Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the sheep Get Sheared podcast. I'm your host, Austin Creed, and today we're talking about relationships. This is the topic we talk about all the time on the show. So it should be no. Surprise to those of you who. Have watched the show before, my friends. You know, relationships, in my opinion, are something that is probably the most important decision you'll ever make in your. Life the reason I say that is not because I want you to be stressed. I say that to you because at the end of the day, it could either be the best decision of your life or it can lead to. A huge problem that then you have to spend a decade or several decades dealing with paying for suffering through and this could go on and on. And so when we talk about relationships, it's really easy to talk about how this one group is to blame. And this one group is the victim. And I don't think that that is smart. In fact, if anything, it's very disingenuous. Let me ask you something. How many times in your life have you tried to oversimplify an issue? Have you? In making a generalization, you've misled people. You've made a mistake, you've made a complex issue. Into something that it is not how many times you've done that. There's no shame. We've all done. But today I hope to not do that. In fact, if you really want to know my philosophy, I wrote this book. Biblical bachelor. I talk all about it. And very descriptive detail about the alternatives that are available to you. We look at society. Say and Western civilization as a whole was built upon the traditional judeo-christian values. But we look at today and we see the debauchery, the garbage, the sewer pipe of Hollywood. We see all these things just flying at us from every single direction, and it's no wonder that. People are checking out. People are saying I'm going overseas, I'm going, monk. I'm not dealing with this. I'm gonna get a surrogate. I'm. I'm not going to deal with the semi quasi feminist, not traditional wannabe traditional society that. At face value says they care about tradition, but as soon as you go at least a little under the surface, you see. It for what it truly is. A lie. A deception. End of fraud, a total facade and that's why we're going to talk about relationships again today and I'm going to offer you alternatives. It's easy for someone to come up here and dash one thing without providing solutions. For me, being a biblical bachelor is a solution, and I've written all about it. Now, when it comes to that. And one of the issues I have and I have a bone to pick, especially with the modern Christian Church, mainly the Protestants, Catholics are kind of guilty of this, but nowhere near to the extent Protestants are. The reason I have a bone to pick with a lot of the Protestant churches is because it's too. Being a little too happy, go lucky, you little. It's going along with the program too much. It's been secularized and. The reason we have a monogamous society. Is it's nothing new. I mean we can look in history and we're going to do that here in a second, but we can look throughout society and we could say at surface level. Ohh we're very monogamous. We know we have one man, one woman or one woman, one woman, one man, one man. We don't have a lot of plural marriages in this country. We have people get divorced. All the time. And then get remarried, which in my opinion is polygyny, but we'll ignore that. We'll we'll go for the social monopoly. We'll go with the program. But even then. We are only at surface level and so you may say, well, what's beyond what we have now? Well, I'm so glad you have, because we're going to get into that right now. But if you want your voice to be heard and if at any point you. Feel like? 

This is the worst kind of discrimination. The kind against me. 

