WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:01.840 Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode 00:00:01.840 --> 00:00:03.680 of Vision Pros Live. I'm your host and coach, 00:00:03.799 --> 00:00:07.000 Fletcher Ellingson. Today on the show, excited 00:00:07.000 --> 00:00:10.800 to talk with Mr. Mark Kohler. He is a speaker 00:00:10.800 --> 00:00:14.740 and an author of Lead with Purpose. We're talking 00:00:14.740 --> 00:00:17.019 about leadership today. Good morning and welcome 00:00:17.019 --> 00:00:19.280 to the show, Mark. Yeah, thanks for having me, 00:00:19.339 --> 00:00:22.839 Fletcher. My pleasure. You mentioned before we 00:00:22.839 --> 00:00:24.620 started recording that this is one of your favorite 00:00:24.620 --> 00:00:28.910 topics. It's also one of mine. We need... solid 00:00:28.910 --> 00:00:31.850 leaders in our world. We need solid leaders in 00:00:31.850 --> 00:00:34.369 our lives. We need solid leaders in our marriage, 00:00:34.429 --> 00:00:37.130 in our parenting, in our schools. We need solid 00:00:37.130 --> 00:00:39.250 leaders. So looking forward to this conversation. 00:00:39.490 --> 00:00:42.390 But before we get to that, I always start off 00:00:42.390 --> 00:00:44.770 with this question, because I want to remind 00:00:44.770 --> 00:00:48.829 people that despite all the uncertainty and suffering 00:00:48.829 --> 00:00:51.229 in the world, there is still good happening. 00:00:52.090 --> 00:00:57.149 Wherever you want to look for bad, you're going 00:00:57.149 --> 00:00:59.380 to find bad. Wherever you want to look for good, 00:00:59.560 --> 00:01:02.079 you're going to find good. So, Mark, what's something 00:01:02.079 --> 00:01:05.140 that's going well in your life, either professionally 00:01:05.140 --> 00:01:09.540 or personally? Oh, so I've been married for 30 00:01:09.540 --> 00:01:14.950 years on September 11th, so in six days. So, 00:01:14.950 --> 00:01:17.209 you know, really excited about that and the relationship 00:01:17.209 --> 00:01:19.670 I have with my wife. Very, very strong. We've 00:01:19.670 --> 00:01:22.989 raised three strong women, 28, 26, and 24. They 00:01:22.989 --> 00:01:25.250 are crushing it in the world. They have their 00:01:25.250 --> 00:01:27.870 own challenges. So that's, you know, that's obviously 00:01:27.870 --> 00:01:32.180 a huge win. On the business side, a huge win 00:01:32.180 --> 00:01:38.200 is delving into speaking leadership from a keynote 00:01:38.200 --> 00:01:41.879 stage. And I'm able to have a much bigger impact. 00:01:42.219 --> 00:01:44.819 My experience was I was a U .S. nuclear submarine 00:01:44.819 --> 00:01:47.420 officer. I then became an interim turnaround 00:01:47.420 --> 00:01:49.840 CEO, and I created a powerful leadership framework 00:01:49.840 --> 00:01:52.019 based on the million dollars the Navy invested 00:01:52.019 --> 00:01:55.420 in me. leading, you know, average age of the 00:01:55.420 --> 00:01:57.840 crew, 23 years old on missions critical to national 00:01:57.840 --> 00:01:59.780 security, 10 months of the year underneath the 00:01:59.780 --> 00:02:02.760 surface of the ocean, a disruptive environment. 00:02:03.159 --> 00:02:05.900 And so bringing those skills and tools and teaching 00:02:05.900 --> 00:02:09.120 them to people and businesses has just been, 00:02:09.120 --> 00:02:11.960 you know, it's always, you know, fantastic, especially 00:02:11.960 --> 00:02:15.240 Gen Y and Gen Z who are trying to figure out, 00:02:15.280 --> 00:02:17.620 hey, how do I become successful in this world? 