Hey, what's up and welcome into another episode
of Vision Pros Live. I'm your show host, Jackson
Callum, founder and CEO of First Class Business
down here in Ecuador and enjoying this new year.
I'm hoping that you are too. I've got somebody
special on the show today and Dr. Robin Buckley.
She takes business principles and applies them
to personal relationships. And when I say business
principles, I'm talking about the principles
of truly successful companies. And that really
stood out to me. And I kind of challenged her
on that. We talked a little bit about her copy
and, and some of the statements that she made.
And ultimately I was just so mesmerized, I think
is the right word. And, and like more, more hopeful
than anything, like, oh my gosh, like I might've
found somebody who really unlocks certain golden
nuggets here. And that's exactly what we've gotten
out of the beginning of this episode. So. I'm
going to dive in, ask her a little bit more about
the topic at hand. And if you have any questions,
don't hesitate to bring your own questions up
because I have a feeling there's a treasure trove
of knowledge that we'll get to. So Dr. Robin
Buckley, welcome back. And are you ready for
the next question? Oh, yeah. Okay. I want to
dive in deep on this statement, a partner who
can evolve with you. How do you, again, the selfish
side says, how do you recognize somebody who
can evolve with you? And the other side of it,
I want to protect the existing marriages out
there. I think a lot of people throw the towel
in and hit the delete or the divorce button prematurely,
and they don't honor their existing relationship.
So how do you jumpstart a relationship that is
in need of evolution? Two angles. So predicting
someone who can evolve with you, that's challenging.
God, if I could do that. I wouldn't need to do
podcasts. I'd be I'd be have enough money and
I'd be done in my career, actually, because it'd
be a one time one off. Yes, that'll work. No,
that won't work. I think that when I've worked
with couples early in their relationships, it
is it comes back to one of the easiest premises,
which is communication. What does your communication
look like in terms of when new ideas come up,
when new opportunities come up, when new just
desires? I want to try. salsa dancing. Is that
something that your partner simply says, Nope,
I have no interest. Or is it something that he
or she says, Yeah, all right. I don't know. I've
never thought of it. Or I suck at dancing, but
we can give it a go. Or you know what? It's just
not what I'm comfortable with. But could we start
with just dancing in the kitchen? That's okay.
It doesn't have to be fully every time your partner
comes up with it. Yes. But it should be a yes.
I'm all on board. Yes, I'll try. Or can we negotiate
something that gets us like a step closer but
isn't a full -on dive in? If your partner is
flat out saying, no, not interested, that to
me would be at least a pink flag where they're
just not even thinking about it. They're not
even entertaining that this is obviously important
to you because you said it out loud. And why?
Is it because their needs are the only ones that
are the priority? Is it because they aren't willing
to try new things, which hints to the lack of
potential evolution? So to me, that would be
the case. And I've heard that from a lot of couples.
They'll say, I've been throwing out ideas for
so long and my partner just is, it's always a
roadblock. That's a problem. Yeah. I can see
that for sure. And I love what you said there,
the vulnerability and the reality that finding
somebody who can evolve with you, you know, that's
a, that's an ongoing challenge. And so you, you
actually inspired me big time on that though,
because on the business side, that's one of my
expertise. And so now I want to use one of my
materials to see, wait a second, can we evolve
this particular ebook that I wrote so that it
applies to relationships, personal relationships.
And so if you're okay, I'm going to send it to
you. You can, you can take a look through it
and see, and if you can see any applicable principles
to how it applies to second edition of my book.
Nice. That's awesome. And it will be a, so the
name of it is a 12 step checklist to recognize
market leaders. And it's called the saving heroes
audit blueprint. How to identify and sort disqualify
or qualify. Recognize toxic versus virtuous,
pretenders versus contenders, and how to separate
hobbyists from legacy builders. And so the process
is something that, again, I'm just as inclined
and just as excited or eager to improve my personal
life as I am to improve the vision for my business.
And you've unlocked a lot of great truths today.
Any final nuggets of wisdom you'd want to share
today? Yeah, I think that the most important
thing is looking at the things that are working
in your business. Look at the things that are
working in your company and asking yourself,
how could these work to improve my relationship?
It doesn't have to be that your relationship
is in crisis. As a business owner, you wouldn't
wait until you're ready to file bankruptcy. You
would do something proactively. But a lot of
couples are fearful of asking for help and support
from a couple's coach because they think it means
failure instead of, no, we're trying. And you
said earlier, we're trying to avoid hitting the
default divorce button too early. So let's do
things in a preventative way, in a way that enhances
and gets us closer to that goal and vision we
have, because this is too valuable to let go.
That's huge. I love that. This is a great session
to help me with my meditations today and going
into the rest of the week and into the new year.
So thank you for all the wisdom that you shared.
Those of you who are listening in, even if you're
not a doctor with all the experience that Dr.
Buckley has with relationships, if you've got
a vision to help others and to serve and to give
back, then by all means, come on our show and
share. There's a button that says be our guest.
We'd be grateful to get to know you and get to
see what you're up to in the world. We've got
8 billion people in this world to help. And so
it's far easier to do when we do it together.
And we'll see you guys all on the next episode
of Vision Pros Live. Take care, everybody. Bye
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