WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:01.760 Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode 00:00:01.760 --> 00:00:04.059 of Vision Pros Live. I'm your host and coach, 00:00:04.219 --> 00:00:06.360 Fletcher Ellingson. Welcome to the show. I'm 00:00:06.360 --> 00:00:08.640 so glad you're here. I'm so glad that you're 00:00:08.640 --> 00:00:12.119 in this conversation. Why? Because this is where 00:00:12.119 --> 00:00:14.740 we meet movers and shakers. This is where we 00:00:14.740 --> 00:00:17.920 meet people who have gone through it. This is 00:00:17.920 --> 00:00:19.879 where we meet people who have gone through it 00:00:19.879 --> 00:00:23.399 to the extent that they have some insight and 00:00:23.399 --> 00:00:26.460 they can make your experience of going through 00:00:26.460 --> 00:00:30.809 it maybe a little bit less painful. maybe a little 00:00:30.809 --> 00:00:34.890 bit more smoother, maybe a little bit more joyful. 00:00:35.590 --> 00:00:38.450 We're talking to people who have been through 00:00:38.450 --> 00:00:42.329 it. And our guest today is Rhonda Britton. And 00:00:42.329 --> 00:00:46.670 guess what? She's been through it. And she's 00:00:46.670 --> 00:00:50.250 going to talk to you a little bit about this 00:00:50.250 --> 00:00:53.250 thing called fear and how to deal with it, how 00:00:53.250 --> 00:00:55.990 to navigate it. It's real. You may be listening 00:00:55.990 --> 00:00:58.009 to this and thinking, fear, oh boy, I'm familiar 00:00:58.009 --> 00:01:01.490 with that. I got fear of people. I got fear of 00:01:01.490 --> 00:01:05.129 the future. I got fear of losing it all. I got 00:01:05.129 --> 00:01:07.329 fear of making mistakes. I got fear of looking 00:01:07.329 --> 00:01:11.810 bad. I got fear of success. We all got it. You 00:01:11.810 --> 00:01:14.349 can't get away from it, but you can navigate 00:01:14.349 --> 00:01:18.049 it. So Rhonda, welcome to the show. Thank you 00:01:18.049 --> 00:01:19.849 so much, Fletcher. I'm so excited to be here. 00:01:19.969 --> 00:01:22.569 My favorite topic, how to get through it and 00:01:22.569 --> 00:01:24.810 where does fear fit in? And of course, a vision. 00:01:24.930 --> 00:01:27.719 These are my three favorite things. I love it. 00:01:27.719 --> 00:01:29.480 I love it. Well, we are going to get into it. 00:01:29.540 --> 00:01:32.099 But before we do that, start me off with something 00:01:32.099 --> 00:01:33.879 that's going well in your life, either professionally 00:01:33.879 --> 00:01:35.879 or personally, because we want to remind people 00:01:35.879 --> 00:01:39.239 that despite the high levels of suffering and 00:01:39.239 --> 00:01:41.340 uncertainty that are in this world, there's still 00:01:41.340 --> 00:01:45.079 good happening and we can be the cause in the 00:01:45.079 --> 00:01:48.700 matter of that good. Well, I'm going to talk 00:01:48.700 --> 00:01:50.200 about going through it and then I'm going to 00:01:50.200 --> 00:01:52.159 tell you the exciting stuff that's going on because, 00:01:52.219 --> 00:01:55.859 you know, I went through a dark night and when 00:01:55.859 --> 00:01:59.129 I Emerge from my dark night. I didn't emerge 00:01:59.129 --> 00:02:02.810 like visionary. I didn't emerge Rhonda Brittain, 00:02:02.810 --> 00:02:06.969 who had four books and three TV shows and on 00:02:06.969 --> 00:02:09.210 Oprah. I didn't emerge as that person. I emerged 00:02:09.210 --> 00:02:12.310 something else. I emerged as another more compassionate, 00:02:12.430 --> 00:02:14.889 more humane, more loving human being, hopefully. 00:02:15.210 --> 00:02:20.360 And I never got clear. It just kept on kind of 00:02:20.360 --> 00:02:22.680 like, you know, you see it. And I knew what my 00:02:22.680 --> 00:02:24.240 vision was. I knew what my mission was. It's 00:02:24.240 --> 00:02:27.280 always been the same. But I never felt the clarity 00:02:27.280 --> 00:02:31.219 that I had when I first began. And I want to 00:02:31.219 --> 00:02:33.460 say, I want everyone to hear me. This February, 00:02:33.659 --> 00:02:39.930 it hit me like a and I feel as clear today. as 00:02:39.930 --> 00:02:43.110 the day that the sky opened up and gave me my 00:02:43.110 --> 00:02:45.069 mission and told me what I'm supposed to do with 00:02:45.069 --> 00:02:47.129 my life. And I didn't believe it. And I didn't 00:02:47.129 --> 00:02:49.090 want to do it because who am I to do it? But 00:02:49.090 --> 00:02:51.909 I did it eventually. And that's how clear I feel 00:02:51.909 --> 00:02:56.710 now. So I am really excited. My vision is, you 00:02:56.710 --> 00:02:58.509 know, I'm always about fearless living. I'm always 00:02:58.509 --> 00:03:00.530 about living the life your soul intended. I'm 00:03:00.530 --> 00:03:01.909 always about there's nothing wrong with you. 00:03:01.930 --> 00:03:05.229 It's just feared. And right now I am turning 00:03:05.229 --> 00:03:09.539 65. Oh, it's true. It's true. It's true. It's 00:03:09.539 --> 00:03:14.020 true. It's true. And I have really emerged as 00:03:14.020 --> 00:03:18.539 I want to share every single thing I know because 00:03:18.539 --> 00:03:20.259 I don't want it to die within me, right? Like 00:03:20.259 --> 00:03:24.659 I'm not dying with this in me. And I have a Ivy 00:03:24.659 --> 00:03:27.159 League coaching program. I have trained coaches 00:03:27.159 --> 00:03:29.719 on how to master fear with their clients. And 00:03:29.719 --> 00:03:33.080 I am. in the verge of just creating a brand new 00:03:33.080 --> 00:03:35.300 podcast called The Coaching Code for coaches, 00:03:35.479 --> 00:03:38.139 therapists, leaders, anybody who wants to know 00:03:38.139 --> 00:03:40.000 everything in my brain that I've used for the 00:03:40.000 --> 00:03:42.300 last 30 years to coach people into transformation. 