00:02:17.639 --> 00:02:21.840 So I think that's the, you know. biggest success 00:02:21.840 --> 00:02:24.900 that I've seen is just impacting more people's 00:02:24.900 --> 00:02:27.900 lives because the tools that I teach are um easy 00:02:27.900 --> 00:02:30.300 to implement and they're also learnable and shareable 00:02:30.300 --> 00:02:32.539 so the impact and ripple that that has in an 00:02:32.539 --> 00:02:35.680 organization is uh is very very satisfying that's 00:02:35.680 --> 00:02:38.219 a huge one right on right on i love hearing that 00:02:38.219 --> 00:02:41.819 um yeah and so uh your children your marriage 00:02:41.819 --> 00:02:44.800 is going well your 30 -year marriage uh you have 00:02:44.800 --> 00:02:47.860 three daughters who are out there um thriving 00:02:47.860 --> 00:02:51.599 and i know uh also because i'm a father of five 00:02:51.599 --> 00:02:55.180 kids it's It's wonderful to see your children 00:02:55.180 --> 00:02:59.960 thrive and deal and navigate challenges powerfully 00:02:59.960 --> 00:03:04.599 and learn from them. And then, yeah, then it 00:03:04.599 --> 00:03:08.560 sounds like you have an incredibly unique background, 00:03:08.560 --> 00:03:16.319 which positions you uniquely for keynoting. Yeah, 00:03:16.340 --> 00:03:18.960 I can't even imagine some of the experiences 00:03:18.960 --> 00:03:21.780 that you must have had under, you know, high 00:03:21.780 --> 00:03:25.639 stakes, high pressure, really. And then and then 00:03:25.639 --> 00:03:30.120 leading these these young people. Wow. What an 00:03:30.120 --> 00:03:34.020 opportunity and what a rich experience you probably 00:03:34.020 --> 00:03:37.500 bring to your audiences. Yeah, no, it's fantastic. 00:03:37.780 --> 00:03:40.020 I mean, it was my first job out of college going 00:03:40.020 --> 00:03:42.469 in the submarine force. And it was the hardest 00:03:42.469 --> 00:03:44.650 job in the world. It was the strongest culture 00:03:44.650 --> 00:03:46.370 I've ever been a part of. It's the most high 00:03:46.370 --> 00:03:49.469 performance team. And again, the stakes weren't, 00:03:49.469 --> 00:03:51.729 am I going to lose a client or is my business 00:03:51.729 --> 00:03:53.270 going to shut down? These were life and death 00:03:53.270 --> 00:03:55.629 decisions. And I was just, I mean, I was 23 years 00:03:55.629 --> 00:03:57.270 old when I was doing this. So I was just like, 00:03:57.310 --> 00:03:59.669 ah, everyone's doing this. And I look back on 00:03:59.669 --> 00:04:02.490 it and it had such a foundational aspect on me. 00:04:02.530 --> 00:04:04.750 And then again, I just love serving and giving 00:04:04.750 --> 00:04:07.539 back. And if I can share these skills and tools 00:04:07.539 --> 00:04:09.800 and I can accelerate someone else's leadership 00:04:09.800 --> 00:04:13.139 journey, because here's a strong belief that 00:04:13.139 --> 00:04:14.659 I have, because I get asked this question all 00:04:14.659 --> 00:04:17.279 the time about leadership. Yeah. Is leadership 00:04:17.279 --> 00:04:19.800 something that a few people are born with or 00:04:19.800 --> 00:04:22.480 is it something that we learn? And my answer 00:04:22.480 --> 00:04:24.879 is it's yes to both of those, but with one caveat. 00:04:25.860 --> 00:04:27.740 Because I don't believe a few people are born 00:04:27.740 --> 00:04:30.420 with leadership. I believe each and every single 00:04:30.420 --> 00:04:32.779 one of us is born with a leadership toolkit inside. 00:04:33.449 --> 00:04:35.629 And it turns out what my experience has been 00:04:35.629 --> 00:04:38.170 is that it's not what we don't have. It's what 00:04:38.170 --> 00:04:41.949 we don't use. And over the past 35 years, being 00:04:41.949 --> 00:04:44.529 on elite level teams, helping to develop other 00:04:44.529 --> 00:04:46.589 countless elite level teams, this is the number 00:04:46.589 --> 00:04:49.430 one ingredient of those teams is that you view 00:04:49.430 --> 00:04:51.670 everyone as a leader and everyone views themselves 00:04:51.670 --> 00:04:54.069 as a leader. And then people are like, well, 00:04:54.089 --> 00:04:56.110 what do I do? Sprinkle pixie dust on someone? 