1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:10,760 What's going on everybody, welcome to the sheep kid sheared podcast. 2 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:14,040 We're here, we talk about people, politics of popular culture. 3 00:00:14,040 --> 00:00:16,440 I'm your host, the one and only Austin Creed. 4 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:19,040 My friends, welcome into the morning show. 5 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:25,760 I know that this is going to be a little bit of a hard show to do and I'm going to be very 6 00:00:25,760 --> 00:00:29,520 vulnerable with all of you on the show today. 7 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:34,920 And so I hope it doesn't come across as I hope this doesn't come across wrong. 8 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:40,640 I don't know how it's going to come across, but you know, in the morning show is supposed 9 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:43,360 to be motivational. 10 00:00:43,360 --> 00:00:48,640 And that's exactly what I want to do for you this morning, but there's a different angle 11 00:00:48,640 --> 00:00:51,320 that I want to take. 12 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:58,120 And you know, I was going to do the evening show last night. 13 00:00:58,120 --> 00:01:04,120 And for some reason I was just having a really tough time last night. 14 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:09,120 And then I came to realize something that I thought needed to be said more in the morning 15 00:01:09,120 --> 00:01:13,000 show because I thought it sat a little bit more with the morning show. 16 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:16,320 They might be asking what that is. 17 00:01:16,320 --> 00:01:24,720 Well, I want to talk this morning about how to cope with sadness. 18 00:01:24,720 --> 00:01:26,920 Sadness is something all of us live with. 19 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:30,240 I don't know of a single person alive who's avoided it. 20 00:01:30,240 --> 00:01:36,560 I don't know a single person who's never told said the words that I feel sad or I feel down 21 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:37,560 today. 22 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:38,560 I don't feel right today. 23 00:01:38,560 --> 00:01:40,880 Some things just off. 24 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:47,960 I know I'm not alone when I say those words from time to time, sometimes more than I would 25 00:01:47,960 --> 00:01:50,720 like to admit. 26 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:56,760 But my friends, this idea of coping with sadness, there are burdens that all of us endure in 27 00:01:56,760 --> 00:02:04,200 life, whether it's you endure with just a small bouts of sadness, or maybe you feel 28 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:08,800 absolutely depressed majority of the time. 29 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:15,720 And those take on the form of physical symptoms that can affect your relationships, your prospects, 30 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:22,840 your money, your relationships with the people that you love. 31 00:02:22,840 --> 00:02:26,920 But I'm here to tell you this morning that if you're struggling with sadness, you're not 32 00:02:26,920 --> 00:02:27,920 alone. 33 00:02:27,920 --> 00:02:33,440 In fact, I would care to wager that all of us who are creatives, whether we're content 34 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:40,360 creators or not, we suffer with sadness quite a bit. 35 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:49,320 And sadness, if any of you have seen the Disney movie Inside Out, it provides a very infantile 36 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:57,800 level, entry level, I would dare say, of the emotions of the human condition that everyone 37 00:02:57,800 --> 00:02:59,300 struggles with. 38 00:02:59,300 --> 00:03:06,000 And it kind of gave a persona to an abstract idea. 39 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:09,640 But you know, I'm not going to review, I'm not going to go the movie step by step, I 40 00:03:09,640 --> 00:03:11,120 don't carry off to do it. 41 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:17,080 But what I will do is discuss that sadness is often seen as a villain. 42 00:03:17,080 --> 00:03:20,680 That seen as something that you must avoid at all costs. 43 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:26,440 Kind of like stress, where you shouldn't feel stressed, but then inevitably you end up 44 00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:34,920 stressing about your stress, which then produces this downward spiral of complete loss. 45 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:40,320 And you're stressing about your own stress, it's kind of putting a hat on a hat and before 46 00:03:40,320 --> 00:03:44,440 you know it, you don't know how you're dressed. 47 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:45,440 That's what it can do to you. 48 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:52,200 If you feel sad about being sad, that's the same thing as fearing your own fear. 49 00:03:52,200 --> 00:03:57,560 I know I'm not alone with understanding these feelings. 50 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:01,580 But if you're struggling today with being sad and it's crippling your creativity, it's 51 00:04:01,580 --> 00:04:11,320 crippling your next step forward, it's hindering you, it's paralyzing you, like snake venom, 52 00:04:11,320 --> 00:04:14,320 you're not alone. 53 00:04:14,320 --> 00:04:20,060 But regardless of whether you're alone or not, what I would encourage you to do is what 54 00:04:20,060 --> 00:04:26,560 I tell myself every day, I'm going to take a step forward today. 55 00:04:26,560 --> 00:04:33,040 I would rather trip and fall backwards two steps while trying to take a step forward 56 00:04:33,040 --> 00:04:38,520 than stand in the very same place I did when I woke up this morning. 