WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:01.659 Hey, what's up and welcome into another episode 00:00:01.659 --> 00:00:03.640 of Vision Pros Live. I'm your show host, Jackson 00:00:03.640 --> 00:00:05.540 Callum, founder and CEO of First Class Business 00:00:05.540 --> 00:00:09.900 down here in Ecuador and enjoying this new year. 00:00:09.980 --> 00:00:11.859 I'm hoping that you are too. I've got somebody 00:00:11.859 --> 00:00:14.560 special on the show today and Dr. Robin Buckley. 00:00:14.960 --> 00:00:17.640 She takes business principles and applies them 00:00:17.640 --> 00:00:20.899 to personal relationships. And when I say business 00:00:20.899 --> 00:00:23.079 principles, I'm talking about the principles 00:00:23.079 --> 00:00:25.780 of truly successful companies. And that really 00:00:25.780 --> 00:00:28.239 stood out to me. And I kind of challenged her 00:00:28.239 --> 00:00:30.379 on that. We talked a little bit about her copy 00:00:30.379 --> 00:00:32.600 and, and some of the statements that she made. 00:00:32.640 --> 00:00:38.079 And ultimately I was just so mesmerized, I think 00:00:38.079 --> 00:00:41.140 is the right word. And, and like more, more hopeful 00:00:41.140 --> 00:00:42.700 than anything, like, oh my gosh, like I might've 00:00:42.700 --> 00:00:45.119 found somebody who really unlocks certain golden 00:00:45.119 --> 00:00:47.780 nuggets here. And that's exactly what we've gotten 00:00:47.780 --> 00:00:49.880 out of the beginning of this episode. So. I'm 00:00:49.880 --> 00:00:51.659 going to dive in, ask her a little bit more about 00:00:51.659 --> 00:00:54.880 the topic at hand. And if you have any questions, 00:00:54.979 --> 00:00:56.799 don't hesitate to bring your own questions up 00:00:56.799 --> 00:00:58.640 because I have a feeling there's a treasure trove 00:00:58.640 --> 00:01:01.259 of knowledge that we'll get to. So Dr. Robin 00:01:01.259 --> 00:01:03.560 Buckley, welcome back. And are you ready for 00:01:03.560 --> 00:01:07.319 the next question? Oh, yeah. Okay. I want to 00:01:07.319 --> 00:01:11.019 dive in deep on this statement, a partner who 00:01:11.019 --> 00:01:15.819 can evolve with you. How do you, again, the selfish 00:01:15.819 --> 00:01:17.939 side says, how do you recognize somebody who 00:01:17.939 --> 00:01:21.269 can evolve with you? And the other side of it, 00:01:21.310 --> 00:01:23.209 I want to protect the existing marriages out 00:01:23.209 --> 00:01:24.750 there. I think a lot of people throw the towel 00:01:24.750 --> 00:01:28.069 in and hit the delete or the divorce button prematurely, 00:01:28.069 --> 00:01:30.310 and they don't honor their existing relationship. 00:01:30.489 --> 00:01:34.569 So how do you jumpstart a relationship that is 00:01:34.569 --> 00:01:40.750 in need of evolution? Two angles. So predicting 00:01:40.750 --> 00:01:42.849 someone who can evolve with you, that's challenging. 00:01:42.969 --> 00:01:45.890 God, if I could do that. I wouldn't need to do 00:01:45.890 --> 00:01:48.409 podcasts. I'd be I'd be have enough money and 00:01:48.409 --> 00:01:50.489 I'd be done in my career, actually, because it'd 00:01:50.489 --> 00:01:52.829 be a one time one off. Yes, that'll work. No, 00:01:52.849 --> 00:01:55.989 that won't work. I think that when I've worked 00:01:55.989 --> 00:01:59.370 with couples early in their relationships, it 00:01:59.370 --> 00:02:02.629 is it comes back to one of the easiest premises, 00:02:02.790 --> 00:02:04.989 which is communication. What does your communication 00:02:04.989 --> 00:02:07.650 look like in terms of when new ideas come up, 00:02:07.709 --> 00:02:10.569 when new opportunities come up, when new