00:04:56.230 --> 00:04:58.889 It's like, no, I actually have a framework that 00:04:58.889 --> 00:05:01.430 I was taught. And if I can learn it, you know, 00:05:01.430 --> 00:05:03.670 bottom 25 percent of my Navy class, if I can 00:05:03.670 --> 00:05:05.649 learn it, you can learn it, too. And I've seen 00:05:05.649 --> 00:05:08.009 it countless times where people have been able 00:05:08.009 --> 00:05:09.889 to learn these leadership skills and tools and 00:05:09.889 --> 00:05:13.490 and become the best version themselves. Right 00:05:13.490 --> 00:05:17.750 on. Yeah, really good stuff. And and that's the 00:05:17.750 --> 00:05:19.610 kind of stuff that we need to be reminded of. 00:05:20.449 --> 00:05:23.930 It is it is we need to be reminded of what is 00:05:23.930 --> 00:05:29.750 possible. And so I love that. I love for people 00:05:29.750 --> 00:05:33.509 to hear like you have it within you. Yes. Using 00:05:33.509 --> 00:05:35.970 it. You may not have tapped into it, but it's 00:05:35.970 --> 00:05:38.569 there. We need to cultivate it. We need to bring 00:05:38.569 --> 00:05:43.470 it out and help you really stand in that. So 00:05:43.470 --> 00:05:45.709 love that. Because Fletcher, here's what it is 00:05:45.709 --> 00:05:48.529 a lot of times. Oh, I'm not a leader. Yes. That's 00:05:48.529 --> 00:05:50.509 someone else's or, you know, that's someone else. 00:05:50.569 --> 00:05:53.209 It's like, no, no, no. You are a leader. And 00:05:53.209 --> 00:05:56.110 just think about like a company that has, say 00:05:56.110 --> 00:05:58.639 they have 1500 employees in it. They describe 00:05:58.639 --> 00:06:01.959 themselves as 100 leaders leading 1 ,400 employees. 00:06:02.500 --> 00:06:04.860 It's competing against a company that views themselves 00:06:04.860 --> 00:06:08.800 as 1 ,500 leaders. Which one's going to win in 00:06:08.800 --> 00:06:12.079 the long run? Yeah, it's the one that views themselves 00:06:12.079 --> 00:06:16.360 as 1 ,500 leaders. And so, yes, it's inside of 00:06:16.360 --> 00:06:19.019 all of us. It just needs to be tapped into and 00:06:19.019 --> 00:06:22.560 awakened. All right, Mark, the show is called 00:06:22.560 --> 00:06:26.569 Vision Pros Live. And so. My next question for 00:06:26.569 --> 00:06:32.670 you is, what's your vision? Yeah, so our vision, 00:06:32.730 --> 00:06:35.389 when we talk about vision, we talk about a period 00:06:35.389 --> 00:06:37.610 in time. So I'm going to give you what my mission 00:06:37.610 --> 00:06:39.189 is and I'm also going to give you what the vision 00:06:39.189 --> 00:06:41.889 is. So I'll start with a mission, which you never 00:06:41.889 --> 00:06:44.709 get to. Our mission is to help people lead more 00:06:44.709 --> 00:06:47.509 purposeful and inspiring lives. That's in every 00:06:47.509 --> 00:06:50.629 single aspect of their life. And I envision a 00:06:50.629 --> 00:06:53.170 world where everyone views themselves as a leader. 00:06:53.959 --> 00:06:57.199 And just think about that. What if everyone viewed 00:06:57.199 --> 00:07:00.019 themselves as a leader and then they had the 00:07:00.019 --> 00:07:03.019 skills in their life to be able to handle any 00:07:03.019 --> 00:07:05.759 situation that came their way, have individual 00:07:05.759 --> 00:07:09.740 readiness, but also how do you then have in a 00:07:09.740 --> 00:07:12.100 dynamically changing environment? What in the 00:07:12.100 --> 00:07:13.939 submarine force we talked about was collective 00:07:13.939 --> 00:07:18.120 readiness. So we envision a world that's steeped 00:07:18.120 --> 00:07:20.930 in purpose. And people have the skills and tools 00:07:20.930 --> 00:07:23.089 to navigate any situation that