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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared Podcast.

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I'm your host Austin Creed and my friends.

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I'm going to talk today about why men are choosing not to date.

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Now obviously we're not talking about every single man in America or on the planet or

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anything else, but it only takes a small to medium percentage of any group to influence

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the majority.

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And so when I say that right now a lot of men are saying, hey, you know what?

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Yeah, we're not trying to date right now.

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Yeah, we look at the marketplace and we say, why in the hell would I participate in the

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system?

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You might say, well, what are they just bitter?

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Are they hurt?

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Why are they choosing to go the wrong way?

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Why are guys who they're not exactly like me?

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This isn't just about me.

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In fact, I'm arguably kind of late to the game because I'm a younger guy.

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I'm not the first person to bring this up.

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But what I see, especially in the church, the church is one of these places that's supposed

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to be set apart from the majority.

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It's supposed to be a smaller subset of society, a place of refuge and a wasis from the desert.

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But what I see, women especially who ride on a rooster roller coaster, they sleep with

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all these dudes and then all of a sudden they say, hey, you know what?

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I suddenly want to be a Christian now.

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You know, all of a sudden I found religion and I'm saved by the blood of the lamb.

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I've been redeemed.

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They come into church or whatnot.

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That's not inherently bad.

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Here's the problem.

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The problem is now they want to pretend like, oh, nothing.

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My past didn't happen at all, even though I'm not in my prime anymore.

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Even though I'm damaged, I'm Fubar, I'm F'd up beyond all repair because my life's in

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shambles because my relationships have been terrible.

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Now I want to find a good man who's not messed up, who hasn't been doing all these debauchery

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terrible things.

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All of a sudden, the guy who I wouldn't have even looked at twice, 10 years ago, five years

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ago, now all of a sudden I want that guy.

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That is why a lot of us dudes are saying, wait, hold on a second, either we're young

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or we're older.

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We say, wait a minute, a lot of these women, they don't want to even give us a second look.

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Now when we have resources, now when we've built ourselves, all of a sudden they think

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they're entitled to a guy like me.

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They think they're entitled to me, not just that they think they have a shot with me,

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they think that they deserve a guy like me.

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They didn't deserve me when I was, when they were at their prime, but now that I'm at my

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prime, they want to get me on discount.

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They want to get you on discount.

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This is why a lot of men are walking the way because they say, wait a minute, they don't

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want us when we're in our, when they're in their prime, they don't want to have two kids.

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They don't want to be the housewife.

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They don't want to do that role.

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But now when they've got out here, out there fun, tried to nail down to chatting, giga

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chat and Tyrone and giga Tyrone, they try to get that guy locked down.

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When they can't, he had locked down there like, well, I guess I can try to get that,

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that regular good guy who I've been tolling the F off for the last five to 10 to 20 years.

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They then ask, where are all the good men?

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Oh, I find all these sharks, these, these dudes out here who want to pump and dump me.

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What happened to all the nice guys?

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I'll tell you what's happening to those nice guys.

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They're listening to guys like me.

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They're listening to guys like Kevin Samuel's may rest in peace.

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They're listening to guys like a coach Greg Adams.

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They were, they're listening to guys like Rolo Tomasi, Taylor, the Fiend.

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They are watching these guys like myself on the internet or on this side of the argument.

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They say, wait a minute, now I'm catching on to how this works.

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Now I think I know why this is happening.

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Now I didn't know I was gas lit, lied to, given an incomplete plan, but now I see what's

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going on.

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Now I'm going to act different and I'm going to move in accordance, but then that makes

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you bad because now you, you've taken that proverbial bite from the knowledge of good

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and evil and now you're the bad guy.

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Now all of a sudden when you don't want to play the gump, when you don't want to play

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the step dad, all of a sudden you're the bad guy now.

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You were a good man when you were being exploited and you were a good little boy and people

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told you, but now that you want to be a man and you want to have a backbone, now you're

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a bad guy.

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But the reason a lot of us guys, not just me, but most a lot of men are actually are checking

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out the dating marketplace is we're not getting anything from this.

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We're not actually winning by doing, by participating in this garbage.

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The best move we make is we say, you know what?

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We're not playing this game.

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Why would I play a game?

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Let's put it to you like this.

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Why would I play a pickup basketball game against LeBron James?

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Why would I do that?

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I have no chance of winning against LeBron.

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So why in the world would I even start playing?

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There's no point.

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Why in the world would I play when I arm wrestle against Eddie Hall?

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Why would I do that?

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It doesn't make any sense, right?

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Because some, there are some games that the only way that you win is you just don't play

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that game because there's no way you can win.

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I'd rather play a game.

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I might actually win, you know, like in the career world where I might make money.

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I might gain respect.

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I might gain real life skills that will make me a better man, make me a better human being.

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But for some reason I'm a bad guy.

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If I don't sign up to be a utility for somebody else.

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That makes me a bad person, apparently.

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And I think it was Schroeder's view of feminism that stated that women were both simultaneously

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victors and victims at the same time.

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And they got to pick and choose whether they wanted to be empowered or whether they wanted

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to be a victim.

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And my friends, a lot of us are catching on to this.

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A lot of men on the side of the internet, we're catching on to this garbage.

