Is love real? Does it really exist? Or are we just entertaining ourselves?
Love is real, but we don't know what it is.
The word has been used so carelessly, it's lost all meaning.
So what does love mean now? In many cases, talking about adults now,
we confuse pleasure with love and love with pleasure.
You don't love food. Food is pleasurable.
So food can give you pleasure, it does not give you love.
Love should be reserved for a relationship between two beings
who can love each other. Now, love back is an option. So you need to love someone
who can love you back, but doesn't have to. In other words, it's a bit of a risk.
You love someone who could love you back? Well, they could also hate you back.
That is meaningful. That's love. And if you can't afford to risk that, then you can't afford...
There's a woman in a room with 10 men. And all 10 men are telling her how beautiful she is
and how amazing she is. And they're lighting her cigarette and buying her drinks and just
treating her like gold. Then all of a sudden, in walks the 11th man. He takes one look at her
and says, hey, how you doing? Turns his back on her and starts talking to his boys.
That's the guy she wants to be with, the 11th man. Not any of the 10 men who were treating her well
all night, but the one guy who couldn't care less. Why? Because for some reason, women don't want
nice. They don't want real. They don't want to be treated well. I mean, not at first and sometimes
not ever. And I think that's crazy. And I refuse to play that game.
Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Sheepkissher podcast. We're here. We talk about people,
politics, apogala culture. I'm your host, the one only Austin Creen. My friends,
I want to ask you something today. Is love real? Do you think that love is real?
No, I know that's a very loaded question, I'm aware. But during the show today, we're going to
really unpack this idea of what love is because everybody seems to have a different view of what
love is. And they have a different way of feeling it, a different way of expressing it, different
ways of understanding how what it means, what it doesn't mean, what it could mean, what it should
mean, everything, it all can come down to the same general idea. And it's confusing. And that's why
we're talking about it today. But, you know, I look at these, the history of love, so to speak.
And then you got, look, I want to pull up, I want to show this so we all look at this.
These are some of the books and stories that people have looked at. And you're usually,
when they refer to love, they think about books or stories like Romeo and Juliet,
or they think about the notebook, or maybe they'll think about stuff like Titanic.
They'll think about these kinds of books or stories. And sometimes we'll even think about
TV shows and movies, maybe things like Twilight God forbid, or these ideas of what is love,
what are these romantic stories, and why are people so obsessed with them? Well,
it's not that hard to really comprehend. I mean, truly, it's not. But we're gonna unpack it today,
because I think it's extremely important that we discuss this. And look, I want you to chime in on
what you think love is. And based on that, why is it important to you? How have you experienced
love in your own life, if you have it all? Because some people probably haven't experienced any love
at all in their lives. And so they don't really know what it is. They know what it looks like on TV.
But they don't know what it's like in maybe in real life. And so we're going to talk about that
today. And we're also going to be bringing up maybe maybe more less. There's more traditional
ideas of love and then there's more unorthodox. And so for your viewing pleasures, I would like to
present a alternative idea to love that is expressed not solely in this clip, but it's been expressed
throughout many different mediums. But I believe this to be the best example. So here, I'll show
this clip with you right here. Give me one second. Let me pull it up. And all right, let's, well,
let's play a clip right here. Try not to worry about it, morning. You're a good kid. And there's
not a premium on that right now, but you'll be getting girls sometime after Brad's out of shape.
You missing the point, dad. I don't want girls. I want Jessica.
Ah, well, I remember feeling that way about a young lady named your mom. And that's not an
urban diss. Your mom was my Jessica. I remember the first time I saw her. I should get her pregnant
that you'll have to marry me. I beg your pardon, right? Inappropriate. Sorry, please proceed with
your story about banging my daughter in high school. I'm not sure you want to take romantic
advice from this guy, Morty. His marriage is hanging from a thread. All right, so I'm afraid
but he doesn't know what this is. This is Rick and Morty. You've never seen this before. I feel
sorry for you, but so for some basic context, you've never seen Rick and Morty before. Jerry is
Morty's dad. And this is Rick. Rick is the grandfather. And so they're talking about this
idea of love. And Morty says that he loves this girl at his school, like the hottest girl in school.
And he wants to get with her and he's looking to his dad for advice. And his dad basically just
said that you got to be the that's you guy. You got to be the guy at the end of the rainbow.
