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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheep Get Sheared podcast with people, politics

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and popular culture.

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I'm your host, Austin Creed.

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I want to welcome you to the show.

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Ladies and gentlemen, we have a very interesting conversation to have this morning.

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I've touched on this before.

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I mean, a heck, I wrote a book about love, about relationships, biblical bachelor, which

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you'll see on your screen if you're watching.

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If not, you'll find it in the description.

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But I'm not here to sell you a book.

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What I'm here is to ask you about your opinions on an idea.

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The idea is love.

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Do you believe that unconditional love is real?

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Do you think that it's something that's inherent in the human condition to desire?

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I think that opium is a, I'm sorry, I think that love is a mental opium of such.

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It's a painkiller that helps us get past the everyday difficulties that we have.

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And despite the fact that we're sold this fantasy of true love by Disney, by the romance

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novel industry, it doesn't make it any easier because, you know, when I look at, when I

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go to Barnes and Noble, right, because I'm trying to get my book in there right now and

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I go there and I look at just how many romance novels there are.

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It's crazy.

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It is crazy how many romance novels there are.

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And love stories are frankly kind of creepy.

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Like there is a, there is a bestselling book right now in the romance novel category about

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a stalker, about stalker love.

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Yet everywhere I walk on campus at my college, it says, stop stalking.

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We need stalking to stop.

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It's not good.

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It's not good, which I agree with.

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It's not good.

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Well, then why is there an entire romance novel dedicated to, oh my God, stalking is

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hot.

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Why?

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Because the dude looks like Chris Hemsworth.

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It's so hot now.

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And you might say, well, Austin, what does this have to do with unconditional love?

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Well, what is love?

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There are songs, poems, books, entire people's lives have been dedicated to that simple question.

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But I'm here to tell you, I find it awfully strange and I should probably add, I find

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it quite sad that the men who are rich, good looking, successful, they got Riz, they have

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tons of love to go around.

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They have love and spades.

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But then the dudes who are a little goofy, ugly, not, you know, broke, they can't seem

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to find love.

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But I thought love transcended all our mortal bounds.

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And it made us stronger than we ever thought possible.

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But yet what is it with the people being rich, successful and handsome have more love they

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know what to do with and the guy who is ugly, goofy and broke can't seem to find any of

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it.

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Which leads me to say, I don't believe that there is such thing as unconditional love

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when it comes to erotic love.

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I believe that there can be, quote, unconditional love, maybe from parents to children, perhaps,

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maybe for a pet.

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But I don't believe that love can exist between male, female, you know, erotically at all.

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I don't believe it's possible.

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Because the real deciding factor is time.

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When you look at most marriages, from 0 to 5, the marriage is usually pretty good.

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But from year 5 to like 15, it's usually a nightmare, from what I've seen.

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And of course there are exceptions.

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We all know this.

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But if anything, the exceptions make the rule.

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Because they show that they're not normal.

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My friends, do you think that love is really something that humans need?

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Do you believe it's something that we must have?

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You know, I might be giving away too much about myself here, but I don't believe that

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love is all that important to me personally.

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Really I don't.

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I have to say that love is worth nothing to me, per se.

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But I don't have an inherent need to be loved by someone.

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I have an inherent need to be successful, to achieve the goals I laid out for myself.

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That's what I have inherent need for.

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Not love, not companionship, not any of that.

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Of course it might be nice if it happens, but I don't need it.

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You can call me a sociopath if you want.

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That's not really what I'm trying to say.

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I'm not saying that people are no good.

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What I'm saying is I don't understand this need that I see amongst people around me,

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people that I know about their need to feel loved and validated, accepted, cherished.

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I don't get that.

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I don't get that.

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And I always bring up the, I love myself a lot actually.

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So why do I need someone else to love me for?

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First of all, they're never going to love me as well as I love myself.

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I'll tell you that right now.

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How is it then?

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If love is worth everything, then how is it the people who get so much love, they can't

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have enough of it.

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It's like a drug.

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They built up a resistance to it.

