Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared podcast. I'm your host, Austin Creed. I want to welcome you to the show. My friends, you know I didn't post the show yesterday because I was. I'm I'm starting a new venture and. You know, it's highlighted to me just how comfortable people like to be. Obviously I would include myself in that basket as that's the natural state of every human being. I would dare to assert that most people they want to be comfortable, they don't want to go out there and they don't want to confront uncomfortable realities. They want to have the luxury of being comfortable, the freedom. To be comfortable, that is what most people want. And you know what? I'm not here to tell you that if that's the outcome that you ultimately want, that you're bad or weak or anything else. No, no, I don't believe that at all. But I'll tell you what I do believe. I believe that this isn't just strictly limited to individuals. I believe that there are entire structures. Social constructs. Social systems that fall into this category. And one of those is the church, the Christian Church, to be precise. And now, before people want to come in here and they want to say Austin, my church is different, I don't know. You're talking about it. Save it for someone else, OK? If you want to have that attitude to to go out the back of the day, a teacher could kick the student out of class. Who's being disruptive? If you want to be the person who's out, you're like, oh, no, that's not my church. I don't know what he's talking about. Then just leave if you can't understand what we're going to talk about today. And I I pity you and you're part of the problem. But you know, the more I look, and not only on social media, but also in social interaction with different leadership like pastors, deacons, elders, people like that. The older generation of men especially. They're not passing down good wisdom to younger men in the church, which is why a lot of young men are not interested in the church. A lot of men aren't. Are there some who still are? Yes, absolutely. And God bless them. But guess what? Here's the problem. The old school was not caught up to the modern day dating marketplace. They don't understand how feminism has affected the dating marketplace. They don't understand how the. Hookup culture has changed it on the monetized woman on OOF or on the sugar Daddy sites and everything else. How they've changed up the game. They don't understand how Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, all, all these places have totally messed up the game for us as men, and you could add dating apps in there. You know all these different things. And if you think. That the women in your church, the men in your church that are younger, are not exposed to this. Then you really are clueless. You're clueless. I don't know how you could have that mindset tonight and just to drive home when I'm talking about when I say that too many, I hate to say this. Too many men in the church today have replaced God with the goddess who is the goddess. The goddess is women. They have replaced being a man and following Christ with being a simp and chasing validation of women in marriage. Yes, that's right. You heard me correctly. And I wish I could tell you that it wasn't the case, but unfortunately I believe this to be such the case that I wrote an entire book about being a biblical bachelor and going in your own way in the church. You know, there's this whole big town movement on the Internet that's been here for years. But not a lot of men have the courage to to talk about not only what the Mick towel type of mentality, but also tie into the church because people are afraid of to call out religious institutions. They're afraid to do it. It's easy to take little cheap shots in one minute clips. It's another thing is to really breakdown the philosophy of the modern church and how the customs of the church have caused the degradation of the scripture. People want to tell me in the Old Testament. One thing. And then say that, Oh well, we live in the new covenant. So now the New Testament says this. And then when I tell me that God hasn't changed but yet. We're worshiping the same God who used to burn people alive with fire and brimstone and turn people into salt, and then on this side we have ohh God loves everybody. Peace and love hippies, you know, Make Love not war type theology. It doesn't work that way. No, it doesn't. And I'm not going to let people get away with it. And in fact, we're going to explore. Clips today. As to explore why I believe there to be a masculinity crisis in the church especially. And why I am the ultimate outcast, and why a lot of pastors don't like me. Because I have the courage to call them out. So let's look at so-called examples of strong biblical masculinity, so-called. Let's look at it. 

If we're not following Jesus, we shouldn't be expecting our wives to follow us like straight up. Because here's the reality the the first priority for our wives is submission to Christ. 

100%. 

Right. And if we as husbands are not submitted to Christ and following him, why would we ever expect our wives to be submitted to us and follow us? Our wives can love us, and our wives can serve us. But to argue that you can just be a man who doesn't follow Christ, and your wife needs to submit is garbage and it's unbiblical. 