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And instead of getting mad, instead of yelling and kicking and screaming and being mad, we're

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saying that what being mad, that's not going to change the laws.

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That's not going to do anything.

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Instead of being quote bitter and her and whatnot, we're just going to say, you know

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what, go ahead.

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You want to mess up society with all this reigning rainbow garbage.

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Go right ahead.

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You want to have a boss, bitch and go out there and make your own money.

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Go right ahead.

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You want to go out here and act a complete fool on the public stage and have zero logic

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to support what you do.

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Go right ahead.

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But we're not, we're going to sit over here.

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We're going to attend our own garden and you're more welcome to do all the buffoonery you

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want.

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We're over there.

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But when it's over here in our backyard, no, no, no, no, you ain't coming in our backyard

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and messing that up.

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We're going to attend our garden.

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We're going to play our own stuff.

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We're going to just do what we want to do.

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We're going to engage selectively.

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We're going to live our lives and you're going to leave us alone because we don't want to

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be involved in this garbage anymore.

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We don't have a majority in this democratic state.

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So where we can actually get laws to change.

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Now we can't do that.

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So what we're going to do, we're going to do our own thing.

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And apparently, apparently that's an extreme reaction to some people is just saying, I'm

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going to walk away.

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Apparently that's extreme.

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And I say no.

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Well, my friends, I want to ask you, have you decided to go your own way?

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Or are you still trying to navigate the complexities of life and relationships and religion and

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all this stuff because it's hard?

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I get that.

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I don't try to tell you for one second that it's easy because it isn't.

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Everybody has to have their own way of interpreting it and understanding the life that they're

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living.

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My friends, the one thing I would encourage you to do was just say, have the ability to

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say no.

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Have the ability to stand up for yourself and not just be a utility.

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Have those self-respect to stand up for yourself.

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Have the self-respect to say, you know what, I'm not going to tolerate this from people.

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I'm not going to let people just use me.

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I'm not going to let people tell me what to do or what to think.

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I'm not going to let this happen to me.

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I'm going to live my life and I'm going to win.

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Whatever winning is to you, I'm going to work towards winning that life that I want for

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myself.

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Now that's masculine.

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Being reactive and angry, I don't care whether it's your girlfriend cheating on you, getting

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fired from your job, being slandered on the internet.

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I don't care what it is.

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Don't react.

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Don't get emotional.

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Just walk away.

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Just collect yourself.

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Walk away if you need to let off some emotion.

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Go to the gym.

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Whether it's going to the lift weights, going to a boxing gym, going to learn some hand

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hand combat, which I'm actually going to do myself.

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My friends, we need to stop reacting as men because emotions, emotional reactions is not

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masculine.

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We need to say, you know what, if we're done with dating, then we'll do our own thing.

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If we want to keep dating, God bless you.

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That's great.

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We need to approach this in a way that's actually going to benefit us instead of just being

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convinced on the daily basis to just take a fat L.

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Just take the raw deal.

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No.

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No, I'm not just going to sit here and take the raw deal.

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And I don't want you to do that either.

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Why in the world would I work myself to the bone just to take a raw deal that doesn't

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benefit me whatsoever?

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Why would I do that?

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Why do people think it's a privilege to be exploited?

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I don't get it.

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I really don't.

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It's one thing to take pride in giving to other people.

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There's nothing wrong with that.

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It's another thing to be exploited.

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There's another thing to literally be like a gold vein that keeps getting tapped until

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there's nothing left.

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It's one thing to be a well that constantly gives water.

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It's another to be empty and have nothing left.

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And you will find your entire sense of identity and what you give to other people all the

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time about what you give to yourself, about what you actually do for other people.

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But then other people respect you and get something back to you.

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You're not just being used.

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My friends, this is why a lot of men have checked out a dating because they say, you

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know what?

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This is what the dating market is.

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Women give me nothing except maybe use some used kunani.

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And I was supposed to say here and not only be grateful, but they think that I'm that

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I am benefiting from their presence and that they are like the best thing since sliced

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bread.

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And my answer is no.

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No, we're not going to do that.

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At least I'm not.

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You can do what you want.

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I'm not going to do it though.

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And if you do that God bless you.

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I'm not going to take any less of you.

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I might think that you're weird, but you can do what you want.

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It's a free country and it's your life.

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But my friends, this is just a little insight as to why some of us act the way that we

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do.

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And I hate anybody because we say, Hey, we love ourselves.

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We have self respect.

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We're walking away.

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I'm not going to get mad.

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I'm not going to do something dumb.

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I'm just going to walk away and I'm going to choose what I want to do next.

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And that to me is very masculine.

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And when you see a woman who has been used up that she's not in her prime and she's

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on the decline and she comes into your church, she comes into your friend group, do not,

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do not let people pressure you to take them that raw deal.

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Don't do it.

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You will regret it and you will fake me.

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You will fake me later for warning you.

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My friends, take care of yourselves.

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I encourage you to question everything that you heard today.

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If you want to leave your comment, you're more than welcome to do it.

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My ex page page at shipkitsheared same names of podcasts.

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You're all going to hit me up over there.

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My friends in the meantime, I encourage you to take care of yourselves and make sure that

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you do what's right for you.

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And hopefully what's right for everybody else around you because a lot of times you gain

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a lot from that.

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I'm out.

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Thank you.