They come and save her after she's been on the carousel for a hot minute. And then you got guys
out here like me saying this. So, oh, I'm dang it. Now move the video a little bit. Okay, here's
what we're going to do. We're going to finish the clip. I just wanted to give you some background.
See you with your story about banging my daughter in high school. I'm not sure you want to take
romantic advice from this guy, Morty. His marriage is hanging from a thread. My marriage is fine,
thank you. Jerry, it's your house. Whatever you say it is is how it is. But I think a blind man
can see that Beth is looking for the door. I barely have a reason to care and even I notice. Come on,
Rick, don't talk about my parents like that. Listen, Morty, I hate to break it to you, but
what people call love is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard,
Morty. Then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. I did it. Your parents
are going to do it. Break the cycle, Morty. Rise above. Focus on science.
It says it's not completely, but for a large part of it, that's where I stand. So before,
let me rewind that real quick. Wait, let's play that again. Oh, man. Hey, hey, yo, shout out to Rick,
man. That is, look, that's a very cynical view of love. But at the same time, I mean, is he wrong?
We look at nature. We look at different animals because look, most of you don't know humans or
animals. But when you look at more simplistic animals, that's exactly what their idea of love is.
It's an instinct. It's a reaction in your biochemistry that says, Hey, this person's up,
this person's objectively attractive. I like them. I think they're attractive. I want to pass
on my DNA. Let's get down to it. That's what it is. That is what it is. Now, I understand.
Most people are not going to accept that they don't like that. That's very cynical. And most
people are going to say, but Austin, the listen to describe my marriage, I love my wife, but our
love is like no one I love. It's different. You're just bitter. You don't get it. Amen. I'm not here
and make the rules. I'm just telling you that this is a more cynical, instinctual version of love
that I believe at least plays a part and has a place if it's not the placeholder altogether.
And, uh, you know what, we'll do it live. I'm going to, I want to bring this up.
Uh, I'm going to, I'm going to look this up.
Uh, Twilight example, we're going to bring this one up. See if you this, uh, if you all want,
you all want to see any, we're going to share the Twilight. You all ready for this one? This is
going to be funny. So let me find a clip.
Uh, so no, you've never seen Twilight. I've only seen parts of it. I don't want to take so much
of it, but it's basically like the iconic vampire, uh, romance. So I'm going to look up the clip that
so I don't never actually seen this clip because I can take it. I think it's largely garbage,
but what's, what's bringing this up? All right, here it is.
Here it is.
Well, well, well, don't give me a copyright. Geez, don't give me no copyright. Come on now.
Hold on. No, no one will copyright. All right. All right. Here we go.
And getting up, you ain't getting no free press on my show. All right. Here we go.
I'm going to show you another example of what people might say. Oh, that's love.
Yo, that's love. Austin. All right. Here, look at this. What is this, bro? This thing garbage.
Hey, is that love? Hey, yo, let me ask you, is that love? This, this whole like, oh, I'm handsome
and I'm attractive and I'm going to, I'm going to caress your face and I'm going to tell you
though, you're special. That's love. I mean, come on, man. That is, hey, is anybody going to tell
me that's love? Oh, man. Hey, oh, man. Do I want me to pull up another example? Just just for fun?
Do we want to pull up another example? Oh, man. Just just to mess with people and get them all mad.
You know what? Let's pull up another example of my good people to laugh a little bit.
Let's let's pull this up and let's have a good laugh at this.
Where is it?
Oh, man. Does anybody actually see the notebook? I have not seen this movie. I have no desire to
see this movie, man. None. I don't see of the appeal. I think it's just, it just seems so
artificial and synthetic. Like what even is this? Man.
All right, I think I think I found it.
Is this it? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. No, I want to go for the fight. No, no, you know,
What am I doing, bro? We don't want to show this. This is garbage
Like I don't actually know you know what here we'll show this. Oh, let me pull this up. I'll pull this up
Y'all gonna have to let me know is this is this love is this what you consider lovely pull this up
Jealous shit
Yeah, dude like oh, I don't know I just want to get laid man. Can we hurry this up?