just 00:02:10.569 --> 00:02:15.180 desires? I want to try. salsa dancing. Is that 00:02:15.180 --> 00:02:17.240 something that your partner simply says, Nope, 00:02:17.280 --> 00:02:20.699 I have no interest. Or is it something that he 00:02:20.699 --> 00:02:23.020 or she says, Yeah, all right. I don't know. I've 00:02:23.020 --> 00:02:24.860 never thought of it. Or I suck at dancing, but 00:02:24.860 --> 00:02:28.259 we can give it a go. Or you know what? It's just 00:02:28.259 --> 00:02:30.080 not what I'm comfortable with. But could we start 00:02:30.080 --> 00:02:32.419 with just dancing in the kitchen? That's okay. 00:02:32.560 --> 00:02:35.060 It doesn't have to be fully every time your partner 00:02:35.060 --> 00:02:38.759 comes up with it. Yes. But it should be a yes. 00:02:39.159 --> 00:02:42.860 I'm all on board. Yes, I'll try. Or can we negotiate 00:02:42.860 --> 00:02:45.699 something that gets us like a step closer but 00:02:45.699 --> 00:02:48.199 isn't a full -on dive in? If your partner is 00:02:48.199 --> 00:02:51.659 flat out saying, no, not interested, that to 00:02:51.659 --> 00:02:55.240 me would be at least a pink flag where they're 00:02:55.240 --> 00:02:57.080 just not even thinking about it. They're not 00:02:57.080 --> 00:02:59.360 even entertaining that this is obviously important 00:02:59.360 --> 00:03:02.819 to you because you said it out loud. And why? 00:03:03.659 --> 00:03:06.699 Is it because their needs are the only ones that 00:03:06.699 --> 00:03:09.719 are the priority? Is it because they aren't willing 00:03:09.719 --> 00:03:12.800 to try new things, which hints to the lack of 00:03:12.800 --> 00:03:16.000 potential evolution? So to me, that would be 00:03:16.000 --> 00:03:18.840 the case. And I've heard that from a lot of couples. 00:03:19.280 --> 00:03:21.439 They'll say, I've been throwing out ideas for 00:03:21.439 --> 00:03:25.560 so long and my partner just is, it's always a 00:03:25.560 --> 00:03:29.770 roadblock. That's a problem. Yeah. I can see 00:03:29.770 --> 00:03:31.469 that for sure. And I love what you said there, 00:03:31.490 --> 00:03:34.349 the vulnerability and the reality that finding 00:03:34.349 --> 00:03:36.949 somebody who can evolve with you, you know, that's 00:03:36.949 --> 00:03:39.349 a, that's an ongoing challenge. And so you, you 00:03:39.349 --> 00:03:41.370 actually inspired me big time on that though, 00:03:41.430 --> 00:03:43.750 because on the business side, that's one of my 00:03:43.750 --> 00:03:47.030 expertise. And so now I want to use one of my 00:03:47.030 --> 00:03:50.030 materials to see, wait a second, can we evolve 00:03:50.030 --> 00:03:53.729 this particular ebook that I wrote so that it 00:03:53.729 --> 00:03:55.729 applies to relationships, personal relationships. 00:03:55.830 --> 00:03:57.729 And so if you're okay, I'm going to send it to 00:03:57.729 --> 00:04:01.219 you. You can, you can take a look through it 00:04:01.219 --> 00:04:04.020 and see, and if you can see any applicable principles 00:04:04.020 --> 00:04:08.300 to how it applies to second edition of my book. 00:04:09.240 --> 00:04:13.199 Nice. That's awesome. And it will be a, so the 00:04:13.199 --> 00:04:15.139 name of it is a 12 step checklist to recognize 00:04:15.139 --> 00:04:18.500 market leaders. And it's called the saving heroes 00:04:18.500 --> 00:04:22.079 audit blueprint. How to identify and sort disqualify 00:04:22.079 --> 00:04:24.720 or qualify. Recognize toxic versus virtuous, 00:04:24.839 --> 00:04:26.779 pretenders versus contenders, and how to separate 00:04:26.779 --> 00:04:30.720 hobbyists from legacy builders. And so the process 00:04:30.720 --> 00:04:35.220 is something that, again, I'm just as inclined 00:04:35.220 --> 00:04:39.300 and just as excited or eager to improve my personal 00:04:39.300 --> 00:04:42.920 life as I am to improve the vision for my business. 