Welcome back to Vision Pros Live. This is going
to be a great session. I have Lila Tutton online.
She's calling in from Petaluma, California, and
we're going to hear all about her vision. Lila,
welcome to the show. Would you please introduce
yourself a little bit? Yeah. Hi. I am Lila Tutton.
My business is called Lila Grace Coaching and
Consulting. And I work one -on -one with entrepreneurs
and executives in my coaching practice. And the
work I do revolves around the narratives we inherit
through social conditioning and familial conditioning,
the self -limiting beliefs that turn into these
stories that are on record loop in our heads.
I work with people in liberating them from those
narratives. And when we clear those blocks, people
are able to really achieve the goals they have
in front of them. Most of the work I do is in
leadership coaching. And essentially, I think
every single person is a leader. It's not just
leaders who have that executive title, right?
If you're an entrepreneur, you're a leader because
you own your business and you have to take the
lead and make decisions, right? You're a leader
if you are a parent and you're in a family dynamic.
You're a leader in your community in many ways.
Leadership takes on lots of different flavors
and forms. So that's the work I do one -on -one.
And then I also do consulting and team facilitation
for businesses. So I'll be brought into corporations,
nonprofits, and I work with teams when they have
HR challenges or if they have big goals they're
trying to accomplish, I walk them through something
very similar to what I just described. oh that's
amazing that's fantastic well let's let's walk
a little deeper we're going to go into this like
tell me a little bit more about the your vision
for the people that you're serving yeah the vision
for the people i'm serving is i see that we are
at a big inflection point in our world in our
society right and um that inflection point is
one i think that what's absolutely necessary
for us to evolve really as humans as like all
of humanity is to step fully into our leadership
right so that means overcoming fear it means
making bold bold decisions in your life and staying
consistent with your behaviors and habits so
that that bold action is transformed into into
your routine The bold action becomes your lived
everyday life, right? So if you look at people
who are, you know, I kind of, the way I describe
it, which I'm borrowing this from the conscious
leadership group, but they talk about like being
above the line or below the line. You're above
the line. You're operating from love, from courage,
from confidence, from, you know, inner security,
a regulated nervous system. If you operate from
below the line, it's from fear, it's anxiety,
it's stress, it's control, right? And so looking
at our world, you can see how many people are
behaving and operating from below the line. Oh,
for sure. So the work we do is to bring people,
I bring people above the line and I help them
make decisions from that place. The vision I
have is for everybody to be able to operate from
that place. Oh, that's beautiful. I think it
sounds like something the world desperately needs.
Tell me a little bit more about how you work
with them to, you know, bring them. I love that
visual. Like I can totally see this. Tell me
a little bit more about how that happens shifting.
Yeah. So the way it happens is actually. It's
multifaceted. It's, you know, I shared with you,
it's the stories we tell. And so it's literally
rewriting those stories and practicing them again
and again. It's a muscle you need to exercise.
So, you know, most of the time people look in
the mirror and the first thing that they think
in their minds is negative. I'm too old. I'm
too fat. I don't like this wrinkle, you know,
whatever. Right. And that that takes up mental
energy and space. Right. And you don't realize
like people are doing this all the time. That
same working metaphor of looking in the mirror
and saying something negative to yourself within
you're doing it. You know, there's something
that you've been taught from your family about
what you're supposed to do in terms of like how
to be kind or how to please people. Right. And
if you're not pleasing somebody and you feel
that they might be disappointed in you, then
you might beat yourself up and have a narrative
about that. Like the list goes on and on. Right.
So I'm really helping people dismantle those
stories. We're getting incredibly precise and
discerning in clarifying what are the stories
that are being played in your mind over and over
again. The other thing that we do is work on
your nervous system staying regulated, right?
So if you want to take a risk, let's say it's
leaving your job to build something on your own,
right? Or it's... Asking for a promotion if you
are working within an organization. Or let's
say it's taking a risk and moving to a new place
you've been really feeling drawn to, even though
everyone in your family is telling you not to
do it, right? Or everyone in your community thinks
it's a bad idea. You can't take a risk if your
nervous system is dysregulated and you feel unsafe.
