Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared Podcast. I'm your host, Austin Creed. Want to welcome you into the show, my friends, you know. The more I see, the less I feel like I understand and the less I think I know why. Why would I say that? Well, unfortunately. You know, as someone who is. Curious about relationships and whatnot because I find it amusing. Relationships, in my opinion, are very, very important and it's not just romantic relationships. Platonic ones, professional ones. Those are all pieces of the pie. But today what we're going to. Talk about is. Relationship romantic. Eros. Type love relationships now. A lot of people there used to be a time in America, especially where people would have to go to the mall, they'd have to go out and meet people, talk to people, spark up conversations and meet people organically. No. Why not mop? While that may still happen in certain places. Largely it's been replaced by online dating, and online dating is itself has changed over the last decade, half a decade. It's changed. It went from like social media and chat rooms to now it's still social media, but there are these things called dating apps and everybody's familiar with stuff like Tinder, Bumble, hinge, plenty of fish, all this kind of stuff. But there's also an underbelly of all this. There is the sugar daddy. Culture. Ohh yeah, big used to be part of the underworld, but now it's very much. Out there in the open. And if you expect me to hate on it, I'm not going to do that. That's just dumb. Although I couldn't make this argument. 

Silly rabbit tricks are for kids. 

I couldn't make that argument. But you know what? We're going to dissect this, and we're going to really break this down. First thing I want to show you. Is this? And according to a 2022 survey, over 33166 million people use online dating services now. This is not just the big ones. There's also the more dark side of the dating apps, which is like sugar daddies. DM ING Flying Girls out all that kind of stuff. That is all included in this large number, they say down. Here in 2022, the dating app Market made about 4.94 billion in revenue, with match Group contributing 3.1 bill. So it also says here that in the United States, nearly three in 10 adults say that they have used a dating app. Or a dating website. And more than 40% say online dating has made dating easier for them. Now, dating does not mean we're going out to get dinner, go to the movies again. I Peck on the cheek when I'm done, not on on. This ain't all that. This is not 2012. OK. This is 2024. Dating stems. From prostitute. From prostitution. Why would I say a thing like that? Because the fact of reality. I know you don't want to hear that. I know you're probably gonna buck when you hear that, but it's OK here to educate. We're here to educate, entertain, amuse, bring up uncomfortable facts. Back in the day, there was this thing called chording. And I won't go into the deep histories of it, but everything ties into. There was arranged marriages. There was courting families usually set up the matches there. You weren't just out here dating that person and that person and that person and that person. That is a very new thing. People used to say I'll date her. I'll date them. That used to mean they were a person on a side. That's what that used to mean, that it didn't mean that, oh, I'm out here in, I'm doing the honorable things. No, no, no. That's not what I used to mean. I used to mean. 

Mama got caught giving up neck in the bathroom at the Woodcrest Country Club and he wasn't your daddy. 

That's what that used to mean. But guess what? Now we are under this illusion. Not all. It's all your and. And it's supposed to be about finding your mate. For life, your. Love of your life? I'm in love with you. Yeah, but that's not really what we're seeing out here. When you really break it all down, it's just not. And if you don't believe me, I don't expect you to. I understand a lot of people want to be right. They want to be correct. But you know what? If you're not considering all different viewpoints, then you don't have an informed opinion. You might say Austin, you know what, maybe like couple girls out there have sugar daddies. But I mean, it's not normal. Mainstream. Ohh really? Really. OK. Well, we're going to look at a sugar daddy experience from this woman. I don't know her. But we're going to look at this and I want you to. I want to hear what you have to say about this clip. So let's look at. It and see what she has to say. 

Get ready with me while I talk about my sugar daddy experience. Also, this is my experience, so it might be different from y'all, but I do not recommend. So one day I was hanging out with my friends and I got this DM on Instagram that says like. UM, let me take care of you. Like, send me your cash app and you know how those accounts be faked. So I didn't believe it, but I still sent it because, like you never know. So then he sent me $500 through cash app and I was like stunned. I was like, there's no way you're rude. He's telling me about his background, how old he was, where he's from, just everything I needed to know, OK. 

Silly rabbit tricks are for kids. 

This probably went on for about like 6 months until finally he was like I can't do this anymore. Like I want to meet you and I was like, so I was like, the only way I'm gonna meet you is if you fly me out, you get a hotel and I can bring a friend. 

Of course. 