comes their way, 00:07:23.170 --> 00:07:25.810 not just in business. There's challenges we have 00:07:25.810 --> 00:07:28.730 in our personal lives and our families and our 00:07:28.730 --> 00:07:31.810 communities. So I envision a world where everyone 00:07:31.810 --> 00:07:34.790 feels like they're deeply connected to something 00:07:34.790 --> 00:07:36.889 bigger than themselves. So, you know, and we'll 00:07:36.889 --> 00:07:38.970 never, ever get there. So that's my that's my 00:07:38.970 --> 00:07:42.029 mission or purpose. And then I'll share with 00:07:42.029 --> 00:07:46.329 you my vision, though. Yeah. I really like this. 00:07:47.600 --> 00:07:51.379 idea of collective readiness um because there's 00:07:51.379 --> 00:07:55.899 because we frequently focus on ourselves am i 00:07:55.899 --> 00:08:00.420 ready are you ready i love this concept of are 00:08:00.420 --> 00:08:04.240 we ready um is my community ready is my family 00:08:04.240 --> 00:08:08.220 ready um this is i i like this concept a lot 00:08:08.220 --> 00:08:14.139 can you tell me how do you how might we go about 00:08:15.960 --> 00:08:19.420 influencing, influencing that in our, in our 00:08:19.420 --> 00:08:23.459 communities. Yeah. So I think, you know, we've 00:08:23.459 --> 00:08:28.019 done this test initially started with in the, 00:08:28.019 --> 00:08:30.300 in the business aspect, we've done this test 00:08:30.300 --> 00:08:33.399 with over 500 companies. So here's what we do. 00:08:33.460 --> 00:08:36.059 We ask them, what is your mission? Which is you 00:08:36.059 --> 00:08:38.620 never get to, this has been described to me like 00:08:38.620 --> 00:08:41.580 mother Teresa, her mission was to love the poor 00:08:41.580 --> 00:08:43.440 and then she would never get to it because they 00:08:43.440 --> 00:08:45.879 were. continue to be more poor people. And a 00:08:45.879 --> 00:08:47.759 vision is, hey, in five years, we're going to 00:08:47.759 --> 00:08:51.159 love 1 .5 million people. So it's a time frame. 00:08:51.299 --> 00:08:54.740 So we ask companies, what is your mission? What's 00:08:54.740 --> 00:08:56.580 your vision? What's your top three annual goals? 00:08:56.700 --> 00:09:01.000 What's your top five values? How aligned do you 00:09:01.000 --> 00:09:03.620 think they are, Fletcher, on those four key topics? 00:09:04.379 --> 00:09:07.500 How aligned do you think they are? I would say 00:09:07.500 --> 00:09:11.000 they're probably not very aligned. Yeah. So when 00:09:11.000 --> 00:09:12.980 we ask them up front, we say, how aligned do 00:09:12.980 --> 00:09:15.639 you think you are as a team? Average is 68%. 00:09:15.639 --> 00:09:18.379 When we do the analysis, on average, a team on 00:09:18.379 --> 00:09:22.120 those four key things is only 9 % aligned. Whoa, 00:09:22.299 --> 00:09:25.720 that's a lot lower than I was expecting. Yeah. 00:09:25.779 --> 00:09:27.740 Look, would you climb Mount Everest with a team 00:09:27.740 --> 00:09:31.440 that's only 9 % aligned? Whoa, no. Yeah, you 00:09:31.440 --> 00:09:34.399 just wouldn't. So how do we get people involved? 00:09:35.279 --> 00:09:39.860 First, it's about clarity. Clarity. And what 00:09:39.860 --> 00:09:43.600 was happening for me, just for the audience, 00:09:43.720 --> 00:09:47.080 is that I was steeped in creating one -page business 00:09:47.080 --> 00:09:50.019 plans for companies that helped us to see very 00:09:50.019 --> 00:09:53.600 clearly all of these four things. And that's 00:09:53.600 --> 00:09:56.139 when I got tremendous success. I was not having 00:09:56.139 --> 00:09:59.220 a lot of success in my family aspect. I was telling 00:09:59.220 --> 00:10:01.960 my wife, hey, I'm working hard so we can have 00:10:01.960 --> 00:10:03.559 things, and this is what I'm supposed to do. 00:10:03.700 --> 00:10:06.179 And she said, hey, why don't we create a one 00:10:06.179 --> 00:10:10.309 -page family plan? I love it. That's what changed. 