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Is love real? Does it really exist? Or are we just entertaining ourselves?

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Love is real, but we don't know what it is.

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The word has been used so carelessly, it's lost all meaning.

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So what does love mean now? In many cases, talking about adults now,

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we confuse pleasure with love and love with pleasure.

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You don't love food. Food is pleasurable.

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So food can give you pleasure, it does not give you love.

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Love should be reserved for a relationship between two beings

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who can love each other. Now, love back is an option. So you need to love someone

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who can love you back, but doesn't have to. In other words, it's a bit of a risk.

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You love someone who could love you back? Well, they could also hate you back.

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That is meaningful. That's love. And if you can't afford to risk that, then you can't afford...

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There's a woman in a room with 10 men. And all 10 men are telling her how beautiful she is

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and how amazing she is. And they're lighting her cigarette and buying her drinks and just

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treating her like gold. Then all of a sudden, in walks the 11th man. He takes one look at her

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and says, hey, how you doing? Turns his back on her and starts talking to his boys.

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That's the guy she wants to be with, the 11th man. Not any of the 10 men who were treating her well

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all night, but the one guy who couldn't care less. Why? Because for some reason, women don't want

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nice. They don't want real. They don't want to be treated well. I mean, not at first and sometimes

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not ever. And I think that's crazy. And I refuse to play that game.

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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheepkissher podcast. We're here. We talk about people,

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politics, apogala culture. I'm your host, the one only Austin Creen. My friends,

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I want to ask you something today. Is love real? Do you think that love is real?

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No, I know that's a very loaded question, I'm aware. But during the show today, we're going to

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really unpack this idea of what love is because everybody seems to have a different view of what

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love is. And they have a different way of feeling it, a different way of expressing it, different

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ways of understanding how what it means, what it doesn't mean, what it could mean, what it should

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mean, everything, it all can come down to the same general idea. And it's confusing. And that's why

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we're talking about it today. But, you know, I look at these, the history of love, so to speak.

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And then you got, look, I want to pull up, I want to show this so we all look at this.

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These are some of the books and stories that people have looked at. And you're usually,

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when they refer to love, they think about books or stories like Romeo and Juliet,

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or they think about the notebook, or maybe they'll think about stuff like Titanic.

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They'll think about these kinds of books or stories. And sometimes we'll even think about

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TV shows and movies, maybe things like Twilight God forbid, or these ideas of what is love,

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what are these romantic stories, and why are people so obsessed with them? Well,

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it's not that hard to really comprehend. I mean, truly, it's not. But we're gonna unpack it today,

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because I think it's extremely important that we discuss this. And look, I want you to chime in on

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what you think love is. And based on that, why is it important to you? How have you experienced

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love in your own life, if you have it all? Because some people probably haven't experienced any love

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at all in their lives. And so they don't really know what it is. They know what it looks like on TV.

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But they don't know what it's like in maybe in real life. And so we're going to talk about that

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today. And we're also going to be bringing up maybe maybe more less. There's more traditional

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ideas of love and then there's more unorthodox. And so for your viewing pleasures, I would like to

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present a alternative idea to love that is expressed not solely in this clip, but it's been expressed

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throughout many different mediums. But I believe this to be the best example. So here, I'll show

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this clip with you right here. Give me one second. Let me pull it up. And all right, let's, well,

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let's play a clip right here. Try not to worry about it, morning. You're a good kid. And there's

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not a premium on that right now, but you'll be getting girls sometime after Brad's out of shape.

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You missing the point, dad. I don't want girls. I want Jessica.

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Ah, well, I remember feeling that way about a young lady named your mom. And that's not an

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urban diss. Your mom was my Jessica. I remember the first time I saw her. I should get her pregnant

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that you'll have to marry me. I beg your pardon, right? Inappropriate. Sorry, please proceed with

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your story about banging my daughter in high school. I'm not sure you want to take romantic

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advice from this guy, Morty. His marriage is hanging from a thread. All right, so I'm afraid

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but he doesn't know what this is. This is Rick and Morty. You've never seen this before. I feel

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sorry for you, but so for some basic context, you've never seen Rick and Morty before. Jerry is

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Morty's dad. And this is Rick. Rick is the grandfather. And so they're talking about this

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idea of love. And Morty says that he loves this girl at his school, like the hottest girl in school.