And more than welcome to voice. Opinion. You're more than welcome to call me out. Say that I'm wrong and tell me why. Because that is what this show is about. This show is not meant for me to be, to throw information in your face. And you either accept it or reject it. No. The show is built on conversation. Dialogue for you to develop your own personal philosophy. Whether it aligns with mine or is 100% farthest thing from it, there is no wrong answers here. There is nothing wrong with that in my opinion. Now can you be more in line with reality and completely out of line with reality? Yes, you can. But at the end of the day, that is your choice, not mine. Your choice to make. And in that spirit, we're going to present you with some science. And so let's get. Let's get down to the whole monogamy question. Yui, though according to Psychology Today, monogamy is natural from the perspective of evolutionary psychology. Ohh. If I'd go that far, but let's see what they say. This is because bothering is a natural is a natural is natural in humans, and fathering only evolves from enough. Sexual exclusive exclusivity to ensure paternity certainty for men and resource provision certainty for women. In other words, what they're saying is it evolved from a man's desire to have his own woman and a woman's desire to not starve and have shelter. That's essentially what they said, using scientific, flamboyant language. However, science has yet to definitively determine whether humans are naturally monogamous. Or polygamists you see, in my opinion, and from what I've seen both in religious texts, historical texts, anthropology. Societies will develop based upon what they just described, the access to resources, the distribution of said resources, and the access to them. In other words, if you have a person of means, then you can have more versus someone who has to deal with less and subsist upon. Less than what's you know might be standard, so therefore they have to deal with less. Plus we also cannot avoid the realities of Community building. I mean, let's just look at the fact that what was it past the year of like? The night past the 20th century. There were like fewer than 1 billion people on the planet. And then since World War since the modern industrialization, that number has skyrocketed. That a billion people every like 10 to 15 years. OK. So when we're community building, whether it's in America, whether it's in Europe, Africa, Asia, Australia, it doesn't matter. When you're building a community, you want to avoid people whacking each other based off of mating issues. That's why patriarchy has existed not only not to keep women in their place, but to keep men in their place to keep men accountable and to protect women not only from other men, but from themselves in the process. So that's the part that women forget is yes. It's there to protect women from men, but it's also supposed to protect women from their own bad choices. Ladies, let's just be totally honest. How many times in your life have you asked your husband, boyfriend, Father, brother, uncle for help for a problem you caused that you walked into, or that you had something. A large reason to deal with. We call those victim blaming. Now I call it accountability. And then you have to have somebody come play rescue heroes. Save you how many times have we seen that? Ohh, we've seen it a lot. In fact, there's a whole story. A whole series of stories based off of this that you might. Heard of them? They're the Princess locked in a tower. The Prince comes to say the Princess type of stories. Why do you think those existed? Not because there were a lot of Princess and princesses. Because a lot of women needed help to survive. And they needed help from protection today. The government does that job. Back in the day, the government didn't have the capacity to spy on you to surveillance. You behind your back, illegally, by the way, now. And so they had to depend upon the individual to contribute. But today they don't have to do that. And so that's why with the security of the government, monogamy is falling apart because monogamy is based off of giving men, especially in normal patriarchal societies, a reason to participate in the society we see today. I I know I'm not discussing the literature yet. This is a stream of consciousness show. You ever wonder why today a lot of men are checking out a society they don't feel as though they have anything to gain their? Going their own way, disengaging the reason that's happening is not because the men hate women. It's because men are not gaining from society anymore. Believe it or not, people tend to be more enthusiastic about a social order about a career, about an activity when they stand to. Men and fate from that. And that's not just men. Women are the exact same way. The problem is in today's society. There are certain people who are told you have privilege. You have all the advantages in the world, but yet they live it out and they're like, wait a minute. What are you talking about? It seems like every which way to someday I'm being blocked and inhibited by yet told that I have the biggest advantages on the planet. And then they wonder why they're checking out and saying, you know what, your system sucks. I'm not going to participate. I'm gonna go do what I want to do, and you can go F yourself. Basically, you can go screw off. I don't care about you. That's what they're saying because they don't have anything to gain back in the day, a man have something to gain by contributing to his family, to the local community. Even his country as a whole now he doesn't have anything to gain. In fact he puts himself, he puts his neck on the chops. And block when he engages with women. She could false allegation him. She could take him to child support court, take him to family court, ruin his reputation, slander him. I'm not saying every woman will do this. I'm saying they have the capacity to do these things and we be foolish to not identify that. So part of the reason monogamy is falling apart. Because the men at the top, who have all the protection and of us say in the government more than the average person, they have access to multiple women versus the average guy no longer has an incentive to contribute. So now he's going his own way and walking away entirely. And that's why we see