00:03:42.819 --> 00:03:45.300 I've just finished a fear book. So I've got a 00:03:45.300 --> 00:03:48.599 new fear book coming out soon with the workbook. 00:03:48.659 --> 00:03:49.900 And you're going to be able to find your wheel 00:03:49.900 --> 00:03:51.659 of fear and your wheel of freedom. So, I mean, 00:03:51.680 --> 00:03:55.300 I am literally on fire. There's like literally 00:03:55.300 --> 00:04:00.159 no moment I am not excited and clear. and so 00:04:00.159 --> 00:04:03.319 driven. And that hasn't been true because when 00:04:03.319 --> 00:04:06.439 you're in the going through it can feel like 00:04:06.439 --> 00:04:07.599 you're a little lost, can feel like a little 00:04:07.599 --> 00:04:09.460 foggy and feel, you know, feel a little like, 00:04:09.560 --> 00:04:13.340 and all I can say about that is just keep taking 00:04:13.340 --> 00:04:17.279 steps, right? Just keep taking steps and keep 00:04:17.279 --> 00:04:19.660 checking in on your needs and taking care of 00:04:19.660 --> 00:04:22.040 yourself because those two things are not mutually 00:04:22.040 --> 00:04:26.860 exclusive. Yeah. So much good stuff there. First 00:04:26.860 --> 00:04:31.819 off. Clarity, two of the best feeling emotions 00:04:31.819 --> 00:04:36.399 that come with clarity and relief, right? And 00:04:36.399 --> 00:04:41.959 frequently relief is a result of clarity. And 00:04:41.959 --> 00:04:44.399 confidence, you know, and confidence for me. 00:04:44.480 --> 00:04:47.459 I mean, it's just, you know, I know what I'm 00:04:47.459 --> 00:04:50.379 here to do. But, you know, just like everybody, 00:04:50.639 --> 00:04:53.000 there are times that we feel more connected to 00:04:53.000 --> 00:04:56.410 it than not. Right. Or we feel more alive with 00:04:56.410 --> 00:04:58.709 it or not. Right. There are times that we know 00:04:58.709 --> 00:05:00.290 we're going to do it. We know we're going to 00:05:00.290 --> 00:05:03.149 keep doing it, but we don't feel turned on alive, 00:05:03.310 --> 00:05:07.389 connected like we have in the past. And I have 00:05:07.389 --> 00:05:10.430 to say to you, it feels so good. And so I just 00:05:10.430 --> 00:05:12.490 want everybody who hears me right now that is 00:05:12.490 --> 00:05:15.269 going through it right now. It is going to come 00:05:15.269 --> 00:05:17.670 back and it is going to be better than you think. 00:05:17.990 --> 00:05:20.870 You just have to keep your head above water and 00:05:20.870 --> 00:05:24.350 keep. aiming for that thing that you know is 00:05:24.350 --> 00:05:26.250 yours to do, even in your doubt, even in your 00:05:26.250 --> 00:05:28.410 doubt, even in your doubt, you just got to keep 00:05:28.410 --> 00:05:32.029 aiming for it. I tell my students that, have 00:05:32.029 --> 00:05:34.250 you ever had one pure moment of inspiration, 00:05:34.490 --> 00:05:37.149 one pure moment of vision, right? One pure moment, 00:05:37.209 --> 00:05:41.319 last millisecond, right? Make that more real 00:05:41.319 --> 00:05:43.720 than anything else. Make that more real than 00:05:43.720 --> 00:05:45.279 your negative self -talk. Make that more real 00:05:45.279 --> 00:05:47.319 than your doubts. Make that more real than your 00:05:47.319 --> 00:05:49.040 hesitations. Make that more real than the cloud, 00:05:49.139 --> 00:05:51.480 the fog. Make it more real than anything. And 00:05:51.480 --> 00:05:53.420 just keep aiming for it, even if you can't see 00:05:53.420 --> 00:05:56.000 it, even if you can't feel it, even if you don't 00:05:56.000 --> 00:05:58.819 believe it. Just keep aiming for that. And you 00:05:58.819 --> 00:06:00.379 know what? It's going to come and greet you. 00:06:00.600 --> 00:06:02.480 And when it greets you, you're going to be clear 00:06:02.480 --> 00:06:07.839 again. I believe you. And if you're listening 00:06:07.839 --> 00:06:10.079 to this and you're like, dang, I want some of 00:06:10.079 --> 00:06:13.959 that feel good energy. You know, then, then first 00:06:13.959 --> 00:06:15.980 of all, you got to visit Rhonda at her website. 00:06:16.120 --> 00:06:18.439 What's the website domain name? Fearlessliving 00:06:18.439 --> 00:06:20.439 .org. And I'll give everyone who's listening 00:06:20.439 --> 00:06:23.839 one of my free courses, not one of my, one of 00:06:23.839 --> 00:06:26.540 my courses for free, fearlessliving .org forward 00:06:26.540 --> 00:06:29.139 slash risk, R -I -S -K, fearlessliving .org forward 00:06:29.139 --> 00:06:31.360 slash risk, R -I -S -K. And it's stretch risk 00:06:31.360 --> 00:06:33.459 and die class. And it's basically about how to. 00:06:34.170 --> 00:06:36.610 to eliminate procrastination from our life. And 00:06:36.610 --> 00:06:38.529 I'm going to, in the third, there's three 15 00:06:38.529 --> 00:06:40.329 minute videos. That's it. And in the third video, 00:06:40.389 --> 00:06:41.810 I actually talk all about the wheel of fear. 00:06:41.970 --> 00:06:44.329 So go over there. There's worksheets, workbook, 00:06:44.410 --> 00:06:46.810 there's templates, everything you need to start 00:06:46.810 --> 00:06:49.829 really moving forward. Cause that's what stretchers 00:06:49.829 --> 00:06:51.790 can die exercises. It's about moving forward 00:06:51.790 --> 00:06:54.829 and go and do that. Fearlessliving .org forward 00:06:54.829 --> 00:06:58.029 slash risk. Yeah. Get yourself some momentum. 