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And he wants to get with her and he's looking to his dad for advice. And his dad basically just

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said that you got to be the that's you guy. You got to be the guy at the end of the rainbow.

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They come and save her after she's been on the carousel for a hot minute. And then you got guys

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out here like me saying this. So, oh, I'm dang it. Now move the video a little bit. Okay, here's

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what we're going to do. We're going to finish the clip. I just wanted to give you some background.

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See you with your story about banging my daughter in high school. I'm not sure you want to take

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romantic advice from this guy, Morty. His marriage is hanging from a thread. My marriage is fine,

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thank you. Jerry, it's your house. Whatever you say it is is how it is. But I think a blind man

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can see that Beth is looking for the door. I barely have a reason to care and even I notice. Come on,

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Rick, don't talk about my parents like that. Listen, Morty, I hate to break it to you, but

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what people call love is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard,

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Morty. Then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. I did it. Your parents

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are going to do it. Break the cycle, Morty. Rise above. Focus on science.

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It says it's not completely, but for a large part of it, that's where I stand. So before,

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let me rewind that real quick. Wait, let's play that again. Oh, man. Hey, hey, yo, shout out to Rick,

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man. That is, look, that's a very cynical view of love. But at the same time, I mean, is he wrong?

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We look at nature. We look at different animals because look, most of you don't know humans or

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animals. But when you look at more simplistic animals, that's exactly what their idea of love is.

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It's an instinct. It's a reaction in your biochemistry that says, Hey, this person's up,

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this person's objectively attractive. I like them. I think they're attractive. I want to pass

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on my DNA. Let's get down to it. That's what it is. That is what it is. Now, I understand.

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Most people are not going to accept that they don't like that. That's very cynical. And most

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people are going to say, but Austin, the listen to describe my marriage, I love my wife, but our

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love is like no one I love. It's different. You're just bitter. You don't get it. Amen. I'm not here

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and make the rules. I'm just telling you that this is a more cynical, instinctual version of love

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that I believe at least plays a part and has a place if it's not the placeholder altogether.

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And, uh, you know what, we'll do it live. I'm going to, I want to bring this up.

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Uh, I'm going to, I'm going to look this up.

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Uh, Twilight example, we're going to bring this one up. See if you this, uh, if you all want,

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you all want to see any, we're going to share the Twilight. You all ready for this one? This is

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going to be funny. So let me find a clip.

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Uh, so no, you've never seen Twilight. I've only seen parts of it. I don't want to take so much

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of it, but it's basically like the iconic vampire, uh, romance. So I'm going to look up the clip that

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so I don't never actually seen this clip because I can take it. I think it's largely garbage,

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but what's, what's bringing this up? All right, here it is.

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Here it is.

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Well, well, well, don't give me a copyright. Geez, don't give me no copyright. Come on now.

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Hold on. No, no one will copyright. All right. All right. Here we go.

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And getting up, you ain't getting no free press on my show. All right. Here we go.

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I'm going to show you another example of what people might say. Oh, that's love.

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Yo, that's love. Austin. All right. Here, look at this. What is this, bro? This thing garbage.

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Hey, is that love? Hey, yo, let me ask you, is that love? This, this whole like, oh, I'm handsome

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and I'm attractive and I'm going to, I'm going to caress your face and I'm going to tell you

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though, you're special. That's love. I mean, come on, man. That is, hey, is anybody going to tell

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me that's love? Oh, man. Hey, oh, man. Do I want me to pull up another example? Just just for fun?

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Do we want to pull up another example? Oh, man. Just just to mess with people and get them all mad.

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You know what? Let's pull up another example of my good people to laugh a little bit.

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Let's let's pull this up and let's have a good laugh at this.

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Where is it?

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Oh, man. Does anybody actually see the notebook? I have not seen this movie. I have no desire to

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see this movie, man. None. I don't see of the appeal. I think it's just, it just seems so

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artificial and synthetic. Like what even is this? Man.