what we're seeing and this is being reflected in the literature. Let's go back says. However, science has yet to determine whether humans are naturally monogamous. Monogamy does exist in nature, but only in nine per cent of mammals and 29% of primates are monogamous. Humans are. Socially monogamous in the same way that many birds are, for example, geese form a lifelong couples and rarely mate with anybody other than that partner most humans. Can't do that. Not that they lack the capacity. They lack the desire. They have the ability to do it, but they lack the capacity to follow through and you know the reason that women are blamed for a lot of this is because the average woman has access to pretty much any man she wants. So therefore she's hold to a higher standard than the guy. That's like me, put it. To you like this. If there was a weak, scrawny guy in the, you know who was going to school, and then there's this big jock guy out of his mind. We also go to the same school. That guy who's jacked who? If he hits someone, or if he gets into a fight, is liable to put the other person in the hospital. He's going to be held under stricter scrutiny than the guy who couldn't do anything, even if he tried. On the dating marketplace, the average woman could have access to anyone from a billionaire to a brokie. And so if she's held to a higher standard on the sexual marketplace. And women want to complain about this because they don't like it. Well, it's too damn bad. You can go complain to God about it, cause that's just how it works. If men had access to it, we would be held that standard too. But we are not, so we don't get held to that standard. Women want to often complain about how men tend to be rewarded on a social level. For sleeping with women. But then women are penalized for sleeping with a lot of men and the reason for that is because a woman, all she gotta do is just show up and sit there like a carls. A guy has to have money, he has to be charismatic, he has to be good looking. He has to have status, money. He has to have gain. He has to have something to even get to that point. Aw, woman doesn't. All she has to have his vagina and show up. You see how there's a discrepancy? One has to work exceptionally hard. Order to get to get access versus one can just give access wherever they want to whoever they want at any time. You see how that works. If men could do that, if it was reversed, we would see the same thing in reverse, but we don't. Because the average man has what, like 8 sexual partners over the course of his entire. Versus a woman. Can have eight people in a day. In an hour. If you think I'm lying about that, I'm not. I'm not. All you gotta do is go on the Internet, see what I'm talking about. But you see. Eight or one, the average guy has eight women over his entire life, versus a woman can have eight guys in a single hour. Us saying they would, but they could. You see how there's a little bit of an imbalance there? Let's go back to the article. Let's let's go back to this. Someone say monogamy is a social construct influenced by religion, culture and society. I agree with that. 100% agree with that. Monogamous relationships can be difficult to maintain and require constant effort from both partners. While there is an expect, while there is an expectation of exclusivity, this doesn't guarantee emotional or sexual fidelity. We see that with how many men are cheated on how many women are cheated on. It's not just a one way St. however, one has extensively more access than the other. Women don't often see that because the average guy is invisible to her. She thinks such we're talking about Chad because she talks about Chad. She thinks we're talking about Pyrone, but we're not talking about pyrone. She doesn't see the average guy, she only sees Pookie, Ray, Ray, Chad and Tyrone. She only sees the handsome guy who goes to the gym, the guy who has a six figure job, the guy who has status, who has something to offer her versus the average guy doesn't have that. So he becomes invisible. If you want to prove. This, ladies, next time you go to the store. Let's say you go to the store. Let's say you go to like Trader Joe's or something, right? You get out of your car, you go into the store, you pick up your, your spaghetti, your vegan cream cheese, your strawberries, your rose, and you go to the counter and then you walk out back to your car. How many men did you walk by? Without even realizing it. We as men, we see almost every single woman that we ever walk past. We go to the store, we go to the gym, we go to our job, we see every woman that we come across. Now, it doesn't matter if she's attractive or if she's ugly. We noticed her. Women, on the other hand, women don't work that way. And that's partially why they're held to a different standard. They noticed Chad when he walked in, looking all buff and sexy, but they didn't notice. John, who never goes to the gym, who works at IT job, who makes $60,000 a year, who's overweight. She didn't notice him, though. You see how there's a discrepancy there? Part of the reason monogamy existed so that John has a reason to go to work so that Phil has a reason to go to his job because he's now supporting his wife and his kids versus Phil wouldn't have to climb the corporate ladder. And being competitive and contribute if it was just him living in his studio apartment. See how that works? That's part of the reason why monogamy exists, and why we see it in society today. In my humble opinion. Now they mentioned religion, we're going to go into the religion aspect of it. For those of you who think they read Genesis Chapter 2. And that monogamy is what is, you know, God forbids polyamory or polygamy, or polygamy or anything else. Let's go to the Torah. Torah contains regulations within Exodus that states. Exodus 2110 states the following. It says if he takes another wife for himself, her food, her clothing, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish. In other words, says Jewish law. Forbids a woman from marrying more than one husband, but it does permit a man to marry more than one wife. The Bible contains several instances of polygamy, including Abraham, Jacob, the Kings, we, anybody who's read the Bible knows this. However, I can already hear the women saying this. You know all the discrimination is isn't fair. 

