Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the sheep Get Sheared podcast. I'm your host, Austin Creed, and today my friends, we're going to be hopping into relationships. I talk about relationships a lot on this show. I have a whole book about it biblical. Bachelor where I talk about the benefits of not being married and how there are different lifestyle choices out there. But you know. We're going to look at a question that I I can't seem to not look at. I don't know what it is, but every almost every day I'll come across. I don't know if this is just like an algorithm thing. Maybe because sometimes I look up stuff for the show about relationships and so I haven't flooded into my social media whether Twitter, Instagram. If I watch TikTok, which I don't do a lot of, but if I check it out then it pours in. My my for you page and one of the things that's I'm pouring into my for you page is this idea of men benefiting more from relationships than women, I cannot believe. People have this idea, but you know what we're going to explore it because you know. What? Why not? I'll indulge this for a second. Number one, I want to make one thing clear. If you want to look at data. As much as I love data on this show, the one thing I really want to put forward is an idea that I learned from Esther Vilar in her book The Manipulated Man, which is a fantastic book. But I warn you, if you don't like very harsh, uncomfortable realities, it's going to be a lot for you to handle. So I will let you know that. Right away, but one of the statements she makes in her book. Is that women do not value statistical data in the same way that men do, because for men were more analytical versus and she argued that women were more emotional and in her words she said that women were not as intelligent as men, not because they lacked the capacity, but because they could afford to be lazy. And she said that she benefit that women in general benefited more from keeping men. In the dark. And playing innocent and didn't value the statistical data in the same way that most men do. No, I know that's a generalization, but for a woman to say that it gives you a little pause for thought, and this was written back. In the 1970s. But you know enough of the past. Let's move a little bit forward to the present and the present. We're going to look at some videos of people discussing what? Women want in relationships versus what men want in relationships, and then we're going to tie it all together and we're going to really see, do men benefit more? The men really benefited all from relationships, much less they benefit more than women do. We're going to look at this in detail, but for your voice to be heard because this is a show that I want to hear. Your feedback, even if I don't like it. I believe in free speech. You have full right to criticize me. You. Full right to say whatever you want. It's. A free country, I will. Tell you this? I want you to keep your mind open so that you can debate these things up in here so you can decide for yourself what you want to believe. Not just knee jerk to stay where you currently are. You end up back there. That's fine. I invite you to open your mind to new potential possibilities. Without further ado, we're going to go in the first clip of this show. My friends, I will tell you the one problem I have with. A lot of. 

Girls want number. 

This kind of conversation and a lot of times people get upset with me for highlighting this reality. Women tend to say one thing and do the opposite. Now men sometimes do this too, but most men we tend to just say what we mean and mean what we say. Now are there Poopies and ray rays and whatnot? Who will run game and and lie and manipulate and stuff? Of course there is. I'm not going to lie and say. 

Like. 

Prison or what I will say is most men, not that they can't do that. It's not. They don't only know how most men are not good at manipulation. By the way. Now women might not understand this because they only deal with the guys who are towards the top of the totem pole, which is how they're biologically programmed to operate. So I'm not saying that. 

Value is right about me. 

Relationship are better for being than they are just how do you feel relationship? 