00:06:58.680 --> 00:07:01.420 Go visit her, sign up for that. You know, momentum. 00:07:01.519 --> 00:07:03.819 I love this. And that's what you're helping people 00:07:03.819 --> 00:07:06.459 do is create momentum. And I love this idea of 00:07:06.459 --> 00:07:08.360 momentum. And, you know, my clients are like, 00:07:08.439 --> 00:07:10.779 well, yeah, but how do you create it? Well, you 00:07:10.779 --> 00:07:14.360 create it by ensuring your thinking is in alignment 00:07:14.360 --> 00:07:16.519 without, well, I mean, your thinking is in alignment 00:07:16.519 --> 00:07:19.199 with your desired outcome. And that's what Rhonda 00:07:19.199 --> 00:07:21.379 was just talking about, taking those steps, keeping 00:07:21.379 --> 00:07:24.459 that aim, right? You were keeping that desired 00:07:24.459 --> 00:07:28.000 outcome in front of you. Even if you don't feel 00:07:28.000 --> 00:07:30.279 it. Go get yourself some momentum. Exactly. Even 00:07:30.279 --> 00:07:32.379 if you don't feel it, right? Even if you feel 00:07:32.379 --> 00:07:34.220 like, oh, my God, I'm doing it really crappy. 00:07:34.519 --> 00:07:36.920 Oh, my God, I feel like I'm losing it. It doesn't 00:07:36.920 --> 00:07:41.839 matter. Just keep going that way. Yes, exactly. 00:07:42.060 --> 00:07:45.649 Thanks for saying that. Because a lot of people 00:07:45.649 --> 00:07:48.370 don't feel successful. And I think people confuse 00:07:48.370 --> 00:07:50.689 success with accomplishment. What you're talking 00:07:50.689 --> 00:07:55.230 about in my book is success. It's when you know 00:07:55.230 --> 00:07:57.110 who you are, you know your desired outcome, and 00:07:57.110 --> 00:08:00.050 you continue to take action in the direction 00:08:00.050 --> 00:08:02.810 of that desired outcome. If you're doing that, 00:08:02.910 --> 00:08:06.470 I want you to hear that you're successful. You 00:08:06.470 --> 00:08:09.050 may not have the desired accomplishment yet, 00:08:09.209 --> 00:08:15.019 right? Yeah. 100%. 100%. 100%. I love that you 00:08:15.019 --> 00:08:18.480 said that. It is 100%. It is, you know, when 00:08:18.480 --> 00:08:20.740 they say it's not the person who falls down, 00:08:20.779 --> 00:08:22.180 it's the person who gets up. You know, we've 00:08:22.180 --> 00:08:24.180 heard that cliche, right? But when you're in 00:08:24.180 --> 00:08:27.339 the middle of it, we don't remember about getting 00:08:27.339 --> 00:08:29.600 up. We don't remember because we're tired and 00:08:29.600 --> 00:08:32.179 we have needs and we're feeling, you know, sorry 00:08:32.179 --> 00:08:34.159 for ourselves and we're feeling resentful. And 00:08:34.159 --> 00:08:35.779 we're like, what the heck? I work really hard. 00:08:36.120 --> 00:08:38.120 How can this person over here be getting success 00:08:38.120 --> 00:08:39.820 when I've been... I mean, I've been doing this 00:08:39.820 --> 00:08:43.200 30 years. So, right. I started coaching 30 years 00:08:43.200 --> 00:08:46.159 ago. I was one of the first coaches. And so when 00:08:46.159 --> 00:08:48.240 I was going through my dark night and I'm, you 00:08:48.240 --> 00:08:50.000 know, I try not to look around. I try not to 00:08:50.000 --> 00:08:52.080 compare and compete, of course. Right. But when 00:08:52.080 --> 00:08:53.759 I did come up and look for air and there's all 00:08:53.759 --> 00:08:56.039 these people, it looked like they were speeding 00:08:56.039 --> 00:08:59.639 past me. And I kept going round to Britain, around 00:08:59.639 --> 00:09:03.360 to Britain. around Britain, there is no one that 00:09:03.360 --> 00:09:05.179 can replace you. And there's no one that can 00:09:05.179 --> 00:09:07.200 replace you, right? There's no one that can replace 00:09:07.200 --> 00:09:10.840 me. They may look more accomplished or successful 00:09:10.840 --> 00:09:14.840 or whatever you want to label it. But you, I 00:09:14.840 --> 00:09:17.059 agree with Fletcher so much that you just moving 00:09:17.059 --> 00:09:20.299 forward, you are ahead of the game and you are 00:09:20.299 --> 00:09:23.419 a success. Don't worry, it will come out to meet 00:09:23.419 --> 00:09:25.620 you. It will, your vision, your calling will 00:09:25.620 --> 00:09:28.639 come to meet you. You just literally have to 00:09:28.639 --> 00:09:31.340 keep walking. And again, remember, you don't 00:09:31.340 --> 00:09:32.960 have to believe it. You don't have to feel it. 00:09:33.000 --> 00:09:35.500 You don't have to, you don't, you don't have 00:09:35.500 --> 00:09:37.159 to do any of that. Don't worry about like, I'm 00:09:37.159 --> 00:09:39.759 not feeling it. Who cares? Just keep walking. 00:09:39.860 --> 00:09:41.840 I don't believe it. I don't care. Keep walking. 