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You know, love is something that I frankly don't even like to say out loud because it's

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so overused in our society today.

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So overused, so over saturated.

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And partially that's to do with the fact that the English language restricts us.

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Because I believe in Latin they have like 16.

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They have multiple different ways to describe what type of love they are referring to versus

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in English.

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It's I love my dog.

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I love my wife.

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I love this pizza.

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I love this, I love my hometown.

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You know, it's the same verb for everything when in fact in other languages it's a totally

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different word altogether.

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But you know, I really want to dig at this point here.

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Why do you, if you do, why do you feel the need to be validated?

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Why do you think that love is so necessary to the human condition?

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Why do you think that we feel this need to be loved for the most part?

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Because I frankly don't get it.

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I mean everybody has needs whether it's physical, mental, spiritual, sexual.

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We all have needs like that.

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I'm not debating that point.

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But what is it with these people picking up love all the time?

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Like I need love, I need love as if like it's something that we've been conditioned to want

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and chase at all costs, which frankly we have.

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In fact yesterday when I was on Twitter there was a very interesting question that was raised

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and it was a reference to the matrix.

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Like what is the matrix?

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And I gave an answer that apparently a couple people really liked.

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And it was built upon the premises that most of what we believe is based upon a fiction.

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And we spend our entire lives attempting to make this fiction a reality when it was never

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based in reality to begin with.

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And the very notion that it can be will eventually gut our souls.

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We need to understand that human beings, we as humans are often greedy, selfish, unhappy,

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lustful, slothful, and yet we want everybody else to be the opposite.

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And on top of that we in America especially believe in this idea of monogamy and that

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we need to find every archetype in one person.

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For men it might be the maid, the cook, the caretaker, the mother, all that kind of stuff

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in one woman.

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Or for women towards men it might be we need the protector, we need the provider, we need

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the guy who can blow the back out, we need a guy who can you know take care of me while

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I need it, all that kind of stuff right?

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The father, all that good stuff.

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But a lot of these things are, they're not conducive, they're inherently opposites.

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But yet we want to find them all in one person and if we don't find it we dump that person

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and find someone else.

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When that person we're looking for is like a unicorn.

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Unicorns don't exist.

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But yet we chase after them, convinced that they're real and that we're just looking

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in the wrong place.

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That's why for the longest time in human history humans didn't practice monogamy.

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It was really only because of the Catholic Church that that became a huge thing, especially

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in the Western world.

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And I'm not arguing that it can't work, it can.

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It just requires a lot of sacrifice consistently on both sides and if you can't do that then

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it's not going to work.

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That's it.

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Trust me, I know a thing or two about relationships.

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I wrote a book on it.

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I understand it to an extent.

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Don't treat me like I don't know what I'm talking about.

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The problem is people don't want to make sacrifices which leads me to tie in again that I don't

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believe that unconditional love is really a thing.

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Because people will have to make sacrifices because disappointment is the bane of love.

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And a lot of people when they're disappointed will lean back to what they're instinctually

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conditioned to do.

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Whether it's through trauma or through slow drip campaigns of conditioning, doesn't matter.

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The result is the same.

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My friends, what do you have to say?

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Am I too cynical?

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Maybe I am.

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But this is just the way I am.

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I ask the questions.

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What do you think?

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Do you think unconditional love is real?

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Have you experienced it in your own life?

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Do you want to experience it?

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Do you have an obsessive need to have it?

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Please let me know.

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I would love to hear what you have to say.

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If you like what you heard and you already know what to do, I guarantee you this is not

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your first time consuming content.

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If you want to learn more about what I have to say about relationships and love, check

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out biblical bachelor, the book I showed you, it will be linked in the comment section or

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in the description below.

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But my friends, I really am curious about this because different people have different

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needs.

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And I'm not here to tell you your needs are not valuable or not real.

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They're real to you.

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The problem is everyone's a little different.

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So therefore, I'm really curious as to if you agree or disagree with me.

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Anyways, my friends, God bless you.

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God bless your families and God bless America.

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I'm out of here.

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Peace.