Oh my God. 

Like you know, she wanted to follow you. Be a man and follow Jesus and give her a reason to. Yeah. And what that means is you love her like Christ, loved his church, and you go first in everything because that is what Christ did. He went first. He loved first. He gave first. He forgave first. He empathized first. Right. Yeah. This is what we do as husbands and again like. 

Your emails. Ohh no. 

None of that comes naturally for us. This man, which is why we gotta walk and step with the Holy Spirit of God each day, because only. He can do that kind of work in our lives. 

You lied to me. 

Oh my, where do I start? See, here's the here's the problem right here. You want to know the problem. Here's the problem, right? Here's a problem. He's talking about giving and giving and giving. There is power and giving. This is just an unavoidable fact. This is true. Here's the problem. Too many men today give are ready to give their entire existence their entire future to a woman who will sell them to the system for child support, alimony, the approval of the Court of public opinion, Chad, Pookie, Ray Ray. You have no idea how bad the divorce system is out here. If you believe this garbage. Oh, and by the way, if you think it's strictly limited to those those heathens, pagans. So-called. You're wrong. In fact, the Christian divorce rate, it's going up, man. Ohh, yeah, it's going up. Why? Because last time I checked. People had lives outside the church. See, here's part of my problem with pastors today. I firmly believe they mean well. I'm not. I am not telling you. They're trying to lead you astray. I don't want to go that far. I don't think that that's true. I do. I think they're too idealistic to the point where they become delusional. Yes, actually, I do. Here's the problem, though. As a guy who grew up around pastors, I know how they spend a lot of their time. They meet with members of the church, they study the Bible, they're crafting the scripture, they're dealing with church business. They're not out there looking at social media like they're not out there talking to younger men about their dating lives. They're not out there talking and absorbing the realities of the society in which they live, although get the highlight clips the to the one minute TikTok videos don't get those things. Ohh yeah, but they're not gonna actually dive deep into the sewage, the muck, the grime. Of the modern day dating marketplace. How the psyche of the West has changed. They don't understand this, or if they do, they're not willing to accept that it is the way it is and it's not unchangeable. I believe them to a lot of the ones I've met. I'm not trying to get too anecdotal here, but the ones I've met. They they some of them understand the threats we face as a civilization. The others say, oh, you know what? Yeah, it's kind of bad here and there. But if you just belong to Christ, then that'll all change. See. I'm not here to tell you that God can't change your life. Of course you can. Here's a problem, though. God is treated like a uh insurance plan, OK? Like a like a fire insurance or roofing insurance or or something like that. And then when stuff goes bad, you file an insurance claim to get compensation from God. That's what people treat God like. They treat God like a an insurance policy. They don't like to prevent problems. They like to then treat God as if God's gonna be their insurance plan and prevent them from going homeless, prevent them from going without a husband to prevent them from actually suffering the full weight of the consequences that they've shown for themselves. That's my problem. So let's go back to this gentleman right here. And by the way, this is no hate towards him. I'm sure he means well. But here's the problem most he shouldn't be pushing marriage at all. When's the last time you heard a pastor talk about the marriage laws and how the family court system is disgusting and exploits men? When's the last time you heard a pass or talk about that you didn't because they don't? Because if they did, they might actually lose. If you don't want. To hear the truth. Guys who follow this gentleman probably think that oh, yo, man, if I'm just, if I'm just holy enough, everything's gonna work out for me. That is not how life works. We wish it was hell that make my life real easy. But that's not the way we don't live in that world. We don't live in that reality. And to say anything else is just it's just ridiculous. Let me just send it bro. I as much as I wanna say I can fix the problem. I can't because people don't wanna accept the truth. Most people don't wanna hear the truth. Case in point, let's go to the next clip. Another reason why people do not want to accept the truth because they'd rather hear stuff like this. 

Is not just designed to make you happy. It's designed to make you holy. Why? Because God uses the marriage covenant. To make you more and more like Jesus. 

