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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared Podcast.

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I'm your host Austin Creed and my friends were talking about today why I think Christian

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dating shouldn't exist.

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Now I realize right off the gate, people are going to have the wrong idea and the wrong

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conclusion.

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But don't worry, we'll get that straightened out and by the end of the show today, you

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will be able to make your own decision on whether you think that statement is true or

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if you think what I've been saying is foul and that I'm mistaken.

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But I want to start right away with the findings of terms.

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Number one, we wanted to find what is Christian dating look like?

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What does it mean?

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What are we talking about?

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Well Christian dating usually comes down to people who are quote Christians, whether

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it's from the people who are zealots to the people who are casual, more almost a Episcopalian

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level.

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They want to have a relationship that is at some level involving God and they're wanting

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to ideally enter a relationship that's supposed to be more serious and more long term and more

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purposeful than the average secular relationship.

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And then the reason why I say that this shouldn't exist is because it's already based off of

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a fraud and a fraud is dating.

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You know, I find it hilarious that people don't even know where dating comes from.

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People think that everybody's always dated that this is something that is traditional.

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You know, there are some words that mean different things to different people, but we still use

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the same root word and that word is traditional.

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First of all, dating is not traditional.

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It is a very modern creation and dating stems from prostitution.

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Back in the day, there was this thing called courting.

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There was a gentleman caller who would petition the parents, the family, as well as the woman

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to have this proposal of marriage and to go down this way of being a gentleman, coming

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in good faith, giving flowers, offering gifts, all these things.

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That was what it used to look like.

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And then if you ever said the word dating, what you meant that was code for I'm going

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to go pick up a girl at the pub or I'm going to go hire an escort or I'm going to go and

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get a little side punani.

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That's what that meant back in the day.

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They couldn't say I was going to get my meat fixed at the questionable establishment down

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the street.

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They couldn't say that because I was socially unacceptable.

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So instead they would say, oh, I'm dating her.

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I'm not making this up, by the way.

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If you do think I'm lying, go and do your own research.

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In fact, I encourage you to research everything that I say because I don't make this up.

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I know you haven't been told this, so you think I'm lying to you, but I'm not.

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I don't see any reason to lie.

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While I lie about something you can do a Google search on improve me wrong.

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It makes kind of no sense, right?

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Exactly.

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But that's why we dating has nothing to do with Christianity.

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Back in the day, it used to be the families would arrange the marriage.

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The man would pay the bride price or whatever it is you want to call it, the dowry, whatever,

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and then they would get married.

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Now, I know today people think, oh my gosh, that's so offensive and oh, that's so terrible

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and whatever.

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But then when you look at the statistics of divorce, when you look at who is filing the

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divorces, when you look at how much money it's costing men, how much money it's costing

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the government to support these women.

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You want to hear a funny story?

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I'll go on a little sidetrack first.

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I can kind of prove my point.

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I was on Twitter earlier today and there was this woman who was posting something.

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We're having stuff shows up on my feed sometimes.

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I don't go looking for this stuff.

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But this woman shows up on my feed talking about how she's a single mom and her daughter

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is like telling her that she loves her and whatnot and everything was beautiful and everybody

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in the comments section was like, so beautiful, so beautiful.

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And me being my cynical self was like, wait a minute, where's the father in this situation?

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So I then enter and I'm like, wait a minute, where's the father in this situation?

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And then of all people to call him, try to call me out.

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There's this gay guy who calls me out.

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I'm not making this up.

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I looked at his profile.

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He was very homosexual.

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I looked at it and he was like, oh, you know, she's a need of man.

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Why would you even say that?

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And I said, okay.

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Okay.

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If I said what you said in reverse, if I said, as a single father, mind you that I don't

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need a woman to mess up my family dynamic, would you view that as sexist?

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And his response was just like a, a jiff or give whatever you want to call it of like

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screaming.

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And I was like, checkmate, you lose because they don't have a response to that.

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Logic has nowhere to be found.

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So when we go into dating, a lot of times people don't insert logic reason into dating

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today.

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The whole thing is a giant fraud.

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The whole thing is a scam.

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The whole thing is built off of what could I get from this person?

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The women operate from a, I need a provider guy because I'm done with Chad.

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I'm done with Tyrone.

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I'm done with Kuki.

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I'm doing Ray Ray.

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I'm trying to do something different.

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I want a break from the carousel.

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So I'm going to go to church again, or I'm going to go find a guy who's a good man and

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he's going to pay for my dates.

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He's going to drink me the way I quote deserve to be treated.

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And then when I'm done with him, I'll go back to the streets.

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I'll tell him it was his fault.

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Even though he did everything right, I'm going to tell him it's his fault and we're

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going to open both our lives.

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And the guy, because he's good, he probably has never seen the side of the internet.

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He's not going to say, wait a minute, this isn't my fault.

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It's just because she was a skizer and I fell for it and said he's going to actually think

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he's the problem.

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And instead of saying, wait a minute, maybe I should question this.