Hey, this man saying I don't care what anything about what you're saying
I just want to get some some some plus please stop talking
This is what this dude think look at his new face man. This dude saying
Hmm. I don't care about this conversation right now at all
Oh, yo man, this is great. Hey, let's keep going
No
What is this man who likes this kind of stuff? I don't get this at all. This is love
This is what people be saying. Oh, that's love Austin. That's beautiful. That's amazing. We love that
What?
What first of all, what does this do wearing? What is this the 1950s? What are you wearing?
Oh my oh my goodness man, what the
Oh, this is love
See this is what people be swooning over in the movie theaters
This is what your girlfriend wants you to be like you want you to be like this guy
Being all like acting all goofy and acting like a like a trained animal
Oh, man, what else is this at the end?
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, tell me tell me something else. I don't know. Yeah, that you accept man unbelievable
Is I've already do romantics in this conversation does anybody actually do this anymore?
I don't see anybody doing this because first of all
It doesn't first of all, don't work second of all like
Isn't this Ryan is this Ryan Gosling is out the guy's name and a rumor but
This is what people are saying is love like this the people talk about the notebook
They use it as if it's like a prime example of pure love and I don't get it. What is this?
Okay, that's that that's that's it
So I've given you multiple examples of what love it could be what people think it is
The artists and the people in Hollywood and what they say that love is
But the real question is is love real well going back to the rabbi at the beginning of the show
I think he had the most
I would say the most
But in neutral stance when it comes to
Getting to find what it is because I don't think anybody can really define it
The closest I can come to a definition of love is that it's a choice
I used to think it was more of a feeling but no the difference between love and lust is one is a feeling and one is a choice
Because you're not all are gonna feel like you're in love
I you know if you think that love is what you've seen a Disney movie to happily ever after
Yeah, that doesn't happen. Okay. It might happen for a year two years tops and after that you this think
Yeah, I kind of got robbed on this one coach. I don't know what's going on
I thought I was gonna be living happily ever after and all I'm getting is the ever after part. I'm not getting the happier part
But
See people have this constant need to seek pleasure
And I love what that rabbi said when he was talking about the difference between pleasure
And love because people think that love is always pleasurable when in fact
Love is supposed to be built on self sacrifice what you're doing for somebody else
That is what it's supposed to be on but the problem is
Love has become something that's what you can do for me. So I feel
Happy I feel good. I feel a high off of dopamine oxy, you know, um
serotonin
And
I'm missing one it's escaping me
So it's not oxycodon is it I think it's oxycodon. It's something like that oxytocin
Where it's you still bonded to that person you feel close
And for lack of a better term you feel loved valued
by that person
I don't know if that's a real thing
I'm not convinced. I think it could be a choice
But I think the word is largely used as a placeholder as in kind of like
Certain swear words where people use as a just a placeholder word because they don't know what else to say
They don't know how to really describe themselves
So instead of saying hey, I truly enjoyed this or hey, I liked eating that or hey
This person is valuable to me because of x y and z. They just say love it replaces
Like four paragraphs or four pages of words with four letters
That's what I think
Now does that mean that my view is reality? Not necessarily, but it's a conversation
And so I want you to
Tell me what you think. Do you think the love is real?
Do you think love is an illustrious illusion?
That's mainly been pushed by artists and people in entertainment industries so that they can then sell you this or
Tell you to go on this vacation or watch this movie
Or follow this person on on instagram or on x is that what it's about? I don't know
At times it can certainly seem like that. I will lie to you sometimes it definitely seems like it
But my friends look
At the end of the day, this is a very interesting conversation. And so I want you to let me know
What has love been like for you? Do you feel loved in a relationship whether it's with a parent?
With a parent, uh, your wife, your husband, a child, uh,
Whatever it is. Do you feel loved a friendship even? Do you feel loved? What is it exactly?
I know there are multiple different words that are used in greek and another languages. I'm aware of that
However, in english, we have really just one word
So that's why I think it's important to discuss it
Because it's used in so many different contexts and as and I believe that's a placeholder word
Because it's just easier to say and people think they know what it means and
I think it's largely been overused and inflated
It's like the united states economy where it's been inflated
It's one thing that love and money have in common is inflation. Haha
But anyways my friends in the meantime
I'll I'll get I'm giving leaving you this to chew on. I think it's important
But until then like until next time my friends god bless you god bless your family god bless america. We're out of year
Have a great day. Peace out