00:09:42.820 --> 00:09:45.059 Yes. Yes. Yeah. I mean, most of the time I don't 00:09:45.059 --> 00:09:47.080 feel like going to the gym, right? Most of the 00:09:47.080 --> 00:09:49.100 time I don't feel like getting out of bed, but 00:09:49.100 --> 00:09:53.039 come on. If we did everything just based entirely 00:09:53.039 --> 00:09:55.860 on our feelings, we would not be living. very 00:09:55.860 --> 00:09:58.740 fulfilling lives that's right so look if you're 00:09:58.740 --> 00:10:02.059 listening to this and and you're and you're identifying 00:10:02.059 --> 00:10:05.080 with it if you're like yeah i mean that is me 00:10:05.080 --> 00:10:07.779 like i'm not feeling it i'm feeling like throwing 00:10:07.779 --> 00:10:12.820 in the towel you gotta get in you gotta get in 00:10:12.820 --> 00:10:16.840 proximity to people like rhonda all right proximity 00:10:16.840 --> 00:10:20.990 is access to clarity proximity is access to power 00:10:20.990 --> 00:10:24.149 proximity is access to progress so if you're 00:10:24.149 --> 00:10:25.710 listening to this what i want you to know is 00:10:25.710 --> 00:10:29.789 you're in proximity to something great here all 00:10:29.789 --> 00:10:32.429 right just go to the website put in the email 00:10:32.429 --> 00:10:35.909 get the get the the content and start working 00:10:35.909 --> 00:10:39.190 it and get some inspiration that's right yeah 00:10:39.789 --> 00:10:41.970 That's right. That's right. So I love that you 00:10:41.970 --> 00:10:44.730 said that because it's, you know, we are all 00:10:44.730 --> 00:10:47.110 like you and I have energetic fields, right? 00:10:47.149 --> 00:10:50.289 And you and I, as we speak and as we sit and 00:10:50.289 --> 00:10:52.470 as we're quiet or as we're loud, as we're laughing, 00:10:52.549 --> 00:10:55.830 create an energetic field. And anybody who's 00:10:55.830 --> 00:10:58.629 listening to you and I right now are in absolutely 00:10:58.629 --> 00:11:01.330 our energetic field. And so everything that's 00:11:01.330 --> 00:11:02.970 true for me and everything that's true for you 00:11:02.970 --> 00:11:04.909 is true for them. They wouldn't be here otherwise. 00:11:05.710 --> 00:11:08.070 They are in our tribe. They are in our family. 00:11:08.149 --> 00:11:09.610 They are in our soul family. Otherwise, they 00:11:09.610 --> 00:11:12.389 would not be here. So what's true for me is true 00:11:12.389 --> 00:11:14.710 for anyone listening. What's true for you is 00:11:14.710 --> 00:11:18.009 true for them is true for me. So that's the thing. 00:11:18.049 --> 00:11:21.389 When you find your vibration, and again, I know 00:11:21.389 --> 00:11:23.889 that sounds woo -woo, and I'm much more practical 00:11:23.889 --> 00:11:25.330 than that, but I do like a little woo -woo once 00:11:25.330 --> 00:11:28.389 in a while. But when you're caught in that vibration, 00:11:28.549 --> 00:11:32.009 when you decide to be in that vibration, don't 00:11:32.009 --> 00:11:36.000 doubt your worth to be there. That's none of 00:11:36.000 --> 00:11:40.059 your business. If you are attracted to it, you 00:11:40.059 --> 00:11:43.419 belong there. And maybe, like I said just a minute 00:11:43.419 --> 00:11:45.600 ago, you're in Fletcher and I's tribe, right? 00:11:45.740 --> 00:11:48.840 We're in our soul family. And maybe we're here 00:11:48.840 --> 00:11:51.779 right now because we made an agreement to hold 00:11:51.779 --> 00:11:56.759 each other up. So allow us, let us hold you, 00:11:56.840 --> 00:12:00.879 let us hold you right now while you're finding 00:12:00.879 --> 00:12:04.720 your way. You know, I just got clarity in February. 00:12:05.179 --> 00:12:09.080 Okay. So, right. And I've been, I was walking 00:12:09.080 --> 00:12:11.620 in the dark. Right. And then when I got clarity, 00:12:11.659 --> 00:12:14.600 I was like, I could feel, I could breathe again, 00:12:14.659 --> 00:12:16.759 but I didn't stop walking when I couldn't see. 00:12:17.419 --> 00:12:20.679 Yeah. Thanks for saying all of that. This is, 00:12:20.700 --> 00:12:23.500 we need to be reminded of this so frequently, 00:12:23.620 --> 00:12:28.659 you know, because motivation. short -lived okay 00:12:28.659 --> 00:12:31.639 so we need this inspiration yeah and by the way 00:12:31.639 --> 00:12:33.700 that whole thing about vibration if it sounds 00:12:33.700 --> 00:12:36.960 gosh you know what smarter guys way smarter guys 00:12:36.960 --> 00:12:39.500 and and women than than than me have said this 00:12:39.500 --> 00:12:42.460 long ago nikola tesla he said hey look if you 00:12:42.460 --> 00:12:46.080 want to find out the deepest things about the 00:12:46.080 --> 00:12:48.240 universe that's right learn everything you can 00:12:48.240 --> 00:12:51.639 about vibration and frequency that's right that's 00:12:51.639 --> 00:12:54.490 right right So it's that, you know, one of the 00:12:54.490 --> 00:12:56.870 things that Fletcher runs on a particular frequency 00:12:56.870 --> 00:12:58.950 and a particular vibration, and so do I. And 00:12:58.950 --> 00:13:01.350 together we are here. So if you're listening, 00:13:01.570 --> 00:13:05.830 if you're watching, that means you also, somewhere 00:13:05.830 --> 00:13:09.070 inside you also vibrate at that vibration, right? 00:13:09.149 --> 00:13:11.529 You're all also at that frequency. So that's 00:13:11.529 --> 00:13:13.450 what to lean on. Again, you don't have to believe 00:13:13.450 --> 00:13:17.129 it. You don't have to even feel it. I really 00:13:17.129 --> 00:13:20.230 can't emphasize that enough. It's just decide 00:13:20.230 --> 00:13:22.389 to believe what Fletcher and I are saying. Just 00:13:22.389 --> 00:13:26.269 allow us to tell you what is true in this moment. 