Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared Podcast.
I'm your host, Austin Creed, and today my friends, we're going to be talking about how
the church manipulates men.
My friends, I don't take any joy in saying this.
Quite frankly, it really makes me sad that we even have to have this conversation.
But unfortunately, when I look at the church today, and not just the church I've been to,
I'm saying in a general broad sense.
I see a very unfortunate shift.
The shift is mainly towards men being pushed out and women being elevated.
Now, this whole idea of equality has bled from the secular realm into the religious
realm, which wouldn't be so bad if equality was actually what people wanted.
When in fact, just like the Trojans found out during the Trojan War, a gift is often dubious
at best because just like the Trojan horse the Greeks gave the Trojans they thought was
a gift, turns out it was in fact a terrible atrocity from which they would never recover.
And our society is no different with how feminism has affected our society.
And I'm not just here to persecute feminism, I mean, everybody in their grandpa is doing
that today, so that's not something new.
But when it comes to the seduction of the spirit itself, when we look at the church leadership,
and I'm not just talking about one specific church or even just Christianity at this point
either, we look at how the church has not adapted to the modern day.
We see how pastors instead of saying, hey, we have the Jezebel spirit at stage left,
and then we have the spirit of memmon or the greed, the desire for power on stage right.
We have to ask ourselves, wait, hold on a second.
We look at the marriage laws, and as much as we want to say that, oh, oh no, we're the
church, we're religious, state got nothing on us, we are even the ruler of it.
Well, then what happens then when you then sign a marriage contract that doesn't favor
you?
What that happens when, hold on a second, you're faced with a very unfortunate reality.
What happens when, oh no, oh no, I have to go and to the guy to go to the divorce court
because my wife wants to get rid of me?
What?
What are you saying, my kids not our kids?
Why is this happening?
Why is my wife suddenly switching up on me?
Maybe she's not divorcing me yet, but maybe she doesn't want to have sex with me anymore.
Maybe she's working all the time and all of a sudden she's distant from me, what do I
do?
What do I do, Austin?
Well, I'm sorry man, you ain't got leverage.
You're pastor, you ain't gonna help you in the divorce court because he can't.
That is a law contract that he has nothing to do with and he can't help you even though
he might want to, he can't.
So when I go to church, and I'm not just one church, when I go to a church and I hear
pastors talk about whether it's on the internet or whether it's just at in their church because
a lot of churches have live streams that is not hard to go into a church's live stream.
So when I see them talk about how the church is built off of young couples and off of marriage
and if you're a young guy or you're a young gal and you want to get married, then that's
the right thing to do and having sex outside of marriage is bad and whatnot.
I totally understand what they're saying.
I do.
Here's a problem though.
Here's what they're not telling you because it all sounds well and good.
Technically speaking, they are not lying.
That's what they are lying by omission about in my opinion.
They're not telling you, oh by the way, marriage is a contract between you, Uncle Sam and your
significant other.
They don't tell you that part.
They don't tell you that if stuff goes south, there's this thing called no fault divorce
where your wife can wake up one day and say, hey, you know what?
Yeah, I'm done.
You know, I've been kind of fed up with you for the last couple months now and I've
kind of over you or, hey, I went to that girl's nights out last week and I got my cheeks clapped
by Tyrone in the bathroom and I realized that I'm not attracted to you anymore because
she wouldn't say that part but you find that out like, I don't know, two, three years later
maybe you find that out or maybe Tyrone moves into her apartment or your house after you
get kicked out of your house that you paid the mortgage for and you get to live in your
car.
So I've taken this up.
There are real people on the internet and in real life who've gone through this.
This is not something new.
So my friends, when I talk about this, this is something that hits real people's lives.
I want you to know that the church has a responsibility to point out these realities and they're not
doing it.
And it really makes me sad.
I wish I could sit here and tell you that this wasn't the case but it is.
So when we deal with these uncomfortable realities, when we have this hard conversation, you
have to realize that, guess what?
We're dealing with very sad realities.
The question is, does the church just ignore it and think that, oh, if I just don't talk
about this, then maybe it will just go away.
Maybe it will just not affect me anymore.
Maybe I can just move on.
Maybe the problem will just sticks itself.
You know, you might think that that's what they're doing but here's the part they won't
tell you.
What they won't tell you is they benefit from marriage because guess what?
Kids are really, really, really easy to indoctrinate.