00:04:43.379 --> 00:04:45.500 And you've unlocked a lot of great truths today. 00:04:45.660 --> 00:04:47.920 Any final nuggets of wisdom you'd want to share 00:04:47.920 --> 00:04:50.730 today? Yeah, I think that the most important 00:04:50.730 --> 00:04:53.350 thing is looking at the things that are working 00:04:53.350 --> 00:04:54.970 in your business. Look at the things that are 00:04:54.970 --> 00:04:57.129 working in your company and asking yourself, 00:04:57.250 --> 00:05:01.110 how could these work to improve my relationship? 00:05:01.269 --> 00:05:02.750 It doesn't have to be that your relationship 00:05:02.750 --> 00:05:05.149 is in crisis. As a business owner, you wouldn't 00:05:05.149 --> 00:05:07.430 wait until you're ready to file bankruptcy. You 00:05:07.430 --> 00:05:09.920 would do something proactively. But a lot of 00:05:09.920 --> 00:05:12.860 couples are fearful of asking for help and support 00:05:12.860 --> 00:05:15.540 from a couple's coach because they think it means 00:05:15.540 --> 00:05:18.240 failure instead of, no, we're trying. And you 00:05:18.240 --> 00:05:20.699 said earlier, we're trying to avoid hitting the 00:05:20.699 --> 00:05:23.819 default divorce button too early. So let's do 00:05:23.819 --> 00:05:26.379 things in a preventative way, in a way that enhances 00:05:26.379 --> 00:05:29.120 and gets us closer to that goal and vision we 00:05:29.120 --> 00:05:31.699 have, because this is too valuable to let go. 00:05:33.060 --> 00:05:37.100 That's huge. I love that. This is a great session 00:05:37.100 --> 00:05:40.360 to help me with my meditations today and going 00:05:40.360 --> 00:05:43.040 into the rest of the week and into the new year. 00:05:43.120 --> 00:05:45.120 So thank you for all the wisdom that you shared. 00:05:45.399 --> 00:05:48.160 Those of you who are listening in, even if you're 00:05:48.160 --> 00:05:50.720 not a doctor with all the experience that Dr. 00:05:50.779 --> 00:05:52.779 Buckley has with relationships, if you've got 00:05:52.779 --> 00:05:55.139 a vision to help others and to serve and to give 00:05:55.139 --> 00:05:56.959 back, then by all means, come on our show and 00:05:56.959 --> 00:05:58.420 share. There's a button that says be our guest. 00:05:58.779 --> 00:06:00.819 We'd be grateful to get to know you and get to 00:06:00.819 --> 00:06:02.100 see what you're up to in the world. We've got 00:06:02.100 --> 00:06:05.250 8 billion people in this world to help. And so 00:06:05.250 --> 00:06:07.269 it's far easier to do when we do it together. 00:06:07.389 --> 00:06:09.209 And we'll see you guys all on the next episode 00:06:09.209 --> 00:06:11.430 of Vision Pros Live. Take care, everybody. Bye 00:06:11.430 --> 00:06:13.230 -bye. Thank you for being here today. I'm really 00:06:13.230 --> 00:06:15.209 happy that you tuned in to Vision Pros Live. 00:06:15.410 --> 00:06:17.829 I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions 00:06:17.829 --> 00:06:20.470 as these episodes continue to move forward. This 00:06:20.470 --> 00:06:22.350 is going to get more and more fun. We'll have 00:06:22.350 --> 00:06:24.170 more and more engagement as well. We'll invite 00:06:24.170 --> 00:06:26.569 people to participate in the show. And thank 00:06:26.569 --> 00:06:28.529 you for giving us your time and attention. Have 00:06:28.529 --> 00:06:31.189 an excellent time building out your vision and 00:06:31.189 --> 00:06:32.310 becoming a Vision Pro yourself.