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All right, I think I think I found it.

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Is this it? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. No, I want to go for the fight. No, no, you know,

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What am I doing, bro? We don't want to show this. This is garbage

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Like I don't actually know you know what here we'll show this. Oh, let me pull this up. I'll pull this up

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Y'all gonna have to let me know is this is this love is this what you consider lovely pull this up

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Jealous shit

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Yeah, dude like oh, I don't know I just want to get laid man. Can we hurry this up?

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Hey, this man saying I don't care what anything about what you're saying

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I just want to get some some some plus please stop talking

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This is what this dude think look at his new face man. This dude saying

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Hmm. I don't care about this conversation right now at all

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Oh, yo man, this is great. Hey, let's keep going

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What is this man who likes this kind of stuff? I don't get this at all. This is love

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This is what people be saying. Oh, that's love Austin. That's beautiful. That's amazing. We love that

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What?

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What first of all, what does this do wearing? What is this the 1950s? What are you wearing?

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Oh my oh my goodness man, what the

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Oh, this is love

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See this is what people be swooning over in the movie theaters

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This is what your girlfriend wants you to be like you want you to be like this guy

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Being all like acting all goofy and acting like a like a trained animal

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Oh, man, what else is this at the end?

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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, tell me tell me something else. I don't know. Yeah, that you accept man unbelievable

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Is I've already do romantics in this conversation does anybody actually do this anymore?

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I don't see anybody doing this because first of all

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It doesn't first of all, don't work second of all like

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Isn't this Ryan is this Ryan Gosling is out the guy's name and a rumor but

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This is what people are saying is love like this the people talk about the notebook

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They use it as if it's like a prime example of pure love and I don't get it. What is this?

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Okay, that's that that's that's it

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So I've given you multiple examples of what love it could be what people think it is

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The artists and the people in Hollywood and what they say that love is

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But the real question is is love real well going back to the rabbi at the beginning of the show

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Getting to find what it is because I don't think anybody can really define it

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The closest I can come to a definition of love is that it's a choice

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I used to think it was more of a feeling but no the difference between love and lust is one is a feeling and one is a choice

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Because you're not all are gonna feel like you're in love

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I you know if you think that love is what you've seen a Disney movie to happily ever after

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Yeah, I kind of got robbed on this one coach. I don't know what's going on

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I thought I was gonna be living happily ever after and all I'm getting is the ever after part. I'm not getting the happier part

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See people have this constant need to seek pleasure

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So it's not oxycodon is it I think it's oxycodon. It's something like that oxytocin

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I don't know if that's a real thing

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I'm not convinced. I think it could be a choice

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Certain swear words where people use as a just a placeholder word because they don't know what else to say

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They don't know how to really describe themselves

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This person is valuable to me because of x y and z. They just say love it replaces

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Like four paragraphs or four pages of words with four letters

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That's what I think

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Now does that mean that my view is reality? Not necessarily, but it's a conversation

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Tell me what you think. Do you think the love is real?

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Do you think love is an illustrious illusion?

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That's mainly been pushed by artists and people in entertainment industries so that they can then sell you this or

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Tell you to go on this vacation or watch this movie

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Or follow this person on on instagram or on x is that what it's about? I don't know

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At times it can certainly seem like that. I will lie to you sometimes it definitely seems like it

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At the end of the day, this is a very interesting conversation. And so I want you to let me know

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What has love been like for you? Do you feel loved in a relationship whether it's with a parent?

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Whatever it is. Do you feel loved a friendship even? Do you feel loved? What is it exactly?

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I know there are multiple different words that are used in greek and another languages. I'm aware of that

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However, in english, we have really just one word

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Because it's used in so many different contexts and as and I believe that's a placeholder word

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Because it's just easier to say and people think they know what it means and

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I think it's largely been overused and inflated

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It's like the united states economy where it's been inflated

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It's one thing that love and money have in common is inflation. Haha

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But anyways my friends in the meantime

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I'll I'll get I'm giving leaving you this to chew on. I think it's important

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But until then like until next time my friends god bless you god bless your family god bless america. We're out of year

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Have a great day. Peace out