And I just know, you know, everything's going to be safe. So he agreed and my friend agreed. So we flew out one day to LA and our original stay was supposed to be. For three days. So we get there. 

I gotta pause it real quick because I really want to break. I want to break something down first, first of all. If you think that she's lying, I don't think she's lying. Not at all. Actually, I don't think she's lying at all. I think she's being 100% honest. I think she's. I think she's telling the truth personally. But going back, going back to this, let's just be totally honest here for a second, OK? There are a lot of women who are doing this. Out here, there are whether it's getting flown out or just selling pictures of your feet on the Internet. This is a very real culture out here. The pay for play, so to speak, is very real out here. And pro prostitution is the oldest profession in the world, so. People got rent to pay man. People got bills to pay, people got stuff out here due. And to be fair, there's a lot of broke men out here too, a lot of broke dudes who think they're entitled to women. And that's not true. And they're a lot of broke women who think they're entitled to rich men. So there's this analogy on the side of the Internet. This percentage that there's the 20% of men get with 80% of the women. And that's very fair. It's very fair. It's unfortunately a reality that doesn't just mean looks, it can mean money. It can mean status. It can mean a mouthpiece. It can mean all kinds of different stuff. But this is a very real place. You think she's lying about this? Maybe she's exaggerating the numbers. I don't know. But this is a very real thing. This is a very real reality out here, my friends. Let's keep going. Let's see what y'all she got to say. 

There, our driver picks us up. We go to the hotel and we have an allowance. And it was a lot of money. So immediately we were like, we're gonna go out like we want to visit the town and this. And that and. Go out to eat and he's like cool. I'll be out work till tonight. Let's have dinner at this huge rooftop in LA. I was like, OK, but I think we need, like, fake ID's to get in. And he was like, oh, I already got you guys both some. So we're enjoying our day. We get the ID's and then it's time for dinner around 7:00 and my **** ***. I have a bad habit of, like switching my purses and then not putting all my cards in there in the purse. 

Ohh hell not. 

So the driver picks us up and he picks him up and we're driving to the restaurant. It's about 40. 5 minutes away. And then we get there and they're like ID's and I check my purse and I have nothing in it, no lip gloss, no, nothing is in my purse. And I just tell him, like, I'm so sorry. I forgot my ID. Like I am so sorry. Can we go get it? Like, can we reschedule? Like, I didn't know what to do. So he's really mad. He ignores this the whole way back to the hotel. He doesn't want to go out to dinner, which I get. I'm a ******* for leaving my stuff. But he's really showing it and the whole way home he's making like pervy comments about threesomes and. It's just weird. So he get back to the hotel and he texts me and he's like. 

Is that a tattoo? Oh, man. OK, first of all, there's so much to unpack here. First of all, I don't ever advocate for doing anything illegal, but that if that is true and she's underage when it comes to drinking and and smoking and stuff, then yeah, fake ID's. Not good. No good, bro. That's not good. If you think that these kind of stories are lies, they're not. Well, they're going to be seen from the female perspective. I can understand what this dude is mad. How much money do you think? This guy has spent. How much money do you think this dude spent on on these Broads so far? Probably a lot of money. Only a couple thousand at least, if not more. And maybe even 10s of thousands of dollars. And he's kind of getting finessed at this point to an extent, and you have to realize, if you want to be in this, you know, dark side of the culture, this is what you're going. To deal with according to what I've seen. So oh oh boy. Alright, let's keep going. 

Like, hey, I think you should guys should go home in the morning. So my initial thought was like, yeah, let's go home. Like it's OK like, just get a supply for tomorrow. So that was the plan, but me and my friend got hungry, couldn't find any restaurants open in the area that we were in, in downtown LA. So we're like, you know what, let's go out to the club like we have this fake ID's. I have friends in LA like, let's go out. We go out, I get blacked out drunk and so does. She at this point, we're in Hollywood. We miss our flight. The morning. Flies back home, so we're like stressing because we don't pay like $600 to go back. So it comes to the. Hotel and he's like, OK, I'll get you to fly back. Home, but just. 

Let me come to the hotel. It was ********. 

Spare room in our room. Get ready with me. To talk. 

OK, she I had to play a Looney tune music because this is getting ridiculous at this point. I I guarantee you there's elements of. Truth to this? Well, you mean to tell me this dude spent thousands of dollars and he didn't get nothing there, there, there was no. 

