now again, I do not say that to brag to you.
I say that because we're called as men that we need to get our flowers and chocolates
and teddy bears and invest and be a good guy and do all these things that you don't.
You don't have to do those things.
You can if you want, but you don't have to do that.
In fact, that's going to actually work against you nine times out of 10 or nine and a half
times out of 10.
That's not going to work for you.
It's going to work backwards.
I know women in my life that I have experienced and who are just friends now who get with
dudes who their body count, they have like their own unique measurement of their body
count and resets every year.
And so this whole conversation about body counts kind of stupid in my opinion.
I get it if you're like a young guy like 18 to 25 and you want to be married and it might
matter to you.
Let's be perfectly honest gentlemen.
You're not going to get the right answer, but you're still going to give your commitment
away most likely.
My friends, most of these people I'd argue are not worth your commitment at all.
Zero.
They're just not men.
Let's look at, let me put a T list away.
Again, I don't want to put people's names out here, but I know people who, I know women
now that I used to get with even a couple of months ago and now they're with a boyfriend
and I see them on campus and I see his goofy butt being all, you know, romantic and everything
to this woman.
Meanwhile, I barely had to do anything to get with the woman he's paying top dollar
for now.
One of the guys's worst fear is to walk through like downtown or walk through campus or whatever
and all these dudes have been seeing no girl in her birthday suit or they've been, or they've
seen her pictures on Instagram or they've seen her, they've seen her on only fools.
Shout out to better bachelor.
They, we, we fear that.
We see the dark side of it and we don't want to be that guy, but if we don't want to take
the wrong deal, if we don't just give our commitment away, like the government gives
away government handouts and welfare, then we're not good men.
We're toxic.
We're, we're bad men.
We're bad examples.
And personally, I think that that's completely false and it should not be being pushed forward
whatsoever.
My friends do not get confused about don't fall for this gaslighting.
Don't fall for the delusions.
Don't fall for the gaslighting, the lies, the slander, the half truges.
Don't fall for these because people will tell you, Oh, I want a guy who does this, that
and the other thing.
And then they'll sleep with the guy who gets the McDonald's fries in a McFlurry.
I'm not making this up.
I've been that guy.
Okay.
I have been that guy.
And if you think that your long distance girlfriend is safe, no man, I've, I can personally tell
you I've, I've hooked up with chicks that have long distance boyfriends.
Of course, I didn't know that at the time.
We're gonna do afterwards.
But again, I don't say this to make you check out altogether.
You can if you want, go completely monk, be my guest, but you don't have to do that.
I say this because I don't want you to be swindled from your commitment.
People are not deserving of your commitment.
They have not earned your attention.
They have not earned your commitment most of the time.
If they, if women really like you, they'll make it a slam dunk for you.
Trust me.
I know I have mad stories that I might tell later on, not in this show, but no one's to
come.
I have stories, man.
I've been that guy that got strung along and barely got anything.
And I've been that guy that's gone in on the first date, well, without trying.
I have seen both sides of this equation.
And that's why we're having this conversation because I don't want you to think that you're
living in scarcity.
I don't want you to think that, oh, I'll never find a woman better than this.
So I better lock this down.
No.
No, that is really stupid.
And again, you, if you take away nothing else, I'm not telling you what to do.
This is your life we're talking about.
But you and I both know that the world is full of liars.
Half truths, charlatans, bad actors, you name it.
But what is your commitment worth?
Because I guarantee you, you have your commitment on fire sale right now, whereas you should
be pricing it up higher.
And I really don't want you to fall for the social media trap.
I don't want you to fall for the scarcity trap.
I don't want you to take a raw deal that you didn't even read the fine print before.
My friends, I really encourage you to not just react to what you heard today.
I encourage you to really break this down and decide what you want to do.
Because this is your life and I can't make the decision for you.
My friends, I encourage you, if you want to know more about my philosophy, if you want
to know my answers.
I have Biblical Bachelor right here.
You're more than welcome to pick up a copy of it.
I go in detail about my philosophy and it's probably not gonna, you're not gonna agree
with everything, but that's good.
Because if you don't agree with everything, then that leads you to thinking.
And when you start to think, you start to contemplate things that maybe you didn't before.
And then you get to decide whether you want to adjust your life or whether you want to
keep going forward.
Because that's beautiful.
I don't like it when people just accept or deny things that face value because you're
robbing yourself of true growth and an opportunity to mature as a person.
Well my friends, I think I'll leave this conversation here.
I think I made my point.
Again, you want to say your piece?
Please you're welcome to do it.
That section's open, my X page at Sheepkid Shears wide open, go ahead.
My friends, this is extremely important.
You want to tell your story?
I invite you to do it.
I know guys who have put their commitment on fire sale and they've regretted it very
shortly after because they didn't know everything.
They relied to half truths, whatever.
So please understand that most people have not and will not ever actually earn your commitment.
In this dating marketplace.
Well next time my friends, take care of yourselves, question everything you heard, think for yourself.
I'm out.
Good job.