00:10:10.590 --> 00:10:12.850 That's why we've been married for 30 years. So 00:10:12.850 --> 00:10:15.509 she said, hey, and my thought was like, hey, 00:10:15.570 --> 00:10:18.649 if it's important for a company to have a mission 00:10:18.649 --> 00:10:22.669 statement, a vision, a set of values and the 00:10:22.669 --> 00:10:25.190 top three annual goals and a set of rituals, 00:10:25.330 --> 00:10:27.590 would it be important for a family to have that? 00:10:27.669 --> 00:10:31.549 And it's like, absolutely. And so I have these. 00:10:32.189 --> 00:10:34.250 You know, basically, I have one page on the front 00:10:34.250 --> 00:10:36.049 of it is my one page business plan on the back 00:10:36.049 --> 00:10:38.110 of it's my one page family plan. And if it's 00:10:38.110 --> 00:10:41.289 not on that plan, I get to say no to it. And 00:10:41.289 --> 00:10:43.509 so and so I think and when you have to write 00:10:43.509 --> 00:10:45.809 it down and put it in on one page and you have 00:10:45.809 --> 00:10:48.049 to. I didn't just create this and go, hey, you're 00:10:48.049 --> 00:10:51.289 here, family. Right. We sat down and we we went 00:10:51.289 --> 00:10:54.330 through stories of our history and and and they 00:10:54.330 --> 00:10:56.519 were involved in it. And they're bought into 00:10:56.519 --> 00:10:58.220 it. Now, one of the things is one of my daughters 00:10:58.220 --> 00:11:00.899 calls me when she's 22 years old. My middle daughter 00:11:00.899 --> 00:11:03.100 calls me and says, hey, I got a tattoo. And I'm 00:11:03.100 --> 00:11:08.440 like, huh? But six months earlier, she asked 00:11:08.440 --> 00:11:10.600 me to write out our mission statement, which 00:11:10.600 --> 00:11:13.200 is make it a great day. We've shortened it to 00:11:13.200 --> 00:11:15.580 Miyajita. So we just say Miyajita to each other. 00:11:16.360 --> 00:11:18.379 Every day we talk to each other, we say Miyajita. 00:11:18.480 --> 00:11:20.120 Right. That means make it a great day. Whatever 00:11:20.120 --> 00:11:23.200 is going to be given to you today, you know, 00:11:23.200 --> 00:11:26.330 get there. And so she shows me my handwritten 00:11:26.330 --> 00:11:31.509 honor, honor right here. She has me and she looks 00:11:31.509 --> 00:11:33.210 at it every day. Now, if you're if your daughter 00:11:33.210 --> 00:11:34.950 is going to get a tattoo of it, it's if it's 00:11:34.950 --> 00:11:37.669 the family mission statement. I felt a little 00:11:37.669 --> 00:11:40.990 better about that. So so I think the number one 00:11:40.990 --> 00:11:43.610 thing you can do is clarity. It's what we say. 00:11:43.750 --> 00:11:46.490 We have a family with purpose dot com. We have 00:11:46.490 --> 00:11:49.830 lead with purpose dot com. But the number one 00:11:49.830 --> 00:11:51.870 thing we ask you to do is we ask you to sit down. 00:11:51.929 --> 00:11:53.570 We ask you to put together your mission statement, 00:11:53.629 --> 00:11:56.970 because once you do that and people care about 00:11:56.970 --> 00:11:58.889 what they do, they know how they belong to something 00:11:58.889 --> 00:12:01.309 bigger than themselves. Everything else is a 00:12:01.309 --> 00:12:03.570 lot easier. Hey, I got to work out. I got to 00:12:03.570 --> 00:12:06.669 be healthy. I have to do these things in business. 00:12:06.889 --> 00:12:09.870 If I give a crap about my job and I know other 00:12:09.870 --> 00:12:13.830 people are in the same shared purpose and that 00:12:13.830 --> 00:12:17.649 same energy in the heart. then it's a lot easier. 00:12:17.769 --> 00:12:19.730 So I think the number one thing, people overlook 00:12:19.730 --> 00:12:21.370 this. They go, yeah, we have our mission statement. 