Mama got caught giving up neck in the bathroom at the Woodcrest Country Club and he wasn't your dad. 

You can tell there's no giving up no neck or giving up or nothing. OK, I don't believe that for a second. I don't understand why women say that they say stuff like this. They act like, oh, I got all this for free. No, you didn't. You didn't. There's no way. There's no way. She she gave him. She gave him pictures or ******. She gave him something, bro. She didn't get it all out for free, man. That's ridiculous. That's not possible also. This is just one example. This is you think this is just an outlier example. You're not, you're you're you're not in the right ballpark. My friends. If anything, this is becoming more and more of a normal thing because let's face it. If you've ever been on a dating app, it's it doesn't work all that well unless you're at a certain level. That's just the way it goes, and a lot of women they hop on dating apps and they have all this attention from all these thirsty dudes, and then they end up making videos kind of like this. 

Where are all the hot people? I was told that there would be all these attractive singles and as far as I can tell, I'm the best looking person here. Where? 

Who told you that? 

Yeah, you see, they make videos like that, but, well, here's what they're not telling you. Their love. The attention from the dudes that are not attractive in her words. I know it's a voice over, but at the end of the day they'll say ohh all these dudes are dusty, ugly whatever I don't like. I don't like it. I don't want the attention. Yes, the ohh that. Yes, they do. They love it. Women love attention, bro. Anybody who wants to sit here and tell you the women don't like attention. They all here lying now in regards to how much money these women. Hey. Well, let's look at those numbers, shall we? According to seeking arrangements, the average sugar daddy makes 250 G's a year. 250 G's Ben. 

Oh my God. 

I mean, that's not shocking, is it? It shouldn't be those of. For those of you who understand what's going on out here, that should not be shocking to you. You should know that. The haves are getting the lot and the have nots have to be out here grinding or you're out of luck. Says while the average sugar daddy makes 250 G's, the average sugar baby makes about 2800 a month. However, some say that the average monthly allowance for a sugar baby is 2400, or 28,000 point, 28,000 almost $29,000 a year. 29,000 bucks a year. Just for dropping neck just for. Just for giving some, sending some pictures even of feet. I mean, who would say yes to this if they can get away with it? Well, let's just, let's just be real about that. And you might say, well, who are? These sugar daddies. Sugar daddies are usually older men who are probably like maybe 50-60, maybe older, who offer offer money, gifts and other financial incentives to younger people. OK, then they could sound like they're they're. They they can select their metafiles. They're not. These women are all of age and they're choosing they're. But there are no victims here. Just to be clear, these are all volunteers who do this behavior, OK? Called sugar babies in exchange for companionship or other relationship benefits. In other words, giving them the glug glug, 3000 OK sugar babies may be looking for a financially supportive partner. Gifts, travel opportunities, mentorship, or paying bills. Like rent and college tuition. This is what they're not telling you. Is this right here? They might have their little boyfriend on college campuses. They might have their little boyfriend on their hometown, but when they're ohh, they got this dude on the side. Sugar Daddy getting those guts man. 100% look at it. And I'm not shaming women who do this, by the way. So people got people gotta eat, dude. People gotta eat. They gotta get their bills paid. Gentlemen, if you don't want your girl going out here doing stuff like this, if you want to be in a relationship, you know what you got to do. You gotta drop that money down there and you gotta you gotta have that financial security. But she doesn't do that. And if you don't, if you want to try to get out here and I get it for free, man, and I don't want to do all of that, all you gotta do, tell the mouthpiece you all you gotta do is gotta do this. Do that and do the other thing like that. No, no, no, no, no, no. 

Ohh hell no. 

That's not how that works. Not at all. Women want the best men they get, they can get, and women are expensive. OK, so if you can't afford them, I don't blame them for going doing something else. Now, is it morally correct? Morally speaking, probably not. But is morality gonna pay the bills? Nope. Is morality gonna pay for the hair extensions, makeup, facials, waxing, all that kind of stuff? No hair dye? Nope. Not going to pay for all that. So what are they going to do? They're going to find a way to get it done. Whether it's from you, from Sugar Daddy, from the government. Does it matter, man? Again, I don't say this to shame them at all, in fact. People gotta eat, dude. People gotta be out here and they gotta get money. The economy's rough dude. People gotta find a way to make. Do am I? Justifying it. No, it's not really my place to do that. But let's pretend for a second that you're a guy and you're like Austin. This is despicable behavior. I want a relationship. I want a monogamous relationship, and I believe in the strategic. Traditional institution. Well, OK. Well then I have. This is what you should be expecting then cause if you want to actually date you want to actually go out here and be quite traditional guy, well, then this is what's waiting for you right here. 