That they shouldn't do it. They're gonna do it. We as men want the most beautiful woman you can get. And women want the strongest, most viable man and you know, to really be a workhorse for her and her and her children. Not yours. Hers. In the eyes of the law. All too often. It is her children, not you know, your children. Yours. You know. It's funny. Yesterday before I jump into these videos, I know you're probably wanting me to jump into it. But give me one. Second, I was I'm a history nut and I. Was looking through. The 19th century to the 20th century leading up to the 21st century century, a lot of people talk about World War One, World War 2, all that kind of stuff. But you know what I've noticed a trend from like, the Napoleonic era in France up until now because he entered the picture. The end of the French Revolution. And I find it funny where they talk about the Napoleonic coat and and the Napoleonic Co. Code. If you took the Napoleonic code and you took the exact opposite, you'd have Barney. From this laws, I was shocked when I learned about this. I didn't put the pieces together till really yesterday. I was on a friend of mine show two days ago. And. He and I had a really great conversation. But it was it was an interesting thing to realize because back in France, in the old days, when Napoleon was in charge, women couldn't hold their own like bank accounts. Women couldn't cheat on their husbands, that they did, they got punished. The children belong to the men, not to the women in a custody dispute. And you look at today and you're like my God. We have the exact opposite in society. Now we have the exact opposite, where men, if you, you could literally do everything right, not cheat on your wife at all. Your wife cheats on you. She can still get half of your stuff. And. Your kids, you cheat. You ain't getting nothing. Your wife someone spends most of your money. If you hide money from your wife and you're a bad person if she hides money from you, she's just protecting herself. You see how the dynamics have shifted, but this plays a role in the modern relationship because people want to point to the past as an either a good or bad example. But then they want to neglect the unfortunate realities in the present. Of the current world in which we live. And that being said, let's go to the first video. I want to show you, and let's do it. 

Things girls want in the bedroom #1 she does not want you to rush it. She wants you to take your time. Each of you guys have four play and not just be like, oh, let's do this and, like, get it done really quick. #2. She wants you to take the lead. She wants you to be like, hey, let's switch it. Let's do this position. Let's do this. She feels like she has to do everything. She's not going to be as aroused #3 asking her what she likes and also telling her what you like. There's sometimes like this awkwardness because the other. And doesn't know if the person likes what they're doing or not by like reassuring the girl. It's gonna make the process, the experience so much. Better. Oh my God. 

See, here's part of the problem. The women's experience is so much different than the man's. Let's go to the comments section. Giant comment section on this video. Let's look at this. Hold on look. This is my favorite comment I've seen in a long. Time. Says instructions unclear. Got arrested. That's the world we live in. German. If you're out here in these streets like me, you have to be really careful because you never know. One wrong move. You're going to jail. Or you're getting sued, or your reputation. Is gonna get. Absolutely. Weed whacked. You gotta be really careful. Because there's this. It's for all the feminism we've seen in the society. There's still this notion that women are weaker when in fact this is not true. Are they weaker physically? For the most part, yes. Are they we're going to in any other area? No, no they are. 

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Not, in fact. They are so good at assassinating characters. They're so good at getting around. Women are really good at whistling to other men to take you out. Now, not every woman will do this with every woman can do this. You see how that gets really dangerous. That's the problem we have in society is do women like dominant men who take the lead, who aren't afraid to lead? Yes, they do. Here's the problem. They don't want you to lead in the way that they want you. They don't want you to lead, by the way you want. They want to backseat drive on you. When you drive. Places they don't want to tell you where to go, what to do, what to say, what not to do. But then, once you lead, if I'm going to lead, whether it's in a school project, professional seminar, lecture, whatever, or if. It's. Even in a relationship, I'm going to lead the way. I want to leave now. If I'm doing something that really bothers you. Feel free to let me know, but in general I'm going to do what I want to do. I'm going to do what I think needs to be done and what I want to do, and if you don't like it you will feel feel free to leave. That's how I operate, but so many women are out here trying to tell men and not the average guy. Average guy doesn't exist. He's invisible. They're trying to tell tell Chad Tyrone Pookie. To be a better guy, which is the exact opposite of what they're actually attracted to. Have you ever heard the story of beating the beast? I know Disney popularized it, but the idea of beauty and the beast is a fable that women like men who are beastly so that they can make them into civilized men. This is a biological thing. Somewhat sociological, but less and less today, because women like to lie about stuff. My friends, that's the biggest problem I have with this whole argument of, you know, do win. Do men benefit more from relationships and whatnot? Because for the most part, most men don't have any options at all. So of course they're going to be more happy with getting any woman they can possibly get because they have no options at all. That's just a reality. I'm not trying to insult you. If you fall in that category, it's just an unfortunate truth. But most men have next to zero options, and the average man has seven sexual partners over the course of his entire life. Women I know, women who have had more than seven sexual partners in one night. In one night. I will not mention their names, but they know who they are. I know women who have done that in one night. And you want to sit here and tell me that there's an equivalent exchange happening here? No, there is not. No, there isn't. So of course, women are going to feel held back in a marriage today because they have so many options or perceived options. They don't know what to do with themselves. Men, on the other hand, are feeling more and more pressured because the inflation, the whole flation's out of control. And to go along with this idea of women saying one thing and then doing the complete opposite, let's have this woman speak. 

