Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared Podcast.
I'm your host Austin Creed and my friends were talking about today why I think Christian
dating shouldn't exist.
Now I realize right off the gate, people are going to have the wrong idea and the wrong
conclusion.
But don't worry, we'll get that straightened out and by the end of the show today, you
will be able to make your own decision on whether you think that statement is true or
if you think what I've been saying is foul and that I'm mistaken.
But I want to start right away with the findings of terms.
Number one, we wanted to find what is Christian dating look like?
What does it mean?
What are we talking about?
Well Christian dating usually comes down to people who are quote Christians, whether
it's from the people who are zealots to the people who are casual, more almost a Episcopalian
level.
They want to have a relationship that is at some level involving God and they're wanting
to ideally enter a relationship that's supposed to be more serious and more long term and more
purposeful than the average secular relationship.
And then the reason why I say that this shouldn't exist is because it's already based off of
a fraud and a fraud is dating.
You know, I find it hilarious that people don't even know where dating comes from.
People think that everybody's always dated that this is something that is traditional.
You know, there are some words that mean different things to different people, but we still use
the same root word and that word is traditional.
First of all, dating is not traditional.
It is a very modern creation and dating stems from prostitution.
Back in the day, there was this thing called courting.
There was a gentleman caller who would petition the parents, the family, as well as the woman
to have this proposal of marriage and to go down this way of being a gentleman, coming
in good faith, giving flowers, offering gifts, all these things.
That was what it used to look like.
And then if you ever said the word dating, what you meant that was code for I'm going
to go pick up a girl at the pub or I'm going to go hire an escort or I'm going to go and
get a little side punani.
That's what that meant back in the day.
They couldn't say I was going to get my meat fixed at the questionable establishment down
the street.
They couldn't say that because I was socially unacceptable.
So instead they would say, oh, I'm dating her.
I'm not making this up, by the way.
If you do think I'm lying, go and do your own research.
In fact, I encourage you to research everything that I say because I don't make this up.
I know you haven't been told this, so you think I'm lying to you, but I'm not.
I don't see any reason to lie.
While I lie about something you can do a Google search on improve me wrong.
It makes kind of no sense, right?
Exactly.
But that's why we dating has nothing to do with Christianity.
Back in the day, it used to be the families would arrange the marriage.
The man would pay the bride price or whatever it is you want to call it, the dowry, whatever,
and then they would get married.
Now, I know today people think, oh my gosh, that's so offensive and oh, that's so terrible
and whatever.
But then when you look at the statistics of divorce, when you look at who is filing the
divorces, when you look at how much money it's costing men, how much money it's costing
the government to support these women.
You want to hear a funny story?
I'll go on a little sidetrack first.
I can kind of prove my point.
I was on Twitter earlier today and there was this woman who was posting something.
We're having stuff shows up on my feed sometimes.
I don't go looking for this stuff.
But this woman shows up on my feed talking about how she's a single mom and her daughter
is like telling her that she loves her and whatnot and everything was beautiful and everybody
in the comments section was like, so beautiful, so beautiful.
And me being my cynical self was like, wait a minute, where's the father in this situation?
So I then enter and I'm like, wait a minute, where's the father in this situation?
And then of all people to call him, try to call me out.
There's this gay guy who calls me out.
I'm not making this up.
I looked at his profile.
He was very homosexual.
I looked at it and he was like, oh, you know, she's a need of man.
Why would you even say that?
And I said, okay.
Okay.
If I said what you said in reverse, if I said, as a single father, mind you that I don't
need a woman to mess up my family dynamic, would you view that as sexist?
And his response was just like a, a jiff or give whatever you want to call it of like
screaming.
And I was like, checkmate, you lose because they don't have a response to that.
Logic has nowhere to be found.
So when we go into dating, a lot of times people don't insert logic reason into dating
today.
The whole thing is a giant fraud.
The whole thing is a scam.
The whole thing is built off of what could I get from this person?
The women operate from a, I need a provider guy because I'm done with Chad.
I'm done with Tyrone.
I'm done with Kuki.
I'm doing Ray Ray.
I'm trying to do something different.
I want a break from the carousel.
So I'm going to go to church again, or I'm going to go find a guy who's a good man and
he's going to pay for my dates.
He's going to drink me the way I quote deserve to be treated.
And then when I'm done with him, I'll go back to the streets.
I'll tell him it was his fault.
Even though he did everything right, I'm going to tell him it's his fault and we're
going to open both our lives.
And the guy, because he's good, he probably has never seen the side of the internet.
He's not going to say, wait a minute, this isn't my fault.
It's just because she was a skizer and I fell for it and said he's going to actually think
he's the problem.
And instead of saying, wait a minute, maybe I should question this.