OK, I just made the video that are like my expectations or rules when dating in a relationship and I figured I would add on to this, but these are like. What a guy should be doing in a relationship or like what I expect to pay back on the fact that, like everyone around me tells me I have paid my expectations. But I just think it's the bare minimum. So someone tell me if I'm wrong #1 prioritizing seeing you it is if someone wants to. 

You have to like. That's very like they don't want to feel like there is someone that wants to see your actual person. And if they don't. 

We don't, we don't. Put up with them, right? 

Just in general. 

Texting. It's not hard to communicate. 

Alright, I I gotta stop it. I'm already getting a headache from listening to this. See, this is the other side of the coin. You don't want to pay. You want to get it for free. This is what? You're getting. This is what you're getting, bro. I don't know what to tell you. So you don't wanna pay the money you don't wanna. Give them the financial security. You don't want to do that stuff. Well, then you guess what? You could jump through hoops and play these dumb games and win dumb prizes. This is what? You get, you get to put up with this kind of behavior, which is disgusting because you're not gonna get any dude that's actually of quality character. I mean, no, forget Claudia character. You're not going to get a guy that's. Successful who's got time for this kind of these reindeer games? He ain't got time for this crap. Do throw out your grinding or attractive, hit the gym. Got money? They ain't got time for this. Yep, they don't care what you want per se. They care about what they want. They know what they bring to the table and they're asking you, OK, we can't do for me. And I got people working for me. What are you going to? Do for me. But if you say that ohh, you're boxing. Ohh, you're a bad guy. Oh, you're you're you're butting patriarchy. You're bad. This is what you get, bro. I don't know what to tell you, man. This is what you what? This is what's waiting for you. You might even want to listen to the rest of this. Do you wanna listen to the rest of this or I'll keep going, man, who cares? 

If you are a bad texter, pick up the phone and say and call me or FaceTime. I love FaceTime and ask my friends. I'll literally just pick up the phone and FaceTime my friend to be like yo. I just had water like I'm just like that person. Talk to me. 

Not time for this man. Time for this dude. I work a lot, OK? And if I'm out here working, I'm editing. I'm writing my one of my books. I'm out here doing something, and then I'm a girl. I'm talking to calls me and it's. Just like hi. I'm bored. What are you doing? And be like, click? I think I'm. I'm done. Talk about the fact that you just drank water. Or that you're bored, or that you gonna take a shower. I got time for this crap. Like what? Yo, we ain't got time for this, man. This is this. Is this this is terrible. Ohh man. 

Me. I I love talking to. I swear, guys, it's the little things like men, little things, flowers. Get your girl flowers. Oh, my goodness. Flowers are like, the most genuine gift and gold. Slow flowers are so love them. Just like you're at a gas station. Grab her, her favorite snack or, like, just like something to make her know that you're, like, thinking about her. 

Oh my God. You lied to me. 

And that you care about her? It's not hard planned dates. And this doesn't have to be extravagant. I know. Like I'm in college. Like, I don't expect that. But like, I don't know a pick. 

You lied to me. 

Nick, let's go on a walk. Tell me where you want to, where you want to do what, where you want me to be? Coffee dates library. It's not hard. 

You lied to me. 

Doesn't have to be expensive, it just has to be thought out. There are so many like fun things to do that like don't require effort or money. I want a guy to be proud of me. Like I want you to like comfortable. I want you to be like. 

Are you talking to me? 