Kids are really, really easy to get them to keep coming back to church, keep giving money
in the offering plate.
Oh yes, and I'm not saying that's bad inherently but that's the part they're not telling you.
They make it seem like, oh, it has nothing to do with money.
Oh, it has nothing to do with you getting to do things for free called volunteering.
They want to pretend like it doesn't have anything to do with that but it does because
most dudes are good men.
Most dudes are like, hey, I want to give back.
I want to be a nice person.
I want to be a good guy.
The problem is that goodness, that desire to do nice things, kind things, be a good
guy is then exploited.
It is utilized.
It is treated like, oh, sweet.
Okay, well guess what?
I'm going to use you here, here, here, here and everywhere else and you know, I'll teach
you how to be good and I'm not going to reward you.
I will penalize you if you step out of line or I'll shame you or whatever but being a
good man means putting everybody in their grandma before you, you take the raw deal,
you just follow the sword every day for everybody else and that makes you a good man.
You know, marrying a single mother or marrying a woman who's like 25 to 30 who's had more,
you've had more schmendrics inside her than your parents age so what?
What?
You don't want to do that?
You're not one of those toxic mean guys, are you?
Oh, no, no, no, no.
You don't want to be a toxic mean guy.
No, no, no, you want to be a good example, you know, like Jesus was and just take the
raw deal, just go out there and sacrifice for everybody else, have them not appreciate
you, not thank you, not do anything for you in return and if you want to complain about
it, well then you're the problem.
That's unfortunately what a lot of men are dealing with right now and to me, I find it
disgusting.
You know what I'd love to see?
I would love to see a church pastor elder, deacon, anybody come out here and say, you
know what, we see that the world is changing.
We see that a lot of men are taking raw deals.
We see that a lot of women are really not marriage material, but they'll try to back
door you, shame you or anything in the relationship.
So here's what we're going to do.
We are going to hold a legal seminar so that a lawyer of our congregation or a higher one
and what they'll do is we'll come in here and they'll tell you all about the marriage
process, freeing up and we'll talk about the divorce law process.
We'll talk about how this is what could happen to you.
This is what marriage actually looks like behind the scenes outside of the rose colored
glasses that you have because you're horny and we're going to really tell you and break
this down into a science because we want to make sure that you have the best foot forward
and you could actually live this out and we're not going to use vague, sphincter language
like just read the Bible and everything will figure itself out.
We're not going to just make it seem like we're super wise when we're really just kind
of giving you a blank check and you know, we're kind of like this garbage.
You know, you might have picked up on that and I'm not knocking reading the Bible.
It's fantastic.
What I'm knocking is people using vague language, using Christianese vocabulary and people don't
know how to actually live their daily lives.
People don't know how to actually deal with hard problems.
You want to like speak in riddles like the riddler from Batman and you want to make it
seem like that every and then look at other people like they're crazy when they don't
get it.
I think it's disgusting.
I don't think it's good.
It doesn't lead to healthy communities.
It doesn't lead to good multi-generational churches because guess what?
We don't live in the 1950s anymore.
We don't live in society that you might think we wish we lived in.
But guess what?
We don't.
All you have to do is go on the Internet and see it for yourself and I know people who
say, oh, Austin, you know, that's just the Internet.
That's not real life.
Last time I checked real life people have Internet connection.
So just because they don't act that way in front of you when you see them at the grocery
store or at the, oh, I don't know where you go at the movie theaters or at the gym or
whatever, doesn't mean that they're any different.
It just means that they're not going to show you how crazy they are or who they actually
are because it's not socially appropriate.
And I think that our spirits are being seduced by these by these disgusting individuals who
are not discussing with you the harsh realities because it hurts their pocketbooks.
It hurts them.
And so we need to really have a harsh discussion about it.
That's what I think.
And I'm not saying this because I'm hurt.
I'm saying this because I want to stop people from doing this.
It's with a heavy heart that I even have to talk about this.
I wish I didn't have to.
But guess what?
They are leading you right down the Krameros path, right to the altar, be sacrificed and
I'm sick of it.
I think it's about time that we had people win again.
I want you to win.
My friends, I think I'll leave it there.
We'll save this for another time.
I think you get the point and I can get given you a chance to chew on for today.
My friends, if you have anything you want to ask, add, inquire, whatever, give me up on
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My friends, take care of yourselves.
Question everything.
I'm out of here.