00:12:21.509 --> 00:12:23.889 I always tell CEOs, well, tell me what's your 00:12:23.889 --> 00:12:25.690 mission statement. I said, do you know your mission 00:12:25.690 --> 00:12:27.190 statement? They say, oh yeah, I love it, right? 00:12:27.529 --> 00:12:28.990 And then it's like, well, tell me what it is. 00:12:29.049 --> 00:12:31.370 And they're like this. They're grabbing the binder, 00:12:31.509 --> 00:12:34.929 right? They're looking on the wall going and 00:12:34.929 --> 00:12:37.669 they're reading this 42 word thing. And it's 00:12:37.669 --> 00:12:40.710 like, no one remembers it. So I would just say 00:12:40.710 --> 00:12:42.509 the number one thing you have to do is get really 00:12:42.509 --> 00:12:44.779 clear on your mission statement. What I learned 00:12:44.779 --> 00:12:46.600 in the submarine force is our missions were always 00:12:46.600 --> 00:12:49.519 two words long. So the mission to go underneath 00:12:49.519 --> 00:12:52.899 the first submarine to go underneath the Nautilus 00:12:52.899 --> 00:12:56.320 to go to the North Pole mission was Operation 00:12:56.320 --> 00:13:00.360 Sunshine. Two words. Everyone can remember it. 00:13:00.980 --> 00:13:03.259 Is that everything you needed? No, but everyone 00:13:03.259 --> 00:13:05.039 knew, hey, we're on Operation Sunshine right 00:13:05.039 --> 00:13:08.299 now. Yeah. And so how do you code word it and 00:13:08.299 --> 00:13:10.720 have a code word mission statement? I love that. 00:13:11.159 --> 00:13:14.700 I yeah, this is such this is really gold. And 00:13:14.700 --> 00:13:19.120 I invite our listeners to really take a moment 00:13:19.120 --> 00:13:24.200 and just ask yourself, do I have clarity in these 00:13:24.200 --> 00:13:26.460 key areas of my life? Do I have clarity in my 00:13:26.460 --> 00:13:30.480 my marriage? Like, for instance, my wife and 00:13:30.480 --> 00:13:34.639 I, we're a big believer in defining, defining 00:13:34.639 --> 00:13:37.860 who we are, who we are in our marriage, who we 00:13:37.860 --> 00:13:39.679 are in our finances. So, for instance, in our 00:13:39.679 --> 00:13:43.899 marriage. I don't ever. So because I went through 00:13:43.899 --> 00:13:46.639 a divorce and I never, ever want to do that again. 00:13:46.779 --> 00:13:50.639 Right. When I entered into my second marriage, 00:13:50.879 --> 00:13:54.379 we both wanted to do it with massive intention. 00:13:54.899 --> 00:13:59.179 Yes. So so we actually defined who we are in 00:13:59.179 --> 00:14:01.340 our marriage. So we're never going to. Yeah. 00:14:01.480 --> 00:14:03.860 If we're never going to wonder, like, gosh, who 00:14:03.860 --> 00:14:06.960 are we? Where? Right. So I can. And I love that 00:14:06.960 --> 00:14:09.080 you said, like, yeah, most people can't. They 00:14:09.080 --> 00:14:12.419 can't. you just rattle off their mission statement 00:14:12.419 --> 00:14:16.059 or their about but in my relationship who we 00:14:16.059 --> 00:14:18.159 are in my marriage this is who we are who we 00:14:18.159 --> 00:14:21.159 are is wide open communication stronger than 00:14:21.159 --> 00:14:24.960 steel support um a living illustration of joy 00:14:24.960 --> 00:14:28.159 connection and contribution um so that's what 00:14:28.159 --> 00:14:30.840 we are wide open communication we're uh stronger 00:14:30.840 --> 00:14:33.940 than still support a living illustration of joy 00:14:33.940 --> 00:14:37.720 connection and contribution so i know who we 00:14:37.720 --> 00:14:42.240 are Fantastic, Fletcher. Fantastic. Because it 00:14:42.240 --> 00:14:46.100 becomes a guiding light for you. Yes. Right? 00:14:46.240 --> 00:14:49.799 If things are going off the rails, you can regroup 00:14:49.799 --> 00:14:52.379 quickly and easily. Wait a second. Let's say 00:14:52.379 --> 00:14:58.460 who we are. And it grounds you. Yeah. So I love 00:14:58.460 --> 00:15:01.539 what you're saying. Clarity is access to power. 