Here's my problem. I'm not gonna let the whole thing play through. I cannot stand it when people speak in christianese. For those of you who don't know what christianese is christianese is, if you grew up in the church or you spend too much time in the church and not enough time in in the in, in the streets, and in in the world. You start talking like this. Ohh just become more like Jesus low the sanctification to descend and look and beautify you and bring you into the pursuit of glorification. It's like. Can I get the English translation for what you just said? See, I understand what he's saying. The problem is, people will use what I call sphinxes and syndrome where they speak in riddles. They speak in this mystical type language like. Oh, like if they talking like a fortune cookie where they use something very vague and somewhat mystical, spiritual sounding to sound sophisticated and smart. Meanwhile, they're just using it as open-ended as possible so that they can then say, oh, well, if you for example. So let's say let's say if a fortune cookie, right. George Cookie says there is fortune in your future. Here and then something bad happens to you and you're like this fortune cookie is full of crap. But then something good happens. Five years from now and you're like, see, I told you there was fortune. There was future. You know, I have fortune in my future. It's like that where they don't say anything directly. Because then you can come back and say, wait a minute, pastor. But that didn't work out for me. So instead what they do is they use the sphinxes in Riddle language. I got stinking syndrome. They speak in riddles, they speak in code. So then therefore, if it doesn't go the way you want, then you go to them and you confront them. They can say, oh, that's not what I said. That's just how you interpreted what I said. What I actually said it was. And then they use another sting scene thing. And then again, they can never actually be wrong. Because they never actually told you anything. That's the problem. That is what Christian needs is Christian needs is using that kind of language where people have no idea what you're talking about. But it sounds so mystical and powerful, even if they are Christian, they don't even actually know what that means. They just think it sounds smart. 

See if you're going to continue to stay in this relationship, this marriage, guess what? It requires me to become more forgiving. It requires me to become more committed. It requires me to become more patient. It requires me to become more kind. It requires me to become more humble. And guess what, my ego has to die. My pride has to die every time I I say I'm sorry and I apologize to protect the covenant. The relationship between my wife. I'm becoming more and more like. 

Oh my God. 

This is why the church treats teaches men to be gumps. They teach us to be like this. Because apparently boost. This is the pinnacle masculinity, and this is exactly what real men do, and this is what biblical men do. Excuse me, Sir. Were you raised by a single mother? I'm not asking cause you're black. I'm asking because you talk like 1. You talk like somebody who your Mama told you everything about. What? What? She wishes your father was, but in fact was the complete opposite. She made you into the image of what she would have never attracted her. Because she crafted you into the ideal man that she wishes she was attracted. To hoping that another woman will be attracted to that. But guess what? They're not, because guess what? Nobody actually likes this. This is not attractive. Being kind and pairing them, stuff like that is what people do to hedge their bets. They do it because they're not bringing much of anything else. This is what takes in the vacuum of leadership. This is the problem right here. 

Marriage will change you and make and turn you into a better version of you. Better than any type of relationship in this world. 