57 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:45,640 Why? because if I fall, my next job is to pick myself back up and now I want to run 58 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:47,120 upstairs not walk. 59 00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:52,640 Versus if I stand still, I'm going to feel bad about standing still and I'm more likely 60 00:04:52,640 --> 00:05:00,320 to question myself and repeat over and over again being stagnant and you cannot stay stagnant 61 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:04,200 for long before you start to sink. 62 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:09,800 And before you and when you start sinking before long, you suck to the bottom and then 63 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:10,920 you're going to feel bad about it. 64 00:05:10,920 --> 00:05:15,120 It's a never ending spiral. 65 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:17,400 I can only end one of two ways. 66 00:05:17,400 --> 00:05:22,880 One is you pull yourself out of it or two it puts you in the grave. 67 00:05:22,880 --> 00:05:23,880 And I don't want this. 68 00:05:23,880 --> 00:05:29,520 I don't I'd rather be the former than the latter. 69 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:34,880 If you've been paralyzed by the snake venom of life usually called stress stress is the 70 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:39,520 snake venom that paralyzes most people. 71 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:45,760 And let me tell you if you've been in that situation where your stress has been paralyzing 72 00:05:45,760 --> 00:05:55,720 you take an own that because as soon as you do it grants you power over the sadness the 73 00:05:55,720 --> 00:06:02,880 stress the instability whatever it is that you're suffering from this morning. 74 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:08,200 Once you own up to that it will help give you accountability and will help you cope 75 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:15,680 and not only cope it will help you reign in in your sadness like a wild horse being broken 76 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:21,920 nor to break the wild horse known as sadness depression anxiety stress whatever it's bothering 77 00:06:21,920 --> 00:06:23,600 you this morning. 78 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:29,000 You have to take the courage to ride on its back instead of letting it run rickshaw over 79 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:34,600 your land the landscape and garden of your mind. 80 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:41,200 It takes accountability because avoiding your responsibilities as a disease and before long 81 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:47,280 it will infect your entire life and it will take you time to uproot and destroy that disease 82 00:06:47,280 --> 00:06:53,240 before you gain the determination and the ability to truly move forward instead of just 83 00:06:53,240 --> 00:06:57,160 dealing with your past. 84 00:06:57,160 --> 00:07:02,120 I want you to know that if you see this as an insurmountable task Austin you're asking 85 00:07:02,120 --> 00:07:05,880 a lot of for me this morning how the hell am I supposed to do all that? 86 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:14,160 Well my friends I asked myself the same question in fact more than I care to know sometimes 87 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:19,040 care more than I care to remember I've asked myself that very question how do I deal with 88 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:26,680 this why in the world would I bother doing it what am I do? 89 00:07:26,680 --> 00:07:35,640 Well my friends I don't know the exact situation but what I do know is this I don't care if 90 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:46,000 you're 60, 16, 36 doesn't matter you can always always stop what you've been doing and start 91 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:48,600 something new. 92 00:07:48,600 --> 00:07:55,840 All it takes is the will of a single man the will of a single woman that's all it takes 93 00:07:55,840 --> 00:08:01,400 is for you to own up what you've been doing and take control of what you will do. 94 00:08:01,400 --> 00:08:06,880 I know I make it sound very simple very straightforward and that's because that's exactly what it 95 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:17,560 is and the longer you push aside the reality of which I speak the more you will tread water 96 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:24,200 and before long your legs will get tired and you will sink and I don't want you to sink 97 00:08:24,200 --> 00:08:33,280 I want you to stand and I want you to move forward and stride and run the race and win 98 00:08:33,280 --> 00:08:38,840 but it doesn't matter what I want for you what matters is what you want for you. 99 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:44,760 I guarantee you I know some of you probably think this morning that all your problems 100 00:08:44,760 --> 00:08:48,720 in life will be solved if you would just be handing money right whether the government 101 00:08:48,720 --> 00:08:54,240 hand you money some mysterious relative you didn't know suddenly died and gave you money 102 00:08:54,240 --> 00:08:59,000 and you think your whole life would be better you'd be set you'd be stacked you wouldn't 103 00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:02,800 have to worry about it or stress ever again. 104 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:07,680 Well I'm here to tell you that if you believe that it's a sign of that you've never had 105 00:09:07,680 --> 00:09:20,360 money because money brings with it more stress more problems and that is exactly why well 106 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:25,760 let me rephrase it like this let's say you're an aspiring farmer right you're not very 107 00:09:25,760 --> 00:09:33,320 experienced but you have a desire to be a farmer and all of a sudden you find yourself 108 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:38,920 in charge of a vast array of different crops and land and animals that are all looking 109 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:45,360 to you as their farmer and it's your responsibility to take care of all of it but you don't have 110 00:09:45,360 --> 00:09:49,040 any practical experience you don't know what you're doing you think you know what you're 111 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:55,360 doing but you don't that's the equivalent of you inheriting a ton of money or a ton 112 00:09:55,360 --> 00:10:02,400 of assets that you didn't earn or that you didn't don't know how to manage it produces 113 00:10:02,400 --> 00:10:08,200 a problem because before you know it you're going to be making mistakes and before you're 114 00:10:08,200 --> 00:10:12,240 and it's not going to be necessarily because you have bad intentions it's going to be the 115 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:20,080 exact opposite it's going to be you don't have the practical experience. 