Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared Podcast.
I'm your host Austin Creed and my friends.
I'm going to talk today about why men are choosing not to date.
Now obviously we're not talking about every single man in America or on the planet or
anything else, but it only takes a small to medium percentage of any group to influence
the majority.
And so when I say that right now a lot of men are saying, hey, you know what?
Yeah, we're not trying to date right now.
Yeah, we look at the marketplace and we say, why in the hell would I participate in the
system?
You might say, well, what are they just bitter?
Are they hurt?
Why are they choosing to go the wrong way?
Why are guys who they're not exactly like me?
This isn't just about me.
In fact, I'm arguably kind of late to the game because I'm a younger guy.
I'm not the first person to bring this up.
But what I see, especially in the church, the church is one of these places that's supposed
to be set apart from the majority.
It's supposed to be a smaller subset of society, a place of refuge and a wasis from the desert.
But what I see, women especially who ride on a rooster roller coaster, they sleep with
all these dudes and then all of a sudden they say, hey, you know what?
I suddenly want to be a Christian now.
You know, all of a sudden I found religion and I'm saved by the blood of the lamb.
I've been redeemed.
They come into church or whatnot.
That's not inherently bad.
Here's the problem.
The problem is now they want to pretend like, oh, nothing.
My past didn't happen at all, even though I'm not in my prime anymore.
Even though I'm damaged, I'm Fubar, I'm F'd up beyond all repair because my life's in
shambles because my relationships have been terrible.
Now I want to find a good man who's not messed up, who hasn't been doing all these debauchery
terrible things.
All of a sudden, the guy who I wouldn't have even looked at twice, 10 years ago, five years
ago, now all of a sudden I want that guy.
That is why a lot of us dudes are saying, wait, hold on a second, either we're young
or we're older.
We say, wait a minute, a lot of these women, they don't want to even give us a second look.
Now when we have resources, now when we've built ourselves, all of a sudden they think
they're entitled to a guy like me.
They think they're entitled to me, not just that they think they have a shot with me,
they think that they deserve a guy like me.
They didn't deserve me when I was, when they were at their prime, but now that I'm at my
prime, they want to get me on discount.
They want to get you on discount.
This is why a lot of men are walking the way because they say, wait a minute, they don't
want us when we're in our, when they're in their prime, they don't want to have two kids.
They don't want to be the housewife.
They don't want to do that role.
But now when they've got out here, out there fun, tried to nail down to chatting, giga
chat and Tyrone and giga Tyrone, they try to get that guy locked down.
When they can't, he had locked down there like, well, I guess I can try to get that,
that regular good guy who I've been tolling the F off for the last five to 10 to 20 years.
They then ask, where are all the good men?
Oh, I find all these sharks, these, these dudes out here who want to pump and dump me.
What happened to all the nice guys?
I'll tell you what's happening to those nice guys.
They're listening to guys like me.
They're listening to guys like Kevin Samuel's may rest in peace.
They're listening to guys like a coach Greg Adams.
They were, they're listening to guys like Rolo Tomasi, Taylor, the Fiend.
They are watching these guys like myself on the internet or on this side of the argument.
They say, wait a minute, now I'm catching on to how this works.
Now I think I know why this is happening.
Now I didn't know I was gas lit, lied to, given an incomplete plan, but now I see what's
going on.
Now I'm going to act different and I'm going to move in accordance, but then that makes
you bad because now you, you've taken that proverbial bite from the knowledge of good
and evil and now you're the bad guy.
Now all of a sudden when you don't want to play the gump, when you don't want to play
the step dad, all of a sudden you're the bad guy now.
You were a good man when you were being exploited and you were a good little boy and people
told you, but now that you want to be a man and you want to have a backbone, now you're
a bad guy.
But the reason a lot of us guys, not just me, but most a lot of men are actually are checking
out the dating marketplace is we're not getting anything from this.
We're not actually winning by doing, by participating in this garbage.
The best move we make is we say, you know what?
We're not playing this game.
Why would I play a game?
Let's put it to you like this.
Why would I play a pickup basketball game against LeBron James?
Why would I do that?
I have no chance of winning against LeBron.
So why in the world would I even start playing?
There's no point.
Why in the world would I play when I arm wrestle against Eddie Hall?
Why would I do that?
It doesn't make any sense, right?
Because some, there are some games that the only way that you win is you just don't play
that game because there's no way you can win.
I'd rather play a game.
I might actually win, you know, like in the career world where I might make money.
I might gain respect.
I might gain real life skills that will make me a better man, make me a better human being.
But for some reason I'm a bad guy.
If I don't sign up to be a utility for somebody else.
That makes me a bad person, apparently.
And I think it was Schroeder's view of feminism that stated that women were both simultaneously
victors and victims at the same time.
And they got to pick and choose whether they wanted to be empowered or whether they wanted
to be a victim.
And my friends, a lot of us are catching on to this.
A lot of men on the side of the internet, we're catching on to this garbage.