Again, what did he actually say? It's something to actually tell me what he said. Because it kind of sounds to me like you said a whole lot of. This this is business business numbers business working, yes. That's kind of what it sounded like to me. It sounded like a whole lot of just. Sphinx language being vague, being cryptic. But you see this is this is part of the problem. We as men, we need to understand that leadership requires self leadership, in other words. I need to be able to lead. Myself, this is true. But I'm not in the business of POW towing. The other people see people want. You need a lead, but then they want me to lead according to how they want me to lead. They want a backseat Dr. They don't want to take the wheel if they just want to backseat Dr. And then you have guys like the guy we just watched talking about how. Ohh just be a gunk. Just be a complete simp and your wife will love you. Ohh, the voice statistics say otherwise. The amount of infidelity in women says otherwise. Here's the problem, gentlemen. You want to know why? I believe that marriage is never going to work, at least not really anymore. Because women cannot be pleased. Now, male women would argue that men cannot be pleased when in fact we're actually very easy to please. Ladies, you want to know how to make a man happy? It's really not that complicated. You need to. Give him peace. You need to duck sick. And you need to. Be pleasant. It's not hard. It's really not. But apparently that's too much to ask because women want to talk about the bar for men being on the floor, when really it's just the men that they choose to deal with because they either they remind them of their father, who was either there or wasn't there or was terrible and then wanted to make it my problem. Amen. So here's the problem. Used to no see, we as men need to stop. I'm not blaming women, by the way. This is a two party issue. Here is the issue though. We as men, we're supposed to lead. This is a fact of reality. The problem is, people want to backseat drive us. People want to tell us that. Ohh. Well, I want you to lead. But I want you to lead in the way that I want. Now, that's not how this works. No, no, that's not how that works. And in the church, it's no different. Because women make up the majority of the congregation in most churches. Men will pander to the women because they're a business too, and they need money too. So guess what? They'll let women repackage themselves. They'll let the women be washed, washed, you know, let their sins be washed away, and then they'll think that ohh. Even though she was a complete skeezer for 20 years. She's been going to my church for two years now. All of a sudden, she's ready for marriage and I'm going to pair her up with a guy and. Before I know it, I'm going to be hearing about their divorce and seeing them in marriage counseling. See the problem is the church culture is not allowing the true scriptures to be practiced. For example. Case in point. People like to quote Paul all the time. Well, yet Paul wasn't married. In fact, he said, it was took a stronger man to not be married. I mentioned in a biblical bachelor multiple times. But yet for some reason and the church. If you're not married, you're like a an extra in a movie. You're not important. You're important in the background, but you're not important to actual business. My friends, the reason why I say that God has been replaced by the goddess is because you have the men in the church pandering to the women. And trying to get the men to appeal to the women more than trying to appeal to God. Now, of course I try to tie it in like the first guy did. Where? Ohh if you need to submit to God because she's submitting to. God, Sir, if she was submitting to God, she would have submitted to the 10 other dudes who ran through her before she came to church and got married to the man. Yeah, you heard me right. I'm not gonna apologize for what I just said. See, the problem is they want us as men to be biblical and traditional, but then they want us to also be accepting of when the women don't do it. No, I'm not saying the women need to do it. They can do whatever the hell they want. I don't care what you do, but don't come to me when you're doing one thing and they want me to be the other side. Don't be chaos and want me to be ordered. I'm not going to do it. I'm not. Why would I help you with them? Because it's the right thing to do. Forget that garbage. No, no. Where were you when it was time to do the right thing? Ohh no nowhere. Yeah, well, that's interesting. But yet I'm supposed to show up. Well, all right, then. You'll not totally make sense. We need to stop propping up women in the church and start actually returning to real traditionalism. Not this fake world Post World War 2 brand of Traditionalism. Maybe then you might see young men come back in the church. Maybe the young men might feel the pews again. Maybe the young men might show up in church again. When there's real leadership, not this fake, feminized leadership, we're sick of it. If we want to do that, we can go on Instagram. If we want to be lectured about how we need to be at Gump, I can go on social media. It's not hard to find why I sit my **** in church and have you use the cross. And as an additional weapon against me. Why would I have you do that? The cross was supposed to be a shield, and yet too many people wield it as a spear through which to Pierce my soul, and I'm sick of it. My friends. I realize though I say a lot of things that you probably don't agree with, and that's good because then it gets you a spark. And to think for yourself. I hope that that today I did that for you. If you're mad, you're upset, you're triggered. It wasn't my intent to do that. But maybe you might just think about it and think twice. Before you just blindly accept that what someone says the name of God. As historically a lot of people have done that and historically has not been great. My friends, stay vigilant. Stay informed. And whenever you do question. Everything that comes your way and if you want to go your own way, pick up a copy of Biblical Bachelor. I guarantee you it'll change your life. I wrote it not to get rich. I wrote it because it I knew there were other men like me who needed to. Hear this message? I know there's a crisis amongst young men. And I want to be there to help you if I can. Does it help me, my friends? They carry yourselves out. Peace.