00:13:26.950 --> 00:13:30.210 Decide to believe it because why not? And we're 00:13:30.210 --> 00:13:32.049 not asking you to jump off a cliff, right? We're 00:13:32.049 --> 00:13:34.509 not asking you to do anything. We're just asking 00:13:34.509 --> 00:13:39.789 you to trust your own path, regardless of how 00:13:39.789 --> 00:13:41.690 you feel about it, whether you're worthy of it. 00:13:41.950 --> 00:13:44.129 Again, worthiness, forget about worthiness. Don't 00:13:44.129 --> 00:13:46.490 worry about that. Again, when somebody comes 00:13:46.490 --> 00:13:47.750 to me and says they have a worthy issue, I go, 00:13:47.769 --> 00:13:49.610 no, you don't. You have a fear issue. It is not 00:13:49.610 --> 00:13:52.269 a worthy issue. I feel imposter. No, you don't. 00:13:52.289 --> 00:13:55.169 It's a fear issue. I procrastinate. No, you don't. 00:13:55.190 --> 00:13:57.590 You're a fear issue, right? So everybody makes 00:13:57.590 --> 00:13:59.970 up all these things that they've heard other 00:13:59.970 --> 00:14:02.429 people say. And it's like, okay, that's all nice 00:14:02.429 --> 00:14:05.169 language, but it all comes down to fear. And 00:14:05.169 --> 00:14:07.470 how do you break fear? Well, get to know your 00:14:07.470 --> 00:14:08.529 Wheel of Fear and Wheel of Freedom, of course, 00:14:08.570 --> 00:14:10.539 which you're going to learn in that course. but 00:14:10.539 --> 00:14:13.259 more importantly just at the basic level is just 00:14:13.259 --> 00:14:16.779 to understand that just moving like like like 00:14:16.779 --> 00:14:19.960 like fletcher said just moving forward in the 00:14:19.960 --> 00:14:22.419 midst of confusion or in the midst of i don't 00:14:22.419 --> 00:14:26.480 know is success it is you it is you being fearless 00:14:26.480 --> 00:14:28.919 even if you're doing it crappy even if you're 00:14:28.919 --> 00:14:31.759 doing it stumbling even if you're doing it not 00:14:31.759 --> 00:14:34.039 very you know just not you you're like not living 00:14:34.039 --> 00:14:36.600 up to your quote unquote potential who cares 00:14:36.600 --> 00:14:39.840 trust me it'll come around Yeah. And I want to 00:14:39.840 --> 00:14:42.960 highlight something you just touched on because 00:14:42.960 --> 00:14:48.480 fear doesn't feel good. And we can't get rid 00:14:48.480 --> 00:14:51.000 of it. We can learn to navigate it. But what 00:14:51.000 --> 00:14:54.620 I also want our audience to hear is, look, fear, 00:14:54.759 --> 00:14:58.059 it has an important message. And for me, one 00:14:58.059 --> 00:14:59.840 of the most important messages that it's saying 00:14:59.840 --> 00:15:02.879 is this thing that you're feeling fearful right 00:15:02.879 --> 00:15:07.769 now about you don't have freedom. That's right. 00:15:07.850 --> 00:15:12.090 And so for me, I got to pay attention. I'm afraid 00:15:12.090 --> 00:15:16.710 of this. Whoa. I am lacking freedom in this area, 00:15:16.870 --> 00:15:19.950 specific area of my life or this moment. Is that 00:15:19.950 --> 00:15:21.929 accurate? That's right, Fletcher. You are singing 00:15:21.929 --> 00:15:25.230 my song. You are singing my song. So freedom, 00:15:25.350 --> 00:15:27.830 as I say, equals your capacity to live in the 00:15:27.830 --> 00:15:31.870 unknown. So you can only have freedom to your 00:15:31.870 --> 00:15:33.889 capacity and willingness to live in the unknown. 00:15:34.370 --> 00:15:37.830 I just got chills. I literally just got chills. 00:15:38.090 --> 00:15:40.250 Yes. I've been saying that for 30, I've been 00:15:40.250 --> 00:15:42.389 beating that drum for 30 years, right? Yeah, 00:15:42.389 --> 00:15:45.389 say it again. Freedom equals your capacity to 00:15:45.389 --> 00:15:48.269 live in the unknown by Rhonda Britton, right? 00:15:48.669 --> 00:15:52.549 So you, if you are afraid to take a step because 00:15:52.549 --> 00:15:54.450 you don't know, because you're not sure of the 00:15:54.450 --> 00:15:57.370 results, then you are not free. Just like Fletcher's 00:15:57.370 --> 00:15:59.230 saying, just exactly what you said, Fletcher. 00:15:59.509 --> 00:16:03.269 So your capacity to have freedom is your capacity 00:16:03.269 --> 00:16:05.330 to live in the unknown, to take action without. 00:16:05.690 --> 00:16:09.350 Any results guaranteed. And by the way, results 00:16:09.350 --> 00:16:13.370 guaranteed are for wimps, right? Literally, it's 00:16:13.370 --> 00:16:16.690 just for wimps, right? Because we, you and I, 00:16:16.769 --> 00:16:19.330 Fletcher and I, have a vibration of courage and 00:16:19.330 --> 00:16:22.629 risk -taking and bravery and fearlessness and 00:16:22.629 --> 00:16:27.649 self -love. So yes, it is scary. No doubt about 00:16:27.649 --> 00:16:31.830 it. Yet, hang out, like Fletcher said, hang out 00:16:31.830 --> 00:16:34.490 with us, hang out whoever you're vibrating with. 00:16:35.039 --> 00:16:38.340 who you trust and, you know, more than anything, 00:16:38.460 --> 00:16:40.200 who's going to call you forth, who's going to 00:16:40.200 --> 00:16:44.240 call, call you forth. You know, a lot of our 00:16:44.240 --> 00:16:46.899 friends and family, okay, sure. They're nice 00:16:46.899 --> 00:16:49.360 and comfortable to hang around with, but they're 00:16:49.360 --> 00:16:52.500 not going to call you forth. So I'm sure Fletcher 00:16:52.500 --> 00:16:54.600 does it every day right here on this podcast. 