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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared podcast.

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I'm your host Austin Creed.

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My friends, today I'm going to be addressing the gentleman in the room.

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Gentlemen, we need to come here, come here.

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Hey, don't be shy.

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Yeah, come here, come here.

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We need to have a conversation.

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So I try not to pigeonhole the topic or the show by making it about me.

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However, just like any good storyteller, you have to include elements of your own life,

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your own experience.

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And overall, that's what this is.

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It's a story.

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We all have our own story that we write chapter by chapter throughout our lives.

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And it's using that that I say the following, do not get swindled for your commitment.

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I know that probably didn't sit right with you.

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You're not sure what we're talking about.

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It kind of came off a little weird and I get that.

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However, I want to reframe something that even I was taught when I was a kid.

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I was taught to see women in a certain way.

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I was taught to see relationships from a certain perspective.

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And a lot of those things were rose colored at best and dubious at worst.

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And a lot of us who have been in the dating marketplace, we see this, but we don't want

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to accept it because people will tell us that we're the problem or that, oh, it was just

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that one experience.

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Don't worry about it.

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Just keep trying.

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Just keep throwing yourself out there.

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Keep giving away your commitment.

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Keep trying to lock someone down and find, right?

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And everything in your life will work out.

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You'll live happily ever after, you know, like every Disney movie ever.

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And then we're all going to just, we'll win, right?

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Well, my friends, what you probably haven't been told.

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And if you're on this side of the internet, you probably know what's going to come next.

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Some of us see these uncomfortable realities.

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And instead of taking the fantastical fantasy route, we take the road less traveled.

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We take the route of reality and we see things for how they are, not how we wish that they

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were.

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And so when I say, not to get swindled for your commitment, I'll give you a little example

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of what I'm talking about.

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Your commitment as a man is one of the most important things you could ever give away.

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Because after you sign the papers, you get her the ring and you marry up a woman.

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That will follow you forever.

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If you have kids, forget about it.

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You're never escaping this person.

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You're never getting rid of them completely.

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Whether it's in the eyes of the law, the family tree, all of those things become firmly rooted

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and you can't escape it.

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But I see so many men, especially as a guy who's still in college, I see so many men

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who they're like seas of men who are so willing to give away their commitment for free.

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They're willing to just throw it at whatever woman will take it.

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And frankly, I would say that it makes me sick because it does more than anything.

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It's just sad.

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Because one thing that I've come to know in my own life is this.

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When you're young, you have this current mindset of I'm building.

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I don't have a lot to lose and I potentially have something that I want to gain.

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So I'm willing to make that risk.

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But give back to me in 10 years, 20 years.

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When you've been working, you've been grinding, you've been slowly building your kingdom.

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Now all of a sudden you stand quite a bit to lose actually, don't you?

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That commitment you made 10 years ago, 20 years ago, whatever, the same commitment,

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same rules, but your life has changed, your relationship has changed.

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And so when I say that it's not something to be taken lightly, I mean it.

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And you know, I realized that what I'm about to say might sound a little braggadocious and

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pretentious.

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That's not my intention.

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That's more meant as a teaching lesson.

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I have been on dates with women where I've smashed on the first date more than once,

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several times.

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Now again, I do not say that to brag to you.

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I say that because we're called as men that we need to get our flowers and chocolates

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and teddy bears and invest and be a good guy and do all these things that you don't.

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You don't have to do those things.

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You can if you want, but you don't have to do that.

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In fact, that's going to actually work against you nine times out of 10 or nine and a half

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times out of 10.

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That's not going to work for you.

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It's going to work backwards.

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I know women in my life that I have experienced and who are just friends now who get with

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dudes who their body count, they have like their own unique measurement of their body

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count and resets every year.

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And so this whole conversation about body counts kind of stupid in my opinion.

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I get it if you're like a young guy like 18 to 25 and you want to be married and it might

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matter to you.

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Let's be perfectly honest gentlemen.

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You're not going to get the right answer, but you're still going to give your commitment

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away most likely.

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My friends, most of these people I'd argue are not worth your commitment at all.

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Zero.

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They're just not men.

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Let's look at, let me put a T list away.