00:15:02.480 --> 00:15:07.259 And the clearer you can get. the greater access 00:15:07.259 --> 00:15:11.139 you have to taking bold actions and creating 00:15:11.139 --> 00:15:15.440 the outcomes that you want in your life. Love, 00:15:15.720 --> 00:15:18.820 love, love what you're saying. I would just add 00:15:18.820 --> 00:15:21.179 one thing. Mel Robbins says clarity is kind. 00:15:23.580 --> 00:15:28.360 That's a fun way to look at that. Clarity is 00:15:28.360 --> 00:15:32.919 kind. Yeah. Cool, right? Yeah, well, it's awesome. 00:15:33.179 --> 00:15:36.970 Yeah. And, and the other thing that I'm, I'm 00:15:36.970 --> 00:15:40.870 really appreciating too, is that, you know, your 00:15:40.870 --> 00:15:45.950 daughter who got the tattoo, the MIA GDA, or 00:15:45.950 --> 00:15:47.309 how'd you say, how'd you pronounce it again? 00:15:47.389 --> 00:15:50.049 Oh, make it a great day. And we say, we just 00:15:50.049 --> 00:15:52.950 say miyajda to each other. Yeah. That's our best 00:15:52.950 --> 00:15:55.190 way. People think we're Italian or something. 00:15:56.990 --> 00:16:02.070 So what's great about that is, is that you can, 00:16:02.070 --> 00:16:04.529 you know, listening to you, you get the sense 00:16:04.529 --> 00:16:07.799 that. your your children have bought into this 00:16:07.799 --> 00:16:12.000 right like uh this this level of personal involvement 00:16:12.000 --> 00:16:14.399 personal development personal empowerment whatever 00:16:14.399 --> 00:16:17.399 you want to call it like it's so exciting when 00:16:17.399 --> 00:16:21.340 you see your children start to to buy into it 00:16:21.340 --> 00:16:25.440 and it impacts them our children um all grew 00:16:25.440 --> 00:16:30.320 up with personal development and uh they couldn't 00:16:30.320 --> 00:16:34.169 stand it at the time but my 30 year old uh we 00:16:34.169 --> 00:16:35.850 were having a conversation recently and she's 00:16:35.850 --> 00:16:38.289 like, I'm so glad we had that in our household, 00:16:38.409 --> 00:16:41.750 even though we resisted it early on, but it's 00:16:41.750 --> 00:16:44.269 actually made the difference for them. Fletcher 00:16:44.269 --> 00:16:48.580 had the same exact. um experience yeah right 00:16:48.580 --> 00:16:50.440 it was this time and then we're like put together 00:16:50.440 --> 00:16:52.620 a one -page family plan my kids knew i put together 00:16:52.620 --> 00:16:54.639 one -page business plans they're sitting there 00:16:54.639 --> 00:16:56.600 with their eyes crossed they don't want to participate 00:16:56.600 --> 00:16:59.860 and we put together a set of personal goals based 00:16:59.860 --> 00:17:02.759 around mind body and spirit and then and then 00:17:02.759 --> 00:17:04.880 it was like they would come to me privately and 00:17:04.880 --> 00:17:07.980 go hey can we can we check off that goal on the 00:17:07.980 --> 00:17:10.460 on the list And then, you know, it was on our 00:17:10.460 --> 00:17:13.359 refrigerator. Every Sunday we looked at it. Hey, 00:17:13.539 --> 00:17:15.859 how do we do it? Held me accountable. Like, hey, 00:17:15.900 --> 00:17:18.200 why aren't we doing four family dinners a week? 00:17:18.740 --> 00:17:21.519 But then, but then it's exactly the same thing. 