Like, it's very difficult to do that. it's learning
how to get regulated it's learning how to self
-soothe and then be able to take that risk from
that place where it'll be much more sustainable
that's incredible if people don't have like a
way to self -soothe to um you know to regulate
their nervous system what do they turn like what
substitutes do they end up you know if they're
still going to take the risk but now this unregulated
nervous system what does that end up looking
like I mean, I think we see it all over the world
right now. Like, I think that it looks like,
you know, being aggressive and confrontational
because when you, there's, there are like different
zones, right? You can be in your comfort zone,
you can be in your stretch zone, and you can
be in your panic zone. And your stretch zone
is where you want to be because your comfort
zone is where you can get complacent, right?
So you don't want to be there all the time. Your
stretch zone is when you're taking healthy risks.
You need to feel regulated enough to do that.
Your panic zone is when you're taking risks and
you're not regulated, right? So you're feeling
that fight or flight. You're in freeze. You can
be also in fawn, which is the people pleasing.
And those, we can see it all over the world.
Like you can see people every day when you go
to the grocery store, right? And you see somebody
who gets really upset because the line is so
long. And all of a sudden they're frustrated
and you're watching them, you know, like pulling
at their shirt or getting their phone out or
like huffing, making noises, maybe making a comment
under their breath. That is that is below the
line. We see it in the news. We see it in political
situations. We see it in cultural situations.
We see I mean, it's just, you know, it's really
quite rampant, actually. Right. And so, you know,
I'm giving the example of the grocery store and
that might not be a risk that somebody's taking.
That's just an everyday experience. But in terms
of risks, if somebody were to make a big move
in their lives from that place, they end up,
they might trudge ahead and still do it. But
something deep down is still misaligned and not
feeling good. Right. And again, it'll show up
in the grocery store. It'll show up in conversation
with someone. It's like. You might just get bits
and pieces of it, but that means something deep
down is misaligned. Yeah. Yeah. We leak, right?
We're constantly leaking what's going on in our
brains. Yes. Very well put. Yes. Amazing. That's
so fascinating. Let's turn this now to what's
your vision for your business? How do you want
this to go in the long term, I guess? Yeah. What's
my vision for my business? My vision is that
I would eventually like to write a book about
the very things we're talking about. And I also
see a world where I love the people I'm working
with, and I definitely want to continue that.
I get very excited about working with leaders
from different... industries and in in just like
more unique situations that's my that's what
really lights me up so you know what i imagine
three to five to ten years from now i'm working
with people who are just on the cutting edge
of um advancement and change right like i love
working with people who are thinking about the
environment or working with people who You know,
I have a client who is doing like deep tech work,
working with sort of like in the world of Elon
Musk and doing work with space AI and things
like that. And I just find that so fascinating.
So the vision for my business and my practice
is that I'm working with people and, you know,
it's just consistently advancing because my aim
is that I'm working with those people who are
at the cutting edge of change and risk. And I'm
helping them continue to stay regulated or cultivate
that regulation. So they are the leaders who
are changing our world from that place of equanimity.
And then writing a book about that, you know,
I'd love to do a TEDx talk someday about that.
Like that's a little bit more visibility in a
public way so that I can get this message out
to the world. Oh, that's incredible. And I can
see we're working with this type of leader. the
ripple effect the leverage you know your impact
through them you know people may never know your
name but if you're working with people of that
caliber and that pro you know high profile exactly
that's really really cool that's i like yeah
that's it and i i don't i have no interest in
being famous or being a celebrity that's like
absolutely not my path but i i really love working
with people who do have a lot of visibility and
i feel I feel like I'm here on this planet to
sort of be their secret muse. So that's my zone
of genius is being able to support someone and
light them up so that they can be highly visible.
And, you know, and then my message is visible.
Like, I care very much about that, that the message
that I'm a part of, which is not just mine, it's,
you know, I'm pulling from lots of different
influences. And this is something lots of people
are talking about, but I want to do what I can
to contribute to it. oh i think that's beautiful
what a fantastic contribution to you know humanity
basically because when you're working with those
people you know even the people that you're working
with now have impact on a lot of people and as
that continues to multiply that's yeah i love
that that is really cool thank you for sharing
that that's really really neat thank you Thank
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