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Again, I don't want to put people's names out here, but I know people who, I know women

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now that I used to get with even a couple of months ago and now they're with a boyfriend

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and I see them on campus and I see his goofy butt being all, you know, romantic and everything

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to this woman.

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Meanwhile, I barely had to do anything to get with the woman he's paying top dollar

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for now.

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One of the guys's worst fear is to walk through like downtown or walk through campus or whatever

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and all these dudes have been seeing no girl in her birthday suit or they've been, or they've

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seen her pictures on Instagram or they've seen her, they've seen her on only fools.

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Shout out to better bachelor.

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They, we, we fear that.

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We see the dark side of it and we don't want to be that guy, but if we don't want to take

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the wrong deal, if we don't just give our commitment away, like the government gives

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away government handouts and welfare, then we're not good men.

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We're toxic.

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We're, we're bad men.

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We're bad examples.

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And personally, I think that that's completely false and it should not be being pushed forward

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whatsoever.

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My friends do not get confused about don't fall for this gaslighting.

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Don't fall for the delusions.

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Don't fall for the gaslighting, the lies, the slander, the half truges.

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Don't fall for these because people will tell you, Oh, I want a guy who does this, that

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and the other thing.

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And then they'll sleep with the guy who gets the McDonald's fries in a McFlurry.

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I'm not making this up.

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I've been that guy.

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Okay.

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I have been that guy.

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And if you think that your long distance girlfriend is safe, no man, I've, I can personally tell

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you I've, I've hooked up with chicks that have long distance boyfriends.

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Of course, I didn't know that at the time.

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We're gonna do afterwards.

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But again, I don't say this to make you check out altogether.

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You can if you want, go completely monk, be my guest, but you don't have to do that.

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I say this because I don't want you to be swindled from your commitment.

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People are not deserving of your commitment.

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They have not earned your attention.

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They have not earned your commitment most of the time.

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If they, if women really like you, they'll make it a slam dunk for you.

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Trust me.

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I know I have mad stories that I might tell later on, not in this show, but no one's to

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come.

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I have stories, man.

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I've been that guy that got strung along and barely got anything.

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And I've been that guy that's gone in on the first date, well, without trying.

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I have seen both sides of this equation.

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And that's why we're having this conversation because I don't want you to think that you're

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living in scarcity.

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I don't want you to think that, oh, I'll never find a woman better than this.

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So I better lock this down.

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No.

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No, that is really stupid.

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And again, you, if you take away nothing else, I'm not telling you what to do.

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This is your life we're talking about.

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But you and I both know that the world is full of liars.

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Half truths, charlatans, bad actors, you name it.

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But what is your commitment worth?

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Because I guarantee you, you have your commitment on fire sale right now, whereas you should

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be pricing it up higher.

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And I really don't want you to fall for the social media trap.

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I don't want you to fall for the scarcity trap.

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I don't want you to take a raw deal that you didn't even read the fine print before.

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My friends, I really encourage you to not just react to what you heard today.

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I encourage you to really break this down and decide what you want to do.

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Because this is your life and I can't make the decision for you.

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My friends, I encourage you, if you want to know more about my philosophy, if you want

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to know my answers.

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I have Biblical Bachelor right here.

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You're more than welcome to pick up a copy of it.

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I go in detail about my philosophy and it's probably not gonna, you're not gonna agree

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with everything, but that's good.

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Because if you don't agree with everything, then that leads you to thinking.

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And when you start to think, you start to contemplate things that maybe you didn't before.

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And then you get to decide whether you want to adjust your life or whether you want to

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keep going forward.

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Because that's beautiful.

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I don't like it when people just accept or deny things that face value because you're

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robbing yourself of true growth and an opportunity to mature as a person.

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Well my friends, I think I'll leave this conversation here.

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I think I made my point.

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Again, you want to say your piece?

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Please you're welcome to do it.

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That section's open, my X page at Sheepkid Shears wide open, go ahead.

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My friends, this is extremely important.

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You want to tell your story?

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I invite you to do it.

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I know guys who have put their commitment on fire sale and they've regretted it very

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shortly after because they didn't know everything.

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They relied to half truths, whatever.

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So please understand that most people have not and will not ever actually earn your commitment.

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In this dating marketplace.

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Well next time my friends, take care of yourselves, question everything you heard, think for yourself.

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I'm out.

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Good job.