One thing I've been learning is just like now the three things that like I want and value is a guy to value me being consistent and being like being dependable and not being dependable financially but just mentally, emotionally. It's like someone that you can call 3 in the morning and they'll be there for you, but just someone that's just gonna have that security. 

For you. 

See what she didn't mention was, oh, by the way, he, I need to find him really attractive. Oh, in addition to the things I just said, he also needs to make a lot of money. Oh, in addition to that, he needs to have the the four sixes. He needs to have a six pack. Needs to have 6 inches below the equator. Needs to make 6 needs to be over 6 feet tall, and he needs to make. Over six figures in a year. Ideally in a month, but I'll take. A year? See, that's the part that gets me is women, don't they say one thing and then choose the opposite and then want to feign ignorance? Like, oh, why don't these men give me what I want? Because you're not telling them the truth. Now, arguably, a lot of men don't can't handle the truth, but it's going to be a transition phase because. From their Mamas to their grandmas to sisters, aunts, cousins, they've been told to be the nice guy that cares about women and treats them right and blah blah, blah. Meanwhile, he sees every guy. Who does the? Exact opposite of what he's saying get results. Tell me I am lying. Please tell me I'm lying. I I love to hear this argument. But again, I'm not saying this because I'm upset about it. I have accepted it a long time ago. What upsets me is the fact that people want to complain about not getting what they want while actively false. False advertising. What they want in line. Like women speaking code, gentlemen, I know you probably don't know this unless you have experience in the in the dating marketplace. Women speaking code, you have to dissect what they said into what they actually mean. And women do this with other women, too. This isn't just a man or woman thing. Women speaking code. They have their own language. That they speak amongst each other with that is meant for you to not understand echoes or diabolical, but because you couldn't handle them, telling you the objective truths of the realities in the world you're living in. That's all. I don't think they do it because they hate you. They do it because they know that you. Can't handle it? My friends, that's why, in my opinion, this idea of men benefiting more from relationships is #1 based off of false pretenses and #2. What are men actually getting in a relationship? That's my real question. What are we getting exclusivity exclusive access maybe 200 years ago? Anymore. Our our girl can cheat on us while we're at work, and we will never know about it because she why? Because it is the easiest thing for her to do for a guy to cheat is not easy. You think it's easy because your boyfriend's a cheat past most dudes? Can't do that because they just can't. Not enough women are interested in them to have the capacity. Cheat. It's not like they don't want to, they just can't. So that's why this argument of all my past boyfriends, cheaters, blah, blah to me, that tells me that you're shooting out of your price range when it comes to the men you're dealing with. Versus if you know a woman cheats any woman, the most unattractive woman could cheat. All she got to do is get the right dude at the right time to come over and he'll clap those cheeks. He might not be happy with himself when he's done, he'll do it. He'll do it because we as men are programmed to do that takes discipline and not do that. The mark of a man is not to sleep with as many women as possible. It's to turn down the easy, potentially risky action he could get. And I'll be honest with you, I haven't mastered that either. I am not a all knowing Sensei who's teaching grasshoppers here. I'm in the streets, in the canals with y'all in this fight. But my friends, let's look at the opposition, shall we? Let's look at what the opposition has to say. Well, I mean opposition. I mean, the opposite side of the argument, not the opposite side of like, we're in a gender war now, the gender war is a stupid construct. I don't think that's true. I mean, the opposite side is argument. Let's get into it. 

Relationships are better for men than they are for women. Men get more benefits out. 

Right. 

Of it I just. How do you feel now that? 