00:16:54.700 --> 00:16:57.500 I know I do it every day with my students, with 00:16:57.500 --> 00:16:59.340 my private clients and my workshops, et cetera. 00:16:59.870 --> 00:17:02.610 I call you forth. That is what I do. That is 00:17:02.610 --> 00:17:04.450 my soul call. Live the life your soul intended. 00:17:04.829 --> 00:17:08.130 So you got to hang with people who are going 00:17:08.130 --> 00:17:11.529 to call you forth. And when they call you forth, 00:17:11.630 --> 00:17:15.869 hopefully you'll feel in that moment of being 00:17:15.869 --> 00:17:19.849 called, you'll feel our arms around you, that 00:17:19.849 --> 00:17:22.410 you're not alone. I mean, that's my intention 00:17:22.410 --> 00:17:24.970 is that you're not alone. You're not, we're not 00:17:24.970 --> 00:17:27.960 saying, hey. go do it and see you later. No, 00:17:28.019 --> 00:17:32.319 we're saying, yes. Right. Yeah. Yeah. But you, 00:17:32.400 --> 00:17:34.539 cause we all need support. No, no one's getting 00:17:34.539 --> 00:17:36.279 out of here. It's perfection or connection. You 00:17:36.279 --> 00:17:38.680 can't have both. And we got to have connections. 00:17:38.700 --> 00:17:40.559 No one can get their needs met without the help 00:17:40.559 --> 00:17:43.940 of others. So, and if you want to grow, you got 00:17:43.940 --> 00:17:45.660 a lot of needs. And so you need other people, 00:17:45.720 --> 00:17:48.920 right? Yeah. Oh boy. We got it. We got to pause 00:17:48.920 --> 00:17:51.700 just for a second. Cause I really want to hammer 00:17:51.700 --> 00:17:55.599 this concept of calling you forth. This is. To 00:17:55.599 --> 00:17:59.779 me, this is such beautiful and loving language. 00:18:00.440 --> 00:18:06.339 Rhonda, one of my favorite experiences is when 00:18:06.339 --> 00:18:10.339 people have the courage, are willing to call 00:18:10.339 --> 00:18:13.839 me forth. Yes. When they see what I'm capable 00:18:13.839 --> 00:18:16.579 of, when they see me playing small, when they 00:18:16.579 --> 00:18:20.059 see me hiding in fear, and they're like, not 00:18:20.059 --> 00:18:23.319 going to let you do it, Fletcher. I see you. 00:18:23.380 --> 00:18:27.359 You're bigger than that. I mean, they won't let 00:18:27.359 --> 00:18:30.480 me play that small of a game. They won't let 00:18:30.480 --> 00:18:32.500 you compromise your soul. They won't let you 00:18:32.500 --> 00:18:35.819 compromise your soul. Yes, exactly. So what Rhonda 00:18:35.819 --> 00:18:38.160 is saying is like, look, you've got it in you. 00:18:38.240 --> 00:18:40.319 You've got this desire. You've got this passion. 00:18:40.559 --> 00:18:44.799 You've got this desired outcome. Come out and 00:18:44.799 --> 00:18:49.799 embrace it and play full out. It's time. And 00:18:49.799 --> 00:18:54.910 get around people like her. People who have your 00:18:54.910 --> 00:18:57.630 best interest, who see that and who are willing 00:18:57.630 --> 00:19:00.750 to support you through that journey. And you 00:19:00.750 --> 00:19:04.089 can come by the way, you moving forth, calling, 00:19:04.150 --> 00:19:07.109 being called forth. You like, like Fletcher saying, 00:19:07.329 --> 00:19:09.390 you know, just start taking action, hang out. 00:19:09.670 --> 00:19:11.730 It might be you're lying on the couch taking 00:19:11.730 --> 00:19:13.450 action, or it might be that you're crawling. 00:19:13.869 --> 00:19:16.690 Okay. Yes. So you don't have to come up and be 00:19:16.690 --> 00:19:20.150 like, I am super woman and man. No. When I was 00:19:20.150 --> 00:19:23.349 coming through my dark night, I. I was like crawling 00:19:23.349 --> 00:19:25.289 through glass. That's how it felt. I felt like 00:19:25.289 --> 00:19:27.930 I was crawling through glass, but I was crawling. 00:19:28.569 --> 00:19:33.309 Okay. And even sometimes I'd take a break. Matter, 00:19:33.450 --> 00:19:35.430 self -love, you know, just like, just breathe 00:19:35.430 --> 00:19:37.369 it in, Rhonda, breathe it in. And then I would 00:19:37.369 --> 00:19:40.710 start again. So it's not about stopping and starting. 00:19:40.750 --> 00:19:42.890 Stopping and starting is maybe where you are 00:19:42.890 --> 00:19:44.650 on your journey. You might be in the part of 00:19:44.650 --> 00:19:47.430 your journey where you must rest. But even that 00:19:47.430 --> 00:19:50.329 rest, if you're needing rest, I promise you, 00:19:50.349 --> 00:19:53.119 you're not used to resting. So that is a courageous 00:19:53.119 --> 00:19:56.200 act. So I know during my dark night, I went to 00:19:56.200 --> 00:19:58.400 a doctor and he said, oh, you're about to get 00:19:58.400 --> 00:20:00.039 in the hospital if you don't, you know, like 00:20:00.039 --> 00:20:01.799 lay down for six months. And I'm like, what? 00:20:01.960 --> 00:20:04.460 Lay down for six months? I speak 70 % of the 00:20:04.460 --> 00:20:06.720 time. He's like, you got to lay down for six 00:20:06.720 --> 00:20:09.319 months. And he actually, I was actually out of 00:20:09.319 --> 00:20:11.960 town near my, staying at my sister's. And he 00:20:11.960 --> 00:20:13.240 said, you've got to stay at your sister's for 00:20:13.240 --> 00:20:15.819 six months. And I went, what? So I literally 00:20:15.819 --> 00:20:18.500 went to my sister and go. this doctor that I 00:20:18.500 --> 00:20:21.000 just saw near your house and she lives in like 00:20:21.000 --> 00:20:24.359 near CDC. I live in LA and I ended up staying 00:20:24.359 --> 00:20:26.640 in DC for six months to work with this particular 00:20:26.640 --> 00:20:34.839 doctor. And I, my job, my job was resting, eating 00:20:34.839 --> 00:20:39.559 food that was really good for me, laughing, slow 00:20:39.559 --> 00:20:41.960 walks. He didn't want me working out, running 00:20:41.960 --> 00:20:45.609 any of that. And that was. calling me forth. 