My gosh. Oh my land. It's the what even is this bro? Pardon my French, but you're an *******. Me and telling me that my whole world needs to be surrounded by you, but yet I also have to have a six pack. I also have to be getting good grades. Be successful. I gotta be out here making money. But yet I also have to prioritize you. If you want to be successful with women. Listen, hold on. Listen up. Listen up. I got game for y'all. You want to listen to this? You. Want to be? I'm going. To put you on some game. You want to hear about this game? That good I got. It for you right here. You ready for? This you want to be successful with women, you want to have women look at you and say, damn that guy sexy. You want to know what you going to do? Do none of the things she just described 0 none do the exact opposite of everything she just told. You to do. Do the exact opposite. Do not give her flowers. Do not give her chocolates. Do not do any of those things you want to know how to put you on some game. I'm glad you asked bro. Really is it's very very simple. All you gotta do is put yourself first, not take crap from anybody and just put in the Dang work every day to get results and then not long from now, year two years, you'll start seeing results. People will see it, whether it's the gym, whether it's in your bank account, whatever it is, and suddenly people are gonna. Be like Dang. Dang, Sean. Sean buffed up Dang. Dude, we'll getting the little we'll got some money out here. How could I? Could I be like that guy? He's. Doing good. You got lucky though this. Ain't fair. Life ain't fair, man. Or the girls in high school you couldn't get with. They're all of. A sudden going to. Be like, hey, you seen Charlie do, Charlie? Looks good, dude. Charlie been hitting the gym. Charlie's making good money, man. What happened to him? I gotta. I gotta know his secret. You're welcome. Now if you want to listen to this advice instead, you're welcome to do it. But but it ain't gonna work for you. It might work on someone who's 45 or 50. It ain't going to work on. A girl like this? No, no. Well, she's not telling you. She wants Chad to do those things. She wants Tyrone to do those things. She wants bigger. Chad, to do those things. But if you're not Chad, Giga, Chad or Tyrone, she will not look your way. She won't care. She gonna look at you, and if you're doing these things and look and you look to her for a reward, she's gonna look at you like. 

Are you talking to me? 

And you're going to get Jack nothing. And then I'm going to be out here. 

Telling you silly rabbit tricks for kids. 

Sorry man. This is reality. And I'm not trying to bully this woman at all. I don't know her, she seems. Like she's this guy had an undecided what? Mine is all the the makeup and the and the filters and the the hair dye. I'm sure she's a nice person, but what I don't understand is, gentlemen, we have to decide what you want out here. Do you want to have the more? The sugar daddy type of lane. Or do you want to be true, quote traditional. What is it you want out here? Because if you don't know what you want. I will tell you now, if you're just with the default programming and and you think that ohh I'm gonna just do what everybody else is doing and that's gonna help me. No, no, no, no it isn't. All it's going to do is make you keep the status quo that you currently have, and I don't know what to tell you at that point because you're kind of just stuck. But. You know what the dating apps are dead because of the the the advice that woman has talked about. That's the same women who will talk about stuff like that. They'll then be like, oh, you got to do this. You got to do that. You got to. Do all these things for me and you're like. 

Huh. Are you talking to me? 

Excuse me, I've been doing that for so long. But you weren't buff. You weren't good looking. You didn't have money, but all of a sudden, when you have those things, you're supposed to be humble. You're supposed to just find a a 3540 year old woman who's been run through, who is old, who's bitter, who's unhappy, who's broke, and then make her your queen. You're a power couple. All of a sudden? No. No, no, no, no, no, I I think that's I think that's a raw deal. I I don't think so. They used to be an old game show that I used to like I've been rewatching recently called Deal or No deal and that's no deal for me. Chief, you may tell me that I got the 2,000,000 case on the board and I'm supposed to just say, oh, you give me a raw deal at like 30 K. I'll take it. Nope. No, thanks. I'm good. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I'm not doing none of that. My friends, what do you have to say about this? I know that some of you will disagree. You think dating outs are still out here working? Maybe online dating is still working, whether it's damming, being on Tinder or whatever, or some of you might think it still works. I don't know what what universe you're living in. Maybe you're giga Chad and you want to sit here and tell me it works. I don't know. But let me know. Me know if you think I'm wrong. If you don't think the dating apps are dead on the way out. And the sugar daddy culture, the monetized marketplace is not on the rise, which it. Definitely is, but monetized marketplaces here, dude, I don't care if you like it. I don't care if you love it. I don't care if you loathe it. I don't care, man. It's here. How do you deal with it? That's. Up to you. But denying reality doesn't make it any less real. My friends, I encourage you to let your voice be heard and hit me up on X. That should get cheered, leaving your thoughts the comments. Either one works if you have anything you want to add, feel free to add. It I encourage you to stay vigilant. Stay informed. A question. Everything that comes your way, even the things you heard on the show today. Until then, I'll let you decide where I'll let the chips fall where they may. I'll let the cookie crumble the way it wants to go. And until next time I'll look forward. And I hope you keep safe. And make more money. I'm out. Peace.