This is getting weird. 

This is the worst kind of discrimination. The kind against me. 

But you need to understand something. OK, we already. I already talked about this, but I'll reiterate what I said earlier. You literally just go to the first guy they see on the street, offer him some sags, and he'll take it. Why? Because most men can't get it. Now, don't for a second think that I'm talking about me. We're not talking about me. I don't have any trouble getting that. And I'm not saying that to brag. I'm saying this. You understand that? I'm not trying to project on this show, OK? #2, when it comes down to it. In a in a patriarchal society which most societies have been and continue to be to this day, except in America and some Western countries. It's really hard for the family name to be passed on for records to be kept in one, not when they don't know who the father is, because the woman has multiple husbands. It gets really hard. Men can produce children a lot faster than women can. So it's a lot easier to keep track of who belongs to who and whose kid is whom when there's sexual, when there is sexual exclusivity versus promiscuity and debauchery. That's why I was put. Not because they were trying to **** shame because they didn't want society to erupt in flames or for people to be petty and to for someones neighbor to to get knocked off for a really dummy, for really dumb pathetic reason like make guarding issues. It wasn't meant to be discriminatory. It was meant to make sure that people could prosper as much as possible. Do people want? To take things personally and think that everything is an attack against them instead of just trying to protect an entire civilization from ruin. But you see, that's what we have to go beyond the monogamy, because we need to understand that like I. Said before, people with. Means will have the capability to have more versus the people who can barely maintain the standard of living tend to have to deal with what they what they can, they can get the strong do what they can't do what they want. So we can do what they must and we see that reflected in every society across the world. But my friends, This is why monogamy is important to discuss, because it's often referred to as the cornerstone of civilization, when in fact in some societies it is. But a lot of times we don't actually have monogamy. We have a. I surface level monogamy. If you have divorce, you're not monogamous. You've got more than one partner. You are not monogamous, and at the end of the day, I'm not here to default you if you have more than one partner or you're not anonymous. I'm not particularly a big believer in monogamy because it just doesn't work in today's society and it work, yes. We have the enforcement and the education and everything that make that work. No, we don't. Because with freedom and democracy, that's not a sustainable system, because freedom entails the freedom to do things that are unpopular. The freedom to do what you want, which a lot of times is not to benefit society as a whole, but to benefit you. My friend. Relationships have evolved overtime as technologies change, as people's morality has changed. Our religious texts have been interpreted. All these things play a factor into relationships, into government, into education, and all these things are intertwined into the human existence that we call life. But I'm curious as to what you have to say if you agree. Disagree your comments? Questions. Concerns. I'd love to hear them. I encourage you to question everything you heard today because I know you probably will have your own opinion and that's good. I just caution you to have an open. Mind about what you heard. Probably wasn't what you're used to, but that's. OK. I want you to develop your own personal philosophy that works for you to help you get through and win as much as possible in your life. My friends take care of yourselves and I hope to see you next time. Peace.