00:20:45.670 --> 00:20:48.890 That was the risk for me. That was the stretch 00:20:48.890 --> 00:20:50.930 for me. So when Fletcher and I are sitting here 00:20:50.930 --> 00:20:53.809 talking about calling you forth, it's not about 00:20:53.809 --> 00:20:56.309 like, come on, get going. Boom. Now for some 00:20:56.309 --> 00:20:58.190 of you, it is, but for some of you, it's like, 00:20:58.250 --> 00:21:00.529 okay, you know what? Just give yourself, if you 00:21:00.529 --> 00:21:02.809 have been through it, go ahead and take a nap 00:21:02.809 --> 00:21:04.529 right now. Just go ahead and do that. Because 00:21:04.529 --> 00:21:06.210 I promise you, when you nurture yourself and 00:21:06.210 --> 00:21:08.589 love yourself, you are going to wake up and you're 00:21:08.589 --> 00:21:11.630 going to feel more willing and energized and 00:21:11.630 --> 00:21:15.799 ready. So don't. fight yourself don't fight your 00:21:15.799 --> 00:21:18.839 energy field you know your energy needs to be 00:21:18.839 --> 00:21:21.359 uh cared for your energy you know we only have 00:21:21.359 --> 00:21:23.039 so much energy a day people we only have so much 00:21:23.039 --> 00:21:25.940 energy a day and you know you gotta maintain 00:21:25.940 --> 00:21:29.099 that energy and if you deplete it and like i 00:21:29.099 --> 00:21:32.200 did like my god the doctor said you are and i 00:21:32.200 --> 00:21:36.059 and i didn't feel literally i felt fine and the 00:21:36.059 --> 00:21:38.579 only reason i believed him besides my medic my 00:21:38.579 --> 00:21:41.079 blood work is I also went to another, a really 00:21:41.079 --> 00:21:43.640 good friend of mine who is an acupuncturist and 00:21:43.640 --> 00:21:45.539 a car, you know, saw this and everything. And 00:21:45.539 --> 00:21:48.420 she lived, she moved to DC. So I'd seen her the 00:21:48.420 --> 00:21:51.220 week before. And she said exactly what he said. 00:21:51.299 --> 00:21:52.900 He's like, I don't know how you're standing. 00:21:53.059 --> 00:21:54.740 You you're, you're on the verge of collapse. 00:21:54.920 --> 00:21:58.240 I'm like, what, what are you talking about? And 00:21:58.240 --> 00:22:00.480 then I go to him the next week. He's like, I 00:22:00.480 --> 00:22:02.140 don't know how you're standing. I'm like, what 00:22:02.140 --> 00:22:06.819 are you talking about? Right. So my risk was 00:22:06.819 --> 00:22:12.079 resting. Yes. Yeah. Self -care, right? Self -care. 00:22:12.720 --> 00:22:16.420 Yeah. That's a revolutionary idea for many of 00:22:16.420 --> 00:22:18.339 us, especially because we've been trained to 00:22:18.339 --> 00:22:20.980 be the Energizer bunny. That's right. And we 00:22:20.980 --> 00:22:23.420 think success is based on how much action we 00:22:23.420 --> 00:22:26.819 take. Yeah. And, you know, when I was resting, 00:22:27.019 --> 00:22:29.059 what I was doing, if you think about it this 00:22:29.059 --> 00:22:32.160 way, I was resting. It was like, imagine, you 00:22:32.160 --> 00:22:34.559 know, imagine I'm, you know, I'm trying to I'm 00:22:34.559 --> 00:22:37.700 thinking of Wicked, the movie Wicked. And, you 00:22:37.700 --> 00:22:39.460 know, it's like, you know, they're calling forth. 00:22:39.539 --> 00:22:41.519 Right. Like she's just standing there and calling 00:22:41.519 --> 00:22:44.279 forth her energy. Right. When I'm laying in bed 00:22:44.279 --> 00:22:46.380 at my sister's house and resting and being around 00:22:46.380 --> 00:22:49.039 my nieces and nephews and laughing and petting 00:22:49.039 --> 00:22:52.140 their dog and, you know, taking slow walks and 00:22:52.140 --> 00:22:56.190 doing nothing. And and journaling and such. I 00:22:56.190 --> 00:22:59.890 was gathering my energy back. Right. I had splintered 00:22:59.890 --> 00:23:02.009 my energy all over and it wasn't available to 00:23:02.009 --> 00:23:04.609 me. So as I did that, I was gathering it back. 00:23:04.950 --> 00:23:08.490 So then when I had that energy back, I did feel 00:23:08.490 --> 00:23:11.690 ready. It was about the six month mark. My my 00:23:11.690 --> 00:23:13.970 blood test came back and they were he goes, I've 00:23:13.970 --> 00:23:15.950 never seen anybody. He literally was like shocked 00:23:15.950 --> 00:23:19.190 that I had improved so quickly. But the reason 00:23:19.190 --> 00:23:20.589 I improved so quickly is I did what he said. 00:23:21.410 --> 00:23:26.430 Yeah. I didn't have to do it. I did it. Then 00:23:26.430 --> 00:23:32.470 I was able to recoup. Nice. That's another topic 00:23:32.470 --> 00:23:36.230 for another time. Are you willing to commit? 