116 00:10:20,080 --> 00:10:27,720 My friends analogies help the world make sense it helps give flesh to these fictitious examples 117 00:10:27,720 --> 00:10:33,160 or to these fleeting thoughts and I hope that that's what I did for you today. 118 00:10:33,160 --> 00:10:38,120 My friends coping with sadness is no easy thing to do I know I make it sound easy and 119 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:43,720 that's only because I've had to deal with the the deepest darkest parts of myself and 120 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:50,320 I've come out of it not unscathed but scarred and it's because of that I can really speak 121 00:10:50,320 --> 00:10:51,320 on this issue. 122 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:59,000 Those of you who don't know I was in a mental hospital for 28 days when I was in the military 123 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:03,400 and I learned a lot about myself I learned a lot about the mental health industry I learned 124 00:11:03,400 --> 00:11:11,800 a lot over the course of that month and it's my goal to not just give people drugs but 125 00:11:11,800 --> 00:11:15,560 to give them determination. 126 00:11:15,560 --> 00:11:19,880 Now I'm not saying don't take doctor prescribed medication what I'm saying is I want you to 127 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:26,040 change your mindset I want you to adjust your mentality so that you can take control of 128 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:32,760 your life and not feel as though you are a passenger in the car that is taking you to 129 00:11:32,760 --> 00:11:33,920 your future. 130 00:11:33,920 --> 00:11:39,560 I want you to be in the driver's seat not in the passenger seat or even in the back seat 131 00:11:39,560 --> 00:11:46,480 or God forbid in the trunk being taken against your will I don't want that for you but in 132 00:11:46,480 --> 00:11:52,480 order for me to try to help you you gotta help me help you and in order to do that you 133 00:11:52,480 --> 00:11:57,800 have to assess your life decide what it is you want decide what you've been knowing hasn't 134 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:03,400 been working what parts of it maybe have and what parts have not and you need to move forward 135 00:12:03,400 --> 00:12:09,120 and of course you're more than welcome to listen to this show because every morning 136 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:12,400 I'm gonna be giving messages like this. 137 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:19,080 Now please feel free to let me know in the comment section or you can go over to ex 138 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:25,720 formally Twitter and find me over there at cheapkitsheared and for those of you who enjoy 139 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:31,640 this kind of conversation about self-improvement personal development it's my passion because 140 00:12:31,640 --> 00:12:38,640 I've had to learn all these lessons the hard way and it is my goal that people learn from 141 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:45,800 my mistakes because learning the hard way is very very painful and I don't want you to 142 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:51,480 have to deal with that if you can avoid it and the best way for you to learn everything 143 00:12:51,480 --> 00:13:00,320 that I have learned thus far is to pick up my book my manual my personal manual biblical 144 00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:06,040 bachelor which I will leave in the description of the video or podcast you're listening 145 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:14,720 to that book I spent a lot of time doing a lot of research and I dive very deep into 146 00:13:14,720 --> 00:13:24,240 the issues of personal development spiritualism making sense of the world so you can develop 147 00:13:24,240 --> 00:13:30,800 your own personal philosophy for yourself I don't teach you what to think I merely open 148 00:13:30,800 --> 00:13:36,520 your eyes to the realities of the world that might seem harsh unforgiving and something 149 00:13:36,520 --> 00:13:41,760 you frankly didn't know you needed to hear but that's how I've learned to manage my 150 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:51,160 life at the old age of reaching towards my mid to mid to early 20s and I'm just getting 151 00:13:51,160 --> 00:13:56,360 started I know I'm gonna learn a lot more as the days months hours and years come down 152 00:13:56,360 --> 00:14:03,760 the pipe but it is my fervent wish that all of you learn from both my mistakes and the 153 00:14:03,760 --> 00:14:08,960 people's mistakes around you so that you can get a head start in life because getting 154 00:14:08,960 --> 00:14:14,880 ahead will help you be better than your father and your grandfather and will honor their 155 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:22,240 memory and every father wants a son who outdoes him or or even a daughter who outdoes and 156 00:14:22,240 --> 00:14:29,400 they every father wants his children out do it that's that's the reality and it is my 157 00:14:29,400 --> 00:14:35,480 goal in life to outdo my father and that's a very high bar frankly and so it is my wish 158 00:14:35,480 --> 00:14:40,600 that all of you does the same and that's why I wrote the book that's why I do this show 159 00:14:40,600 --> 00:14:47,400 because I want you to take responsibility for your life and be better than you were yesterday 160 00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:51,760 my friends please let me know what you thought about the show today I hope it hits you very 161 00:14:51,760 --> 00:14:58,640 close to home and I hope it inspires you to be better because that is my goal but in the 162 00:14:58,640 --> 00:15:05,240 meantime my friends God bless you God bless your families God bless America have a fantastic 163 00:15:05,240 --> 00:15:22,280 day and be better than you were yesterday peace.