You lied to me. 

A relationship is more beneficial to a man than a. Woman. Statistically, men fare better. And men live better. Your depression rates go down, your health actually goes up. You gotta think about this. Most men don't even have. Yep, women are depression rates go down, our health goes down. Our emotional health declines. 

And On the contrary, women do not when married. 

All of these things, men actually benefit more from this. 

Oh. 

Oh, hell no. 

Really. Really. Oh, in other words, having all your stuff paid for and all your stuff taking care of and the mortgage paid, the car payment paid for the groceries, paid for the insurance, paid for your kids, paid for your makeup, paid for, let's can go on and on. That's not beneficial. You know, do you? I'm gonna play a little bit of devil's advocate here. Do you think that partially women benefit by being labeled the victim? So at any point in time, they'll put themselves as the victim so that they can benefit even more. I'm not saying those were, though, that is not. I'm not saying those two women are doing that. What I'm saying is, let's have the conversation because I think that there's elements of truth to that. I think there is. And if you want to call me names or even asking the question I already know who you are. You are a matrix person and you don't like questions because they make you uncomfortable and they challenge your worldview because you want to live in this rat race. Well, have fun, but don't drag me down into the rat feces you live in. That's my answer, but let's go to look at what this argument really entails, OK? According to Psychology Today, research apparently shows that men tend to be happier in relationships than not. First of all, how are we defining happiness? What is the guy going to say? He's miserable in his marriage so he can get divorced. Grapes to Kingdom come. I mean, what's going on here? This is equivalent to a hostage situation. So what are you talking about? Of course he's going to say. What is he going to tell his wife? No, I think you're a miserable woman. And I'm sick and tired of you and. What? Not he wouldn't say that he's not suicidal. I mean, what's going on here? That this is not going to happen, but again increased. Well-being better health. Psychological benefits. How do we measure these things? Where is this study? Where is this study? These cultural stereotypes persist despite evidence that marriage serves men much more than women in almost every way. Can I see the research? I'm not seeing a whole lot of actual research here. Ohh, Yale University. Wow. Let's see if they have anything that's worth looking at here and not just some new world order level garbage. Let's look at the. Ohh, no, never mind. I gotta subscribe to something to get into that. Ohh, that's great. You know, there's this quote that I read from Esther Villar. I quote her on this show because I have never seen people put. Words in such raw terms, the way that she does most women don't speak or write the way she does, and what she said was. What but money combined a woman to a man? She argued that women see men as inferior because men naturally have the desire to serve and protect women, thus making them. More important than them? I know a lot of people are gonna disagree with that statement, but unfortunately that's just. Kind of the way it works. Now, can a woman do everything a man can do? No. Can a man do everything that a woman can do? No. However, women are, in my opinion, are born with the same capacity to achieve as men. Problem is, let me ask you something if you could. Would you work really hard and bust your behind all day if you had a robot who would do all that for you? All you could do what you wanted to do instead. Probably do what you want to do, wouldn't you? Course you would. Well, that robot in that situation is a man. Women know that men have a desire to protect and shield them and provide for them, so they exploit them. Yeah, I'm not saying that. I'm not saying I'm not drawing the moral judgment. I'm not. I'm. Saying that's the way it is. You can call it love. You can call it whatever you want, but at the raw basis of it, that's what it is. That's why women have children with men, not because they love the man. Because the children are insurance that the man can't just leave her. The the the servant she has can just leave. My friends, let me ask you, do you think that men benefit today in the modern day marriage modern relationship? I'll leave that decision to you. I've I've presented different viewpoints. I've given you a little food for thought at the end of the day, what matters is what you think and what you choose to do with the information that you've heard too. My friends, I encourage you to share your thoughts, your reactions, because at the end of the day, I guarantee you you're not alone with the reactions that you have. My friends in the mean time, I encourage you to question everything that you heard from me or anybody else, because at the end of the day you have to use your own mind, not just let other people do the thinking for you, my friends, to carry yourselves. I hope you learn something. I'm out. Peace.