00:23:36.430 --> 00:23:38.089 Are you willing to commit to yourself? Are you 00:23:38.089 --> 00:23:42.509 willing to commit to your self -care? What's 00:23:42.509 --> 00:23:48.190 possible when we do that? Again, I want to check 00:23:48.190 --> 00:23:50.670 in with you, our listeners. Is this resonating? 00:23:51.230 --> 00:23:54.730 Are you identifying with any of this? You know, 00:23:54.750 --> 00:23:59.089 soak it in. This is good news. This is a conversation 00:23:59.089 --> 00:24:04.769 for you. We're not just talking right now just 00:24:04.769 --> 00:24:07.970 to make each other feel good. We're here literally 00:24:07.970 --> 00:24:14.369 for you. So I encourage you to contemplate this 00:24:14.369 --> 00:24:17.890 and then take action. All right. Go to our website 00:24:17.890 --> 00:24:21.829 and take a look. Read some testimonials. See 00:24:21.829 --> 00:24:23.509 what other people have said. Those testimonials 00:24:23.509 --> 00:24:27.250 are real. Like she said, she's been doing this 00:24:27.250 --> 00:24:32.390 for 30 years, way before coaching was this popular 00:24:32.390 --> 00:24:36.589 thing. I was probably one of the first five coaches 00:24:36.589 --> 00:24:39.869 in the world. Yeah. So she's got some experience. 00:24:39.990 --> 00:24:44.369 She's got some know. Rhonda, this has been really 00:24:44.369 --> 00:24:48.829 inspirational for me. Personally, I'm so glad 00:24:48.829 --> 00:24:51.410 we had this time together. We're going to wrap 00:24:51.410 --> 00:24:55.349 up here, but again, tell people where to find 00:24:55.349 --> 00:24:58.730 you and what are some parting words? Fearlessliving 00:24:58.730 --> 00:25:01.630 .org forward slash risk, R -I -S -K. Go get that 00:25:01.630 --> 00:25:03.029 stretchers can die course because I'm going to 00:25:03.029 --> 00:25:04.710 tell you right now, you're going to feel so much 00:25:04.710 --> 00:25:07.509 better because if you're hesitating, if you quote 00:25:07.509 --> 00:25:09.450 unquote, call yourself a procrastinator, if you're 00:25:09.450 --> 00:25:11.809 like, why don't I have momentum? This will explain 00:25:11.809 --> 00:25:14.349 it. So please, three 15 minute videos in one 00:25:14.349 --> 00:25:16.599 hour, less than an hour. you can feel better. 00:25:16.700 --> 00:25:20.039 So just go do that. So, and the other thing that 00:25:20.039 --> 00:25:21.980 I want everyone to hear is if you could just 00:25:21.980 --> 00:25:23.579 take a minute right now, and if you're in a safe 00:25:23.579 --> 00:25:25.039 place to shut your eyes, if you're driving, please 00:25:25.039 --> 00:25:27.319 don't. But if you are in a safe place to shut 00:25:27.319 --> 00:25:28.359 your eyes, go ahead and just shut your eyes for 00:25:28.359 --> 00:25:30.400 a minute and do that corny thing. Put your hand 00:25:30.400 --> 00:25:32.240 on your heart if you're willing and able to do 00:25:32.240 --> 00:25:34.220 that. If that's not too corny for you, go ahead 00:25:34.220 --> 00:25:36.680 and do that. And just listen to the words I'm 00:25:36.680 --> 00:25:38.559 about to say to you. Just take them in. Let them 00:25:38.559 --> 00:25:42.519 just seep into yourselves. There is nothing wrong 00:25:42.519 --> 00:25:46.569 with you. It is just fear. There is nothing wrong 00:25:46.569 --> 00:25:49.849 with you. It is just fear. There is nothing wrong 00:25:49.849 --> 00:25:52.650 with you. It's just fear. Let that soak into 00:25:52.650 --> 00:25:55.190 your cells. Let that just, you know, just push 00:25:55.190 --> 00:25:59.569 the shame away. Just let it brush over you. Let 00:25:59.569 --> 00:26:02.069 it brush over you and decide to believe it. Whether 00:26:02.069 --> 00:26:03.710 you believe it or not, decide to believe it. 00:26:03.809 --> 00:26:05.589 There's nothing wrong with you. It's just fear. 00:26:06.410 --> 00:26:12.269 And just take a breath in. Breathe that in. What 00:26:12.269 --> 00:26:15.920 if that's true? And breathe out anything that 00:26:15.920 --> 00:26:20.259 doesn't believe it. And say, and I'm willing 00:26:20.259 --> 00:26:25.279 to believe. And so it is. I'm willing to believe. 00:26:27.279 --> 00:26:32.599 Excellent. Me too. Right on. Right on. All right. 00:26:32.660 --> 00:26:35.400 Our guest today has been Rhonda Britton. She's 00:26:35.400 --> 00:26:37.119 the founder of Fearless Living. You can visit 00:26:37.119 --> 00:26:39.660 her at fearlessliving .org. And now it's time 00:26:39.660 --> 00:26:42.799 for you all to get out there. Be a source of 00:26:42.799 --> 00:26:45.710 kindness. Be a source of contribution. You do 00:26:45.710 --> 00:26:48.730 have something to offer this world. And I believe 00:26:48.730 --> 00:26:50.970 in you. Thank you for being here today. I'm really 00:26:50.970 --> 00:26:52.950 happy that you tuned in to Vision Pros Live. 00:26:53.150 --> 00:26:55.549 I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions 00:26:55.549 --> 00:26:58.190 as these episodes continue to move forward. This 00:26:58.190 --> 00:27:00.089 is going to get more and more fun. We'll have 00:27:00.089 --> 00:27:01.910 more and more engagement as well. We'll invite 00:27:01.910 --> 00:27:04.309 people to participate in the show. And thank 00:27:04.309 --> 00:27:06.269 you for giving us your time and attention. Have 00:27:06.269 --> 00:27:08.930 an excellent time building out your vision and 00:27:08.930 --> 00:27:10.049 becoming a vision pro yourself.