And instead of getting mad, instead of yelling and kicking and screaming and being mad, we're
saying that what being mad, that's not going to change the laws.
That's not going to do anything.
Instead of being quote bitter and her and whatnot, we're just going to say, you know
what, go ahead.
You want to mess up society with all this reigning rainbow garbage.
Go right ahead.
You want to have a boss, bitch and go out there and make your own money.
Go right ahead.
You want to go out here and act a complete fool on the public stage and have zero logic
to support what you do.
Go right ahead.
But we're not, we're going to sit over here.
We're going to attend our own garden and you're more welcome to do all the buffoonery you
want.
We're over there.
But when it's over here in our backyard, no, no, no, no, you ain't coming in our backyard
and messing that up.
We're going to attend our garden.
We're going to play our own stuff.
We're going to just do what we want to do.
We're going to engage selectively.
We're going to live our lives and you're going to leave us alone because we don't want to
be involved in this garbage anymore.
We don't have a majority in this democratic state.
So where we can actually get laws to change.
Now we can't do that.
So what we're going to do, we're going to do our own thing.
And apparently, apparently that's an extreme reaction to some people is just saying, I'm
going to walk away.
Apparently that's extreme.
And I say no.
Well, my friends, I want to ask you, have you decided to go your own way?
Or are you still trying to navigate the complexities of life and relationships and religion and
all this stuff because it's hard?
I get that.
I don't try to tell you for one second that it's easy because it isn't.
Everybody has to have their own way of interpreting it and understanding the life that they're
living.
My friends, the one thing I would encourage you to do was just say, have the ability to
say no.
Have the ability to stand up for yourself and not just be a utility.
Have those self-respect to stand up for yourself.
Have the self-respect to say, you know what, I'm not going to tolerate this from people.
I'm not going to let people just use me.
I'm not going to let people tell me what to do or what to think.
I'm not going to let this happen to me.
I'm going to live my life and I'm going to win.
Whatever winning is to you, I'm going to work towards winning that life that I want for
myself.
Now that's masculine.
Being reactive and angry, I don't care whether it's your girlfriend cheating on you, getting
fired from your job, being slandered on the internet.
I don't care what it is.
Don't react.
Don't get emotional.
Just walk away.
Just collect yourself.
Walk away if you need to let off some emotion.
Go to the gym.
Whether it's going to the lift weights, going to a boxing gym, going to learn some hand
hand combat, which I'm actually going to do myself.
My friends, we need to stop reacting as men because emotions, emotional reactions is not
masculine.
We need to say, you know what, if we're done with dating, then we'll do our own thing.
If we want to keep dating, God bless you.
That's great.
We need to approach this in a way that's actually going to benefit us instead of just being
convinced on the daily basis to just take a fat L.
Just take the raw deal.
No.
No, I'm not just going to sit here and take the raw deal.
And I don't want you to do that either.
Why in the world would I work myself to the bone just to take a raw deal that doesn't
benefit me whatsoever?
Why would I do that?
Why do people think it's a privilege to be exploited?
I don't get it.
I really don't.
It's one thing to take pride in giving to other people.
There's nothing wrong with that.
It's another thing to be exploited.
There's another thing to literally be like a gold vein that keeps getting tapped until
there's nothing left.
It's one thing to be a well that constantly gives water.
It's another to be empty and have nothing left.
And you will find your entire sense of identity and what you give to other people all the
time about what you give to yourself, about what you actually do for other people.
But then other people respect you and get something back to you.
You're not just being used.
My friends, this is why a lot of men have checked out a dating because they say, you
know what?
This is what the dating market is.
Women give me nothing except maybe use some used kunani.
And I was supposed to say here and not only be grateful, but they think that I'm that
I am benefiting from their presence and that they are like the best thing since sliced
bread.
And my answer is no.
No, we're not going to do that.
At least I'm not.
You can do what you want.
I'm not going to do it though.
And if you do that God bless you.
I'm not going to take any less of you.
I might think that you're weird, but you can do what you want.
It's a free country and it's your life.
But my friends, this is just a little insight as to why some of us act the way that we
do.
And I hate anybody because we say, Hey, we love ourselves.
We have self respect.
We're walking away.
I'm not going to get mad.
I'm not going to do something dumb.
I'm just going to walk away and I'm going to choose what I want to do next.
And that to me is very masculine.
And when you see a woman who has been used up that she's not in her prime and she's
on the decline and she comes into your church, she comes into your friend group, do not,
do not let people pressure you to take them that raw deal.
Don't do it.
You will regret it and you will fake me.
You will fake me later for warning you.
My friends, take care of yourselves.
I encourage you to question everything that you heard today.
If you want to leave your comment, you're more than welcome to do it.
My ex page page at shipkitsheared same names of podcasts.
You're all going to hit me up over there.
My friends in the meantime, I encourage you to take care of yourselves and make sure that
you do what's right for you.
And hopefully what's right for everybody else around you because a lot of times you gain
a lot from that.
I'm out.
Thank you.