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Maybe I should say, hold on a second.

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Maybe I should just go my own way, blaze my own trail, turn my own garden and ignore this

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garbage.

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He's going to double down on his behavior.

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He's going to try to double down on a bad hand he's been dealt and make even more mistakes

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and risking more.

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And my friends, that's why I say that Christian dating shouldn't exist because if you look

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at actual history, dating stems from prostitution and courting is what used to happen.

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And even then the ultimate traditional way was for the families to arrange the marriage

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for both the men and the women, for the benefit of the family, not for the benefit of your

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emotions, not for the benefit of whether the sex is good or the money is good or whatever.

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No, that was not what it was for.

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But of course today, everybody is so self absorbed about what they want.

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They're not willing to do anything for anybody other than themselves.

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And so that's why we're stuck in the world we're living in today.

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And because we as men, we operate in the daylight, our actions are called out as they should

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be.

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I'm not saying that we should not have accountability.

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We should.

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The problem is accountability is not applied equally because women are more crafty and cunning

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than men.

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They operate under the cover of darkness.

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They'll get their cheeks clapped by my Chad and Kooky, but you won't see it.

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So you won't think, oh, you won't think, oh, that definitely happened.

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No, you won't.

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Unless you're a guy like me and you've seen this garbage and you know these people and

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you have common sense and you have the proper perspective.

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But most people don't.

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They figured out the hard way because we've been lied to since we were little kids that

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women were sugar spies and everything nice, which is false.

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Even if you look at the manipulated man by Esther Vilar, she writes about how this exact

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reality is true.

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And it's a woman writing about it, not a hurt guy for all the feminists you want to come

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in here.

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No.

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And my friends, I don't sense because I hate dating.

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I hate marriage.

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I don't hate these institutions.

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In fact, they're supposed to work.

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They are supposed to serve as a type of bedrock for our society.

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They're supposed to.

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But the problem is they don't anymore because men don't benefit and they have to be gaslit,

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wide and manipulated into taking this raw deal because the laws are outdated.

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The laws don't work anymore, but we're still supposed to take this bad deal.

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And if we don't, then we're bad men.

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We're not good people and we're the problem.

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We're the people for exploiting you, not the government for being in on it, not the politicians

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who are not changing the laws.

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No, you're the bad guy because you don't want to take the raw deal.

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You don't want to try to roll free.

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So if you don't, you end up with half your stuff gone, living in your car.

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You're the bad guy and I'm sick of it.

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And I don't think that should be the way the church, the church should be the place of

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people can go for a refuge.

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The problem is the church is not doing any better.

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And so I really want the church to wake up.

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I've done multiple shows on this and I will continue to hammer home this idea of we need

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to adapt.

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We need to stop falling for these old school ideas, these old hat philosophies that don't

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work anymore.

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We need to fast forward to a modern day and play towards the future, not trying to wish

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our way back to the past.

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It doesn't work.

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It doesn't work as far.

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So I don't see why it would suddenly start working now.

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And I'm not saying you should be angry or hurt or anything like that.

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No, we just need to adapt and we need to stop putting ourselves in a bad position just because

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you think other people want us to do it.

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I'm not saying you try to make people feel bad for making the choice they want to make.

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I have friends who are married and I still love and respect them.

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However, if they come to me and they ask me, Hey, Austin, why are you not married?

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I'm going to tell them why I'm not going to say that they're wrong for doing it.

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I mean, I could, but I'm not going to do that.

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Why?

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Because at that point you've already take you've chosen your path already.

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So you might as well see it through me on the other hand.

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I'm going to do what I think is best and what I think will benefit other men and what I

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want to help people.

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You know, I think that's part of being a Christian is you want to help.

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People.

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I want to help people from this Christian dating doesn't help people.

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Or maybe it helps.

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It helps women.

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It doesn't help men very much.

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And so that's why we're calling it out and saying it shouldn't exist.

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Or at the very least, pastors should give you all of the information.

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The problem is they won't do that because if they did, then the marriages would stop.

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Or at least a lot of them would stop.

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Men wouldn't be so eager to jump in and trade their entire lives or one.

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What they think is a continual source of constant sex when statistically that dries up into

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a dead bed marriage, but they won't tell you that.

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I watch these pastors on the internet.

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They preach that oh, just believe enough and this will change.

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I hate to tell you marriage statistics, they're not changing because you want them to.

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They're not changing is because the economy is bad and women all of a sudden want to go

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back to the kitchen, that doesn't mean that suddenly we should stop doing what we want

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to do and suddenly give in again.

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Feminism still there.

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Laws are still there.

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Don't fall for this, John.

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Well, my friends, I'm curious what you have to say.

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If you think I'm fair, foul, somewhere in between, somewhere totally off the radar, go ahead

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and let me know.

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I am, I look forward to it.

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My friends research everything, question everything and be willing to adapt and change

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and develop your own personal philosophy.

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Hopefully I'll see you next time.

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I'm out.

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Okay so that is it, everybody seems right, right?