00:17:21.619 --> 00:17:22.940 They were like, hey, are we going to, you know, 00:17:22.980 --> 00:17:25.140 they came home from college one time and they 00:17:25.140 --> 00:17:26.799 go, hey, are we going to do our one page family 00:17:26.799 --> 00:17:30.680 plan? I was like, oh. Gosh, it made my heart 00:17:30.680 --> 00:17:34.359 feel really good. I bet. I bet. Oh, that is so 00:17:34.359 --> 00:17:37.160 fun. Hey, I don't know if you ever share this, 00:17:37.319 --> 00:17:41.059 but I would love to see your one -page family 00:17:41.059 --> 00:17:44.740 plan. It would be so cool and inspiring. Is that 00:17:44.740 --> 00:17:47.960 something you share? It's go to familywithpurpose 00:17:47.960 --> 00:17:54.099 .com, and you can have at it. And it's called 00:17:54.099 --> 00:17:59.750 familywithpurpose .com? Yeah. Family purpose 00:17:59.750 --> 00:18:03.549 .com. Sorry. Sorry. Family. So I have lead with 00:18:03.549 --> 00:18:06.650 purpose, which is our business one page plan. 00:18:06.849 --> 00:18:09.809 Then we have family with purpose. Oh, family 00:18:09.809 --> 00:18:13.099 with purpose. Yeah. Yeah. Someone was sitting 00:18:13.099 --> 00:18:15.240 on the URL Fletcher and we reached out to them. 00:18:15.299 --> 00:18:17.859 They wanted $10 ,000 and we offered them like 00:18:17.859 --> 00:18:20.500 $1 ,800. And they said, yes, I couldn't get my 00:18:20.500 --> 00:18:22.960 credit card out fast enough to go like, I'm fumbling 00:18:22.960 --> 00:18:24.460 with it going like, he better not change his 00:18:24.460 --> 00:18:28.279 mind. Right on. So if you're listening to this 00:18:28.279 --> 00:18:30.660 and you're feeling inspired or curious about 00:18:30.660 --> 00:18:34.880 what this looks like. You can go to familywithpurpose 00:18:34.880 --> 00:18:37.819 .com. I'm going to go and check that out. I'm 00:18:37.819 --> 00:18:40.799 fascinated with this one -page family plan. And 00:18:40.799 --> 00:18:44.240 then also go to leadwithpurpose .com if you want 00:18:44.240 --> 00:18:46.559 to connect with Mark, find out more about what 00:18:46.559 --> 00:18:50.339 he does, or look into bringing him to your organization 00:18:50.339 --> 00:18:53.339 because you can imagine he's going to deliver 00:18:53.339 --> 00:18:57.480 a... powerful keynote um that's clear just from 00:18:57.480 --> 00:19:00.339 this brief conversation we're having uh mark 00:19:00.339 --> 00:19:04.339 we're coming up against our our time here is 00:19:04.339 --> 00:19:09.119 a uh is there uh we so we have familywithpurpose 00:19:09.119 --> 00:19:11.920 .com leadwithpurpose .com you have your book 00:19:11.920 --> 00:19:15.140 leadwithpurpose .com yep leading yeah leading 00:19:15.140 --> 00:19:17.140 with purpose i'll just show it right here yeah 00:19:17.140 --> 00:19:21.519 leading with purpose yep um get uh any last words 00:19:21.519 --> 00:19:25.460 before we uh say goodbye no i mean i would just 00:19:25.460 --> 00:19:27.680 say you know you wake up every single day it's 00:19:27.680 --> 00:19:31.819 a tremendous gift we have this time and um and 00:19:31.819 --> 00:19:33.859 uh you know i would just say make it a great 00:19:33.859 --> 00:19:38.019 day yeah make it a great day absolutely the reason 00:19:38.019 --> 00:19:41.299 we say make it is not have have is passive make 00:19:41.299 --> 00:19:44.660 it means like hey we got it we got to get into 00:19:44.660 --> 00:19:47.440 it we believe that like god's very involved in 00:19:47.440 --> 00:19:49.680 our lives but we're like hey you can't just lay 00:19:49.680 --> 00:19:52.319 around you know he wants us to do stuff and so 00:19:52.319 --> 00:19:56.200 we are we are deeply steeped in uh in that make 00:19:56.200 --> 00:19:58.720 it a great day not have a great day absolutely 00:19:58.720 --> 00:20:03.039 right uh there is action is required right yes 00:20:03.039 --> 00:20:07.440 um so so make it a great day everybody get out 00:20:07.440 --> 00:20:09.680 there be a source of kindness be a source of 00:20:09.680 --> 00:20:11.799 contribution you do have something to offer this 00:20:11.799 --> 00:20:15.009 world and i believe in you Thank you for being 00:20:15.009 --> 00:20:16.950 here today. 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