Maybe I should say, hold on a second.
Maybe I should just go my own way, blaze my own trail, turn my own garden and ignore this
garbage.
He's going to double down on his behavior.
He's going to try to double down on a bad hand he's been dealt and make even more mistakes
and risking more.
And my friends, that's why I say that Christian dating shouldn't exist because if you look
at actual history, dating stems from prostitution and courting is what used to happen.
And even then the ultimate traditional way was for the families to arrange the marriage
for both the men and the women, for the benefit of the family, not for the benefit of your
emotions, not for the benefit of whether the sex is good or the money is good or whatever.
No, that was not what it was for.
But of course today, everybody is so self absorbed about what they want.
They're not willing to do anything for anybody other than themselves.
And so that's why we're stuck in the world we're living in today.
And because we as men, we operate in the daylight, our actions are called out as they should
be.
I'm not saying that we should not have accountability.
We should.
The problem is accountability is not applied equally because women are more crafty and cunning
than men.
They operate under the cover of darkness.
They'll get their cheeks clapped by my Chad and Kooky, but you won't see it.
So you won't think, oh, you won't think, oh, that definitely happened.
No, you won't.
Unless you're a guy like me and you've seen this garbage and you know these people and
you have common sense and you have the proper perspective.
But most people don't.
They figured out the hard way because we've been lied to since we were little kids that
women were sugar spies and everything nice, which is false.
Even if you look at the manipulated man by Esther Vilar, she writes about how this exact
reality is true.
And it's a woman writing about it, not a hurt guy for all the feminists you want to come
in here.
No.
And my friends, I don't sense because I hate dating.
I hate marriage.
I don't hate these institutions.
In fact, they're supposed to work.
They are supposed to serve as a type of bedrock for our society.
They're supposed to.
But the problem is they don't anymore because men don't benefit and they have to be gaslit,
wide and manipulated into taking this raw deal because the laws are outdated.
The laws don't work anymore, but we're still supposed to take this bad deal.
And if we don't, then we're bad men.
We're not good people and we're the problem.
We're the people for exploiting you, not the government for being in on it, not the politicians
who are not changing the laws.
No, you're the bad guy because you don't want to take the raw deal.
You don't want to try to roll free.
So if you don't, you end up with half your stuff gone, living in your car.
You're the bad guy and I'm sick of it.
And I don't think that should be the way the church, the church should be the place of
people can go for a refuge.
The problem is the church is not doing any better.
And so I really want the church to wake up.
I've done multiple shows on this and I will continue to hammer home this idea of we need
to adapt.
We need to stop falling for these old school ideas, these old hat philosophies that don't
work anymore.
We need to fast forward to a modern day and play towards the future, not trying to wish
our way back to the past.
It doesn't work.
It doesn't work as far.
So I don't see why it would suddenly start working now.
And I'm not saying you should be angry or hurt or anything like that.
No, we just need to adapt and we need to stop putting ourselves in a bad position just because
you think other people want us to do it.
I'm not saying you try to make people feel bad for making the choice they want to make.
I have friends who are married and I still love and respect them.
However, if they come to me and they ask me, Hey, Austin, why are you not married?
I'm going to tell them why I'm not going to say that they're wrong for doing it.
I mean, I could, but I'm not going to do that.
Why?
Because at that point you've already take you've chosen your path already.
So you might as well see it through me on the other hand.
I'm going to do what I think is best and what I think will benefit other men and what I
want to help people.
You know, I think that's part of being a Christian is you want to help.
People.
I want to help people from this Christian dating doesn't help people.
Or maybe it helps.
It helps women.
It doesn't help men very much.
And so that's why we're calling it out and saying it shouldn't exist.
Or at the very least, pastors should give you all of the information.
The problem is they won't do that because if they did, then the marriages would stop.
Or at least a lot of them would stop.
Men wouldn't be so eager to jump in and trade their entire lives or one.
What they think is a continual source of constant sex when statistically that dries up into
a dead bed marriage, but they won't tell you that.
I watch these pastors on the internet.
They preach that oh, just believe enough and this will change.
I hate to tell you marriage statistics, they're not changing because you want them to.
They're not changing is because the economy is bad and women all of a sudden want to go
back to the kitchen, that doesn't mean that suddenly we should stop doing what we want
to do and suddenly give in again.
Feminism still there.
Laws are still there.
Don't fall for this, John.
Well, my friends, I'm curious what you have to say.
If you think I'm fair, foul, somewhere in between, somewhere totally off the radar, go ahead
and let me know.
I am, I look forward to it.
My friends research everything, question everything and be willing to adapt and change
and develop your own personal philosophy.
Hopefully I'll see you next time.
I'm out.
Okay so that is it, everybody seems right, right?